Hi, older lady here. I'm not surprised that people feel that older women are "less nice" because the older I get, the less willing I am to tie myself into a pretzel in order to save men's egos. I'm not mean, I'm not impolite, I even have a sunny disposition and am known for my diplomacy, but there are things that I'm just not putting up with anymore. Life is too short. That's the real tragedy about aging, that there are less years ahead of you than there used to be and you know for a fact that you won't get to do, to see, to experience, to change all the things you'd want to. And to be honest, given the state of the world, I really don't think my sagging cheeks matter much in the big picture. Gracefully or not, everyone ages, you only have to decide how much of your limited time on earth you want to spend on trying to run away from something that is inevitable and will come for you regardless.

@gusmonster59

7 ай бұрын

I love the not tying yourself into a pretzel to save a man's ego. I am 64 and I don't give a whit about what others think. I am generally quite nice and polite, but I have my limits and will speak my mind if I feel a need to. I had coffee date few years back. Apparently, I didn't live up to his expectations of prettiness. He couldn't even be polite enough to sit for 20 minutes and have coffee without looking outside and fidgeting. I expressed my opinion of his attitude to his face. He was a bit shocked to hear someone tell him to his face that he was acting like an ass.

@eleonorabartoli2225

7 ай бұрын

65 here, totally agree!

@uptownpotatoes

7 ай бұрын

100% agree

@nurlindafsihotang49

4 ай бұрын

42 (that still resent the lie fed to me that i would be free of mensturation when i am 40) i am loving the power of IDGF and less people saying "smile more".

@lauraparkhurst1177

3 ай бұрын

You brought me to tears by the end of your video. Thank you for talking about this. As I've gotten older (I'm 50 right now) I decided to not color my hair. Not going to lie, I don't love the mirror because I remember what I used to look like, but I also know I'd rather be old than dead. Sometimes I feel good about my face and hair. Other days I hate my hair and my squishy saggy belly. But I tell myself I earned those white hairs and my belly is evidence of my children and the love I have for them. Also, I love food! I want to enjoy life. And I've been telling people I've reached the age when they burned women at the stake. When I'm dressed and have a little lip gloss on I think I'm freaking cute. I don't need male attention. I have a husband and he can be a lot of trouble! Lol. And he still thinks I'm hot. But I'm interested in learning new things and loving people and enjoying the beauty of the world. Being old can be fun. I'm sweet most of the time but I will tell you what I think. And I can tell a young man he's hot and not have to worry he's going to think I'm hitting on him. I get away with so much now! Ha! Getting old and not giving a fuck. Justine Bateman is my freaking hero!

I feel like this is why The Golden Girls is still so popular. We NEED that representation. I definitely "aged" a bit after my Dad died. I don't want to erase my grief- that's so unhealthy.🍁🍂

@smooth4553

7 ай бұрын

its kind of beautiful how the death of a loved one can manifest in our physical appearance honestly...shows how important they were in our life

@disgruntledmoderate5331

7 ай бұрын

@@smooth4553 This is so true.

@oooh19

7 ай бұрын

@@smooth4553nope that’s terrible tbh

@heidigunter6766

7 ай бұрын

Wow. So well said. @@smooth4553

The intro skit was amazing. The perfect representation of happy, holiday passive aggression

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

thank you! I was really getting into my theatre kid life filming these skits - even though I was never a theatre kid 😂

@jules9669

7 ай бұрын

My name is Julia so it hit me particularly hard 😂😅

Subconsciously I think it's humanity's fear of death: seeing celebrities that we grew up with (or the same age as us) growing older brings them a great sense of dread. Women have it so much harder though, and like Meryl Streep said, it's fear of older women that can't be controlled anymore. They've lived long enough to see through the bullshit and are usually fiercely independent and that scares most men.

@annmarieknapp

7 ай бұрын

I'm actually studying ageism. We know older women are treated far worse than older men. We say older men are distinguished or elder statesmen, while we say women who get older are just old. Asinine.

@Black.Spades

7 ай бұрын

@@annmarieknapp Or old hags. Old men are wise wizards, old women are mean witches in fairytales.

@oooh19

7 ай бұрын

You’d think older women would be more dependent on men because of past expectations and norms

I am 47 and ran in to someone I last saw 20 yrs ago. I overheard them say how I looked like poo while walking away while all I did was have 20 birthdays in-between last seeing them. Apparently I was supposed to look the same.

@gusmonster59

7 ай бұрын

I'm quite sure they looked exactly the same, didn't they? 🤣🤣

@leamubiu

7 ай бұрын

Their mind is the saddest part. The lens through which they view the world and themself is so cruel.

🍁My grandma used to say one of the reasons she had aged so well was that she didn’t give a damn about what people thought. As I approach 50 I sometimes wish I had lived like that more. But is never to late😊

@cassandraunheeded

7 ай бұрын

I’m 65 and I agree with her completely. I can wear my aunt Fanny’s circus coat with bells that she wore riding trick ponies in a circus. I still look like me.

@faeriesmak

7 ай бұрын

I think not having social media at all helped.

@annmarieknapp

7 ай бұрын

I think she is right.

The only reason I could think of why older women really might be less 'warm and welcoming' would be because they've tired of the BS thrown their way and have decided not to acommodate people just because 'they're expected to.' I know I care less about what people think of me now (almost 50) than I did at twenty. 🍂🍁

@GabrielleTollerson

7 ай бұрын

exactly. They're sick of being told that they "let themselves go",or that they "need to look younger"

@NetherworldBibliotek

7 ай бұрын

Agreed.

@faeriesmak

7 ай бұрын

I was just thinking this as well. I know that at 48 I am finally getting to the point where I am putting myself first a lot more often and setting boundaries that I did when I was younger.

@anwarpine6797

7 ай бұрын

Yes. As I get older, my goals are turning towards ‘no is a whole sentence’ and to not worry if people think I’m rude. Not to be mean per se but just be firm with what I want without worry. Unlearning what I was taught to be a ‘nice girl’

@klara5578

7 ай бұрын

Sure that’s one side of the coin. BUT also: You get away with more nastyness when you’re young and pretty bc people are shallow. Many women are so focused on looking good that they forget to work on their character while they’re young. Then, they end up being judged harder for their lacking character as they grow older. Eternal beauty comes from inside. Don’t fall for the temptation to identify with your shell while you’re young - work on becoming a nice person and you’ll be beautiful until you die

I've never understood the "mean old lady" stereotype because the older women in my life have always been vibrant, kind, and amazing people to be around.

Aging isnt nearly as scary as the things people will do to avoid it. That being said, remember to wear sunscreen!

@dickottel

8 ай бұрын

No thanks. I'm not afraid of looking older but I really don't like my pale skin.

@gingermaniac5484

7 ай бұрын

sunscreen lots of skincare is bullshit but with sun protection it's not about anti-aging, it's about protecting yourself from cancer so you can get older. that said billions of things cause cancer, even ginger root, so it is your choice in the end and i hope you enjoy whatever it is you choose is worth risking out of the many risks. (sorry if you already knew this I just didn't see you mention anything aside from anti-aging vs being self conscious of skin tone. figured it's better to chime in just in case you didn't know yet)

@captainfluffypaws7068

7 ай бұрын

Don't forget to get proper sleep, hydration, and exercise.

@emilyfallaw5912

7 ай бұрын

​@@dickottelYou can still get a tan with sunscreen, and sunscreen helps prevent skin cancer. Is looking a little bit tanner really worth risking your life?

@oooh19

7 ай бұрын

@@dickottelyea I don’t like being pasty either and a little sunkissed glow is fine

Such an important topic that needs to be talked and talked about until it’s no longer a thing cause women are literally ageing or literally having mental/health issues due the stress of ageing ❤🍁🍂

I just feel terrible about all this, especially when it comes to Justine Bateman who looks beautiful, intelligent, personable, individual, distinctive. How dare people say how she should look like?

@dl2725

7 ай бұрын

I know… I wish it didn’t bother Justine Bateman as much as it does. Because I genuinely like how she looks! I’m so much more drawn in by her looks than I am by a face with lots of work or filler, or even too lacquered a makeup look

@annmarieknapp

7 ай бұрын

It's the intersection of age and gender. Ridiculous, we aren't supposed to acknowledge we age and society doesn't care about menopause or how difficult it is to be a woman in this society that devalues women in general, but is particularly brutal to women. I'm 54 and a college professor and I have actually heard ageist comments made about my appearance and I do a lot of anti-aging procedures and take care of my appearance because I now female professors are rated lower as we get older. It's a compensation methodical ideology that motivates me. But, at same time really stinks to even feel like I should make the effort. My make cohort doesn't care, nor does that even concern them.

@oooh19

7 ай бұрын

Jason Bateman is still looking handsome tbh

@oooh19

7 ай бұрын

@@annmarieknappwell it is important to take care of ourselves regardless of age but it truly sucks how much the female population is judged! Very damaging and especially by other women not necessarily men they don’t always even notice

@GoldenTherapeuticStyling

7 ай бұрын

Her book "face, one square foot of skin" is epic.

🍁🍂This reminds me of me and my mom. Im approaching 30, shes in her mid 60s. I've put a lot of mental and emotional work into loving who I am as well as finding the beauty in aging. My mom - who was recently told by her doctor she has body dismorphia - is so hellbent on keeping her body as young as possible. She tells me constantly "enjoy the hormones while they last" and is constantly judging what im eating or my general lifestyle. I told her I want to welcome the age, I see the wrinkles as the story of my life. Crows feet and smile lines for all the joy but frown lines because life is hard sometimes. My sleep is usually not great and i have allergies so bags under the eyes are just there. I'm a raccoon. I look forward to being that "mean" older woman because it just means i stopped giving a shit about the judgments being passed on me. I dont live to serve others and i also want to make sure my needs get met, which requires being assertive. My bf loves that im vocal about what i want/need because he doesnt have to sit there playing mind games with me. I want there to be a shift in accepting aging in women. I know its popping up more and more, and I am more than happy to be a part of it. Aging is beautiful, shit being alive is a blessing. Also when my hair goes white i can finally dye it without bleaching it and damaging my curlse. Its gonna be great! Im gonna be a rad older lady 😎

@goosewithagibus

7 ай бұрын

Based comment

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

It’s funny my mom always died her hair blonde and stopped around age 62. And the color of her hair is actually the color she was always after! She was blonde as a kid/teen so the tone has some soft blonde in it. She’s 70 now and looks gorgeous which is pretty wild for being a single mom and a nurse for over 30 years! My sister and I followed and my sister looks just like my mom. Mine is like Frankie from the TV show.

@jessikat_17

7 ай бұрын

@phoenixgirl70 my mom stopped dying her hair and I think it looks great! You would think she colored it in a styled way but no, the grey just grew with style

@endlessstudent3512

7 ай бұрын

Oh, wait a few years...when men do not notice you in a room anymore and you feel like a ghost. Happens between 35-45, depending on the type of women. When your husband ditches you for a younger version..... Lets see how you welcome aging then. If you still manage to like your age I will be happy for you. But someone under 30 telling people they welcome their age is kinda mean.

the more that get plastic surgery the more it is normalized and the more natural looking women will be looked like as though they look "too old" when they simply look their age.. women should be allowed to look how they look and we should not shame either part for wanting to look a certain way.

@Shirumoon

8 ай бұрын

This is the best reason against getting work done imo. I have nothing against it, I have even done botox for face slimming once , but the consequence is that the society is starting to view normal, average people as ugly, old, wrong in some way.

I’m personally looking forward to when my hair is more gray/white than my natural black hair. That way, I can dye my hair all the fashion colors that I want without having to excessively bleach my hair lol 😂

@HeySlothKid

8 ай бұрын

Same, my natural colour is "mouse" and I've been hoping to follow in my grandmother's footsteps and go silver grey (or at least like my mom who just went white in front) but sadly I appear to be taking after my dad who was still fully mousy when he passed away in his 50s. I have found at least 3 grey hairs though. Yay

@s.s.6661

8 ай бұрын

Me too! My hair is so dark that it would take multiple max-length bleaching sessions to get it light enough to dye something fun. SO not worth it. When I go grey I'm gonna dye my hair hot pink or smth lol

@DarkyCookie

8 ай бұрын

Don't wanna burst your bubble, but hair texture changes as well and it may be harder for fashion colours to stick to aged grey hairs. But hey, where there's a will there's a way and I'm right with ya!

@Shirumoon

8 ай бұрын

@@DarkyCookie I mean yeah, you can't straight up put semipermanent haircolor on grey hair like you would on bleached hair but instead of going in with a 9% bleach, maybe 3% would be enough.

@thesleepinggirl

8 ай бұрын

My mother and grandmother were mostly white-haired by my age and of course I can count my white hairs, there’s hardly any and my hair is darker than ever. Stupid genes lol

I want to suggest that maybe this stereotype of older women as less warm as a legitimate response to being stepped on, passed over, and disregarded for so long. Personally I'm done getting treated with anything less than the respect I deserve. If that comes off as cold or cruel, then you can re- examine your own sexist expectations.

@theaqua1517

7 ай бұрын

Having a bad personality doesn't depend on age. It depends on habits , behaviour and attitude

@merrimcarthur7198

7 ай бұрын

@@theaqua1517 Not putting up with crap and/or being toooooooooo "accommodating" is NOT "having a bad personality". If a man does that he's assertive. WE ARE ASSERTIVE.

I’m 35 and I really hope to get to the age where I don’t care about people’s opinions because as of now, I’m terrified of aging any more. I understand aging is inevitable but I still want to fight it off as long as I can. It’s not even just about looks. Society in general is so mean to older women 😢

@gusmonster59

7 ай бұрын

I'm 64. Aging is not a big deal, and it's going to happen. So stop obsessing in the mirror, tell those who make 'old' remarks to f*** off, and embrace who you are becoming. As you get older, you will change in sorts of ways that are not physical. Find who YOU are and who you would like to become (and I don't mean some celebrity), and remove those from your life who can't/won't see that. The worlds moves on. Move with rather than trying to keep everything 'the same'. 💜

@seitanbeatsyourmeat666

Ай бұрын

I love getting older… younger men’s eyes slide past me, as if I’m a plant. Older men still ogle me though (which is gross) I’m happier not giving a damn what people think of me, including women, and if my husband dies/we divorce, I’m finished with men/males completely. I’m ready to be free 🎉🎉 Stop worrying what people think of you, and live your best life NOW

“You wouldn’t day think you to someone who says you look tired” My wife, who is a nurse, would be offended that they said ‘tired’ and not ‘exhausted’

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Hahaha, understandable - but I think that's very much a "I need sympathy for the hellish job I'm dealing with" thing as opposed to seeing a friend/family member at a nice gathering and being told that in a backhanded way of saying they look old and haggard 😂

@jadebel7006

8 ай бұрын

@BryonyClaire have u ever considered maybe u just look tired?

@freefree5453

7 ай бұрын

😂

I discovered my first grey hair when I was 18. It’s genetics 🧬 I was never bothered by it. I never judge others by the way they look and it always baffled me how much others talk about the looks and style of complete strangers… 🍁🍂🍁

"she felt fine about herself until all the media started telling her that she looked haggard" this hits to the root of everything, not just aging. i'm happy Justine has enough confidence to battle the media's opinion but not all of us are that capable. at times I feel like I'm above other people's opinions about me and I frankly don't even notice some of my ''quirks'' until people point them out. for some things I'll happily embrace them, but with some things I get so insecure and never want to leave my house. it's a constant battle.

I'll never understand the fear if aging. I want to hear "you look tired", because I feel tired and I would love people to notice that and help me. Especially my boss who hires not enough people lol. It's her fault I'm always tired.

@gingermaniac5484

7 ай бұрын

cheers to that lol

My grandmother is almost 83, and she's the most beautiful woman I've ever met. She's so kind, and has the warmest smile. She's smiled so much in her years of life that she's got joy permanently etched into the skin of her face. She's absolutely gorgeous, I love my grandma so much

@ieshjust16

7 ай бұрын

You're blessed to have your grandmother. ❤I recently lost mines ..😢 😞

@siphonophorespiral

7 ай бұрын

@@ieshjust16 I'm sorry for your loss, may her memory be a blessing

@ieshjust16

7 ай бұрын

@@siphonophorespiral ❤️❤️

@faeriesmak

7 ай бұрын

This is the best thing that a I have read all day. Thank you for this!

Couple things-first, since there is an expectation of us based on our age, I refuse to tell anyone my age. My daughter has been trying to find out for years now. She genuinely doesn’t know. The reason I don’t tell is because it prevents anyone from having age-based expectations. Even those who think they don’t have expectations based on age-they subconsciously do. So no one knows my age. It is however I feel at any given moment. Second, it’s not wrong to tell someone they look great. It doesn’t help others to withhold compliments from someone you want to compliment. If you think someone’s hair looks great, you can say that. If you think someone’s skin looks wonderful, you can say that too. I guarantee you that you will look different based partly on what you do. It someone has pretty eyes, say that. If someone’s been working on their physical toning, it’s fine to acknowledge that they’re looking great. Their makeup? Compliment! Sometimes all a compliment really means is an acknowledgement of someone’s effort. No, these things are NOT easily changed for all people. Even something like changing makeup takes time, skill, and money that not everyone has. I’ve seen makeup styles I don’t care for, but can tell someone put effort into it. I will tell them they look great. I’ve seen larger people who I know have been trying to make changes they see as positive, and a compliment that their arms look great is something that makes them happy to hear. Doesn’t matter if their arms are still large-the acknowledgement of their effort is what matters. I’m sure you feel a burst of happiness when you’re told you look particularly pretty today, or that you look stunning after you’ve spent three hours getting yourself ready for an event. You don’t get upset because someone didn’t decided to just compliment your hair, which is something hard for people with thin or no hair to change. You appreciate being seen and your effort being acknowledged. I think people need to stop being stingy with compliments. We can ALL find at least one thing to compliment someone for, and if we were freer about giving these instead of worrying that we’d offend someone by saying something nice, I think self-esteem would go up overall.

I just turned 40 and honestly i never felt more confident in myself than now, gray hairs and wrinkles and all. 🍂🍁

@GoldenTherapeuticStyling

7 ай бұрын

I feel the same way!

🍁🍂 The ole "you look tired" - I got that all the time in my twenties when I didn't wear makeup to hide my dark circles. I hate theres such a market for selling insecurities to people so they can profit off selling you the "solution". Loved the skit 😂

@lindajung8556

7 ай бұрын

Some women ( or even men) weaponize “ you look tired” or as my mother- in- law said one time to me once during my 30s “ you look haggard” (mind you- I have always looked 10-15 years younger than my age) They use it as a way to keep you in your place or they feel weirdly threatened somehow. It’s definitely a mind game. We can look different from day to day, depending on the stressors we’re dealing with, lack of sleep, hormones, or mood. Regardless, we all deserve to be valued and respected no matter how we look or age…

I love my grey hair and wrinkles, I’m 48 years young and have a full life ahead of me 🍁 🍂

I'm turning 30 at the start of the year, and it was something I felt honestly neutral about during my 20s. But this past year, once I hit 29, every response to remembering or learning my age has turned into some sort of question about how I'm handling it and if I'm "ready." As if I'm about to be launched to the moon or join a convent. But what really stood out to me was how much harder it is to be skeptical of brands promising anti-aging when the people in my life (even accidentally) make it feel like a crisis. It can feel like the only solution is spending money until other people start affirming that I look younger than I am. Thank you for this video and its much needed perspective on how ageism is unhealthy for all ages.

@artisticblue362

6 ай бұрын

I have gotten into skincare recently and the thing that companies won't tell you is that just using sunscreen on a daily basis is actually the best way to protect your skin (Both from sun damage and skin cancer). Using sunscreen every day is far more effective than any fancy $500 serum. Of course you will still age but it helps protect your skin from the elements of life on a daily basis

As a 42 yr old woman & someone with a 72 yr old mother who obsseses about her perceived youth, this was so hopeful to see! 👏🏻 I truly want to thank u for putting this out there for young & older women alike. Your intelligent & wity commentary was on point (as it always is IMO). These are things I've been thinking & feeling for a long time. Great job with this! 🤘🏻 PS- Loved how u gave a shout out to the Golden Girls! 🥰

@theembersinside1420

7 ай бұрын

... oh & 🍂! 😋

dont forget how in a lot cultures women are forced to have long hair and then forced to cut it off at age 50 or so if u have long hair after 50 ur judged hard and if u have short hair before 50 ur also judged hard

@sam4330

7 ай бұрын

What culture does this?

@ieshjust16

5 ай бұрын

@@sam4330 What do you think

Thank you for this! I turn 49 next month and gravity is really doing a number on me 😂 as well as menopause. But I am embracing the privilege of getting older.

@faeriesmak

7 ай бұрын

Happy birthday!!!! Oh man..the menopause. It sure is not what I was expecting, that’s for sure.

I love Rita Moreno because she ages naturally and looks her age while still being awesome and funny af. Also, she is a curly girly. Yes! She is gorgeous, but the EGOT winner has an incredible, admirable history. Also, gray and white hair is literally so sexy. I don't understand the fear of gray hair. I used to be like that, but I changed my mind after I saw Lily Tomlin as Frankie in Grace & Frankie wearing those gorgeous curly gray wigs. Also, Anne Bancroft (before she passed away) had short gray hair when she got older in the 90s, making her look even more beautiful.

🍂🍁 I have always thought wrinkles and grey hair and all those signs of aging look really cool. But I’ve also never thought I would actually be able to reach the age where I would look like that. And I still don’t. My life expectancy has been between 18 and 50. So very unlikely that I will ever get to look old. Other people who I’ve talked to with low life expectancies also said the same things. We get excited about every gray hair no matter what age because we never expected to get any. When the entire back of my head went grey at 19 other people my age gave me condolences and asked me if I wanted their help dying it. I was ecstatic to have grey hair and would never dye it! Sadly the color came back a year later after my acute health crisis and the stress were over. Currently my life expectancy is 30. 1.5 more years. If I survive the 2 surgeries and almost guaranteed infections that will likely kill me during the healing process and no other complications show up my life expectancy will go up to 40-50. I just hope the health care system doesn’t completely collapse in the meantime. (Edit: I forgot to put the fall leaves in.)

@isa-morena

8 ай бұрын

It's amazing that color can come back in, although I'm sorry the gray hair didn't stick for long. I just didn't know that was possible. I hope you have an uneventful recovery and a lot of serenity in your life. Aging should be seen as the embodiment of milestones passed and a life lived like the rings of a tree 🍂

When I turned 20, my grandma called me to wish me a happy birthday and said: "it's all downhill from now, these were your good years". AT 20! (Not that it would be OK to say this about any age but at 20 I find it insane.) I know she didn't mean badly but this view on aging definitely affects me negatively. Like if I have passed "my good years" then what's the point then ? I try not to see aging as a bad thing but this has been ingrained in me from childhood so very hard to think differently.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Oh gosh that's so depressing. That means her life hit it's peak at 20, too, poor thing. She's probably dealt with a lot of bad stuff if that's the case (like ask the question of when she got married to your grandpa 😬). It is really hard to think differently, and like I've shown, its ingrained in so much and is prevalent EVERYWHERE that unlearning this is a tough one!

@DNA350ppm

8 ай бұрын

No, no, that was so false - as a grandma who has had time to experience all kinds of stuff, I want to assure you (in very generalized brushstrokes) that *at 20 your worst years are behind* you, and at 30 you'll begin to become your own best friend and parent, perhaps being a parent in some form yourself. And at confident 40 you have a lot of stamina and agency, and can be very decisive about how you want to live your life, and whon you give any of your precious time, so that you feel energized by what you choose to do and whom you are in contact with. You are brimfull of charm, positivity, creativity, knowledge, you have lots of inner "lady power" to share. At 50 you are taken seriously, both by yourself and others, your expertise shows, and people turn to your for support and advice. And you are so spontaneous and fun to be with as never before. At 60 you might be lucky to have some kids in your life, and your relaxed but responsible character, gives you good relations with the kids and their parents. Looking forward to retirement, too, when you are going to do things you always really cared about, and you'll be keeping as naturally fit as possible, not apologetically, but for many more good days, for you and your loved ones, who think you are cute, and no make-up or botox or anything else isn't needed, than sleep, exercise in moderation, nice hobbies, good relationships and healthy food, and occasional medical care. Your grandchildren (your own or borrowed) wish you would live to 100 - and you'll as a living example spread the wisdom of the Blue Zones of the world. Try to love your grandma from a distance, but realize that she was on the totally false track, just as your healthy intuition has been. Read about elderly people who have lived their lives to the fullest and have no envy or jealousy of young people. One day you will be one of them, just let it take time! All the best wishes and soft granny-hugs from me!

@Shirumoon

8 ай бұрын

@@DNA350ppm Your comment indeed felt like a hug! It made me tear up. Thank you so so much for sharing your wisdom and your beautiful outlook on life with us.

@DNA350ppm

8 ай бұрын

@@Shirumoon Thanks for the kind response and all the best to you, too! 🙂

@maria____masha

7 ай бұрын

@DNA350ppm I just saw your response, sorry I didn't respond sooner! Your comment is amazing and so kind, thank you so much! It made me smile and I will read it again when I feel down about this

My hair started greying at 18 and i don't plan on ever dying it, because it makes me feel cool and sophisticated 🍂

@ieshjust16

7 ай бұрын

🎯

Thank you for this video, Briony ! I'm going to share it. I would like to add that there is also a comment that looks nicer but is actually on the same page as the "you look tired", it's the "wow ! You don't look your age !" comment. To me it means "congratulations on not looking old". They both come from the same old clichés.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Yes! The whole "you don't look your age" thing is another form of ageist compliment, I'll be addressing that more in a future video - it's either congrats on not looking "old" or "yikes, why are you dressing/acting so young"

@user-gt1io8mf2x

8 ай бұрын

@@BryonyClaire Indeed !

@isa-morena

8 ай бұрын

I even get that in my mid 20s...like should I be striving to look like not an adult? All it gets me is getting carded (which should always be done but yall know is not always done lol)

The societal pressure on women aging is so insane these days. I always hate it when people make comments on other people's appearance, no matter the intention, because more than not it somehow implies that physical appearance is more important than everything else.

This is one of many reasons why I love your channel. You're a blessing, and I hope you know it. I recently saw a photo of Keanu Reeves and his girlfriend, who is nine years younger and in her 50s, just like him. People say the most awful things about her, simply because a highly desirable man in his 50s is dating a beautiful woman over the age of 30. What. the. actual. f**k?

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

They’re actually married now! And she has fully gray hair and wears minimal makeup and people are just disgusting about what Keanu “could be with.” I think some people are actually jealous as Keanu obviously found a true connection with someone and not just a sexual attraction but I’m sure there’s a lot of that too as she’s a smart, confident, creative woman and personality truly, at least for me, has affected who I find attractive when I get to know someone. I’m excited about the marriage only because it’s a huge statement saying “this woman (who you refuse to appreciate/accept) is who I love and am choosing to be my partner for life!”

I'm confused. I was always told that 'aging gracefully' meant accepting natural signs aging and your current life stage with peace and dignity, and choosing NOT to invest a bunch of time and money into camouflaging what is almost impossible to hide in the long run. When did 'aging gracefully' flip meaning? Or am I wrong? What were other women told about aging with grace while they were growing up? Also, that Justine woman looks AMAZING. I would give my left titty to look like her once I reach my 40s - 50s.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Aging gracefully is what people say when they mean "accepting small signs of aging" and not going under the knife, however the IMAGE of aging gracefully is a very attractive one which doesn't show the realities of aging - which does require a lot of upkeep and work to maintain a "youthful old" appearance - it's pretty twisted

@Shirumoon

8 ай бұрын

@@BryonyClaire Yup, that's it. Nowadays by ageing gracefully people mean looking hot but "natural". Doing nothing to your face, hair and body doesn't count anymore for the 95% of women who did not win the genetic lottery and the privilege of a non demanding life.

@marabanara

8 ай бұрын

In theory, yes, “aging gracefully” means kind of being a “good sport” and accepting signs of aging- but in practice it also means only aging within the social standards of beauty for older women: very slim, and magically still conventionally attractive, including looking magically younger than you are.

@jenniferhunter4074

7 ай бұрын

@@BryonyClaire It's like the no-makeup look. You have to put on makeup to create that illusion. If you walked out without any makeup, you would be asked 'How are you? You look.. tired."

@xy9231

7 ай бұрын

@@jenniferhunter4074 That's an excellent analogy. Puts it in perspective

Why did I get insanely pissed off with the characters in the skit at the beginning? (Also also thank you for this video!)

@jamietingey7498

8 ай бұрын

Because we know those characters. And they hurt/annoy with their cutting judgmental comments.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

When scripting the skits, it was a chance to channel my anger to create these characters we ALL know and have dealt with. It really was like opening Pandora's box - though fingers crossed the videos are the little hope part which comes out at the end :)

@loganmorningstar9122

8 ай бұрын

@@BryonyClaire You do a great job with the skits, imo.

@loganmorningstar9122

8 ай бұрын

@@jamietingey7498 You hit the nail on the head!

I started getting gray hairs at 20. And now at 27. (28 the first week of December) I have noticeable wrinkles. I was worried about frown lines In Highschool because one of the teachers I admired most told a story about how Lincoln didn't hire someone because they had frown lines and how frowning all the time is bad...etc. I had frown lines. I had a harsh traumatic life. I had no control over my face. I know aging is going to be rough for me because of the life and environment I grew up in. I'm just trying to tell myself it's a sign I'm lucky I made it this far. 🍁 🍂

Thanks for the slight schadenfreude on this one - I start feeling sorry for myself at this time every year because I have zero family and spend christmas alone. However, I am free at least to do so doing whatever I want and looking as grey, chubby and dark-circled as I like without people making me feel bad about my appearance. Sorry that so many women seem to have such toxic people in their lives to even treat them like this 🍂🍂🍂

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Oh I'm really sorry to hear that, that's got to be so tough :( I hope you are able to spend time with friends instead - or heck enjoy the time spent alone, tbh I really like alone time at Christmas because of all the chaos and fear of judgement

@laurahodgson6531

8 ай бұрын

@@BryonyClaire Thank you x I've tried Christmas with other people's families and that is worse ha. The alone time can be good. It's a case of reframing it to something positive

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

Do you have any pets? Because they are the best parts of family! They love you unconditionally, make you laugh, comfort you, and make life much less lonely. I couldn’t imagine my life without cats. I’m disabled so I can’t handle the work of a dog. Indoor cats are more affectionate and it’s best for their safety. And there’s always new toys to buy! Their incredibly intuitive and don’t leave my side if I’m sick or having a bad day. 10/10 highly recommended!❤ Treat yourself with presents like some good books, a cozy blanket, etc.

You are changing minds and lives with this content

Your ending comments about grey hair reminded me of a conversation between my mum and her younger sister. I think it was actually at Christmas last year. My mum has always refused to dye her hair, she figures it's an unnecessary expense and that she'd earned every grey hair. My aunt, on the other hand, has always dyed her hair. Now my mum is nearly 60 and has what is, quite frankly, gorgeous silver hair. Anyway, last Christmas (I think), my aunt was admiring my mum's hair and admitted she wishes she'd followed Mum's example and let the grey come in naturally. I don't think she's stopped dying her hair just yet - I got the impression she was a bit anxious about making that decision. Anyway, I think when I start greying, I'll do as Mum did and celebrate the grey hairs as a sign of how far I've come and how much I've survived. (insert autumn leaves here)

@WynneL

7 ай бұрын

Dyeing does make it hard to transition back to natural. I somehow think it looks worse when someone's roots are showing than when they flaunt their grey with confidence. At some point I want to stop dyeing, but it's just so much fun to have blue and purple hair with no need to bleach anything. I'll probably go from demipermanent to semipermanent and finally just use some sort of stain or purple shampoo.

I have never done a thing to myself and add in silver/white hair at 36. I love me! I grew up with women who placed value on their looks, weight and centering men. I know it pushed me completely the other way but I am very grateful for that.

🍂🍁As a twenty one almost twenty two year old for many different reasons I never thought that I would make it this far from trauma and my mental health to my disabilities and physical health to being trans and queer. I’m still incredibly young but I’m personally really excited to get grey hair and to become an elder within my communities. There is something really beautiful about becoming older with the wisdom and life experience you hold and how you can take care of and pass that down to the younger generations.

@naolucillerandom5280

6 ай бұрын

Yes, as someone who was surprised to have been able to make it to 20 years old, if I get crow's feet and grey hair I'm considering it an achievement, a testament to how far I got.

🍁🍂45 yo here, with the "fortune" of being told I look "quite nice for my age" like it was the ultimate life goal. I really hope younger generations of women embrace life with greater values beyond beauty. Even from the perspective of our bodies, there is so much more we can experience than just the looks, like strength, health, presence, all kinds of pleasure, you name it... Thanks for this video!

My rule of thumb about appearance compliments is this: negative comments should only be about something you can fix in less than 60 seconds, and positive comments should only be about clear choices. Negative comments that are okay: you've got something in your teeth, you've got something on your shirt, your mascara is smudged, your fly is down, your bra strap is out, your dress is tucked into your tights. On the flipside, if someone has dyed their hair, you can say you love it. If you love the makeup or clothes, you can compliment that. If you know that someone has been working to bulk up in the gym or lose weight (not guess, but KNOW, as in they've told you -- people do gain muscle or lose weight for reasons they may not be happy about), you can compliment their progress. Otherwise, be silent.

@gusmonster59

7 ай бұрын

I've gone up to complete strangers and said " I'm not being a weirdo, your tag is showing. Let me tuck it in for you". They are always grateful someone did something about it. I appreciate those who tell my those things you mentioned. It is almost always a stranger and it puzzles my why my friends would let me walk around all day with something in my teeth. 😄

old men wanting young women - eeeewwwwwwwwww

@briskettacos

8 ай бұрын

The manosphere has these guys claiming "men hit their prime later, so it's okay to date younger women," but...their sperm start getting dysfunctional by their mid-30s

@winning3329

4 ай бұрын

But do young women want old men? No!

@warcrimeconnoisseur5238

3 ай бұрын

@@winning3329 Sometimes, yes

@Bunni504

3 ай бұрын

@@warcrimeconnoisseur5238 Most of us don’t.

@Bunni504

3 ай бұрын

@@winning3329 A majority don’t.

I love every one of my wrinkles, to the point where I've posted extreme closeups of them on Facebook. I wanted my hair to turn white but instead, about two thirds of it fell out. If it all falls out, I'll wear hats. There are so many things with which I can ornament my head. I am so much happier now that I don't feel pressured to look prepubescent. If you are going to be concerned about life when you are older, be concerned about strength, flexibility, endurance, balance and organ function. The people who matter would rather you be healthy and happy than pretty.

Loving the skit cast! 😂 Personally I plan to age naturally apart from the hair dye. I went grey early, so there is no way I’m giving that up. However, when it comes to filler, Botox and surgery…that scares the absolute crap out of me. I’ve seen too many horror stories about it going wrong, the worst being necrosis! Even the more mild negative reactions look very painful. Then there is the whole overfilled face syndrome thing. I’ve heard it never truly dissolves or leaves the body. As for anti aging surgeries, well that freaks me out even more!

I wish women would learn from our past generations and stop ripping every other girl apart over her looks. I understand beauty was a sort of currency due to marriage being the only "proper" avenue to obtaining wealth, but those times are thankfully passed. Let's be friends now!!

An anti-aging cream ad came on in the middle of this video. 🙄 It’s inescapable.

@moonwort333

7 ай бұрын

I was literally looking for this comment, and/or about to leave my own “Did anyone else get an anti-aging ad while watching this”

I’m about to turn 23 in January, and I have had an extremely stressful life. The affects of stress on me are pretty major- for one I have a permanent chronic illness that is often correlated with stress, and I have REALLY DEEP wrinkle lines on my forehead. There are also little lines in between my eyes from where my eyebrows were furrowed. I have pretty pronounced crows feet at the corners of my eyes, and there are wrinkles at the corners of my mouth. I also have really big eye bags. I don’t look 40 or anything, but I definitely look older than I should 😂 asking questions to poke at peoples’ ages is rude af. You don’t know what’s going on in their life, so quit judging them for aging naturally!

the importance of just not talking about bodies at all unless that person brings it up is huge. like i have no interest in talking about how much weight you've lost. you can tell me about your workouts or a fun new recipe but i do not want to talk about numbers... 🍂🍁 bodies change, bodies age. it is a blessing.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

100% with you! Like it's cool if people are hitting a fun fitness goal or enjoying their new-found strength or something, I celebrate that stuff, but when it comes to numbers/weight loss/calorie counting etc. nope - that's not empowering, that's a whole other area (which I'll be getting into next week)

The Anxiety over aging and becoming irrelevant and worthless in the eyes of the world and as a consequence in our own eyes is a painful burden to bear, all women come to understand this when they age and I thank you for making this video. We are not alone on this and just wanna make sure I live my life and see my body as a temple and a vessel capable of letting me experience life to the fullest extent, body neutrality has certainly changed my view of how I see myself relative to the world that surrounds me, I wonder if the world will catch up to the fact that fitting in arbitrary standards only makes us all unhappy, I hope people in our lives sees us for more than just how we look but how we make a difference in their lives like they make in ours 🍁🍂🍁🍂

I got my first gray hair when I was 12-13. I got people offering to pluck it out for me, but I refused bc I actually loved my gray hair! At the time I was obsessed with Tim Burton's Sweeney Todd movie, where Johnny Depp has that shock of white hair over his forehead, and that was exactly where my gray hair was! I called it my Sweeney Todd hair. lol Now I'm 28 and have several gray hairs in various spots, and I still won't let people pluck them out when they offer (bc yes, they do that, it's weird). I love your comparison to glitter! I think that's how they look on me, which is part of why I like them so much^^

I’m about to turn 43 in less than a week. I’ve never had anything done to my face at all. I’ve never had Botox, never had filler… I’ve never even had a chemical peel. I’ve never had fake lashes or brows. I stopped dying my hair almost 2 years ago and started letting the gray hair I do have grow out. I use sunscreen every day, I use Tretinoin every night and I don’t drink or smoke cigarettes (I do partake in cannabis occasionally lol). I feel like I look pretty good 🤷🏻‍♀️ I do wear makeup because I like makeup. I’m saying none of this to brag…. Women can do whatever they want to feel beautiful. No judgement here. I say this because I want women to know that you DON’T HAVE to do these things if you don’t want to!! You can age and be beautiful at the same time. You don’t have to follow trends, you don’t have to be younger looking than you are. Screw it! If someone doesn’t like the way I look that is their problem, not mine. I’m just done letting society tell me how I have to look or that my worth lies only in my youth or how young I look. Life is seriously too short to spend so much time and money worrying about something that happens to every single one of us. You’re beautiful the way you are, however old you are, gray hair and wrinkles or not. Get work done if you want. Don’t if you don’t want to. Be true to yourself, loves ❤❤❤

The first time someone said I looked tired, it was an office manager (yes, a man) I was only in my mid-20's. I wasn't tired. I just hadn't worn makeup that day.

🍂 That fall metaphor was absolutely lovely, swell video as always!

I love your content. I love the holiday decor. I love your elegance. I love that you stand up to all the bs out here in this whacky world. It means a lot! Happy Holidays!! ❤

thank you for the gumption. I needed that 🍃🍂

Thank you for another great video 🍂🍂

Honestly thank you for the videos you make, I normally don’t comment but you are really an incredible person :) I hope you make many more people just as happy

This was lovely! Thank you!

Thank you so much for this video. I am a 48 year woman who is dealing with some nasty menopause issues and also who feels totally invisible these days. I can’t find a part time job due to being older and also having kids, even though they are 17 and 23. Things feel grim a lot of the time. Love Justine Bateman, BTW. She is awesome.

I’m glad you add visual aids with show clips. Also, the WORST effect on my self-confidence is what others have said about people. It always made me think “I don’t want them talking about ME that way!😢😢” But now, I just think “oh… don’t trust that person’s opinion, they only care about what people look like..” lol Since I caught you early, I’ve always wondered. Does Brandon watch your videos? How does it make him feel hearing you talk about issues that men are adding to? Does he help you conceptualize? Is it eye-opening for him? As someone who has been with a partner 8+ years (and creator as well) it would be hard for me not to involve my partner in EVERYTHING I do. And I can imagine the conversations yall might have.

@BryonyClaire

8 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh I talk Brandon's ear off all the time about my video concepts, findings, and people's responses (normally the rude ones to see if I was off base). He gets caught off guard about just how bad things are (like with the AI prawn stuff I've covered, the victim abuse in relationships) but as a lot of the stuff I talk about, I've lived through, he's been there too, to support me and SEEN just how bad things are and how deeply I've been affected, so he is very supportive of what I'm doing. When it comes to trying to find solutions, he is just as stumped as me with the really ugly side of toxic masculinity, he shares with me when his video suggestions suddenly start taking a weird right wing lean, and just how innocuous they are, and how hard it is to get back to the lefty stuff he enjoys as the video suggestions just keep getting worse once! We unpack a lot of stuff around how guys don't talk about "real things" and the issues around uncomfortableness with talking about struggles, they all mostly prefer to stew about things on their own and "deal with things in private" which really has contributed to this perfect hell-hole vacuum to the right wing pipeline any time a guy searches online for help.

Would love to be the chaotic old witch in the woods that kids are scared of but eventually learn I am a granny at heart and they get fruit and baked goods and life advice if they pop by..

I expected to start going grey at 15 like my mum, so I was surprised to not get any until my mid-20s! I was even more surprised to learn that almost everyone gets their first grey strands in their 20s. The way the media showed grey hair, I thought it was a late-30s/40s thing. Just another way they try to make us feel older and uglier than we are. (I love my grey hairs, btw. They're so sparkly!)

Really great take on this; thank you

Meryl Streep is eternally flawlessly beautiful, inside and out.

Love that intro skit! It's about time that women all embrace aging naturally. I read Justine's books and I think she looks amazing! She's articulate, intelligent, personable. How dare anyone tell any woman how they should look or that they are old. Also, on the topic of Family Ties actors, can I also point out that Tracy Pollan looks downright amazing for her age.

Golly!! This episode speaks so much to me!! I am 33, about to turn 34, and I am terrified of all those antiaging paranoia that I see all around me. Great work, keep it up!

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

I just left a comment to username HiYeena about the monster that is AGE 30 in media and society. I’m 53 now and I’ve got thoughts😂

4:20 I wonder if it would help drumming up the fact that stress is one of the biggest inducers of visible aging signs, because three hours of daily skin care sounds hella stressful 🙈 I know in the two years I've been a mother, I've changed a LOT to looking older now with not getting enough sleep etc., but also because it's something I wanted and I find parenthood fulfilling, it's also been among the best two years of my life. Like who cares?? But I will admit, it is pretty restorative as a woman who is constantly bombarded by the messaging that hints there is something wrong with my looks, that my child always reacts with the same joy and love and admiration (and attitude if we're disagreeing about dinner options) to me no matter what I look like. I have hyperpigmentation and I've had both freckles and age spots increasingly since early twenties. I'm never conscious about them with family and friends, but whenever I meet new people I suddenly see them in the mirror first whereas usually I see me first, then take in the specific features. Thanks to a few comments I've had about my skin.

Love your channel so much!!!

I also fully plan to take advantage of my hair going grey to dye it unnatural colors (in my case, it's because I can't for the moment without bleaching it, which I don't really want to do). You know, if I'm lucky enough to get there!

@cayreet5992

8 ай бұрын

Same. My hair is greying (I'll be 50 next year) and it's been very dark brown for most of my life, so bleaching was a challenging thing to do. As soon as it is mostly white (my hair does go completely white as it greys), I can have a lot of fun with different colours if I want to.

The irony of watching this and both the ads were skincare/anti-aging related is hilariously sad to me lol

🍂 I really appreciate this topic. Thank you

when i watched your intro bit, i had accute flashbacks to the many family get togethers we had prior to the “big break” (lots of awful things n behaviour that led to basically all family being blocked for life with the exception of my my parents, my brother n 1 uncle 😅 ). my mum always got attacked by her side of the family and when she got kids we got attacked to. this went so far, that things fell apart for good. words matter, and constantly putting someone down is not smth anyone shouldnput up with, no matter where those words come from. good luck to everyone who still has to sit through hurtful bs like this

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

I’m proud of you for doing that. I cut off my father at age 21 and the rest of his family around 25. I got judged by people around me “but that’s your graaandmotherrrrrrr!” Yes who was abusive and toxic and being a blood relative doesn’t mean people (especially older) can manipulate, control and abuse you. Family are the people who love and support you. Period. I feel so bad for the people too afraid to do the same worried about what others will think of them and live through unnecessary stress or pain. I’m 53 now and reconciled with my dad who truly regrets his actions and loves me as he should have. My parents married at 16 and 19 (because of me!) and he was just a selfish young man. But I still don’t regret cutting off that side of the family. I’m really proud of you and wish you lots of peace!

🍂🍁🪴🌿 Hope your summer is going good, happy Holidays! Sending you autumn vibes from Arizona, US

This was such a good watch. Thank you for saying what many of us aging ladies are thinking ALL THE TIME.

Thank you, this is a really good video. About the question regarding being tired. I get that question a lot, because I work a LOT and I am regularly sleep deprived. Generally speaking, I don't think people mean that I look bad. My eyes are usually more red and I have significantly less energy than normal and therefore make 100% less stupid jokes. As reference, I am currently 38 and people often tell me that I look 28-30, even when tired. Not saying that people don't use this when they mean "you look old", but sometimes they just mean that you look tired and maybe need some rest. All other points from this video ... 100% spot on!

Loved this! 🍂

I got my first grey hair at 16, and I stopped dying it in my 30's. I now have waist-length mostly grey hair and I love it, the silver is so pretty!

Amazing video :D It always makes me sad when I see my mom despairing about her hair going gray but I don't want to sound rude or condescending so I only bring up these issues when talking about a third party

I love how you always speak on the environmental crisis and the patriarchy ❤

Watching this on my 29th birthday as a confidence boost🍂🍁 Been sick the past days, feel a bit better today luckily! It does feel like the first day of winter today instead of autumn, because the trees are starting to look empty. Still the sun is shining and I have the day off. I wish everyone a great day today❤

This is the reason why i hate that young girls are taught from childhood, that they are "pretty". Women get brainwashed into focussing on their appearance so much, that they literally identify with it....only to have it thrown into their face even befor turning 30! I had a guy tell me: wow you look good for your age.....i was 29! and at 34, when I was single again in a new town and dating, a 45 year old guy told me, that i should be happy and thankfull that he es even talking to me, because most guys he knows, wouldn't want a woman my age. I mean WTF? Nature has really thrown a curveball. They made women grow older than men, be more sxually active when older and at the same time, gave men a taste for young girls only. I read a study some years ago at which age women get the most contacted on dating webside. The horrible result was 18! I mean 18! And I bet, if the legal age was 16, then it would be 16! Whats wrong with men??? I see fat old farts of guy run after teenage skirt...and somehow society seems to accept that. Women who age completely normal are mocked, ridicculed and seen as worthless. And I know from personal experience just how much it hurts to realise, that your character, personality, intelligence never mattered. And then, you are "bitter".

thank you for the gumption 🍂

My mum actually went grey when she was eighteen, same with most of her siblings, she dyed it for most of my child hood and stopped a few years ago, I've always kinda wished I got the premature Grey hair gene honestly, si Grey hair isn't always indicative of being old

@ieshjust16

7 ай бұрын

Exactly

I was so confused at the start because to me, "Pick-me-up" means "alcoholic beverage"

🍂🍁🍂🍁 Love your videos so much. You tackle subjects that are always so interesting and they always make me reflect on my ways of thinking. Now that I'm fast approaching my 30s, I'm coming to terms with the fact I'll inevitably age physically as well. I've never felt afraid of aging and always thought I'd be totally zen about it but I admit that as I'm starting to find multiple white hairs and changes in my skin texture, I slowly started stressing about it. Videos like yours help me remind myself that I can still be excited about aging and companies just want to make a profit out of our insecurities.

@phoenixgirl70

7 ай бұрын

It’s so weird and I don’t know where society/patriarchy decided that age “30” was the dreaded age where women apparently fall apart and are no longer young and desirable. I saw a clip in a video I was watching and it was Kylie Jenner stating she was 25 and told Kendall she was 27 and so had a couple good years left and Kendall didn’t really challenge that statement and kinda laughed it off and her problem was that was rude. I can’t stand that family but I thought which such influence how great would it be if Kendall defied and said something positive about women over 30, but nope. I looked my best in my 30’s and only started seeing gravity’s effect on my skin when I turned 50 and hit peri menopause. And that’s pretty great considering my life has been extremely stressful and I had a car accident at 28 that has left me in severe pain along with depression ever since. The pressure on me to get better because I was so young when I had my accident came from everyone and I didn’t have much support. But this 30 bullshit needs to end. And women are still very fertile so that can’t be it. But it pains me to see comments from women saying someone 27 looks good for her age! Or getting Botox for natural lines in their 20’s. It seems more women are falling into it with the super power of social media. You wouldn’t believe how much better life was before it and texting as people are so lonely and don’t know how to communicate especially men with women. Ok rant over. 😂 Just please love your body!❤

@HiYeena

7 ай бұрын

@@phoenixgirl70 I 100% agree with you! Though I do want to precise that I'm not afraid of turning 30 nor do I think it is old. Turning 30 IS a milestone and having a bit of a crisis at the first signs of aging is not abnormal! That being said, it's definitely crazy that so many will waste precious time of their lives worrying about something that isn't actually a problem. So yes! Let us be kind to and love our body!! ❤

I stayed until the end of this wonderful video!🍂🍁My hair is very salt&pepper and I’m embracing my grays, I think my gray hair is pretty cool actually.🍂🍁🍂🍁

I hate that celebrity women (and on a smaller scale regular women) are supposed to look 32 at 50 but without any “help” other than a little skincare and makeup

@theaqua1517

7 ай бұрын

Which is unrealistic. Unless you have super genes or had an excellent self-care.

I really appreciate this perspective. I don't use makeup and I've stopped coloring my hair. I'm only 30 but I've had people make it pretty clear I'm aging. I actually like it because the kind of attention I'm getting now makes me feel safer and more respected rather than like a thing to be used.🍁🍂

It’s crazy that Meryl Streep was only 42 when she made Death Becomes Her. Hollywood doesn’t let women age and we all bought into it.

I'm getting my silver hairs on the sides of my head and I'm calling it my Dr. Strange era because he is 🤤 and why can't I rock my grays the same way!?!!

@ieshjust16

7 ай бұрын

That's cool

🍂 I totally agree, we all just really need to try to uplift each other more. Let people live the way they want to live as long as they’re causing no harm and try to spread a little bit of happiness every day.

“Aging is a blessing not given to many” 🍁🍁🍁

🍂 Great work as usual

I think we all agree Pierce Morgan could use a face lift. Too bad that won’t fix us shrieking in horror when we see his face since plastic surgery is only good enough to fix appearances and not personality, sadly.

New subscriber here!!! My favorite season🍁🍎