What ✨ RADICAL ✨ Self Care Looks Like for Black Women | My 3 Faves

What ✨ RADICAL ✨ Self Care Looks Like for Black Women | My 3 Favorite ways African American women like me care for our selves, because the mani/pedi ain't cutting it in the United States of America. 📌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO:
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  • @StephaniePerry
    @StephaniePerryАй бұрын

    Hey friends. 👋🏾 Are you already doing or planning to do any of these radical forms of self care? Let us know. 💗

  • @Sherry-Quite-Contrary

    @Sherry-Quite-Contrary

    Ай бұрын

    Hi Stephanie, I have to say this first. I just love you! I told you so tonight as this video started.☺️For the first time (since I’ve been rocking with you on KZread almost 2 yrs now), I wanted to cry listening to you talk about how you intentionally built Community. I was in Public Service for almost 25 years before the suffering forced me to STOP and walk away without a plan. I was sick as a result of a toxic workplace and years of feeling overwhelmed, overlooked, harassed and misrepresented. The Universe heard my internal groans and confused cries, though; and I am truly grateful. Loneliness walks with me and I’m noticing it more as I get older. A Community of similar and like-minded and spirited Black Women - I would love to exist and connect within a little group of sisters out of the larger group. Introversion Guru here.👋🤭 AND I’d be so happy to hang out with you sometime, in CR, maybe. I’m easing my way ova there.😂 Anyway, longest comment ever…lol Thank you for being you, Stephanie. You mean so much to so many of us.❤ Sherry, Bahamas Berry

  • @KindaJessWellness

    @KindaJessWellness

    Ай бұрын

    Yes, currently a work in progress. I needed this today, thank you ❤

  • @HeatherICreateMyPath
    @HeatherICreateMyPathАй бұрын

    I moved around the world for most of my life by being in the military and then working for the federal government. I truly think the American "dream" doesn't exist in the US for us. And it's not just about money. It is also about being respected, and seen as a decent, whole human being. I retired early and chose Mexico as my home. I will maintain my US citzenship because I've earned Social Security and plan to take it as soon as I can but my home/heart is not in the US. I've found the "American Dream" outside of the US and hope many more will do the same.

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    That's exactly right. If we're not seen as fully human, nothing else matters. Thank you for sharing your experiences on your channel Heather. 💗

  • @abimbolaiyun8575

    @abimbolaiyun8575

    Ай бұрын

    It’s not about money. It’s about being respected. Wheeeew!! Say that again.

  • @BlackPositivityChallenge
    @BlackPositivityChallengeАй бұрын

    "YOU CANT MANI💅🏾 PEDI YOUR WAY TO THE BETTER/THE GOOD".. 🎯💯🖤💯🎯

  • @JourneywithMAMAZURI-hb8nr
    @JourneywithMAMAZURI-hb8nrАй бұрын

    Girl! Speak on it!!! My husband is in construction and has gone four, five months at a time out of work, while I have destroyed my body working as a nurse, two jobs. Our last child just turned 19, and our youngest son and her are both in college. Finally thought I could rest, and was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm. NO, NO, NO! This is and will not be the end of my story! Told my grown kids, split the mortgage four ways, and figure it out. On my way to Costa Rica.😅

  • @AcademicLifeDrCrystal

    @AcademicLifeDrCrystal

    Ай бұрын

    So proud of you for prioritizing yourself. Praying for your recovery and a great new chapter in Costa Rica

  • @gladyswj9968

    @gladyswj9968

    Ай бұрын

    Godspeed 🕊

  • @Refreshing_Words

    @Refreshing_Words

    Ай бұрын

    Sending you love and light. Go and LIVE!❤

  • @dr.johnson007

    @dr.johnson007

    Ай бұрын

    My God is a healer! I wish you health and wealth. ❤

  • @dday3322

    @dday3322

    Ай бұрын

    💜💜💜🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @toniwilliams2441
    @toniwilliams2441Ай бұрын

    The fact that I am 41 watching this and quit my Job and a Hospital pharmacy tech working graveyard shift. I am being spoken to in so many ways! I'm all ears 👂🏾

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Oh wow Toni! Hello from the future! It's wonderful over here. 💗 💗

  • @iamthediapora

    @iamthediapora

    Ай бұрын

    Big congrats

  • @myimperfectdiary890
    @myimperfectdiary890Ай бұрын

    Stephanie, as a black man in America, this is the very thing I needed to hear today to validate my feelings. I purchased an apartment in Egypt and working on leaving america

  • @Ms.Jamieh297

    @Ms.Jamieh297

    Ай бұрын

    🎉❤😊Congrats to you, my brutha!!! Peace, blessings and safekeeping and new life beginnings to you in Egypt 👏

  • @woman1005
    @woman1005Ай бұрын

    Hard work is not my purpose 👏👏👏 💅 👠 I felt this in my spirit ❤️

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    💗 💗

  • @MrMrzLPC
    @MrMrzLPCАй бұрын

    I went on disability feb 2023 and have been out since. I am 57 and have decided my husband and I will be moving to Portugal in 2025. doing a scouting trip to Portugal in June. Being off I had the opportunity to write and publish a book, start a KZread channel and coaching biz. I feel more accomplished in this past yr than I have in my over 35 yrs of working in corp America .

  • @only1golda

    @only1golda

    Ай бұрын

    Congratulations on this journey and I believe you have many more accomplishments coming!

  • @abimbolaiyun8575
    @abimbolaiyun8575Ай бұрын

    The people who praise you for being exhausted are not the same people who’ll praise you for wanting to rest 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃

  • @sabrinamadison8769
    @sabrinamadison8769Ай бұрын

    wow. In tears watching this. 49 years and I feel so lost. I have always thought the US government has never cared about its people. I packed my bags and have been moving around to see other countries. Two bags laptop and backpack Wow. so glad I am not alone

  • @agelessbeautee5.04
    @agelessbeautee5.04Ай бұрын

    I work as little as possible…..period

  • @eternalabundance39

    @eternalabundance39

    Ай бұрын

    Me too.

  • @Itsthetruth360

    @Itsthetruth360

    29 күн бұрын

    I look the other way.

  • @kimnewsom6640
    @kimnewsom6640Ай бұрын

    Good morning 🌞. I left my FT job six and a half months ago. I was sad and heavy in the beginning, but knew it was the best decision I made.

  • @JasenomadeTV
    @JasenomadeTVАй бұрын

    Hard work is definitely not my purpose. I thank God for you and this community. Today, I am able to push back against all the pressure put on me. ❤ I’m planning my first 1 year sabbatical and can't wait.

  • @Nacole_Lashoun
    @Nacole_LashounАй бұрын

    ❤❤❤ Yes radical to self care!! Former overworked nurse here, and yes to investing in yourself is worth it !!❤❤

  • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
    @LisaSoulLevelHealingАй бұрын

    Im bringing my 7 year old to france. All of the pubs i go to have children and said i can bring mine. They are integrated in society. Ill update on my channel about the experience, but being a single mom doesnt mean isolation outside of the united states. Im learning and moving away from individualism. Very nice video. I hope more black women do it before it becomes trendy so they can get settled.

  • @YouCanCallMeChrys
    @YouCanCallMeChrysАй бұрын

    Yes, yes and yes! I'm currently looking for a fully remote job so I can frolick world wide. I was also underemployed for years. More so because of health reasons and it was amazing. I jumped back into full time work and immediately regretted it.

  • @camiathomeyoutube
    @camiathomeyoutubeАй бұрын

    Yep! Moving abroad was a form of rest for me. Because of you, Stephanie, I retired myself at the age of 31 last year. Now, in living in another country not worried about work, and doing whatever I want. I was even able to create my KZread channel because of this, where I encourage others to live life on their terms. Thank you, Stephanie🫶🏿🥹 because I wouldn't have this life now if it wasn't for you and your videos

  • @Luvurselffirst

    @Luvurselffirst

    Ай бұрын

    now subscribed to your channel. Stephanie echo's my sentiments regarding working or not working and no longer living in a country funding a genocide. my income is tied to my job and so is my healthcare. costa rica seems like a good idea so did panama and mexico until i learned about what's happening with the Haitians

  • @kerenshantey8073
    @kerenshantey8073Ай бұрын

    I love your hair, this is ONE of your looks.

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Thank yooouu! 💗

  • @deirdrejones7107
    @deirdrejones7107Ай бұрын

    I interested in all three. I am currently looking at work visa options. I want to take a month off to travel more. I realized that aging in the US is not a thing for single childless no family individual.

  • @DenyceGartrell
    @DenyceGartrellАй бұрын

    The same people who like to see you exhausted, are not the same people who want to see you rest. WHEW that was loaded! As I am in the beginner's stage of embarking upon this journey, I have a lot of research to do. I want to learn what countries Black women who travel solo have had the most favorable experiences, and the best places for seniors. I'm getting my funds together to start this journey hopefully this year, so more information on the inexpensive locations that you mentioned would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for inspiring us in so many ways, Stephanie!!!

  • @rosechambers1844
    @rosechambers1844Ай бұрын

    I am so delighted to have accidently found you on utube, I was feeling like a black woman living on a lonely Island

  • @Kozette88
    @Kozette88Ай бұрын

    I understand. Furnished apartments are convenient but I'm ready for my own decorations. It's time.

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    It's time! 💗

  • @msakeeba
    @msakeebaАй бұрын

    I’ve been so inspired by watching your channel. I’ve wanted to leave US since I visited Portugal in 2016. You pushed me, and I’ve got my one way ticket in October!

  • @nylorac1984
    @nylorac1984Ай бұрын

    The biggest concept that stood out to me was the entire theme of rest. I was once part of a religion that heavily focused on honoring the Sabbath. I think when it comes to health and wellness rest is so underrated. I think a lot of Western Society has found ways to work more with the technological advances instead of finding ways to truly incorporate rest. Rest is seen as something for the ill, or the weak versus in understanding that it is vital to all people to thrive. ❤

  • @jaiyabyrd4177
    @jaiyabyrd4177Ай бұрын

    🌿🌿Hi Stephanie. It's so fantastic that you are back in your home having fun and working in the most advantageous manner. I Love this Channel. Thank you for sharing this information with us Foundational Black American Women. God Bless You 🌺🌷🌺🌷 Residency in Costa Rica is coming👍🏾

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Jaiya! 💗

  • @AcademicLifeDrCrystal
    @AcademicLifeDrCrystalАй бұрын

    You look fabulous today. I’m celebrating this week. I’m counting down to retirement and everyone at work knows it. My career break is just around the corner. It’s opening minds to new ways of being.

  • @MsPeggyCruise411
    @MsPeggyCruise411Ай бұрын

    Where are you settling in Costa Rica? A US passport❤ 🇺🇸 has gotten me into countries without a visa. I am enjoying retirement. I worked my but off‼️It was a real stressorrrr. I ran three businesses. I gained and loss 120 pounds😮 I am now enjoying the fruits of my labor now💃🏾🤸🏾‍♂️🥂🛩️⛴️✈️🚢 🎉❤ ✅ However, I may require your services depending on the 🗳️ election results‼️ I will look for your videos❤🌸💝Today is 5/19. My great-grandmother used to rock me in her rocking chair. Watching you rock is very relaxing. 🤘🏽 rock on😄

  • @adevineartist
    @adevineartistАй бұрын

    That view does deserve a thumbs up! 😍👍🏾

  • @2B-Steele
    @2B-SteeleАй бұрын

    You are talking facts….. the KZread community is real.

  • @younkairamzah8380
    @younkairamzah8380Ай бұрын

    OMG, Stephanie, I have been a silent listener now for at least two years. I appreciate your channel so much! My future career break is 3 years away, and I'm so excited about this future! Thank you for making this normal because it's necessary. I am also making friends with like-minded people. Self-care 🙌🙌🙌

  • @Skinny-Fries
    @Skinny-FriesАй бұрын

    thank you stephanie , you have helped me reimagine my life

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    That's so true any job takes your time

  • @shanellori
    @shanelloriАй бұрын

    Do you believe this is something that black women who are single parents can do?

  • @terashaking4119
    @terashaking4119Ай бұрын

    Great colors Stephanie! Your lipstick and top color look great.

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Awww thanks so much Terasha!! 💗

  • @kiandraplummer2095

    @kiandraplummer2095

    Ай бұрын

    And the color 😍 ❤

  • @oodatooitis6714
    @oodatooitis6714Ай бұрын

    Seeing this video has encouraged me in a time that I'm struggling to rediscover my own purpose overall. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @TLRwithAnitaO
    @TLRwithAnitaOАй бұрын

    “Hard work is not my life’s purpose” 🤯🤯 Ms. Perry This is mindset shifting , mic 🎤 drop statement. I say that intentionally. Not just mind blowing. No, MINDSET SHIFTING. Wow I’m listening to this as I eat dinner after a long day at work …🫤…and this statement just got dropped right down into my heart. I concur ❤️😮😢 Thank you!

  • @OrdinaryGreatnessTrashTalk
    @OrdinaryGreatnessTrashTalkАй бұрын

    Omg I'm so so interested in it all 31 years I'm so ready for radical self care

  • @laydgaga6710
    @laydgaga6710Ай бұрын

    Hello… listening and looking for my black woman dream . Certainly didn’t find it in the US and I think it’s time for a radical change in my life. I’m definitely interested in all of the above living abroad ,and taking time to rest. I’m definitely there.

  • @ninawestlake14
    @ninawestlake14Ай бұрын

    Hey, Steph. I've been watching your content for over a year now. I love it! I've never felt that struggle and excessive labor was part of life. I actually detest it to be quite frank. I would love to get out of it completely, however housing is my main problem. Has been all my life. Not everyone can house sit for reasons out of their hands and i haven't found my millionaire loving hubby yet(i'm dead serious about that😅). So....yes. I mean, working to only afford rent and then get by until the next check is just evil imo. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Also, i sincerely want to live where there's less blacks as thry are the most petty and toxic. They pick on you for literally everything. It's sickening.

  • @kathrynbuschan
    @kathrynbuschanАй бұрын

    I like the sabbatical self care the most!

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    I need all of that

  • @fdoctor79
    @fdoctor79Ай бұрын

    Hello fellow phantom coming from a PhD student, I can relate. I need relief! 😅 The background setting looks amazing! Tfs

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    I'm ready to put it into action

  • @NicianNia
    @NicianNiaАй бұрын

    That sounds amazing! I took a week off work a month ago and just stayed home. It felt so good to come back to myself and deprioritize work. So I can only imagine what a sabbatical does. ❤ Do you still plan to house sit once you have your own home? Do you plan to rent or own there?

  • @rubylimey7614
    @rubylimey7614Ай бұрын

    Awesome n inspiring content as always Stephanie. Blessings🙏

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks so much Ruby! 💗

  • @Chance-ew3rn
    @Chance-ew3rn27 күн бұрын

    Great video! Actually going on a sabbatical is the one I choose! ❤

  • @nylorac1984
    @nylorac1984Ай бұрын

    What a beautiful and truly powerful journey you are on. So inspiring. ❤❤❤

  • @siyandankundla-mgudlwa1888
    @siyandankundla-mgudlwa1888Ай бұрын

    Love this❤

  • @Jj-rq9sp
    @Jj-rq9sp10 күн бұрын

    Actively forming community. I'm not quite sure how to do this. I have been thinking about this for some time but more urgently over the past year I talked with a friend about it. However all my friends are married and they don't quite get it as it isn't an issue for them. I am an introvert and I also am not on social media and not comfortable with the idea for myself though I appreciate/support others like yourself who are on it. It would be easier i think if I had the money aspect figured out. Other than rest, that needs to be my number 1 focus.

  • @Queenvoney
    @QueenvoneyАй бұрын

    I will see you in two days. I can't wait.

  • @bonniearmstead3690
    @bonniearmstead3690Ай бұрын

    Hello Stephanie! You were part of my inspiration to move to Chapala Mexico in 2021! I thank you ❤. I did not know you were from Dover! I’m originally from West Chester, Pa. We need you in our world! So happy that I am practicing my radical self-care!

  • @virtualcreativecollaborations
    @virtualcreativecollaborationsАй бұрын

    ♥️ Beautiful Blessings

  • @adjoachilds6074
    @adjoachilds6074Ай бұрын

    I love you and your mission.

  • @milard6756
    @milard6756Ай бұрын

    Thank you! This is inspiring. Im attending the summit snd im looking forward to hearing you speak as well! 😊

  • @CaribbeanQueen513
    @CaribbeanQueen513Ай бұрын

    Love your lipstick color Stephanie 😃

  • @moriahproctor951
    @moriahproctor951Ай бұрын

    I was just in San Jose, I wish I could have met you!

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    I hope we'll get to meet up soon Moriah. 💗

  • @dwalker6868
    @dwalker6868Ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @eternalabundance39
    @eternalabundance39Ай бұрын

    Congratulations Stephanie on getting your place abd thank you for the video.

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    WOW I could imagine seeing how other people are living

  • @debratorres6682
    @debratorres6682Ай бұрын

    Active community!

  • @llm5673
    @llm5673Ай бұрын

    I Love This Stephanie! Thank you for this! This seems so wonderful and farout! I'm 62 and in good shape! I'm wondering how I can do this! Trying to wrap my head around all of what you are saying! I want to create or become a part of a community! I'm going to look at more of your content

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    all 3❤❤❤❤❤

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    That's tomorrow thank God for replays

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    that's the truth

  • @nonadaze
    @nonadaze5 күн бұрын

    😊 I want this.

  • @explorertoya3578
    @explorertoya3578Ай бұрын

    Hi Stephanie!

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Hey Toya! 👋🏾

  • @alightforyourpath
    @alightforyourpathАй бұрын

    Fellow Delawarian here ❤ You inspire me, Stephanie. Traci Fick

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    I am so ready to do this what a concept i need a nontraditional income flow like now

  • @rosechambers1844
    @rosechambers1844Ай бұрын

    I have gotten so much push back and rejection with no support as a black woman in america by the way I am a licensed nurse means nothing here❤

  • @glamazini
    @glamaziniАй бұрын

    Hi Stephanie Perry 💛✨

  • @travelbymrs.v3599
    @travelbymrs.v3599Ай бұрын

    I would love to house sit ! Im in the Exodus summit community we had a meet up in Oakland the bay area! It was fabulous. I need some radical self care!

  • @RandomVideoz514
    @RandomVideoz514Ай бұрын

    Marriage under parental pressure || Acharya Prashant (2024)

  • @aprilvirgil9604
    @aprilvirgil9604Ай бұрын

    Hello Stephanie. 😊

  • @StephaniePerry

    @StephaniePerry

    Ай бұрын

    Hello April. 💗

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    Beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @gladyswj9968
    @gladyswj9968Ай бұрын

    Matthew 6:33. We can thrive inside-out; intentionally build and support community; vote in person or while abroad via absentee ballot as we cling to our U.S. passport and its benefits; and rest.

  • @debratorres6682
    @debratorres6682Ай бұрын

    House set! How

  • @VeronicaLovesAI
    @VeronicaLovesAIАй бұрын

    No the "dream life" is not possible in the United States. I, as an Army Brat, grew up in different parts of the world. I have always kinda known this, even if subconsciously. Time to move on, Ladies. The whole world is in a migration phase if you pay attention...

  • @susanalexander4683
    @susanalexander4683Ай бұрын

    How important is it to your journey to have a safe place to land when you return to the US?

  • @nylorac1984
    @nylorac1984Ай бұрын

    When you came to the decision to take your Sabbatical from work what were some of the things that lead you to the mindsets of I am going to save, I am going on a world travel adventure, I am going to take off from work?

  • @glennproby8416
    @glennproby8416Ай бұрын

    Hello Stephanie. I'm a married retired man wanting to travel with my wife. I saw several of your videos on international house sitting. Is this something a couple can get into? I don't have to house sit but if I can travel and house sit to cut expenses, I'm happy to do that. Any advice on traveling to some of your locations, I'd appreciate it.

  • @debratorres6682
    @debratorres6682Ай бұрын

    Is joining the summit free?

  • @t.f.6297
    @t.f.6297Ай бұрын

    The people who you for being exhausted = my family

  • @JoyRoute
    @JoyRouteАй бұрын

    I love road trip (nature) sabbaticals and enjoy watching videos from people like you who take Sabbaticals out of the country. I'm Houseless, Zipcodeless and all of that good jazz. Housesitting interest me but I prefer to house sit pools over pets.😊 I would house sit a rabbit or gold fish.

  • @debratorres6682
    @debratorres6682Ай бұрын

    Help How do I get started living the life of my dreams. How to find women of color that are on my side. How do I actively find friends. Are all the links free? How do I find the financing? Even jobs that can help! I look at your videos but can’t find anything that helps women with no support!

  • @FleurRebelle

    @FleurRebelle

    Ай бұрын

    She listed resources right in this video..exodus summit, etc. Watch it again

  • @doll.ov.poetrii4682

    @doll.ov.poetrii4682

    11 күн бұрын

    Her videos are about black women, not "women of color".

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    Do you still pay taxes with the summit youtube and all other income

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    How's the airfare

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    Get me started

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @PS-mt5rp
    @PS-mt5rpАй бұрын

    I can see that white washed all the way that's what I'm looking for a community that's nurturing and loving

  • @Itsthetruth360
    @Itsthetruth36029 күн бұрын

    Thank you for showing us how to love and support each other🎯