Take Back Your Joy from Perfectionism

The influence of perfectionism can be so all-consuming, it can leave us ultimately feeling joyless. One of the biggest manifestations of perfectionism is the pressure it brings and the joy it steals.
If you find yourself constantly striving under the pressure of perfectionism, it may be time to take back your joy.
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  • @phatmike8401
    @phatmike840122 күн бұрын

    Mark. I love you man!!! I am so glad God lead me to you. !!!

  • @AliA-we2uu
    @AliA-we2uu21 күн бұрын

    God bless you and all your Dear ones Mark! Very helpful for me! Can't thank you enough! ❤🙏🙏🙏

  • @sarahray3876
    @sarahray387629 күн бұрын

    This message has been LIFE-CHANGING!!!!!I've cried through it MANY times now. I keep listening to it! I've struggled my whole life with depression linked to ( now I know) perfectionism. THANK YOU!

  • @marieherfert7640
    @marieherfert7640Ай бұрын

    Wow! Really live this. I am going to have fun today! And be thankful!

  • @jessicalove143
    @jessicalove143 Жыл бұрын

    Pressure w/ pressure 😮‍💨 where’s the lie?! Whoever wrote this, I can 100% relate with at this moment. Doesn’t help I work in quality, my job is to ‘check’ what’s wrong 🥲 Lol Mark this is spot on. Perfect timing for the video. Always makes me laugh (the accuracy of this video) and that takes the pressure off 😅☺️. Mark, you overcame, we shall overcome in Jesus name 🙏🏽

  • @tonypino5415

    @tonypino5415

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen! You are a Free(wo)man!

  • @jessicalove143

    @jessicalove143

    Жыл бұрын

    @@tonypino5415 Yasss 😁 love the humor here

  • @_cr8ive_
    @_cr8ive_7 ай бұрын

    This is 100% me....its stolen my joy and now my physical health. Feels like its slowly killing me. It feels like an energetic lack of energy....like a void of supporting energy thats stuck right my Colon area. Burning and shrinking day and night.....its really scary. Been struggling with this issue for 7 years now. 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️😪😪 Please pray for me for a healing miracle. 🙏🏻🙏🏻😪 Bless you if you're reading this.....I am totally exhausted.

  • @stevensrockchannel777
    @stevensrockchannel77720 күн бұрын

    THANKS JESUS BLESS YOU!

  • @fh959
    @fh959Ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @jewishbride5010
    @jewishbride50102 ай бұрын

    Praise God for letting us appreciate the small and mundaine in the naturel, the godly in the supernaturel! I therefore bind to hell every idea one's life has to be perfect before one can enjoy one's life while binding one to enjoy one's life despite lacking to be perfect in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to focus more on what is good and present and binding to hell thinking one is loved more when performing better while binding one to focus more one enjoyment and gratitude than on performance, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone thinking one's life has to be perfect before one can enjoy one's life while lacking to know one can enjoy one's life despite the lack of a perfect life while lacking to focus more on what is good and present and thinking to be loved more when performing better while lacking to focus more on enjoyment and gratitude than performance, in accordance with this word and nehemiah 8:10, philippians 4:11-13, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!

  • @taylorplayer50
    @taylorplayer50 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mark. I love and receive the advice about switching my mindset from "I have to", to, "I get to do this".

  • @EYMmusic
    @EYMmusic Жыл бұрын

    Ah Mark you’re always right on! Helping so many. ❤

  • @Aaron-M00J
    @Aaron-M00JАй бұрын

    When I laugh at my flaws, I tend to do a scoff chuckle instead, like “how silly of me to think about feelings and put pressure on myself.” I end up using pressure to clash with that pressure.

  • @jessicascott8780
    @jessicascott8780 Жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate how you share truth in love! And I made this face 😅 when you said “laugh at your mistakes”. It’s so simple but so good. I tend to be my worst critic. Fix that, fix this. Ohh you lost that again and messed that up again. Gosh, can totally see how always being hard on yourself steals your joy.

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    Жыл бұрын

    So glad that helped!

  • @katiesanders96
    @katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

    Yay! I’m the first view! 🥳 I haven’t seen you in the comments lately, so I figure you’ve been buckled down recording the OCD audiobook (which I will definitely be buying because my chronic illness makes it way easier to listen than to read 😊). Been praying for you in the arduous recording process, Pastor Mark. 🙏

  • @tonypino5415

    @tonypino5415

    Жыл бұрын

    Yer on the ball sister!

  • @katiesanders96

    @katiesanders96

    Жыл бұрын

    @@tonypino5415 😂 Ha ha! I’m OCD about listening to Mark. Seriously. I need to take a little break from mental health content, but it’s soooo hard because Mark is so soothing and humorous to listen to.

  • @logankelley4210
    @logankelley4210 Жыл бұрын

    This is really speaking into my life. Thank you for helping me notice this evil religious spirit is not me but an enemy.

  • @user-xq5ps1mu7n
    @user-xq5ps1mu7n7 ай бұрын

    You are so spot on. I am tormented by all of these 10! And I was just ready to ask if you have a list of these 10 that I could print to help me "get over" these at exactly the time you said: "Perfectionists like lists....give me the 10 things"... God is right on time in pointing me in the right direction. I am so exactly like what you're describing and I don't like it. I will be freed by the grace of God! Thank you for this message!

  • @lauralee6608
    @lauralee6608 Жыл бұрын

    This was a game changing, eye opening video with examples of practically applying change. I bless the lady who wrote you with her life struggles. They could have been my own words. I almost thought I wrote that and just forgot I did. Thank you so much for all you do. You are making such a difference. One thing, Mark, your joyful perspective is what always helped me to see, listen and feel hope that I could heal.

  • @randycryer1214
    @randycryer121410 ай бұрын

    Boy man oh man the perfectionist in person you described is me spit on and it is the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and please pray for me and I’m thanking God for helping me break free from legalistic perfectionistic thinking and bondage in Jesus name amen thank you brother for this video because I know God is speaking to me through you and God bless

  • @daniellestevens5824
    @daniellestevens5824 Жыл бұрын

    This is crazy amazing!! Thank you so much! I’ve listened to this message twice in a row and will again and again. I need to soak this one in.

  • @jeffberezin5716
    @jeffberezin5716 Жыл бұрын

    I can also identify 100% with this letter. Thank you all for your help. At 57 it is time for a change

  • @rishardasamaria
    @rishardasamaria2 ай бұрын

    thank you ❤

  • @RosalindDH
    @RosalindDH2 ай бұрын

    Thank you to the lady that wrote and asked this question for you wrote my life and question also.🙏🏾

  • @Hollyfilly
    @Hollyfilly Жыл бұрын

    I keep revisiting this one a lot. It's super helpful to streamline the intentions for the day. I'm in a season of recessitating my creativity. Restoring fun, working smarter not harder, taking one step, building momentum, vision and gratitude, taking restorative breaks and taking off the pressure. It's counterintuitive to self discipline. When I apply self discipline I rebel 😆. Fun was the missing element to nurture creativity for me. 'Get to ' instead of 'should' or 'have to '. And remembering purpose is also important. There's so much great ministry on this channel, thank you!

  • @jewishbride5010
    @jewishbride50102 ай бұрын

    Bedankt

  • @robertstacey5351
    @robertstacey53513 ай бұрын

    All I can say is thank you brother for your content. love you in Christ.

  • @katieb3929
    @katieb3929 Жыл бұрын

    Such great points! Thank you for the wisdom and such an easy going lighthearted approach

  • @Hollyfilly
    @Hollyfilly Жыл бұрын

    I totally love to write things down 😆. This spoke to me today, I'm in the season to reclaim joy. Thank you 😊

  • @wander570
    @wander570 Жыл бұрын

    This was great thank you so much!

  • @stacythomason9188
    @stacythomason9188 Жыл бұрын

    Oh gosh this is so me. The days I don't I feel so calm. No over thinking.. I have so much energy. I call them good days.. not enough of those. :(

  • @davidbramlett8193
    @davidbramlett8193 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the reminder! I have found myself engulfed in reading and researching about a struggle in my relationship with GOD that I noticed I was checked out. It was harder to remain present. I've done a lot of work to remain present with my family and it's paid off. But I found myself in this deep contemplation. I gained great insight during my contemplation but I know I have a tendency to go above and beyond. I'm reminded to relax. Whatever wisdom, conviction or insight I receive about myself, I won't be able to "perfect" it overnight.

  • @samdung5630
    @samdung5630 Жыл бұрын

    Oh boy!! That's something you don't hear about often in church- joy!

  • @Laura-xt9ch
    @Laura-xt9ch10 ай бұрын

    Wow, this is me, always fixing!!!!

  • @darcyd2680
    @darcyd268010 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Mark!!!

  • @tanypaz985
    @tanypaz985 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you again Mark for everything you share, this is great man, keep up the good work brother, many blessings to you and your family

  • @sullysullivan5800
    @sullysullivan5800 Жыл бұрын

    I don’t know how I fell into this behavior but this is right on the nose.

  • @misconception___691
    @misconception___6917 ай бұрын

    Thanks Mark for sharing your spiritual insights! This video was suggested by Joy whom I met online at Groundwire yesterday. I am quite amazed to discover most of your contents really addresses my condition. I can genuinely relate with what I am going through! I pray this channel will continue to reach out to many youths who needs healings!

  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass53 ай бұрын

    My mistakes go straight to anger, laughter doesn't stand a chance. I haven't had fun for over 50 years.

  • @BanronS

    @BanronS

    2 ай бұрын

    I hope that this podcast has helped you ( as much as it is helping me) to laugh again.

  • @CharlieBass5

    @CharlieBass5

    2 ай бұрын

    @@BanronS I laugh from time to time especially when I'm not thinking 🤣. From what I understand it's the distance between my head and my heart. This is the biggest problem I have.

  • @CharlieBass5

    @CharlieBass5

    2 ай бұрын

    By the way thanks 🙏

  • @Nightwalker25-m3u
    @Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

    I have learned that the perfectionist i live with dont wanna change, so im daily trying to tell them not to change. Its a very painful struggle.😮

  • @JUSTINTIME892
    @JUSTINTIME892 Жыл бұрын

    Mark I have loved your messages. They have helped me in more ways than you can imagine throughout the years

  • @maryisbell6421
    @maryisbell6421 Жыл бұрын

    That's so me I want it to stop

  • @angelablain3846
    @angelablain38465 ай бұрын

    What if you've given up because long ago you got burned out of the perfectionism. Youve fallen into some of the same old sins over and over. And you're not even trying anymore. Depression has set in. Anxiety is always there. And God seems different or gone altogether. I seek Him but its not like it used to be.

  • @annehortsana2957
    @annehortsana29576 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @tamars_hope
    @tamars_hope Жыл бұрын

    Uhhh just missed the live! 😢

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    Жыл бұрын

    This one wasn't live. No worries. :-)

  • @maryisbell6421
    @maryisbell6421 Жыл бұрын

    I have though I had demons and needed an exorcism

  • @Nightwalker25-m3u
    @Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

    Hey there Mr. Mark! Im here, recently I've been learning that when I am cold or hungry I get really bad upset mind. I'm obsessively and compulsively biting my tongue. What do I do about this?

  • @Nightwalker25-m3u
    @Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

    Alot of people have become joy suckers.

  • @meganmcpherson3292
    @meganmcpherson329211 ай бұрын

    Sounds like so much vulnerability involved.

  • @meganmcpherson3292

    @meganmcpherson3292

    11 ай бұрын

    I struggle to find outlets for having fun. I have PTSD as well. That definitely takes the fun out of life. I definitely have trouble having fun. Almost like I don't even know how to anymore. Life and trauma has ripped that away from me.

  • @hammamabozaid3926
    @hammamabozaid3926 Жыл бұрын

    Wers language