From someone who had 2 miscarriages and a daughter who has cried so many times that she doesn’t have a sibling, I say don’t sweat the small stuff. Children are such a blessing, no matter when they are born or how spaced out they are. That said, it’s your family...do what’s right for you!

My brother & I are 8 years apart & we are the closest of close. He is without a doubt my best friend & we love each other SO much. I truly believe age gap is not an indicator of sibling relationship. My kids are all 3 years apart & it’s wonderful for us!!

“I thought about kids before we got married” 😂 hahah Shawn is right! Girls can’t help but have a whole life “plan” already mapped out. 🤪☺️

Women HAVE to think about these things way in advance because it’s a huge toll on our bodies and lives! It’s not crazy. It’s just reality.

@dariahughes5564

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

Not only does your heart expand to include and love another one, so will Drew to adore a sibling and her life will be so enriched.

My kids are 14 months apart and I love having them close together. My sister and I are 5 years apart and we’re really close. So I honestly think it has to do more with parenting and how you raise your family rather than the age gap.

@michellemadley2768

3 жыл бұрын

Mine are 14 months apart too and I wouldn’t change it for the world !!!

@samanthaa.krause8128

3 жыл бұрын

@@michellemadley2768 I completely agree!

@emilykru

3 жыл бұрын

My first two are 16 months apart and then my second and third are 15 months apart and I love it! Yeah it’s crazy but I know someday it’ll be easier. My sister and I are 2.5 years apart and we are really close as well.

@juliemccauley4728

3 жыл бұрын

My kids are 2 years apart and it’s been perfect. Love little Drew! She’s adorable ❤️

Greatly appreciate you guys! Thank you for your kindness. Much love to your beautiful family!

Love how real you both are. Thanks for opening up your home and sharing your family with all of us!! 💝💝

You two are great loving parents, your kids will love each other and know without a doubt they are loved. Don't over think it Shawn.

My brother is 16 years apart from me and he’s 4 now.. and is my best friend! I think you can be ages apart and still end up being very close. It’s awesome to watch him grow up and learn new things.

Love you two!! So much fun and brings a smile to people in such a stressful time. This had been a rough year. This would definitely make 2020 end on a brighter note!!

My children are 2 years apart and it’s perfect. The closer in age the closer they will be as siblings. Love watching your videos of Drew❤️ She is adorable!

Andrew - most women have thought about how many children and when to have them 😂 I’m with you Shawn!

I could be wrong as I don’t have children but, have witnessed with others is the closer in age the less jealous between them.

@denisegartzke5167

3 жыл бұрын

IG-neiseg I would use this money to buy Christmas gifts for my two kiddos!

This was so informative! Thanks for all you do.

I love you two. Thank you for being so personable with us. I learn so much from your podcast. I enjoy listening to you both discuss life situations.

I really loved this conversation! Not at all where I’m at in my life but so good to hear how it should be talked about. Don’t stress her out though. You both crack me up every time!!

@hannahpino7680

3 жыл бұрын

same! I am not at this stage at all but I love listening to their videos! I don't listen to all of them but when some of them pop up I listen to some

Giving Drew a sibling is the best gift you will ever give her. All in God’s plan. In this podcast- Andrew is an optimist and Shawn is a realist- and it’s great how you give each other room. God bless.

I have 4 kiddos, 6,9,12,14. 3 girls and baby is a boy. It is so hard and all of the things you talk about are true. Parenting calls for you to be selfless many times and completely change your world. It's so hard on your marriage but also (if you put the work in) forces you to grow together and is the most refining work you will do. Your kids will be fine. They are a gift to you and your responsibility to raise but also are not the center of the universe. Its a great lesson for them to learn early in life. You are great parents to Drew and your love will inexplicably (only explainable through God) multiply more than double for baby #2... You can't imagine it before it happens but take my word for it 😍 Love from Louisiana!

You both are adorable and inspiring! Thank you for being so open with your lives.. it’s very comforting (and entertaining) to see how real people handle things that you are also going through :) thank you guys for all you do!

Your heart does grow. And we made our oldest part of the process and she loved it. Just try god will make it happen when your ready

My brother and I have a 9 year age difference and our birthdays are 2 days apart! He is my best friend and I wouldn't change it for the world!

I need to speak up here. Love is always multiplied not divided when you add to your family. Think of Drew sharing in the excitement of a new brother or sister. The first time I saw my daughter holding her baby brother, took my heart to a whole new place. It is so precious! You two as parents are the key. You've got this! Have fun and enjoy.

@melissatensmeyer9364

3 жыл бұрын

I love this comment!! So perfect! Took the words right outta my mouth!

Having a second kid rocks your world... but dang it’s the best freaking thing ever!! It’s incredible to see your kids play together and love one another and you get another very special relationship with this human being you created!! There are so many factors that come into play when thinking about adding another family member. Y’all will make the right decision for your family 💜

Just live life and stop all of this fretting. I was 19 when I had my first child. Then I lost a baby when I was 21. Then 2 months after I lost our baby I got pregnant again, much against my doctors approval and many complications, and delivered him quickly and safely. As far as Drew feeling less loved, she won't if you give her special time. Don't complain about being tired or worrying about Drew. She doesn't need to grow up alone without a sibling. Make up your own minds and don't worry about every one else's opinion. They don't live your lives.

We have 10-12-14-16-20....I wouldn’t have it any other way.

@Hey-there-70

3 жыл бұрын

Holy smokes!

I love your podcast its something I look forward to every week.

Your heart will grow and you’ll be happy no matter when the second or third or fourth child comes along. I’m a single mom of identical twin boys and I wouldn’t change it. They share a birthday, heck, they share the same DNA and yet I still love them both so deeply. I do it by myself and while I would love help, it’s extremely manageable alone. The fact that y’all would both have a supporting partner is amazing in and of itself! Babies are a blessing no matter when or how they come!

Andrew, you are hilariously so excited at the idea of "trying". Best wishes you two 😁

An “onboarding process”. LOL I have never heard pregnancy referred to that way! It’s great.

The realest convo. So glad I clicked on this! You both are thinking thru it all so throughly and I just love that. We have 5 kiddos all 2 years apart - but we didn’t “plan” when we would have any of them. I understand many of the emotions felt and “what ifs” - praying for God’s perfect timing 💞

Your heart just makes room. I was the same way and thought the same way. I couldn’t love anymore than I already do and now I love my second child just the same. You don’t forget about your older one. ❤️

"Scaronti" I'd love to use the money to get my husband something special because he works so hard for our family. 🧡

This is like being inside an over thinker's brain, I'm stressed 😂

@Elizabeth-aka-Pippi

3 жыл бұрын

😂 Ikr

I got 2 boys under two almost identical ages to Mallory. I was terrified, it was really hard at first. But it's sitting here watching my little boys so happy playing together with bowl and a piece of fabric laughing so happy. These moments are so worth the breakdowns tears and lack of sleep. I wouldn't trade this close age gap for anything

My sister and I are 4 years apart...we have always been close, especially now that we’re adults we are very close. My mom & dad always done such a good job showing us the same exact attention and love..I’ve never asked my mom if that was hard or not because she never made it seem that way ❤️

Well, i have 5 siblings, all older than me by years, the sibling closest to me is 7 years older than me, so you can imagine how the others are. Personally i dont like that huge age gap that i have with my siblings because they are supposed to be my best friends but i feel like they are my second parents at times. I´ve been in your channel for a little over a year and whatever your decide ill support you, whether you decide to have baby number 2 in 2,3 years o less or more, but no matter how difficult things may look, you shouldnt be afraid, of course prepared, yes but dont be afraid because from what ive seen your family is the strongest there is, it can and will overcome anything and everything. love you

I feel like you are thinking too much into it. The bath thing, one could give both a bath and the other could still put them to bed 🤷‍♀️ I had 2 under 4 and my husband worked away from home. I took care of them both all the time.... You don't have to have one kid only. And then you CAN do one on one and switch. Think less 🤣

@ambermoore7866

3 жыл бұрын

I have a 4 year old and 17 month old. My husband is a nurse who works 12 hour shifts. I’m always doing it alone. And honestly, it’s not hard at all. They take baths together. The 4 year old gets himself dressed while I’m dressing the baby. 🤣

@sabrina.natalie

3 жыл бұрын

@@ambermoore7866 - I find it so intriguing that your husband is a nurse. You don’t hear that too often. There are so many negative people in this world that have this outrageous mindset that nurses are “girl” jobs. Nursing school is no joke, and the profession should be embraced by everyone - regardless of gender. I’m so happy to know you’ve been able to make things work, because I couldn’t imagine by husband being a nurse, away from home, especially in this chaotic time regarding this pandemic. Did you ever consider becoming a nurse as well? Just curious. Sending you lots of light and love! 🤍

@ambermoore7866

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the sweet comment! No I never considered going into the medical field. We got married young and we had both agreed I would just stay home instead of getting a job since he works crazy hours we wanted to be together when he’s off, rather than me working a job and not being home when he’s home. It’s worked well for our family. And yes, he works with several male nurses. He’s a very hard worker. And nurses aren’t only women! 😆

I'm excited to see you have another baby. God bless ya'll

IG: haylierybak I would love to win today’s giveaway for our 2nd baby on the way! Just found out and so thrilled ❤️

@haleypowell6101

3 жыл бұрын

IG: hawhite1996 Me and my husband bought our first house this year and $500 would help us get started on our bathroom

I just love you guys and am beyond thankful that you have put together such wonderful giving opportunities that will impact so many people this year! I’d use the money to go on a big shopping spree after Christmas, soaking up all the deals for me and my family!!

My first 2 children are 2 years and 4 months apart. Our third child came 5 years after the second one. You do what works for you and things will be just how they are meant to be!

I love watching you guys!

Totally agree re timing in Covid. Never been a better time to spend as much time at home with family! Good luck ☘️

Pray about it. I'm 1 of 8 kids. I'm 51 now. My youngest sibling is 12 years younger than me. I feel very close to them no matter the age. Not growing up because we were in different chapters, but as adults, it's wonderful. Also. My kids are 3 years apart. I only have 2. A boy and girl. They love each other. 3 years has been a good time apart for us. Jack was a senior in high school, while Annie a freshman. Great balance. Bless you!

I love the way he speaks to you! 💖

I was adopted when I was 14. It warms my heart that adoption is something you would consider. Y'all are amazing parents and people!! You could truly CHANGE someone's world and believe it or not their destiny!! Love y'all!!

My kids are 4.5 years apart. They are good friends at 22 and 26. What is most important is that you teach them to respect each other and celebrate what each of them brings to the relationship. No matter what the spread is between them there will be times they get along and times they don't. As long as they are being guided towards a healthy relationship, the chances of a good long term one is good.

This Christmas season I want to spread as much joy as possible and this would help me do so!

Having siblings Is amazing. My brother and I are 16 months apart. He and our sister are 2 years a part. We just lost our father and being together and to support each other is incredible.

Love watching your videos!

Your family is adorable! I admire your drive.

Having another child is always a blessing.💕I have two boys, who are now both Dads themselves. I had the fear of not having the same connection but it’s the same with both and it’s amazing how your heart grows that much more. If I won the gift card I would be spending sharing it with the boys and my Grandchildren! They are all such a blessing. Happy Holidays to your Family wishing you many blessings!

I have a sister who is three years older than me. Her birthday is January 19th and mine is January 21st, but we actually had the same due date! I would say I love the space we have in our ages as well as being born in the same month. My mom and dad were both born in January, so it's a great month for all of us! Love y'all!!

Shawn, you are going to make your self crazy! Relax and enjoy!!!

Just do it! Be a team and embrace it!

Ohh boy!!! May your wish to expand your family in 2021 come true. It would be such a gift after the year 2020 has been. Also, Shawn is correct, all that boy making strategy is a MYTH!! Good luck to you both, you're my favorite couple to follow 💗

I have two girls and did not know how I could love another baby as much but the second you know you are pregant again your heart explodes and when you meet the 2nd baby all those concerns melt away. We have two girls two years and 3 months apart and as soon as the 2nd one was born it just worked. Its pretty easy to get them on the same schedule too. Obviously the baby will sleep more than Drew but I got my baby to nap in the afternoon at the same time as my 2 year old pretty quickly. Those 2 hours were awesome. There is no Dibs. The kids(after you stop nursing) will seek out both of you for different things. You are over thinking it. RELAX!! It will all be awesome!!!!

I have two siblings. My mom waited 8 years after me and 11 years after my brother. My sister and I both have birthdays in March and they had always been super individual. Jealousy for the oldest is just natural. No way around it, but it is important to remind her that she is also on this journey as big sister. Also, don't wait 19 years like my mom, it turned me into "mommy #2" and totally took advantage that she had someone old enough to step in. Love yall!

I love how honest and open you are to each other and us! You can tell you have made a relationship that is safe to do that. I totally get Shawn’s planning. I totally avoided certain times. I didn’t want a baby to have a birthday near Christmas. I hear so many that hate that. Love you guys!

Also wanted to give you some advice that my father-in-law gave to me. My husband and I were newly engaged and we were talking about kids, money and time. We were out on the balcony at their apartment and he looked at me and said there will never be enough money and there will never be the perfect time to have kids. I was blown away! My boys are 3 weeks from being exactly 3 years apart and it worked out nicely because my oldest is potty trained and loves to help but honestly ANY age gap will be perfect because they are your babies and you’re the best parents you can be🙂❤️ love you guys!

Your heart grows for each one!! I have 5!! You will both spend equal time with each kid and they will feel so much love from both of you! One great thing about having lots of kids is they always have someone to play with. You don't have to entertain the one all the time.

So excited to hear this!! And so excited for 25 days of giveaways!❤️

My kids are 7 years apart. Girl and boy and they get along great!!! No problems

I think it’s SO natural for a mom to feel that having another child will take away from the first. I had those fears too!! My friends with multiple kids reassured me that once you have a second, you will feel like, well this baby is just apart of the family and i couldn’t imagine life without her! I’ve had two girls and that is SO true. I can’t imagine the girls not having each other! I can’t imagine life without both babies! So your fears are natural, but my fears were completely dissolved the first time the girls met!!

Love your laughter and positivity! Cutest Fam EVER💕 the gift cards would really help me through the end of year

@kerajohnson4115

3 жыл бұрын

@blutfl23 IG

Love you guys so much! Baby Drew is so adorable!

My sister and I are 9,5 years apart and we both feel that the older we get the closer we get. We are doing more and more things together and are great friends!

I thought about life decisions and having kids a lot when I was married. My husband was slow at making decisions and I was impossibly impatient. We ended up getting divorced because I was tired of always feeling like I was orchestrating our lives, and bringing up issues we needed to decide on. I’m glad Andrew is bringing this up!!

Interesting conversation. The both of you are so caring and loving.

Coming from a family where I was born on my twin sisters birthday, it did not make me feel any less special to share it with them. If anything it had a similar effect to when you have a big family and spend it all together on Christmas - it’s more fun, there’s more to celebrate! You’ll love both of your kids equally enough to always make them feel loved and special 💕

Don't overthink it so much! I had 4 sons and my husband and I loved it! They're all within 2.5 years of one another (with the 2 middle boys being 21 mos. apart). It may sound cliche but it's 100% true - your heart just gets bigger w/each child!

Shawn is very talented at defusing a tense situation

You will absolutely love whatever children you are blessed with, girls or boys. You have such big hearts and so much love to give. You will just love Drew even more, seeing her as a big sister, watching her grow in that role. And I have no doubt that Drew, as well as your other children if you're so blessed, will always feel special and celebrated, even if she shares her birthday month. You will be perfect parents. Your children will be so loved and cherished. Blessings to all of you.

Literally me planning my life well in advance thank you Shawn

Great way to bring joy to family fun at Christmas! Diana

You guys are the cutest!! Waiting for the baby announcement 😘

I have a teenager. You will TOTALLY miss this baby stage! It's exhausting when you're in it but you miss it as they grow up. Also, the closeness of your children will depend on your parenting. I have a sis that is 16 months younger and another that is 6 years younger. The middle and I were close and did a lot of things together. My youngest sister and I are complete opposites and don't get along. Once we became young adults they revealed resentment towards me because out Dad was blatant with his favoritism of me. Looking back the three of us were raised in a very competitive home and everyone was competing for Dad's attention. You guys will do great with another kid and so will Drew.

Ashleyewoods I would love to give back to my parents this year who not only took us all in during the pandemic, dealt with a family member having COVID, helped me graduate from law school but also saved our house and family from the wildfires in California. They both said they don’t want a single thing, but I know that they’re both struggling right now and I would like to lighten their load somehow this Christmas. Thank you so much❤️

Getting ready to close on a house, and this would help us buy new items for the house; which would bring a lot of joy to my kids for Christmas.

I agree that it is a different experience for only children and multiple siblings. So different. I don’t have any ideas except to reiterate someone else’s comment about praying about it. My experience is being one in four and the extended family ... WOW ... lots of aunts and uncles and cousins. It was awesome! The future is what you make of it. Have faith and it will happen as it is supposed to. Love you three (and future four, five, six LOL).

My son and daughter are 6 years apart. Not by choice but because of situations out of our control. We finally felt grounded to have another and my first child has fallen in love with our baby girl. My son has had so many health issues and needed my FULL heart and attention his first 6 years of life. But we knew it was time to grow our family. Honestly, I feel it’s something you can ask God about and he will guide and direct you. Every family is so different, personal and unique. Don’t plan your family off of other family experiences!

I love this❤️

My brother and I are slightly less than a year apart. I'm the oldest and I don't ever remember being jealous of having to share my birthday or anything like that. My younger sister is 5 years younger than me. I never knew anything different than what I had and our parents didn't make a big deal about it. My own kids are 4 1/2 years apart - not by our choice. We would have loved to have our kids closer together, but they get along fine - have never struggled with fighting, etc. You know this, but it's easy to try to "plan" but it doesn't always work in our timing. God knows what you need and he will give you and your kid(s) the grace to handle what comes.

I had 4 kids. My first 2 are 2 years and 3 days apart, my second 2 are 18 months apart and there’s a 3 1/2 year gap between the first 2 and the second 2. I enjoyed every moment until the teenage years, those are the toughest times! So many emotions, thoughts, struggles lol. Parenting is the best, but definitely not for the weak. You guys are tough cookies and great parents, you’ll do great regardless of what you decide.

Andrew I completely agree with what you say about the whole covid situation because I've found that this year a lot of what everybody's been asking from God in the past several years is exactly what he gave us maybe not in the form we'd want it but in reality everybody got their answer wanting to spend time with their family and getting time away from work because they don't get a vacation etc. Life is too fragile and family is the most important thing outside of our relationship with God and his son Jesus and this year has been a big reminder of that.

My kids are 13 months apart. They are 4&5. I have them both the majority of the time because my husband works nights. You just do it. You learn how to handle them both and it's amazing. You will be fine. Don't sweat the small stuff.

My sister and I are 6 years apart. I’m the oldest and for me it was difficult sometimes because I wanted to play with her, but she was too young. So having siblings closer together, maybe 4 years or less, I think would be nicer. And to top it all off, my sister was born on my birthday! We say that we’re twins, even though we’re not, because we look so alike and have the same birthday. With that said though, I never felt overshadowed by her. We would share the day and celebrate together, which I loved. But we would also have our own separate parties with friends. And we felt special and celebrated as individuals. I actually love to say to people that my sister was my birthday present. It’s so special and unique to us. I wish you both all the best! Much love xx

My children are 4 years apart and I am glad it came out that way. We planned on getting pregnant when our daughter turned 3 but failed and we stopped trying I gave up I blamed my C-section. I was so depressed. But then it happened a week before my birthday I got pregnant. I was so happy I started crying. It’s the best though cuz she had her own time to grow and evolve. And now with her brother around she helps me out so much. She plays with him and are best friends he loves having her around. Shawn, I had the same dilema with having another baby. I was scared I was gonna love the new baby more than my first, but it’s not what you think! You’re heart really does grow and there is no room for rejection. You love them equally! That is how it will be trust me!

Were now trying for our first! Winning would help out a lot!

Finally had a chance to watch this one. I think every mom goes through those feeling of worrying about the attention being taken away from the first baby. It's good that you are thinking about it now. It hit me mid pregnancy and I had so many meltdowns! But trust me it will work out!! Seeing your children interact with each other is the best thing in the world (even with all the arguing :))! We are debating a 3rd and I'm going through these same feelings again.

Andrew so happy you are safe and recovering well! My prayers to your family ❤️ 💐

Ugh you guys are so cute 🥰 and Shawn get that chef girl!! You guys deserve it!

@nicoleshepanik3414

3 жыл бұрын

Instagram: @nicoshepanik

So my little brother’s birthday is less than a month before Christmas and my mom was always specific that I would have to get him 2 presents, a birthday and a Christmas present so that way his birthday was always special. Sometimes you just have to put in some extra work but you guys are great parents and I know you’ll do whatever it takes to make that child feel special and appreciated.

Love y’all!

Shawn, all you are feeling is hitting home so hard! Our daughter is 1 month older than Drew and that almost instictive thought process of timing is insane! I feel ya!!

Praying for your family

The money would definitely help out this Christmas season for me and my family as well as others !! You guys are awesome and drew is adorable !! She is adorable !!

I had two boys two and half years apart. That was a great spread wouldn't want it too much further apart

Recently moved out on my own and would love to finish getting what I need.