As a black woman with long natural hair, I find that other black women don't believe my hair is real initially. When I get asked about the products I use, I say I make my own hair products. When I tell them that I shampoo twice a week, they say that is too much work. So, my conclusion is, we as black women, have at lot to learn about our natural hair.

@toniahobbs5074

2 жыл бұрын

When you know what you are doing and you prep. It's really not a long process. Natural hair is so misunderstood and it's definitely not for the lazy. But here is the thing. To have healthy hair it does not matter the texture, length, ethnicity, or race. You are going to have to nurture your hair. Every race, every texture, everyone hair has its own set of problems or I would just say uniqueness cause problems sound negative. You just have to take the time to get to know your hair and know what it like and how to make it thrive. Once you get it figured out everything is smooth from there. I thinknif everyone focus on the healthiness of their hair and less on Length. They will reach any hair goals they are trying to accomplish.

@johannaalexander2009

2 жыл бұрын

I just did a post similar to what you said re:Washing Hair. I wash my hair once a week & create my own haircare products which cleanses the scalp, strengthening the hair shaft/strands, moisturises, thickens, by adding volume, with a protectant which immediately stops breakage. I’m a qualified Skincare professional trained by Clinique so scalps being Skin is correctly cared for. The ingredients I use aren’t the usual common names we hear of, I’ve deeply researched the amazing world of natural God given ingredients out there & I have the very best, to do the job! Even my menopausal hair is protected, when some stubborn Nubian “friends” hair would benefit it if they were prepared to pay for it & would have hair creeping past their shoulders by now like mine. Kitxander Says… “Good Hair Takes Care” & various different processes to help hair grow healthier. I’ve done the hard work for anyone who wants a product created with the Nubian Queen in mind & for All Hair Types because this is a non greasy organic skincare haircare product. #kitxanderhairfoodsystem65 £ 3in1Shampoo/Hairfood. DM me on Instagram for more detail LIKE😍FOLLOW & SHARE 🥰

@johannaalexander2009

2 жыл бұрын

@@toniahobbs5074 I totally agree ☄️ Re:Health Of Hairgrowth vs Length. You really can’t run before you can walk. Cleanliness of Scalp is key & Anti breakage, Moisturisation & DIET! I’m a qualified Skincare(Clinique) & Fitness professional with Diet & Nutrition qualifications. When I speak to Black women they really struggle with listening to women like me who know about what it takes to grow healthier hair & who look like themselves. I show them that I love wigs too & how I use them to rest my hair and not to REPLACE MY HAIR! I love being a Nubian Queen & the versatility my God Given tresses gives to me. I really wish & hope behaviours of some women change soon for women like myself who are really trying to build a brand which should be a lot easier given that there are so many Black women out there but are happy to buy products created cheaply by rich white people who really don’t care about their hair but know cheaply pricing is a selling point! And organic ingredients are fabulous but each ingredient needs to be used correctly otherwise it can have the reverse effect. My brand KITXANDER APOTHECARY has the formulas mastered so hairgrowth is really quite easy regardless of what your actually going through. I’ve had stress induced hairloss clients, menopausal thinning ladies, male & female, even White women! With successful results! My formulas aren’t greasy dispite having 7 oils that grow the hair when used correctly together plus the other natural ingredients. #kitxanderinstagram LIKE 👍🏾 FOLLOW 💥 SHARE 🌍 #kitxanderhairfoodsystem65 £

As my granny use to say, she was pickin. People at work are not your friends. They are work associate. Keep personal information at home. While at work, talk about matters related to work.

@TheJeanLondonExperience

2 жыл бұрын

Period

@ovellaoneal2457

2 жыл бұрын

This should be in the job performance, people are so darn messy.. especially supervisors

I went to an AFRICAN braid shop here in Atlanta and the braider proceeded to part my 4b hair,all while looking irritated. She said she usually does relaxed hair. It's sad that our people are the most ignorant when it comes to what's natural for us

@f.u.noseyassstalker7147

2 жыл бұрын

This is horrible 😔 our people can be the most aggravating to deal with regarding the natural hair matter. LIKE SOUL II SOUL SAYS.. " KEEP ON MOVING. "

@briannarichardson1596

2 жыл бұрын

I would of been like “ let me take my money elsewhere then miss “ lmao

@vivid5203

2 жыл бұрын

Oh nawwww this exactly why I stop going to African braid shops, one time I went and the lady took my phone and never gave it back?? I’ve been only patronizing American black folk since

@Sierra000

2 жыл бұрын

I remember going to those as a little girl and my momma always had my hair blow dried before hand. I hated those shops, they were always so rough and made me cry. One time they were literally laughing at me with the lady in the chair next to me 😪

@sagittariusbeauty

2 жыл бұрын

@@vivid5203 Exactly, I never went to an African shop until a few months ago, the lady combed my hair(natural 4a) with a rat tail comb. I'm sticking to black American only shops.

I completely agree with you! When I started wearing my natural hair I had white men tell me my hair was “sexy“ but then I’d turn around and have black women ask me when I going to get my hair done ( it was in an Afro) . Sadly it be your own people 😪

@Serenityblu23

2 жыл бұрын

Back in my school days I had one of my teachers stop class to talk about my hair for 15 minutes.

@Sierra000

2 жыл бұрын

@@Serenityblu23 Omg thats terrible and very unprofessional of them!

@Serenityblu23

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sierra000 she was an African American women in her 60's. She wanted to know if I would wear my hair in any other hair style besides the braided hair style that ever one hated and commented on black or white felt the need to tell me. Every grade after 5th grade was a nightmare. I went thru a deep depression.

@Serenityblu23

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sierra000 the teacher even talked about her co workers personal lives.

@Sierra000

2 жыл бұрын

@@Serenityblu23 People can be really nasty, I’m sorry you had to go through that ❤️

That woman sounds jealous of you.Pay her no attention. Your hair is just fine and healthy.

@1brandymonica

2 жыл бұрын

Correct, I agree with w/your statement 100 %

@YellowRoses10

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same that she is jealous😏

That woman was a hater!! I’ve had other BW with no edges from relaxers come for my bra strap length hair. I just ignore them.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

It’s so sad!

@johannaalexander2009

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree re:Hater. But we cannot continue to ignore this discriminatory behaviour due to people/black women who are incapable of showing respect & consideration of others who resemble themselves, but yet will be fast to say Black Lives Matter! Nubian Women with a good head of hair aren’t just born with it…they nurture it. Sometimes grooming procedures really don’t work, but what we do, we analyse what we have actually done wrong & don’t repeat it & replace it until it suits the purpose. But the really problematic issue is, is that black women realllly struggle with giving pure black women compliments if their non mixed/bi racial sisterhood friend/work colleague etc has lovely well kept & more importantly LONG HAIR! It’s as though they can accept a White woman having LONG HAIR but they are incensed with hate & jealousy when someone of the same race has mastered the skill of achieving what they fail to do for themselves due to sometimes pure laziness or a lack of self love. My mother used to wash condition & use quality products such as bergamot in my hair as a child EVERY SUNDAY preparing my hair for the week ahead at school. This was never skipped & then my elder sister would do it for me when she did her own hair & we would sit under a hair dryer. My Mum would also TRIM our hair so breakage wasn’t a problem. She wasn’t rough & took time sectioning the hair, & gently teasing the WIDE TOOTHED COMB through the hair in the first instance when hair was still damp. Blessed women with good hair really don’t need this negativity after all WE ALL have to deal with the discomfort & psychological pain of racism & discrimination from others who are quite frankly jealous of our full beautiful lips, gorgeous plump bottoms & stunning glowing brown skin tones which just don’t age in the same way as theirs! I’ve invented a Hairfood System which deeply cleanses the scalp using 100% researched organic products which protects the hair against breaking. The thickeness is instantly improved if you wish & a strengthening agent is added to preserve the length. If real Nubian Women share their knowledge & support others that look like themselves & create goods/product we really need to start now by consistently supporting & building OUR EMPIRES because other Empire’s are growing at an alarming rate & they are looking at /researching as always what Nubians use & talk about & steal it for themselves. #kitxanderhairfoodsystem65£ #kitxanderinstagram

I have always experienced other BW and Hispanic women, particularly American, stating what my hair can and cannot do. I also had an African hair braider comb my hair with a broken small barber comb trying to be funny. Of course I checked her and told her to use a wide tooth comb. She was trying to be funny and some of the other African women laughed. Its SAD how many dark women hate when another dark woman has confidence with her own natural hair. I had a Philipino woman, in another COUNTRY, roundbrush blow-dry my hair so easily and no BW, African woman, NOR Hispanic woman could do it without complaining or acting as if my hair could not be blowdried that way. IT SICKENS me, with ALL the hair education, specific women of color, STILL are the MOST hateful towards kinky, nonbiracial hair types. Many BW don't even want to be gentle nor take their time handling kinky hair because they still hold hatred and bias towards it and themselves.

@MissNolver2

2 жыл бұрын

@proxyuxer I hate that also 🤦🏾‍♀️

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

@Sparkle-ey7iw

2 жыл бұрын

Egyptians work wonders on our hair here in Illinois using the round brush/blow out and actually encourage you not to get a relaxer for long healthy hair and use great products. Other black stylists are just now catching on to a nice blow out and how to actually detangle type 4 hair which is sad! I’m more like a 4 A/B but any type 4 hair requires more patience moisture and care

@naturallylissa

2 жыл бұрын

I would suggest we start learning how to handle our own hair, Lord knows I never go to the salon ,I do it myself, cos the black hair dressers complain about my hair, 🤦it's ridiculous.

@taz9234

2 жыл бұрын

@@naturallylissa They sure do. I was forced to learn how to take care of my own hair when I was over seas. The ironic thing about it is since I had to take care of my own hair it is the longest it has ever been at bra strap length.

Girl, us black women got a long way to go when it comes to dealing with each other.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

@MissNolver2

2 жыл бұрын

Which is why I avoid black women in general 😒🙄

@marianb2530

2 жыл бұрын

@@MissNolver2 I am not even offended by this comment coming from a black woman...

@MissNolver2

2 жыл бұрын

@@marianb2530 Good 4 u.

@marianb2530

2 жыл бұрын

@@MissNolver2 I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but what I meant was that as a black woman, ME, this comment does not offend me. If you were a white woman, then I would have been offended...

What I never understand is why does it matter if someone is wearing their natural hair, a wig or a weave? Who cares ? I remember in the 4th grade this girl went around saying I was wearing a wig...I didn’t understand what her deal was because her hair was longer than mine and was deemed “pretty hair” or “good hair” by the ignorant adults who instilled that ideal in their children. The little girl seemed bothered by the fact that Afro textured me had the little length I had...people are weird

@Abmarp

2 жыл бұрын

She felt threatened

@aliciadavis2176

2 жыл бұрын

This part!

@nethaniapierre8149

2 жыл бұрын

She probably saw you as competition.

@E_MZ_

2 жыл бұрын

People have always told me that my hair was fake. It’s soooo weird. Once I went to to get a routine trim, and the stylist (a woman with no hair) was like “is this all yours?” I said yes and she then proceeded to cut it all off. It was traumatic to say the least.

@aliciadavis2176

2 жыл бұрын

@@E_MZ_ Wow I had a girl cut inches off my hair and I came for a roller set, she snuck and did it when the chair was turned. I was very tramatized and I haven't been back to no one since. That was in 2018. I'm type 4 waist length now. I get it.

My Sista, Don't allow those who despise or perhaps are Jealous of your gorgeous hair!

@sg5720

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t get how other BW can be jealous of other BW a hair, especially when it is long and thick. ??? For me because I beleive BW hair can be so fragile when I see BW with beautiful natural, thick long down you back or perhaps a lil shorter, I have a sense of pride. It is not even my hair and it makes me feel so good to see us black woman rocking our grow from the scalp hair. For so long we were told our hair can’t grow - look at us now. We should be proud and happy, even if we have a very very short do, we decided what we want to do with our hair. If there should be a number one fan of BW with gorgeous natural thick hair- it should be other BW. We have to start supporting on another being jealous of a fellow BW is sad.

One woman I'd never seen before in my life practically demanded to know if my hair was real and got mad when I ignored her. I just don't answer questions about my hair unless I sense the person has a genuinely curious tone, not a slick or demanding one. Or unless I feel like it.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Great advice!

@marsha-madness-super-badness

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.mississippi5035 Thank you 👍

Girl your hair is long, strong, healthy and beautiful.

@nknight5228

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

I've been natural since high school. One of my friends said they couldn't go natural like me because my hair wasn't versatile. 😳 Hello 4c may be the most versatile of all textures but ok. Another friend asked why my wash and go doesn't look like a 3c wash and go😣. Um because my natural hair texture is 4c baby!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

@nethaniapierre8149

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yessss

YOUR HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL! IGNORE THE HATER'S. THEY CAN'T/WON'T EVER BE SATISFIED, WITH THEMSELVES,NO MATTER WHAT! IT'S A SIN,TO BE JEALOUS!

@marianb2530

2 жыл бұрын

Got that right...and she was STUDYING her hair, lol! Thankfully, it ended on a good note!

@francescasabedra5125

2 жыл бұрын

Amen and amen 💕💕🙏😇

I've had similar experiences with other black women, whether I had my hair straightened or in a wash n' go. Its honestly left me turned off from wearing my hair out altogether. I've had strangers accuse me of wearing a weave, texturizing my hair, and when I share my easy routine I'm deemed as a "liar." I've learned that many black women just dont want to put in the work on growing out their natural hair. It is what it is though...I also agree with the corporate comment, likeability is a HUGE factor for getting ahead. Great video!❤

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

I agree! I also feel turned off from wearing it out due the attention (good and bad).

@sable7114

2 жыл бұрын

I had an odd experience with a 20-something year old Caucasian woman with thinning hair who went out at lunch time to buy clippings and then came back and asked me how to put them in. At that time I had never worn any type of extensions or wigs or anything like that ever and when I told her I didn't know how, she told me I needed to get in touch with my ethnicity. I told her, you're the one with the thinning hair and the one who went to buy the clip-ins. You should have gotten instructions there. I was offended at the assumption that I knew how to use fake hair simply because of my race. Not all people of color where extensions, wigs, or whatever and I'm wondering if she ever thought I did. It was my real hair that she was seeing on a daily basis.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

@@sable7114 Wow! You told her right! People like that make me want to talk reallly bad to them! 🤬

@Serenityblu23

2 жыл бұрын

I remember in my middle school days this girl went on about how she hated fake hair on the ride to school. It then dawned on me that she thought my hair was fake. She asked why I didn't wear my natural hair. I told her my braided hair was real. She asked me if I was sure. I told her you could tell it was real because the ends were not burned. It was a white person who said that

@johannaalexander2009

2 жыл бұрын

Re:Black women just don’t want to put in the work. Yes 🙌 & are happy to spend vast amounts for human hair wigs from China or wherever while their actual hair due to lack of oxygen is being eaten away underneath, balding hairlines & heads all because of pure laziness & a lack of self love. I’m an inventor of hair products which nurture the scalp & stops hair breaking. I’m a qualified Skincare professional Clinique trained, Esteè Lauder management level 30+ years experience etc But no, the black woman can see my menopausal hair thick & strong & my products clearly working but they REFUSE to COMMENT on social media with a simple HI 👋 A QUESTION maybe etc “Girlfriends” I actually know just can’t compliment my hair when their hair is quite thin ageing & thread bare. I’ve shared FREE items…they love ❤️ FREENESS! They take & like the results BUT REFUSE TO PAY NEXT TIME ROUND dispite the results being amazing 🤩 What I’ve realised is they have issues with me making money from them also. I have a male friend & he’s absolutely blown away by this & he is a black business man himself & he said if he was to rely on black ppl he would have no business…The men are also a-bit jealous of each other…hating! These women are professional women with an income but refuse to invest in me by buying my product which clearly works nor themselves by possessing an authentic Nubian beauty & grooming their own hair.

You are the sweetest!! Same has happened to me. They think our hair is fake. But you have the real thing!!!! Let her Hate. Keep rocking that beautiful Crown you have!

These self-hating crabs in a barrel can really work a nerve. Forget her. Your hair is beautiful and an inspiration to us all. 🕊️

Girl I remember somebody at work telling me to cut my hair cos it's too long it doesn't look neat, and she was in a wig😂, I mean real hair coming out from my scalp was a problem lol

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Wooow! 😳That’s 100% jealousy and envy! 🤷‍♀️

Okay, that is sad, but I believed that about corporate America, until I went on and Got my Ph.D and want on and let my Grey natural hair grow! I'm glad I chose to work with my hair as it was growing instead of using wigs and braids and weave to protect my hair because now I know how to handle it and every stage has been through.

I have experienced a relative making a negative comment about my natural hair. I've gone through growing pains with my natural hair , but I'm thankful!! Even today I continue to learn. Thank you !!

I actually assumed it was a black person who said it because I have long thick natural hair and I’ve had black women say “How do you get a comb through all that?”. The difference is you are lot more patient than I am because that conversation would have had quickly ended if it was me. Especially when they ask you a question then act all skeptical about your response. I never comment on a woman’s hair if it’s wigs or weave because I don’t want to open the door to a a hair discussion. Too many negative experiences. Some will act rude when they find out your hair is yours. Like this store clerk said to me “That’s so pretty. What kind of hair is that?” It’s my hair. “Oh, you natural or something.”

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

OMG! The nerves!

@marianb2530

2 жыл бұрын

That's a lot of nerve.

And the funny part is they ask all them questions just to say “ that’s doing too much” while they look at it with disgust. They wanna know how to grow 4c hair but don’t “love” their texture if that makes sense. I had to appreciate it and love it in every stage to get the most growth I’ve ever gotten in my childhood. They don’t have that level of acceptance that comes with the process of growing natural hair and they project that because they see that in you!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

I have more issues with black women about my natural hair. From my big chop to now black men love the fact that I don't wear wigs and weaves.IJS

I agree. My white coworkers loved my natural hair, but my family, especially my grandmother did not like natural hair at all. I notice the wig wearers tend to compliment my bravery for wearing my hair natural. I'm not offended, I just hope they get to feel the freedom that comes with natural hair freedom.

In all the years I've been natural, all of the negative reactions have come from black women. Some were even family members. The most genuine compliments I've received have been from white women. I remember having a nice conversation with a white woman while at the grocery store where she was fascinated by my twists. She asked me how I was able to keep them from unravelling without rubber bands. I explained to her how the strands of my hair coil together and when in sections they clump. She thought it was the coolest thing. It made me laugh at the time because it was a basic style, but she reacted to it like it was an elaborate masterpiece. I think the obsession with having "combed" hair is weird because the only way to do that would be if I straightened my hair, and doing that would remove all of the natural volume. Volume is crucial for many styles, and it's a blessing to have it without manipulation.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

100% agree! 💕

I was in Corporate America for many years before I decided to do my own thing. None of the less there is a big misconception that we cannot comb through our hair because as children they were calling people Nappy Head because people just didn't know how to moisturize hair. They just ran straight to the straightening comb or got a perm for their children. Some people ask certain questions out of ignorance but once they get an answer sometimes they become more Curious and next thing you know they're trying to do it themselves which is fine.. When I first started using grease again back in 2018 when I started watching your videos.. I forgot how long my hair was as a child from using Grease. I bought into the lie that grease makes our hair fall out Meanwhile my hair has grown so much since 2018 and I have followed your regimen. Some people just have the wrong idea about things but as long as you know what you're doing that is what matters.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! 🙏🏽

With respect to moving up in the corporate world ; clearly, the echelon to which you ascend will be influenced by your education level. Also, there are prejudices in some businesses that prefer Black women to have processed or fake hair rather than our natural texture. Sad but true.

@Kindred04

2 жыл бұрын

@Cam Jam - Exactly. While it's true that who you know does play a role, that does not negate the fact that education is also a considerable factor when trying to progress to certain levels. Likewise, the negative views that many people have towards Black women's natural hair absolutely affects our upward mobility within corporate America. If that wasn't true, there would have been no need for the recently implemented CROWN Act, which addresses natural hair discrimination in the workplace.

@camjamcam1

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kindred04 Yes, I believe The Crown Act pertains to the workplace and in seats of education, is that correct ? It's not just in America, either: in some Caribbean countries, even though the population is predominantly Black, natural hair textures worn in corporate environments is disparaged as "unprofessional." It's time for things to change worldwide.

@Kindred04

2 жыл бұрын

@@camjamcam1 - Yes, I believe it applies to seats of education as well. I am saddened to hear that ignorance is happening in the Caribbean as well. People's minds are truly shackled all over. So many folks have been convinced that Blackness of any kind is unacceptable. Like you said, it's time for a change.

As a bw, I EXPECT black ppl to say ignorant things about natural hair because we have been brainwashed for generations to dislike, and/or hate it. White ppl haven't seen our hair since the 60s and 70s, so of course if they see it now they'll either think it's cool, or disagree with it but not say anything because they ain't trying to get hit with a discrimination lawsuit or get called the "r"-word. As black ppl, we give nonblack ppl too much credit when it comes to how they view our blackness. We need to have empathy for our ppl, and understand that a lot of us aren't there yet. Nine times out of ten the company you work for has a rule discriminating against a black hair, whether they follow the rule today or not, so to say Black ppl are more prejudice to natural hair, wouldn't be true lol. Prejudice and ignorance are two different things, especially when black ppl are conditioned to dislike their hair.

@sg5720

2 жыл бұрын

I’m doing what I want with MINE. I’m back at the office and rocking my natural curls. I just let it go do what it wants. It is big and sometimes frizzy and sometimes real wide. People talk about it all the time, it is medium length a few inches from bra strap. I shaved one side and love it- now they can look more.😂. I’m me and I am not going to conform to the “standard” beauty that people say there is. You be you and I will be me. 😌

@marianb2530

2 жыл бұрын

@@sg5720 👊🏿 Right on sis!

Your hair is lovely! Utterly lovely and she's jealous and envious poor thing. Your'e so right all she had to do was ask how did you grow your beautiful hair that long. People are so afraid to show admiration, but they'll show envy and jealousy it's a shame. I have worn my hair natural, relaxed, weaved throughout my life with no issues in corporate America. I have had the most horrendous problems from my own race, but never ever from any other race. It took me a long time to realize how jealous Black women are of one another. It's dangerous and unhealthy. I have always celebrated my sisters and always will. I love all hair types and skin colors. I'm just a hair person all of it excites me and makes me smile. Thank you for sharing your tips. they are beneficial.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

YW!💕

I knew it.. when you made the other vid! I knew she was blk!😌😤 smh!...envy is not good, I jus watch another natural ( Nappy fu).. and her vid was on hair envy... we all have to do what's best for our own natural hair, and take away the things that may help us. I've been natural for approximately 5 years and just this last year-and-a-half have I been really learning my hair🥰 and I started follow your regimen the last 3 months and I am really seeing great results😇🙏🏾 and so I am sticking with it. I love watching a lot of the natural hair videos! I follow just a few, and what it does for me is just gives me motivation and inspiration to take better care of my own natural hair🥰 but what I want to say to you is thank you!! you've put me on a whole new level🔝✅🪴🎯🌳👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Awww, that’s so nice. You are welcome and thanks for your support!💕

@aretharandle7089

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.mississippi5035 😇🥰

@trying0580

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.mississippi5035 she probably was jealous and envy of you…,

Preach Sis! Some wig/weave wearers can be super critical. Jealousy is something else.

Thank you for the tips Mrs. Mississippi. Stay positive & don't worry about that other stuff!!

I Love everything you said here you broke it down to a Tee! I'm 4a/b mostly wear an afro, not blown out and picked either, I wash/condish/oil and let my coils tightly clump over time and pat, pat pat it down into a tight fro for weeks. it looks like a twa like that and I love it. In that style, No I can't just get a comb thru it. Why is it important to others rather we can get a comb thru it, maybe we don't wanna comb thru our hair all the time. When I blow it out and put it in two twists to the back with the ends tucked in, "why you wearing that old lady hairdo I aint seen that in a while but its cute on you" Me: uhm ok, yea thanks, I think?? When I straighten it, and they see the length and its curled. ppl have said to me "oh your hair looks nice, why you don't wear it like that all the time?" Cuz I don't want to! I reply, lol. I like having options and my fro is my preference. When back in the tight fro they got questions. You're right instead of being straight up they want you to feel inferior so they don't, cuz you seem comfortable and embrace your hair. You explained it so well! TY!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! And I’ve experienced the same as you. Such a shame!

It could be a multitude of things why hair thins. It could be hereditary, hormonal, diet, and how you care for your hair as well.

I hope and wish but never envy or get jealous cause what is meant for someone else is not meant for me. My hair has stalled just above bra strap. The longest it has been just below bra strap. Maybe my hair will never get to this lady’s length and that is okay. Not everyone is the same and that is okay. My texture is softer than hers maybe a 3c 4a texture but it works for ME. People need to stop with the hate. This lady is beautiful with a lot of hair and I will watch and admire and continue to wish and hope my hair can get as thick and long as hers. Ignore the haters and continue to love yourself. 👍🏽😊.

I had hip length locs. The very few people that had something negative to say were black. It's jealousy and/or ignorance.

And thank you for all of your wonderful hair care videos. I appreciate the work you do Sis. 🕊️

Hair should be the least somebody has to show condemnation about! Some folk just continue to insult people on a shallow level hoping to get you in a tizzy to respond. I am glad you did not fall for the a tongue lashing rebuttal with the woman. Envy is a beast!

They always do that I cant wait until I reach your lenght causes I like your method it works.

Hair looks that good without putting a comb through it.., she must think you’re magical 🥰

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

😀😂😂

Ha! I can honestly say that I am still learning my natural hair MM. and I appreciate these hair videos...I wrote down what you said about someone criticizing a person in order to NOT FEEL inferior...it is so true! It makes sense in ALL aspects of life...especially with all the racial challenges that have BEEN going on. My mother didn't like my natural hair at first either. She looked down on it, and then I started a trend in my family, lol! TFS this wonderful video. ✌🏿

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

💕

Mrs Mississippi thank you so much for a wonderful year. You are the professional when it comes to caring for your natural hair well. Your talks about health, nutrition, and handling your business is extremely helpful. Sending good thoughts and well wishes for you and the family! Thanks again for the wonderful, positive videos.

Omg girl your hair is beautiful. It's when you let it down it literally too my breath away.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow, thanks! 💕

I thought it was a black woman. So sad that some of us don't encourage each other.

Hi lady! That was a lot you went through with that lady but you handled it well! Sometimes people just don't know what to say or how to have a decent conversation with a stranger. I've had people questioning me about my hair as well and I just handled it well as you did and kept it moving. Take care and thanks for sharing. Continue to do whatever works for you and your beautiful hair!

Hi @Mrs. Mississippi , thank you so much for sharing your experience and I am glad that you took it so well as you saw right through her shenanigans. What I found really interesting is that the woman you speak of (she sounds like an older person rather than a mature one), is happy to focus her time and intelligence on studying for a PHD to go up the corporate ladder, but has no interest in learning from you (the real deal) on how to improve the quality of her hair, which is every woman's crowning glory. If her hair was better looking than it currently is, you better believe she would be showing it to all and sundry.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

You're hair is beautiful! Thank you for sharing your hair journey! You are my new hair crush. I just started regrowing my natural hair out again. Again thank you for sharing your tips. Beautiful Hair!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support!💕

Yes, you are so right. Technique is key. My major issue now is with tangling at the ends of my twists and braids. I haven’t figured out how to deal with this yet.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

How long do wear them?

@TheButterflySoulfire

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.mississippi5035 Only a week or two. I use water and olive oil to loosen the tangles and it helps, but most times I have to snip them off. I’m at APL to BSL in various parts of my head, but I’m having problems retaining length with all these tangles.

It have been said some people are jealous and envy of naturals.

Hi Mrs. Mississippi, I just binge watch a lot of your video's. I really love your tips. I just recently started using hair grease in my hair every wash day. Now after watching your video's I'm going to start cleansing my scalp more regularly and just braid my own natural hair. No wigs or braids for me this year or twist outs. A lady told me that I was wearing kid hairstyles just because I chose my natural hair in braids. I'm a hair stylist and they didn't teach nothing about natural hair at the school I attended. I had to go to KZread to find out how to manage my own natural hair.

I have strong reactions about my hair too. It is really political and I have experienced people treating me different, jealous vines, friends for the day. It's like a sociology project when I observe the reactions I have gotten.

@marsha-madness-super-badness

2 жыл бұрын

This.

All these women have to say is could you help me, with my dry thinning ends... but nooooo 😑

Smh, it's sad that in 2021 some people will try to bring you down just to make themselves feel happy, especially when you're telling the truth. Like after the whole grease fiasco with Nezi Napps, some people were giving you the side eye and attempting to "call you out" but I just sat back drinking tea because I knew they wouldn't understand. Now more naturals are following your techniques like myself.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! And no matter what she and they have said, I’ve continued because I know what I’m saying is truth! Thanks for your continuous support!💕

@lorealluv

2 жыл бұрын

I think she wanted to know your secret and instead of asking and complementing, she did like many so-called black women do she act like she knew then tried to throw some shade. Shame on her and maybe the next time you see her she’ll humble herself and act right.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

@@lorealluv I agree!

How dare she! Hello beautiful! Your hair is gorgeous 💗💗

She wish she was blessed like you. Keep growing your hair down to your toes and enjoy it. This is why as a whole, we can't get anywhere, pure ignorance. This was such a good video.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Awww, thanks! Thanks for your encouragement!

Hi Ms. M I'm so sorry you had to experience such envy, jealousy and the person being ignorant about your beautiful healthy long hair. Some people think if their hair isn't like theirs it must be fake. All of us are different in so many ways. Our hair don't grow the same meaning some people have thin hair some thick, some people hair grows slow others grow faster. The main thing is you got to take care of your hair. You hair gorgeous hair Mrs. M. Some people just aren't happy the way they are and some are afraid to be themselves. Her shade ain't working. Just continue to be the sweet person that u are and let the haters think what they want.🙏😇👍❤

Love..Love..Love your story..I'm laughing so hard about that lady and how black women can be...I grew up with grease and water, and I still do it..I'm 63..New Subscribe..I watch your videos all the time..Thanks for sharing your tips and tricks..Love ya..💕💕💕

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support!💕

Your hair is amazingly long, and your regimen works well for you, seeing you is proof. For me washing my hair every three days is drying for my hair. Keep doing what is Good for You.

I agree with your grandmother,your hair is thick and beautiful,keep doing what you doing,🥰❤️❤️🦋

to me it sounded like she was trying to tell you that higher corporate would not approve of your natural hairstyle and texture, also that’s why she was telling you about her gray to black, she was probably making that up…your hair is beautiful just like you…corporate world is very judgmental

@sable7114

2 жыл бұрын

That is exactly what she was trying to say by using herself as an example indicating that if she changes her gray hair she will be able to climb higher up the corporate ladder.

So thankful to have found your channel as I am learning more about my natural hair through you. So thankful to have found your channel as I am learning more about my natural hair through you. The statement that there would ALWAYS be hair in the comb is truth. This was my reality and frustration with using smaller combs vs when I finger-detangle and / or use a wide-tooth comb. Once I had my “Aha” moment in 2018 after taking down a protective style and in my commitment to fully detangle like I had never done before 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I, in essence, combed through, then combed again, and combed off ALL the length retained section by section.....😬😬😬 and then some...more and a little bit m o o r r e e e e e????? 😳😳😳.... with no end in sight 😲😲 I finally realized 💡💡💡 this was wwwaaayyyyyyy beyond shedding especially since by now there was little to no evidence of the length gained over 4 months of protective styling or of colored strands remaining. Yep, you guessed correctly - my poor head of hair was at its weakest ever as it had been permanently colored, (a few months prior to the protective install) and I ripped through it while wet/ damp. I have purchased multiple detangle brushes including the Wet brush pro (worked well for curly weaves), Michel Mercier pro and also picked up the Denman bush, Tangle teezer, Tangle buster at least 2 years ago.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

She ain’t honest/self aware. Just jealous.

Poor thang, society got her believing that black women can't have long, thick, natural hair. Keep schooling them! Also, with her "corporate America" talk. It sounds as if she's projecting on to you. She believes that you're natural hair won't get you any where. Smh. Tell that ol ass lady have several seats and practice self love.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 That’s a great point! I didn’t even think of that! But if that was the case, I’m so sorry she feels that way because I just need a check! It’s all about the direct deposit! 👌🏾🤣 She’s willing to do all of that for a higher position, but me and her are on the same level with the company. Of course, I didn’t tell her that to prevent making her feel worse about herself.

U rock, Lady. Avoid fake ppl. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Hello, I totally agreed with you about natural hair shrinkage. I have started doing the steps you suggested. I use blue magic grease and I shampoo my hair more often (once a week). And I keep low maintenance styles to keep length and less breakage.

Hi there❤ I am new to your channel; luckily you popped up on my recommended. 30 seconds in I subscribed! Young lady, you have a beautiful head of healthy thick hair. When BW colleagues start baiting with their negative questions, the so called 'complements' come like sweet honey with a pint of vinegar! I don't mind them. Out and about strangers come up and complement my natural hair and ask for hair care tips! Natural hair is so freeing!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree! Thanks for your support!

Oh my gosh thank you for this video. I have been using your technique for about 1 year now. My Fine thin hair got so thick. I wore it stretched and down and it was like all of a sudden it seemed to have thickened. I was so shocked of the density of my hair. It was like it snuck up on me how thick my hair had become. And then this happened…… I don’t know what got over me or what would’ve made me do this….but on my next two wash days one of them I waited too long but on both of the wash days I use a comb and I basically thinned my hair out!!! I have been so brokenhearted about what I have done to my hip length thick hair!!! Now I’m one of those ones that you are talking about that have historically had long thin hair and thought that that was just my hair. But as I look back it has always been my wash day that has set me back with the hair density.You are so right about the comb. I’m going to be starting over yet again. I’m not gonna cut my hair it’s still really long but the density it’s probably half of what it was before my comb session. But you were definitely right you cannot comb through your wet hair like that!!! Thanks for the video you are so appreciate it.

Beautiful healthy hair! You can show them better than you can tell them!! As they say proof is in the pudding! Lol....Continue taking care of your beautiful long hair GOD blessed you with💕#unbothered

You have beautiful hair. I never had anyone come up and say something about my but I have had someone come and put their hands in my hair to see if I had extensions.😂I just looked at her and smiled and said yes it’s all mines and my hair is just bra length. So it’s long when it’s in natural state I what my hair bra length when it’s curly then I can say my hair is long. But love whatever length you are. And don’t pay people no mind because they are just haters.

Some way if you wear glasses no friends but when I wear my contacts, ppl that dont speak start speaking, talking about ignorance.

@marsha-madness-super-badness

2 жыл бұрын

I've noticed this as well. It's weird.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Woooow!

@HeleneGLmarie

2 жыл бұрын

😲 really ?! That's weird. I didn't know people were that superficial 😂😂

@terrisimmonsmcdowell9074

2 жыл бұрын

Yep,but I kept doing me,cause,I don't change to make ppl him long as I am happy.

Yes!!! Thank you for speaking the truth!

you beautiful, your hair is beautiful, your spirit is beautiful you keep doing you Mrs. Mississippi

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Awww, thanks!

I think that is so sad that your own people don’t want to talk to you when your hair is THICK and pent up put when it’s straight and long they want to be your friend. What is that?

I love your hair.

Smh ignorance im sick of it ,I just blew out my 4c hair on my own of 3yrs being natural amd its past bra strap....my family response was "wow you have long hair did u add any additional hair to it"smh...NO! I just took time out to start learning my hair,countless research videos, products .all of this was a investment because my hair is me and most of all I wanted to break that sick mentality within myself that my hair is trash and can't grow ,and I did it! Some blk pll may not know how to come across topics like this because they still can't accept there hair and also won't take time out to learn there hair it took me years to learn but trust me it will eventually come ,on what works and what don't, us ladies need to learn that every head of hair grows no matter the race.

I wash my hair with ivory soap bar and use coconut milk powder to restore my hair then SheaMoisture Manuka mask I use African pride leave in cream and grease thanks to you. I had alopecia for 9 years while using "all natural products", and because I have lupus, now its growing back..So thank you for letting everyone know grease can work in our hair too. Just like it did with my mom, and aunts in the 70s.

Hello, I think she needs your help. I also think she didn't know how to ask you for your help with her hair. This is my thoughts. I would have just asked you for some help. 🙂

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

True!

Your hair is BEAUTIFUL 😊😫wow

Great video. I love your beautiful hair.

And they do be hating but we already know that they hair won't grow because all the chemical usage. Your hair is beauty and so are u! My hair isn't getting longer but it's health and thick. Get that silk press on they'll really be jealous ☺️

Before I was natural I went to the beauty salon faithfully biweekly - l had family/other people always questioning my hair . They would ask if I was wearing a wig or if I had tracks 🤦🏾‍♀️. Since being natural (I believe I did the big-chop around 2009) I still get side eyes if I get it styled - I understand people will always hate on your “glory” 🤗… I really enjoy watching your videos keep up the awesome work…..

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks 💕

Story time 😆: I use to wear alot of head wraps in college. It was my way of protective styling . I was also friendly with the cafeteria staff ; and I would always greet them etc. One day, I wore my hair out in a big puff to the cafeteria . Out of nowhere an old cafeteria lady ran up to me and put BOTH of her hands in my hair and shook my head to see if my hair was fake. 😤I tell you it took God for me not to slap her. 🙏🏽 Bottom line: I did not greet her after that- but everyone else I did. It was so freaking rude of her. 🥲This also happened in NC. It will be your own people that try to embarrass you. Smh

I would respond ALL IS WELL AND I CHOOSE TO ABIDE IN PEACE with a smile and keep it moving🕊✨ YOUR HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL & WELL CARED FOR ✨✨✨

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Great response! 😀 I for sure will use that!

I had somebody in my family treat me the same way I thought they was jealous of me and she had locs in her hair in I had my natural hair in a nappy afro and she was just to hating on me

Ignorance is definitely bliss, we still got work to do if we still have some is who don’t understand that we can retain long hair in this day and age.

Hello, I really enjoyed watching your video and the way you were talking about your natural hair. I'm natural too and I love to wear my braids,twists, and ponytail puffs. I always keep my hair washed, detangled, wet down, and then I will let my hair air dry or blow dry it. Then I will go back and style the hair. What type of growth oil do you use on your hair and scalp? I hope you have a good night and a great week. I will be looking forward to watching your next video.

Use cow ghee butter. It makes your hair so soft. Infuse with cinnamon sticks and cloves to deter the smell.

Your hair--I wish 😍

Interesting video! TBH I think that woman was full of it. I think she was really trying to tell you that she thought your hair was not appropriate for a corporate setting, using herself as an example. Yes, she envied your thickness and fullness. But she also was projecting. I’ve found that in the workplace, quite a few employees - black or white or other - believe that the kinkier the hair, the less professional the employee. I’ve had people question whether it was more difficult for me to get a job with my natural hair in twists. This was in the 90s. Some years later, on a different job, I remember one woman I worked with got a new boss and suddenly removed her twists and relaxed her hair. She acknowledged it was a new start and she was concerned her hair would have a negative impact. She was transferred to a different department anyway. You had the patience of Job with that woman.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Great points!

Shalom, yes, she is a hater Sis. That's probably ,why she's bold headed lol ! Your hair is absolutely beautiful & healthy .Let that hater hate .

It works for you.....keep doing what you do

People would get so mad when i wore my hair curly. I would dye my hair blonde and it still was super curly not straight at all. People would come up to me and ask how i got my hair to be like that. ?! They'd ask if my hair was real in front of lots of people and id confidently say yes😂 you cant buy hair that look like mines extremely coily. Theyd be so mad my hair was short barely to my shoulders and its not like i have a loose texture at all i just know how to define my coils. My hair looks like springs. I just shaved my head again. And im not doing color anymore cus it turns into a fiasco 😂❤

Why she taking out her frustration & insecurities on you. You're beautiful in and out and I like the fact that you actually didn't count her out but gave her a chance to to see who she really is.

New Subbie!!! how long do you leave your hair in before you retwist it? Your hair is everything 😍

I understand about the PhD. I finished mine to have options outside of corporate not inside. Also, I think I missed something. I didn't realize that you blow dry your hair. Please refer me to the link if you talked about blow drying. Your beautiful hair is second to none.

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

I show it in one of my older wash day routine videos.

She is working through self-acceptance, accepting her own hair. She has taken what others say as truth and has learned not to love her hair as it grows out of her head. That is what a lot of women my age and older have lived through because the only narrative about black women's hair until the late 20th century was that our hair was "not okay as it grows out of your head" (except for a few years from 1968-1977). A little grace, a lot of instruction and patience (and don't let her too close in your life unless you sense a truly gracious spirit in her, that she truly wants to learn and not repeat that internalized hatred, "double-consciousness" mindset.

Miss Mississippi, I’m in my 50s, have natural hair & work in Corporate America. Unfortunately, both of you are right! You do have to know someone or have a sponsor (not mentor). Ageism is real (grey hair); no matter how many degrees or certifications. I’ve trained young non-melanin people; especially males and next thing you know, they are my manager. Most of my career has been in the Energy sector and the glass ceiling has left scabs in my scalp. The funny thing, I always received great raises and reviews but, the promotion or title; no ma’am!!!

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Hi! I agree and understood the concept of what she was saying. My point is dying her hair black is not going to get her promoted. Getting that degree is not going to get her promoted. To me, it’s all about who you know. In states that don’t have a lot of opportunity like MS, a degree is honored and may be required. But not in Texas! It’s too much opportunity; therefore a degree is not priority. It’s mainly about skills, experience, and who you know. She and I are on the same level and I don’t have a PhD, and don’t desire to get one.😀

I'm still watching your video, but I may be dropping comments as I hear you talk. You know I never knew how to detangle my hair the way you were doing it. I always started from the bottom and worked my way up. Now I know you start from the top and work your way down with your fingers. Lolol

@mrs.mississippi5035

2 жыл бұрын

Right… with the fingers you start from top to bottom. With a comb, you start from bottom to top. I normally detangle the bottom about 3 to 4 inches up from the bottom, and then start at the top/roots and pick my way down.

@TandZAptLife

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.mississippi5035 Thank you. I am going to try that on my next wash day.

You are lovely, I am a new fan. Stay REAL !

Gray hair is a crown of beauty When it is found in the way of righteousness. Proverbs 16:31