"When you pray for strength, God doesn't bring you strength, God brings you the opportunities to be brave." Wow I needed to hear that, thank you Shallon! You're the best 🖤

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a painful thing to hear because it feels unfair. We think that the universe is supposed to bring us open doors and clear paths. Right? Isn’t that what we pray for? The removal of obstacles? But the obstacle IS the way- that’s actually a book you should read, it’s literally the title - and once you realize that, you stop looking for this easy drug like high from lice. And you understand that things put in front of you are opportunities to be better. Or not. It’s OK if you don’t take every opportunity. Just recognize them as such, and evaluate which way you want to go ❤️

Kourtney and Travis emotionally place me back in my best friends car at 15 when she was making out with her garbage boyfriend in front of all of us during what was supposed to be a girls night.

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Oh. MY GOD. Why is it that we have all had this exact same experience: watching our best friend make out with Travis Barker or Andy Kratz or Tanner Toby or whatever garbage raccoon of a guy it was. And we’re just sitting there feeling hideous and unlovable but also morally superior?? It’s just too many emotions to comprehend at once.

@michellete8545

3 жыл бұрын

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She must be a very beautiful person to help support him healing from ptsd. They must create safe spaces for each other. She may be more understanding because she dealt with being the odd one out with her sisters. She seems more down to earth than superficial.

@catseatcookiessofiagacha5210

3 жыл бұрын

Eeehhhhh not seeing this. She's a really bad big sister and kind of cruel.

@ashleyartsco

3 жыл бұрын

@@catseatcookiessofiagacha5210 Agree to disagree, I go off the episodes where I see her being gaslit, being talked to like she's less than, or ganged up on

I was wondering when Travis would go on a plane again! How sweet. Travis's personal assistant died on that plane, imagine the horror and the guilt he would have felt.

@wurlycurlygirly

3 жыл бұрын

@@PrincessDie187 I swear, you have the SWEETEST character. Don't ever doubt it honey! ♥️

@PrincessDie187

3 жыл бұрын

@@wurlycurlygirly thank you precious!

This video came at the perfect time for me! I need to tell my manager that I’m putting in my two weeks notice to move on to a better opportunity that aligns more with my passion and my college degree. I am super afraid of confrontation and letting people down. This has helped me so much. Love ya Shallon ❤️❤️

@sydasipah4170

3 жыл бұрын

You got this, go after your dreams!

@msnatalielynn

3 жыл бұрын

@@sydasipah4170 Thank you so much! That really means a lot 🥲❤️

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t think of it as confrontation! Think of it as a natural rhythm of the working relationship. I have hired a lot of people, and I expect them all to quit sooner or later. It’s just how it goes. We as women are born to bond, and we assume those bonds are going to last forever - friendship, family, love etc. But at work, we should assume the opposite. We are here for a season, and then we move on. We gain our knowledge, and then we ascend. It’s not emotional. It’s analytical. Look at it from that point of you, and take any sort of emotion out of it.

@msnatalielynn

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester thanks Shallon! 💕Your videos have helped me gain so much confidence and security in myself! I owe you so much. Keep shining girlfriend! ✨💕

This is like a therapy session, a heart to heart with a best friend, sister or the cool aunt. When I'm feeling weak Shallon is the confident logical voice of reason that helps me get through the tough things I thought I couldn't do. Thank you Shallon

Shallon, this is why we love you. I appreciate you being vulnerable about fears that we all feel

Woah! Three videos in one day?! You go shallon!

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Manic!! 🤣 I have been absent from your life’s for too long, the bitch is back!

What you said about using science to fuel and justify feelings, while dialing down others ✨ Totally get that as that’s how I process.

Such a great topic. Started a new job and a new career and I cannot but feel the weight of constant catastrophizing. “What happens if I suck at this?” “What happens if I get fired?” “Everyone is judging me..” “Everyone hates me..” Now I’m like “Fuck it. I got my foot in the door, money in the bank…time to put in the work and whatever will be will be. I. GOT. THIS.”

I love this topic. This is what makes you different from all these wellbeing gurus: being vulnerable is human. We cannot always be positive and happy all the time!! Sometimes life is rough! Limove from 🇫🇷

“I don’t wanna do another tour of duty, I’m tired” - I feel that

Shallon, girl what happened to your summer of rest!? Damn 😂

Women are so HEALING, they just need the right environment and support to work their natural gifts!

Deep water terrifies me too. Also thinking about if I were ever lost in outer space. Just "the vast unknown" I guess. Yikes 😬

Side note at minute 21 when Shallon when you pause to say 'do I have kale in my teeth/ this is my summer of slacking', girl you literally glow. You provide me with endless gospel wisdom and you look amazing while doing so

I always tell people on planes who are afraid of flying about the statistics and they're never comforted and that's so weird to me! I'm always comforted by statistics.

shallon you’re back and BETTER. you are glowing inside and out 🤍🤍✨✨

I used one of Shallon's quotes in a conversation with a guy I like and he LOVED IT. Should I consider it a green flag? 😂😂🤣 LOVE YOU SHALLON ♥️♥️😍

Love the artwork behind Shallon! It's fabulous!

I'm like a stalker at this point but you killed it again, maybe my top five most entertaining videos you ever made 🔥🔥🔥🔥

I was actually thinking, “Shallon’s hair looks so cute”, right when the video started 🤷🏽‍♀️😘💗

Commenting for the algorithm ❤️

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Lol thank you!

I don’t think it was something that Kohrtney SAID. Fear is mostly irrational (although less so in Travis’ case) - so logic is generally not what makes you overcome it. I’m sure it’s how she made him FEEL that put him in a comfortable place enough to try facing his fear.

Anyone would be lucky to have a shot with such a talented and smart woman like yourself!

Yayyy! I'm sick in bed and I have so much Shallon content to watch! THANK YOUUUUUU🥺🥺🥺

@toniatonic1973

3 жыл бұрын

Hej there, hope you get better soon!Sending love and positivity your way! 💖

@CarolineRoseAU

3 жыл бұрын

@@toniatonic1973 thank you so much Tonia, you are so sweet! I have awful nerve pain so can't wait to get better!!! 🙏🏻🙌🏻💕

The pressure fact about the airplane crash and how everyone would be unconscious is just another reason why I love Shallon. Thank you for that 🙏 xx

My biggest dream is to travel alone but the fear of being kidnapped terrifies me as will as silly as it may sound

You frigging ROOOOCKKK! I Soooooo needed this!! Ughhh a break from life for a min to chat🤣🤣🤣🧘🏼‍♀️🤘🏼❤

This is why Kourtney is more likeable to me. She's to the point, and tolerates no bullshit. She must've told him okay you be here where you feel safe but I love travel, and I'm going.

I’m really scared of flying and have to fly soon internationally and this really helped me. Thank you!

I feel you, I so want to go back out there. My mind, body and soul is on part but guys in my area suck smh.

I always look forward to your uploads, thank you Shallon 🥰

I’m really happy that put a video everyday. At some point I thought you’re not coming back!

🏈 PASS IT TO BRITNEY, PASS IT TO CAITLYN!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Summer ending and winter and being stuck inside and possibly locked the heck back up with pimple causing masks can be super stressful...however people try to relax and meditate.. we will surpass whatever coming next.. lol but I promise grill cheese sandwiches were involved here... just sayin lol 🧘🏼‍♀️

I was scrolling through my sub box and because of the video title, for a sec I thought you were going to talk about Travis Scott and Kourtney getting together. I was like, is this is one weird piece of entertainment news that I haven't caught up to yet? 😂😂

Was missing your videos so much. THANK YOU THANK YOU for all these vids!

Do I smell a 1 Million Sub plaque in your back pocket or what?!?!? 🔥🦄🙌🏼💅🏻

YES! I was waiting for this one!

Wow. This really resonated and truly what I needed to hear. Thank you Shallon, as always your videos are so powerful.

I worked on my thesis,now I'm eating pizza and watching shallon... Life is good 🍕🙏😊

"I just think you should focus on positivity...and bone broth." Dying!!! Lolololol. I'm not thinking as much about what she said as what she did. ;)

Your sweater color looks so good on you. ✨💕 this was a good video

I think she told him that she’s in a time of her life where she’s done with work and she’s going to travel and she was hoping that he would be her travel buddy.

You deserve 1M followers

Shallon, you are so tough. I would be freaking out of I was on a plane and the pilot said that! I was in a car accident 3 years ago it was late at night. I recovered but every since then I have had this feeling of doom, always over me. I don't go out late at night, I try not getting to close to people because I am too scared to go out at night. I do have some hobbies but nothing pass 8pm. When I know something is going to be pass 9pm and go way into the night I can't do it, and it makes me feel so lame sometimes when my boyfriend asks me to go out to a concert and I say no cause it goes tell midnight. Despite all that thou my life is great. I like my job, I got back behind a car, I am pursuing dancing again, I have more money then I ever thought I would have at this age, I no longer drinking all the time. I am grateful, I just can't get pass going out at night.

My absolute favorite youtuber. Needed u and this video extra hard today. 🙏🏼🙏🏼 you’re amazing !!

Yes, it's fatigue...and I needed to hear someone else say it to know I'm not the only one. I'm jealous but happy for them but I'm tired and I've worked so hard for all I have. I need someone that wants to find me and pat my head as I wind down. Kourtney probably told him that she'd be happy loving the idea of going places with him because she just loves him and not traveling isn't going to stop that love. I told a guy something he really needed to hear about him getting closer to another, whether it be me or another girl. He knew at that moment he wanted to get closer to me. I told him exactly what he had been feeling and that's it. I'm sure people in Travis' life has either told him to get over it or they just gave up talking about it like it doesn't exist.

"you can't force an avocado to ripen" Also applies to child development...im using this

your pilot impression gets me everytime lmao

Great video! This really helped me put some things into perspective. Thank you.

Omg, me toooooo…. I hate water that I can’t see below the surface. When I was a kid I would have nightmares (still do every now and then today) about being stuck under the water. Makes my skin crawl.

I get he says he hasn’t flown since 2008 but he played reading festival in 2010 in the uk? Did he take a boat? Train? I don’t get it?! Xxx

The right guy makes any bitchy woman so soft and warm, we’ve been so used to the wrong guys making us bitchy✨

They have been friends for years! Travis and Kourtney

Thanks for the pep talk !!! Love your humor and shmartz !!! I do need to get in my own drivers seat ...

She probably didnt gave him a ted talk, but he wanted to travel with her enough to be brave and just do it. Or maybe she told him they would die together haha 🤷🏼‍♀️

All my life I've been very tolerant with others , but the second I'd make a mistake I'd start beating myself up sooooo much .forgiving yourself and self love make the biggest difference in life

I HATE Snapchat! It is the ultimate fuckboi app. I refuse to use it when chatting with a guy, and most of the time let it go with guys when they suggest it as a form of chatting. Major red flag!

I needed to hear this today!

Tiotally unrelated but I saw a commercial for the Olive Garden and they're using Selena Gomez's song ''Come and get it'' lmao !!!

Regarding exposure therapy for fear of flying, there are companies and airlines that have courses to help. Amongst a whole heap of strategies, they involve getting on an airplane that isn’t going anywhere, just to familiarise with.. exposure.

Soo true about pilots and their extended vocal fry 🤣

Wow I think u as an adult who loves to travel comes from u basically growing up on a plane ! How cool!

Shallon you look gorgeous! ❤️

Yessss, Shallon! SPEAK 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

Loved this video too much!!! Merci beaucoup Shallon

Thank you Shallon, you are wonderful and I love you!🙏✨✨✨

Shallon is on fire 🔥

Good video💙 and yeah, it’s currently planes 😅 this was really helpful to me thanks

You go girll!!!

Envision the cheerleaders! Aaah this is great advice 😍

The pilots voice ahaha I’m dedddd

Can u make a video on girls who have trouble staying single? I have a friend who literally can’t be single for a day. Every time she’s getting over her boyfriend, she starts talking to someone new before breaking up with them. I tried telling her to take some time off boys but of course she didn’t listen. She broke up with her last boyfriend like 2 months ago and already seems super serious with some guy from tinder. So if you could make a video on girls that are like that and how to help them. Thanks!!

Awesome show, today!

I don't really know much about the pair of them so I'm not really in a position to judge but just going off the little I do know I don't see it lasting. I could be totally wrong though and I hope it does work out because I love a good love story but I just don't think it will. Travis gives off psychopath vibes with his flat affect and dead eye's. Ted Bundy had more twinkle in his eyes than this guy. Also When a middle aged man who's been around the block a few times is behaving like a teenager with their first crush it's probably at least a sign theres some emotional immaturity there..I think the higher a psychopath or a narcissist puts you on that pedestal the harder you fall...Kourtney is being idealised but if Travis does have a personality disorder that will change....Right now Travis is focused on the reward but when he feels he has her or when he gets bored of trying or disillusioned she will be devalued and very likely discarded although they may go through a few cycles of idealisation and devaluation before the final discard..I think Kourtney is just as toxic in her own right and also relates to the idea of the other person rather than the actual person but she is more of a borderline narcissist. I've noticed from what I've seen of her in the odd clips of the show I've watched on youtube it seems she always feels like shes the victim (even when she's not really being victimised) and doesnt take responsibilty and accountability for her part in anything or her own thoughts and feelings and actions. I think she projects a lot of her uncomftable and threatening feelings onto her enviroment and onto other people and percieves these feelings as coming from an external source. This is one of the hallmarks of pathological narcissism because they are so disconnected from their feelings they often percieve them as coming from or being caused by something outside themselves rather than realising its coming from within. Feelings are facts to narcissists and they fit the facts to their feelings rather than fitting their feelings to the facts. Like I said I could be totally wrong because I'm basing my opinion on very little but if they do have these issues It will be a toxic relationship. It wont be love but possesion because pathological narcissists arent capable of truly loving another person. They just arent built that way. Narcissists only have feelings for themselves and in the idealsation phase they are in love with the with the reflection of themselves the new partner is showing them. This mirroring is the other persons primary role in a relationship with a narcissist. This is the sum of their experience with love because they don't see the other person as a separate person because they are unable to separate the self from external sources. When the reflection changes and no longer quite so positive their supposed "love" evaporates. Psychopaths of course have no feelings for themselves or anyone else it's the thrill of the chase and conquest and a shiny new toy. On another note though if they are looking for true happiness it won't come from the other person. Happiness is not something you find. Happiness is something you create by being open to it and breaking negative thinking patterns. True happiness comes from within, from self-love and self-worth. It's safe to say that in that area at least, narcissists are barren and empty which is why they can never be truly happy only superficially which never lasts . . Other people cannot heal you They cannot fix you. They cannot save you. They cannot complete you. You have to do these things for yourself.

I needed this! Thank you! 🥰😘

Omg another new video 🤩🙏

Maybe it's not about what she said, maybe it's about her presence! We've seen how she changed since she's with him, I think there's a new side of her that shined through since she's dating him and the end of KUWTK

love this episode

I have the same fear as you Shallon, the bugs... Yeah... nope, and snakes, remember that tv show "Surviver" where people lay in bed of snakes for money.. screw the 💸 😄 I feel that if we face some logistical fears, it can bring us some very deep emotional ones, like having nightmares every night... Who knows, I definitely will not know about that 😁

Love you so much!

You are flawless🥰

ahahah I'm low key jealous too because I'm single....Shallon, I wish we were friends in real life.

That sweatshirt is so cute on u

First 💕💕

Good 🐱, confidence, self worth will work wonders on a man 🤣

Hanging with MGK... HmmMmm? .I wonder what it was , could it be drugs.. OPPS I means grill cheese 🥪🧀🥪 sandwiches?? Mgk , Megan Fox, Kourtney and grilled cheese sandwiches!! Violia! Your CURED!! 🥳 🥪🧀 🥪🤔🙄🙄🙄

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The guys love kourtneys lifestyle

Urggggh the way guys are when they are all healed up the go find another girl. Oof.