This video was the warmest hug I have ever received

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Aw... We're glad you are here! :) Nika@TeamFairy

@Ashoka9386

4 күн бұрын

Yeah so beautiful I'm crying right now ❤

Feeling rejected and always wearing a mask to potray myself as attractive and loveable is beyond exhausting

@andziagreen4922

12 күн бұрын

I absolutelly feel you 😔🤗 my acting to look perfect, sociable, lovable, positive is extremely draining and still didn't figure out on how to change it even tho I am doing shadow work, working on my cptsd, affirmations etc. I am scared to go out and repeat my old painfull patterns so I isolate until I will learn on how to talk to people to discern if that particular person is wishing me well or wants to use me.

@Florinazeraven

8 күн бұрын

And because you always keep a mask to make yourself loveable and attractive you feel rejected. The message you send to your subconscious mind is that you have to do it. That if you don't wear it you're not loveable. It's like a circle. But it's okay, I do that too.

@jarayshaw9928

7 күн бұрын

I feel you 💯

"real love is not a transaction".... let that sink in.

@Qwerzxcv954

12 күн бұрын

No

@jaimemetcher388

11 күн бұрын

Maybe not, but a relationship is a whole series of transactions.

I long for an authentic love, someone to share the rest of my life with, to understand, forgive, laugh, fix and enjoy our moments together. I want the kind of love that heals me and makes room for my growth, one that is kind and supportive. I take this as proof that I am not living in fantasy land somewhere. That my longing is valid❤

@tiarraknox2871

14 күн бұрын

I love this and feel the same. It really is nice to know that I'm not the only one with these feelings

@fatherburning358

13 күн бұрын

Same. That would just be living wouldn't it. Actually fully engaged in deep, meaningful communication with another open and understanding human being. Authentic not like a movie. Challenging and supportive. I wish. 🤦

@Aleecya4433

13 күн бұрын

I claim this for all of us ❤🙏🏽

@deathuponusalll

13 күн бұрын

THIS, everything you said Im nodding in agreement 😔 as a man it feels sometimes like truly desiring this or even having hope for it is a foolish endeavor and that we men shouldn’t yearn for such things and sometimes I do think that this love you speak of is non existent but then I look inward and know I exist and I have love and so it DOES exist and can find a partner just like me and then I get discouraged, abandonment trauma and fear is such a cruel mistress …makes it hard to even get close to someone like this 😮‍💨😔

@hannamariajonsdottir1088

12 күн бұрын

I have this from him but dont feel it myself yet..

Beware: If you come from a cold family, sex can feel like love

@JuliaW888

13 күн бұрын

💝💝💝

@pettylabelle_

12 күн бұрын

Yup!

@andziagreen4922

12 күн бұрын

True

@gorunsko31

10 күн бұрын

Bingo!

@ajh3301

9 күн бұрын

Yes. A trap I have fallen into.

I wish everyone gets the love they deserve ❤

@corinneyaworski-mh9uc

13 күн бұрын

Amen!!❤

I’m 83! I just said goodbye to the greatest love of my life…a precious black & white angel with fur named Bindi. 🐈‍⬛ 18 years…I learned so much from him, not the least of which was unconditional love. His presence gave me such joy, and the grief of not having his physical presence is intense. 11 days without him…I’m still in shock. I never had authentic love with a human, although I was married and had children. I was in pain my entire life, living from fear, having no clue what was really going on. Years of therapy plus my own training as a psychologist never addressed CPTSD, so I bumbled along as best I could, feeling a misfit in this life. So now at 83, with children and grandchildren absent from my life, I don’t have thoughts of a great love. I am basically at peace, but there is the underlying fear of ‘what will become of me?’ And now, without the daily exchange of love and soul connection with my kitty, I go day by day…dreams don’t seem relevant for this lifetime. I appreciate all you offer. I wish I’d had this information decades ago.

@Lexi_Con

13 күн бұрын

So sorry for your loss! The love & companionship from our fur babies is so special. I had 2 cats (adopted together) & the last one passed in 2018. I'm single/never married with no kids which made the loss tougher, imho. The grief & loneliness is real but gets easier over time. Stay busy doing things you love & get connected with friends as much as possible. ❤🐾 Btw, I relate to the relationship part, as well. I knew true love & was engaged once, but health & other issues interrupted so we went separate ways. I'm grateful for the experience bc I've never had the same feeling with anyone else. The relationship I'm in now (decade, on & off) has me torn about looking for more.

@dianeatpeace337

13 күн бұрын

S9 sorry for your loss. I'm keeping you & Bindi in my heart 💖 When you are ready, I encourage you to look into adopting a senior pet from a shelter or rescue group near you. You have more love to give and I'm confident Bindi's energy will put a new furry friend in your path. There are many many animals able to just waiting for the love of a good person -- and you sound like a lovely person. Know a stranger out on the Internet is sending condolences, love & encouragement your way.

@lovelysybarite3009

13 күн бұрын

🤗

@suegibbons858

13 күн бұрын

I resonate with almost everything you said Bonnie. I'm so sorry you're going through this ❤xx

@fibi8346

13 күн бұрын

I truly understand this. There really is no greater love than the bond you share with an animal. I am so sorry for your pain. There are so many animals out there who would be so blessed to be adopted by you, when you are ready I really hope you gift your love again.

This brought me to tears -- it's so hard to keep struggling -- at times things that I'm striving for, working so hard for, just seem to disappear when I get close, they're out of reach by just inches. It seems, at times, it's time to throw in the towel -- that I'll never find that special love. But I'm also stubborn, and somehow I pick up the torch again. Sometimes I feel like I'm playing a game, but I haven't been shown all the rules or haven't been given all the tools to make it right, and it's so frustrating.

@charcoalandlight1990

13 күн бұрын

I agree with this 100%. Same for me.

@GatoCarbonico

13 күн бұрын

Lovers are not quitters ♥️

@sophiacromwell8017

13 күн бұрын

Yes…

@sarahdawson975

13 күн бұрын

This resonates so much. I don't know the basics that everyone I know seems to have learned back in high school. Very challenging to be trying to learn in middle age.

@soundtravels4348

7 күн бұрын

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, I feel hopeless, and yet I put my heart out there time and time again because I would rather get hurt than close myself off from love. Fortunately, I have so much love in my life to tide me over, friends, strangers, love for myself and love for the life I've been given. Don't give up! I'm rooting for you ❤

This desire is where Limerence comes from. When reality is bleak fantasy is safe. I hide in my fantasy because it’s comforting. Real world relationships are not as safe as people lie cheat use and abuse people. Not just romantic ones includes family and friends. It’s a really sad cycle not having healthy relationships and makes you want to give up on life

@nikkireigns

13 күн бұрын

❤

I've been meaning to write for awhile; so much has happened since I started listening to your videos, Anna. In September of last year, I cut the cords with my disfunctional sisters, and about that time I started the daily practice. My husband did, too. Your videos were instrumental to our efforts at healing. One of your first videos said that if we wanted to heal completely, we had to clean up the things we aren't proud of - tax issues, addictions, legal problems, among other things. I was despondant because I had some of those things going on, but we kept writing all the same. I desparately wanted to heal. Right away I quit drinking (surprisingly easy), I called a tax specialist, and I got information on how to stop smoking pot once and for all (not easy). In another video, you mentioned a study involving writing on one specific traumatic event for thirty minutes. That put me on the search, and I found the study and more about it. The upshot is that I found WET, a five session 30 minute Written Exposure Therapy for PTSD patients. If it hadn't been for you, I would never have known to go looking for what is currently one of the first line treatments the VA is using to treat PTSD. Two weeks ago, I found a little place to go to quit using pot, and while I was there, I did the five writing sessions over five days for WET. It works. I will never stop the daily practice morning and evening because it is that that got me on the road to recovery. I remember your video on what happens if you think you're cured and stop writing. While it's true that my brain was wounded and that cannot be changed, the depths of the scars can be reduced by writing, bypassing the spoken word that can stimulate me to suffer again. My most fervent hope is that I will feel the love that I know is there for my husband, who is a great guy who loves me, but who also has CPTSD. I am beginning to feel tendrils of genuine emotions and real pleasure from his kiss. I cannot thank you enough for all that you bring to us poor little kids who got a bad deal in childhood. I'm seventy this month, and I hope this will be my best year yet, and more to come. Thanks so very much.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

14 күн бұрын

What a victory! Thank you for sharing this with us! It gives hope to everyone. Good work!

@Lexi_Con

13 күн бұрын

So happy for you, Thanks for sharing! I have a friend with PTSD (from the horrors of war) whom I'd like to share this with. He self medicates which causes more issues & has yet to find success with any VA rehab. I will tell him to ask about WET therapy. ~Blessings on your continued progress! ❤

@fatherburning358

13 күн бұрын

So great to hear you have someone to share your journey with. To hug and kiss and take comfort with and also go through this challenge with. Bravo to you both 💪👍

@bindishathapa8735

10 күн бұрын

Reading this felt so profound to me

@TheBalloonBob

9 күн бұрын

That was so inspiring, thank you for writing.

The fact that it's real and that I'll never have the opportunity to get it is pretty painful to think about

@Gunngirl

10 күн бұрын

I feel the same. I feel like I’m forever doomed to watch and listen to others love stories but never one of my own. That’s hard to live with for sure.

@Noodlebadger

10 күн бұрын

You will have the opportunity 😊

@TheSuperswan21

7 күн бұрын

@@Gunngirl may you experience it and I have feeling that you will ❤❤

@raymondmasullo3386

6 күн бұрын

Same here. I just try to keep myself busy so I'm not thinking about it.

I have so much love to give, but no one wants it. It's hard not to be loved

@lavonekuhse

11 күн бұрын

This video is great, but as in so many there is one thing missing, god. Without God we are nothing, he is our creator and our father and mother. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. God bless you

@Fnolaco

6 күн бұрын

O mais difícil é quando a gente acredita nisso

@Ashoka9386

4 күн бұрын

I hope you will find that person ❤

I don’t want to be loved again bec love seems to have an agenda: I’d rather be respected & appreciated.

@DanielKoch-kw6fw

5 күн бұрын

❤❤❤ hey Tracy 🌹

Twin flame hope is another way we escape. The promise of reunion keeps us from sitting in those darker, harder feelings.

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

@Patricia-Terry

13 күн бұрын

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

@ElenaL.Stewart

13 күн бұрын

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Mary Theresa Gavin .

@ElenaL.Stewart

13 күн бұрын

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

@ElenaL.Stewart

13 күн бұрын

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.❤

@Alda_Lineberger

13 күн бұрын

God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️

I am now 54, when I was a teenager I was so desperate for love, and as no boy was interested in me, I sent myself a love letter. To tell myself what no one else was telling me and to make my parents believe that a boy loved me. It was the beginning of a long period of great despair in my relationships. I suffered a lot from a pattern of limerance Fortunately, thanks to your videos, I've been able to understand what I was suffering from and I'm starting to move away from this pattern. You are a great help, thank you very much for that

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Glad you find Anna's videos helpful. We're here to support you! Nika@TeamFairy

When I hear you speak, it's like listening to the loving advice of a mum. Thank you. I feel Christ in you! Thank you! Thank you for keeping it real and loving and gentle :') You mean a lot to me.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

14 күн бұрын

Thank you.

When love is absent, it allows the shadow to be in control. Dickens fable a Christmas carol speaks of this.

I found my wife after my girlfriend passed away. Long 6 horrific months watching her die in the same hospital i worked in. I let myself open up and it was the best decision. She’s been having dreams of my girlfriend since we started dating. She tells my wife to lookout for me, that she’s so happy that I’m happy, and she’s surprised all of her things i kept 😅 i finally am smiling and living after 10 long years of depression anxiety loss abuse living in my head disassociation etc. keep going.

So true. Im 50 years old, divorced and swore off women 10 years ago.....but now that all i have is work and nothing else in terms of a private life...i feel that need

I have never experienced no strings love. I thought I would eventually find that special person but I've given up now. I don't think I would even recognise Love if it came up and smacked me in the face!

You crave it because you’re made for it 🥹❤️

Amazing timing, It’s 12:57 am here where I am currently living . I fell asleep about an hour ago contemplating how the great love I want, is just a fantasy. I just woke up and see this is first on my list of recommendations.

Well, that explains why every time I hear that Steve Winwood song “Higher Love”, my heart hurts.

@catherinekeller4230

13 күн бұрын

I have always loved that song also...wishing you 🔥🔥Love x

@lauramonteiro702

13 күн бұрын

I love this song so much that a few months ago, I customized a necklace and I have the following lyrics from the song (bridge 2) inscribed, “I could light the night up with my soul on fire I could make the sun shine from pure desire Let me feel that love come over me Let me feel how strong it could be…” I hear it very synchronistically when I need the reminder “it will happen someday!” 🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤✨✨

@tatiana7225

11 күн бұрын

I love this song and literally listened to it today after a long time

@nataliaj24

7 күн бұрын

Wishing u love! One of my fav songs! It bellows from the depths of my pain when I sing along. My fav is Whitney Houston’s cover.

The love of my life took his own within the last week. I'm shattered. He was adopted at birth, and his adopted father was a Vietnam vet with a harsh disciplinarian way of being. It was incredibly difficult for my sweet, loving ex to allow people to love him back.. and we struggled in our relationship regularly because of this dynamic. I never understood why he had this barrier up to love. It breaks me that he's now gone. He deserved a lot better from everyone around him, including big pharma and his repetitive therapist.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

7 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. We're all sending you support :) -Calista@TeamFairy

I am worthy of great conscious healthy passionate Love. So excited. Thank you. ❤🙌🏼♥️🙏

60 years. 2 failed marriages. Many other unhealthy, hurtful, or abusive romantic relationships. Co-dependency. Not even 1 healthy relationship, not 1! I am SO fortunate to have much love in my life with friends and family, but not sure I trust myself to seek romance again. Thank you, dear Fairy, for all you do.❤

I did have a great love a long time ago, but he was taken away by an aggressive cancer. My heart was broken. I am not certain whether it is possible to be loved like that again. But that is what I want. I will work on my healing & collude with God my higher power to find another great love.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Sometimes we want to feel exactly the same towards another person, but everyone is different, so this feeling can be a bit different too. However, this does not mean that the feeling is not deep and genuine. Hope you find fulfilling love! Nika@TeamFairy

right now, i live alone and am thankful beyond words. i have peace, i have joy. i love me. i am happy. i love my life. i don't crave a spouse, so apparently i don't need one. i don't crave love, so apparently i don't need it. i love my friends, but i do feel disconnected from them to some extent--detached. and i think that's ok, too--at least for right now.

I divorced 4 & 1/2 years ago and I am 52 now. I’ve been very selective and holding out for the real thing. I had a couple of brief relationships last year and quickly bailed out when I could see they weren’t “the one”. I am even more cautious and guarded now. I’m not looking but I’m waiting and hold a glimmer of hope she might come along. However, I’m working on being truly happy and healed while I’m single and accepting the possibility it may never happen.

@zacky7572

12 күн бұрын

Yeah, the answer seems to be letting go of love, for me. I got divorced a couple years ago, too. I’m not even getting the opportunities to let any love in at all, much less something real. The Childhood Fairy seems to be mostly talking to other women when she speaks about romance. Women have more dating options than ever right now, and it’s sort of become the opposite for men, to the point that it feels like this advice is almost exclusively meant for women. The odds on online dating strongly favor women, and I need to avoid it anyway, since social media is very unhealthy for me. Between that and the loss of third places in our post-COVID culture, it seems like bracing for solitude will be more meaningful for me than preparing for potential love. I get that I’m made for love, and I should try to heal so that I can take advantage of any possible opportunities, but I’m made for a lot of things that our culture does not allow opportunities for. I’m made to eat healthy food, to live amongst nature, and to be treated with dignity by society, but our late-stage capitalism denies these needs. Romance seems to be another one of those pipe dreams now. I’ve had to let go of the dream of finishing my college degree, of owning a home, and of publishing a novel. I get that there is still time to do those things…but they won’t happen. For the context of my life, these dreams are too impractical to place any sort of hope or expectation in. If they happen, that’s great, but I could say the same about winning the lottery. Should I let go of my impractical dreams for romantic love just as I have the others?

@taleandclawrock2606

11 күн бұрын

​@@zacky7572 Chase from The Behaviour Panel has his own channel in which he gives amazing, helpful knowledge. He said something which struck me deeply, about backing your future you, not betraying that you in the future, who is going to look back, and say either, ' all those times it felt a bit easier to avoid that effort to change, study, strive, work, commit, left me with nothing😢!' Or, ' you made that consistent effort towards your goals, you dared that fear, you worked through that pain, you gave up some of those short term pleasures to commit to me, im better off now, I'm proud of you, you're my hero overcoming!" ❤❤❤

I completely feel this. I had this recently with the best woman I've had in my life. But my fears of failure cause me to tell silly lies. I've broken her heart and trust. Now, in therapy, to learn to stop the lies. The guilt overwhelms me. I want her to benefit from it as she deserves it. I can't believe I can hurt someone so kind, caring, and unforgiving as she is. She deserves so much better.

@MiciousDawn

13 күн бұрын

I realized the more you feel guilty about past behavior, the more you're actually growing. The mastery comes when you can hold that view of how wrong it was while forgiving yourself, so that you can reap the benefits in your next relationship. You probably learned to lie as a way to protect yourself at some point, but now you don't need that tool anymore. Sorry you had such a loss from your trauma, I can relate. But I bet your next big love will be even better :)

But mine was. Unrealistic expectations, fueled by images the media gives us of what it should be. Not taking responsibility for my own trauma reactions, and ignoring his side of pain. Prayer has been the key that has brought us closer and closer to eachother. To gain someone's true trust doesn't happen overnight, it's a process. And love is not a feeling, it's a choice.

At 38, diagnosed with CPTSD, at least now I understand its not some curse that keeps me unhappy. Recently learning to regulate emotions, it feels like being in control for once.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Yes! We're all rooting for you! Nika@TeamFairy

@Rikapaprika

11 күн бұрын

You worded it really well - it indeed feels like a curse. For my whole life I thought that I'm 'cursed' in some way and I'll never break free. It was such a relief to learn about cptsd.

Your insights are so valuable. I've pushed away real love in the past because I didn't feel inside I was worthy of love, being so unhealed. Your videos have opened up my mind to a new way of thinking ♥️

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Glad Anna's videos are mind opening for you! Thank you for taking the time to comment, and good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy

"That its real and its pointing the way towards home." Wooooooooow 😢❤ Please if you might possibly look at getting a ko-fi account so once available funds are there we can send gratitude donations for all your courage and determination to be where your calling was bringing you. I know this is real and I am so grateful for this beautiful world of infinite love, hiding in the ocean of fear and pain.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

14 күн бұрын

No donations needed. But if it's valuable to you, you can take my courses or join my membership. Thanks for you kind comment. And yes, that last line gets me too -- almost lost it while saying it!

Oh this is SO true … I’m completely alone in the world as my family members are like aliens to me … I’ve had to remove myself from my mother’s side of my family because she is so toxic for me … & I attempted to develop a relationship with my father and his side of the family … but they didn’t want to know either. So it’s just me & my dogs. I don’t miss any of them. But I do miss my husband, who left me … I miss the relationship we had for so many years … & I wouldn’t have him back for anything but I miss the love we had for over 20 years because I know how wonderful that feels every day & I want that in my life! Someone who loves me no matter what! Who I’m so happy to see every morning. I know love at first sight actually exists. But we all grow older & things change or we realise things have become different, we must take care of ourselves & not accept the ‘crapfit’ 😊 Maybe I should start wishing it & see who might be out there for me? Thankyou 💖💖💖

I am in love for the first time since really working on my cptsd. Was just telling him, who is also in love, that I am so scared.... I have nightmares and feel a wall around me everytime we get closer. I think it is really not him. He is a good man, I think. That this could be real love. So I am trying to accept the fear and to stay calm, doing my daily practices. The timing of this video is perfect, thank you. Now I know that it is OK to feel this fear.

After 2 toxic relationships of 30 years, on top of childhood trauma I am broken. A new partner has shown up and I doubt his intentions but he's giving out nothing but green flags as I continue to trust him little by little. He is 17 years older than me and I've taken the approach that if I only have him the length of a dog's life, knowing what it really means to be loved, then I'll take it for my daughter and I. Hopefully we get more but the thought both terrifies and gives hope

@rabiashakoor1766

8 күн бұрын

Don’t settle for a much older man just because he is love bombing you. I hesitate to say this but as someone with a daughter, I would be even more careful. There’s horror stories coming out in the news all the time.

Thank you for this, I have felt this way, I needed this. I am 34 and never had a relationship partially because I am shy, insecure and maybe scared of love, it is important to create neww patterns but not easy

The person I'm in a fantasy relationship with in my head broke it off with me two weeks ago because I was asking weird around them. I wanted to contact them so badly just now, but I saw your video and watched it instead. I realized I'm feeling emptiness right now and that's why I wanted to reach out to this person. Unfortunately, I couldn't follow the rest of the video about one-ness and love. I associate that with my fantasy person and I am not sure if I know what love really is. Thank you for your video, all of your videos, and I'm going to check out the daily practice one now. Thank you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

13 күн бұрын

We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@brianfreeman2200

10 күн бұрын

I understand this because it happened to me exactly two weeks ago too

When other (healthy) people in your life show you or remind you of the undeniable, radical evolution that you have gone through, that’s when you know that you are truly ready, and that it is coming-the love you want and deserve-and in the way that you least expect. My struggle is to let go of the fantasy/idea of the “perfect partner” and just live with openness, gratitude and abundance. Seeing myself “through the eyes of The Divine.” 🙏🏾 Beautiful message, thank you.

Thank you for giving that horrific empty feeling a purpose and a mission. I do believe in that kind of love and that one day I’ll give and receive it safely to myself and a partner.

Anna, this is deeply touching. To hear you talk so positively of real love is so empowering for those of us who have felt so unworthy of love. After listening to your podcast I decided to drop unhealthy relationships and to wait for what I truly wanted and needed - to stop settling. And within weeks I met the most wonderful partner who loves me for me, not a manufactured version of myself, who sees my past trauma not as something to run from but as a reason to give even more love and understanding, who points out when I'm playing the old mind tapes but who doesn't judge me for it. He is teaching me how to love and be loved. So for anyone out there thinking it might never happen - it can, it does and it will! As you learn to accept and love yourself you naturally will attract the one for you. Life wants that for you because its what we're here to do. So don't stop believing!

Haven't listened yet, but just had this conversation last night with a friend.

"The greatest love that you may possibly know may still lie ahead of you, especially if you keep healing." Thank you for this! The entire video was a balm to my heart

When in a marriage with a partner as traumatized as myself growing up we both desperately needed each others touch and then could not stand touch in cycles. It was so detrimental to the relationship.

Your message today is one I wish I heard from my parents and family system members. Alas - they do not know healthy relating, and I understand now, why they wouldn't want me to have better if they don't know what's better than dysfunction. Thank you so much for your work. I will be listening to this video on repeat every day for a while :)

Maybe we should decentralise romantic relationships. They aren't the pinnacle of happiness. You can be happy alone, with a fulfilling purpose, good friendships / family, volunteering/helping people and adventures, hobbies etc. I don't long for love. If it happens, it will be a great bonus. But my happiness and fulfilment isn't waiting for it. I'm whole without it. And I'm not going to waste years of life dating unhealthy people rather than being happy alone.

@JenSell1626

13 күн бұрын

Agreed

@LittleMadameAnything

11 күн бұрын

Both are true. It’s true that romantic love is not the end of it all and should not be made as the main quest (at least not for everyone), but as she said, it’s also natural to crave for romantic partnership(s). And for people who are willing to dare and find one, this message is great. But ofc, love has many many ways of showing and manifesting in one’s life, like you said. I recommend reading bell hooks ‘all about love’ as it opens a very nuanced insight of what love can look like and is in multiple ways. Decentering romantic relationships can help immensely in the healing process, but if anyone wants that type of love, a very positive, healthy and especially hopeful outlook on it is necessary. Once you can navigate yourself and your life a bit easier, navigating the dating life becomes easier for you too.

@rabiashakoor1766

8 күн бұрын

@@LittleMadameAnythingThis is not something you have to remind young women about because the quest for romantic love is so deeply ingrained in their brains from the get go. I know you’re trying to help but instead of deflecting I think we should focus on the conversation of decentralizing. It’s draining women of their life force and leaving them empty again and again.

@syleenah9719

4 күн бұрын

See, that's what I need. Healthy and fulfilling friendships and better familial relationships. Then I probably wouldn't care about romance either.

I recently started therapy and its been extremely difficult to go through especially with no one by my side, But I KNOW I have to go through this in order to get what I want from this life. This video some how feels like it was mean for me :D

Wow, i've been on a conscious single journey these last few months so I can reset my self esteem and every now and then will get this feeling. I just felt it right now before opening this video and you made me feel so much better about it

Thank you so much.. I am moved to tears. I've been having a tough time over the past few months, with separation from my wife and child and problems in my job. I had almost become cynical about love and was blocking out those parts of me.. Your words showed me the path to courage. I am filled with gratitude.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience with us. Glad to hear Anna's video is helpful for you. We're here to support you! Nika@TeamFairy

Thank you for all you do. I hit this one quick bc it’s me. I struggle with this even though I’m in a relationship. I’m working on myself bc of all your information and the way in which you share it. I didn’t even realize that I was doing this. Thank you seems so little for the help and hard work you provide to help so many. 💜🙏

@nishurao7932

14 күн бұрын

True

@Lexi_Con

13 күн бұрын

I can relate to this! Am in a relationship of so many years I've lost track of the exact number. We met 30 yrs ago & dated but it was long distance (college days). Lost touch yet stayed friends - I even attended his wedding. Ten+ yrs later I moved back to our hometown & was there for him through his divorce (as a friend only), but we lost touch again - dealing with our own lives, relationships w/ other people, etc. Hasn't been a typical "off & on" relationship bc we'd be together for yrs each time before a break (he may be avoidant & is a workaholic). Now together for about 4 yrs since the last pause in the relationship. I love him but wonder if there's more out there for me, the kind of true love I've experienced in the past. It's complicated bc he's comfortable not getting married again, but I have never been married, no children. This video reminded me that I may deserve more than what I'm being dealt. So hard bc he's my best friend & we're not getting any younger. Am I being picky/selfish or am I just codependent, accepting crumbs? *Thanks if still reading, hard to summarize due to ADHD... & tiny text box on phone, ha.

It is real. For others. Not for me. I've made my peace with it.

As cheesy as it sounds, the greatest lesson I’ve learned coming back to true great love in its whole state is to be the love that you seek, learn about things like loving partnerships, and being a great partner, investigating what love means for you to the point where it really sinks in, detail by detail, which to me has been a huge part of my recovery, and which takes courage when it seems like the entire entire world is screaming the opposite at you. This is all still a work in progress obviously but it really helped break open the suffocating fortress that I’d built around myself.

Happy birthday, Anna Runkle!!~ Thanks for be-ing.

I believe I’m commanded to love others regardless of what hope I have to ever be loved back. In my current state I don’t think anyone can love me in a way that will satisfy me, but it’s freeing to know that I can become Love for myself and others regardless.

I think there is no emptiness but happiness knowing in the end I will inherit the kingdom with my Heavenly Father. There is no other man! You just know it!

Im so scared when people get close. And they don’t blow a fuse or threaten me and I think they are hiding their true motive

30+ years ago when i asked the question "What is LOVE⁉️" after Never being loved by parents, friends, lovers or Anyone, I felt God say to my heart "I Am Love‼️ You are looking for Me" God was enough for me for years. Two broken engagements and trauma on top of trauma... I Do still hope for a Godly man who is emotionally, mentally and spiritualy healthy, musical and Loves Jesus 🫶🏻☝🏻🌊🕊️

I find the walls have blinded me. So it remains unseen, and unwanted.

@annenjuguna9542

8 күн бұрын

I want you 😊. Hola

@annenjuguna9542

8 күн бұрын

We could be great as we understand each other

@annenjuguna9542

8 күн бұрын

We could be great as we understand each other

If you’re going to struggle with love, struggle for what you really want.

Even hearing you discuss this brought up hostility and cynicism towards your words. It all feels so alien.

This is a great video. Thank you. The child in me lost a lot, and decades later the adult also lost loads. Now I'm trying to find better... God bless you all.

Yess, this video made me so emotional. I always felt this deep yearning to find love , something that doesn’t depend on superficial things. And whenever id mention my dreams to ppl they would laugh at me that im delusional. Anyway Now im my mid thirties and i have met my true lover, and i just want everyone to feel it. Its beyond words, i honestly wouldn’t ever imagine getting it as teen. If only I watched videos like this back then. And so true how u can’t control it or do anything. And yes allow urself to dream! You deserve it. be urself and honest and it enters ur life without ur permission sorta. It’s like someone just captures ur heart and recognizes you . Thank you for doing this.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

10 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

never a word said so true , trying to find true love in a world of favourites & money matters more then people , if you find true love never let it goooo ❤

I was abandoned by my family when i was 16 - I have been alone for 45 years - when will I be free - when I cease to be

Feeling the oneness is so powerful, thank you

Love does not come from external factors, its a state of being. We are all love ✨✨

This video came right on time - like seriously! I've been overthinking about someone I met recently, and someone I know and another person etc etc etc. Struggle with overthinking a lot, and fearing love/relationships etc - been like this since I was young, probably caused by my parents divorce and the lack of my biological dad in my life... Love your videos, they help me set myself on the right track/way of thinking!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Thank you for being a part of our community here! Nika@TeamFairy

"The longing and emptiness that you feel is real and its pointing towards home❤❤❤"....love it. No need to pretend to be strong, i don't need it, i am batter without it...but eccepting it completely, sit with it, let it be there in your heart, let it teach you lessons that you need to learn. Thankyou so much Anna 💓🎉 💖 🎉🎉

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

Love that! Nika@TeamFairy

Anyone else struggling with CPTSD and also being someone who isn't pursued or considered desirable? That combination is so depressing.

Loveless feeling. That resonates 💔 😢

I just recently had a break up and this dreaded emptiness peaked for about two days and then left. Normally I would shove it down, feel like a victim, and distract myself with work. I would inflate my ego to counter this. Not anymore. I know this feeling well pass. I love every bit of matter that makes up who I am. I am fulfilled, connected, and authentic. This has been a long time coming. I am blessed to have had this experience. Hang in there everyone! You aren’t broken. You’re human. Self love will come freely and unconditionally with focus and grace. God bless.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 күн бұрын

Thank you for your words of encouragement! Nika@TeamFairy

I now know ive never been truly open to being loved. When my mother cut me off from her love i never could let go of the pain, until recently. Now the challenge is will i ever meet this person. Ill give it a go or ill never know 🤦

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

13 күн бұрын

You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy

I long for integrity and authenticity

Having a rough morning today, saw this on my feed, feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for you Ana, all you do and all the lovely things your commenters say to each other.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

5 күн бұрын

I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

I cried so much listening to this!! It was so healing!! Thank you x

"That longing has a message for you.. that it's real and its pointing the way to home"

Thank you for this beautiful video, Anna! I've struggled so terribly with love for years due CPTSD. After my last failed relationship and so many awful dates and dating app encounters, I just keep fearing there is no man out there who would accept all of me (I know this stems from all my experiences of rejection both by other people AND my own self-rejection). But lately, I've been thinking its time to try again. A happily ever after should be possible for me after all the "ick" I have lived through. Your channel has been enormously helpful to me since I found it in 2022 and finally figured out what was going on with me.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

11 күн бұрын

You are so welcome, and thank you for being a part of our community here! Nika@TeamFairy

I love how this video gives me hope that i can go from surviving to thriving. Thank you Anna for counseling all of us who feel lonely and love deprived. I am in a very stressful and unusual situationship. I did write you a letter, please help me. I know only you can understand me. ❤❤

Hello Crappy Childhood Fairy! Thank you for sharing this message. Feeling very grateful to hear such loving and encouraging words. I recently started the daily practice and it been such help. Thank you for all the wonderful things you are you team are doing.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

7 күн бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that the practice has helped! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

#3 hit me straight in the heart and made me want to cry. ❤Thank you, Anna 🧚‍♀️

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

You're welcome. Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

This was SO good, thank you! 🙏🏼

Will save this video to re-listen to your words until they really sink in. This is really important. ❤

Really wanted to hear this. Have always felt the need of true higher level love in my core. Thanks for supporting my beliefs.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

9 күн бұрын

I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

Thank you so much! ❤ Your message just comes at the right time today, when I feel so very hopeless and lonely without my love.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

13 күн бұрын

We're all sending you support and encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@ninalee2697

13 күн бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you! 🥲❤

That was so beautiful and necessary. Thank you ❤❤❤

Watching from Kenya. I'm a counsellor. I really love your content. Really on point. I watched your video on your visit to Kenya. Hope you visit again, this time for safari and let us know. It would be such an honour to meet you

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

14 күн бұрын

Asante!

@loisbolton1800

13 күн бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairyI highly recommend a safari in Kenya. So amazing and a wonderful country.

@marymagdalene8624

13 күн бұрын

Kenya is so beautiful. And the weather is perfect. . Safari here is breathtaking

Your words on perfect love and oneness towards the end was so wise and beautiful. Thank you for what you do:)

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

12 күн бұрын

You are so welcome

I can't stop holding my tears while watching this one. crappy fit is the most precise thing to describe my child hood and till now but I'm definitely getting in better place now than I was 20 years ago, 10 years ago, 5 years ago and a year ago. I looked back then, I put the other's needs before my own and focused on how I can serve to please them. I'm working on stop nurturing people before me, it's slow process for sure. thanks for your beautiful insights and your mentorship. every day is miracle because of you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

3 күн бұрын

You are not alone! Sending you encouragement! -Frida@TeamFairy

This video is so life-affirming. I really needed this. Thank you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 күн бұрын

So glad! Thank you for watching and for your comment! Nika@TeamFairy

I was lucky. Our parents loved us kids - both deeply and fondly. From whence I came I shall return.

I needed to see this today. I'm turning 41 in a few days, and I've never allowed myself to be really loved and seen and have a meaningful long-term relationship. I love that you affirm that there's still time 💞

I know I’m growing because this last connection ending has made me more excited to find the right person for me, I’m not hung up on them getting away

I wanna share what I feel helps me : sharing real love instead of waiting for it/trying to get it from someone. I’ve come to terms with the results of my childhood trauma and am realistic about it. I met a man a couple of months a go and although I think he’s a decent person, I caught myself wanting to engage in games again/obsessing over wether he likes me or not. Eventually I was able to just let it go. I was actually able to see him as a fellow human being/a friend and to reach out to him from a place of love and care without expectations. It has been so freeing and I can literally feel how I’m getting over the limerence that I had for him and living my life again. 🥰

Wow. This is really incredible. And the way you describe it is so clear and so complete. Recently I was thinking, I at least want to open myself up to love. And what I meant was just being more of a whole person, knowing it would benefit me in all areas of my life, especially my career. Meaning just to be a warm and loving person, to have healthy relationships of all types. And then I was just thinking, be open to love but do not crave it. But I have evolved some. I think it really is our greatest desire and need in life, to love and be loved. And after watching your video, now I believe it is possible and within reach, if I am willing to do the work. Thank you.

Thank you for this video… I’m in the process of doing cbt therapy and these vids really help!

Dear, I absolutely love listening to you! I feel like you can read our minds and souls. Hugs from Brazil! By the way, I'd love if we could add different subtitles to your videos. My dad has CPTSD, but he doesn't speak English. I talk to him a lot about you. ❤

This was WONDERFUL to listen to tonight, Anna. Thank-you. 🙏

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

5 күн бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Nika@TeamFairy

I watch your videos all the time, and this one really resonates with me, thank you so much x

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

13 күн бұрын

I'm so glad it resonated with you. Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy