*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”* *―C. S. Lewis*

@SharvindRao

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t spam everywhere

I’ve noticed these symptoms for YEARS and I’m 27. Exercising had helped tremendously and also meditating and practicing being mindful. It takes a lot of discipline but it’s so worth it. ✨

I can finally leave my heart at peace. I've been blaming myself for not being able to focus. I'm unable to focus no matter how hard I try and how much I want to. I used to daydream as a child endlessly. Even at this age I can't stop myself from making up stories in my head, when I must ve focusing

@manishapratap935

2 жыл бұрын

I relate with you 100%

I recomend looking into " minimalism lifestyle". Reducing clutter and simplifying your lifestyle is going to make things ALOT easyer. The is only so much energi and focus the brain has, and it can`t multitask that good ( not even functional brains with no ADHD). That is: Less stuff, and less multitasking= More brainpower to complete tasks and to get the overal view of your tasks

@GetOrganizedwithSortandSweet

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a professional organizer (with ADD lol) and can 100% agree with this!! It just makes life so much simpler and easier for anyone.

"They" knew about ADD in girls back in the 1960's, but it wasn't thought to be a bad thing. Boys being non-compliant got far more attention, but girls with ADD would quietly sit in their chairs and that was what was important to educators. Being "ditzy" was fine--forgetting to do stuff, losing train of thought--and to some extent expected if you were blonde. If you were smart, you got the by rote and routine worksheet done and went back to daydreaming while the teacher wrangled with the rest of the class. I blundered my way through the rest of my life, going from one temp job to another and raising a (fortunately) small family, and still dealing with ADD. I'm in my 60's, and I've wondered what it would be like to be "normal."

I was diagnosed at 59 - shortly before everything shut down - I'm still working to understand the best way to recreate my world. 60 years of coping mechanisms need to be stripped away. Exercise is absolutely essential for me to focus. Additionally, I've been learning some great mindfulness strategies, too. I'm still learning to resist the urge to run to then next bright object. Good luck everyone!!

Last year, at the age of 28, I started working with a psychologist for the first time. And I was diagnosed with ADHD. Exercise and even long walks help a lot. So far I haven’t been taking medications and I don’t need them, but now I understand myself a lot better which helps me better organize my day and activities to be as productive as possible. I seem to have adapted phenomenally as a child and turned all the disadvantages into my strengths, but this video came at the right time! Thank you!

Wow makes sense. I’m turning 60 this year and thought my memory issues were due to age. I have noticed once I started walking daily, I feel better. Thank you

This is soooo me, 53, I’ve had to work through strategies, kind of floundering around on my own. It takes a lot of discipline in keeping up strategies. And yes, fitness does help me.

Im 28 and had my diagnosis few months after i watched this video, i have so much empathy for my self who was trying so hard all of this years, although i was very good at school i had rough time in my under and post graduate degree, cant be more thankful for mel because she was the reason why i seek help in this matter

Going to high school and college with ADHD undiagnosed and having everyone (parents included) yelling at me that 'I should just focus' when it seriously took a village to sit down and study a hour without day dreaming I can totally relate. Still now it is hard every day to get work done but with Mel I made some progress.

@kevinkillelea2274

2 жыл бұрын

I here you my Add went unnoticed . Makes life very very Hard

@joelleafara7741

2 жыл бұрын

same sister, the thing is that medication works well for me, but has many side effects and sometimes I get very depressed from its use

I was FINALLY was diagnosed with ADHD at age 28. And after being diagnosed and starting treatment I was able to come off all my anxiety meds!

The timing of this video feels like a sign from God. I learned recently that all the things I’ve struggled with my entire life are signs of add. I had no idea! I haven’t gotten much support from the few family members I told, and I can tell they don’t think I have it. I think it’s extremely likely that I do. I’m going to see a doctor very very soon. I’m 29. I’m glad I’m putting these pieces together while I’m still pretty young, but I’m also a little devastated that I struggled for so long for no reason. It has impacted my life in majorly negative ways.

@sandralujan1199

3 жыл бұрын

I got properly diagnosed at 33. It’s been life changing and peaceful. It was hard at first. I wish I knew sooner. What could have been? But…. It’s a hopeful diagnosis imagine the future and all you can do moving forward. It will be amazing you’re not starting from square 1. You got this. Learn about it and yourself. Talk to a professional that knows their stuff. Fight for your proper care. Don’t listen to people who don’t have it.

@jessicalt4121

3 жыл бұрын

Check your blood work too, to make sure you don’t have a vitamin D, iron or other vitamin deficiency, hormones, etc?

This lady is one of my Heroes. She made me finally find out what the heck is "wrong" with me ; i'm 53...

Executive function is near impossible with adhd. I've struggled my whole life with being able to identify what is the most important thing I should be doing. And also just remembering there was a task I had to do in the first place. Then I actually have to start the thing... it's a shitshow. I was on Concerta for a while but it makes me very emotional, like break downs crying, every day. So, if you feel you mess aren't working, believe it and ask for a change.

@matzohgirl

2 жыл бұрын

Try list making. Sit down and do a talk just for five minutes.

My husband definitely has symptoms and the more I learn about it, the more I wonder if I have it/have had it myself. I have been treated for anxiety/depression throughout my adulthood. I recently told my therapist exercise is not optional for me. It makes a big difference for me as well as doing some form of meditation. Yoga is great if I can get myself to do it. BTW, whatever you’re doing, it’s working. Looking good, girl. Thanks for the video.

I'm 37 and was just diagnosed with PMDD and ADHD. To finally be able to have something to research and find tips has been absolutely life changing and with a couple meds too.

I have diagnosed myself two years ago with this and got my official diagnosis last year. I can only recommend to research how it affects people in their dayly lives. It's so much more than focus and forgetfulness

@TheLovelyMissBeans

3 жыл бұрын

YES!

I was also diagnosed with ADD at the age of 47. This diagnosis came through a neuropsychological evaluation that also identified borderline personality disorder. In addition to ADD, I also experience anxiety patterns, depression, forgetfulness, difficulty keeping up with school lessons, and a lot of daydreaming, even in adulthood, as Mel mentioned in the video. During a consultation with a neurologist about ADD, the doctor said that my attention deficit is linked to the borderline issue. Therefore, it would not help to treat ADD without addressing the borderline aspect. In my case, borderline started as a response to being molested in childhood, a situation that also happened to Mel Robbins. So, really, seeking information about mental health processes and getting the correct diagnosis from a qualified professional is essential and fundamental for living a complete and happy life, and not just settling.

I’m 72,have had psychiatric help for 31 years.I’ve been treated for major depression,anxiety,and bipolar.I can never bring my brain back to focus.Walking really helps,but right now I have a few health issues.I souls love just one year of really liking myself.I’m now really isolated I feel not. Person in my life cares about me.

Thank you so much Covid made it all so much worse. Trying to get back to normal life is so hard for me. I feel like I am starting from scratch with this issue. Thank you for the encouragement and the comfort in knowing I am not alone and others have dealt with this. Comments from your subscribers are so helpful. God bless all.

I went through many years of trying to figure out what I was dealing with; bam! Once I treated my A.D.D. I no longer needed to focus on the other “diagnoses”… thanks for sharing this awareness!!!

Diagnosed with ADHD at 39. Anxiety anytime I have to start something. My dream is to start and finish things and live independently.

At 63 yrs old all of this fits me. I’m learning a new job, I thought I would never get all the steps. Meds are not for me, I will take your advice

Diagnosed this April at 64yo. Meds helped instantly. Unpacking the past, learning more strategies.

Oh Mel, thank you for this video. I am crying right now because I have been struggling all my life. In school I was teased for being "flaky." I am in my 60s and I am just done with struggling. I am going to my talk with my therapist and get tested. 💕

Great video! As a man with ADHD-I, this really lines up with my experience. That said, I just want to point out a few things: 1) Not a huge deal, but ADD is now considered an outdated term. What was once called ADD is now called ADHD-I, or ADHD Inattentive Type (as opposed to Hyperactive-Impulse Type or Combined Type). It's not the best name since we really have a dysregulated *surplus* of attention rather than a deficit, and those of us with Inattentive Type don't present with hyperactive symptoms... but apparently the H is still applied to us because our brains are considered internally hyperactive. 2) ADHD-I is frequently overlooked because it's the type more commonly diagnosed in girls, but it is not inherently gender specific. I wasn't diagnosed until my senior year of high school, and would have been diagnosed much sooner if I'd presented with hyperactive symptoms. And girls can have hyperactive or combined ADHD as well, not to mention those of us who don't fit into the gender binary.

Mel Robbins.Thank you for this. Thank you for being here. You are a real angel from heaven .None of us would have suffered without you. I have seen you suffered before but you managed to pull through all of those obstacles.I hope you continue to be happy along with youre wonder family.♡

I have been suspecting I may have an attention disorder and this video gave me the final sign I needed to go see a doctor. Thank you

Signs SHE has ADD = Daydreams a lot Hypercritical of self Loses train of thought often Withdraws Can't get through to-do list Loses things easily like keys, phone, leaves things on or open like cabinets or stove Undiagnosed ADD = feelings of unworthiness increase, you beat up on yourself more, develop anxiety, and depression b/c the struggle is turned inward. Solutions that might help: See a professional Consider medication Practices strategies that help you stay on task. (At least 20-30m Exercise is #1 b/c it changes your brain chemistry ) Major disclaimer: Just sharing what I heard, not a professional

@becomingshalece

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you🌻

@benlesher1442

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks My Dear. I'm Terry. All You Say is TRUE* Arigato

@benlesher1442

3 жыл бұрын

WOW! You 💞 know a lot. Thanks 😊

@yoishikakatshihe6402

3 жыл бұрын

You mean physical exercice ? ( I was thinking like à student lol - Seing it as 30 min of studying)

@skreczmer

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thanx for the recap

I realized I hadd ADD a few years ago. My son has had it since he was a little bitty fella (like we literally had to bolt furniture to walls so he wouldn't hurt himself) but his issues as a child were not anything like what I was and had always dealt with. When he became a young adult, the way it affected him started to change, it was more being unorganized, unable to manage time, forgetting things...and when he started telling me this stuff I was like, wait, I do that all the time...and he was like, "I know! You need to call Dr. Greenberg more than anyone!" So, I did. And I am so much better. Not perfect, but better.

I was diagnosed In first grade and involved in a long term ADHD study as a child. I was on the medication and it helped with school work but I hated it. Now as an adult i need the medication to survive but cannot get a doctor to prescribe me the medication. I even brought my mom with me to advocate for my issue and my doctor didn't care.

Thank you for sharing this! Middle age can be brutal for the female ADHD brain. Fluctuating hormones can steal what little focus you manage to cultivate. Women who have never thought of themselves as having ADHD may see it kick their butt at this point of their lives. Of course you should go to a professional, but do your research first. Write down your symptoms, then advocate for yourself and demand to be taken seriously. Medication can be a life changer.

Yep! I was 60 before I was diagnosed with a moderate to severe case of ADD. I went for the diagnosis because I could not figure out why it was so hard to finish my PhD dissertation! I did eventually finish but it was like pulling the rock of Gibraltar across the Atlantic Ocean. I like to think of myself as proof that you can accomplish big tasks, even with ADD, if you have the right strategies!

This is spot on. I got diagnosed at 26. It changed my whole life.

Wow! Perfect timing and spot on. Thank you. 🙏🏼

Great video, Mel! I had my “ah ha” moment when one of my kids was diagnosed at 6. So much of my childhood frustrations made sense after that. I’ve more recently discovered that menopause compounds ADD. Didn’t see that coming!

Thanks to YOU- at 54 I’m getting ADD evaluation !! Bless you dear woman xox :) You’ve helped me enormously

So timely Mel. My son..at 34 is being diagnosed soon.he has struggled with alcoholism as well ..and his dr believes had he been diagnosed years ago he may have had a better understanding of why he was feeling or behaving as he had..instead of sharing the struggles many treat their pain to cover their feelings...addictions begin..its so sad to see such a vibrant young man feel so defeated. Now he has some hope again not feeling so shameful and now knowing there is help for both his issues. Thank you Mel for sharing this today..true treasure for us.

@chinyeretunsill4818

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of children suffer low self esteem even knowing their diagnosis because although they may know the reasons for their behaviors, teachers and other adults still consider them a handful. And a lot of times they suffer socially

This is SO true. I'm also autistic. And having a proper diagnosis is so necessary.

Thank you for sharing this. When I was in first grade, I got sent to the principal's office for daydreaming. I just recently realized that I probably have ADD. I'm 63 now. Your information was priceless ❣️

Thank you for bringing this out! 💡

Omg!!! This is sooo me!!! Ugh! Thanks for sharing and shedding light.

Awesome messages. Thanks Mel 👏💕☘️🌈🥑 We deserve the best. Always have better solution for us 💕

Thanks! This is great! I totally relate to this!

Hi Mel! I am 34 years old and I was diagnosed with ADHD in January 2021. I want to personally thank you, it was through an episode of your TV show that I saw the signs come up on my TV and something clicked, I saw myself in all of the symptoms. It took me a while to sum of the courage to see a therapist and then be diagnosed, but I am so glad that I did it. Now “it” has a name, all the self loathing and the shame I’ve built up through the years makes so much sense. Thank you for opening up about your diagnosis and being to honest with us all of these years. I would love to see more ADHD / ADD type videos on how to deal with our daily lives. Love you Mel!

@chinyeretunsill4818

3 жыл бұрын

Additudemag.com has tons of info

Thank you so much for sharing this all important information. Especially differentiating between males and females.

Great video! Thank so much!

Thank you so much Mel, finally I found out my girl has ADD, and I need to stop yelling to her and find a way to fight against ADD together.

TYSM...now time for the workout and the mind work.

Cardio is the form of exercise that is most researched and therefore recommended but yoga is also very good because balance exercises are good for the cerebellum which is directly linked with adhd and therefore helps as well.

Mel, you changed my life when in another video you spoke about symptoms of females with adhd. I already discovered over 3 decades I grew up with a narcissist, I have cptsd, exhausted all medications related to depression and anxiety and the missing link to why I suffered in school and college was because of adhd. My life changed drastically for the better at work after getting help. I still need to test whether I can function in class and get through tests and papers which were like kryptonite

Thank you Mel for sharing. Lots of love from Silvana from Uruguay 🇺🇾

You're my Doctor... Love you Mel

This is very interesting and I can relate to a lot of these. Thank you Mel!

Thank you Mel ❤ Me too.

I discovered I had ADD in my 40’s as well… I even had all my report cards as a child so I got to read what my teacher’s said about me and it all made sense. When I take my meds for ADD … my anxiety and depression is alleviated. And I misplace at LEAST one item a day for sure! Probably more!

Nutrition- makes huge difference/ magnesium, omega's- nature path - pharmaceutical can have bad side effects..

Amen. Exactly me too. Thank you.

thank you for your sharing!! at first i thought i have depression and anxiety or stress but i think it doesn't really explained well. then i found out that i met the criteria for ADD and ASD, and already go to the psychologist for diagnosis. i have my life will be changing too. and i am 34 yo.

I completely identify with all of the symptoms, but NO ONE had ever explained this the way you just did. I've been told so many times, "that only happens to young boys" and ".. you're an adult, that's a children's issue". You have renewed my belief that maybe there's help for females over 50. (Or maybe "it's all in my head." 😉)

OMG! This is me 100%! Thank you, Mel!

✨thank you for sharing. 🐎

Thank you!

Yes! This is what I keep trying to tell my doctor. She wants me to take the anxiety and depression meds but I find they don’t do anything of value. My depression and anxiety is managed well with my life style. I want to be productive with all my ideas and make some progress that my soul has wanted for so long.

Thank you

I am watching this video on my phone whilst my work laptop sits open. My focus has gone. I knew I was ADD before I had heard of it. For years I thought I was “too easily bored” or “I am a starter not a finisher”. I laughed at myself yesterday when I noticed how many kitchen cabinet doors and drawers were left open after I made a simple meal. I did not know that was part of it.

❤️🎯🎯🎯 Brilliant. TYVM ! 🎯🎯🎯❤️

I got diagnosed age 21. A lot of things got so much more clear! But it wasn't up untill I got an office job with more responsibility and more complex tasks that I noticed complete differt aspects of ADHD.. like being overwhelmed, having anxiety, and fear of rejection, not knowing how to manage my time.. and sometimes just have major meltdowns..as I am getting older things really change.. a lot more internal than external... If it was just the high energy and the concentration part,what most people think.. I'd sign up immediately!

Exercise helps me with my anxiety, ADD and OCD. A whole foods diet also is a huge help and making sure we are not lacking in Vitamin B 1 Thiamine, Omega 3's, magnesium, potassium, vitamin D, B6 and B12.

Interestingly, I NEVER had any issue being still and quiet for hours on end. Now I cannot focus for even 30 seconds! It happened suddenly and was very noticeable and concerning. I knew immediately that something was wrong with my brain. I am a puzzle wizard! I used to time myself doing the typical puzzles in newspapers and I could do a standard crossword (not the large NY Times) in approximately 3-4 minutes. When this issue with the brain happened, it took me an average of 12-15 minutes to do the same puzzles. I couldn’t recall simple things like what you called a cup or a fork or simple things I’ve known my entire life! And I didn’t make the connection to what I suspect was the culprit until I saw a local news segment on flu vaccines and the nurse being interviewed said “if you don’t get the flu shot, at least get a Tetanus shot!” I was blown away by that comment! And immediately knew something was up! It was right after I had received a Tetanus shot that this all started and I did some research and found out that in 2012, the Tetanus was not available as a stand-alone shot, it now includes MMR, D-tap and Whooping, I believe! I have had several Tetanus shots over the years and never had any issue but this very noticeable side effect happened just after that shot. And the fact that you are being instructed to get that shot without any cause made the red flags go off for me! I still deal with the cognitive, ADD type issues but I have worked to regenerate other cognitive issues. I am able to focus on my artwork again at times but not to the extent that I had always done. I do believe there is a connection!

I love this video! What is the thing you try to do every day what the person you wanna become is doing?

Angel, thank you❤❤❤

OMG Mel, this describes me to a Tee (whatever that means. lol)! I'm going to talk with my doctor about it ASAP....thank you SO much for sharing! Love you!

Hey mel you helped me a lot and I'M just commenting to help you a LITTLE so I'll never stop commenting on every video you post just to support you like u support us😍😍😍😍😍😍

What about ARTS & CRAFTS, imperfect, creative expression to SLOW and relax, more? Yes, exercise helps, some. Why the RAT race? Why not the ART race? (ART-RAT, same letters)

Merci Mel. No more paralysis. ❤️

Wow thank you for this, someone very dear to me might… just might be suffering from this… and I always wondered why they cant do the simple tasks, time to go and seek professional opinion.

Keto and intermittent fasting helped me a lot. Also, I take B vitamins (like nutritional yeast) and a high quality fish oil. DHA and EPA are great for cognitive function.

Love you ma'am great content

OMG MEL i just find out why exercise make me wonders for me

Thankyou God i am having a great focus

Thank you!! This is me!

Thank you 🤎 for sharing yes

I'm 29 yo and I love you so much 😭❤️

Literally need to focus so bad but was distracted on my phone when this came in.

I wasn't diagnosed until age 45. The meds don't do much for me. I can see that it runs in the family, as well as anxiety and depression.

Exact story of my life. Went undiagnosed for 36 years. Was diagnosed with anxiety and depression first. Years later I was prompted to ask my doctor about ADHD. The diagnosis and treatment has changed my life. Anyone experiencing what Mel describes in this video owes it to themselves to ask their doctor about it. My family doctor wasn’t able to help but a psychiatrist did.

@jessicalt4121

3 жыл бұрын

What medication do you take, if you do?

@Thinlizzie83

3 жыл бұрын

@@jessicalt4121 I take Adderall XR. I’ve also found yoga, daily walking and listening to binaural beats (while working) to be helpful.

I totally have that!

I new i had it when in medical shool ,yet because we were studying from old books it mentioned that it was characteristics for males, and I had my doubts.

There is also talk about hormonally induced ADD occurring with menopause.

Oh my god. Thank you…😢 xxx.

Thank you thank you thank you soooooooooooo much😘😘😘😘😘

M, my kitchen always looked like that scene from Poltergeist with the cabinet doors open , but it was me. I always leave the lights on… the fridge door open. Love yoga, exercise and meditation… very good for me. But I’ve liked Mucuna Pruriens as a supplement better than the ADHD meds, eg Strattera. Like you I’m a lawyer and was diagnosed in my mid 40s. I was an A student and so no one understood what I was wrestling with..

Hi Mel, you're probably not gonna read this but,, i wanna say you will never know how much i love you. I'm a 19 year old girl and you helped me a lot to deaply love myself. Thank you❤

@melrobbins

3 жыл бұрын

You are incredible, don't forget that!

@anb.1053

3 жыл бұрын

@@melrobbins i will never😍😍😍

💋🕊 BEAUTIFUL TRUTH THANK YOU

ADD is the old term for the “inattentive” type of adhd. Overtime they realize that ADD was simply one of the types of ADHD and they put them under the ADHD umbrella. They are three types, hyperactive, “inattentive”, and combination. For those that don’t know just know that it’s never a lack of attention (like the inattentive type where the hyperactivity is not expressed as much outwardly), but too much in our minds that gives us a very hard time into focusing and following tasks.

I have it too! Found out later in life

From what I've read, even boys can show the non hyper version of ADD (day dreaming etc)

Please, what was the article you read that you are referring to?