When I am in a certain situation where I know what I am talking about I tend to behave like I know it all and I dislike that about myself. I am learning to remain silent and do active listening but that tip is massive in behaving as though I am hearing information for the 1st time. Gosh I am such a butt hole but making a committment to change.

@TheKacyg

4 жыл бұрын

Hot Fried Griyo and Peeklees you’re just different. Not a butthole

@fastinnovation

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your comment. I think all of us are a know-it-all at some level. The funny thing for me is, the more I know, the more I see what I don't know. So you are not a butthole...just human. Thanks for commenting (and sorry for taking so long to respond!)

I think my know it all-ness comes from thinking I’m not enough and thinking I have to show or prove that I am. I intend to listen way more than I talk from now on.

This is very insightful. I have a theory that know it all(s) like myself have a big blind spot about how annoying our default behavior is. Seeing you explain the behaviors in this way really helps with self discovery.

@fastinnovation

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Chad! I have a new book coming out soon explaining more in details: stephenshapiro.com/invisible-solutions/

@TheAmyk01

Жыл бұрын

I concur!!! This video was so helpful to be able to see me through someone else's eyes.

I like that you bring up the whole listening aspect to social interactions. Alot of people focus way to much on talking when simply learning how to create a mental frame where they can listen would build them much more rapport.

I don't talk & I don't listen. I just daydream about chaos.

Very interesting perspective. I definitely have know it all issues but I assure you its not on purpose. I just tend to do it out of habit.

I'm going to try to implement it ASAP.

@fastinnovation

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent. Thanks for commenting!

thank you. that was excellent.

I agree some know it alls are pathologically annoyed by not knowing which is mainly as a result of their insecurities. However, you mentioned, I “acted” as if you don’t know it and are questioning those experts in their field which went through project design/implementation? Isn’t that why they are presenting and receiving the questions? I prefer when people say they know what they know without workplace etiquette and are happy to say they don’t know when they don’t and are eager to learn. Acting to make someone feel good about themselves and sugar-coating absolutely everything is behind the stagnation in our scientific, cultural and political progress. I enjoyed checking the following link too. I don’t know the speaker but felt like you were both trying to address the same concept with different reasoning and proposals: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ipNqx5afiafOoco.html

I always feel like I know everything and I always talk about myself I really don’t like that about myself I hope I can change

@froggysmalls8956

3 жыл бұрын

Same here man, kinda cringe now that I think about the times I've been the know it all guy

TLDW: 1. Act like you know almost nothing to make dumb people around you happy. 2. Let other people think their common sense ideas are amazing so they dont feel threatened.

@fastinnovation

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jenny. The video wasn't about making others feel good. It was about listening and being open. Just because someone has 20 years of experience doesn't mean there are new things to learn. A beginner's mind can help one grow in unexpected ways. Thanks!

@jennyfox1398

3 жыл бұрын

@@fastinnovation we could argue semantics but I'd rather not. Wether you call it "being open", having a "beginners mind" or "acting like you know nothing" is up to you. The comment was mainly in gest but there is certainly a dose of truth in there. Remember, comments wether you believe to be negative or positive help your metrics.

@fastinnovation

3 жыл бұрын

@@jennyfox1398 Thank you for taking the time to comment and reply! And you got me thinking. Because I like to avoid confrontation, in some situations I may (using your words) let other people think their common sense ideas are amazing. There's a fine line between being humble/open and playing dumb. I try to do the former, but admittedly sometimes I fall into the latter category. Thanks again!

@ZFlyingVLover

3 жыл бұрын

@@jennyfox1398 Common sense/elegant ideas are amazing because there's so little common sense today. Why? Because common sense ideas come from making alot of mistakes, learning from those mistakes and pushing forward. Others need to hear what constitutes a good idea and not just expect participation trophies at every turn. Also, people need to do thought experiments to test their ideas conceptually before blurting them out and expecting an implied pat on the back. Finally, how is it that 'others' common sense ideas weren't blurted out by you first? Just sayin. Gotta give credit where credit is due. Innovation for the sake of innovating without a purpose or considering practical aspects is usually an exercise in futility.

I have the same problem. Excuse the simplistic way of communication please. I will have to locate more information about speech. I am using my vocabulary to the best as I can. I do not mean to over use "Big Words" here.. I get substantially irritated when I am accused of "Talking Out Of My Ass". I am only 18, I have alot of growing, though inexperienced in life I have a hard time dealing with not knowing something. I constantly go through the hardship of researching specific subjects such as psychology or basic subjects such as physics or theory so other people I interact with do not have to. It is usually (for me anyways) not because I want to flaunt the information I have. There have been some conversations to where I have shown off before. I do not like to be called a "want to be" or mocked with a remark like "Thanks for trying to sound smart atleast" when I am conveying information unfamiliar to the person I am writing, speaking or texting to during a controversial conversation. I do not feel it necessary to condemn myself to such restraint just to appease someones lack of knowledge. Is that narcissism as well? If possible, please contact me.

Oh, wow! I never thought of that! Lol

Thanks.

Send this to the person you are thinking of. They need to hear it. I did.

@herbertscott9575

2 жыл бұрын

Vicious, did you relish in it😊

#OtisMoss #AnitaPhillips

I have ADHD. What more can I do then take medication

Definitely felt attacked by this, so I know it's for me 😭

@hriable6508

Жыл бұрын

We were wondering the same thing at the same time it seems

@a.mejia24

Жыл бұрын

@Hriable I guess so. 😭 My coworker asked for the price of something, and without even realizing it, I answered in a way that was extremely condescending... I didn't even notice until she pointed it out. So, now I'm trying self-help videos and articles so that I can get rid of this terrible habit...

@hriable6508

Жыл бұрын

@@a.mejia24 You are already ahead of the people who know they have this problem yet still refuse to fix it. Great job man, hope you have better interactions from now on 💪

@a.mejia24

Жыл бұрын

@Hriable Thank you! I also wish you well on your journey of growth and self-improvement!