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High achievers are lonely for a simple reason: Everybody is jealous/envious of your success. People want you to succeed but not more than them.

@__WJK__

3 ай бұрын

Exactly! Also, a lot of people have, unfortunately, grown cold/rude in their ability to be “genuinely” happy for other people’s success, or good fortune.

@pedrohenrique-et3fs

3 ай бұрын

also high achievers need to dedicate more time to results instead of friendship.

@philipcallado5693

3 ай бұрын

They’re also just more focused. Allen Iverson said Kobe Bryant was just a different dude. While he and most other players went clubbing, Kobe would be working out or practicing in the gym.

@HerculesFit

3 ай бұрын

FACTS!

@Inkdakang

3 ай бұрын

I find it has more to do with themselves. People who follow the rules and are still miserable, cant fathom that people who build their own path and do things differently end up more fulfilled. Plus success is usually a byproduct, which really drives them crazy.

i needed this, i lost everything many times over, and starting again from scratch, no friends no social life nothing, been taking losses for years, hopefully everyone reading this and myself, lets make it!

@notwilliamlee

2 ай бұрын

To actually feel what it is to lose that means you have won before. And if you claim to have lost multiple times over you have to had a few wins. Study the wins and try to repeat it again. It's not luck if it has repeated in the past, you just forgot how to win.

@10CSA10

Ай бұрын

I think most high achievers carry this feeling. I look at the wins mostly but my mind is trying to make the best outcome of every situation which makes great opportunities as long as I am able to joogle family and near friends meanwhile. A big motivator for me is a closed community of only high achievers. Is it possible?

@harryv6752

10 күн бұрын

Keep on getting after it. Respect! 🤘

"When you fit in, you have internal conflict... because you're not being 100% you" 👊❤️

@costasgeorgiou5015

3 ай бұрын

That is a fancy way of saying you don't wanna stay in shape lol.

@selfretired3025

3 ай бұрын

@costasgeorgiou5015 that's an interesting and twisted perspective of what he said. If you're just reading the comments, I can see how one might take things out of context and try to make sense of it. I'm not saying it doesn't apply... but I also know we often say things "about ourselves".

@costasgeorgiou5015

3 ай бұрын

​​@@selfretired3025 well I'm part way threw it my mobile keeps ringing....... Also I reread it now and I'm off sorry I don't know how I thought it was "your" not "you" so I thought you were saying your not being 100 percent to you cause your fit. That is what I get for doin too much at one time sorry.

@Troy94

3 ай бұрын

Felt that one

That pause from Alex at the start right after Chris's words was powerful. Like he was re-living and remembering all the people who had doubted him.

@alexlavi3699

3 ай бұрын

Agreed

@west3

2 ай бұрын

Yeah that pause, silence & his facial expression in the beginning was extremely powerful

@duncanalderdice

2 ай бұрын

I was just thinking the same thing. I appreciate them leaving in the full 14 second silence

@average3970

Ай бұрын

kinda looked like he was cranking one out before he answered lol

“For me, I was more miserable trying to make everyone else happy than I am now with everyone else unhappy.” - That hits hard.

People always talk about wanting to see you achieve the things you want not until you do and suddenly they have a problem with you.

“Reminder that if you want to be exceptional you are going to be different from everyone else that’s what makes you exceptional . You can’t fit in and also be exceptional both are uncomfortable. When you fit in you have internal conflict because you are not 100% you. When you are exceptional you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different. PICK one. When your friends start to say you have changed remember that’s because they do not know how to say you have grown.”

You're lonely because you sacrificed the time to build relationships to build skills.

@runswithraptors

3 ай бұрын

👍 had to learn to be a person before you can have a real relationship

@user-fu4zj2rw8o

3 ай бұрын

@@runswithraptors I would add that Ester Perrel has a good modification to that statement. She says you learn who you are by being with other people which is true because your perception of yourself isn't the same as what others might see after they live with you.

There's always a price to pay in cutting a different path

Most people will distract you from your mission. Everyone is going their own ways, sometimes they're going nowhere and happy to drag you down into the bucket...conscientiously or subconsciously, it will happen around people if they aren't where you want to go.

DUDE!!!! That PAUSE who make ALEX in the beginning?! Its INSANE and SPECTACULAR in PERSONALITY, CHARACTER, AUTENTICITY, OWNERSHIP and much more 🤯🤯🤯 its CRAZY....The BEST DUET OF ALL THE WORLD 🌎

@ClipsAndTips255

3 ай бұрын

fr

@hardyzme

3 ай бұрын

Ni

@Jojken

3 ай бұрын

Elon Musk does it all the time 😀

@mentalidaddeimpacto2110

3 ай бұрын

@@Jojken Yeeaahh! Man That's TRUE...thank you for the reminder 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

@Jojken

3 ай бұрын

@@mentalidaddeimpacto2110 But because he wants to be different I can imagine he 2xMusk_Pause 😄

We need more of these clips of different chapters of your podcast

Incredible episode, thank you!

These two have good chemistry and I always learn something new just listening to them chat.

Hormozi is one hell of a wordsmith!

Really insightful discussion on the loneliness of high achievers. It's often overlooked that strategic networking can alleviate that isolation without compromising productivity; connecting with others facing similar challenges can create a support system that also serves as a sounding board for new ideas.

Absolutely true! Makes me sad that people think improvement comes from comfort. Half way through 2019 I became my childhood dream of a professional knifemaker. It’s been nothing but challenges, failures and discomfort for almost 5years but I’m happy!

Thank you for this video.

Wow - love the content

such an underrated content

It's a balance. If you are a people pleaser, then yes, the temptation is go the completely opposite end of the spectrum. We do want to give of ourselves in a relationship; fulfillment comes through that. So yes, being yourself 100% is a great goal, but you will still hope that there are those that love that 100% you.

amazing content

simply extremely relatable

Tanks Guys!

Great video

These seconds of silence in the beginning were worth it

Those are words I live by: I believe the vast majority of people has the POTENTIAL to be exceptional at any given field if they put REAL EFFORT and -SACRIFICE- into it But the vast majority is also not willing at all to take those trade offs. Would you be Usain Bolt, Neil Pearth or Michael Phelps if you really gave it all? Probably not. But how would you or anyone ever know if you would if you tried, without trying? This thinking helped me and keep helping me majorly in life, next week im gonna go on stage four different times: 2 times on drums, I only did it once before, 1st as backing vocals, 1st as bassist, and possibly even one more on the drums I accredit a very big part of this to the mentality and of course putting in the effort Feels great to be alive and see the fruits of hard work, lets gooooooo 🔥

@bluetears2

3 ай бұрын

Monster Ink. University is a great movie, for this very lesson, sobbed through the whole thing

The dangerous part about going rogue is to be self reflected enough to still keep social feedback in mind so you don't become a lunatic. Fine line!

Lovely stuff chris, you've changed my life ❤. keep going brother

@ouch000u

3 ай бұрын

What is your believe?

Love your p.cast

See the good for you..a failure or rejection always makes you more greatest and makes the win more joyful.. It's is the growth mindset that should drive you not the failure or rejection,,you don't care about the byproduct and feel satisfied by putting in and eventually you are attracting the supreme energy by doing it so you eventually get the materialistic pleasures..

The feeling of rejection when you are alone and have that sad thought, just take it casually as a though and be fearless bcz you did something to make yourself accountable.

With the number of idiots out there is better to be alone sadly it is hard to find people that dont act like idiots ... i eat healthy most people make fun of that ... i live frugal and invest my money again most peop0le make fun of this while they are broke ....

@John-us2ns

3 ай бұрын

Bunch of normies

@Mansory811

3 ай бұрын

The Art of Not giving a fck

@pentrubarbati

3 ай бұрын

@@Mansory811 i dont give a fck but is lonely as you dont find people doing same stuff mindset ..

@Mansory811

3 ай бұрын

@@pentrubarbati Just stay positive man, they will come. If you become bitter, of course you wont find nobody, just stay on the grind

amazing

"But not all changes mean growth, in my opinion."

Alex's take is so relatable here! No friends or love can bring unlimited joy and success. Fake friends and fake love will bring depression, if not suicide.

@user-yp5ym7gj4i

2 ай бұрын

What a terrible take. Love is so important, no need to lump that in with “fake friends”

@shoheiohtaniofficial

2 ай бұрын

@@user-yp5ym7gj4i meant "fake love" too

...the alternative was 'i didn't want to llive anymore'...

7:07 YES

That’s true about being different and all. Tbh I just like people much to be away from them. 😂 I have people who know ME and people who know me just enough.

We are all exceptional in our own ways. We are all the same, yet we are all different. It's not about fitting in, but about being grounded in being yourself.

I’m fine being lonely. It’s far more peaceful.

I don’t know Chris. Nobody says that stuff in eulogies even if they were predictable and normal. The mortality framework is mainly to assess your priorities not to hate on everyday folks.

I like how this dude is a muscleman wearing a kid hat speaking like a scholar

Change doesn’t necessarily mean growth. That’s a huge assumption.

@egec4174

3 ай бұрын

Wow amazing observation

@juliancoulden1753

3 ай бұрын

@@egec4174 l love a sarcastic response!

@Davidsworldtravels

3 ай бұрын

You have a point, however people listening to motivational interviews of Chris and Hormozi talking about exceptionalism, most likely are taking chances at growth.

School gives us the false reality that friends make you “happy and popular”. As you become older, you realize seclusion is better than inclusion when achieving goals unless the ones around you are on the same path.

I use to do a game with myself way back in the 90’s when people went to night clubs and danced and got layed . I would call it “ getting binned (aka rejected ) in 10 minutes. I would time myself 10 mins or get a mate to time me and I would approach a girl I liked the look of and just go up and talk to her and ask her for a dance 💃. It’s a facing rejection and it makes you more mentally stronger. I would get rejected 2 or 3 times but would get a bite on girl 4 or 5 and I would get that dance 💃 and al lot of the time I’d get much more. I never got to 10 rejections. This is such a good adrenaline rush and great for your confidence. Rejection does not kill you it makes you stronger . Women like confident men and walking up and talking to them makes you attractive to them even if your not there type they appreciate it because you have the balls to go over and approach her. I remember just being yo scared to approach a women because of the feeling of getting rejected. And one night I approached this chick and yes she was cool and I didn’t get any where with her but I felt so fking proud of myself just by going over to talk to her I was buzzing. And that was it I just I was hooked win loose . I would highly recommend it to young lads who are scared of approaching a women . Rejections won’t kill you and hey we all die anyway. Hope this Canto I’ve just typed helps someone 👍👍

Family and friends always used to be supportive until my networth was over $5million. Jelousy came qhen they saw my new house and sports cars.

@renegade2325

3 ай бұрын

Yep

@StoicthoughtsbyMatt

2 ай бұрын

Buddy I feel that right now. My stepdad is full of envy because he’s not on my grandfather’s will lol

3-4 yeard ago i left my job , without any plan I am depressed till now But instarted my business and now in earn 3 time amount i earned in my last job , and will by my first home next year But i feel depressed and stress all the time

@cooney2011

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for the honesty

True loneliness is when nobody co-operates with you, nobody acknowledges you, nobody visits you. When you are always wallpaper in everyone elses existence. Not everybody in this place is treated the same. Meritocracy pales before Appearances...

I haven't watched the video, but of course yes.. it's all due to unreliability and time for most cases.

I am feeling lonely right now

Why does this make me sad?

Any high achievers want to weigh in?

Who is the author of 100 days of rejection

🎯

any traders here? 🙋🏻‍♂️

There is another subgroup you do not quite mention Those who are completely fine with themselves but others keep insisting they need to be different or that they are antisocial by rejecting the social constructs. I do not agree there is a normal-only people abiding.

Are you fighting the world or are you fighting you

Showering twice a day? I would be questioning life too.

😂😂😂 sorry, I laughed I just.. came here for wisdom cause I am suffering from my emotions over my ambitions.. cause I am building multiple business alone, working 16 hours a day.. almost every day.. and I wanted to listen to Alex, and when this guy reads out Alex’s quotes, and Alex was like so disconnected when camera switches on him, and he was so durpred (zoomed out thinking) I laughed.. love him so much❤😂

Entrepreneurship isn’t for the lazy

ALEX IS THE GOAT 🐐👑

Love he mentions old people - feet and shoes. Get some barefoot shoes now. Vivos. Xero’s. Whatever. Honestly, modern footwear is f**king up your feet!

A true high achiever never calls himself/herself high achiever

@ANTHXNYYYY

3 ай бұрын

High achievers have HUGE egos. Why wouldn’t they?

@jazzymichael

2 ай бұрын

Objectively achieving more... it's not a personal thing

like in ancient Greece)) athletes reflect on the philosophy of life

Holy Shit! This just made my day…..thank you both for just opening your mouths and saying it. 😎🦅💯💴

Think of people like crypto- by time someone sees the value in you they have missed the train

Fucking gold

Just put in the mind that it is possible to love and work on ourselves without hating others.. Loving and growing ourselves is just not our efforts it is also the effort of shit people who negatively motivated you to be great. Moreover distancing ourselves from others doesn't mean to shit others..

A lot of lonely people with bad social skills here think they’re high achievers.

@ouch000u

3 ай бұрын

That is a good one, which believe do you have by the way?, also best comment and yours was the last lonely comment😂

@LetsDoSocialWork

3 ай бұрын

😂

@eclecticd9953

3 ай бұрын

Elon musk has entered the chat

Holy shit, i cant see this guy anymore, i literally blocked him and all of his content on any social media, and still i see this hormozi guy....

@K4R3N

3 ай бұрын

He will not be denied your attention!😂

@doomedbook1020

3 ай бұрын

The testosterone is all pervading

@FloridaManConstruction

2 ай бұрын

Stop watching and just listen…

@StoicthoughtsbyMatt

2 ай бұрын

Cool story bro. Tell it again

This could have gone from good to great if Chris would let the true “interviewee” talk more.

8:33 did he just say husband? 😮

@vivianbeer

2 ай бұрын

sounds like housemate

not true, I'm lonely

I learned that I don’t like my millionaire bosses and don’t agree with their point of views in life. .. please do never value someone else opinion over your own truth.

Yes they are, I work with them and was married to one for 20 years. They see the world differently, people are assets/facilities for them.

@K4R3N

3 ай бұрын

I have also changed, dropped 30lbs, got to a 315lb deadlift. Still growing, but not while abandoning or using people. Spend a ton of time with my kids and friends. Well I should clarify I made some new friends and let go some old ones. I'm more into fitness now and my old friends weren't.

People take two showers?

@eclecticd9953

3 ай бұрын

Sometimes three…lol

ALEX HORMOZI IS A MODERN DAY SOCRATES

8:32 ok he said "housemate", thought he said "husband" at first. Not that it matters

@Researchchannel1234

3 ай бұрын

I thought I heard husband also haha

@amandaalvey

3 ай бұрын

Me too! I had to replay it. Hilarious

@ms.elizabethw.n.2539

2 ай бұрын

Same 😊

i am pretty sure this guy spends all day reading alex hormozis lines wherever he can find them lol

Skool lol

Interview with a Sigma 😂

Is this guy Natty?

@Keviekev115

3 ай бұрын

No

Everyone is a high achiever nowadays😂🤡

this guy is the worst interviewer on average

@boxtable1212

3 ай бұрын

How??

@khaipinaulak485

3 ай бұрын

@@boxtable1212 yes you are wrong and im him