Everyone watching this is probably in power struggle. We all feel for each other.

Lol, how many came upon this video bc you're in the power struggle stage 🙋🏼

@bradjbourgeois73

5 жыл бұрын

Been going in between power struggle and stability for 5 years, lol.

@mr.awethenik

5 жыл бұрын

Lol come to my channel and check out my advice vids and be sure to SUBSCRIBE

@silvermont331

4 жыл бұрын

I came here bc I’m a beautiful single amazing and smart 49 yrs old woman .. and men my age don’t want to date me bc 😆 they are chickens .. they want to date younger girls they can manipulate 😞ha ha ..

@olivegodinho6863

4 жыл бұрын

@@mr.awethenik l

@Julia-on3xh

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Everett 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Me and my girlfriend hit the power struggle just recently. This video really made me feel more confident about us making it through.

@p.p696

4 жыл бұрын

Any update chuck ? How’d it go

Has saved my relationship twice already. Thank you Bruce xx

@takaelabrown7444

6 жыл бұрын

Go watch my video on relationship advice!! Its my first video ever

This dude should write a book I really seriously buy it

@LoveAtFirstFight

8 жыл бұрын

Check out more of Bruce's free videos by joining the mailing list (for free) at www.loveatfirstfight.com

@roxyguerrero6457

7 жыл бұрын

Jonathan Raby same here !

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. It's almost like we've gone through all 5 stages at least 3 times during the time that we've been together. At the moment right now we are stuck again on the power struggle stage. However, this time we will be starting marriage counseling soon and we will start to try to incorporate the suggestions on this video as well. We both love the heck out of each other and we both will fight for our marriage to work so at least we have that on our side. Thank you for the video.

@jaileyshoutycatsTV

8 жыл бұрын

***** Thank you. I am blessed to have the husband that I do. The kind of person that is willing to try anything and everything before ever really considering a divorce. When calling the counselor she said that I would be surprised at how many husbands will not agree to go to counseling.

@jaileyshoutycatsTV

8 жыл бұрын

***** Thank you so much for your kind words. Good luck to you and every obstacle you run across. This is kind of a slow process (for some reason I thought instant results lol), but I am dedicated to giving it my all. Marriage in my eyes has always been a "long haul" thing in my eyes. When my husband and I got married we both told each other that there was no such thing as divorce and that is something that I love about him.

@jaileyshoutycatsTV

8 жыл бұрын

I wish you the best of luck. There is nothing like the first part of a relationship. Where everything is new and thrilling. I get where you're coming from on that one. For a girl it's hard to balance what you're feeling and what you feel you can let out. It gets a lot easier once a connection has been established. I have this (what my husband would call a weird thing) thing that I do a lot. When I fall deeply in love with someone I want to know everything about them including their smell. I'm sure most women can relate with me on that one. Like a song a smell can bring back memories and I feel it is so intimate (without being sexual) to be able to tell him apart just by his smell. But I didn't do anything like that at first because I was afraid that he would view that as weird. But I have demonstrated that I can tell him apart from others by a simple touch on the arm or his smell. I hope much happiness for you and the lucky man you have chosen. I also hope that soon you both can develop that deep connection so that you don't have to fear seeming "too" into him.

@jaileyshoutycatsTV

8 жыл бұрын

***** You are not alone. For the longest time I felt that I was extremely weird for liking the things that I do. While other girls were showing off their diamond earrings their boyfriends got for them I was just as happy because he and I laid under the stars sharing childhood stories. While other girls would boast about their boyfriends making tons of money I was just as happy to watch him walk through the door after working on the our car. While other girls brag about awesome vacations they went on with their boyfriends I wanted to go horseback riding or zip lining with mine. I feel that so often today people focus so much on fame and money, they focus on the big picture and often forget the little flicks that get them there. I'm adding you to my friends list as well. I am so grateful to know you too. You are such a sweet person that would make any man proud.

@jaileyshoutycatsTV

8 жыл бұрын

***** That would be awesome. My name is Jennifer. That would be lovely to chat on "hangout". It isn't often that someone finds someone else online that could develop into a wonderful and fulfilling friendship.

Please don't ever take down these videos. I used this in my past relationship, which fortunately didn't work out, and now, 2 years later, in my current relationship with whom I'm pretty sure I will marry if we are able to get out of the power struggle phase we are currently in now. I feel your advice and knowledge have really helped my current boyfriend and I start to get through the power struggle phase in the way to stability. Thank you, never take these videos down!

Having a partner who lied and cheated is not even worth the time to works things out.

@prueXo

8 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@momentofclarityx1080

7 жыл бұрын

It depends! But very risky ...

@longassjimmy6790

5 жыл бұрын

Unless a kid is involved and both parties are willing to really work together.

@hollygamble15

4 жыл бұрын

damnit you're right. ugh

@sanjaybhatia4668

3 жыл бұрын

Did you try to explore why your partner did this. There is always a reason . Lack of communication and trust is the major cause.

After a couple of minutes I didn't think I would get much from this, but I stuck with it and I was wrong. Good job!

This man is a most warm-heartened inspiration... I'm grateful he's never encountered a psychopath romantically. His sage advice feels to be wonderfully apt to aid two loving, empathetic people; & can all be thrown out when dealing with a dark, emotionally vacant, gas-lighting, manipulative, life-stomping monster.

@J-Bird88

3 жыл бұрын

^^yes! Same thoughts here. My last relationship was with a man like that for almost 10 years. and I think, now that I’ve experienced it I start looking out for those characteristics in other men. This video actually helpEd me with that. Under two years in my current relationship and we are in the power struggle stage. I realize it’s not those toxic characteristics I’ve been “seeing” it’s just our inability to communicate properly.

This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. What a relief. I was beginning to think I was crazy.

"love consciously" this is great... it makes me think that love is a skill to learn and not solely based on fate/fairytales loving my partner is less about him and has more to do with solving my own issues. Then things just fall into place if, ultimately, the relationship is meant to exist.

619 and I’m in tears! This video is so accurate about the drop in “feeling high” god bless you fir this video! I saved it as therapy

I must say - this was eyes opening. I thought I already understood what was going on in all my relationships, but it was only from my half of the story and even that not whole. Thank you very much for this video, I feel I gained something truly precious.

This was very helpful and I now understand the different stages... Honestly I know I'm in the power struggle right now and it's been like this for 6 months now... Thank you for making this video!

@Saint_Nicolo

8 жыл бұрын

+Haleina Marie Has your power struggle gotten any better with time and more education? My power struggle feels horrible. If we don't study this together we won't make it.

@StyleLikeAHipsta

8 жыл бұрын

Yes it has actually! It really takes both people and understanding each other to resolve an issue.

@97vipa

8 жыл бұрын

are you two still together!? im going through it too :/

@powpaow

6 жыл бұрын

Feels like I´m there as well. It´s so hard... because my partner never come along on trips, and he´s not the kind of person that you can share thoughts with, he´s usually kind of quiet... I always listen to what he has to say but he only talk when there is something that interest him. It makes me sad that it´s just so meh. He has bad habits that will probably kill him someday, and that makes me sad and scared. We've talked about it but he doesn't care

@angelicasahu6702

4 жыл бұрын

Truly helpful.It's amazing.God bless.

This is so much better than some of the garbage that some of these other so called relationship gurus teach just to make a quick buck!

Thank you. This makes me more calm in my personal state of my relationship, shouldn´t move on to fast without going through every stage. Very helpful stuff.

You're a genius Bruce. You've helped me see things very clearly without feeling inadequate or 'abnormal'. Much food for thought - thank you.

WOW! Really struggling in the 'power struggle' stage right now, and this video spoke out to me like no other. I'm struggling with not feeling accepted, and missing the love and acceptance we had in the romance stage. Thanks so, so much for making this video. It made me feel like I am not alone, not going completely mad, and there is hope. Off to look for more videos by you about how to feel acceptance in the power struggle stage. Hope they exist!

Holy cow, Bruce, this was a surreal moment for me as I stumbled across this video by chance while dealing with relationship issues! Good on you.

This was the best thing I've ever seen. This is phenomenal. My girlfriend and I have never seen this before but we live off of it without knowing, and now we'll know even more. This is great! 😊

@kathyfindlay9468

5 жыл бұрын

My love over a year a has left me after a off messenger ñow he's not answering my calls or been online at all he is from South Africa please help me

I've been a PUA coach for years and back when I started to expand my business to relationships, I watched this video. Years later, I still rewatch this.

I think this video is really good. i feel like you hit my relationship right on the head. Me and my partner are in the Power Struggle Stage and she wants to run but this video just reinforced how i feel that we have to continue to grow and that this isn't the end of our relationship this is just our relationship moving forward to that stability stage. I really love her and want o be with her but she's at a point where she's not out of love but not completely there and i realize i have to do things as well as her in order for our relationship to be built to last. but i really like this video you hit the time frame for everything right on the money thats what really kept my attention and made me wanna finish the video. Thank You.

Very insightful and a great way to explain the stages of relationships. I'm personally at the stability stage and I have found that navigating conflict is absolutely key. For me the pivotal point to moving from power struggle to the stability stage was simply to listen more, be more responsive, stop reacting and understanding that the course of a conflict is determined by the person who responds and NOT by the one who starts it. So I stopped reacting and began to consciously listen and consciously act. This elevated the relationship to a whole new level of love and understanding!!! Thank you for your great videos, as a coach myself, I am now a fan and follower of yours. Keep up the good work!!!

This is one of the best videos I've seen on relationships. Thank you, this really helped me understand more!

I don't often comment on videos but felt compelled to do so because it is absolutely amazing! Approximately 30 years in my relationship, power struggles, both withdrawing and my death on a regular basis - awful! It is good to know that this is "Normal" and we have chosen each other for our spiritual growth. Thought it might be the case but am now very, very close to wanting to give up! Thank you so much for making this video.

We are definitely in the power struggle stage. Great video! I can see the light at the end of the tunnel ;)

you just opened my eyes up to every past relationship I've ever had and failed at but made me very excited to work for the one I have currently!

very helpful! thank you. someone finally explained it right to me

Great video. I think people need to study these stages before they get into a relationship. I wish I did... thanks

@coolwater55

9 жыл бұрын

Usually our parents and church mentors try to tell us, but when in the heady first love stage we can't hear. ;)

@IndecisivegurrlAlex

9 жыл бұрын

coolwater55 Well then if you can't hear in the love stage, then theres no hope for anyone!

@coolwater55

9 жыл бұрын

Indecisivegurrl Alex There is hope, and that is to get the earmuffs off during that first wave of love to try to see if this is real love or a person one just "wants" to be in love with. ..:) That is the point of this video. Because looks or even quirks of personality don't matter in the end, what matters - will that person hang in there and treat you well after that first heady stage of love. .....

@ahwc8372

3 жыл бұрын

I am from Thailand 🇹🇭 and listening to this vdo it helps me to improve my English. I think i am in state 2. The type of my lover, I don’t think i will survive for this love, i better break up and move on and learning self-love. 😢 😭

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! So needed to hear this today, and expressed in the wonderful way u have ❤

We’ve just hit the power struggle stage a few months ago after nearly two years together. We both really want this to work but we have no idea what to do, we try so hard not to hurt each other but it often goes wrong. Thank you so much for these videos!

This gave me such great advice! Me and my man JUST hit the power struggle and it's very intense. I know he loves me but we've been arguing way to much. We really want this relationship fixed and get past all this. I couldn't imagine losing him. Thank you.

Thank you heartily Bruce. Thank you so much for this precious advice.

This just got me out of a super serious fight with my girlfriend thank you so much! Usually don't comment on YT videos but you completely earned it thank you for this.

This is the most sensible and true discription of relationship stages. Great content. thanks you

Thank you for posting this videos

This is exactly the answer to my prayers,me and my bf going through the power struggle right now,I really appreciate it thanks man

Your spot on, we are in the power stage, and I have realized the problem is me, and I need to make changes, I won't try and change her, we will seek counseling, and both are committed to working it out because we really do love each other , every relationship takes work, and communication , understanding, is the key , thanks, great video 😊

This video was extremely helpful. I look forward to learning much more. Thank you Bruce!!

Thank you for the video. It helps tons. I now know where i stand in my relationship.

Thanks a million for the video on relationship Dan, I absolutely enjoyed it and will work on accomplishing those skills.

Very good subject with so many points. I felt as if you were talking about my relationship. Will use all your points in the future. Great job

This has made me realise so much and I'd like to thank you. I now feel like there is a chance for more good life ahead of us because I see that me and my soul mate don't just have to give up. Now for the implementation. Again, thank you.

Watching videos like this is an eye opener on how you can possibly make a change on how you handle your relationship.

I cried. Seriously. Thank you. Ive been stuck in a toxic mindset

Wow this helped me make a lot of sense out of what I'm going through! :)

Thank you very much! I needed this so much this morning..

This is an awesome video! I don't know how anyone could dislike it

Thank you my friend....this is the best advice i;ve ever got!!

Thank you so much....This video was very insightful and help to bring alot of persperctive to some issues I have been currently facing in my relationship, and it feels good to know that "It's normal" as you put it. I'm going to watch the rest of your videos to see how else I can better my relationship. Thanks again. Jaz

Soooo glad I found you. I just about to give up. But I won't. We will survive this stage. I am the one who very needy. He keep saying it's normal. Thank you.

finally everything makes sense now , and i feel a lot better knowing its normal.thank you for this video.

I loveeee this video!!! You definitely in point. Unfortunately I'm still stuck in the second stage

really valuable video, learnd a lot from that.

The relationship I am in is moving from the relationship stage to the power struggle stage. I don't t hink the power struggle stage will be to much of a struggle for either of us. We have done a lot of transformational work, and we are clear that communication, open and honest, makes a huge difference. We are also clear that beign present and in the now makes a huge difference. However, knowing the steps and how to interact with them really does support us. Thanks.

Awesome information! Thank you...

This was sent to me by a friend. Great information. Thank you!

This is amazing. You described everything that happened to me in the first three stages. I hope I can get out of the power struggle stage because I am already married with kids. Thanks for this!

i'm going through the power stuggle stage! you really help me out !!

Thank you so much for this video..... I really need to hear this.

Thanks for uploading this video.

I loved the last part. The fact that the fighting actually helps or something like that. I understood what you meant, because ever time i have an argument with my boyfriend i love him even more and more each time and i feel like the love keep growing....

my husband and I have been stuck in the power struggle for a year already and now we are seperated trying to figure out what we want. This video is very helpful. Whatever happens to our marriage I pray God helps us. Thank you for making videos like this

I've been in a 7 year relationship (we met at 15) and we've been going through a lot of issues lately. Watching this video has really put things into perspective and helped me put our situation into words and cohesively put together all the pieces of what's going on. Thank you :)

Bruce is a genius. Thank God for this. My girl and I understood our relationship more by watching this.... Thank you!

Hi Bruce! great advice thank you. id like to watch your next video.

I came across this video and can totally relate. My bf and I are currently in what you called the "power struggle" stage. I think this video was insightful. I love my bf and can see great potential in him as a husband but we are having a lot of issues right now . The way you explained the beginning it was exactly like that . The way we fell in love. I am going to learn to forgive and fight for my relationship. Thanks for the video

Thank you very much... I was desperate but now when I saw your video it made me understand the situation I am in. Thanks...

This is the best video on relationships ever Tha k you so so so much you're owesome man

SO GLAD I LISTENED TO THIS...MAKES GREAT SENSE....I CAN SHARE WITH OTHER HURTING FRIENDS...MIGHT HELP THEM A LOT! THANKS....

Thank u for this video sent it to my girl too. We're in the power struggle stage, it's sucks cuz we both miss the romance but we're trying to get through it n this video helps.

Thank you, so much, for these needed insights!

Thank you for wise counsel. I will definitely share.

So good.. might need to watch it twice

Thanks for this video Bruce this really summeried what loving relationship mean and can lead to. We have been married for 29 years and must have fought for 27 in all! I do feel like dying inside as we both watching our now grown up children suffered too. With this video at least I know I what happened in the process of so called LOVE.

very helpful video, which i need at this time. glad to know these stages, i wil not loose hope until i wil reach the bliss stage with my partner. thank u so much!

My boyfriend and I are definitely in the stability stage. The power struggle stage was a REAL STRUGGLE but we got thru it.

I love this....I wish I would have found this six months ago...made a lot of sence to me..

Accurately explained!!!! Thank you for this extremely educational video!

This video is really very helpful good job

Very valuable. Thank you!

Am in the power struggle stage this stage is so annoying thanks for the video it really helpful

so loved this video!

awesome life saving and life giving information! extremely valuable!

A lot helpful man. great work. thanks for the advice

Wow this video just came across my eyes at the right time... man you surely a mentor

You say you didn't change, but you actually changed for good your growth up and the break up helped you do it faster, great video keep it up

Loved It! Thank You for helping me out...

Thank you so much for this video...

amazing video..thanks!

Awesome video thanks for sharing we really got good insights

Thank you. Just what I need

This is so helpful and true, thanks :-)

Thanks for the video, I'm currently int he power struggle phase and this helps me a lot.

Fabulous info; best ever!!!

Really valuable & helpful video! I'm in power struggle stage!

I'm stuck in the romance stage. I haven't found love. All girl that i loved was just infatuation.

@deanhuman89

7 жыл бұрын

Irkham Kholid same here bro. my life seems like an endless void of sexual endeavours.

I especially love the insight that life likes to bring us someone so incompatible, in the interest of our growth

oh my goodness your words of wisdom help me through my battles such thing called life you help me God bless you many more prayers on you