“being a perfectionist overcompensator isn’t going to make you more lovable”. Man this one hurts because parents who haven’t dealt with their own insecurities won’t have the grace to pass on to a child who sees perfectionism as one of the only paths to acceptance. Oh the years that can be destroyed in us by not having safe reality interpreters around us.

@omejouate

8 ай бұрын

this comment hits home. thank for sharing it !

This interview really wraps the previous content for schema modes, very good!

Thank you for these fantastic videos! What a wonderful resource to share! Extremely helpful for me being a final year trainee clinical psychologist working in forensics).

You guys are amazing. Helps me explain it to my patients. A thousand thank yous. 🙏🏼

@thePSYCHcollective

2 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome!

Thanks guys so helpful while I'm learning counselling/ psych ta xx

Great video thank you

This is really good stuff! As a non native English speaker I find it a bit difficult to follow because of the sound quality. I hope you guys will soon become famous and upgrade to HQ HD videos ❤️❤️❤️

@peterh.1593

9 ай бұрын

What, I can't hear you

Thanks a lot! But if it’s possible i would like to know what the study was that you mentioned about hypersensitive kids and emotional events (around 9 minute of video) ... that study... sounds like it explains a lot 😄

~~~ there are various vernaculars where men will use women to soothe and it induces an entire deprivation on society including our fellow sisters so we must be able to use this knowledge when working as a Madame who knows that she can write a note that declares when he is designed to call for tea and that does not mean sex~~~

This is really helpful but practically impossible for me being elderly sick suicidal and I’m finding way too overwhelming for me to take in or practice or understand despite the fact I’m highly intelligent or I have been in the past but now I’m just soo dumb can’t take anything in and nothing stays in or even guess I’m in some instances so what now??

How do you recommend accessing healthy adult?

@thePSYCHcollective

4 жыл бұрын

If you don’t know how to tap in to your healthy adult then you will need some guidance from someone in the ‘good parent’ role who is usually a therapist. They can help you to identify alternative ways of responding

In my search for answers In my country, they just label you with autism and send you on your way ,,oh god we're would I be without Great work from you guys ,im shocked what I found out about myself,it pushed me into a breakdown 14months ago ,I believeI've been in grief for my life previously. It dragged out many years because of people enabling or ignoring my behaviour.i was deeply unconscious and unable to see my trauma . Cheers.

@thePSYCHcollective

3 жыл бұрын

We wish you well on your recovery.

My counsellor has given me the 60 page workbook which is great but I feel lost . I asked at the beginning of a session where we should start and he said it’s up to me . I talked about some things it brought up for me but at the end he said next time we should stick to the schema stuff which made me feel like I failed…i feel lost .. how do people normally work through this material?

@thePSYCHcollective

Жыл бұрын

For Schema MODE therapy 1. Wrap your head around the model (our conceptualisation video and the interview). In particular the role of the Vulnerable Child, Healthy Adult and Angry Child modes. We have videos on the modes. 2. With the help of your therapist figure out which Maladaptive Coping Modes (MCM) you default to. 3. Practise identifying that you’re in a MCM when you are in one. 4. As you get better at identifying your MCM you can try to better implement the Healthy Adult mode. Our workbook might be helpful in addressing MCM and developing the Healthy Adult Mode: www.thepsychcollective.com/resources/Schema-Mode-Therapy-The-Complete-Set-of-Worksheets-eBook-p460877511

Whilst the content was helpful, I found it stressful the way the presenters spoke over and interrupted each other and raised their voice to dominate the conversation

@PNH-sf4jz

2 жыл бұрын

Hello Sally and others. That aspect of the presentation struck me also. However; >given the topic of discussion; >my desire to draw as much from it as I could; >knowing that I couldn't change the style of presentation; >recognition that the stress was in me, and self generated; >the question arose, how do I deal with this? What I perceived to be faults in the presentation, I turned into an exercise for myself, based on the topic. What is my response? how am I dealing with it? how can I still get maximum benefit for my purposes? Listening, I decided that there was, for me, a significant amount of valuable information to be acquired from the presentation. My decision to continue watching the presentation was self validated. I would watch my own responses, to capitalise and increase the value to be gained, by me, from what I, at first, perceived to be a fault in the way that the material was presented by someone else. I also realised that, because there was a challenge to my reception of the information, the presentation, that could have been quite dry, was certainly, anything but boring. I had to pay close attention to recover maximum information. Were the interruption and slightly raised voices, deliberately inserted for such a purpose?

@wlewle4783

2 жыл бұрын

Sally Carter. Looks like they have turned off all replies to you. My reply to you: Exactly my experience and thoughts. And funnily enough I gave them that feedback and they dismissed it and tried to gaslight me by saying that being uncomfortable was my issue and attempted to lecture me hahah Only made my point further ironically!

~~~ lavier mic is $40 on Amazon. I struggle with HAVING TO USE my Bluetooth speaker at high to HEAR YOU~~~

How much of "temperament" is innate vs conditional? For example: If a parent is triggered, and therefore trigger a child. Eg, Baby cries, parent shouts at them. If they have nutritional deficiencies (ie are deficient in Vitamin B6 so have an over abundance of glutamate and are deficient in GABA). If that parent is the mother and they are breastfeeding, then they'd be passing that deficiency onto the baby. So the baby will be more sensitive to the existential stresses that babies feel with hunger and tiredness (that feeling being the worst that baby has ever felt), and will be more prone to crying. It's kind of a vicious cycle of ill health

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Nice video but the Sound is low

I find this hard to follow with 2 people talking. The video of one explaining to us is much more clear.

The audio on this sucks

I don’t get why he keeps trying to hijack the conversation from Jessica.

@comocrazycreations3095

Жыл бұрын

Er. Because he’s trying to make sense of it. He’s interviewing her, so he gets to ask questions and clarify.

i really appreciate the content, but im not comfortable with the dynamic in the delivery, as it comes across to me that your both getting caught into a competitive state, rather than collaborating.

@thePSYCHcollective

2 жыл бұрын

Good. Argumentation is part of enquiry. The speakers respect each other, even if you can’t see that. They are not scared to enquire of each other and push a little. That’s what an honest conversation sometimes entails. People who are sensitive find discomfort in many places. Facing discomfort is an important part of dealing with emotional sensitivity. Pussy footing around might have a place, but the speakers are not cowardly. They are bravely seeking to understand. In this conversation people are being truthful and enquiring. This is a collaboration of two people who don’t need to pussy foot around each other.

@wlewle4783

2 жыл бұрын

@@thePSYCHcollective accept in this setting there was no need for argumentation at all. No need for her to have try to correct him or try to challenge his inquiry when actually for me his inquiry helped put a lot of what was said into context. Seemed more to me that the teacher had an unwillingness to give credit where credit was due for the added insights. 🤔

@aamirh3567

2 жыл бұрын

@@thePSYCHcollective all the principles that go against fundamental rogerian principles of good communication. Listening is the most fundamental experience for collaboration. This is therapy, not a corporate meeting. The content was good, the delivery: not so much.

~~~the Templars had hospitalers and we don't have that anymore we have a capitalistic concept of mental health that is destroying our entire society even if I wanted to I could not get a therapist because I could not afford it and that is just what we're looking at an absolute breakdown of society if we don't begin to use new models we may never have the chance easy times make weak men and weak men make hard times and that is what we are dealing with because the law of entropy applies to civilization and the fall of an Empire is upon us according to history and it's natural patterns of psychological sociological change~~~~