I’m an elementary teacher and I had to check my students. The way they immediately ridicule any picture of an elderly person is sad and gross. When they had to nerve to make fun of Maya Angelou, I had to check them. We had a thorough discussion about how the things they were making fun of her for are natural beautiful parts of growing up and getting older. I told them to also think about their grandparents and if they would call them ugly, of course not! They received it so well. Now if only I could get them to stop bodyshaming each other 😭

@dopex89

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad there are teachers like you!

@papina54

Жыл бұрын

Yes. As a teacher too, I did an example with my own family: my parents are in their 70s and the class couldn't believe it. They were impressed that a mom and dad could be that old. I wrote a sentence on the blackboard, and one student even got up to change the 70 in 50 on my back. At that point I stopped and asked what was wrong with old age. They neither weren't able to explain.

@grace-4072

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for being such a wonderful teacher. I am a teacher as well and I will remember this for my classroom!

@m.z1256

Жыл бұрын

thanks for being such a wonderful example for the children

@kateherr2893

Жыл бұрын

When you're a kid in a western area you often don't realize that you're LUCKY if you GET to live to be old.

People say to me, "But you don't look 30!" And I ask them what 30 is meant to look like.

@banxeescreems3337

Жыл бұрын

Dude 30 is SO young!! Wth is with people I’m 29 and that’s just so maddening to me.

@TheLily97232

Жыл бұрын

Doesn't mean that 30 is old. It's just not 18.... maturity wise and physically too

@silentj624

Жыл бұрын

People don't believe me when I say I'm 35. It's weird.

@lilpetz500

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!! on average, jsn't 30 like, right when the tutorial is all over and you get free reign over all the adult life stuff? When we may escape the home rental industry, when we hopefully stop being condescended to. Even in my early 20s, I can say that I can only really want to re-experience my teen years if I could change the resources and means I had to be better. If not, I'm actually staying where I am now that I'm free of the challenges of that era. Ageing is actually cool as heck, and even my face looks much more polished and me, because I don't feel like I have to try as hard to be taken seriously: a friendly, polite adult can actually be taken better sometimes than a teen where they assume it's sarcasm.

@harinu9339

Жыл бұрын

I agree it’s a weird thing to say but isn’t it a bit rude to reply like this to someone who’s just trying to compliment you?

I really don't get why some people judge others for aging everybody does it's natural I really feel bad for celebrities who are ridiculed for appearing older

@dandelionship

Жыл бұрын

I feel bad too, and do you ever think it's because seeing them age reminds people that time has passed? I know when I see images of someone like Kirsten Dunst now, it can be jarring to realise how many years it has been since I first watched Jumanji in the 90s as a kid! But I wouldn't hate on her for doing what we all do, which is aging. Some people can be cruel and unfair, and comments can truly hurt. 🪴 Grow at your own pace lol 💚

@angelaholmes8888

Жыл бұрын

@@dandelionship yeah I think you have a point 🤔

@sherylF5610

Жыл бұрын

Would we even be thinking this way if not for the media, the fashion and beauty industry, marketing, and the pretty people on tv news everyday? I have watched films that are based upon a person's life and in the case of women, the actor who plays the part does not look much like the individual. Younger women with older men is a given. If a celebrity has a female partner who looks older or overweight, or even simply is older tongues wag and tsk tsk. In couples if one is prettier than the other the gossips say "they really could do so much better. " Love, companionship, character... what in the world are these.

@Funeral_Mannequin

Жыл бұрын

It’s “body positivity” until you don’t fit the standard.

Ugh. A coworker asked me my age a few years back, I was 24. She said "oh", as she glanced at my skin, "better start using retinol and eye cream, you'll be 25 soon" like girllllll

@FourthStar

Жыл бұрын

Holy fuck. Like lady, who asked????

@venlaaperi

Жыл бұрын

A friend of mine told me, when we were 17, that we should start using eye cream right then at that age to prevent aging. That was quite something

@gorefieldluvr6921

Жыл бұрын

Reeks of jealousy to me

@alyzu4755

Жыл бұрын

25 is still a baby! ☺️

@citroenboter

Жыл бұрын

Meanwhile I'm 26 and still considered 'baby' at work by so many colleagues. It's wild. Too old to be shiny too young to be taken seriously

What confuses me most is all these women presumably had surgery of kind whether they admit to it or not. They're not aging because they're actively having medical procedures to stop it.

@gabriellegay4097

Жыл бұрын

scarlett johanson is a really good example who wasn’t mentioned on this list, “no signs of aging” but has had multiple facelifts

@loosilu

Жыл бұрын

They're having medical procedures to hide aging, not stop it.

@jwinter6105

10 ай бұрын

I remember reading an interview with a prominent Hollywood plastic surgeon back in the '90s in which he estimated over 90% of celebrities had plastic surgery, and many/most of the surgeons were sworn to secrecy. That was back in the 90s, so we're probably looking at about 100% now. Also, I can tell the older celebrities are the age that they are, anyway - granted they look "great" for their age, however not "younger" (IMO). To me, they still look their age, but like someone their age who's had plastic surgery, Botox, fillers, etc. So, they look "better" than the general population who has not had these things done. "Better" and "younger" are 2 different things (to me, anyway).

@joyfulgirl91

8 ай бұрын

They’re also just not that old.

This trend basically can be summarized as "If you are not a good person, you will be punished by looking old". WTF

@starscreamthecruel8026

11 ай бұрын

It goes back to the line in The Wizard of Oz that Glenda told Dorothy when she said: but you dont look like a witch and Glenda says: Only bad witches are ugly.

@iceunelle

5 ай бұрын

Disney really hammers this home with the princess being beautiful and the evil stepmother/queen/other villain is ugly. It's no wonder people think like this when they're brainwashed from the time they're little kids.

Also classism. Poverty (and the tragedies and trauma that come along with it) ages you. Dental disease and other chronic health conditions take a huge toll as well. This isn’t talked about enough.

@lilpetz500

Жыл бұрын

Exactly this! How can we expect to age slowly and gracefully when we may: - only have access to cheap, poor nutrition - be under ridiculous amounts of stress - are more likely to have to work outside in the elements - not be able to afford skincare, anti ageing products, even sunscreen - probably can't afford treatments or assessment for any health issues we have - sometimes have to experience a lot of grief and loss - may rely more on unhealthy substances to manage the issues Like idk, an aged face can't really tell us anything specific about a person at all. Maybe they never wore sunscreen, suntanned too much, or are just carefree and unbothered, among many other things. It can't even really tell us how old someone is reliably, we all live different lives, and there are skin conditions that affect how skin ages.

@notaperson9831

Жыл бұрын

@@lilpetz500 all of those things, 100%. Grief, trauma and stress really age a person. I’m 30 now. When I was 23 I looked 17, but a lot of awful traumatic things have happened in the last several years and it shows. It has aged me and my loved ones.

@Katie2986

Жыл бұрын

This is the best comment, you are absolutely right!

@Shirumoon

11 ай бұрын

Yes!!! That's why I actually kind of hate people being like "what's wrong with ageing? Your (wrinkled) face tells a history." Well, that history might consist of trauma, poverty and things people are shamed for in this society. Do you really want to wear that openly, making you even more vulnerable? No, those affected by that would do much better if they just fit it. I'm not at all for beauty standards, just trying to reveal a new layer of fucked up here.

@eggi4443

10 ай бұрын

"you're not ugly, just poor" still relevant

The whole concept of a woman "letting herself go" after marriage is hilarious to me. According to some of these people, yeah, I probably did "let myself go" because I recovered from an eating disorder and started doing pole dancing and aerials and put on weight and muscle. I let myself go, and in the process I found myself. (And for the record, my husband is completely supportive of me and everything I do, regardless of my weight/body shape. He loves how happy I am now!)

@DeathnoteBB

Жыл бұрын

I’m convinced men can’t grasp that a person’s body after having kids is NOT a choice. Nobody “let themselves go”, that’s how bodies work. Hell even without having a kid, age brings slower metabolism! People are seriously mad at women for AGING.

@Ineverusemychannel

Жыл бұрын

@@DeathnoteBBI also find it alarming that a post-pregnancy body is seen as less attractive. First of all everyone wants women to get pregnant, how can you hate that we do?? Second, most women don’t look drastically different. Weight can fluctuate but the average woman looks more or less the same with clothes on post-pregnancy as they did before, and if the person who gets to see them with clothes off is dissatisfied they should really consider their role in it and why the body that they chose to service them is less valued after the service.

@deesid4411

Жыл бұрын

@@Ineverusemychannel women can’t win. You shouldn’t let yourself go after having a baby and should work on your body to get it back to ‘normal’, however if you do, why are you so self centred? Why are you exercising and dieting instead of focusing on your baby and husband? It’s ridiculous and awful

@lilpetz500

Жыл бұрын

The idea of people "letting themselves go after high school" gets to me too. Idk, maybe they've gained weight or worry less about the most conventional beauty standards because they aren't LITERALLY A TEENAGER anymore. (So many beauty standards expect us all to look perpetually 18-19) Maybe they stopped spending all their time trying to impress cliques, maybe they're getting a healthier relationship with weight after recovering from an ED, maybe their body needs a break after playing competitive sports for years, maybe they had kids, maybe their body literally just hormonally changed in such a way where it just stores fat differently. The entire concept of someone letting themselves go is literally just shaming people for relaxing, in a world where we're often exhausted if we aren't privileged.

@immkk1125

Жыл бұрын

​@@lilpetz500 I feel like the people who "let themselves go" often look happier and less worried about trivial things like a number on the scale or what someone else thinks of them. I aspire to be them. Sadly tho, I've seen many 40+ women try to fit within the impossible beauty standards and force their daughters to follow them to the t. It's a very sad sight

I was half raised by my Grama, so I definitely spent a lot of time with older women. It’s actually hard sometimes to relate to my younger friends, because they don’t really have a positive view of getting older. We’re in our mid to late twenties and they’re already freaking out about wrinkles and worrying about how makeup would look on them when they’re older. I finally started to get laugh lines around my eyes, and I’m so happy! A sign that I laugh and smile all the time!

@Biracialbaddie

Жыл бұрын

That’s so important having a positive view of aging 🎯

@purplerose7594

Жыл бұрын

Yes I agree! I think one way young adults could see aging is by following people older than them on socials to see different ways of aging (hopefully more realistic ways) outside Hollywood’s strict characteristics if they don’t have those role models around them. Edit: in another comment, someone said they volunteer at a community garden and see and talk to elder women. They are so many great ways when I think about it!

I feel like people who judge others for aging are actually quite "problematic" themselves. Aging is a part of life. It's hard but it's not equal to say that aging automatically leads to not letting yourself go/not taking care of yourself. I don't understand why hyper youthful features are attractive in women. I rather be old, wise mature, soveriegn, independently thinking woman than regressing into living for the approval of others. Double standards are crazy. But the more women who collectively unsubscribe from these agendas they no longer have power to influence anymore.

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

I would love more people to "opt out" of being part of the anti aging movement, but I also recognize how women over 35 are discriminated against, particularly in Hollywood. There's people like Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet who are actively "against anti-aging" (well, Kate kinda, the clip I included of her was from her being in a L'Oréal anti-aging ad) but regardless, the "standards" still exist. The changes need to happen at the executive level, the ones who are casting and choosing to portray only certain people in roles, and not giving opportunities to people unless they "tighten" and "don't let themselves go". Same as OUR attitudes need to change away from values based on attractiveness bias to be on a person's actions, ethics and impact instead - it's a multi faceted thing and I applaud people who are trying to fight it, they're in a losing battle until bigger changes occur

@cyanobacteria2.0

Жыл бұрын

​​@@BryonyClaire So true. Thanks for insightful content! Keep up the great work! 👍🏽

@xo9276

Жыл бұрын

Seriously, like what alternative is there to aging? Just die young?

@Funeral_Mannequin

Жыл бұрын

It’s so weird how people will be like “looks don’t matter ☺️” and then shame people who they don’t like for how they look. The person you’re insulting won’t ever care but someone else might and it sends the wrong message. Fuckin hypocrites.

@insertnamehere6434

11 ай бұрын

>why hyper youthful features are attractive in women Babies, that's why. The younger the woman, the healthier the offspring (in most cases anyways). Age old concept that's actually backed up somewhat by studies. That's I can explain for the men's side of things, not quite sure about women, but seeing how we pressure others into these ideals, I think we got it from them. Not my opinion btw, just answering the question.

I remember when Madonna turned 40 and the media and everyone else was making this insane deal about how incredible she looked at such an apparently old age. I'm now 41 and so annoyed at how this is still a thing.

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! She's been under such intense scrutiny for the way she looks, who cares that she's managed to remain relevant for 40 years in an industry where its hard to do that for 1? Same as she gets shamed for "dressing too young", I didn't realize clothes came with an age limit attached...

@JuliaShalomJordan

Жыл бұрын

Yes! 😖😖😖

@possumpancakes1007

Жыл бұрын

I remember that in regards to Demi Moore in the second Charlie Angels movie. For years I thought she was like close to 60 by the way everyone was talking about how amazing her face and body looked for her age....few years ago I found out she was 40 when she made it.

@starscreamthecruel8026

11 ай бұрын

I remember when she got insanely fit in her Blond Ambition Tour? She was super lean and muscled. Looked fantastic and all they could say was: Well she looks less feminine now because her figure is too streamlined. She cant win.

I hate when people look at someone and say "Wow, she doesn't age!!" and I'm like....yes she does 😂 She ages like someone with no financial stress and money for the best skincare. Also, what happens when they do start showing age?? They aren't worthy anymore?? According to society, yes 🙄 it's especially annoying when the person is like under 35

Maybe his is too pessimistic, but I've developed the attitude of assuming that celebrities who haven't had a scandal (yet) are just better at hiding their problems than most. They have a friend in the press, are very good at keeping their mouth shut, and have enough money to hush up anyone who might find their dirt. It means that when someone inevitably gets outed as a homophobe, goes to jail for fraud, or has their sex dungeon exposed, I'm never really shocked or disappointed. It's not that I think everyone who's in the public eye has skeletons in their closet, some people maybe are just generally good or at least boring, but I never ever just default to them being a perfect specimen of morality. There's also this weird double standard where womens' goodness is only valid if they're also beautiful, but mens' well-known bad behavior or evil deeds are easily excused if they're good looking. FFS just look at the hordes of women who tried to defend Ted Bundy just bc they thought he was hot, or the frat boy rapists who barely get a slap on the wrist bc it would be such a shame to lock up an attractive boy-next-door type.

@Jane-oz7pp

Жыл бұрын

I guarantee Beyonce kicks puppies or something.

@eveningstar8581

Жыл бұрын

@@Jane-oz7pp know that Beyoncé is an actual satanic demon so there ya go!

@casandra0

Жыл бұрын

I remember people going gaga over some pretty woman’s mugshot lol or that mugshot that got some guy a model contract?? Crazy.

Reminds me of Paul from S Club 7 (who sadly passed away earlier this month). The group announced a big reunion tour and did some press conferences. A lot of comments were made about how Paul had gotten “old” and “ugly” and “fat” because he doesn’t look the way he did in 1999. He didn’t even look bad - just like a normal mid 40s guy. Anti aging culture is toxic af.

@disgruntledmoderate5331

Жыл бұрын

I vaguely remember S Club 7!

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

Oh ouch, that's sickening. People really are expected to stay in this frozen time capsule below 25 forever otherwise they're a "failure"... a failure to who, sorry?

@LoveAndSnapple

Жыл бұрын

Now I have to rewatch all of S Club in honor of Paul. 😢

@FourthStar

Жыл бұрын

Like S Club 7 once taught me: Don't stop, never give up Hold your head high and reach the top Let the world see what you have got Bring it all back to you!

@twiggledowntown3564

10 ай бұрын

I don't think I ever saw that, but that was so uncalled for of them.

This is why it’s so important for ppl to put their phones down and look at the real people around them. People on social media and in Hollywood will never look like real ppl. I volunteer at a community garden and I’ve gotten to meet many wonderful elders and not only are these women wise but they are so beautiful. And I could never imagine calling them anything but beautiful for the things that just prove they’ve been on this earth for a while. As someone with a baby face I look forward to showing aging cuz I get mistaken all the time for a student and I’m a full grown teacher 👩🏾‍🏫

I always think of my friend who passed at 18 when people freak out about aging… it’s a privilege to age. There are many people who never get the opportunity to get a grey hair or a wrinkle because they die before they can. Whenever I think about how I might lose my hair, I remember that she will never have the opportunity to have thin hair. It’s important to remember stuff like that when you freak out about aging, not because you should feel guilty and like a horrible person, but as a reminder.

It's annoying how people comment on other people's looks before commenting on their personalities and talents... Like? I constantly have to tell my mom that there's more to ppl than how they look and that the reason they look the way they do is because they're rich and can afford surgeries and pay teams of ppl to help them with nutrition, etc... It shows the societal conditioning of how girls and women see others. Insecurities play a BIG part in that

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

There is so much conditioning about creating insecurities in girls from infancy that to "age" is to be a "bad person" - you can no longer be a Disney princess if you have wrinkles, only the "baddies" have them, unless you're a fairy godmother, that's the only option. It's a very hard thing to unlearn when so much praise is put on surface level stuff

@rebeccassweetmusic4632

Жыл бұрын

@@BryonyClaire So much of that is embedded in us as children which is why fairytales are told to us as children because they're kind of like the stepping stones of how people navigate the world and how we all see ourselves

Honestly, my entire game plan for ageing is: 1. Drink lots of water 2. Moisturise my skin often 3. Stop worrying about my expressions and just use my face however it naturally moves 4. Just vibe with however my face changes over time it shouldn't be an impact on my character 5. Constantly try to get wiser and not stop learning. Ever.

@phoenixgirl70

Жыл бұрын

I’d just like to add SPF is important. Protect against skin cancer. The sun is really the worst thing for your skin unprotected. Some moisturizers have it included but should be at least spf 25. Otherwise I’ve got the exact mindset as you and I’m 52 and very happy with myself! 💕

@starscreamthecruel8026

11 ай бұрын

Add listen to your favourite music and move your body to it. Thats natural exercise and thats a mood booster :) Cortisol, the stress hormone is the real enemy because it causes all kinds of problem. Feeling relaxed and happy is your body's natural way to countering it.

I think it's also important to point out that chronic illness and mental illness, trauma etc can physically age a person too. Puffiness, wrinkles, loss of skin elasticity, etc. So when people make fun of aging like this they're also inadvertently shitting on people who have "aged" traits due to illness, too. Like I have arthritis, have since I was 25 and sitting in the doctor waiting room, all the grannies also there look at me, wondering if I'm in the wrong place. Because "aging" traits aren't just for the elderly. We only think they are because they generally OCCUR largely that way. But by demonizing them, we further demonize disability and take an ableist perspective in addition to an ageist one.

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

I completely agree! I've spoken about this in another video (we care about your mental health but only if you're pretty, and talked about the ableist language in pt 3 of my 2000's series) and the issue of representation there and how ableist things are. There's so many things which impact how someone "shows signs of aging" and it's basically classism that people are using here, since living in poverty, living in a polluted area, not having easy access to food/medical/dental etc all impacts how you live your life in a survival mode, that will all show on how someone looks, too

i always think about the fact celebrities have so many more outlets to relieve stress, not only that but generally less stress than the working class. money to keep their health and body top tier etc. i dont think the fact that they’re “unproblematic” affected how they aged. its the lifestyle mostly. which is also classist in a sense.

@gabriellegay4097

Жыл бұрын

They also literally get paid to worry about how they look, plenty of time and money for personal trainers procedures etc

Tom Cruise is the foil to this concept I think. He fits most people's criteria for aging gracefully and he's a real monster lol

@kathleensavoy1736

Жыл бұрын

He's also had enough plastic surgery to pay off several surgeons' student loans ;)

@TheJadedJames

11 ай бұрын

He also has a career that requires he be in really good shape all the time.

Since I had a childhood full of surgeries due to a drunk driver plowing into my parents' car when I was just 10 months old, I thought that I'd end up dead on an operating table before the age of 21. So the fact that I've made it to 45 is absolutely surprising for me! I'm actually proud of every gray hair and wrinkle that I see. I even think my wife has become more attractive over the 20 years we've been together. When you reach the age of 20, you've lived longer than *half* of the whole of humanity! No one should be ashamed of getting old. You should be damned proud to have survived as long as you have!

"you're a good person, therefore your body is doing xyz" has its roots in eugenics. there's so much moralization when it comes to abled vs disabled bodies, aging "well" or not, etc. thank you for the thoughtful video!

It just seems like a classic symptom of the halo effect (since youth=being attractive in society, generally speaking). Saying that good people age better just feeds into the assumption that people who age at a normal rate or don't age in a way that's deemed "acceptable" are aging this way because they're actually horrible people deep down, and so "old looking" or "ugly" people are "evil". Also, it's like people forget that aging a certain way has more to do with genetics and how well you take care of yourself. A terrible human being can moisturize, eat healthy, exercise, and wear sunscreen, and someone who is kind and compassionate can go out with no sunscreen, eat junk, and never moisturize. Plus, plastic surgery and botox are things that can help with aging too. It has nothing to do with morality.

Thank you for talking about this! I am a very slow ager. I get asked about it constantly, as if it’s an achievement. I admit, it is fun when people my own age and younger try explain to me how much better it was back in “their day“ though. But, looking young is not always beneficial. Yes men treat you better. But, sadly, other women can really hold it against you and treat you like you’re doing something wrong, really biased against you! I am quite old. I have also had a fulfilling but incredibly stressful life. I spent much of it working as a Paramedic, doing 80 hour weeks running an EMS station as a Paramedic captain, and raising 4 children as a widowed single parent. I have anxiety to the point where I have had Takotsubo cardiomyopathy. I’m now a nun and I have… other problems. Nonproblematic?! Not me. So what is my secret? Genetics. That’s it. There’s no point in praising people for aging very slowly, or for holding that against them and calling them fake. People age at different rates. Black peoples skin tends to age much slower than white peoples skin. Native Americans and east Asians tend to have a very slow rate of hair loss compared to everyone else. That hasn’t done much to get rid of racism though, it’s just created envy on top of it. Taking care of your health is important, but it’s not magic. We’ve all known the person who brushes their teeth 3x a day, but has cavities and dental issues, and then the other person who brushes once a day and has zero cavities or dental issues. The first person isn’t failing. The person who can eat absolutely anything they want all day and stay slender. Those of us who don’t have metabolism’s like that get looked on as If we are gluttons, but we are nothing close. It’s just genetics. Fashions change, and you can only hope your genetics are what is in during your lifetime. Imagine living in the 17th century wanting desperately to look like a goddess of the painter, Rubens, eating yourself into a frenzy and being unable to gain weight! Lol The industries against genetics: diet industry, beauty industry, hair replacement etc. rely on us all trying to achieve a particular look.

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

There are so many factors that come into how people age, look, everything, genetics is such a huge part of it but the thing is, the multi billion dollar anti aging industry can't "change" that, but they can exploit the insecurities they keep giving us. We're taught as women to be in competition with eachother when it comes to our looks, so it doesn't surprise me that you've been treated badly by women but it does sadden me :(

@catalinagatita

Жыл бұрын

medicine can level a lot

@mallisaunders4565

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I am 45 and I am also slow to show age. Again, genetics. On the flip side... I got stopped repeatedly and told to go to class when I worked at a 6-12 grade school in my mid-20's and looked like a little girl until I was a Sophomore in HS. It's not all sunshine and roses folks.

@eveningstar8581

Жыл бұрын

Saffron Sugar, you my dear are an absolute treasure! I have so so much respect and admiration for the life you've lived! Your outlook, the way you articulate yourself, your faith, it all just speaks to me so! You know how you come across people in life and you just go man! I'd love to sit down to coffee with this person and just pick their brain! You are that person for me! 💕🙏🏻

Goodness, this reminds me of my favourite compliment as a kid that I always got told wasn't a compliment, except by my grandmother, "Your wrinkles look beautiful". I always genuinely thought wrinkles were so beautiful. They are unique to every individual formed by their life, the joys and the struggles. I have always been worried all the antiaging propaganda would take it away from me (not yet thankfully)

People are way way too obsessed with aging and what a certain age “should” look like. And no one wants to hear it but young people have such a distorted view of themselves and other people, the things coming out of their mouths if you're like 30 or up is hilarious but also very sad and telling. I'm 33, gen z reacts to me as if my life is over and i don't matter anymore but 30 and up folks just shrug their shoulders and keep it moving. It's present in all generations but there's definitely a marked difference in those that grew up glued to instagram and tik tok. Again no one wants to hear it but gen z is superficial as heck, everything is important but at the same time nothing matters 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ you hate judgment but call everything “cringe” lol. yall are gonna get older, your social media lingo is nonexistent offline, and just like the rest of us you're replaceable. Why not enjoy your short time with people you love instead of worrying about how others look/dress/sound?

@LoveAndSnapple

Жыл бұрын

I wish I could like this multiple times!!!

@Jane-oz7pp

Жыл бұрын

​@Danielle K that is a symptom of the problem OP was speaking to, though

@Biracialbaddie

Жыл бұрын

It’s sad that woman believe they can only be happy and enjoy life if they look young and beautiful. people associate being old with being miserable and sad and bitter and I think that’s the imagine we need to change. we need to see older people living their best life and taken care of themselves mentally and spiritually so that they don’t feel defeated by life and carry around too much unresolved trauma and we can look forward to growing old and not dreading it.

@eveningstar8581

Жыл бұрын

Thank youuu!! I'm a 41 millennial with a 23 year old gen z daughter. I cannot agree MORE with what you just said! Girl, listen lol! Do I hear you about the thirties ok!! The twenty somethings see you as "old" but the older folks more or less shrug you off as a "young blood"! So it's like excuse me lol where do I fit?! And also, umm I do exist, too lol! I was jumping for joy to turn forty lol! Just remember that the only puzzle piece that matters is how you fit with yourself! I just wanted to share with you that I get you 💕

@glupik1234

Жыл бұрын

A lot of those kids will learn that their twenties are just what they are - a decade. It's long and it's not long at all. Worshipping the youth creates a society without memory. Most of generational divides, especially between close generations are manufactured and make no sense outside of twitter. I'm not even out of my twenties yet but I often feel looked down on for not being 22

I do think Miss Dana makes a very strong point. Having a stressful life partner, and children can definitely age you fast AF. The key to happiness really is limiting stress.

@melodramatic7904

Жыл бұрын

It's just depenmds on your genes. I've been married for 9 years and have 2 young kids and yet people think i'm in my 20's when I'm actually 41. It's the same for my mother and brother. Edit to add that rich people's access to plastic surgeons and the best dieticians are also a major factor.

On the one hand I wanna say "We don't all age like thin white women, you guys get too little baby fat, get more sun damage and wrinkle way quicker! Karma for being the beauty standard I get held up against all my life! ". On the other hand, that's just competing against other women in a patriarchal set up and playing into the ageism of it all. I have a lot to still work through.

I'm Asian and am in my mid 30s. I do frequently hear alot of people say I look younger than my age... My secret... I am an introvert with no need for social approval, no tiktok account, an fb account used only to update friends and family that I am alive, no desire for likes and subscribes, not emotionally attached to anybody, no kids, no partner, just some friends, no smoking, no drinking alcohol, rarely used makeup, only started using moisturizer 3 years ago. Just living a very mediocre life. So yeah long story short, TLDR; genes and a choice of reducing as much stress. There's pros and cons and that's entirely up to an individual.

@user-es7ui5mc1m

Жыл бұрын

okay, so? like not to be dismissive, but even if people are stressed and look their age or older, so what? you're still kind of acting like you're "better" for intentionally taking steps to make yourself look younger. But you really don't have to, nobody should care! (also some people are stressed due to factors they cannot control, not everyone can eliminare their stress by deleting facebook)

@loverrlee

Жыл бұрын

I can relate. I am also an introvert with not much of a social life, very few friends, and I spend most of my time shut in indoors (but when I do walk my puppy I make sure to wear sunscreen every day). I try to eat healthy, and exercise fairly regularly, but I’m by no means the healthiest person (I eat a ton of fruits and vegetables but I also eat plenty of junk food too and do not workout every single day as I take rest days). I also almost never wear makeup (honestly mostly out of sheer laziness) but also because makeup ages you which is something not many people know. But I will wear makeup for special occasions so anyone looking at my social media might assume I wear makeup everyday because they only see posts from those special occasions when I’m wearing makeup. I too have a “baby face” and was told I look 21 when I turned 30, but part of me longs for the day I can just be an “old lady” and not have to worry about my appearance anymore because it’s such a waste of energy caring about how you look and what others think of the way you look lol

@loverrlee

Жыл бұрын

@@user-es7ui5mc1m I don’t think they are trying to come off that way at all. I think they are just sharing what they do to maintain their youthful appearance, which are all good things I do too. I don’t think there is anything bad about mentioning what works for them?

@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx

Жыл бұрын

I feel you there. No stress no sex , no kids husband no alcohol drugs etc. I work out and diet like not tomorrow, I sleep well and good pay job with an amazing skin care. I’m 36 lol and ppl still asking me if I’m ok and lonely lol Are u kidding me? I’m 2 busy looking good and living mediocre life with lots of rest. 😂Why would I be sad?

Thank you for covering this topic!! I had a terrible OCD flare up for over a year (diagnosed) when I was 24-25. I couldn’t focus on my studies because I was so fixated on whether I had Nasolabial folds. It was so all-consuming that I wanted to unalive myself. So glad I got on my Antidepresant and I’m in a much better place now.

I look younger than my age (29) and I recognize a lot of people tell that as a compliment. They want me to “expose my secrets” and when I tell them it’s because of genetics, that my family also look younger, they feel disappointed. I want to point out that Lorry Hill actually serves me well. I didn’t know the extent of cosmetic surgeries that celebs go through. I thought that they are inherently beautiful and have the “perfect facial features” (which they are gorgeous without surgeries). Nobody has to reveal themselves but some celebs are hiding the work that had been done to them while shaming others for having procedures. Some of them sell the idea of beauty that can’t be attained through personal care products.

@eveningstar8581

Жыл бұрын

Thank youuu! Lorry is out here doing good work! I myself commented about Lorry being portrayed negatively, too! Lorry is literally saving people and their lives

@ravenonthewindow

Жыл бұрын

@@eveningstar8581 I love her 😭

@DeathnoteBB

Жыл бұрын

Yeah people really can’t accept how big a role genetics plays in looks. I have great skin and hair, and yeah, it’s probably just genetics. I don’t do any special routines or use expensive products. It sucks that it’s just a lottery what you look like and some people will hate you more for things you can’t control.

I have to say that I think that Lorry Hill was portrayed unfairly! She is out here doing good work! So many people in the real world, compare themselves constantly to celebs, influencers, public figures. Lorry is actually showing them that not even famous people look like themselves. Every woman that was shown as aging like fine wine has had work done. Be it full on plastic surgery, fillers, Botox or laser treatments, they've had extensive help! For whatever reason even in today's world, the regular people consistently forget that! Literally nobody that is a famous person naturally looks like that and have help achieving their look. So people like Lorry help to make the normies feel better about comparing themselves to not natural people. She has never and never will ever shame someone for getting any work done of any kind. Nor would she ever try and tell a completely natural person that they have to get anything done to be beautiful! She lifts the veil of comparison and it's really a wonderful thing!

I agree with everything you're saying. At the same time I also put a lot of energy into maintaining the genes that make me look youthful. That's because, as a single 44 year old woman with zero support system, I only have so many more years before I'm thrown away by society, and I don't have enough money saved to retire on just yet. So I need society to think I'm 10 years younger than I am for a little while longer, so I can continue making money and continue to be regarded as a serious candidate for positions with growth potential. Patriarchy is a b i t c h; I'm just using its rules to my benefit until I can't anymore.

I feel like this draws from the old fairytale trope where people outside shows weather their good or bad. Like ugly and/or disfigured people are often the villain.

I’m hoping for jowls to come into fashion 😅 I’m 37 and recently started seeing signs of aging that make me feel bad about myself. Luckily grey hair has started to come into vogue! But the rest, people aren’t so ready to accept. I am unwilling and unable financially to get surgery, but being treated differently, I’m assuming because I look older, has been a bit of a bummer to come to terms with.

@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx

Жыл бұрын

Aww 🥰

@livthedream5885

Жыл бұрын

It is a bummer, and it comes from both men and women. I’m sixty, but feel like a kid most of the time. It’s strange coming to terms with aging, but others assumptions are what make it painful.

I am an asian that raisined. And I hate myself for not aging like an Asian "should". It caused a lot of self esteem issues

Given how much pressure is placed on women in regards to how they look. I am not about to criticise a women for seeking out anti aging solutions. I will, however, rip into people (usually men) who criticise a woman due to how see looks or if she is engaging in anti aging solutions.

@antithoughtpolice7497

Жыл бұрын

I mean this isn't a woman thing. Everyone shits on DiCaprio,calling it "Twink death" I think.

my mom is very problematic and never really aged until she hit about 50. this is the "Halo Effect" pure and simple. But if my mom can tell me that she is sorry I was born and would have me sit in the car to cry when I was 6 or 7 because she simply did not want to hear my tears or comfort me, I mean it's either fully unrelated or a rock-solid outlier lmao. I can count every hug she ever voluntarily gave me because they are in the single digits. actually it's only one. just one. I also have not aged at the expected rate. I am 32 with nary a wrinkle or stretch mark, and I'm a traumatized person (obviously). I do not see myself as particularly special or do anything particularly different to everyone else. I think you can just chalk it up to whoopsie poopsie of the natural world. aging is great and beautiful and above all else means you have the tremendous fortune of not dying young could do without the arthritis, though

You can do all that healthy stuff, but we still age. There’s nothing wrong with it. Also, these people definitely age. Paul Rudd look his age (in his 50s). I don’t understand people who don’t notice men aging when they age waaay more than the women they criticize for aging. I think women in their 40s are gorgeous and I’m looking forward to that decade I’m edging towards now.

@JDMimeTHEFIRST

Жыл бұрын

I’m not planning to birth children, but men tend to let to let themselves go without even havigg by pushed a human out of their genitals like their wives did. Also, their wives are doing 70% of the child rearing while working full time while they watch TV and only do 30% after not having pushed a human out of their genitals. Seems unfair for them to judge

@ninak1976

7 ай бұрын

I agree , Paul Rudd isn t at all so youthful, he looked his age allready in Avengers: endgame

In agreement with Saffron Sugar, genetics plays a huge part in how/when you age. I also look young for my age, have for many years, but I am in my latter 50s, it will end one day. My dad and also his mother both looked young for many years, so I guess I got that gene, too. But it's certainly not the main focus in my life. The aging thing is still primarily aimed at women, although it seems we aim it just a little more now at men, too...but still a double standard. Women get judged so much harsher than men. And age 35 being old? Oh my.....

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

There's beauty standards for men too, for sure, but much less "stringent" in comparison to women on the whole (except in the gay community from what I've seen from gay content creators I follow). Men's standards still typically fall into "don't go bald" and "fighting grey hair" as opposed to nit picking every pore of a woman's face and doing silly things like "the elbow check" that women get. I fully agree with you - 35 is not old and it's kinda scared me seeing how many people think it is!

@Jane-oz7pp

Жыл бұрын

I'm 29, do basically no skincare and still get asked for ID whenever I buy booze. I'm also one of those annoying people who has neglected their teeth but still has fine teeth (a lil yellow I guess). The irony of it all is that I'm fine with aging, I can't wait to look like one of my role models, an older, wise, strong woman who taught me the value of love and happiness over something as arbitrary as "beauty"

@Jane-oz7pp

Жыл бұрын

​@@BryonyClaire One of my best friends is 34 and she's literally hotter than she's ever been. It's absolutely insane to me that people think we "hit the wall" at 30.

I think "aged like fine wine" doesnt mean "didnt age at all" I think it means they aged well and got more beautiful

@Paroex

Жыл бұрын

It did, at one point in time. Maybe 5-10 years ago. But more and more it's been co-opted to instead mean "didn't age at all".

And people don't realize that celebrities (especially women) are pressured a lot more to appear a certain way for the public

I grew up hearing that I smiled too big, or frowned too hard at people. Because showing emotion is bad, and "you'll get lines early!" I smiled too much at my wedding, my eyes are crinkled in all my photos. My baby "ruined" my body, but it's stronger and healthier than it has ever been in my life. My tattoos that I got because they're beautiful artwork on a canvas that society has always said is ugly, are "scars that I'll inevitably regret when I'm old and wrinkly." I'll take being ugly if it means I can be this happy, thanks and stfu

My grandma is 75 and recently got some cosmetic procedures done, and as I live with my grandparents I was helping her while it was healing. It just doesn't seem worth it, and it's honestly a little shocking because now she looks younger than my mother, who is 56 and has just about every "problematic' or "ugly" sign of aging.

@ariadnameza6594

Жыл бұрын

You reminded me of my mom’s rhinoplasty. She got it for medical reasons but still has been trash talking about my nose and by extension hers (since it’s identical) my whole life . After she got it she wouldn’t stop comparing hers to mine and even my dad jumped in on how much of an inconvenience it is aesthetically. Ngl with all their comments I’ve been thinking I should get it, and seeing this I guess that thought will become an urge as other parts of my body stop looking as youthful, how sad.

@laneybug3592

Жыл бұрын

@@ariadnameza6594 Oh my goddd, that's awful! Your mom is treating you terribly, you don't deserve to have her insecurity projected onto you. I'm doing my best to try and become comfortable with aging, it happens to everybody and we shouldn't be trying to circumvent it

I expected to see hundreds of thousands of subscribers when I checked your profile. You did an excellent job covering this complex topic. You’re doing fantastic! Also, Pixie is adorable. Also, some food for thought. Signs of ageing are natural, but oftentimes stress has an affect on our physical signs of ageing. If people are very concerned with the aesthetics of ageing, I truly feel that finding ways to do inner work and _legitimate_ self care go along way. Ie, being a forgiving person, being flexible with oneself and others, learning to flow with life, practicing gratitude, taking care of one’s mind, body, and spirit, having fun, adopting positive mindsets when possible, disengaging with unhealthy behaviours and habits, building healthy systems into our lives that support meaningful connection, passion, fulfilment, etc. all these things go a long way in affecting how our minds function, and how our bodies process emotion, nourishment, environmental stressors, etc. Yes, wearing sunscreen will help protect from signs of ageing, and procedures can cosmetically shift our appearance, but so will keeping one’s telomeres strong. (Telomeres are the caps to our DNA that fray over time due to stress). And there are no things more proven to help that than mindfully reducing multiple forms of stress in our lives. I realise this is SO much easier said than done, because many people are victims of systemic or cultural stressors that can be downright inescapable. But if there is one way to ascend those stressors, it’s in our mindset that only we truly have control over, and accountability for. These celebrity examples have a total leg-up on the rest of the world because they have wealth and more freedom to choose their lifestyles than most of us, that is perhaps the most disheartening element of all this. How, as a society we’re proverbially forced into a continual state of comparison to a small pool of individuals who have access to a different quality and quantity of time, freedoms, and choices than the vast majority of the human population. Anyway, I could go on, because I’m very passionate about this and there’s a lot of complexity, nuance, and layers to this philosophically, biologically, historically, etc., but I’m stopping myself lol. You did a truly fantastic job commenting on this, I loved your video! Thank you!

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! Yeah I have addressed those issues in my previous ageism and mental health videos so I didn't want to re-tread the ground :) but I am fully with you, where you live, pollution, stressors of life and familial/community issues all greatly impact how we "look" on the surface level as it impacts our health ultimately. So obviously, celebrities with their abilities of being able to be "apart from the commoners" with trained professionals supporting them in every which way will show signs of aging in a totally unrealistic way, also with the "tweaks" which get done too

@JediBunny

Жыл бұрын

@@BryonyClaire oh that’s wonderful - this was the first video I’ve seen of yours; I’m excited to watch the others!

One thing I think contributes to this is that all our romance stories are of women in their teens or 20's. I want more romance stories with people in their 50's and 60's. Why can't some 40 year old have a cheeky affair with her boss? Why can't a 35 year old save the kingdom and marry the dashing prince? As we age, we're not just told that we're undesirable, we're shown, through aging out of stories like these.

@iceunelle

5 ай бұрын

I'm 27 and have definitely noticed this. I still love fantasy and urban fantasy books, but I'm definitely getting to the age where it sort of sucks to read about teenagers. I wish there were more stories within this genre about older people. I still love magic and adventure and romance, but it feels weird and cheesy to only read about teens in these stories. Especially since adults would be much more equipped mentally to actually save the world!

Considering how badly you can age when you do hard drugs or plastic surgery: this trend probably won't go away.

Getting old is a natural process, maybe a old face is not beautiful or preety to many, but its definitely warm and sweet, a face which have elements of that motherly nature, a safe place, a smile a hand on head and a hug from that experienced face make u feel safe, like the problems for now have kept a distance from you till you are in that hug or your head in there lap as a child, tge probelms have dossolved and vanished from around you, a old face have maturity, experience and love and soft unsopken touch. Isnt everything so lovely about every age, everything is beautiful u just need eyes. A 40 year old person died and my grandma was like, oh the poor lad he was still so young, u know at first i was like young!?(it was a year or 2 ago) but some incident like this kept coming some dies at 35 she said same, not only she my mom and others too, i reailsed our preception of old is so bad and there is much more grounded and true, a 30 year old hardly have childern of age 5 or 6 or maybe 10, he is still so young he have to work day and night, take care of the family, life as a "adult" have just strated, in old days these ages are considerd young u know why cause childern of age 17 or 15 were not running olsy fans and 'acting' like adults that is why our idea of young now "has become" 17, 18, 19 when its not.

I remember how, in one of Rald Dahls books, he said that a good person always looks nice. And that no matter how big their nose is, or how many wrinkles they have, their goodness will always shine through. He also said that a bad person (even if they have the most perfect face and immaculate hair) will always be ugly.

when you are completely outside of the lookism part of life, the manipulation is a huge glaring tumor that everyone's lining up to walk into. thank you for making this video, I was starting to lose hope that every just thinks that way

I really appreciate all of your videos. They all are so interesting and informative and really make me feel better by myself. Thank you for all your work.

I just discovered your channel and am a new subscriber! This was such a nuanced and interesting view of a complex series of social issues

I was shocked to find out how old Sigourney Weaver is. She not only looks younger than her age, she moves younger as well. She had sort of a cameo in a show from a few years ago and she was dancing. I assumed she was way younger because of how she carried herself. I, myself, am scared of aging. I'll be 35 in a few months and do look younger without any creams or procedures, but I do fear one day looking my age. I also had pressure on myself to get back to my pre-pregnancy body shortly after giving birth. It's definitely all influenced by society and the media we consume.

I take care of my skin, but have noticed some fine lines in the past few years. I'll continue to take good care of my skin and accept the signs of aging. It is what it is 🤙

I’m so happy she mentioned Death Becomes Her even if for a split second. That movie encapsulates vanity and the stress of beauty so well to me. While also serving

"Anne Hathaway never overuses her face muscles" excuse me???? You saw her speaking? Or acting?? She mlre than overuses her face muscles! I swear, that "don't show too much expression" tiktok girl is insane, every single video I saw of her made me physically crings

I used to worry a lot about aging. I seriously considered buying anti-aging stuff in my early 20s. Surprisingly now that I'm freshly 30, I'm so over worrying about it anymore. I won't be thrilled when the wrinkles come, but there's too many more important things in my life and I just don't have the mental energy to stress about my future decline in looks anymore. I'm sure that if I can remain an amiable person, then I can't ever be considered a hag. Most nice folks just get called cute once they're old enough. Until then I'll just focus on my growing family, my friends, and my aspirations. That's enough to keep me plenty busy.

Oh wow, I had no idea you don't have like a million followers, when you mentioned hitting 10.000 subsribers was the first time I looked. (Obv you have almost 50k now ^^) You're incredibly well spoken and your takes are always easy to follow and logical. I'm not a religious viewer but whenever KZread recommends me your content I tend to watch it,regardless of the topic as you always have something new to say! Hope you're having a good day!

I appreciate your list of things to celebrate that aren’t appearance. I’m honestly tired of hearing about people’s looks when I could be hearing about their personality and interests.

Theee people also kinda forget that celebs get so many expensive beauty and face treatments

I feel so sorry for Gen Z. Like every generation of teenagers, you feel immortal like you’re never going to die, let alone age. Previous generations got over it, more or less, but literally staying as childlike and “Forever 21” seems to have these new people in a chokehold. They’re going to lose their minds when more of their favorite people start dying way before their time. Takeoff was only 28 years old. Cameron Boyce died from a seizure at age 20. Once they start relaxing they not everyone is going to make it to the end…maybe they’ll loosen the reigns a little…actually live life…

@Biracialbaddie

Жыл бұрын

Definitely think social media added a extra layer of pressure to gen z since it’s so looks centered so therefore of course they don’t want to age smh they going to have to spend time offline to get over that

@user-es7ui5mc1m

Жыл бұрын

I'm Gen Z and I think you're so right, although it might settle in more if it happens irl (because even if you have a parasocial relationship with a celeb, they're always sort of "unreal" in a sense?) I think my perspective really changed when my dad died (at 57, when I was 20), so nowhere near as young as someone like Cameron Boyce but it was very sudden and unexpected and obviously "before his time" still. It really shifted my perspective on aging and how it's a privilege and you never know what happens. Ironically, I had someone around his age tell me "at least he didn't die young, like when you were still a child that would've been tragic but death is part of life and dealing with it is part of being an adult" - which it is obviously, but don't say this to a 20yo who just lost a parent, geez - while my friends (also gen z) where mostly shocked. But that's very anecdotal obviously.

This was so educating thank you so much!

People forget that lighting and professionally applied makeup can also make celebrities look younger, at least on camera. Many celebrities look much older in person.

I'm so pissed at how people are treating Madonna. She's an Icon and grandma age. Leave her alone

LOVING your final thoughts and suggestions. I'm not afraid of the signs of age. I'm afraid of pain, chronic problems and weaknesses. But I find older women just as pretty/average/unattractive (subjective opinions of mine) than young ones. My mother got me late and she's always been very open about her age, it might have helped my mental image of it.

Great video!! Im 33 and super curious wheter or not I will have many issues with aging. For now it is really not an issue for me personally. Although I have to admit I do find it a little bit difficult sometimes that I don't have the same body anymore as when I was younger. However I have embraced the changes and mentally i've never felt better in my adultlife then at this age. Hopefully the wisdom and happiness will keep flowing. New subby by the way ;).

Hi Pixie! What a good girl you are, helping your mama with her video! Great video, as always! This trend is so disturbing.

@BryonyClaire

Жыл бұрын

She's always helping haha, happiest when the filming is over of course so she gets attention again 😻

@disgruntledmoderate5331

Жыл бұрын

@@BryonyClaire That is the best time- the time for pets.

This video was what I needed FOR MYSELF. THANK YOU for inspiring more self love.

I really really enjoy your videos 💚

Yes, please. As I'm posting I'm a thirty something dude working at school as teacher. My colleagues who are even younger (but I can't distinguish this difference, they all look the same age) are surprised in knowing that I'm not a 20 something...Enhancing the bias ( by living with my parents, taking the bus instead of driving, having no affairs/relationship atm and my preference for being quiet) that my life is less stressful than theirs, while it is not like that!!!

My mom is 48 and she's completely obsessed with aging, even she makes me feel anxious because I don't really worry about getting old (I'm only 19) But I really feel sorry for her and everyone with that mentality because all they worry about it's their looks. And honestly I think my mom looks great, but she has a distorted perception of beauty that she probably got from the media.

That's true and honestly I don't understand how people don't see it

You're doing great! Love your content 🤟😎🤟

This is why I think everyone (but mostly Gen z nowadays) could benefit from either voluntary work or paid work which involves elderly people. I work in a nursing home part time for elders who can't live at home anymore, of course it's not a picture of all elders but a very real part of getting older. My only two grandparents are alive, 85 and bright as day, so in the beginning of working there, it was a huge shock seeing how the patients bodies didn't properly work anymore or that they are disoriented from dementia. But it made me not to be ageist anymore, as "most" patients were/are so lovely, kind, cute and beautiful in their own right which shines through their personality and humanity.

@GravityFallsUp

Жыл бұрын

I gotta say, that would do the complete opposite for me. I grew up under the care of my grandmother and I watched dementia destroy her- it caused her to be so mean and hateful towards me and abuse me, I watched her lose her ability to cook and clean, I watched her no longer be able to be coherent. I- despite only being 15 at the oldest- had to make sure she ate and showered every day because everyone in my family made it MY job even though I’m the person the dementia hated the most. All that did was terrify me even more of aging and I think being around even more elderly people suffering the same thing would trigger me and scare me further. I could see it helping some people, but I definitely don’t think it would help everyone.

I seriously have anxiety about my smile lines and I’m only eighteen. I started to blame myself for not starting an anti aging routine in my childhood or teen years.

I’m 13 but I’m already worried what I’ll look like when I’m older

Loved it! Thank you! ❤

Let women age 🥲

Someone addressed my 26 y/o coworker as ma’am and she immediately shot back “what, do I look 50?” Now I’m 51 and comfortable with being regarded as old. I honestly felt bad that she is already so sensitive about her age. On some level I’m free. I’m not worried about getting old. I am old. I take reasonable steps to maintain my health and well being. But this stage of life is so much more enjoyable than these 20 somethings freaking out about turning 30. It’s not even cute anymore.

Bro this triggered a pet peeve of mine in regards to my mom lol. She has issues with being an older woman and loves making that “what are you trying to say?” joke anytime I refer to her being older than I. And at this point I’m fed up. Like I get the feels, but also, she’s my mf mother, I’m her daughter, she objectively is older than me. It isn’t a bad thing, it’s just an adjective to describe her age in reference to my own. But at this point I can’t use a single synonym to old without bringing a full stop to any convo JUST to make the damn joke. Every. Single. Time.

Yeah I’m sure it has nothing to do with all the money, easy stress -free living , and surgeries they’ve had…

Aging is terrifying and we antagonize what we fear

I loved the Tangled introduction bits, you looked cute too

Thank you! All those celebrities that are celebrated for "natural aging", and none of them has jowls, just perfect jawline and neck. And jowls are literally first sign of aging! It makes us think how the hell I have jowls and 65 or over year old celebrity just doesn't?

I can't believe people people are saying Zendaya is againg like fine wine when she's 26, some people's bones haven't finished growing at that age lol she's still baby

Charlotte Rampling and Jane Birkin both still look very beautiful to me. Especially Rampling, who had those hooded eyes even at twenty. They are outliers though as both have perfect bone structure and I expect put a lot of work in.

Ngl... I love seeing the clips from The Women that you used ❤

There's a campaign in my city going on aimed to deconstruct the prevaling views society holds about elder people. With simple stats it says that qctualky no, old people aren't those amorphous barely human non sexual entities. Old people fall in love and feel desire for their partners, and continue to grow and learn still

Honestly a big part of this for me was hearing my mom and dad constantly rag on their aging appearence. I remember telling my mom how cool and pretty her gray hair looks and how much she tried to cover and hide it because she hated it so much. It made me so sad to see as a young child.

I ❤️ ❤️ ❤❤❤ not having to work. I work around my home, take care of my family. I spent years dealing with a toxic work place, nasty women etc.

I'm gonna be 30 next year. I do wanna continue look youthful and healthy. People always assume I'm 20. I think everyone should age the way they want, whether looking old or youthful. They will will both be beautiful to me no matter what. I just care about being and looking healthy, youthful looking, but having a great personality wins everything.

I'm one of those who lucked out of this. I didn't like myself as a kid, for various reasons. Stuff like: surgical scars, uneven eyes, small eyes. But after learning how to love myself I saw I was so much more. I lucked out because I'm almost 22 and I have a baby face. I look like a kid. My brother said I could pass as a middle schooler sometimes. Expecially if I'm not wearing glasses, my bangs are clipped away and I'm not wearing any makeup. The small eyes and the structured face with lots of emptiness (again the small eyes) make me look like a kid. It's so trippy sometimes. In fact I can't wait to stop looking this hideous today since my new glasses are ready and I can finally see again.

ppl comparing aging to celebs who are rich as fuck and whose whole job is to look good is…. so weird lol

tons of celebs do a lot of small surgeries to get subtle unnoticeable changes. and they use a lot of products. i do believe there are healthy ways to age gracefully. but there should be some mental health warning label on media stuff as it is so fake and unhealthy to compare our situation to it

Pats and Jacks checking each other for face-lift scars.. 😂

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I was hoping people would get the reference!

This video was awesome. You're gonna age flawlessly because you seem like a good person. I have totally not missed the point of this video. Also, your cat is perfect

Told the security guard at my job how old I was a few weeks ago. He was always super friendly before, but apparently he can't talk to me now he knows I'm 10 years older than he thought 🙄 Mind you this man is still about 30 years my senior...

I'm not very far into the video but I did want to add, imo this goes for any aspects of someone's appearance (not just age). I think when someone does something that gets called out, calling out their behavior or opinions or whatever the issue is, is good. Bodyshaming or generally shaming them for their appearance is not. My one big example for this is when Shane Dawson got cancelled, I saw *so* many people make fun of his appeareance (both him "aging badly" and his weight/body) and I just thought... hey, why are we not focussing on the things he's done and said, instead of his weight? I feel like when you shame someone "problematic" for a certain feature (even saying it's a result of their actions and/or thoughts) you are always also shaming anyone who shares that feature but is "unproblematic"

A saw a couple KZread men made a comment about a woman model, saying that she had her time and that she should stop complaining about ageism, to make way for the younger women. I unfollowed them right there. I never understood why older men would be attracted to me and younger women, but I now understand, and it's gross. They are basically saying women are disposable the moment they "age out" of youth in their minds.