Do you have any experience with Step 4? Leave me a comment and Let me know what you think of Step 4 and the video.

@JP34668

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sponsoring now and i watch videos to help me with relaying the message. I found my step 4 was my actions and my using. I had to change me and my thinking in order to achieve the Me I wanna Be

@terryporter3416

Жыл бұрын

@@JP34668 thank you IAM trying to learn all about step 4 thank you

@Jack-il3qv

6 ай бұрын

I once had somone thank me for the hope I had given to him. He said, 'I hope I don't end up like you!' An open mind and a mysterious sense of humour at play, perhaps? Spread the message of Hope. It won't be wasted. Love you Dr Foster.

@ninaniggenaber1

6 ай бұрын

I love this. I would love to chat with you. How can I contact you?

@cindyaspden3982

23 күн бұрын

Thank you suggesting people do it according to the BB. Step 4 sole purpose is to get rid of resentments and fears and behaviors that block me from God. The directions in the BB are from pg 64-71. I did my first and only step 4, 31 years ago. My sponsor promised me that if I did a thorough one and then practiced step 10, I'd never have to do another step 4 again. She had me get a 300 page ringed notebook to list my resentments. I had to get another one! Seemed anyone who had passed through my life, I was resentful at! Lol And, after she showed me how to "refer to our list again" (pg 67) and do that work, I found it so successful that I took paper to meetings with me because inevitably, someone at the meeting was a target of a new resentment in my first couple of years!! I was very sick and thankfully, finally had a solution!! And today no matter what the seriousness of calamity in my life, step 4 is still my solution to keep me connected to God and clean and sober. Thank God for AA and the BB! ❤

As a new sponsor I started to listen to videos to help me sponsor and guide guys through the 4th step. Your video was incredibly helpful and for me in the right headspace to perform my duty as a member of AA.

@DRKJFOSTER

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Bryan! I'm so glad to know you found it helpful.

I’m a Gambling Addict, I’ve been fighting my addiction for 13 years. This video was extremely helpful in understanding Why I’ve been relapsing.

Thank you, KJ for this. I am working on my 4th step now and will be using the categories you mentioned. I can see the benefit of writing down every person we've ever known. I'll let you know how it goes. I think that similar to repentance and forgiveness, the 4th step may need to be done multiple times in order to completely clean out my closet.

Thank you. I have 2 years plus 1 1/2 months sobriety and have been "stuck" on step 4. I will follow your lead tomorrow and list all of the people I have met in my life journey...very simple. I can do this!

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Congrats on your sobriety, Barbara! I apologize for the delayed response. I've been sick for the past couple of weeks and just now starting to feel better.

Thank you for taking the time out of your life to give something to the people who need help like me.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Eric. Glad you are finding it beneficial.

I actually worked a forth step. Definitely helped me because I changed as a person and now I'm able to help other alcoholics in the fellowship.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

I had the same experience as well.

I’ve been doing sobriety by myself for awhile but it’s time for me to go back to meeting and do a fourth step again so thank you for this video

Dr. Foster - these ‘how to’ videos have been so helpful to me that I hardly have the words to describe it. Thank you 🙏

Really appreciate what you said about doing it the first time. I am at my first go round at 4th step and I am really hoping to be thorough!

Thank you, coming up on 5 years, and you inspired me as I am working with my sponsee today

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Diana. I'm glad to know that you found this helpful. Sorry for the late response. I'm just seeing this for some reason.

I am so blessed to have found you...AA rocks... having convention in cape town first time face to face... AA women's group in Somers west first time in 35 years...healing rooms... chairing step 4 tomorrow... thank you God bless you ❤️❤️❤️

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Tania - Welcome!! Sending you good luck and prayers for a great chairing experience tomorrow on Step 4 💟🙏🌺

This lady answers all posts That speaks volumes Ant p UK teacher retired

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

🤗

I really love the peaceful introduction to your video, it always makes me feel calm and ready to receive your content. I agree that change starts with self-awareness and I have always found that reflection through writing really helps.

@DRKJFOSTER

5 жыл бұрын

Aw, thanks Kisha 💜 I really like the melody of the music. It's funny, I always know when my husband is watching one of my videos because I'll hear the music from my intro. Thanks so much for watching!!

Hi ! Thank you for taking the time to relay your experiences with the 4th step

@DRKJFOSTER

4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

This presentation is simple and clear and great! Thanks for keeping it to just the fourth step. Great analogy with doing inventory of your closet! I’ve been doing the fourth step in my head and trying to move forward and it’s overwhelming and now I see how important it is to write it down! Thanks so much for this.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your kind words. I'm glad you found it helpful.

So glad I found your channel. You're helping me implement my sponsors suggestions by giving me another perspective. Ty

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Steven - I'm so glad you are finding the videos helpful. Thanks for watching and have a Happy 4th!

I’d never heard of doing your strengths at the end - that was encouraging. That way you see all your flaws and strengths at once and you can integrate them; accept the bad, but encourage more of the good. I’m struggling with emotional sobriety…I’ve never done a thorough fourth step and this makes it a little easier to look at. Thank you for sharing your experience.

@DRKJFOSTER

5 ай бұрын

Yes, rememer it's an inventory of all. You have to examine what to keep and what no longer suits you and who you want to be.

Great video. I have 36vyears of uninterruptible recovery from alcohol and all mood and mind altering drugs. You helped me with your story, experience and resulting insight as a product of doing "the work". Thank you

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Richie 🙏

This is so helpful and meaningful Looking forward to continuing to follow your suggestions and experience

One of the best explanations on step 4 that I have ever heard!!! Very good job Much love and respect

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thanks. Glad you enjoyed it!

Thanks hoy ... great advises

This step was a great step for me. I saw patterns of my actions and it was actually pretty cool to learn more about why I did what I did. It is so important to work the step with someone you trust to help you see clearly and not beat yourself up

@DRKJFOSTER

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching, Roxanne 💜

I am thoroughly enjoying your videos. Your kindness is so refreshing. Having just rejoined in person meetings, I am in the process of finding a new sponsor and doing the steps for a second time. I love that you say to inventory our strengths and good relationships. I am excited to practice all I am learning from you with future sponsees.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there! Thanks so much. I am glad to know you are enjoying the videos. Enjoy the journey. Sounds like you are doing great and love that you are looking forward to sponsorship. There are so many out there that need you and will benefit from your experience and knowledge. Much good luck to you 🙏😊💟

@Bobcatspiritdude

Жыл бұрын

May I suggest finding an Old sponsor 🤔 🙏💓

Thank you for your insight on the 4th step. I have a similar situation

I’m using the quote, gain awareness to change!!!! Thank you very much. This video was very helpful.

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

So glad you found it helpful ☺

Really loved your video on this step. Thank you!

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching.

I really enjoy your videos about the steps . Great work.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Jeffrey. I'm glad to know you are enjoying the videos.

thank you , you are dead on and i apreiciate all your viedos it really is helping me journal and get the steps done in proper way, peace and love from vancouver bc canada

@DRKJFOSTER

3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you're finding them helpful!

Hi JK, thanks for your step 4 video it has given the group, our group Sunday Serenity Group 12 steps and 12 tradition meeting every Sunday at 10am if your in Hervey Bay Queensland Australia. Thanks a bunch. Barry M

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Barry - Oh, how I wish I could join you in Australia! Perhaps one of these days I'll get there. If so, I would love to check out your Sunday Serenity group. Thanks for watching and for taking the time to introduce yourself! Have a wonderful day 😊

Thank you for all your pointers!

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

What a wonderful video! Thank you so much! 🥰

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it 🥰

This has been helpful. I no longer try to deceive myself or others that I can provide everything anybody ever wanted to know about addiction recovery.

@DRKJFOSTER

6 ай бұрын

I'm glad you found it helpful.

Such a great video. Keeping the program simple - thank you.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it.

Thank you for helping us.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

It's my pleasure!

Loved the video. Thank you!

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thank you for sharing this wonderful insight on how to do a proper fourth step I appreciate you very much

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful for you 😊

Thank you!

@DRKJFOSTER

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

Thank You for all Your info in your videos. God Bless You!!! 😊

Thanks KJ Yes for me the inventory style is perfect for the 12 step alcoholic who struggles to see 'their part in things', nothing is my fault. Also the need for brevity, shortness is aided by the inventory style. Obviously the other way is....write down your story.....

@DRKJFOSTER

3 ай бұрын

Exactly!

I have found the program for me is primarily how to live my life in a totally novel way to how I have in the past Acceptance, is the key And awareness is critically symbiotic to this Preparing to live life on life's terms and not trying to control everything. It's about always doing the next right thing in all aspects of our life. Then we can hit the pillow knowing fully we have done our best on a particular day. It's about keeping our ego in check. And losing the fear of what life is like when we totally abstain. It's about learning to live life sober This keeps us from using drink and drugs. Thanks for the video Ant p UK teacher retired

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Ant. Agree 💯 You've really summarized it well.

@antpearson9676

Жыл бұрын

Lovely reply thanks ever so much. My life is so much better after going to AA. Sober 3 months Getting sober for me. Have a great sponsor. Step 3 has totally changed my outlook on life. Life is entropy. There is so much shit flying around us. In the past I would try and control this. Thismade my brain race It made me anxious. And then came my perceived pressure conduit of drink and drugs to help me deal with this. Now I have embraced step 3 (and I'm not a hugely religious guy) my life since has been filled with simple contentment. I accept situations for what they are. And accept that people in the situations are behaving like they are supposed to. Then I try to deal with things in a much more empathetic and reflective way. I'm not perfect. This doesn't always happen. And I get shit wrong. But the difference now is I keep my ego in check and accept responsibility for this and try to make amends. This is a program for living life. And it's one that in a very short period of time has radically transformed mine God bless Ant p UK teacher retired

Amazing help and support as Im working on my 4th step again LOTS OF HELP. THANKS AND GOD BLESS. My sobriety date is April 6 2021

@DRKJFOSTER

6 ай бұрын

Congrats on your sobriety. Glad you found the video helpful.

@lindseymetts2671

6 ай бұрын

@@DRKJFOSTER Thank you very much. Going to keep watching yours. Your such an amazing supporter. Thank you again. 😊

Thanks for the help

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful.

thanks for your help!

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

Thank you for the advice on step four

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. Thanks for watching!

thank you. very helpful

I enjoyed your sharing on step four. Thank you Mike k. Gunhill group Bx. NYC.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and taking the time to introduce yourself, Mike. I'm originally from Long Island - Sayville!

Listened again 💜

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you're finding it helpful 💜

Thanks for sharing. I’m struggling on step 4

@DRKJFOSTER

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊 I'm glad you found it helpful.

Thank you for this post I am almost 2 months sober third time around. Totally surrendered this time

@DRKJFOSTER

9 ай бұрын

Congratulations!

Thank you for this video. My Sponsor sent me a PDF and as I printed out all the pages, I said this will take me forever! No way. I like your first list

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you so much for this. I have been struggling with step 4 for 15 years like you said I relapse, omg your suggestions are dead on and your explations are beautiful, I just.... I get it, untill I lose it haha get it? Any way, in Israel we say we love you, we love you, thank you keep coming back

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Maya! Sorry it took me so long to respond. I'm just seeing this today. I'm glad you enjoyed it and I love what you say in Israel... it's all about the love 💜💜💜

Thanks.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome

Thank u for this. The fourth step has been a problem for me in the past

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful, Andrea.

I got lost in how many people screwed me over. I have to do this step again..... Resentment is the number one offender.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 ай бұрын

Yes, resentment and self-pity.

This was very informative about the Fourth Step. This helped me.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to know it helped you, Glenda. Thanks for watching.

Awesome thanks

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome.

thanks for your information

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. Thanks for watching, Lynn.

Thank you ❤

@DRKJFOSTER

9 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

First off all I what to thank You for this video to HELP thousands off addict like me You are Amazing

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊 Glad you found it helpful.

Step Fourth reading Finished 🤞👍

@DRKJFOSTER

4 жыл бұрын

👍

Thanks. Starting step 4.

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Nice! Hope the video was helpful.

Thanks

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. Thank you for watching!

❤ My sponsor sat there and did the fourth step with me so that’s what I w sponsees and we do it out of the big book… I think that’s the best way to do it. For one, I’m not making arguments from authority - if they don’t like or agree or think that listing resentments from childhood is important I can just say “hey that’s just what the instructions say I’m not the one making this up” i’ve had people in the past who told me to answer the questions in the book 12 steps and 12 traditions and the problem with that is I’m looking at the problem through the problem; I don’t know that I can honestly answer what’s wrong with me. What’s brilliant about the resentment section in the big book is that I’m pretty good at identifying how people have wronged me at least better than identifying where I have wrong other people. That method flips the egos momentum on itself. I moved rapidly through it I think people usually should move rapidly through it. I probably miss some people but if I get a good coarse overview I can nail down the process. If I’m moving quickly I’m gonna be out making amends and doing nightly reviews and if I remember something you can pop up there and I can put it through the process again. The good stuff the attributes that comes out for me and looking at turning my thoughts into what God would have me be. All that stuff is already in my heart it’s just blocked by resentment and fear and my best effort of trying to raise satisfaction out of life by managing well. Thanks for sharing excellent video

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Nathan. Glad you enjoyed the video and appreciate you sharing your experience and perspective.

Thanks for ideas

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Most welcome 😊

This helped me to regain momentum.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Ernest - I'm so glad you found it helpful. Thanks for watching.

This is very helpful

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Steve - I'm so glad to know you are finding these videos to be beneficial for you.

Love you thank you

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful!

Hi I have just joined AA and now listening to your videos 😁

@DRKJFOSTER

7 ай бұрын

I hope it helps.

Enjoy your videos thanks

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! Glad you like them.

Thanks for the perspective ;)

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. Thanks for watching and I apologize for the late reply.

Thank you. My Sponsor sent me a PDF. As I printed all these pages I said no way!!!!! Thanks for the first idea. Just a list. I do not one to re cap everyone I have every one in my life. Then re live my past. I have done this with a therapist!!! Love the idea of one sitting. I am recovering and will the rest of my life. I feel such much pressure

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. I'm glad you found it helpful.

Really found it helpful the clear description between the 2 ways of step 4 as a sponsor . Just do it eh thx

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Glad it helped!

I like the strengths aspect of a relationship inventory. I wasn't perfect, but I did make an effort.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Christopher. I have found many people forget to even mention this aspect of the inventory.

excellent video on step 4 .

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it 😊

Also it’s very important to remember for me like I remind myself that this is a 12 step program not a 4 step program. It’s really enlightening- the uncovering and discovering but the discarding is in working the remaining steps. I had the experience of understanding that a lot of my resentments were wrong and misplaced but they were still there a lot of them didn’t go away till I was out making amends some even took more time after that.

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Nathan.

Many thanks for your help. I am starting step 4 for the first time and I am nervous.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. Good luck. It's so healing.

Great video and strategy to make ammendment list

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Glad you found it helpful. Sorry for the late reply.

Aah yes, the big one. I’m in SAA and have done the 1-2-3 shuffle at least once. This time I have a sponsor though so I’m ready to do the 4th step.

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there - sorry for the late reply. Just catching up on my comments. Glad to hear you have a sponsor and you're doing the deal. Wishing you much luck with your recovery. Thanks for watching.

i had trouble i=with step 4, i finally just did it exactly as shown in the big book.. I now use that for all kinds of things.. Seems that people end up over complicating a simple inventory

As with most instructions for fourth step, within two sentences is the instruction to list people you’ve known and resentment, and then also to write your character defects and attributes So I still don’t understand how to start and what is connected … But I have a sponsor now who is trying to help me unravel this and get some details about how to go forward with writing down my four step

I like the video it was interesting

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Katarina - Glad you enjoyed it. Sorry for the late response.

My 4th step made me look at my life.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, same here.

There are a lot of details that may not be addressed. I think of the idea of a blameless inventory (Tony A's steps from ACA) and I think it could be taken further in that a big part of processing it may revolve around understanding the *context* rather than specific episodes. Speaking of which, episodic memory is apparently one of the two kinds of memory that makes up autobiographical memory according to some psychologists, the other being semantic. I imagine some may want to dismiss this out of hand as being overthinking it, but if the accuracy matters and if Step 2 is about clarity, (again Tony A's verbiage) and furthermore if there may be blocks or issues around remembering clearly then that matters. I get that it can be very cathartic if one just does a large part of it, being as thorough as possible, but being thorough in terms of checking things off is not the same as being thorough in terms of coming to understand the situations involved. BTW I don't know that anyone who use this version of the Steps would even be interested in looking at it this way but essentially I'm saying trying to look at it dispassionately in terms of the network of cause and effect rather than a confessional kind of dynamic that might be more of a factor of traditional religious values. We all know shame is a huge issue, yet if done in this way I wonder if some will judge the person as not being sorry or repentent, when in fact it's simply an impersonal and attempt at being objective without being weighed down.

@markc5960

11 ай бұрын

Let me just add one little thing: If looking at it this way is the norm, where people really want to understand and are not at all interested in judging oneself or others just to condemn, then doesn't it stand to reason people would be a lot more comfortable sharing things, and would be more likely to have more self disclosure? We say you're only as sick as your secrets, and anonymity works with that of course and you just share with one person like the sponsor, but imagine for a moment a whole group of people where it just isn't about judgment and because it's about understanding with enough of an interest, then they're also not going have so much knee jerk reactions. Maybe it's a pipe dream but we can imagine it is possible at least right?

I have wrote around ten a4 papers of text and im still at my gindergarden age. I think it will be another 20 pages or so before i'll go to the school... This will probably take hundreds of pages. Maybe even over a thousand. Im kinda overwhelmed but im gonna do it and it doesn't matter how much time it takes. I've already managed to get my ego under control and im feeling fucking amazing right now. What a feeling, i wish everyone could experience what im talking about. Many of you know exactly what im talking about. Good luck and may God bless you all, or whatever you're believe in.

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Sounds like you are doing a very thorough job! Good luck and God Bless 💜

Goodmorning. Dr. Foster. Do You know where in the big book I Can find the I nfo on step 4? 😊

Deeper n deeper awareness of my survival instincts and herd mentality allow me to go whoa I’m at the mercy of life and others acceptance. Exhausting. Now I need a drink. God take over my life. Boom I’m smiling again.

@DRKJFOSTER

4 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear you're smiling, Len 💜 Happy Sunday 😊

💜

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

💟💟💟

step 4 terrifies me more than anything in my life. i can’t do it . i’m too scared of the pain that awareness will cause me. i just want to avoid it. idk how to start

@DRKJFOSTER

11 ай бұрын

I would follow the advice of your sponsor. And remember, this is an inventory of your assets and your liabilities. Nothing to fear here, it's all about awareness and how to start practicing a healthier way of living.

@markc5960

11 ай бұрын

I imagine your personality and the personality of your sponsor counts for a LOT. We can imagine the big difference between a strict, militant even approach vs. someone very compassionate who you would feel safe opening up to. (and different things work for different people at different times) I know both positive and negatives are included by many now but realistically, given even a general knowledge of how people are psychologically with negativity bias and such I don't know how realistic it is for mentioning that to make a significant difference. Also I have to go back to how it isn't just a matter of positive vs. negative, understanding isn't a matter of that kind of accounting, it's about tracing the whole trajectory of our life and circumstances which may take even more work. We say look ourselves in the mirror, perhaps a good sponsor serves that purpose in some way - like when we have a hard time seeing ourselves in a compassionate way they can do that and also model by seeing themselves in a compassionate way, which doesn't mean one takes less responsibility - just not adding extra suffering on top of things.

@youtubeaddict487

11 ай бұрын

@@markc5960 thank you for this, i actually got a lot out of it.

I struggle to overthink everything! This will be my second time working on the 4th step. Do I make a list of people that I resent now? Or everyone I have ever resented even though we’re cool now?

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Only the ones you resent now. Also, don't forget the positive side of the 4th Step. The 4th Step should also look at your strengths (i.e. positive characteristics and healthy relationships).

Newbies , avoid the 13th step pitfall 👍🙏💓

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

💯

They say if you don't do a 4th , you'll probably get a 5th 🍾🍺

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Ah, I never heard that one before. Both clever and true!

I've definitely hit my bottom and tired of using arrogance and cynicism as defense mechanisms. I used to scoff at AA, but I definitely see now what it has to offer. I can already see that I'm going to make excuses not to do step 4 ( I started and quit after 30 minutes) Hopefully I can press through and do it because another relapse scares me to death. Also, any advice on using mood stabilizers while working the steps?

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you speak to a psychiatrist or additionologist about the mood stabalizers. There are a lot of people in the AA community that will tell you you're not sober. Don't believe them. That's BS. Mood stabalizers can be very beneficial for helping you get through the first few months without relapsing. The important part is that they are being prescribed by someone with a lot of experiene working with people who are recovering from substance use disorders AND that you are regularly monitored AND don't discontinue use without first consulting your dr.

@mikebeahm9323

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I encounter the old line AA mentality a lot.

How can I know know that I finished it or maybe just not opened up that much?

Most sponsors I found treat step 4 as solely a self abasement exercise. Beat yourself about the head with blame, regardless of what others did. BS. Wrong way to do it. In fact, in my opinion, if you want to get ànd stay sober, use a different, more modern program like SMART or LifeRing. They focus more on neurobiology and neuroscience that was non- existent when AA was formed. Even in the big book it states that there may well be other ways to get and stay sober. AA is just one method that works for some people and not for others

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Rory. Agree 💯

You should go through the full 12 steps every 5 years

@DRKJFOSTER

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, great suggestion. Thanks for sharing.

@marklloyd9584

3 жыл бұрын

@@DRKJFOSTER I have found as. Have grown and changed as a person in recovery so the meaning and the steps take on a new understanding

@suesjoy

2 жыл бұрын

Some of my friends do it once a year!

What does that mean that you say at the end of each video?

How long should I work on each step?

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

That's really hard to say, as some people need longer on certain steps than others. Also, some sponsors move their people through the Steps very quickly and some take longer. I took 11 months to complete my Steps and averaged about a Step a month. I also worked a full-time job and was a single mother of 2 boys at that time. It really just depends on the time you have to commit to it and the sponsor you are working with. My advice is to take as much time as you need to do them thoroughly but don't waste time either, if that makes sense.

Is charging to subscribe a violation of one of the Traditions?

@DRKJFOSTER

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Christopher! I don't charge for people to subscribe to my channel. This is educational content and it is free. I do offer a membership that you may join that offers daily videos produced just for the members of the community. The private membership content has nothing to do with the 12 Steps or the 12 Step program. Furthermore, I also share information about non 12-Step options to recovery. I have a PhD in education and that is what I do. I educate people. 12-Step recovery is not the only way people recover. I, personally, no longer utilize 12-Step recovery as a part of my own recovery program.

Someone is doing his 4 step with me what do I do or say

@anthonybookert

Жыл бұрын

So what do I do about hearing is 4 step

@DRKJFOSTER

Жыл бұрын

Anthony - What did your sponsor say and do when you did your 5th Step?