PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Be More Charismatic & Confident TODAY! | Vanessa Van Edwards

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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes2 жыл бұрын

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  • @angeliquevasinathan7538

    @angeliquevasinathan7538

    2 жыл бұрын

    Je m’y m

  • @wilhouts6173

    @wilhouts6173

    2 жыл бұрын

    not sure if you saw my other post: Kinda reminds me of the lady who gives herself a HIGH FIVE IN THE MIRROR every morning.!

  • @chandranimukherjee414

    @chandranimukherjee414

    2 жыл бұрын

    P

  • @Vancouvernuck

    @Vancouvernuck

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hand gestures .. like it !!!

  • @Mariaodgers

    @Mariaodgers

    2 жыл бұрын

    I've learned so much from you and your guests. Very informative! I am still striving to learn and grow at 57yrs old. Well Done. Thank you!!

  • @nowaybackvalorant8799
    @nowaybackvalorant8799Ай бұрын

    She's a live example of every point she's making. Top tier content

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Ай бұрын

    🙌

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    Ай бұрын

    💗🙌🙌

  • @ellelorde5487
    @ellelorde54872 жыл бұрын

    To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma. To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable) 1. Not standing too close to someone. 2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands) 3. Gift people success words 4. Point out similarities between you and the person 5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)

  • @charles910

    @charles910

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @ellelorde5487

    @ellelorde5487

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@charles910 np 😊

  • @nsbr6

    @nsbr6

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this 👍🏻

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great summary here!

  • @ellelorde5487

    @ellelorde5487

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@vanessavanedwards8014 thank you ☺️

  • @OCFitBabe
    @OCFitBabe Жыл бұрын

    She’s just a perfect blend of competence and warmth. She’s adorable and we are fortunate to learn from her. ❤

  • @Walperion_Music

    @Walperion_Music

    Жыл бұрын

    Yet, if she's teaching "competence+warmth" it means she tought herself for years to present that in herself, of course she's the best at that! Makes you question if she even remembers where are her real emotions where her learned emotions are.

  • @BettyCollins88

    @BettyCollins88

    10 ай бұрын

    She comes off as more competent than warm, whereas he comes off as more warm than competent. I think it comes down to something in their eyes, the rapidity of their respective speech, and their body language. He's sitting back and his body is open, for example.

  • @karimehendrix

    @karimehendrix

    10 ай бұрын

    @@BettyCollins88yes you can tell she’s reminding herself to remain sitting straight to exude confidence

  • @loveisreal7766

    @loveisreal7766

    9 ай бұрын

    She is very interesting. I am curious to learn about her journey to be competent and warmth.

  • @fishcanon8141

    @fishcanon8141

    5 ай бұрын

    @@BettyCollins88I think you’re right on. It might have something to do with the pace of the speech, and how quickly they each respond to things.

  • @abhijithajikumar8751
    @abhijithajikumar8751Ай бұрын

    This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. 1hr 40 minutes went in a flash.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Ай бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it! 🧡

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    Ай бұрын

    That's wonderful to know! Thank you! 💗

  • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals
    @Dancing_Alone_wRentals2 жыл бұрын

    She teaches with so much joy, it was a joy to listen to her words.

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh this made my day -- thank you!

  • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals

    @Dancing_Alone_wRentals

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@vanessavanedwards8014 will be looking forward to your next adventure...(book or talk...sounds so...well lets just say I want to live a little more Disney and a little less Library. So Whatever your next adventure turns out to be....please take us along!)

  • @IEVAKambarovaite

    @IEVAKambarovaite

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Dancing_Alone_wRentals you've put it across so well.. 💕

  • @olguiq1013

    @olguiq1013

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love this... great vibe you too. Thank you.

  • @connectingthesciences4621

    @connectingthesciences4621

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I have this catch-22 situation where I keep feeling like I'm falling for her but realizing that she is literally teaching seduction. So it's like verification that she's definitely a professional and knows what she's doing. It's like I have no idea who she really is but I keep feeling like I want to place more trust in her than I would for a normal stranger. Basically demonstrating how effective it could be used against me if someone did. The fact that she's able to verify everything she's saying while she's explaining it it's really effective. I really appreciated this topic being covered; it was a great Podcast.

  • @juliejuju7419
    @juliejuju74192 жыл бұрын

    This whole interview was absolutely AMAZING. I turned 51 yesterday and learned something new today. Wow. We are NEVER too old to learn🤩

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @sunnygirl9691

    @sunnygirl9691

    Жыл бұрын

    Don’t be ridiculous! Of course you’re still learning! You’re still a baby!! Why do I say this … because I’m 50!! 😊

  • @hulamei3117

    @hulamei3117

    Жыл бұрын

    68 and still learning...

  • @GirishVenkatachalam

    @GirishVenkatachalam

    Жыл бұрын

    Learning is oxygen of life and growth.

  • @katherine3107

    @katherine3107

    5 ай бұрын

    We never stop learning until the day Jesus comes! He is our perfector 💖

  • @relaxwithme__
    @relaxwithme__2 ай бұрын

    She is the queen of body language education 👑

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    Ай бұрын

    Oh! Thank you! 💕💕💕

  • @relaxwithme__

    @relaxwithme__

    10 күн бұрын

    @@ScienceOfPeople you are so welcome! 🤗

  • @ColinMahon19741
    @ColinMahon1974120 күн бұрын

    Just be authentic. It’s really that simple. Stop aligning yourself with the person across from you and you will have a much better experience of life

  • @NotReallyAEvilMorty
    @NotReallyAEvilMorty2 жыл бұрын

    This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Appreciate you! 🙏

  • @PaulinaMedia

    @PaulinaMedia

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lewis and Vanessa have always had amazing chemistry. 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @vahinipillay2660

    @vahinipillay2660

    2 жыл бұрын

    I could not agree more! I could feel myself learning from start to finish! ❤

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    WOW! Thank you so much. I am so honored.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 🙂

  • @daryl5379
    @daryl53792 жыл бұрын

    I am 77yrs old. take no meds, played rugby for 20 yrs, worked in construction since I was 15yrs old, have no arthritis, sleep at least 8hrs a nite and sex at least 2 times a week. I never smoked, stopped drinking alcohol 40 yrs ago, have not had a coke, hamburger, mexican food or that type of rubbish in 50yrs.I go for my annual physical with these expensive doctors here in NB and they say, amazing, keep doing what you doing. But when I point out its all about diet and exercise they actually turn away, don't want to hear it. My contemporaries actually get very angry at me when i point out diet will help them but they would rather be sick and overweight with all their medications than be skinny and active like me. People say all the time, no way you almost 80, My apple watch said I walked 53 miles last month. Hope I don't sound egotistical, just want to point out diet and exercise are the answer at any age.

  • @DELERY2.0

    @DELERY2.0

    10 ай бұрын

    A year ago. Oops. I just replied to you and my reply didn't even post connected to your comment lol Hope you're still out there! Keep walking! We're going to run into each other eventually LOL teehee cuz I'm a walker too . Gnite! Stay safe out there

  • @IB4UUB4ME

    @IB4UUB4ME

    10 ай бұрын

    No matter what we do, we still die. However that is not normal and very soon now death will be no more and we will live like what our original purpose was from our Creator! What a great time that will be!!

  • @caspermoes6762

    @caspermoes6762

    16 күн бұрын

    @@IB4UUB4MEmby

  • @shanashawl1024

    @shanashawl1024

    3 күн бұрын

    You inspired me sir! 😮 Great things in life like your health is really a product of discipline and consistency. Not that complicated .. but very hard to sustain. I guess it's never too late to regain and give honor to what's given to us as a gift. Our one life and one body. 😊 Man! I wanna be like you too.. Seems cool! Keep doing what you're doing ~

  • @cherishparkhurst8124
    @cherishparkhurst8124Ай бұрын

    When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing

  • @kangkanabora5366
    @kangkanabora53663 ай бұрын

    She is such a good charmer, Lewis was blushing the whole podcast ❤

  • @vanessavanedwards8014
    @vanessavanedwards80142 жыл бұрын

    This was so amazing to do! Thank you for allowing me to share

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you as well🧡

  • @soniasinghinternational

    @soniasinghinternational

    2 жыл бұрын

    Vanessa you are amazing!!! Loveeeed this interview and I learned so much. Lewis you are the best interviewer ever. Your energy together is wonderful to watch.

  • @xjessy5280

    @xjessy5280

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m not even 10 minutes in and I’ve learned so much already! Your enthusiasm is contagious Vanessa. Thank you so so much for everything that you do. You’re a joy to listen to and I can’t wait to listen to the rest of the show ❤️🥰

  • @mitchharrington9427

    @mitchharrington9427

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great research and information from this interview. Love it thank you for so much insight on the things I need to be aware of.

  • @hienly8956

    @hienly8956

    2 жыл бұрын

    Loved your enthusiasm in all your sharings. Of course Lewis too did an amazing job as an interviewer. So fun to wacth. You two were on fire! ❤️

  • @air_19
    @air_192 жыл бұрын

    This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    🧡

  • @jwallaby7895

    @jwallaby7895

    7 ай бұрын

    When was it said how to be authentic with someone at the work llace? Time stamp please?

  • @guntertorfs6486
    @guntertorfs64867 ай бұрын

    She's very likeable , warm , smart , knowledgeable , enthusiastic AND physically very attractive. Such a winning combination.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    7 ай бұрын

    🙌

  • @Soulenergy31
    @Soulenergy3110 ай бұрын

    5:23 when you express your vulnerability, you acknowledge then you are less afraid 21:20 use gestures

  • @cutzymccall7675
    @cutzymccall76752 жыл бұрын

    It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @mini_Pills

    @mini_Pills

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this very interesting perspective.

  • @fulol

    @fulol

    10 ай бұрын

    maybe that's because u haven't come across any murderers, rapists, perverts or crooks yet, i think once u do u might have a different view then about the so called "we are all one"

  • @piitaa108

    @piitaa108

    10 ай бұрын

    'We are all one', 'Everyone is my friend' is magical thinking, a fantasy.

  • @IB4UUB4ME

    @IB4UUB4ME

    10 ай бұрын

    Yeah but look at you, your very sexy looking, that makes it a tan bit more easier 😉

  • @elfhririn
    @elfhririn2 жыл бұрын

    I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it 😀

  • @ashrichman9956

    @ashrichman9956

    Жыл бұрын

    Josh, she is awesome and so are you!! Let’s practice her tips to help us develop more confidence and then we’ll be awesome and warm 💕

  • @freshmintsky
    @freshmintsky Жыл бұрын

    I love that she is generous with acknowledgments, gives credit where it’s due, and appreciates the work people do to support her presentations

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    🙌

  • @dialaa.4001
    @dialaa.40019 ай бұрын

    Around minute 11( charisma): perfect blend of competence and warmth

  • @Jenls72
    @Jenls72 Жыл бұрын

    Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!

  • @ChristianaSenibo

    @ChristianaSenibo

    Жыл бұрын

    Really insightful conversation 🙂

  • @Michael-bf1dt

    @Michael-bf1dt

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi Jenis how are you. Greetings from Ireland ☘️. It’s a good video. I love the pictures on your channel. Best wishes for a lovely day 😊🙏 Michael

  • @josegcondado

    @josegcondado

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, same here

  • @irmang4790

    @irmang4790

    6 ай бұрын

    Very informative, truly enjoyed this interview and learned so much. Grateful to you both for this video. Loved it, going to buy the book. Awesome ❤

  • @MD-yp7im
    @MD-yp7im2 жыл бұрын

    She’s incredibly likable and captivating, beyond her obvious beauty. She’s really selling her product. Great episode

  • @dennisrobinson8008

    @dennisrobinson8008

    2 жыл бұрын

    The personality is fun and bubbly

  • @2abalsys

    @2abalsys

    Жыл бұрын

    i think it was over the top and contrived. got annoying after 5 mins or so. couldn't finish it...

  • @denisedoherty4909

    @denisedoherty4909

    Жыл бұрын

    Not likable at all. Very annoying. Keeps overtalking him.

  • @dennisrobinson8008

    @dennisrobinson8008

    Жыл бұрын

    @@denisedoherty4909 He has a habit of hard headed listening, so not giving the guest attention. Shes powerful in her area and that's what we hear.

  • @denisedoherty4909

    @denisedoherty4909

    Жыл бұрын

    @@dennisrobinson8008 Interesting. I think he is an excellent listener and interviewer. Very low key. As opposed to her over the top exuberance which seems forced and phony to me. Maybe some of the content is good but I cannot get through this because I find her extremely obnoxious. I guess perception really is everything.

  • @Jananicholson874
    @Jananicholson874 Жыл бұрын

    i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops

  • @Introvertedalpha
    @Introvertedalpha Жыл бұрын

    'If you show authentic happiness, you are more likely to infect happiness.' -- love this quote!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    🧡

  • @8675-__
    @8675-__2 жыл бұрын

    And this is why Italian people are so good at expressing their thoughts! They always use their hands and colorful language

  • @lifecoachrosanna4934
    @lifecoachrosanna49342 жыл бұрын

    Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.

  • @barry963

    @barry963

    Жыл бұрын

    Sad part is those filled with the most confidence are the biggest aholes ever on average.

  • @dushisoundsmeditationmusic
    @dushisoundsmeditationmusic Жыл бұрын

    To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖

  • @mshope125

    @mshope125

    Жыл бұрын

    🙂

  • @danastewart9281

    @danastewart9281

    Жыл бұрын

    And, the same to you 🙏

  • @GS-st9ns

    @GS-st9ns

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your positive energy

  • @carisapatrahh5308

    @carisapatrahh5308

    11 ай бұрын

    God bless you ❤

  • @sanamirza7501

    @sanamirza7501

    9 ай бұрын

    Bru

  • @vishalchauhan3007
    @vishalchauhan300725 күн бұрын

    She is wholesome ❤

  • @princessh2626
    @princessh26262 жыл бұрын

    As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @seamasmanly
    @seamasmanly2 жыл бұрын

    My biggest takeaway is smiling at the sides of my eyes. I just used that during my performance, and I experienced better connection with my audience.

  • @ertongashi488

    @ertongashi488

    2 жыл бұрын

    If you do that yo will get wrincles...

  • @Cynthiadiddat2
    @Cynthiadiddat2 Жыл бұрын

    I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁

  • @elladapetrosyan9610

    @elladapetrosyan9610

    Жыл бұрын

    Sorry you have to go through that, Cynthia. Good luck with changing it, hope it works!

  • @ssgundes1

    @ssgundes1

    Жыл бұрын

    Good luck to you. Keep this attitude

  • @mlothiclan

    @mlothiclan

    Жыл бұрын

    I wonder how this has progressed

  • @holdfast6882
    @holdfast68827 ай бұрын

    Dude please let her finish her conversation mannnn!!

  • @MariaBorrego-if3wp

    @MariaBorrego-if3wp

    15 күн бұрын

    I know! I was taking notes and they’re just cut off bc she has to go another direction bc of him 😅

  • @positivevibes3418
    @positivevibes34182 жыл бұрын

    Words are Energy. Be impeccable. Great tools, and stay authentic!

  • @sirensguide153
    @sirensguide1537 ай бұрын

    this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    7 ай бұрын

    So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    6 ай бұрын

    Wow, thank you so much! I'm so happy to hear this ❤

  • @analaurar7202
    @analaurar7202 Жыл бұрын

    What a great combo and educational moment. My BF talks to me about gestures and I realized he got that corporal behavior on point. Loved this show

  • @LindseyObrooke
    @LindseyObrooke7 ай бұрын

    This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    6 ай бұрын

    I love that!

  • @robh3267
    @robh32672 жыл бұрын

    There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! I know it is a lot -- start with one cue at a time = )

  • @IEVAKambarovaite

    @IEVAKambarovaite

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@vanessavanedwards8014 I find it amazing how you don't just repeat same stories over and over again in different interviews. I can't even imagine how challenging this must be when you're promoting your book and have to talk about it over and over. Loved every moment of this interview 💕

  • @steveg3940
    @steveg39402 жыл бұрын

    Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @johnhalcroft7283
    @johnhalcroft7283 Жыл бұрын

    Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @lauraaqui
    @lauraaqui Жыл бұрын

    What i love about you Lewis is you always ask the great questions, which leads to a much more intriguing talk. the questions are just as interesting as the answers. Laura in uk

  • @Maxhindle
    @Maxhindle2 жыл бұрын

    Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    2 жыл бұрын

    Don't be afraid of being honest about who and what you are...🥳🥳

  • @Laivinski

    @Laivinski

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 So true.

  • @candiceberg5232

    @candiceberg5232

    2 жыл бұрын

    Perfectly worded

  • @sonnylisten8131

    @sonnylisten8131

    2 жыл бұрын

    But I am BETTER than you all😀😀

  • @sonnylisten8131

    @sonnylisten8131

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Brittany Carnes Then you must not be that good at it😀✌

  • @19daniellegut
    @19daniellegut2 жыл бұрын

    She has to be one of the most charming, engaging, insightful & beautiful individuals on the planet. Her smile can light up the universe. Her husband is so blessed… he won the lottery when she agreed to marry him!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @florinamarchis4081
    @florinamarchis40813 ай бұрын

    Such a well-prepared lady

  • @sacerrone
    @sacerrone5 күн бұрын

    Love her emphasis on delivery of certain words is like a highlighter

  • @EveningTV
    @EveningTV2 жыл бұрын

    Charisma is why narcissists are so successful. Dr. Ramani Durvusula says she goes running the other way when she sees a charismatic person. She likes the quiet people in the corner. Judging by my two marriages I'd say she is on to something. 💕

  • @slchance8839

    @slchance8839

    2 жыл бұрын

    so people who watch this video, for self-improvement, and discipline themselves to become better....are now AVOIDED by Dr Durvusula? For getting better? interesting.

  • @Thenoobestgirl

    @Thenoobestgirl

    2 жыл бұрын

    Maybe you should start running the other way yourself lol

  • @littoy
    @littoy2 жыл бұрын

    Really good. She actually advances the body language and charisma subjects.

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you thank you! I really wanted to deepen our knowledge of both.

  • @chrismaki5456
    @chrismaki54563 ай бұрын

    I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.

  • @bitarezaee6152
    @bitarezaee6152 Жыл бұрын

    There is so much to unpack from this conversation! Wow. I have to listen to this one more time...

  • @BuddyLuv
    @BuddyLuv2 жыл бұрын

    I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy you enjoyed it!

  • @dakotablueskies
    @dakotablueskies2 жыл бұрын

    So practical. She has a perfect balance of warmth and confidence.

  • @bigdogmack8692
    @bigdogmack8692 Жыл бұрын

    Hey Lewis your content is better than a college can ever teach. I listen to these podcasts and walk away with knowledge wisdom and an overall well-being. I'm so happy that I found this channel. I have recommended it to others and they all say the same thing. They say wow why isn't this taught in high schools why isn't this taught in colleges it's amazing I want to thank you for bringing this content to the masses. Keep doing what you are doing it is awesome.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.

  • @frankG335
    @frankG335 Жыл бұрын

    When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life. I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing. Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about. It always worked.

  • @blueplanet8750
    @blueplanet87502 жыл бұрын

    Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🙂

  • @eileenwatt8283

    @eileenwatt8283

    Жыл бұрын

    Oprah says she too is an introvert. Go figure.

  • @youngraymond9293

    @youngraymond9293

    Жыл бұрын

    I was a complete introvert. I learned to be an extrovert, it might be the same with Vanessa Van Edwards, she learned and adopted and practiced being more confident.

  • @DiscoveryWonders

    @DiscoveryWonders

    Жыл бұрын

    Charisma and being introvert are two separate and independent -not related things. you can be a confident and a charismatic introvert. Or an ambiverted introvert. In that sense. You can also be an insecure overwhelmed with anxiety extrovert.

  • @richmondballer20

    @richmondballer20

    Жыл бұрын

    @@DiscoveryWondersthank you! It baffles me how people think introverted means you can’t be charismatic.

  • @Forgiveness55
    @Forgiveness552 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @Eussenciall
    @Eussenciall2 жыл бұрын

    I love everything about this episode, but MAINLY how she expresses her gratitude and acknowledgement to Lewis. The world would be such a better place if we could simply share how appreciative we are!

  • @themightymiracleman
    @themightymiracleman6 күн бұрын

    Vanessa Van Edwards is AMAZING! Thank you Lewis Howes for the insightful interview!

  • @wanasong5611
    @wanasong56112 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER. When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    2 жыл бұрын

    Most of society is based around supporting the negative EGO... rather than being spiritual...all kinds of selfishness... negative synergy/darkside...😰😰

  • @VessiTessi

    @VessiTessi

    2 жыл бұрын

    Beautifully said!❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes yes yes! You got it!

  • @LizzoBlizzo
    @LizzoBlizzo2 жыл бұрын

    This was lovely and powerful! Loved Vanessa’s response on handling toxic people in a work environment that response was magnificent!!! 💥💥💥

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @IB4UUB4ME

    @IB4UUB4ME

    10 ай бұрын

    Very 👍 nice

  • @okitopie
    @okitopie Жыл бұрын

    My favourite episode/interview was absolutely joyfully, and I learn so much! Thank you Mr Lewies and Vanessa Van Edwards

  • @zealorimkey8076
    @zealorimkey8076 Жыл бұрын

    there's so much information per square minute, that I keep having to stop the video and reflect on what she just said because she keeps blowing my mind. Incredible interview! Wow!

  • @sonjaglasklar7624
    @sonjaglasklar76242 жыл бұрын

    Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Sonja! You are so kind!!!

  • @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
    @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD2 жыл бұрын

    I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy to hear this :)

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🥰

  • @VG-qu3vb

    @VG-qu3vb

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yesss there’s something so authentic about her

  • @katt9208
    @katt9208 Жыл бұрын

    Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”

  • @bobmorgan5636
    @bobmorgan5636 Жыл бұрын

    Oftentimes I feel that way with you...your words are so helpful. Thanks.

  • @ambersnow9601
    @ambersnow96012 жыл бұрын

    I love listening to Vanessa - she’s so charismatic,both warm and competent Thank you for this great video.

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amber you are the best!

  • @christianpayaalonso1264
    @christianpayaalonso12642 жыл бұрын

    I think the way she's describing labeling emotions to disengage is a way of bypassing/numbing the pain. I personally find it's healthier to allow the discomfort to move through you without trying to get rid of it so quickly. It depends on the situation of course: if I'm in an emergency where I need to keep a clear head, doing what she describes can be really helpful.

  • @devorahplanell8625
    @devorahplanell8625 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 😭😭😭😭😭 I say to myself I can't talk without moving and doing gestures with my Hands. I feel so good like being yourself out there 😌. Thank you both so much.

  • @carolgates5297
    @carolgates5297 Жыл бұрын

    The slightest opportunity to go into anger and then the quickness with which they intend to apologize indicates all I need to know. An opportunity to see their ability to exercise responsibility and respect for their effects on others.

  • @louisatate5879
    @louisatate58792 жыл бұрын

    I found this interview full of easily accessible & impactful information. Giving examples of each idea physically and verbally was so helpful and fun to watch. Thank you for shining your light to illuminate the darkness and for helping others to shine theirs.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @jaredocampo3707
    @jaredocampo37072 жыл бұрын

    True, it happens with me during interview. The moment I enter the room, I saw different kinds of social rejections and I can't conttol my emotions and black out.

  • @carisamartin4226
    @carisamartin4226Ай бұрын

    I'm inspired and so proud of your will, and your words. You are a beacon of hope my girl ❤

  • @jehjeh06
    @jehjeh06 Жыл бұрын

    Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.

  • @tinaclayson4791
    @tinaclayson47912 жыл бұрын

    So so powerful 💗 I absolutely love Vanessa’s enthusiasm. Lewis, you are the best person to interview her, you have fantastic nonverbal cues and are a great example of charisma and power. I’m excited to read this new book. Thank you both for what you are putting into the world.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @davids3388
    @davids33882 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this podcast. I found the things you and Ms Van Edwards were discussing to be so interesting that I hopped on an online bookseller and purchased her cues book during the video. As a fellow introvert (an oblivious INTJ), many of the things she said resonated with me. I also saw myself in a few of the negative phrases and cues she was describing. I can't wait to read the book.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    🧡

  • @michaeleccher4068
    @michaeleccher40689 ай бұрын

    She is so Beautiful, her in enthusiasm is very contagious. Excellent video, thank you.

  • @Gigi.973
    @Gigi.9732 ай бұрын

    I cant get over how much i enjoy her enthusiasm for her work ❤

  • @missdaisydoodle
    @missdaisydoodle2 жыл бұрын

    So much of this changes when in international conversations. Culture must be considered.

  • @brieocea
    @brieocea2 жыл бұрын

    so excited for our kids to start learning this stuff in school 🙌🏼

  • @teenguyen4124

    @teenguyen4124

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes!!!!

  • @missnurseeri
    @missnurseeri Жыл бұрын

    I have used this these tips to speak with patients and it really does work. I want my patients to be at ease. Especially since everyone seems so in edge these days.

  • @ciao2315
    @ciao23155 ай бұрын

    I could listen to Vanessa all day! She’s such an inspiration! Thanks for this conversation Lewis ❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    🧡

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    3 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your kind words! ❤

  • @irina.mio.
    @irina.mio.2 жыл бұрын

    You guys made me cry by the end! Gratitude is powerful! ❤️ Great interview, thank you so much, I appreciate you! 🙏🏼

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @daytripper3601

    @daytripper3601

    2 жыл бұрын

    I just got done saying the same thing!! That was an Awesome way to wrap it up! Nice to see you thought so too!!

  • @lauriecolon2414
    @lauriecolon24142 жыл бұрын

    I’m a realtor and not a salesperson or extroverted by nature. I will definitely be implementing these. Thank you for sharing!

  • @johnames6430

    @johnames6430

    2 жыл бұрын

    I was a lot like you, we are similar. It takes a strong and friendly type of person to make it in realty.

  • @vanessavanedwards8014

    @vanessavanedwards8014

    2 жыл бұрын

    Woohoo! I am so so thrilled! And happy to help = )

  • @johnames6430

    @johnames6430

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@vanessavanedwards8014 Were there any presentations that were bad but the sharks ended up giving them a deal anyway?

  • @Nina-hk7ub

    @Nina-hk7ub

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm an extrovert LO & long to leave my home office! Been awful.

  • @yowein8787
    @yowein8787 Жыл бұрын

    wow! thank you both. to call that mandatory viewing would be an understatement of extraordinary magnitude. one of the best ways you can spend an hour fourth. unless you have no desire to see the rest of your life and the relationships within it benift. I'll be watching that a few more time . my humble thanks.

  • @ninagley8657
    @ninagley8657 Жыл бұрын

    loved the question about narcissism and real charisma

  • @paradisecolors
    @paradisecolors2 жыл бұрын

    Lewis Howes, I find your vides really really helpful. I have studied psychology, and I always learn so much new and interesting content from watching your interviews :) Thank you

  • @mecsonreuben

    @mecsonreuben

    2 жыл бұрын

    FALL ASLEEP in a minute like baby after eating this get a nice sleeping and mind relaxation 👉kzread.info/dash/bejne/aquMlLNthMaskrw.html

  • @user-nt8ih7qq6t
    @user-nt8ih7qq6t5 ай бұрын

    What a great podcast that was! I am an introvert and work in communication. I was literally taking notes, along. Thank you Lewis, thank you Vanessa ❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    3 ай бұрын

    You’re so welcome ❤ Thank you for watching!

  • @nicolesawford5548
    @nicolesawford5548 Жыл бұрын

    You are both such great role models! Thank you for this video.

  • @Iam_ramankaur
    @Iam_ramankaur Жыл бұрын

    her each and every information is so valuable and useful ! she is amazing

  • @sqirlgirl121
    @sqirlgirl121 Жыл бұрын

    This was so helpful. I'm an introvert and always look at extroverts with envy; wishing I could be like them. I hope these tips will help me to be seen and heard differently. Thank you! Also, the point at the end of this was so important. Gratitude.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    You're welcome🧡

  • @eileenwatt8283

    @eileenwatt8283

    Жыл бұрын

    @@lewishowes I remembered when Oprah did a show on things people dont know about her. She said she was an Introvert. She would rather spend her time reading books than interacting with people . She really has one friend. Gail.

  • @rebekahbek1065
    @rebekahbek1065 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for bringing up the topic of statements that sound like a question. I didn’t know why this was annoying and now know! Thanks! ♥️

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @filthyunikorn
    @filthyunikorn3 ай бұрын

    Love this! My question though is how to be sincere… It’s one thing to understand and put all of this into practice, but it’s another thing to genuinely be sincere with people…

  • @melanievanheerden5364
    @melanievanheerden5364 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Lewis for publishing such a valuable lesson to help build the 2.0 version of ourselves.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @sherryripepi6024
    @sherryripepi60242 жыл бұрын

    Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.

  • @debbieknight1224
    @debbieknight12242 жыл бұрын

    I loved Vanessa and Lewis' interaction! They have a lot of chemistry and can really delve into the topics with examples. Great job!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @tanixatanixa

    @tanixatanixa

    10 ай бұрын

    Oh yeeeah! I was looking for this comment, the chemistry creates a different kind of synergy here, so beautiful

  • @mabelsto.domingo1824
    @mabelsto.domingo182410 ай бұрын

    I learned a lot esp for an introvert like me. We have the best intentions but it does not come across. Probably one of your best episode. So authentic. So grateful and appreciative for what you do.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    10 ай бұрын

    Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! 🧡

  • @ScienceOfPeople

    @ScienceOfPeople

    10 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! I appreciate you ❤

  • @avatarstaterm7350
    @avatarstaterm7350 Жыл бұрын

    I just stumbled across this video and I'm glad I took the time to watch it. I have always considered myself very observant of people's body language. I'm a shy person and this video validates so much for me. The thing I lacked was countering the cues I was getting from others.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for being here!

  • @DianneOrwig333
    @DianneOrwig3332 жыл бұрын

    In all her brilliance, it’s hard to pick a favorite moment, but for me the true highlight of the interview is when Vanessa addresses the “question inflection,” something that has driven me crazy for such a long time, but I never really understood why until now. So insightful…I love this interview!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome🧡

  • @irisreder
    @irisreder2 жыл бұрын

    I learned a lot from this. Excited to apply this in pitches! thank you:D

  • @EinSofQuester
    @EinSofQuester Жыл бұрын

    I learned a lot from this video. I feel confident I can now manipulate the world into thinking I know what I'm talking about.