i hate those parents that got that poor baby sick and nearly killed that kid. mucus in the lungs because they want they wanted their kid to kiss it. i am so glad that kid recovered my god i am shedding tears here

@mels3958

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I would have raged. I had a hard enough time letting unvaccinated family members meet my newborn baby. And now that she’s 3, I teach her that we do NOT kiss on the mouth. Cheek yes, mouth no.

@bryn1063

2 жыл бұрын

@@mels3958 what if the skin absorbs it? Even then if I ever had that happen. I'm sorry, we gon fight. You're not gonna try to kill my child and get away with it. Maybe like a hard slap, stay away from my baby. I'm shocked OP still in contact with them.

@sxatcychan1988

2 жыл бұрын

Given the accusations at the end, I'm convinced the in-laws were intentionally harming that baby just to spite OP. There's no way that MIL was stupid enough to think that the the infant would be able to take that kiss, and not get badly sick.

@maggpiprime954

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, they didn't want their kid to kiss the baby, they manipulated the child into doing something cute & loving to _deliberately_ infect the baby.

@StalkThisBish

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds to me that the little girl had Swine Flu 🤒😞 and gave it to the 5 month old.. I only say that because they said it happened in 2010 and I remember my son having Swine Flu in 2010 and he was EXTREMELY sick and he was 11 years old I can not imagine a 5 month old baby getting it… I was Pregnant with my now 10 soon to be 11 year old at the time and I got extremely lucky that I did not contact it while taking care of my son.. So glad the baby got better… and is doing great today ❤️🥰

In-law: *tells their sick kid to kiss OP's baby* Baby: *gets really sick* In-laws: IT'S YOUR FAULT!!! Ah yes, the good old "im older so it's your fault" technique

@obistore_

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a victim of that - younger sibling

@jamesnorman9160

2 жыл бұрын

I swear, they did it all on purpose just so they could pull the 'You're an awful parent!' card...

@dracko158

2 жыл бұрын

The whole "Blaming the whole thing on OP because they are older" is absolute bullshit. Who's to say they can't be wrong??

@LunaP1

2 жыл бұрын

I would’ve called CPS on the in-laws for attempted manslaughter of a baby. They never took personal responsibility and are in so much denial that THEY were at fault.

@TheOfficialTarynTots

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, and it sounded like she was stuck in that situation too. I know when my son was young I couldn't afford a place of my own and had to live with family. Everyone seems to think they have a right to parent your child the way they see fit if they are living in the same house. Like if my son was in a time out or I took something away from him as a punishment for something he did they would give it back to him and say hey that wasnt a big deal. It was like that with everything even down to what I fed him. Like whats the big deal that I just gave him a bottle of Mt.Dew before bed, he doesn't need to be up that early and for some reason wanting to give him fast food. Unfortunately, some of their bad habits stuck with him even though I got out as soon as possible. I was trying to continue with my education when he got sick like OPs baby did and thats when I had dedicated all my time to working for our place. My son is now grown but the bad habits I was able to break from them still managed to get to him and now he is an adult and its out of my hands. If I knew then what I know now I would have rather of worked my butt off to save to get out while I was pregnant instead of thinking having him around my family was a good idea.

Sometimes CPS makes things WORSE, but yes please if anyone is in that situation, call someone. No matter what the abuser tells you, call someone for help.

@mistere6299

2 жыл бұрын

As an ex ward of the state I can agree with you. I've seen some seriously messed up stuff and I agree that given the choice between suffering that abuse and CPS, choose CPS. Not sure which country's CPS you are referring to TheHitsubasa but my experience with them was really, really bad. As an example of my experience with CPS they took me in after I got kidnapped. Before that I was living with my seriously unstable mother who for whatever reason liked to smoke a lot of pot and beat the shit out of, and a few times tried to kill, me. Obviously a plus that they got me out of that, though they pretty much abandoned me when I was 12 (they sent me to a boarding school which was fun but they also refused to talk to me or anything when I needed them to do stuff, which was only a couple times a year but always serious stuff). They also decided the best way to stop my mother annoying then was to give her my phone number and after I told them she was threatening to kill me and everyone at the school they "fixed" the issue by literally paying for a plane ticket so she could come see me, at the place that I lived, without even so much as mentioning that to me in passing. You can imagine how thrilled I was to see someone who spent the first 8 years of my life bringing me as close to death as she could sitting on my bed when I got off school that day. Yeah so fucking thrilled Long story short, CPS is good for some things and does save lives, but they need a serious overhaul and to concentrate on listening to the kids in their care not ignoring them. This only applies to my country, Australia, though as idk what other countries are like.

@TheHitsubasa

2 жыл бұрын

@@mistere6299 oh my goodness that sounds awful! I’m in the US, it’s more or less the same here from the stories I’ve heard. My best friend had to deal with them a couple times as a parent herself. Really stupid situation but it got resolved in the end with a positive outcome but the entire thing was super stressful for her. All over some very dumb crap too.

@KarmaTube5

2 жыл бұрын

Pay attention to Foster homes, kids get abused their all the time

@TheHitsubasa

2 жыл бұрын

@@KarmaTube5 yes it is very sad. The entire system is really screwed up.

@SeraliaAerials

2 жыл бұрын

CPS definitely made my situation worse… I wish I had talked to my extended family about what was going on rather than my school. Because for months the school would not do anything and one of the advisors even brushed me off and told me I was being dramatic and sensitive because when he was a kid he got beat with extension cords and clothes hangers, as if his experience should be the standard, but after something happened to I guess make it worth their time CPS came in and made everything 10 times worse… and when my family found out about it they felt hurt that I was too scared or felt like I couldn’t trust them to make it better…

I'm not usually a violent person, but if I heard FIL tell ill niece to kiss my newborn I'm pretty sure I would have decked him.

@tgauff6625

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@MrReaperChaz

2 жыл бұрын

In my version they would never have found his body after my newborn got sick. I also would have made it seems like he left the country with a new girl just to make my MIL feel like shyt!

@drewtatum5846

2 жыл бұрын

There are times for the five finger vibe check and THAT is a perfect time for it

@bread9173

2 жыл бұрын

I had this happen to me as a child from my dad's side and apparently my cousin was sick and almost got me sick when I was one day old. My mom screamed at them to get out and they called her a bitch for it.

@kid10249595

2 жыл бұрын

Oh they wouldn't have found the body at all, in fact they wouldn't have found the bodies for all my in laws.

First story: OP needs to admit the truth, they are not friends, but leeches sucking money.

@missluciddreams3472

2 жыл бұрын

True

@CreativeCreatorCreates

2 жыл бұрын

And also jealous. They can’t stand that someone made conscious healthy choices. (I have three kids, two above 18, and it’s true, you just don’t have the same freedoms. I wouldn’t change a thing....but it’s true.)

@sh1k4maru

2 жыл бұрын

An the OP is also an idiot for loaning the money in the first place. Anything given freely is never appreciated.

@jussomeidiot5858

2 жыл бұрын

didnt he/she/it do that in the end of the story?

@mrn234

2 жыл бұрын

People that are getting a child need to understand the crazy times are over

OP: *has been financially helping his friend for a long time* Friend: hey, can i borrow 3k so we can have our vacation? OP: no. Friend: YOU'RE SELFISH!

@Dong_Tae

2 жыл бұрын

Me : _psychological confusion_

@evadedenbach1226

2 жыл бұрын

If this so-called friend was more responsibile with his finances, he wouldn't be needing to borrow $3,000 for their vacation.

@redconvoy

2 жыл бұрын

I would have told them I bust my butt for my money. You chose to have kids. That is not my problem and neither I or anyone else owes you for that! You want a nice vacation for your family? Work another job and have some damn pride!

@lancerevell5979

2 жыл бұрын

I'd bet, only the selfish parents would be going on that two week vacation. They'll leave the kids with relatives, or try to con OP into caring for them.

@Nekulturny

2 жыл бұрын

That story reminded me of this co-worker I had a few years ago. He was 10 years older than me or so, I was 32. I had a decent sized apartment, 2 bedroom, full living room and dining room, not a small place at all. I worked hard for it. This guy had a falling out with his live in girlfriend, he had no driver's license because the state took it for unpaid child support on a child he had who was 18 (he still owed the mother thousands in back child support). I'm pretty left wing politically, which he knew, this is relevant. After his GF kicked him out, he moved somewhere like 3 hours away for several months. I guess he had a falling out with them, because he called me like 2am asked me if I could come get him, which I did on a minutes notice, using my gas to drive way out in god knows where northern PA, almost New York. He stayed with me for a couple months, I in the time he had moved away gotten a different job than the one we worked at that paid almost twice as much (its a long story, but I took that job temporarily because of life things and I was very overqualified for it). I drove him to get his old job back, and I was driving him to work, since I worked, he was on his own for a ride home. I also drove him to various errands and since it took him a few weeks to get his old job back and get some money, I fed him. We got into several political arguments, his favorite thing to do was to rant about "lazy liberal millennials who don't want to work who". One night I was driving him to work and he went on one of those tangents and I just snapped at him.. I said, something like "You're getting a ride in a lazy liberal millennials car that he works and pays 400 dollars a month for because you owe back child support for years, you're sleeping you butt in a lazy millennial's bed under his roof, because you in your mid 40s aren't stable enough so you have to work a permatemp job in a warehouse for 12 bucks an hour, you just got done filling your belly with a lazy liberal millennial's food because you got no money to buy your own, and if you open your mouth one more time, you can walk to work". That guy made me so mad, it was like having a child. He rolled cigarettes in my dining room, would never clean up the loose tobacco off the floor or the ashes, even though I stored the 500 dollar Dyson vacuum I had literally right behind him where he always sat in the dining room chain smoking and playing games on his phone. Also, I agreed to let him smoke in the apartment, but ONLY in the dining room. I never went into his room when he stayed there, but after he left, I went to clean up the bedroom, I found energy drink cans filled with cigarette butts and again ashes all over the floor.

"it's so irresponsible to use your money how you want, you should be saving it for having children!!!" I'm not sure how to put this nicely, but if you cannot afford to have children, maybe having them isn't the greatest idea...?

@Chuckf66

2 жыл бұрын

Can't feed 'em? DON'T BREED' EM.

@thememan1387

2 жыл бұрын

@@Chuckf66 Exactly

@sinbadwilliams7186

2 жыл бұрын

@@Chuckf66 hence why I dont have kids. Can afford to live in my own and cant add more to that equation otherwise I can no longer afford it

@slattstarr950

2 жыл бұрын

@@Chuckf66 exactly if u cant afford to have cum pets dont open ur legs !my mom (currently raises 4 children including me) and we go on small vacations not because we dont have enough money for long vacays but because she cant miss work for long bcuz she works in a hospital and when u dont show up u dont get payed longest vacation was a week and even then we ate good and no loans they arent working AT ALL near the amount they should be working they are slacking and leeching

I don’t get why people get upset overs others decision to not have kids. It’s literally not a big deal

@kaylawoodbury2308

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's "misery loves company", sometimes it's their religious/family indoctrination. Sometimes it's even a controlling douche with a pregnancy fetish... As an asexual woman I have encountered all three and by far the last is the worst

@sourisvoleur4854

2 жыл бұрын

I think it's just jealousy. He gets to go on fancy vacations because he doesn't have kids. We don't get to go on fancy vacations because we do. Waaah! It's not fair!

@shrubsteppers

2 жыл бұрын

I come from a large family and my sister and two other cousins have chosen to be child-free. Most of the family doesn't make a big deal of it, but the family members who don't seem to enjoy being parents constantly harass them about having kids and how they'll regret it if they don't.

@NikkieRoxxx

2 жыл бұрын

@@shrubsteppers my dh and I took more than 12 years to have our son truely a "miracle baby"... before when we werechildless wed say it was because we didnt wanted any children, as an attpt 2 avoid all intrusive questions .. bottom line: people wi alwaus are nozy and think they r entitled to make any comment they want. Bless u all!

@ahstiasummers5583

2 жыл бұрын

They want reassurance that they totally made the right choices in life, no really stop laughing. Or there are some who only want to raise their dream child and resent their kids for not living up to their parent's mental fantasy of family life

The baby story reminds me when I had my first son I said I wouldn't let people out of my small close nit family kiss my son because I saw something about a baby who got herpes and was basically covered in cold sores. Me being a new pregnant mum was like no and so many of my friends started saying well I'm going to kiss your kid anyway. Safe to say they didn't meet my baby

@MandyTalking

2 жыл бұрын

I remember our new born being sick with fever n we were told by his doc to keep him home and monitor him closely... my mil was LIVID that we didnt come over to her mothers day party... she even tried to say her mom was the angry one when that was a lie. Her mother (husbands grandmother) had called us to tell us to stay home. Why do grandparents become so insane when they become grandparents?

@kaede1093

2 жыл бұрын

@@MandyTalking I'm not sure I'm lucky my family have been good and always supported me sometimes I find with grandparents though they want to be the parent and don't realise a grandparents role and they do cross boundaries and a lot of people are set in their ways like it's good for kids to get sick it builds up their immune system. But things have changed now my daughter caught covid when she wasn't even 4 weeks old. And now when she's unwell with anything she's nearly hospitalised for anything. Where as my son who hasn't had covid is perfectly fine may be run down for 1-2 days then he's his normal self. People need to stop living in the past that kids can still do everything like how they used to because bugs, colds and everything have change so much and are so much worse because of the lockdowns. Like people need to realise things change and kids are fighting stronger bugs than we were younger

@ruspotter2037

2 жыл бұрын

That’s horrifying. Most folks will have a bump at worst. This poor child is basically a giant herp for life. I’m having trouble processing that

@kaede1093

2 жыл бұрын

@@ruspotter2037 Yeah basically, there was a post basically saying be careful who you let kiss your baby this baby was in hospital because of how bad the sores were they were covered and they would be a carrier for herpes for the rest of their life just because someone didn't know or say and they kissed their baby it was crazy

@sarahamira5732

2 жыл бұрын

Why can't people just??? Respect people boundaries???? What the hell did they think you were gonna do? Let them get away with blatantly disrespecting you? Who kisses babies that are not there own anyway???

1st story: It's obvious that the "friends" of OP's resent having kids, & they've grown very bitter because they aren't able to do all the things that OP can. Simply put, they're jealous. And since they have kids, but OP doesn't, they've somehow let all of those festering toxic thoughts/feelings allow them to feel entitled to OP's financial help because of a "he can afford it" attitude. OP needs to cut his ties with these leeches because he'll be so much better off without "friends" like that.

@lancerevell5979

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. They need to be EX friends. And get that $1800 back! Take them to small claims court.

@theonesithtorulethemall

2 жыл бұрын

Most people who have the "you shuld have children or your worth less" Are idiots who vuldnt stop themself from duckin around ramdomly and now regret being imbecills

@bethh.8840

2 жыл бұрын

People assume that they are entitled to someone else's money, especially if someone else is more well off. It's pathetic.

@TiffWaffles

2 жыл бұрын

And the thing is that you can still do vacations and fun time when you have children. I don't have children myself and I don't think I will, but it is doable if you want a nice family vacation. You save up for it and budget. You might not be able to spend a month in Brazil, but you can do road trips for the summer and go across country. I know a family from Quebec that goes on roadtrips and will go from campground to campground across Canada for a fun trip and they have a lot of children. So it is doable and I don't understand the resentment that these parents have for their child free friends. You just have to plan your trip and save up for it, if you want a whole month of vacationing in a foreign country with children, I am sure that there are plans or something that a travel company can do? Some kind of deals for a family so that they could go travel to a European country or go to South America for a month, right? Deals on air travel, looking up hotels and inns... What to do there. The basic budget stuff, everything.

@annesophie4037

2 жыл бұрын

@@TiffWaffles yeah, the you can't live your live on a whim with children stuff isn't really universally applicable imo. Really our dog made our plans more complicated than our kid does. We often make road trips spontaneously, traveling isn't a problem either and we get enough freetime since our son is pretty independent, we never really face problems when planing anything since most places are childfriendly and he has never stoped us from doing what we liked, it's just a bit more planing, we have to look out for our son and take his needs into consideration but you would do the same when traveling with a friend so this makes little difference to us.

"If someone told a sick person to kiss my baby, I'd cut them completely out of my life forever" You're better than me. If it'd my kid, there would be lawsuits against them. Lawsuits and beat downs. _Then_ I'd cut them out of my life forever.

“Sharing germs strengthens immunity” “It’s my fault for being dirty and having a child out of wedlock” Let me take a wild guess, those parents are currently strolling into stores unmasked and refuse to get vaccinated? I don’t ever really plan on having kids but if someone did that to my kid or hell even my nieces and nephews, I wouldn’t want those people anywhere near the child ever again

Story 1: "You have money, so you should give it to us!" Story 2: "You have to take the blame for our mistake because we don't want this on our conscious!" Story 3: "You have to pretend I am not a bad person and allow me to abuse whomever I like!"

Story 3: Good riddance, Step-father. He seems to be projecting his failures.

They called her "dirty" for having a child out of wedlock...Honestly, OP has a hell of a lot of self control, cuz you better believe I would've thrown hands. Had to pick my jaw off the floor after I heard that.

@confusednezuko-chan

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. My respects for OP for keeping herself together.

@hechtkopf5392

2 жыл бұрын

Been watching a ton of rSlash videos after discovering the channel one or two weeks ago. Most stories got me wondering, doubting humanity, loosing all faith in the human race. This story actually got me mad

It's almost like the guy in the first story is being responsible by not having kids. Unlike most people who just pop out kids early on.

@lilycassidy1674

2 жыл бұрын

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@sourisvoleur4854

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah he hinted that they got pregnant "accidentally" right out of high school.

@genseven4616

2 жыл бұрын

When the movie "idiocracy" becomes more than a movie.....

I would 100% report those in laws and the SIL parents to the police for attempted murder. They knew it was dangerous, and purposefully infected the 5 month old infant. They all, except the niece herself, deserve to go to jail for a few years. Cutting them form your life isn't enough, you have to cut them from life in general, because those people are literal psychopaths.

I still don’t understand why people get angry about some wanting to be childless. Just because you want children doesn’t everyone wants children. With the second story, OP was not over reacting at all. Her MIL was just entitled and controlling. The third story, Adam is a complete asshole. He deserved to be arrested.

@lucybaez6750

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I've had coworkers my age (who are parents) go crazy every time they would ask me if I had changed my mind about having kids and my answer would be a firm "no." Like why do they even care. They even brought their baby into work and asked me to hold it to "hopefully change my mind". Like WTF??!!? And no I did not hold their baby.

@d0pium

2 жыл бұрын

I got my tubes tied at 25 (never ever wanted kids and my bf is very supportive). It surprised me how much slack i got from women about choosing not to breed, it blew my mind. Apparently because I'm a female I'm supposed to have my own or be a surrogate for someone else (cause you know, id birth a kid for someone else but not myself right? Pfffft.). Its been 10 years and still best decision ive made!

@Chuckf66

2 жыл бұрын

ChildFREE.

@bostonrailfan2427

2 жыл бұрын

it’s really only an issue when it’s someone spouting off to others about not having kids…and yes, there are dumbasses who do that. people have a right to choose not to have kids, and the OP wasn’t against them just didn’t want kids then and was happy to give a kid a home later on

@sinbadwilliams7186

2 жыл бұрын

I have a co worker who keeps getting on my case about not having kids. I don't have them since I dont really like them. It's mainly because I dont understand them since times have changed to the point it that I feel like my dad did with me when I was a kid. After several months of her getting in my case, I finally got her to stop by asking her if she was volunteering to give birth to my kids. She got grossed out by this and called HR. I told them the truth about what was happening and got off with a simple warning. I told her afterwards dont suggest I have kids unless she wants to volunteer to be the mother since I cant be both. Haven't heard anything from her since and I love it.

This man is cooler than the other side of my pillow

@iceshard2364

2 жыл бұрын

That’s one of the highest compliments I’ve ever heard 😆

@hamzahelal929

2 жыл бұрын

But both sides of my pillow are full of heat and sweat :(

@Firestrike40

2 жыл бұрын

@@hamzahelal929 mega rip in the chat

@Kati_P

2 жыл бұрын

He's cooler than the dark side of the moon 😉🙂

@otravis676

2 жыл бұрын

Oh he would be if he'd read things as there written.

Honestly, in that last story it sounds like Adam didn't tell OP her Brother was missing because he actually cared, it sounds more like he did it so OP would call him to get more info so he could hear the Panic and Fear, and most likely blame her for everything.

@Giselle.829

2 жыл бұрын

Op

Asshat: *"If you know anything, tell the police."* OP: *Told the police all about him* Asshat: *Surprised Pikachu Face*

@AceAviations2

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly OP should have made that thing 'disappear' if you know what I mean, a shallow grave in the woods would be a fitting place for that monster. Stories like that are why I firmly believe in the death penalty, exterminate those monsters and stop wasting resources on things that have done things that don't deserve to live.

@angelogaray8019

2 жыл бұрын

It was at this moment that he knew He fucked up

second story : How is this any of your fault? you're "dirty" ? For having a child out of wedlock??? And somehow THAT got your kid sick???? Them deliberately getting your son sick by "sharing germs" like that is what's dirty.

@translarrybutz

Жыл бұрын

If OPs kid got sick because being born out of wedlock, I wonder how the neice got sick... With that logic, the sister in law also did something wrong

Story 1: It stabs you in the heart when you wind up learning how entitled, selfish, and hypocritical your friends are over a decision like "Not starting a family"

The problem isn't as easy as "If someone is abusing you, you need to get out of that situation" It's that many people who are abused aren't able to recognise their experiences as abuse. This would be like telling a blind person to "Just cross the street on the green light." It seems very obvious to us, but they don't have the same frame of reference or perception that you or I do.

@charliefinnmichael4770

2 жыл бұрын

THIS!!!!!!! THIS SO MUCH!!!! HOLY SHIT I FOUND HOW TO EXPLAIN THE MOM STAYING W ADAM!!!

Whenever I lend money of any sizable amount I always get it in writing to prevent arguments about amount and to ensure that I can in fact, get MY money back. To that end, I make sure the paper that's signed has the needed detais on it... 1.) amount, 2.) an advantage for me, the lender, no matter how small (otherwise it doesn't count as a contract) 3.) a mention of the expectation that it be paid back. (that way it can't be misconstrued as a gift) 4.) signitures

@richewilson6394

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah after they showed their true colors i would be sending them invoices saying ."You see me a bank so I'm just getting my money back. "

@PaveMentman

2 жыл бұрын

--- Well, that kinda only works on adults: Me as a 10-13-years old once loaned like really small sum of money of comparable to like 5€ to a half-buddy ( like we had gotten known to each other in another group or something like that ). I had everything in writing: Dates, the sum, signature. Everything on a small A6-paper. Once I after a week or so ( he had needed the loaned pocket-money for an impulse snack ), he just simply booked-it. I followed to his home ( granted, in somewhat of a "Two dollars!"-paperboy- of "Better Off Dead"-1985-film atmosphere-wise; though my lines pretty much were limited to "So, about this loan..." when I walked to the playground we were supposed to meet at and "Oy, you'll need to pay this back, you know?" ), ringed the doorbell about 30-seconds later once he had pretty much slammed the door in front me, and then I was greeted by his mother while he himself was hiding behind her like a lost child. I politely told about the loan and showed the contract (never handing it her). But she pretty much all but ignored the paper almost slapped me into face while her "shoo!"-swing with her all the while repeating "Go away!" and such. And then she slammed the door in front me once I had taken few steps back; I did also caught a glimpse of this boy having a "Gotcha!"-smirk. Needless to, I decided to never see that kid again. --- Nowadays I for one am really happy that over here we have almost eliminated physical money. At least, outside market-squares. ---

@abrr2000

2 жыл бұрын

@@PaveMentman The paper he signed, if it had an advantage for you and an agreement to repay it, and better yet, a witness signiture, it would be unquestionably legally enforcable via the small claims court, or whatever the equivilent is in your country. (think judge judy, but without the cameras.) There are costs in time and money involved however, despite there not being any lawyers involved in small claims court. So for €5 it almost certainly wouldn't be worth it. This however would torpeedo any relationship you have, so should be a last resourt. also, ALWAYS start by lending someone an amount your willing to loose and see how they behave reguarding it before you even consider lending amounts you care about to them. (hope for the best, plan for the worst.)

@PaveMentman

2 жыл бұрын

--- @@abrr2000 Yah, to add further, the (wealthy-family) mother in question was one of those very clear in their 50's rotund "granny" entitled parents and this boy seemingly was yet another angel-child of hers. So yeah, indeed cost-savings and otherwise it certainly wouldn't have been worth the effort, especially here in Finland which definitely you'd pretty much need to commit a genocide before there would be even any sort consideration from officials to proceed with "civil cases" ( and "European small claims procedure" nowadays too ). I mean, after all, I hadn't been a buddy his for even a month to begin with ( comparatively speaking that is: we primarily shared the same hobby of Playstation 1-games and recall borrowing "Monster Rancher (2 PAL-version)" for a week ); and he was after all "friend-of-a-friend-of-friend" ( I can pretty much count the face-to-face meet-ups with one-five-fingered-hand ). Regardless, after that incident there really hasn't been any opportunities to even lend-away money anyways. Nor I wouldn't practice such charity especially nowadays anyway.. ---

@starskunk

2 жыл бұрын

Same - my sister recently asked for a loan of a not insignificant amount of money until tax season due to an issue with getting scammed by a plumber, and yeah I can afford it no problem, and I do trust her. But just as a CYA (and I told her I'd seen enough Judge Judy, etc to make this important) I did still tell her I'd email a loan document with full details and terms for her to print off two copies of. She'd sign both, mail them to me, I'd mail her back one once I signed both so we both had a copy. As soon as I had the documents in hand with her signature on them I sent her over the money.

The 1st story. They are firm believers in "it takes a village to raise a child." This means they believe everyone around them must think of think of them first.

"all you single people only think about yourself" Yeah, that's point of being single?

1st story is a perfect example of 'give an inch, take a mile'

In the first story sounds like OP’S “friend” and his wife just wanted to dump their kids on OP while they have a vacation

Honestly, I'm absolutely LOVING rSlash's change in attitude towards the people in these posts ever since he's become a Papa Bear!!! There's been an obvious shift, & I'm so here for it!! 😋🤘

As a Brazilian, in the first story... If OP saved money in dollars, I'm quite sure he didn't need that much money to stay a month here hahahaha

@thisistherevolt

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like the op is going to a resort with Amazon tours. Those chopper rides aren't cheap.

@kaylawoodbury2308

2 жыл бұрын

Depends on where and when. As an American I know that other countries hike up prices for foreigners, especially Americans. It only gets worse if you book a hotel in a city AND during a popular event. If he's going to Rio for Carnival then hes paying big bucks. Especially if he tacks on services like a vacation planner, tour guides and things like that.

First story: Even if OP DIDN'T help these people financially, even if they DIDN'T do all those things to help themselves save money, even if they DID want kids in the future, then it's still literally none of those people's business and it's still 100% OP's money and OP still has the right to do whatever they want with it. Those people are jealous, petty, and very immature. Edit: Oh, and greedy and entitled.

The Second Story really just makes my skin crawl. I have grown up with children my tire life I have a very big family and you learn break quickly that even though older children and adults has pretty strong immunities infants don't. The child has to be put in isolation for quite a while because if they get sick even a month after this day could die.

Ngl in the first story those parents are definitely not OPs friends. I would say the best thing for OP to do is: Collect those 1800$ back and cut all ties with those people. Nobody needs these kind of people in their life.

@genseven4616

2 жыл бұрын

that's cute thinking he'll ever see that $1800 again

That first one, my heart goes out to him. My bf is child free by choice, I'm not, but if people treated him that way, I would lose my shit at them.

If someone did this to my baby, i wouldn't just not trust them, I would CHOOSE VIOLENCE

@johngowanjr5303

2 жыл бұрын

Rip and tear

@thememan1387

2 жыл бұрын

Until it is done. But no joke they would be in a grave in 2 seconds and I don't mean intact there would be a couple of missing arms

@rookie_6667

2 жыл бұрын

Finally someone who choose's the right way to deal with this situation

@confusednezuko-chan

2 жыл бұрын

I would not CARE whether they were my elders, I'd fucking lose it.

Your stories always make me feel safe. I was heavily abused in all kinds of ways growing up. If just one person can find a way out from your sweet messages at the end, then you’ve made a difference. Keep on keeping on and I just know you’re gonna be the best dad to your sweet little baby!

Story 3: Thank god OP told the police about everything I couldn’t Imagine how bad it would’ve been for the brother without anyone to help him/protect him. Also it made me happy that rslash really cares about his fans thats why hes my favorite KZreadr

The only thing I can say about the last story is: where the hell was OPs father and family? The father should have taken her in, damn. And the family could have at least called CPS to either take her away or make her mom realize the situation.

@genseven4616

2 жыл бұрын

somehow it's another man's fault and not the fault of the mother who got with him, married him, then stayed with him. Nope. Some poor guy who's most likely dead but sure blame him

@hydra2295

2 жыл бұрын

Dude, I’m not saying it’s not her fault, neither saying it’s the mans fault. If the dad did all of that then I would ask where the mother is. Both parents have the duty to protect their children. Also, the other parties family is also missing. The dad could be dad, or maybe not. And if not he and his family who did nothing are also buttholes in the situation.

2nd story. The fact that the in laws were just so ready and so ok with blaming the possible death of OP's baby ON OP IS FRIGGIN ASTOUNDING. None of them deserve oxygen

If they know they're being hypocritical then you should call CPS

That story about OP's inlaws blaming HER for the baby being sick, the MIL would've gotten a throat punch from me.

To that first story: I'd text back "You have 1 month to get me my money for the car or I'm taking it". Damn ingrates.

On that first story, my sister and family saved for a long while, and were able to spend an entire winter in Central America. It's not about whether you have kids, it's how you handle your finances. Both parents are very frugal (but still generous), and haven't had any major debts for years, despite not being high earners.

rslash: “it is my kid, not your kid. so fuck off” best quote ever!!!

RSlash was way more chill about the sick infant story, a "F**k off" is the tame version of what I would have done had it been my kid (I don't have kids but if I did have one) OHHHH no I woulda kicked some ass for causing that situation in the first place and then some extra for blaming me. They are the c*m of the crop tryna tell me I'm a horrible parent when I straight up told them not to come near my kid. Ugh I'm not even a parent and I have more sense than those grandparents.

OP in story 1 relates to me on a personal level. I have no kids, have no immediate plans for any, and half of my friends are either married with kids, or in a relationship with kids.

"All you single people only think about yourselves! WE never get to do anything! We already owe you money, but lend us more!" I really don't understand how such openly selfish people can call other people selfish.

Third story : It's nice that the police were able to help. Depending on where you live, they often can't do anything no matter what you tell them. But even if the cops can't help, there are other people who can.

"You don't know what it's like!! We never get to do anything!!" Should've kept your legs closed. 😐

@gotchalmao3047

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah they act so surprised Like duh, having kids does that to you

OP in Story 2 should go no contact with all of the in-laws at the first opportunity! There's no forgiving what they did. Nearly killing her child and then blaming her for "being dirty?" I would have been risking jail time if my parents did that to the mother of my kids.

Look, I have 4 kids and I don’t regret anything I’d have to give up for them. That being said, I have never looked down on anyone I’ve known for not having kids. It’s more selfish to bring kids into the world if you’re not willing to sacrifice for them than to not have kids. First OP is not the AH!

Whats wrong with op in story 1 Who goes to Brazil on purpose. Also for people who don't understand sarcasm this is a joke

The story of the MIL and FIL basically plotting murder on that OPs child even got me enraged - holy shit if I was the father of that child I would have gone over and folded them into trash cans. How can someone be like that

I wanted kids right up until I was nearly 31 and had a pregnancy scare and went "No, wait, I definitely DO NOT want this."

Third story: God, this man belongs to jail.

@confusednezuko-chan

2 жыл бұрын

With maximum security for REAL.

Bro the first story... This why y'all need to think HARDER about having a baby. If you want something cute but wont be able to handle the crippling responsibility, get a hamster. Holy shit.

that first story reminds me of something from old disney "Isn't it rather dangerous to use one's entire vocabulary in a single sentence?"

I love how you always take the time to let your audience know when there's abusive behavior. As a therapist myself, I'm confident that you've given some people the knowledge (power) to escape their abusers.

Second story: OP and her husband need to move and get a restrainning order and chargers for child endangerment.

I could definitly see myself drop kicking a child if they're annoying enough.

@gerrard1144

2 жыл бұрын

I would just yeet them ngl

@gerrard1144

2 жыл бұрын

@@BookWormiest agreed!

@zachary5579

2 жыл бұрын

Yikes But same

@Shade39711

2 жыл бұрын

i may have laughed slightly because I agree with ya

@mystical1216

2 жыл бұрын

Do I hear Technoblade

Daily reminder that you are loved and appreciated even if you don’t know it

That last story... what a disgusting monster. I'm happy that OP and their siblings are safe and away from that worthless excuse of a human being.

First story- I grew up in a working class little town. So that’s where my friends are from. Those friends who complained about not traveling weren’t friends. They were users. Self centered, immature, narcissistic jerks.

The last story, I hope that the father gets life in prison without parole!!

I had kids that were 8 years apart. I never had any problems taking vacations. I didnt stay at resorts. We camped or did other cheaper options. Doubt their kids are interested in a resort.

@erickpoorbaugh6728

2 жыл бұрын

That’s what my parents did when I was growing up. We never had much money, but we had some amazing vacations, at least from a child’s perspective (I’m sure many adults, particularly those who care about things like resorts, might disagree).

Whenever my mom gives bad parenting advice to my sister I always point out how her advice is terrible due to how she did that and it messed up our psychological, emotional, or physical health, and in some cases how those problems/scars were carried with us into adulthood and even to today. Idk how one can fail at something, yet be convinced they are not the reason for the failure and attempt to convince others to make their same mistakes.

I met my wife when I was 36 and she was 29, so both of us had gone good long whiles without high-level responsibility. I don't recall ever having married friends act so toxic about having kids, or my carefree life. Also, travelling is still possible after kids (if you have a remote job)! We spent 10 weeks on a road trip from Switzerland through the Balkans to Turkey then back north through Central/Eastern Europe to Poland and back over to Switzerland. My six-month-old and my pregnant wife both had a wonderful time, and so did I!

That final story made my blood absolutely BOIL. I hope Adam ended up in prison.

@thomasriccardi8561

2 жыл бұрын

Or dead

There is no need to watch a traditional horror movie on Halloween... Just listen to these stories with the knowledge knowing these people actually exist...

The first story: OP shouldn’t feel like a jerk, they worked HARD for that money and they earned it. OP is 1000% entitled to use their money however they want and not feel obligated to hand it over to some random Karen who is demanding it.

I actually had to hold back a gag during that story about OP’s baby almost dying when I heard “give her a big kiss”. 🤢 Like, God, OP should cut ties with her folks.

Last story: Malicious compliance + pro revenge + nuclear revenge

Rslash, I love listening to you telling these stories, your voice is fantastic and your comments on the stories are usually spot on and sometimes really touching (I have a baby myself, so I can often relate). But one of the things I love(d) most was your creative way of describing curse words, my favourites being 'passionate hugging' and 'bundle of sticks'. Beeping it out deprives me of your creativity :( please bring the colourful descriptions back.

Honestly intentionally getting someone sick should be a crime. Or even a war crime for using biological weapons intentionally or unintentionally.

The one about the sick one pissed me off. You almost kill someone because if your stupid decisions but don’t even bother to take the blame, but instead give it to someone else. I would cut them out of my life

"You should have kids so you can learn responsibility" "I've made it to 27 without an oops baby and am financially stable because of it" "how dare you be so selfish and do what you want, give us your money so we can do what we want"

My step dad and mother were very similar to "Adam." More on the verbal side as I got older because I had CPS come to my house a total of 3 times. Come the time I was 18 and trying to move out with friends. Them finding out they kicked me out on the spot. I was homeless in a crap car with no hear in the middle of December. I lived on my then girlfriend now ex baby mamas dad's couch. He was okay with it as I never made a mess and even cleaned up after them. He hardly saw me because I was in college during the day and worked during the night. I would only stay on the really cold nights because I couldn't risk getting sick. My mother soon split after I got kicked out and then the middle child, oldest after I left got the full abuse from my mother. A very similar nothing happened to him as he was trying to get out right before he turned 18. He even ran away for a night before the police found him and brought him back. My mother locked him in the utility room feeding him only bread and water for a couple days. He snuck a phone to contact me asking for help. First time I've heard from him in over a year because he thought I was the butt hole for abandoning the family. I got our dad involved and that day and drove down there and picked him up. He lives in a different state now with my dad with me being only 5 min away. We created a bind again and he's much happier now. Working to get a car and sadly has to finish his senior year up here away from all his friends. But he's seeing that life doesn't have to be that way and is making the best out of his situation.

The person who’s son almost died should sue and get a restraining order with the in-laws

It took me years to finally recognize that my sister was abusive, when I was little I worshipped her no matter how much she screamed at me, threatened me and even hit me. She's been put into jail and mental hospitals because of her extreme bipolar aggression and she won't get treatment because she thinks she's fine even though she hears voices and sees things that aren't there. She even went to my highschool to try and kill a teacher. It took me forever, but this year I saw the truth. I moved states right after I realized what she's been doing is not right. What's sad is that's what our dad did, he has schizoaffective disorder and would go manic and fight cops and go to a mental hospital or jail just like my sister. He'd verbally abuse my sister, but he never hit her, so I understand where her issues came from, although I'll never forgive and never trust her again. Once I left I blocked her number and I've felt true peace, just, oh my god, no more fear when I hear doors slam when I hear her voice, when I'm around her, when she looks at me and yells my name, it's all gone. I know how I'm supposed to be treated and she can take her psychotic ass into hell where she came from. But what's even more scary is she's planning to have kids and I talked with my mom about how she shouldn't have kids because of her extreme anger and controlling issues and she agreed. I pray to whatever God that could be out there that she doesn't have kids and tortures them for another 18yrs like me.

@confusednezuko-chan

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you made it out, pal.

Day 317 of telling him he's making everyone day better

@nodrugshere300

2 жыл бұрын

Good bird. Day two.

@rjlangaman4741

2 жыл бұрын

Ye

1st story: Family shames OP for being childless. 2nd story: Family tries to make other OP childless.

I would make the inlaws pay the medical bills for almost killing my baby. And then tell OP it's your fault cause you were dirty for having a baby out of wedlock, they need to see a doctor themselves to see if they have any medical issues themselves for acting like that and almost killing a baby.

I would just like to say that not having children when you know you don't want children is the most mature path you can take. I can tell you from experience, NOBODY wants a parent who doesn't want them. Telling someone who doesn't want children that they should have them is TERRIBLE ADVICE!

Day 8 of asking RSlash for more r/wooosh 😁

8 seconds ago- wow I'm early!

When they break out the wedlock excuse to use against you, you know that person is from the middle ages.

1st story- I have 2 kids ( grown now) my choice. It seem to me that the single guy without kids is very responsible . Having kids does not necessarily make you a responsible person.

Story 1: That's why people with kids want other people to have kids. Misery loves company.

I'll say this, if my in-laws get my kid sick to the point of hospitalization, let's just say someone's gonna die, and it sure as hell won't be my kid.

When I started dating my now husband he had two friends (one intoudced me to my husband) they didn't think our relationship would work out. When they realized that they lost their cash cow or personal human ATM machine they freaked the hell out. They started making up lies that was basically he said she said to break us up, so they would continue to get money from him. That is all they wanted from him was his money. It was sad and pathetic. I had a good paying job then, and I lost due to problems with my idiot administrator,( who FYI got fired due to the reason I quit, but that's a whole other story) so I didn't need his money.

As far as the abusive father in law (3rd story if I counted right), gosh... that story made me cry a bit. My father wasn't abusive, but he was a downright jerk for years. He started to mellow out recently, but still it's often like walking on egg shells and don't dispute any of his political opinions (I'm left wing, gay and he's a right wing trump supporter). Even with that I can't imagine how it is. OP, if you had a GoFundMe, I would donate it to at least help your brother who has violent tendencies. Maybe I'm just a generous person, but that story really struck me. You had it a million times worse than me, and I had to deal with coming out. I couldn't what your step father would do. I hope he rots in jail!

Reminds me of the time a family friend got my twin/triplet sister sick by kissing her on the face. I thought my mother was about to start a genocide route of that. Luckily, she didn't do it again and she was a fun person to hang around. People need to understand that the immune system is extremely weak at this stage and babies WILL die if introduced to an illness their bodies had yet to recognize.

"entitled father almost kills a baby!" *instantly thinks of ways to make him pay with his life*

My step dad used to verbally abuse my Mom and I. He would call me weak, ugly, fat, stupid, lying, a POS, etc. He would call my Mom a B when he was drunk and become overbearing and violent when he was inebriated, it felt like I had to keep quite or he would hurt me. I'm extremely happy that he's gone and I've gotten professional help to get out of the Depression he put me in. Sorry for the rant. And thanks for reading this!

To the last story, it's not normal to feel fear and despair in your home. Teens, if you feel that way, please reach out to a trusted teacher or maybe a friend's parent, particularly if that parent is someone your parents don't seem to get along with but you can't quite figure out why. That's an indication that they are not swayed by your parents influence and they are more likely to believe you. I had this experience as a teenager but I didn't understand it.

The story with the selfish friends is way too familiar for me. I don't want kids. My big sis has 5 kids. She only contacts me when she wants money because "You don't need it. You don't have kids."

I would’ve been tossing elbows if someone made their sick kid cough on my child. Wouldn’t have blamed the lady if she started handing out knuckle sandwiches all around.

you know when you want to punch a hole into someone's face? that MIL and A are on my list.

my parents were married for 13 years before they had me. It really sounds like these parents needed to wait a bit longer to actually have kids too...