the ability to perfectly describe the psychological depths that I somehow noticed but couldn't explain. This channel is a gem.

Madeleine here (not Nigel he is my late psychologist husband) Thank you Sam. 18 months listening to you and at last I now know for sure my ex was a vulnerable narcissist. He discarded me twice in that time. He’s been love bombing me for 47 years - is that not a candidate for a Guinness World Record? 🤩😱

Thank you for making this information easily accessible.

Freeze and dissociate. Those are my defenses, and I have had dissociative amnesia on a number of occasions that I know of, starting when I was a teenager, staying up half the night to keep my father from killing my mother. He was violent, and sexually assaulted me, after we’d all lived in terror of his temper all our lives. My mother hated me, because of his grooming and assault of me, and even though I was trying to keep him from killing her, and dealing with other things that scared her. I have no fear of injury or death, because I taught myself how to suspend my sense of self-preservation. Not a trick it’s safe to know. I have CPTSD, and have studied and learned my true story, and found a moral code to which I aspire, Kant’s Categorical Imperative. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy taught me to deal with the behaviors of others without fear and preemptive appeasement. Both attract predators. I had my maladaptive defenses pried out of my fingers in therapy, kind of like someone clinging to a flagpole, afraid to let go, even when it’s safe, as someone is trying to help you. You have a job to do, before they can help you. If you know no safe place, and have been evicted from the herd, you travel through a hostile universe, with a heart like an open wound, & apt to trust people who would hurt you, so great is your fear of abandonment. My therapist wasn’t trauma-informed, or even very professional, but I took what I needed, and left off her New Age notions. In the US, we need trauma-informed therapists. I was lucky to have a friend pay for my therapy, but it’s out of reach to most people in this country. This is why we live in an armed madhouse. Edit to add that I live in Texas, in the US. Everyone and their pet goat can carry a gun, and road rage often ends in yet another shooting. It’s a bit disturbing.

@memecathar1263

Жыл бұрын

A part of this reminds me of being forced to go to rehab for stealing a beer (long story) and I had to endure ridiculous stuff from the hippy morons that ran the place. We watched a movie called “The Secret” and man… every time I remember that place I literally feel angry about it. I’ve never seen anything as screwy and stupid as rehab facility workers. Edit: If you have a chance to look up The Secret you can see how tax payers money is being spent in gov rehabs across the country. They want return clients so they don’t help them out so as to get them back. It’s a real plan and multiple rehabs have been caught doing far more illicit stuff. I got a judge to retire by writing the local paper about what I knew.

@bethmoore7722

Жыл бұрын

@@memecathar1263 My therapist told me I should read The Secret. After I had a dangerous and scary drug interaction between Levaquin and prednisone injections in my back, which caused hallucinations and panic attacks, she told me I should do a cleanse. The medical professionals in my family would have been alarmed to hear that. It would not have been safe, and there’s no reason to do it, anyway. We already have a liver and kidneys to “cleanse” our systems. I cannot believe a government-mandated rehab would be using that book, but they also compel people to go through 12-step programs. There is no evidence of the efficacy of AA & NA, due to the anonymity, and the consequent difficulty in gathering data. None of that works for trauma disorders, and in my experience, the New Age nonsense can make things worse. If you suffer from clinical depression, for instance, you’re only likely to feel inadequate when The Secret doesn’t work for you. Also, this seems to be largely a middle-class phenomenon. A very obnoxious one.

@sergiosalvador4838

10 ай бұрын

Good to know you got better. Your background, as you tell, was astoundingly harsh…. Keep it up, 🙏🏻

Congratulations on your work! Great many thanks for the patience to explain and do it online for free!

Thank you for today’s lecture. I learn so much from you every day.

Professor please make a video about the ego, superego and the Id.

@samvaknin

Жыл бұрын

I did. Several, in fact. Search the channel.

I always saw the visual similarity between Lacan and you also. Great class; very orientative. Thanks

@pudipup7960

Жыл бұрын

Me too. (:

Jacques Lacan was indeed a copy of prof.Vaknin.I would dare to suggest it's the other way around.

Wooow, Lacan is the identical twin of Sam! Just google him for a laugh.

thank you for todays lecture.

Thank you!

Think, A Teardrop to the Sea….

Amazing video! Bravo👏

I get more and more from this. Question: where is the Shame coming from? Is it internalised bad object or is it coming from being shamed and also from contempt

Dear Professor, It´s a pleasure to listen to every video you bring us, altough many of them has little interest for my personal life they are interesting and inspiring. Besides I really like the tone of your voice. ¿Have you ever thought of travelling to South America, specially to Argentina? 🤔

Professor Vaknin, do the primitive/immature responses stay throughout the life of every individual in the "complex trauma" spectrum and not just NPD and BPD? Is it possible for someone say with CPTSD to develop higher defenses and outgrow their primitive defenses? When the borderline finally "heals"/stabilizes in their later years (30 and above as some of your videos have mentioned, can they successfully replace immature defenses/adapt mature defenses? Thank you.

@samvaknin

6 ай бұрын

CPTSD is not BPD. Watch the BPD playlist.

@hopealivealways

6 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin alright. I will. The question I ask however is, what defense mechanisms are seen in people with CPTSD and what would be their natural history?

woah, you look exactly like lacan!!!!!!