Everyone knows these tips instinctively, but if you’re not confident or comfortable with doing it, it’ll still be awkward

@jhoco7270

Жыл бұрын

Just like anything in life, it takes practice. Go out and talk to people. The idea is to have a point of reference to help guide your practice.

@NameName-dg7nv

Жыл бұрын

i dont know these things instinctively, that's why i watch these vids

@AndyWallWasWeak

Жыл бұрын

right. it's hard enough to keep up dialogue, now they tell you are supposed to laugh, give compliments too. just humans making it more difficult for other humans

@hollys6299

Жыл бұрын

I disagree. A lot of these tips i did know instinctively, sure, but i didn't understand why certain conversations went well and some fell flat. Being able to hone and identify why something went well has helped me immensely. Now instead of 50% of convos going well, 75% of them do. And the remaining 25, i can usually see where i dropped the ball and work on reflection and self correction. Hoping to get to as close as 100% as possible before i die and this channel has and will continue to be a huge part of that

@RebeccaAndreaDixon

Жыл бұрын

More or less, autistic people or people raised in a low social environment not necessarily at all

The real skill here is making this all feel natural. Most people instinctually know the information in these videos. The problem is most people don't have enough practice to blend the two.

@karenryder6317

Жыл бұрын

The trick to being natural with these inquiries is that it can't be a trick. You have to genuinely want to get to know more about the other person.

@Loltroll8

5 ай бұрын

@@karenryder6317tbh its not even that. It's practice based, being sociable is a skill like any other

@xaveragekid

5 ай бұрын

Just go join somewhere with a laaaaaarge variety and number of people, interact (assuming you are confident enough to do so), and push yourself out of your comfort zone.

@kaibalfour2318

4 ай бұрын

It’s gonna be awkward at first because you have to actively think about what you’re doing but the key is doing it enough times where it’s instinctive and you get comfortable doing it. All confidence is is comfort in the situation that your in

@Loltroll8

4 ай бұрын

@@kaibalfour2318 exactly. Once you feel comfortable with it, others will feel comfortable with you.

One thing I'm learning as a young adult is that it's usually okay to not say anything or be okay with being silent. You don't have to absolutely crush every single interaction with people. Being okay with most get togethers being a little boring, doesn't mean that YOU are a boring person of that other people don't value being around you. I think adopting a mindset of aiming for good enough instead of perfection, makes it easier to relax and then you can really enjoy the moment that you're in.

@lajbeak9142

3 ай бұрын

Well said!

@miriamvegoda1580

Ай бұрын

something that I saw in another video was that if possible go into a conversation knowing that it would be fun if the other person liked you but, as you said, just know that you are an intrinsically worthy and amazing person regardless of how the conversation goes. This leads to confidence which often does draw people to you. But your worth is not attached to how other people see you.

You’ll eventually reach a point in your life where you couldn’t care less. It’s so refreshing to walk away and talk to someone where you don’t Need tips and conversation flows.

@kensigregory361

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully this applies to me someday.

@CrackberryMe

Жыл бұрын

Facts !!

@krokovay.marcell

Жыл бұрын

Agreed…I hate making small talk for the sake of it. Either I’m engaged in the topic or not.

@RAGNAROKXNEXTGENERATION-by4kh

8 ай бұрын

me too i hate small talks thats why i ran out of words to say immediately@@krokovay.marcell

@whatthecinnamontoastfudge

5 ай бұрын

If you’re learning how to be funny and take a joke cues from Jimmy Fallon…. I think you’ve got bigger problems.

My problem is to avoid making the darkest joke that comes into brain

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Жыл бұрын

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@holembac

Жыл бұрын

Let's high five but not too loud

@savdeb7973

Жыл бұрын

That’s how I weed out the good friends from the too serious ones LOL

@shinobu-39

Жыл бұрын

I lean into it and hope they think I'm weird enough to be cute or cute enough to be funny.

@Amber-pw9iq

8 ай бұрын

My people ❤

"Dormammu so fat..." Bro I can't 💀

@k.5425

Жыл бұрын

I still don't get it

@anotheryoutubeaccount5259

Жыл бұрын

ur momma so fat she walks down the street it registers on the richter scale.

@ARealTaco

Жыл бұрын

@@k.5425 dormammu sounds like your mama

@wujek7616

3 ай бұрын

@@k.5425it's a yo mama joke

It's real nice when you speak to people and they don't just hear what you say but fully understand you. That is very rare these days!

@karenryder6317

Жыл бұрын

If you ask a truly open ended question you will indeed understand more about the person. Asking an open ended question is more than just avoiding "yes/No" responses. Try to also avoid questions where the person will be tempted to give back what they think you want to hear. For example "How ya doin'?" which generally gets the one word response: "Good." A better choice would be "What do you think?" which usually gains a lot more understanding of what the other person is feeling.

rizz on command

@disky8039

Жыл бұрын

charizzma

@bigt5413

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@RuNZiT1

Жыл бұрын

Noooo….

@pianogeekdan4621

Жыл бұрын

If you practice enough it'll be autorizz

@ghostbro7435

Жыл бұрын

We are in training arc right now

Top Moments 00:45 People want to have fun conversations. They just don't know how. 1:20 How to do this? When someone asks you a Q, answer with a joke How to do this well? Take your answer and exaggerate it so much it is impossible for others to take you seriously 2:10 Example: How was your summer? It was just too much time with my family 25% rule is answer 1 in 4 questions playfully 2:36 If you are worried a compliment is awkward, follow up with a joke to diffuse = Tension Rule 6:08 Ask open ended questions. Joe Rogan asks Why … 6:24 Best open questions are ones they are excited to answer. [Hence ask the correct Why questions] Lewis Howes to Kobe Bryant: Why do you want to tell a great story? Be a likeable listener Oprah to Pharrell Williams: Happy. Boom !!

@rainerzufall5438

Жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly.

@WilliamJonesChess

Жыл бұрын

@@rainerzufall5438 You are very welcome My favourite point was 2:10 Example: How was your summer? It was just too much time with my family 25% rule is answer 1 in 4 questions playfully 2:36 If you are worried a compliment is awkward, follow up with a joke to diffuse = Tension Rule How about you? What was your favourite point ?

@hallokitty8616

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you taking this as seriously as me and writing down notes , thank you!

@WilliamJonesChess

Жыл бұрын

@@hallokitty8616 You are welcome !

@tomploger8760

Жыл бұрын

You left out the most important thing at the end : make the conversation enjoyable for yourself and thereby filter out people you don't want to surround yourself with. Be you.

It’s crazy how I’m watching this because i feel inadequate and insecure around people, but I literally do everything on this list when I talk to people.

@RcsN505

Жыл бұрын

maybe you're being too hard on yourself? maybe they like your vibe but you're so nervous you don't feel it?

@1whitedan

Жыл бұрын

@@RcsN505 people usually are their own worst critiques.

@djackson4605

Жыл бұрын

These skills are just like any, if proficient enough there's a fluency that's beautiful. If just one or two things or off though, it becomes stilted, awkward or even forced.

@Feex92

Жыл бұрын

Its like Dunning-Kruger effect but for charisma, not knowledge. Douches think they are perfect and everybody likes them. Charismatic people tend to see how much there is for their social skills to evolve.

@igormajdandzic7587

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club... yes, it is a very awkward club. But still, welcome.

I love the sentiment at the very end about making the conversation a good time for you! Too often I (we?) worry about what the other person thinks, having a good impression- and being overall likable. But it feels like you’re taking back over and it’s empowering to think that “just being yourself” will filter the right people into your life and send away the rest. I guess I needed to hear that

@lajbeak9142

3 ай бұрын

So true so true. Being genuine is the most free you can be

Open ended questions don't always get an open response. I know people you can ask an open ended question too and they still say Yes or No

@RasheedBarnes

Жыл бұрын

Right. Some people are experts at keeping a surface-level convo.

@omfgmedic69

Жыл бұрын

Literally most conversations I have on a dating app, where open questions end up with a closed response. Next please haha

@Martyn_Wolf

Жыл бұрын

@@RasheedBarnes That's 100% of "normal" sheepeople

@KennyWlr

Жыл бұрын

"Why did you kill them?" "Yeah totally"

@bengreeley5681

Жыл бұрын

Mirror their energy more. Use humor to bring them out. Chances are, they’re rude people.

My go-to question to get a conversation started with someone I don’t know well (if nothing else about the current situation comes to mind) is to ask what their first job was and how/why there. It’s an easy subject for people to talk about and almost always results in an interesting conversation. I’m often surprised by the answer and learn things about the person.

@jujucasar2003

Жыл бұрын

My go to question when i meet a cute girl is "do u want to watch the titanic? i hear it's a good ice breaker.

@mikephalen3162

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Having been a newspaper reporter, I discovered that most people enjoy talking about themselves. Ask one question and they do the rest. On the other hand, it can be annoying if they don't return the favor and ask about you.

These are actually really great tips, and they made me realize that I've been doing these things subconsciously. 😅 Like, I've had people tell me that they find me charming, but I haven't felt like I do anything specific, so it was good to hear specific examples to put words on it, because now I know that those things are what they mean. I'm not saying this to blow my own horn, but rather to confirm that these things genuinely give results. Just starting off the conversation with a joke - and especially the kinds of jokes you mentioned - is something that has really made it easy for me to meet new people. It's not 100% fool proof - sometimes you just don't "Get" each other - but like you said in the video, most people want to have a fun conversation.

@raftingorange6085

Жыл бұрын

What kinda jokes do you mean about starting conversations with exactly? If it’s not too cringe for you to spell it out lol 🙏

@JokerCrowe

Жыл бұрын

​@@raftingorange6085 Well Sometimes it's hard to literally Start conversations with jokes, but if you can fit in a joke answer to a question very early, it's essentially right at the start. And to be specific, like they said in the video, if someone asks you a question, either answer with such extreme over exaggeration that it's completely implausible, OR give the exact opposite of the expected answer. Make sure you don't sound like you're mocking the person (check your tone of voice), but the examples given in the video "I skate 4 times a day" and "it was Too much time with my family" are pretty good examples. Or doing a "yes! And..." where you fill in the blank in someone else's story; like with Jordan Peterson (at 0:40)"He uses a gun now instead of a Knife". I really like that "yes! and..." one because it can get the other person feeling like they're the funny one; you just 'teed' them up so They can make a smashing joke. For example, a guy at my work was asked about his wrist watch, and he said that he got it from his mom, she apparently just found it when she was out on a walk. And then I said "yeah it was just laying on someone's porch", and he followed up with "yeah, and it was inside a package too.. it was weird". My first joke got a little bit of a laugh, but his Second joke made the whole table laugh. Sort of like Chris Evans' "ribbon routine" joke. It might not seem like that funny of a joke, but it's a way that you can make the other person feel funny. And people will like you if they feel like you're the funniest person in the room, but they will *Love* you if you make them feel like _They're_ the funniest person in the room. That's also why it's good to laugh generously when you think someone is funny, it's very good encouragement. If you want to Actually start with a joke: one way is to ask someone else a funny question. Like if you're at a vegetarian dinner with only vegetarian food - and everybody knows that it's only vegetarian food - you can joke ask: "Oh so I take it the whole roast pig is coming later?" (or.. you know, something Actually funny "-_-). That's also a way to set other people up for giving joke answers. "oh, no the roast pig was too raw, so it ran away" (or again... maybe something actually funny 😅) Were those the kind of examples you were looking for, or was it something else? I'd love to help in any way I can. 😁 EDIT: the tip at 8:36 is also VERY good. If you don't know the people, just make the conversation fun for yourself. Make the kind of jokes You would find funny, and see how people react to them.

@akwwalker8782

Жыл бұрын

You literally just wrote the exact same way that you are describing of how you act in real life. Subconsciously.

@Yomello69420

9 ай бұрын

Bro literally same 💀

@tofferooni4972

4 ай бұрын

@@JokerCrowethats useful, thank you

For the first time in 60 years people tell they like talking to me. Unbelievable. And thank you.

Absolutely, authenticity is one of the greatest ways you can make someone else open up to you, that willingness to share your some hidden truths about yourself is a recipe for success in getting others to connect with you, because those you speak to are more likely to open up following you! Just don't over do it because there's a sweet spot with relatability and authenticity that you have to hit to really hit it off with someone.

As someone on the spectrum, I'm drawn to these videos to help me figure out how to "people". They are helpful! At the same time they are confusing because videos like these encourage humor as a way to endear yourself to others, but other videos emphasize how using humor too much, or humor at the wrong moment, can make people dislike you. I guess what I need is a video to know when humor is appropriate and when it isn't.

@Vi_Vi_1

Жыл бұрын

It's definitely a tricky balancing act on how much to use, and the worst part is there's no EXACT formula, since people and situations are different XD I'm also on the spectrum so I feel your pain. It's a lot of trial and error, and also just learning to accept it when sometimes it just doesn't land. Easier said than done, I know, but you got this!!

@donovanbh22

Жыл бұрын

Neurotypical here, and I’ll be the first to say goddangit its just hard to to know when humor is the right thing. Especially if you’re one to attempt humor as coping mechanism for generally stressful or traumatic experiences. But fortunately, that’s one social faux-pas that is usually easily forgiven

@two7plumbing

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree! I’m also on the spectrum and humor is a tricky balancing act for me. I’ve always tried the be a humerus person who others enjoy being around, but sometimes I unintentionally go too far with it. I’m constantly trying to learn where that line is.

@HipHopTheme

9 ай бұрын

When you use too much humor/tease and they may look offended, I always say “just kidding” and they calm down almost all the time lol

@jamesharris7003

8 ай бұрын

Respectfully, aren’t we all on the spectrum to some extent?

what gets me about this channel is the numeric value added to the suggestions. i’m autistic and realistically these videos just help me understand how neurotypical people interpret others and act, and how to be more approachable with less masking. being able to quantify the conversation makes it so easy. i struggle with things like knowing *where* to look or when to say something this way instead of that way, or how to be taken seriously without being interpreted as condescending, or literally just what to say next. just the simple tip of answering 25% of the small talk questions will change so much of my ability to casually talk with people without working myself up over nothing. what a time to be alive

The worst, though, is when you try to make it playful and they give you nothing back and act as if you're weird for not sticking to the most boring and strict code

@rob99201

4 ай бұрын

Yes.

@sabrinaerika8818

3 ай бұрын

Those aren't good people to interact with anyway, so it's also a good filter 😂

This is the perfect way to understand my own brand of humor and why I use it the way I do.... And how I can be better and more real than I feel comfortable being. But really... I find comfort in the people I who have given me hope, and comfort, and inspiration to change.

I like the idea of asking why as an open ended questions. I also like the idea of talking about things you like and jokes you like with new people to filter out who you want in your life. That pretty powerful.

It's always fun learning about someone. When you make it all about the other person, you gain so much knowledge.

This channel is very helpful! I'm the shy guy that wants to be a people person. Sometimes I give the wrong impression because I never learned some of social skills I need, but everyone who truly knows me knows that I love people. Thanks!

'Start things off light and funny and filter people in or out of your life based on whether their response drains you or energizes you.' Genius!!

I like that first tip, just be more fun in the conversation to make them more fun. imma try this everywhere in life, just be healthier, happier, wealthier, smarter and more attractive

Another great way to remember all these tips and put them into practice is starting conversations with strangers. I’m in sales and a lot of these tactics I’ve implemented where it becomes second nature for me.

I love your videos man. Thanks alot . Some of them, especially this type of videos really help. I really fill more connected to people than before, to the extent some do share some really good secret with me. Thanks alot once again This is a really good video.

I started doing these unknowingly as soon as i stopped trying to impress people. Once i decided to be myself unapologetically, i started having great conversations

Having done what this video speaks of, for most of my life, my problem was the opposite. I realized early on to curb my talkativeness. At times I do relapse a bit then, catch myself. Keeping several very brief jokes in my head at all times, I use one or two when I see that someone is having a bad day. Mostly, the ones who seem to need it are people who are stuck where they are such as cashiers in stores, servers, drive through workers. I always hope that I'm made a difference in their day even if only a small one.

8:30 is truly the key to great relationships and overall happiness. As much as it hurts, sometime you have to remove yourself from others. My best friend is a great example. We were inseparable from age 17-20. I had moved on to different things but when we would see each other, it was as if time had stopped and our lives would pick back up. Her personality evolved to selfish, manipulative and so sad for her. I and my family had to back away because she and her husband became truly draining. I wanted it to work but sometime the stress isn't worth the friendship. Dont let persons bad attitudes be your anchor. Create your own anchor!

I might not have everything else that you teach, but boy do I have this predisposition to just push the conversation to some kind of humour. It's natural.

One of the most insightful valuable yet short videos I have watched ❤

Another very excellent video. Excellent editing and content. I’m sure many of us are feeling overwhelmed by all of the great points and desperate to immediately put them all into play. But just start off small. Small incremental wins now equal bigger wins later.

I was very lucky at Uni to have 2 lecturers who joked occasionally during their lectures. I now make sure to include jokes in my own training materials - not only does it lighten the atmosphere, but I see my audience sit up and pay more attention. I also believe I get more and deeper questions when I ask for them.

The fact that I've been Googling and trying to learn how to talk to people easier without being so serious all the time, makes me feel like such a failure as a human being. Even with this "knowledge" I don't think it's possible for me to put into practice. It's just not who I am, it's not my personality. I wish I was just naturally like this. Maybe I would have been successful in life and happy.

That last point is so important. I hate making small talk at work, because I find most people there don't have the same vibe as me. I am super comfortable making small talk and new friends at running events. I should probably stop beating myself up about not having friends at work!!

Bro u r soo good at the research. Just imagining how much u must have inculcated makes me intrigued have a convo with you 🙏🏻👍🏻

This video made me think of times when I did (and didn't) do what you described. Great stuff! Thanks!

Just make sure you place yourself in situations where you need to talk to people. My social skills were horrible, then I forced myself to travel alone and to work at jobs where I needed to be very social. I’m not a social beast now, but I feel very confident and people like to talk to me.

That very last bit was the most useful for me - Focus on making sure you have fun and talk about things you find funny, and let others filter themselves in or out of your life based on that. Simple but elegant, just like most truths.

This is a nice example of how to avoid awkwardness.

I tend to do most of these things but still don’t always know what to talk about. However, I noticed that it may depend on the type of person I’m talking to and the mood that they’re in. My vibe is similar to Jim Carrey The Mask were sometimes I come across as confident and funny and others I am awkward and quiet.

What an amazing channel. I've actually watched myself and cringed with my behaviour now you've highlighted it, for example re framing the conversation to make it about me...many thanks dude.😎

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Жыл бұрын

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@bambooflute2589

Жыл бұрын

Same! I made every conversation about me and wondered why I wasn’t likeable. *facepalm*

Even though I had a long successful IT career, including training adults worldwide, I'm an extreme introvert and painfully shy - but I heard a joke/riddle that I use when I'm uncomfortable that ALWAYS works great for me: 'I have a great joke! What is brown and sticky?'.... 🙂great tutorial!

yeah I feel like these are intuitive and these videos, while helpful, can make human connect seem like something you have to study for like the SAT in order to do well in lol!

These videos are fantastic! I feel like I should be paying for this knowledge. Thanks so much

Fantastic video! Lots of great tips. 😃

This really is a great video with awesome advices and examples!

main thing i remember is the film Hitch when he gave dating advice. Listen and respond. so many people, myself included, will not really listen to what the other person is saying and is just waiting for the chance to start speaking again. its why the repeating the sentiment of what the person has said is so well received. you are listening to them and in a way clarifying that you have understood what they are getting at. this makes them feel heard understood and validated. this means if they disagree with your statement instead of letting it become an arguement figure out where the misunderstanding has come from. did they mean something else or did you not come across well when clarifying?

This video is taking about the different ways that you banter basically. Also, talking about the why and how vs what, where, or who makes things a lot more interesting.

This is awesome I love these helpful, engaging videos

I’d be careful with “why” questions. While open (which is great) they can sound judgemental, loaded or prying. What and how follow-up questions are more engaging.

Dude this is such useful video, thanks man!

Let me tell you i have this habit of talking to different people knowing their experience but I would often find myself stumbling at some point and as I watched this video it really helps me specially the why part❤

amazing video!! I'm gonna be completely honest with you though I'm probably not gonna remember half of this so I will probably rewatch a number of times.

This first tip will also filter out people who take themselves too seriously. You don't really want to talk to them anyway.

this is gold thanks!!

im going on a first date and i struggle with just keeping a conversation alive and playful so hopefully this will help me

@manu1788

2 ай бұрын

how did it go?

@danespilman8213

2 ай бұрын

@@manu1788 this was a while ago, it went really well but me and her really didn’t pair together well, and since then i went on another date with a different girl and it went even better

I'm glad i found this video. I will meet with my girl colleague and i want to know her more. Thanks!

My problem is that I don't understand social cues very well so it makes me uncomfortable when people make jokes cause I often don't know if they're joking or not. If it's like a really big exaggeration I can easily pick that up but it's more subtle things that confuse me, so I tend not to like to make jokes cause I also don't know how to respond if they joke back (unless I'm with a really good friend)

4:43 this interview was right after jim therapy session. He was really in a sharing mood

Was glad to find out some of these are things I already do

It’s hard for me-I do these things but so much of the time I get a disconnect. I feel like people are confused by me. At times I wonder if I speak to everyone as if they know me well and will understand my dry responses, quirky takes on things, etc.. Maybe I just need to keep it simple and also keep my interactions as short as possible. I definitely need to avoid intensity.

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Excellent advice!

Great video guys

amazing vid!!

Guess I‘m already radiating charisma and confidence naturlly🧐

You kidding me? Awkward silence is the best! I actually like it so much, it never happens to me😢

Yeah incredible it actually works thanks a lot

I never realized I have done this lol, like I always that I was awkward but in reality I actually carried the conversation

Wow, this is super informative! Trying not to make this a stock comment, but I really can’t say anything else! Me personally, I feel like I’ve been using some of these just by myself. But I Also feel like this will help me improve abit, as I have never learnt how to speak charismatically before and just did it, so in this way I can see what I have done, overdone, or haven’t done! I believe this video will probably be very useful to people of all skill levels when concerning speaking, and a guy somewhere above / below me summarised what was talked about pretty clearly if someone doesn’t want to spend 10 minutes on this video.

We need more videos of this kind

Silence is the BEST. Don't scare to be silent.

I have a lot of these things naturally and all this time I thought I was being awkward 😂

Once I was such a good listener, that my partner doesn't even counter with a single question towards me, for 3,5 hours strait XD

This video will be confirmative for those who don't need it and will frustrate people who do need it :)

Hell yeah boys we out here learning how to be humans

I love this ❤

You know you are terrible at being social when you are literally watching videos on it, gotta love life :)

Hey, really helpful man

I shared my flaws with my soon to be ex mother-in-law when I first met her with the belief that she would see I had nothing to hide. I was only 18-19 years old. I wanted her acceptance. Do not. And I repeat do not overshare with a love interests family. Or even with your love interest. Lol. 23 years wondering what was wrong with myself when the problem was him and his family. Edited to add that it has to be a give and take. Watch out if the people around you don’t share their flaws too. And be aware of the person uses your flaws against you. Big lesson I had to learn the hard way.

I NEED this

In my experience in both sales and interviewing people, why questions aren't that good. They often lead to mental blocks. Instead, I ask them "what" questions. So, instead of Joe Rogan's "Why Utah", which can lead to people being caught off guard and stump them thinking about reasons, I ask "What brought you to Utah?" or "What is it about Utah that attracted you?". It makes it far easier for them to come up with actual thought out answers.

So, basicslly be witty and fun, and a good listener, people will like you. How did I not think of that 🤷‍♂️

Thanks!

4:14 So that is why everybody say that I am so fun to be around. When the conversation goes stale I always do something like that. More of a funny guy but a guy you can have serious conversation with but there is always something to say or joke or tease and so on. I should fix that. Too many people around me at work everytime xD

Do I really need to watch a youtube video about how not to be awkward? Yes… yes I do

Heat as always

I love COC!

I really want to see subtitles naming all the movies these clips are from! I recognized some but others I want to go check out - if I just knew what they were 😕

Chris Pratt's joke came outta no where, got me laughing so hard 🤣

Practice with family and friends try 1 of these and then add another after you get 1 down

another great video

Added to my Epic playlist (very rarely do videos get there). This is what I guess initially the Liked playlist was supposed to be, but nowadays feeling like viewers have to like any video that was remotely informative/fun, I have more than a thousand videos in Liked, but probably less than 50 in Epic.

@contactmeontelegra.charisma02

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Good advice for those who take on other people’s unspoken discomfort as their own responsibility. I don’t find that relaxing and being quiet is a problem. If it’s a problem it’s a them problem not a me problem. But then again I lack the cleverness to make up funny things to say and if I did try it would be disingenuous. But I don’t care about any of that.

Better yet, lean into the awkwardness. When an awkward silence starts, break it by saying “you know the average awkward pause lasts 3 seconds”. It’s not that interesting a fact (and probably not even true but whatever) so the person will give a dull reply like “oh ok”, and then you just stare at each other as another awkward pause begins, but now it’s even more awkward because you’re both hyper aware of it! Try it out for yourself, works great!

@rmkumarkla

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Thank you

@MinnIsKill

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what a great way to put someone on the spot...

Set a playful tone early in the interaction - when someone asks me a question, answer with a joke (take the real answer and exaggerate it so much that it's impossible to take it seriously; take what people expect me to say and say the opposite). Do it with the first small talk question and 25% of the questions after that. Give a genuine friendly compliment and follow up with a cold read; mix the compliments with funny teasing Playful jokes, positivity, compliments and funny teases help make a great first impression Share my imperfections to connect deeper Ask open-ended questions - why... Be a likable listener - repeat their words, mirroring. Laugh generously, spend time with people i like. With new people focus on making the conversation fun for myself.

My worst habit is that I don’t want to say anything unless I have something interesting or funny to say. Part of growing up is that it’s ok to say bland or regular things as the volume of conversation can improve the quality of that conversation.

“If you don’t know if you like the person yet, make jokes that you find funny” That’s the problem!!!