Used to try this without even knowing it was a thing. Her response usually was, "do I have to spell everything out for you?!!!" 😂😂😂

Such a relief. I now have a direction. Thanks be to God

In conflict studies this technique is called "reflective listening". So this advice is not only excellent but proven to work!

i believe that my husband stumbled on your video and i am thinking this is Gods message to us! i appreciate your dedication and commitment to bringing this message to the public. it is very thoughtful!!! and powerful and has the ability to impact humanity....as marriages create family and this is the cradle of civilization. i pray that this creates the results that the Creator intends for us...giving us both peace! thank yu! and i wish the best to you and your family!

I have watched each video twice now and can hardly wait to begin the online course 10/5

I just watched the first 3 videos. You spoke to me. Even if my relationship doesn't make it past the power struggle I plan on learning from the mistakes and the new knowledge I have just retained. Thank you.

@earphbound720

6 жыл бұрын

Same

4 жыл бұрын

Women control the sex in a relationship and use it as a weapon ... there is no power struggle. If you were heterosexual you would know that.

@angeloaugustus1016

2 жыл бұрын

i know it is quite randomly asking but does anybody know of a good place to watch new series online ?

you know this dose help out more than people expect. thank you this gives me hope

wow... this was amazing advice! I tried it in just a casual conversation at work and I can tell the customer felt heard.. and understood. I cant wait to try it with my boyfriend :)

I have to admit, I am hearing a lot of this stuff and I can tell you are speaking a lot of truth in these video's. As you were talking about these methods, I started realizing a bunch of opportunities where I wish i had used it. I am excited to see how these techniques work in the future. Thanks Bruce!

My partner and I just realized ee have gotten to the power struggle stage. Its been so difficult and we even thought about breaking up after being together for 3 years. I found your videos and honestly I feel there is hope. I am sharing the videos and applying your techniques. Thank you so much !!!

@she_sings_delightful_things

7 жыл бұрын

vanessa carballo How is your relationship going today?

@rajatsp

6 жыл бұрын

Your comment gives me hope to work on my relationship. Its been a year for me and going through the power struggle stage

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Brus ! fantastic short lecture on what is essential i communication .I love it.!

Thankyou for such a explanatory video that helps our mind to visualization what were the mistakes we had in our relationships while you speak in the video.

Communication is everything...without it there is nothing. It's all I ever wanted. To hear, and to be heard, to love and to be loved. ∞

4 жыл бұрын

"Communication" ... meaning that men should shut up and listen, nothing a man has to say is of any value in a "relationship" with a woman.

Your advice is absolutely BRILLIANT!...THANK YOU SO MUCH!

I like the reflective conversation technique, I am going to try it. God Bless you.

thank you for the advice and tips. i just started watching your videos and i take notes. its really helping.

Excellent info! I can already tell this is going to work in my marriage and LIFE in general!

My partner and.i love your videos and are really helping us with our relationship.

Great advice! Now I feel as though I have the tools I need to work through tough moments.

Thank you for such a presentation, I hope to use it.

I so want to start working on this, thanks again very helpful

First video I have watched and loved it!! Will try this today. Thank you

Thank you for the helpful videos 🤗❤️💛💚💙💜

Thank you so much for these very simple to use tools!!

Thank you! Wonderful info. MY partner and I watched this together, and he liked it too.

Amazing Relationship coach, amazing videos with amazing examples

It is hugely empowering and bestows so much freedom to have the tools at hand and with which to restore the relationship with the one you love of even though so you have been rejected. It it removes the heartache instantly to realise that you have this power our at your your disposal. In other words the relationship is at your disposal now and you are in charge of your love destiny. Truly awesome. Every blessing Bruce.

Incredible video! Subscribed!

This video is so helpful I swear

I havent started using this techniques or truths yet but i want to thank you for sharing and helping me save marriage and my family. God bless you for your little efforts are saving the nations. God bless you!!!

Thank you for this video!

great advice, looking back on our marriage I see where this could have changed our outcome. Thanks!!

Excellent stuff

Thank you so much for your wise advices, it is very helpful🙏

this tip really helpful !! thanks a lot

Your advice is practical and easy to understand. We will give it a try. 😊

u are awesome...I really wanna accept all ur teachings

Really useful thanks!

This is just awesome

Your awesome, im in the romance stage and am glad for all these videos

Fantastic video! Subscribed!

Fantastic video. Really enlightning!

Thanks a lot..This is so educative and wonderful

You are excellent!! Thank you so much..

Really helpful!

Love it!!

I'm going to put these techniques to use! Thank you :)

@bridgetandrade349

5 жыл бұрын

Joyce Mullins how has it work for you?

loved your video

Gonna try this out,seems really good!

love this

man i love ur videos they r so helpful to me

good!

thank you very much... this piece of advice is precious for me specially I am in the verge of break up so I'll use use your techniques to repair my relationship. bless you

@nexttotheborder

8 жыл бұрын

Where you able to do it?

Amazing

great video such a big help, where were you yesterday dam it!! haha

I needed these videos. I'm mr hailstorm 90% of the time.

Thank you I getting so much

It really great learning from your video thanks a lot..

HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE THE SOUND AFFECTS FIRST OF ALL, and it's so funny bc I was repeatedly serving back my serves to him when he served to me initially. I did that bc I didn't like what he said I thought it was emotionally draining and I was in a good mood so I felt upset at his serve and kindof expected it from him too which made it more of a drag. (Sometimes I don't respond) but I am loving how u put thism it is their serve, their game!!! So be "responsive" as they want...

Thanx gr8 viedo

Thank you bruce

waaaw love thisss

i love it... thank u alot

Hello I like your advice....

thank you

interesting.

I find your thoughts and methods quite interesting and thank you for sharing them freely with everyone! I do find, however, your background music to be a bit distracting... makes it really hard for me to calmly listen to you...perhaps you could try one without music? Thanks again!

thanks

please make more videos...

I dig it

Bruce: again finding this video hard to work with, because im not hearing it so far address how to know if we like the other person sufficiently, to know whether we should put in the effort to go thru the five stages with that other person

This video contains excellent techniques for good communication. In order to lessen arguments, you must listen each other's side; it is the most important aspect to save and build a strong married life.

great

Do you have any videos that give instruction on responsive listening but about work relationships?

hi thank you for those video but it bit to late for me as my boyfriend broke up with me Monday what you said in video that what happened x

How do I download the PDF? I can't seem to find your link anywhere.

What you are describing in this video is the Imago Dialogue created by Harville Hendricks. It's great that you are sharing it but you might want to give him credit for it.

The idea of reflective conversation or mirroring and very well explained. Thank you. Can you or someone point to techniques on dealing with when she is "venting" or getting something off her chest -- where she is going on for a long time, about 10-15 minutes at a stretch with several points at once. It would not be possible or at least extremely difficult for me to mirror her. How does one handle this? Often times, she will vent and as soon as I start responding, she will walk away for water or basically take a break.

Hey Bruce, I have a question. What can you say in this regard about each partner's responsibility to tell the other what they need and want? I'm studying relationship counseling myself and am curious about your stance on this.

@she_sings_delightful_things

7 жыл бұрын

Georges Bolssens That was my Q as well.

All is sweet, nice vid and I really envy all of you who can communicate like that, but in case of my marriage theres nothing more that can be done, absolutely, we are two totally different people and my hub will never learn to be responsive or reflective simply because hes nt interested in any communication whatsoever.

@mamathemeat

5 жыл бұрын

Joanna Ajwes What ended up happening? I’m having similar problem with my boyfriend he’s a half ass listener and communicator

Funny, I automatically do the reflective conversation already. But the response I get, is him telling me I've twisted his words with anger. I ask for clarity and he refuses. Over and over, thus is how our "conversations" go. But I'll try again with this video in mind. 7 years is not worth giving up on....

@mamathemeat

5 жыл бұрын

Justine White how did it go?

Nice video Bruce--not only do you offer a great technique to navigate through charged conversations but your instruction to do so is very good. Thank you! I look forward to more of your videos/information!

thats tru i like it

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what do you do if your partner says no to having a reflective conversation but you really want to try to fix things between the two of you and your partner is fixed on having a divorce but you feel like your partner doesn't truly mean it on the inside?? great video, but please help on the other side if your partner says "no" to having a reflective conversation

First example had much more energy than 2nd. People with more energy are more successful. Restorative sleeping the foundation of energy

So the fundamental IMO is not the responsiveness, but it's the low energy levels on both sides that are even more fundamental

My girlfriend and I have been on and off a couple of times over the past year and a half and just recently broke up. She says she just lost hope for the most part that we can get back to that place of romance because we fight too much and it's exhausting. We were in the Power Struggle stage most definitely. I am not a quitter and always want to work through these things because I know how beautiful our love is, but I can see how we were trying to fix things all wrong. Almost like we were using the wrong tools to fix anything. I feel like I don't have the right to contact her as maybe she needs space but I do hope she tries to reach out to me because I love her to death! If that happens, then I would love to put these tools (that you have shared in your videos) into action. I think they would work wonders. Everything you've said is right on the money! Thank you for sharing such valuable information!

@mamathemeat

5 жыл бұрын

Marlon Did you guys get back together?

Enjoyed your video, but I do not see where to download the cheat sheet. Thanks

@LoveAtFirstFight

8 жыл бұрын

You can find the cheat sheet by joining Bruce's mailing list (for free) at www.LoveAtFirstfight.com.

Where is the link to the PDF mentioned in this vid?

Would you do if it's hard to get to the separation stage and she says she needs to see if she's still in love with you no matter what you try seems to get you nowhere

Hi Bruce, I cany locate these worksheets you speak of in this and your last video. Could you assist me with this? Many thanks.... P.S. I love your videos

@LoveAtFirstFight

8 жыл бұрын

Hi Hoda! You can find the .pdf file by joining Bruce's mailing list (for free) at www.LoveAtFirstfight.com.

@laurasparks1298

7 жыл бұрын

Hoda McClymont www.loveatfirstfight.com/wp-content/uploads/love-at-first-fight-reflective-conversation.pdf

....a reciprication. Just as I see how I would want a reciprication too. :) So nice! :D

Of a understand

Are you an engineer? This is how the electronic transmitters n receivers work when they transmit/receive the data...but in lightning speed n in codes! Byte size, small chunks, acknowledge, error correction codes....these are all electronic communication nerd-words. N what u have there is a called tx-rx communication flowchart and what u r talking is sender-receiver protocol - you are an Engineer! :) Good lecture - thanks!

Where is the "Reflective Conversation Flow Chart?"

Where do I get the document to print please? I can’t find it

@LoveAtFirstFight

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Roberta, Sorry the video is old. You will find it signing up in the free course at www.loveatfirstfight.com

So in the situation where the woman was tired, if the receiver of that information isn’t responsive how should the woman respond so she can continue to be responsive and not escalate the conversation? We can only handle ourself and will inevitably end up in a conversation with someone who is unresponsive. What is the best way to respond without getting frustrated?

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What if the receiver doesn’t think they did anything wrong and that the sender is too sensitive and the receiver doesn’t want to apologize because they don’t think they did anything wrong and that the receiver is who has the problem???