I know I tend to be guilty of this sometimes, and I've been watching myself so I don't do it. What has helped is thinking of conversations like this as an improv exercise called "Yes And". Only instead of saying yes, because sometimes you can't agree, you use, "______ (Insert Affirming Phraselike "That's cool" or "that's interesting). Have you _____ (insert the similar idea, thing, etc.). So using your Thai food for example. "That's place sounds awesome! Have you heard about Thai Room?" It allows for conversations to start.

So rare - and calming - to hear that point of view. If we could all - me included - take that into consideration it would take us a huge, huge step in the right direction. Thank you for leading the way in you wise and humble way. I will be following your bread crumbs as long as you put them out there. I have shown your videos to other people, but I have probably done it with a unconsciously splash of condescension - or at least with an attempt to persuade. Makes it so much more fun to share if one can take your approach. Thank you for - yet again - bringing spotlight on a dark spot of the collective human consciousness.

@colinwright

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks for that, I appreciate it :)

Very well said! I definitely struggled with condescension for the past couple of years after learning how to become confident, even with intentions of helping and learning from others! It just takes practice in developing healthy social skills :) Thanks so much for this!

I thoroughly enjoy watching these shorts. The condescension towards the haters adds a nice touch. Thanks for the quality entertainment.

Hmm interesting system approach and this is ANOTHER thing that I struggle with as well... haha wow I'm finding a bunch of things on this channel lots of suprise presents everywhere!

Colin, this video is legitimately what I needed to hear today. Thanks so much!

@colinwright

8 жыл бұрын

Thrilled to hear that, Daniel! Thanks :)

Have come to find through observation or personal experience that sharing the gospel and giving information while allowing the other person space to either accept or reject it (the way Christ actually was) is far better than pushing the acceptance of it. God is all about free will btw.

How do you communicate to an oppressor that what they are doing to the oppressed is wrong, if the oppressors belief system and viewpoints are based in allowing them to continue those behaviours. Does condescension matter in this instance? What is the conversational model for dealing with a situation where it is clear that the other persons viewpoints /experiences etc. come at the cost of someone else’s safety , resources, accessibility etc.?

@Jdabomb93

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think there is such a way, to respectfully tell a oppressor to tone it down, without triggering them. Because as you said. Their belief systems are set in place, as a defense to all criticisms anyway. So you just have to give it to them straight, and watch the psychological sparks unfold unfortunately. 💥

i'm such an asshole capricorn and desperately needed this, thank you!

@Jdabomb93

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao 😂 Me too! Everyone keeps calling me “condescending” all the time! I’m so tired of it! Lol Capricorn’s get labeled as “condescending” so much! 🤦‍♂️

I'm guilty of this and hope that I can reel myself in before it's too late.

Oh I was reccomended this & this topic is hard to discuss itself! I immediately subscribed.

Very nice Colin. So well articulated

Thank you for this clarity 💆🏾‍♂️

Wow! Thank youuuu!!!!

Can you give an example of making something available?? What does that entail exactly?

Super helpful video for self improvement :)

the know it all does not leave breadcrumbs , he forces the whole loaf down your throat

How to leave breadcrumps?

Where does oppression fit in to this? Ex: someone experiencing it vs someone exacting it?

I've deleted my comment on your video grays. I'm truly sorry if you felt like I was proselytizing. I was attempting to convey that it seemed like we had reached similar opinions through different experiences. My study of Buddhism has been philosophical in nature, so it didn't even occur to me that relating concepts may come with religious overtones that offend. at any rate, you've given me something to think about.

@colinwright

8 жыл бұрын

Oh, this wasn't to anyone in particular - not offended at all :)

I’m 👂🙏🏿

I was waiting for an example of how to do this.🥺

Brand of jeans, Thai

Why didn’t I find this condescending?

@Jdabomb93

3 жыл бұрын

Cause it’s not. Lol

This is something I get accused of being, quite often actually. Is being called: _”Condescending.”_ But I have a question and an example to counter this argument. What if... in a certain situation, you are actually better, more talented, smarter, more educated, morally superior, than the other person who is accusing you of patronizing them? (And I’m not saying “more important” than them. Because that implies that they don’t matter. Which I don’t believe in. Because #AllLivesMatter.) But... What if objectively, their belief systems are legitimately wrong, and yours are actually true? I’m just asking. I’m not trying to sound like a dick. Honest! Lol I know you guys are still gonna think I am. But that’s the risk I have to take, when it comes to telling the truth. Because the “truth,” is the most unpopular opinion. But seriously... for example. Take Micheal Jordan for instance. Objectively the best basketball player who ever lived. Right? Regardless of personal or subjective opinion. If he were to tell you to your face, that he is better at basketball than you. He would be correct. Would he not? Yea it may come off as condescending, or arrogant. But he’s still right. Is he not? And In no way am I in support of making others feel inadequate or like their are nothing. I have high moral values on being respectful to others. Respect is everything to me. That’s why I’m watching this video, is to become more aware of how I come off to others when giving my opinion. Because I don’t EVER wanna give people the wrong impression. Or take Jesus Christ for an example too. He DEFINITELY was in no doubt, more Morally Superior than anyone on the face of the earth at his time. (Or as the story goes.) And look what happened when he spread his knowledge and wisdom to the people? They thought he was being condescending and arrogant. So they had him killed. It’s no different when you, me, or anyone else shares our beliefs with others. People tend to react negatively to the truth, something they disagree with, or something they aren’t ready to hear yet. If someone has a counter argument to my points I made. I’m all ears. Please. (I mean no condescension. 😂) I’m just really tired of people seeing me as an “asshole” and misjudging me because they don’t fully understand me, when i know In my heart that I’m a good person trying to do the right thing for others. 😔 Please don’t hold back your thoughts and opinions. Because it’s important as a race, that we can discuss controversial topics with each other, that risk offending one another.

@djabbico

3 жыл бұрын

Your comment is exactly what needed to be said and it was well said at that. Thank You. There is no invisible law that says just because something appears condescending it automatically is condescending no matter what. There are exceptions to that way of perceiving others. This still was a good video though.

@Jdabomb93

3 жыл бұрын

@@djabbico You are welcome sir. And thank you so much for your reply, and appreciation. ☺️

@michellemeister1317

3 жыл бұрын

But how can you claim to know objective truth when that doesn’t even exist?

@Jdabomb93

3 жыл бұрын

@@michellemeister1317 How does it not? Even though technically... subjectivity is all we have.

@ImagineINMontana

Жыл бұрын

@@michellemeister1317 where were you when you decided objective truth doesn't exist? Did that place exist objectively? Or only in your opinion? Objective truth can be experienced by anyone.

How would you moderate a group with a legitimately informed woman, who males keep shutting down because they believe their belief correct -- which does happen to be wrong. The woman anthropologist, Canadian, keeps trying to tell the discussion group (in which participation is graded) about the most recent chemistry research at a dig in Egypt, which disintegrates previous theories. The males are being sexist, gaslighting & condescending, but they are accusing HER of being condescending. I wish I was videotaping the group to playback the behavior, because in pulling one of the males aside, he denied saying what he did say -- and even tried to convince me, his teacher, that chemistry isn't used in archaeology. The males haven't been right about a single claim -- it's all been disproven, but they want the old theory to be correct SO badly they are convinced they know it all. And they cite experts who taught the old theory 12+ years ago -- which was the theory taught at the time. I'm thinking of letting the guys know they all are getting a Fail for the last class discussion, and she an A+. But I don't want to alienate her from the group more than she has been.