The best way to get over a resentment is NOT to find someone else. That is still numbing your pain. It’s go inward and heal.

Out of 251 million people suffering from heartbreak, one is truly alone in their own suffering.....😔

Skip needless intro.. Guy Winch starts at 4: 15

Im glad i find this on KZread.😊 Sending love and light to all who seek comfort.❤️

I fear no one will make me feel So loved like that again. That I’ll be alone until I die. It makes me consider accelerating that eventuality.

@katflowfishfisher878

4 күн бұрын

love and relationships/ram dass and I am yoga nidra by amrit desai best to you

Confusing is an understatement. Crushing is the feeling i had. Especially after a 27 year marriage and 3 grown children.

@baileybug776

Жыл бұрын

I too was left after a 40 year marriage and children and granddaughter. He left me for bosses young daughter. Devastating is the only word for it. You are in my heart ❤️

@sjean831

Жыл бұрын

I’m really sorry this is happening for you both. I’m also experiencing an enormous heartbreak feeling. But we will get thru this. And in the long run we will look back at all this experience and nightmare and just know it was necessary for our growth. We will be much better. I trust it

@Elinhege22

7 ай бұрын

How are you today? Going through the same, after 25 years and three kids together. He left for a 23 year old... same age as our sons. I am four months in, and I just don't feel I'm getting anywhere. Just devastated.

i know you're going through worst situation right now, but listen, take care of yourself, do things you actually wants to do, it helps really helps. you are valuable ❤

@superscience4817

8 ай бұрын

Thanks 🤗

1) no contact/ minimal contact 2) self- identity, starting from scratch, who was I before the relationship, what compromise did I make, what kind of friends do I need? 3) why breakup happened, explanation can help 4) accept the reason if not insulting 5) blind sighted after breakup/ drifting apart / that's their plan 6) idolising ex is natural, but not helpful, how to not idolise them but not villainise them? 7) Reasons why they were not perfect for you or a good match for you, make a list of it 8) self-blame is natural tendency, it's about a match not about being enough for that person, don't look at things you hate about yourself/ insecurities 9) it's not about attraction, we all make mistakes, is there a match 10) social support is important, supported by others, emotional validation, finding people with similar circumstances

No Contact of possible. Went through break up with same person. I went No Contact, practiced letting go, trying to move on, she tracked me down and begged me to come back. Got back together and gor married and she started doing the same things all over again. Now 8 years later, living as roommates only for 4 years, she wants divorce. I'm still in the house and physically close. I did choose to sleep in spare bedroom but we are near each other a lot. And leaving could impact divorce proceedings, so I'm doing best I can, to let go and move on, wven in this situation, which makes that especially difficult. If anyone has already parted company, do No Contact for your own well being. It is true, they'll often chase you after you go No Contact but never forget they broke up once, they'll likely repeat and your heart will be broken again and maybe worse.

@robbieamhaz2662

4 ай бұрын

That's really tuff

Best no nonsense talk I’ve encountered on healing a broken heart - hard truths but also filled with compassion and hope. Thank you!

I’m so heartbroken at this point I’m shutting down

@robbieamhaz2662

4 ай бұрын

Me too

@MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp

2 ай бұрын

My heart hurts now after three years since my partner suddenly left me( via a text; charming .Today I don't feel like doing very much but I know I have to simply somehow get on with the day .These are just my thoughts.I often feel physicalical sick.All I can say is try to forget those who have hurt you ignore all the bs about how they have helped you in some way .Just find ways to care for yourself.I can't help from thinking about my ex and I wish there was a way to completely forget her .I just wish I could use my mind for more useful things.sorry for your pain.

@whatwhywhenthen

Ай бұрын

​@MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp don't be too hard on your self brother, some people stay broken, even years later I was recently besotted with a lady, i feel she kind of lead me on and ended up been with a man who was known as a womanizer and one she claimed was a bastard and i had more to offer

This guy is helping me so much. Although I need to go back and rewatch things and remind myself of these tactics. One thing is true though, the pain is excruciating.

@mikewojcik

Жыл бұрын

Same here! Have to keep going back and watch. Guy is awesome.

@jaehlee4982

Жыл бұрын

The pain is unreal, I could deal with physical pain. What’s killing me is the sleepless nights.

@pastrami00

8 ай бұрын

@@jaehlee4982 agreed. I'm now taking 3 sleeping pills a night and I still can't sleep more than an hour at a time.

@user-mf7ll4nm4n

7 ай бұрын

Yes I am having the same feelings and can't get to sleep at night.It has been one year since the break up. I just hope that time might bring some recovery. I hope you will find. Some peace/resolution soon.

I don't geel so bad now hearing about multiple break-ups with same person. 4 times for me and now number 5. I'm 62 and 18 years of my life wasted. Many of those years i was miserable. Each time it was her that pushed me away and each time it was her that wanted me back. Now, again, she's doing the same thing. Don't be slow to learn like I was. Move on. Better to break-up with someone new, than with the same person.

I live on an island. So glad you mentioned this. It is harder living in a small town, seeing them out and she has no idea who I am and he acts like he doesn't know who I am. Hurtful

She pulled me away from my abusive parents. I lived in the basement of an abandoned building across the street from her for 4 years and 6 months with her in an apartment we rented. Her parents were constantly screaming and gaslighting from 8 in the morning to 11 at night. Nearly 5 years of fight or flight for both of us. When I finally told her mom "not in my house," they turned on me. A 10 hour scream-fest later, she packed me a backpack and I was pushed out the door. I lost 80% of my belongings and the person I planned a future with, they lost me which is worth far more than that. 6 months later, I am living comfortably and seeing a girl, the ex and her family keep finding an underhanded way to undermine my reputation and unload a 15,000 debt, sending threatening messages to get into my head, and all-round harassment from a distance. I lost my things and my plans, but I got myself and my potential.

I left him. My heartbreak is probably just as bad as his. I didn’t want to leave but I felt like I had to. That’s what broke my heart.

@adambrockway4184

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Tyler, what made you feel that way? I would assume if you are truly feeling that loss that there is still love between you. Did you both sit down and communicate needs clearly to one another prior to your decision to leave or were you both just fighting back and forth not feeling that those needs were being fulfilled? usually if that's the case you may just left without having that communication about the relationship being important to both of you and worth fighting for and that could be a mistake. If you had that communication and had no resolution that I would say that I hope that your grieving period is short and that you are able to accept it wasn't meant to be and you are able to move on to find your true match. My love and empathy go out to you. I know how this feels to grieve the loss of a relationship you thought would have a future.

@davidpearlactorteacherbizman

2 жыл бұрын

me2

@daman5037

Жыл бұрын

I don’t think it’s as bad but it definitely hurts, think bout it thru his perspective.

@arielle452

Жыл бұрын

My reality right now…

@oritHa

Жыл бұрын

I left him. But I was the one with heartbroken as I left him when felt he is not giving me the basic that I need from a partner. He just loved the feeling of me loving him

I can draw out a roadmap/ infographic of how we could fix the relationship…I wanted to do therapy as a couple but there was always an excuse…after 4 years she dropped me like I was nothing…blaming it was all my fault…it’s been 2 months…it really messed me up…my self esteem is down the drain…but I’ll persevere 😣…won’t let this affect my life anymore…🤩 time to rise ❤ all your broken souls we got this!!!

Great webinar, got so much clarity from this. Really helped humanize the other person. Want to hate them, want to blame them, want them to know how much they’ve hurt me…but that isn’t going to quicken the healing needed. I’m about 2 months in on a 21 year separation. We’ve been together since we were 17. No matter how difficult things got, I had faith that we would always be able to work through it and communicate. But the communication started to fall by the wayside on their end. I tried to communicate even when it didn’t feel welcomed. Thank you for providing your insight

My narc husband of 32 years decided to “come clean” before his cancer got bad. He told us about his double life with some side trash in another city but came back for me to take care of him the last four months of his life. I was devastated and shocked. of course their transactionship crumbled within a couple months (duh, it’s not like he ended our marriage, got himself help and now he’s a great partner!). I’ve never felt such anger and hatred in my life, being dead is not enough. It’s 10 months now,I’m a lot better but still very sad to see the way the only person I trusted my entire adult life, try to destroy his family on his way out. Well, he’s gone and I have peace now, can’t wait to not think about him anymore

This was VERY useful! Thank you. I would like to mention one thing regarding the last few minutes of video. There is an assumption that the woman didn't communicate a growing issue and I have to say that women nearly ALWAYS voice their dissatisfaction and usually in multiple ways before shutting down or totally pulling away. Sadly, most guys view this as nagging or they are so caught up in their own head that they don't HEAR the woman until she gets extreme. Then the man seems blindsided because she doesn't want to talk about it anymore or try. Guys...PLEASE take this doctor's advice and check in with your woman regularly cuz at a certain point there's just no use trying to talk anymore. Hear this wisdom and do what is suggeated in this video.

@MBAInnovator

2 жыл бұрын

I am an example of this. My ex girlfriend did in fact voice her concerns with me but I took them as personal attacks to me. I was not listening. It came to a point of another argument but this was the last star for her and I shut down and ended the relationship because I was too immature for hard conversation. I immediately regret breaking up. But she came to a point she does not want to try anymore. We were in a 5 year relationship.

@ladyjei

2 жыл бұрын

@@MBAInnovator Thank you for sharing this. It's very vulnerable and brave. Your words matter.

@thurtymen459

2 жыл бұрын

@@ladyjei Communication is more about letting the other person understand your needs. Also, women don't always voice their dissatisfaction. They may make a few snide comments, but they seem to be pretty terrible communicators about their needs and wants in a relationship, and expect men to know. So to all women, responsibility also lies on you.

@ladyjei

2 жыл бұрын

@@thurtymen459 True. I have witnessed this as well. Often I've seen this (and done this myself) when someone is trying to avoid comflict, has already given up, or feels they are not being heard. Of course, this is also influenced by self esteem, religion, social status of woman involved, etc...

@thurtymen459

2 жыл бұрын

@@ladyjei agreed. And its so important to pay attention to each others communication styles, attachment styles and past trauma..

Thank you kindly.I am definitely keeping away from social media and trying to keep away from the orgastions etc where I had met my ex.However I still feel so sad. But also betrayed.

How do you deal with the heartbreak if they leave you for someone else? Not only is it hurting because you are losing them but it also hurts the ego so so much and the voice telling you that you are not good enough gets louder and louder ?

@ChannelMariePH

Жыл бұрын

I also feel like that, Jasmine. I'll oray for you. It's been 2 years since I was dumped but it does still feel very painful. The betrayal... I am glad I got to see this video though. 😊

@mikewojcik

Жыл бұрын

Same here. It’s tough. Good luck. It’s been a month for me and I’m still not right.

@reydamaster3

Жыл бұрын

My ex broke up with me and we went no contact for 40 days. She got pregnant by a rebound and now regrets it. She tried to come back to me but I told her no. It's sad how not being responsible ruins everything. It still hurts but I'm gonna get over it

@janm9610

Жыл бұрын

Seems these people that have someone else so fast are operating in mental dysfunction of some kind.

@robbieamhaz2662

4 ай бұрын

Exactly same happened to me it totally devastated me. Me ex moved in with a man 6 weeks after she left me and finding out made me feel worthless

I just ended a semi abusive/abusive relationship...Heart breaking sad crushed hard on my brain

@mikewojcik

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Good luck

Thank you for sharing this. Wish I saw this when it came out… but I’m working on myself now, even though I now except that it’s more unlikely she’ll ever take me back. She did the right thing by leaving, my mistakes and flaws were way way significantly damaging than hers. I can only work on myself and my self love from here on out without the expectation of ever getting her back…

@stacyjaye6350

2 жыл бұрын

Trust and believe, getting them back can be used as a motivator, it's not a goal. It's never the same as it was before the crap happened. Good luck man hang in there and move forward! Just say no to the rear view.

Love this ! I’m still struggling to move forward with my break up this what I need to hear. Ty

@robbieamhaz2662

4 ай бұрын

Same

For me works detach slowly after making clear what is wrong, replace their space with other goals and mostly focus on their negatives and how bad they made u feel and what you could miss out by wasting time on them

@yvonnemiller8408

Жыл бұрын

It is hard when you still love someone but no compromising no middle ground and only their way and that's it only black and white isn't always good there can be a silver lining

@darthvadersmom1192

Жыл бұрын

@@yvonnemiller8408 I feel you, save your sanity and ability to love. Loving someone for me is also accept their limitations and unwillingness/inablity to change, heal, repent and grow. And men always come back anyways, which is not really flattering since mostly nothing changed and they come back from ego not heart (or because another woman dumped him). But some can change indeed, test them over time let them work to prove you're safe.

@yvonnemiller8408

Жыл бұрын

@@darthvadersmom1192 Thank you

thank you so much guy. you really helped me calm down a lot. thanku so so so much

Thank you two for taking the time to do this (podcast?) webinar?..lol.. anyway, I have found this useful 👍🏼🙂 thanks again

He broke with me and really didn't want to leave. I feel like i was being desperate and begging him to stay. I loved him so much i didn't want to let go. When he said that he still have feelings for his ex and we been together for 3 years . I feel like i was going crazy I wanted to do something bad to him cause i felt use . We broke up in 2021 but wanted us to get back together and i agreed. I just felt so last 😭😭

@siliuksas2533

11 ай бұрын

I was the guy who came back to my ex 6 years ago, at the time I was with a new girlfriend ( ex fiancé), we've been dating for a few months, I went to a different country because of work, and when I came back for holiday after like 6 months, everything felt so good, but my ex texted me and wanted to meet, I did... And it seems like I still had my feelings for my ex, and she asked me that I have choose now or never..... I chose my ex over a new girlfriend.... After another 2 months maybe, I realised I made a mistake... I was trying to get back to new girlfriend and brake up with my ex... And I did.... After awhile I started living with girl I met after my ex, was hard at the start, but I thought she forgave me, and I was sorry as fuck, cuz that was the only thing like that I did in my entire life.... After 6 months

@siliuksas2533

11 ай бұрын

After 6 months, she cheated on me, for 3 weeks every day.... And then she was begging me to accept her back, that was the boundary I crossed, I accepted her back.... I had friend at same work she worked, and I knew she still was meeting him sometimes, but then she offered me to move countries again but together this time.... I was crushed... ( I still knew what I Did in a first place...) THEN we started a life in a new country, things were very bad.... She had depression fron the past, so I started to taken care of her... Almost 4 years, I was working alone, to make enough money for us, to make her atleast to feel a bit better.... So after those 4 years ( in total is 5 around), she got some help from a therapist, got her meds for depression... Finally she got the job at the bank. I was proud of her, I was telling everyone how cool my fiancé is! And now after a year, when she is pretty ok ( or was ok....) , she understood that she didn't forgive me for what I did 6 years ago..... She said, I need a break and the same evening she went to pub, and came back home 6.30am, with a hickey..... She broke up with me.... And she only said that was the only reason for what I did 6 fuckin years ago......

@siliuksas2533

11 ай бұрын

I gave my self to her that much, that nothing left in me of myself.... Now I'm struggling kicked out of the house.... Dunno how to live, dunno what I want... Dunno what I like... Sitting in depression.... Can't eat... Properly sleep.... Having nightmares.... Anger..... Sadness.... Even I understand what she did ( maybe it was my fault after all), I still LOVE her.... But not trying to come back to her....

So glad I saw this video. Helped me so much, thank you 💕

Your 4 mins intro was draggingly long.

Brilliant! Very helpful x

How to let go of a relationship that never actually happened? The hope of possibilities is killing me.

@elene.me.

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Just move on and do many things in life, so many that you won´t be focusing on that person anymore. I mean sport, travelling, learning new skills. Basically fill your life up.

Giving myself gift of closure. Thank you x

I left my boyfriend of 5 years because I caught him several times lying to me. I don’t doubt that he cheat it on me. I still suffering it’s so hard and painful even though I broke up with him. I won’t call him ever again. Because if they do it to you more than three times and you forgive? you became his/Hers client they will do it over and over.

Heart break is very hard. Since I can't completely avoid this lady since we're in same class in the school. 1st trick I did aft couple of weeks is changed her name on my mobile contact as idiot. Helps me alot!

Great and very helpful

Helped me understand my confusion

Hate needless intros. Let the main speaker talk more.

I needed to hear a lot of this. Thank you!

My girlfriend of 8 years left me . I wasn't the best in the beginning, but I turned my bad ways to ensure her I was sorry and wanted to marry her . She still left me. I'm lost and confused on why she quit on me. I would have did whatever to fixs us. Smh now my heart is black

@fattmusiek5452

Жыл бұрын

How are you now, @ed?

@edfrazier7685

Жыл бұрын

Taking it day by day . Thank you for asking. I appreciate it

@TheTruthSeeker756

Жыл бұрын

You’ll find someone that will appreciate you. God bless

@everettdawn7811

11 ай бұрын

My girlfriend of five years left me. Can’t even get out of bed

@TheTruthSeeker756

11 ай бұрын

@@everettdawn7811 You're worth something. Shake it off and go forward

Oh I am very much alone. There may be others dealing with it too but I am very alone. It's not just a feeling I have NO ONE. No family or friends. Just me. So don't tell me I am not alone.

@ktrump5882

11 ай бұрын

i cud be wrong, but what I think he means is that you can choose to be alone, and do things that an alone person does, but there are options out there to help you not feel alone, like joining a group of some kind or connecting on line with a community that has the same things in common that you like to do, or perhaps you could join a group that does something that you want to learn about. It appears that your thoughts are being heard within this community here. Maybe you're not as alone as you think you might be ? We are all human and everyone needs love and connection.

I lost my son in January 2020. He was in a head-on collision with a semi. A week after we buried him. My husband of 26 years fell out that he had stage four pancreatic metastatic liver cancer. He passed in July 2021. After he passed, I had lost all of our friends and my children didn't come around. I had tried dating people, but those failed my daughter, then moved in with me and was very abusive mentally and some physical abuse. She really financially abuse me and caused me to lose two jobs And was working on the third one. I had to kick her out on a protective order. Was seeing another guy and we were getting serious, he left me because of the drama with her. Also, after I kicked her out most all of my family members won't speak to me now, I am going to court tomorrow because she is suing me. They helped her get the lawyer and the money. My oldest son won't let me see my grandchildren that he has until she gets her girls back he said. She had already lost two girls and now has lost the other two to their two dads. She has a record that won't quit. She even attacked two police officers at a Kid Rock concert.

I don’t think the best way to get over resentment due to being left is to find someone else.

I’m going trough a heartbreak we are still living together and I am looking for a place. This is absolutely devastating. 😭

@v.michellej5982

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the same situation...thr worst.

@stevehiscox3075

11 ай бұрын

Me too....agony

@richardnuwagaba686

9 ай бұрын

Am like you

I am not somehow being able to overcome a bad breakup of a 35 year marriage..he cheated then abandoned me- left me and married his mistress- left me sick with Lymes disease, heavy metal toxicity, and Eoatein barr virus- got no money from him cause my lawyer messed up so I've been left with literally nothing and TRULY struggling to survive...I need help! Counseling is just stirring up stuff and not helpful

I don’t want her back. I know it wouldn’t be right. I’d be so paranoid. And deep down I know it was falling apart and we were only together for 4 months lol. The mind cannot be trusted it only focuses and emphasises the good points and fades the bad points. But at the time of the break up, it was the bad points that overshadowed the good points. If you got back together it would most likely end up the same

What hurt most about my fiance leaving me was that she moved in with another man within 6 weeks that she met on Tinder. That hurt the most. It's been the hardest break up ever. Looking back I can see she treated me terribly but I keep remembering the nice things but I know deep down she wasn't right for me and she didn't respect me.

@mustardtigerbaaaaaam

4 ай бұрын

Yo, don’t let that hurt you brother. Think about it. Dude made mistake number one, getting with a girl who is still dealing with her ex. Even if she was cheating on you and fell out of love, she’s going to still have the same problems and unattractive features that made you loose safety in the relationship.

@mustardtigerbaaaaaam

4 ай бұрын

Feel bad for the dude she roped in. He’s going to be in the same boat as you

best part of the interview 24 :00 to 30 : 00

I am still struggling, I am struggling to get rid of my thoughts of hope. Even tough I am ready to move on but these stupid hope thoughts keep on coming, is it denial. How can I make them stop

@nidoss

2 жыл бұрын

i know right... i still have hope and am optimistic about our relationship and getting back together... even though i am not the one who left. i am just hoping that he will come back and that hope feel so stupid but also helps me to get through this a bit because you know without it i might get crushed real hard. unfortunately i don't know how we can let them stop and let them go but i wanted you to know that you aren't alone. and that having hope is totally normal. we will get through this

@RespectMyAuthoritha

2 жыл бұрын

@@nidoss

Do couples mend their relationships?

Thank you I've been threw it just a month ago I end up in the hospital cause I could find the answer to why my lady walk out on me I'm trying to recover from it but it seems I can't or it's gonna take a while to recover

@GUITARTIME2024

Жыл бұрын

Give it time, anthony.

@mikewojcik

Жыл бұрын

Same here Anthony. I’m devastated You are not alone. Good luck

My "boyfriend" has left me 5 times in 3 years and yet again last night he broke up with me.. Not sure what to do

@ASPAseethrough

6 ай бұрын

Sounds like intense avoidant type…if..a big if you’re still willing to give him another chance if he comes back is explore therapy and identify where it’s coming from. Not an experts just sharing what I learned in the past 2 months of breakup im going through

I am still wuite heart broken but a little better. My ex is my neighbour, stupid of me but we really clicked. Hwoever she became a bit disrespectful towards the end. I still hold on to the dream now and then and hard to know i will witness her move on with someone else.

Starts at 4:15

Ha, what if the why they left IS insulting. I keep ruminating on all the stuff I could’ve done better (though I do know there is plenty he could’ve done better) , I blame myself (with his encouragement ) and of course he blames me ..sooo now what.? I can’t make him see what he doesn’t want to (the good). Do I just accept that he sees me this way and move on? I keep struggling with his lack of true insight

@jasminee3972

Жыл бұрын

Hi .well I think you see in a person what you want to see.. if he choses to see all your faults and the bad times instead of seeing your qualities and looking at the good times to give you another chance there is unfortunately not much more to do. If you apologized for your mistakes and asked for a second chance to do better and he refused I think it's best to move forward. Unfortunately there is not much more you can do, at least I think.

@camillecolleen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Jasmine:-) I know I need to just stop thinking he will ever understand. All our problems were just that “ours” he contributed to half of them , if not more. He will never take responsibility for the way he behaved and what he could’ve done different. He actually said “I did everything right” ! That statement alone is very telling of the problem. He really thinks he is always right. I am slowly letting go and I know , eventually I’ll heal. Just as you stated, There is no more I can do. I’ve made it clear , I’m still willing to give it a go and that I love him and many times apologized for any and all the little things he sees that I did and didn’t do. I’m done groveling . It is probably better. If he would decide to come back, he would need to look at his part in this and then we could work together to rebuild our love and marriage. Otherwise , I would be miserable . I hope to someday be with someone (not marry ) who loves me the way I am. Thank you again, it is nice to feel heard

@elskar1

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes they play the victim, and they liked blame the other person for how they ended up there and they don’t take accountability for their part in it You feel attacked and blamed, and then you keep defending, and it keeps looping with the same conversation whilst we know we are good people and we can acknowledge our mistakes that we may have made, but we don’t like to leave it where they get. The last say painting us in a terrible light . That’s probably just their way of deflecting or relieving their guilt. but as long as we know who we are, and we don’t need their validation because the last time we checked, they knew that we were good people.

Took 4 mins to get to Guy talking !!

It's been 5 monthes after she went with s.o new And she came to me and told me she has found love of her life and she is happy Implying that I wasn't her type She went but still hurts, why she was that shallow and irresponsible

@jchula

2 ай бұрын

She showed zero empathy towards your emotions and was cheating, right? That's hurtful and you have to let those feelings out. Try to do things that let you feel better- like gym or watching Netflix😊. Inform yourself about your situation and learn more about yourself.

What if u didn't break up the relationship on your own but the narcisstic person did it because of their narcissist life style 🤔

@lkasjddasjlk4350

2 жыл бұрын

That's your answer/closure right there

@MrClarissacain

2 жыл бұрын

Meditate on this: narcissists aren't real. Not that they don't exist, that they are-during the lovebombing phase-mirrors that reflect back at you the best qualities in yourself. Then, they absorb all that goodness and comfort and support without giving any back. You may be depleted for a time. But you didn't lose anything when they left. All the good qualities are still in you. Think about how seen you felt at first and how adored and reflect on the qualities they saw. Love yourself for those qualities. Were you kind? The the narc made you feel bad if you were kind to anyone but them? Understand there isn't enough kind in the universe to heal them, and it's not your fault or responsibility. Were you funny? Then the narc made you stop joking because you were the center of attention and not them? You're still funny. The narc isn't capable of sharing anyone's attention, because there is never enough to heal their perception of neglect. It's not your responsibility to fix them. Is your heart truly broken, or are you distressed because they aren't ok and you know it? If you see them as a narcissist, know they hurt you and anyone they touch, is that heartbreak or feelings of failure because they are still deeply, fundamentally flawed? You can't fix them. Even if you had all the time in the world. They have to do that. When your heart is screaming "i still love you" that's kind of a lie. Or, a mistranslation. Hear instead, "i haven't given up hope for you!" Then, let go. Because you can have that hope. It's okay to hope. But the work is their responsibility.

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