"If your significant other gives you feedback, it's really important to take that to heart and actually listen to it" groundbreaking

@Boymomx3

4 жыл бұрын

MORE couples need to listen and watch this!!!💯. Somehow have to trap my Hubby into it 😏🤷‍♀️

I have been married for 50 years, we were 19 and 21, had my first kid at 21 and the other at 23. Have gone through difficult situations. Economic, health problems, lost our daughter and other things. We were able to go through all of this by being there to each other. When you love someone, you are able to conquer everything. Once you respect, support and be kind to each other, you can keep a good relationship. Remember that we are different, not perfect, and have different opinions of things or situations. It is difficult to change someone, but with patience, communication and love, changes can happened. We say that we love each other everyday, go out on dates, hold hands and kiss, because we never know if today will be my last time we are going to do those things. Take a deep breath and focuse in the important things. Love❤️

She is always sassy! I feel for you Andrew! And yes you do talk over each other. 😊

You guys are CLEARLY *both* stubborn and passionate people so it’s easy to see why you might butt-heads sometimes but your adoration and love for one another shines! Keep communicating and don’t sweat the small stuff you two! 💓 At the end of the day it’s the love we share that truly only matters. Great episode.

Shawn, I love that you filmed this when you were "spicy", because I so feel you! As mom's, we just have those days and can't hide it or change it! I always try to tell my husband that I'm just going to be this way today and you need to stand clear of me, or else! 😂

I just love to listen and watch you two talk with each other about your life. There is no doubt that you are both deeply in love with each other and want only the best for each other. ❤

I see the love languages as a great tool to think about ways you can show/give love to others around you. We can apply the love languages in every relationship and every interaction with other human beings.

“I would really appreciate a cuddle every once and a while” 😂😂😂 I’m sure that’s how my significant other is feeling since I’m now 29 weeks pregnant and don’t like being touched by anyone 😂😂😂

Love this episode!! Your love for each bbn other is palpable

I love Salmon and Whitefish and Sushi! I love that you are doing this again! You guys are wonderful! I have learned the 5 languages of Love at my Church in a seminar. More people should hear this Pod Cast! 🤗😎👍❤️❤️❤️

Love it!!! Also LOVE that you don't just sugar coat crap amd tell people what yhey "want to hear" and tell the TRUTH About how you actually feel AND what you want, how you are etc.... I've watched and admired you for year's (ever since the Olympics) now love Andrew as well, akd ofn of course lil precious Baby Drew 😍🙏. I Listen and watch every single podcast! I was a Cheerleader Competitive for 14 year's, I'm now a Momma to 3 amazing Boy's and Love all of y'all's content. Live in East, TN, just about 5 hours away from y'all, Congrats on everything and you're awesome!!💯😍💕

Im in the same boat as Andrew, although I do some of these tests to understand myself more, I think we are way more complex than that. Love language test is great because I think communication is key in a relationship, no matter if it is a parent/child, best friend or SO. So having your basic needs identified is crucial in helping others understand you

Shawn, I totally feel you on the topic of giving and receiving gifts. I am an awful gift receiver because I don't know how to react and I don't ever think I am worthy of a gift for whatever reason. Now giving gifts, I love giving gifts; I get such a humbling feeling inside when I can give a gift that makes the receiver feel special. Love these podcasts guys!

Andrew, Wash the bottles!! You will be promoted to hubby of the year!!! As a mom, it means so much when just one thing is done for me so I don’t feel overwhelmed!

I love that this quiz is promoting open and honest communication!!!

Both of you look at each other with so much love, it's absolutely beautiful!

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

I go into super cleaning mode when I’m frustrated/upset too🤣

@highmountainmama8020

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@sydneyymarinn457

4 жыл бұрын

i'm the exact same way. the first cue that my boyfriend knows i'm upset about something lol

@tamberjune

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. Me too.

Thank you guys for this episode. I love listening in on your real and raw conversations. This reading thing might be related to being a young mom. I loved reading all through my pregnancy and haven't finished a single book since having my kids! (They are one and a half years and four months now.) Concentrating on a book seems so hard when you haven't slept through a night for months. But I sure hope the love for books is coming back.

You guys are truly great. Tnx for sharing.

As a mom of 4 married 11 years.. when you guys learn to stop trying to figure out who has more skin in the game your team comes together and will be unstoppable. Love you guys!

Enneagram PLEASE!!! Great podcast, I think I’m going to have us do our love languages over a date night. :-)

Thank you so much for doing this episode! I learned about the love languages a few years ago and have still been trying to figure out what my husband's languages are. I am hoping to use the quiz to help us learn more about one another. ❤❤

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Let us know how it goes!

What I like to do with the 5 love languages is rank them instead of asking to just choose them. I like all 5 at different times (and I think it's important to discuss potential scenarios), but I do have a favorite.

5 months postpartum and 100% agree that having bottles washed is more appreciated than so many other things! Somehow my husband and I are the rare few- I like him more after having a kid with him 🤣

There's a test for apology languages too. I highly recommend taking that.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

WHOAAAA WAIT WHAT

@amaragrace94

3 жыл бұрын

Ooo never heard of that. Gonna look that up. 🙂

My boyfriend and I both got quality time. Which makes sense because we love spending time together.

I love this episode. I think its the best one yet. Doing the quiz made me understand my husband more.

Great episode, definitely gonna do this quiz with my husband!

I prefer Love Language and Myers Briggs, but not a fan of enneagram and zodiac signs. MB has helped me understand others and how they think and make decisions, which heavily plays into personal interactions. Love Language helps me know how to serve others in a way they need it.

You two are adorable! I have heard you talk about how you argue a lot. I have been in situations with important people in my life where we had so much miscommunication. While praying about this, I felt the Lord showed me it is pride. Pride causes miscommunication. Scripture also talks about strife. Every couple has disagreements but we need to get rid of strife. God is faithful to show us if that is the problem.

I took a graduate class many many years ago where we were admonished to never ever say 'I'm sorry', as the further translation of that was 'I'm a sorry, sorry person'. It took a lot of time to learn to say 'I apologize' instead, but it makes it easier to continue that sentence. I'm now reminded of the snotty little kid that says I'm sorry in a sassy tone, clearly without meaning it. We are taking the test together tomorrow, and I like some PDA and am an introvert that needs lots of recharging time.

You should do a podcast on zodiacs. Go to cafe astrology and do your actual birth charts that talk you through everything. Plus you can do a comparability test with you partner to see potential issues that may arise. 10/10 would recommend. Awesome episode!

I love hearing you guys! Always something new to learn from you! By the way, I LOVE your chairs. Love the fabric too. Could you please tell me the name of the chairs and what fabric is on them? They are so awesome! Am I the first to ask you for this info???? Lol

This is probably my favorite podcast you've done so far, because I am struggling on what I am needing from my husband now that I'm mom and how our relationship has changed since having our baby. I think taking this test will really help me understand what I am needing and how to tell him. Love you guys!

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

I hope this helps. You got this!!

Yay!! Comments! Love you three ❤️❤️❤️

Loved this episode ❤️

This made me laugh because I'm the same way as Shawn with gifts. Sometimes I hate receiving gifts because then I know I have to find the perfect gift in return, and I hate feeling that pressure 😂

Loved this! I'm Words of Affirmation and my husband had a 3-way tie between Touch, Service, and Time but they are all lower which makes it confusing! Every day is something new 😉 Have you ever read Carol Tuttle's "It's Just My Nature?" Would love to hear perspective on that one, what types you are, and I'd you think they are accurate.

I took this test with my man a couple years ago, and I took it again while I was listening to this. It's crazy how my answers have changed, and I can't wait to get him to retake it to see if his has changed. Also, I need an enneagram podcast please, and recommendations on a good enneagram test!!

I got quality time and I definitely thought it’d be gifts 😂

Don't waste your time thinking about what needs to be done. Enjoy every single moment with each other and your child. Those things will be there and you'll get to them when you have a chance. You will never have any minutes, any hours, with each other and your child to do over. None of the rest really matters.

What I found funny about the PDA conversation is that before my husband and I were married PDA was more important to me but now that we are married I enjoy it at home more then I do in public.

We as women go through sooooo many hormonal changes, men do not go through this and we always think they should know us but they don’t! They stay the same pretty much we put soooo much on ourselves! I’ve always reminded myself of my changes we shouldn’t think our guys should always bend to our moods. OMG I go into cleaning mode when I’m stressed as well but that’s what I do and it helps me but that’s my problem and I deal with it my way, my husband gets me after 33 years and I get him..... that’s our love language 🥰

There's an apology languages test too! You should do a video on that!

Awesome video!

My favorite episode yet!

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening Hope!!

My husband and I were both acts of service and physical touch. We joked (though some truth) that acts of service was a necessity because we were raising 7 kids (our 5 plus 2 more we fostered, raising), but physical touch was why we had a house full of kids.

I don’t love reading either. I am with Shawn I like to read articles on my phone or listen to podcasts, etc.

I love "tasteful" PDA as well!

I really enjoy your podcast. The way you both communicate

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for listening!

I like enneagram because it indicates fears and insecurities, not just strengths. Gives you a chance to see behind someone’s mask in order to better love and serve them.

Very interesting, I never heard of 5 love languages, but great!

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it!

Love u guys and great topic

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Emily! Glad you liked

I mad clean too lol it's a great outlet 😂

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

Girls are not crazy. Some people are more emotional/less rational than others during times of conflict, but that has nothing to do with being a girl. ♥️

Please do an episode on gender roles and how you split up house chores, if it’s ever been a problem, etc.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

We’ve been talking about this!!!

@ZahraFajr

4 жыл бұрын

@@shawnandandrewpods Please! Super excited!

Mine is quality time

I’ve been listening to your all’s podcast and had no clue what your former careers were 😭 Power couple

I feel like a lot of people think you guys analyze too much, but I am in a relationship where we don't communicate or work through things and it is failing. You guys epitomize my relationship goals of the future.

Great topic!!

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening Sorina!!

I clean when I’m mad or feel like I cannot control a situation.

I have been married along time and I feel that communication is the key. Without it a marriage will not work.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Such good wisdom!!

I thought mine would be physical touch or words of affirmation but i got acts of service. I can see that now.

And "appreciate" he says very weird lol..but i love your vids you guys are very cute 😁

I would really love for y’all to be on the Typology podcast with Ian Morgan Cron or The Enneagram Journey podcast with Suzanne Stabile! 💜 They are both great hosts who can be enlightening and very encouraging ☺️

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

We will reach out! Thank you for this

What do you guys think about mbti personality types? I have found it to be helpful for me and my husband because it’s more about how certain personalities process things and how their minds work. My husband is Intp and I am Isfp and it has helped me understand him much more since we are so different. We process things differently we think totally different and it helps us when have conflicts since we can see where the other is coming from better.

Hate the tests, love the episode

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening Amanda!

Omg I feel the struggle of being a clean organized freak with a man who is not like that. My mother was the same way super organized and clean. And those two weeks of the laundry sitting out is picking your battles and letting it slide til that day life doesn’t go as planned and you snap lol

To address your initial point Andrew, I think humans are complex and each of these systems speaks to one specific piece of you and taken as a whole you can show up as a better version of yourself/explain yourself to others. I was also surprised when acts of service came out as my number 1, I always thought mine was quality time. When I thought about it I realized that I'm so so touched by acts of service, I feel that so deeply. I think you should check out Carol Tuttle's system called Energy Profiling.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

This is a really good perspective. Thank you for sharing- we will check this out !

@Tissuefacer

4 жыл бұрын

@@shawnandandrewpods You're welcome! Thanks for the comment back! Here's a link to her work: my.liveyourtruth.com/dyt/energy-profiling/ (The info applies to men and women but it seems women are perhaps more open to this kind of work so she gears the info to them :))

Walking around a volcano 🤣🤣🤣🤣

While I think Zodiac signs are fun & tests are fun to do...I don’t agree that the “love languages” are the gospel...heck my love language changes daily 🤷🏼‍♀️ the older generation marriages last for 50 years plus & I know they didn’t take no love language quiz...they loved, listened, and chose to only love ONE person...they turned to Jesus in all they did. Turned to Jesus for marriage problems...and listened to His commands. My gospel for love is the actual gospel. Don’t make love more complicated!! Turn to the book that holds the greatest love story of all time!

@christysdeals4u

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN

Andrew is always out here in videos sticking up against non-gendered assumptions ex."don't say girls are crazy". Round of applause for Andrew. Whether or not he knows he's doing it, he's using his words to be an ally to women and underrepresented genders. It's important that women aren't seen as universal so women can be better recognized as individuals with unique skillsets and challenges. Thanks, Andrew! And I love Shawn for being so open to feedback and being an amazing role model! I love the podcast. We need more voices like yours that seek to understand other opinions and outlooks.

I agree with Andrew on the zodiac ect..

I adore you both. Andrew, you’re missing the mark on Love Languages. It’s a huge problem for many couples if they don’t understand how their partners receive love. I would suggest reading the book again, and with an open mind.

Hey Shawn. You say that you’re a perfectionist. I have 2 self confessed perfectionists in my life, one in my family and one at work. In order for me to understand them and support them I have read quite a bit about perfectionism and there appears to be a correlation between perfectionism and OCPD. The WHO (World Health Organization) has an extensive explanation for OCPD on its Web site and it might be interesting for you to read and to see if you see yourself in the explanation. Some of it definitely fits myself but I am not a perfectionist. p.s. I love you two.

I send your videos to my 2 sons who are 29 & 30 years of age because you are both informative & adorable. I hope to influence my sons w/ your couple things. Please include some environmental conversation when possible. You are big influencers and the environment is our only support system. “If future generations are to remember us with gratitude rather than contempt, we must leave them more than the miracles of technology. We must leave them a glimpse of the world as it was in the beginning, not just after we got through with it.” ― Lyndon B. Johnson.

Hey y’all, love the podcast and you guys :) Not too comfortable with the “girls are crazy” generalisation here though. Anyone (regardless of gender) may react to things in a seemingly irrational manner sometimes due to personal triggers/past experiences etc. And even “irrational” can be subjective depending on the observer’s own perspective. Just a thought!

My lowest is words of affirmation it used to be one of my top two but because I have had so many people tear me down I can't mentally accept compliments.

When you're at M.I.T., ask for directions to '1369'. It's a cafe with amazing coffee. If you DO go there, please let me know what you think of it. There ARE two of them, Cambridge and Boston. I'm affiliated with their coffee supplier, as a customer. Ask if they're brewing the Guatemalan, because it's among my favorites.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this Dan! Will do

I was listening on apple podcast but had to come here to tell you - there are different apology languages too!!!!! I recently watched a video from Gary Chapman explaining them. Go check it out! I think it would be awesome for you guys to explore that in yourselves and maybe do another podcast about it 😃😃😃

It's important to know that love languages can change over time!! So it may be one way at the beginning of your relationship and then change or evolve into another love language....that's normal but it's important to let your partner know! 😉

Love Languages made quite a difference in my marriage. So does knowing astrology. Just saying. It makes for a greater understanding and appreciation of your partner. It also helps with translation of actions. As for the Love Language issue, we took the test and I’m bi lingual and so is my husband. Mine is acts of service and quality time and his is acts of service and physical touch.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Where’s your go to source for learning about astrology?

@maureenkelly738

4 жыл бұрын

Couple Things with Shawn Johnson and Andrew East - there is SO much to astrology. My basic theory is that the Universe has an infinite playlist. What was playing when you were born will influence your basic rhythms. For example, if your Dad was born when the “1812 Overture” was playing, specifically when the canon goes off, and your brother was born when “Gangsta Paradise” was going on, and you were born when Mozart was playing, there might be some overlap, but definitely some clashes and discordant notes between everyone. To learn the basics, I read books and made notes and took classes. This was many many years ago. Then I let it be known I was studying and everyone wanted me to interpret their chart. That’s how I started. As with everything, the more you do, the better you get. Now, there’s KZread. Since you’re probably not going to really delve into it, search for “beginning astrology” and watch a few videos. Explore sun, moon, rising sign and shape of the chart to get a good ideas of the triggers and motivations of the other. Later look at the major aspects between the planets to see what the “go to” actions that are comfortable for them. You can study for decades and always learn something new.

Andrew you may be what a friend of mine calls me, an Enthusiast or an extroverted Introvert. We are introverts that need our alone time, but we love people and meeting new people but we don’t seek out having lots and lots of friends.

Shawn-- could the gifts thing be part of what "may be expected" as your "response"... Knowing the other is probably expecting X and you might show Y ?? Both about the same thing, but one is intended for the other, as opposed to your genuine response "as is"?

How are you guys with the Nashville tornado?

There’s also a forgiveness language

How do you handle a partner that doesn't listen to or receive feedback very well? My ex would always tell me that I'm trying to change him when I would point out that I see he has big goals and ask why doesn't he do things to achieve them?

Yes to enneagram podcast!!!!!

@carolinepino9381

4 жыл бұрын

There is a study guide called “the paths between us” by suzanne stabile that helps navigate relationships. I think very similar to what you experienced with this test, doing this one would do bothing more than better understand how you can best love and exhibit grace for one another! I think these two pair very nicely together and it would make a great part 2!

I'm kinda confused. Were you "mad" bc of the work you had to do today and how it went, or that he scheduled you work and didn't want to do it?! Sorry might not be my "Buisness ", but y'all kinda put it out there too. Lol. Anyway, LOVE YOU ALL 3/4 counting Nash and loving watching and listening to ya 💯💕😊

22:14 Saying "I love you" is the same as saying "I'm sorry," there's a HUGE difference between these two statements. It seems to me if Andrew is saying "I love you" as opposed to "I'm sorry" then he's using those words as a "filler" and also not taking responsibility for a wrongdoing. Perhaps there's a misunderstanding on my part and I will 100% own that. Though as I listen through my filter of understanding these are 2 very different statements. Also, when Shawn says, "Girls are crazy...etc." It's NOT a flaw, Shawn, it really isn't. What you say here about how you perceive Andrew's words makes complete sense. DO NOT DIMINISH YOURSELF! Having the need to hear one's partner say, "I'm sorry" doesn't sound crazy because it's NOT crazy, again you're diminishing yourself. Please don't do this.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this :)

Men don’t like to say I’m sorry, it takes practice for them.

@isabellaliedtke6361

4 жыл бұрын

In my experience, it's harder for women!

hey you two, do not stress out too much about talking over each other….I have never noticed this and everyone just likes to pick at things....every show out there this will happen it is pretty much impossible to stop it....relax and don't think about it too much....the passion needs to be there so don't be so careful...be human

Is it possible to have two love languages? I’m definitely “Acts of Service”, but I also like “Words of Affirmation” to know that my husband sees and appreciates me and all I do. He is “Physical Touch” and “Words of Affirmation”; he loves hugs and kisses and me telling him how much I appreciate him ☺️

@amandachin6853

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, if you take the love language test, then it essentially gives you a ranking and tells you how many 'points' you get in each of those love languages; it would definitely be possible for Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation to be closely 1-2 or tied.

@4eversaved

4 жыл бұрын

Amanda Chin Thank you!

@maureenkelly738

4 жыл бұрын

Bobbi Taunton - yes. I actually read the book, and recommend it. Author is Gary Chapman. You can be more than one language, sometimes 3! The test gives you points on how you decided which language is most important. I got 8, 8, 7, 6 and 1. So the ones tied at 8 are slightly more meaningful than the physical touch at 7, although that is still WAY up there and I recognize it as valid.

@4eversaved

4 жыл бұрын

Maureen Kelly My husband I read it and “His Needs, Her Needs” over twenty years ago. They both are wonderful books!

i come from south africa

Andrew said, he is more conservative than Shawn. What does this mean? Could you make a video/podcast about that?

Mid way into the video I decided to take the quiz and wow I couldn’t have been more off about myself.

@daniellesmith1936

4 жыл бұрын

I did as well, and one of mine 'moved' positions, and another was more important than I thought, but my top two weren't very surprising. I was more shocked that Andrew's words of affirmation wasn't #1.

@shawnandandrewpods

4 жыл бұрын

So interesting right?!

I would love to see an enneagram podcast!

Ok so saying I’m sorry is dumb. Instead say something like “I was wrong for......please forgive me. I will work hard not to do that again.” What does I’m sorry really mean? Wrong/forgive are the better words

I would like my husband to read. I love to read and when I read I get into it and I think he doesn't get it.

One of my favorite things to say to new or young couples is that guys are dumb and girls are stupid: there are typical things that we may not hear or may not say and sometimes those are gender based, and sometimes they’re just human based. It’s not that we actually are but it’s the head games we play within our own mind that then can be projected onto the other person. And when those questions come up, instead of asking your partner specifically that, you’re asking your friend why your partner didn’t say or do this. Which boils down to a lack of honest and open communication. You don’t like something or you need something more or you just really don’t care at that moment are all things that need to be said to your partner. So girls may not be crazy, but sometimes we are stupid and sometimes guys are dumb.