This is a highly informative video. The examples were amazing . I wish such information is provided as the basic education everywhere and people learn to respect others space. Get the message through the non verbal cues because sometimes people cannot express their discomfort verbally.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful, Varsha.

Interesting video. I am originally from a mediterranean country. Intimate space is our public space. That said, I think one needs to be aware of these cultural differences and act accordingly. I once saw a college speaking to woman inside her intimate space, for him it was normal but observing the woman's body language, it was obvious she was uncomfortable. Great video and thank you.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Great example. Culture is a *_huge_* variable.

BTW, that's my wife pretending to headbutt and punch me! 😂

@girirajroy4709

3 жыл бұрын

Sir you are from

thank you for this video. Also answering the question, yes i was reminded several times by one of my friends that I'm a little bit too clingy or that when we walk on the street i always tend to be almost shoulder to shoulder. I was a little bit confused and frustrated when i first heard it since i couldn't notice this by myself, i did it unconsciously. Now i will try to keep the distance comfortable for both of us. thank you again for your explanation

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your example. That'll be helpful for others to read. I'm glad the video was helpful.

This is so interesting to me. I have a friend at work and we are always in the intimate zone when we are together, even in public. If we are in a small group we will stay close but In the next range. It’s really interesting

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

I know somebody who gets very close too.

Thanks for reminding me what i learnt in college. Am getting value!

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to help. Thank you for your encouragement.

You are highly appreciating

Thanks for sharing. This also varies across cultures. It is quite fascinating to see how this plays out in a multicultural setting.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, agreed. The theory doesn't get into that part of it but use of space clearly differs across cultures.

@elizabethfriedman5885

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I teach anthropology and love this clear explanation about proxemics. As a practicing martial artist, your examples clearly resonate. More to the point, I'm trying to find an example of proxemics in an Asian society for comparison. I wish you would tackle it in another video!

İ like to stand close. Because I like people. İ feel energy from people. İ study english for two months. Your videos are helpful. One shot two rabbits.

@MasterTalks

3 жыл бұрын

That's super to hear Asel, yeah Alex's videos are super fun to watch!

Love seeing you out in the field =)

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Ha. Thanks. that was my wife helping out. She NEVER wants to be in videos but she did it this time.

@BostonSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon That's love then! Also, thanks for tuning in to the live today! It was GREAT to have you there.

Sir I am from India I like your taking...

@MasterTalks

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed Giriraj, Alex has some great content that you can bring back to India. :)

Another major factor in tbe work and social zone is tje person attempting to gain access to your space. For example, certain coworkers and friends that once they got too close they take much "longer" to leave that space. Growing up we had a friend who would sneak into your space and tell a barrage of terrible jokes and they were so bad you'd laugh at how bad the joke itself was while his thought was you thought he was funny. Needless to say when we saw him coming we'd scatter like a flashlight on cockroaches!

Definitely, we use them

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Hey!

Thank you for this valuable information! However, I believe these distances might be different in each country. the definition of distances in Italy, for instance, are NOT as same as in Sweden :)

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you are right. I agreed that they are different. The research was done in the USA and it's not generalizable to all cultures and countries. It depends on lots of factors that I mentioned in the beginning of the video that will change those distances.

@Mahmoudrezafirenze

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Right! :) Thank you so much for your rapid answer, sir. I'm learning many important subjects about communication through your videos.

I try to give room to other people as I want the same.

My problem is I bit my lower lip to release tension during public speaking. My affect displays which people call expressions are also very strong, I have a very expressive face but in professional situation this becomes a big problem. ppl take you are incompetent and inconfident 😒 I'm try hard to keep a plain professional face, do you have any tips?

Media is in your Ears, eye's and House And car, and. And. Close it,. You feel it

Danes Denmark They want Pretty much space Often a. .... Agressive would go Close

Your intimate space belongs to nobody but yourself, it should be under your control at all times, people are invited into your space and you must block people from invading you space. These are skills we learn before we can speak and at nursery school, if we don't learn how to use spacial pressure to defend our intimate space we become weak and submissive.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Good points, Max. That's one of the reasons I often talk about "head-butting" distance for intimate space. Uninvited people will violate our intimate space as a way to dominate us unless we prevent them.

Yeah, territory, is big deal even in marriage

Ludacris gets this.

Invasive is media

I don't like headbutt zone, therefore...

Japan has 20 cm Eu 50 cm

lol I came here to learn how to press people, everyone is here trying to be like me hahaha