But in the end, it still goes back to self-esteem being in danger, so you fear situations where you might get criticized and not manage to stand for yourself. Nobody likes that but you’d rather sacrifice all the good social experiences and avoid all social situations because your self esteem is so fragile and can’t survive one unpleasant interaction. My anxiety is definitely related to my self-esteem/confidence. External criticism brings me down and validation doesn’t even make me any proud, just “oh, good, I’m not so bad, thank you, but it could have been done better”. It’s exhausting…

@Melissa-nv7se

Жыл бұрын

I mean I get what you say.. But I think social anxiety affects self confidence more than self steem , I talk from my experience , because even with my anxiety I found good friends and didn't stay in abusive relationships or friendships . It's true I avoided somethings even isolated myself but that never changed the way i saw myself as a person that deserves respect.

I always thought I had really great or above average self esteem. It was definitely past childhood trauma( hit the point exactly).

@majesticbyelg6398

4 жыл бұрын

Yes.childhood trauma is exactly what happened to me

He misses the mark here....social anxiety is when you ASSUME the people around you are more smarter, more influential, more sophisticated, more masculine, more feminine, more assertive, more power full that you are. Drop those thoughts in the trash. You can stand up to any one. YOu are strong, you are smart, you are just as good as the other guy. The other guy that you put on a pedestal is often mis guided, and as lost as everyone else....NEVER NEVER NEVER down grade yourself.

@Melissa-nv7se

Жыл бұрын

Actually that's low self-esteem my dear 😅.

@lizcollinson2692

8 ай бұрын

Not my experience, I'm great and I know it, but interacting with big groups leaves me feeling overwhelmed and excluded. I'm comfortable talking to total strangers than a large group I'm moderately familiar with.

Great video. I have to say, I do believe social anxiety is one of the main drivers of SAD

I really love that video,it totally changed my perspective and does make sense

Ok that was very well said very enlighting thankyou! ❤❤

Great video! So true :)

What clinical psychology calls social anxiety disorder. I give it another name in how I understand it from psychology learned performance helplessness.

Thank you

Social anxiety does NOT always have to do with thinking negatively about yourself. Social anxiety can be about thinking about possibly receiving negative appraisal (askance) from other people or even having negative thoughts that not using all your social assets will lead to external negative appraisal from others. It is a learned behavior that at any time negative appraisal and thus a negative social outcome can occur. Anxiety starts to build and can spiral uncontrollably leading to more anxiety. The amygdala ( I have read ) is the part of the brain providing a fear response to real or perceived danger. Once the amygdala responds the response is difficult to reverse. The amygdala can also see danger that the fear response will lead to a negative outcome if noticed by others and responds by reacting with more anxiety.

@ziad_jkhan

2 жыл бұрын

Your response is dismissive of what's been exposed in the video however. It's more like arrogance instead.

I like myself when I am alone, but not around other people. They are so much better than me. I don't understand why I make bad experiences over and over again. It doesnt matter what I do and how I feel. It feels like I trigger people (especially women) to be mean and make me even smaller than I already am. Almost every contact to people worsens my social anxiety.

@lizcollinson2692

8 ай бұрын

They are not better than you. However they are not obliged to talk to you. Yes we can develop habits, or don't learn how to interact socially and create the response. Good luck, see if you can find someone to give you guidance and an outside perspective. Remember your value is not based on your social skill.

That is very true.

I was born with social anxiety I also feel like I have good confidence also

For me I can manage fairly well but if i fell ignored or taken advantage of i can spiral pretty quickly. Large groups ate typically when it happens, I'm frequently overlooked or just used as a bag minder.

Is there any book that you recommend to help with social anxiety?

i think i get your standpoint . ive had social anxiety all my life , & i would most definately say that while i wasnt always aware of it , it is rooted ( ? ) * in low self esteem & toxic shame . the feeling is associated with the subconscious idea that if i express ( or show 🫣 ) myself in any way people arent going to accept me , approve of me , scrutinize me , &/or worse .. why ? because i felt on a subconscious level that i was not a worthy ( or acceptable , likeable , etc . ) human being .. why ? ( & i think this is what youre getting at ) .. b|c of previous life circumstances which instilled this experience within me * . so i guess that would be the REAL root cause , & therefore , what we should really be looking at when it comes to healing .. either way , i do think the low self esteem still remains a connected factor .. but this video definately gives a different & possibly better way of looking at it 🤔