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Being a person of integrity is key for this stuff to work.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Being a person of integrity is key. Yes.

@birnak1512

3 жыл бұрын

I wish there was more of Us. Integrity is rare.

@StickyIky

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately it’s Becoming a rare quality... as rare as common sense

@thekingsdaughter4233

2 жыл бұрын

@@StickyIky but that's something we each can work on. :-) I cannot change the other person, but I can work towards not giving them a foothold. * thumbs-up *

I love this guy! I'm a communications major and a couple years ago I ha a mental health crisis and realized my job, my family and my friends were all neglectful, abusive, and causing all my stress. I could not communicate properly any more , I just disconnected with them all and found a new job that I'm very happy with. My therapist kept telling me why are you not communicating with them?. I guess because gas lighting and head games just made me feel it wasn't going to change anything. Now I'm in a new beginning in life and these videos are really helping me when I meet new people .

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Very happy to hear that, bugsea :)

I love what your overall focus is. "Remember who you are."

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I think that is vitally important to a peaceful life and approach to others.

Love this! I've always said "What others think of me is none of my business".

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Good idea because it IS none of their business.

It wasn’t meant for my ears. That’s beautiful.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

So often people get bent out of shape when they overhear or see or read something not meant for them to hear or see or read. Overhearing has destroyed more than one relationship.

I don't know why I'm getting this video recommended to me. But, I do know that I damn sure needed it! Thank you!!!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

I don't know why you need it, Grits, but I do know that I believe you when you say you do :)

You're a genius at this❤

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Like all of us, Sierra, I'm trying to do my best.

@artjordan

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Dan the last part took me by surprise. I came here for your amazing content and advices but that last part of remembering who we are. That's deep Dan. Never it would occur but its profoundly deep. Thank you for reminding us that. That's the substance.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it is, Akshay.

Why oh why couldn’t I have learned this as a teen! It would’ve saved me so much Lunchroom drama as well as a ton of toxic family turmoil!!! It likely would’ve come in a bit handy in the workplace.

This is therapy in & of itself. You are helping me with that Sliver In Time that comes up like on a weekly basis

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to help, Planet C64.

Holy... Never mess with a high IQ articulate gay man. Some of thier social awareness and ability to surgically dissect the context of a situation/conversation is second to none!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Is it OK to mess with a high IQ articulate straight man?

@kfin2287

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I get your point. I geuss it's the presentation of the articulation it's a good thing. Some people say stereotypically but a say statistically, it dose not matter if the pretence if from a impartial view

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

I say never mess with an Irishman with black hair or anyone whose last name begins with O'C. I think that's the ticket.

@kfin2287

3 жыл бұрын

Very good response. I rest my case 👌😅

@charlottehanna790

2 жыл бұрын

I love 5his man.

So direct. So beautiful. No wiggle room for an asshole who gets their mess served back to them.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Uhhhhh, yes.

@anne-mariekerr4154

2 жыл бұрын

aye

Oh my goodness, I am laughing so loud. I needed a real, belly laugh. Around the seven minute mark you put your glasses back on and made a comment about being, "so service oriented; it's making you sick." It caught me in a way that I can't stop laughing. I greatly appreciate your videos and advice.

Great video! Had a situation like this yesterday. It took a lot of self-restraint to not get angry and start defending. I am glad I had patience and saw through the person’s tactics to see their intentions. I’m usually an emotional person but I was able to have self awareness in that moment and was able to remember my principles and values. Alhamdulilah!

This is BRILLIANT! Wow! This is how it's done. Dan you are the communication Ninja.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Bill. I appreciate your comment. Years ago I self-styled myself as a Ninja. Now I'm an old warrior :)

I get so much out of your videos Dan. Just having the words to say and to be more self-possessed at work. Thank you.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome, Papermason. If I can help you with your self-confidence and feelings of well-being, I'm grateful.

Every video I’ve ever watched on your channel includes a valuable lesson that beautifully changes my perspective. Our perspective is our power right? Either way, thank you. The love in me salutes the love in you.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

The love in me salutes you right back Hannah.

You have helped me so much with confidence and the ability to make my point without going in all guns blazing. Thank you so much Dan ❤️

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Well put, Bambina--"without guns blazing."

Dan! Just sat down with one of the. Boss people today because of the silly social behaviors. Your videos helped me have the confidence to be kind but still stand up for my own power to be treated well and take responsibility for my own things. You’re advice is gold, thank you for helping me change my outlook for the better you make a difference

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for taking a moment to report in. It's much appreciated, Lunarae.

Listening to this is balm to my soul. I taught my children to nip gossip in the bud by saying, "Have you talked to (whomever they're backstabbing) about it?" And never to say anything about someone which you wouldn't say in front of them. I love your words that you will be letting the person know what was said about them. And saying what you know and don't know about it all. Talking about people behind their backs destroys reputations and relationships.

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Your children are lucky to have you, Michele.

Thank you Dan! I need to remember who I am…. I needed to hear you today ❤️💋

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Rochelle.

Listening to this with a racing heart. You have no idea how much I needed this! I should have known this many, MANY years ago, but better now than never. Holidays with The Narc may be coming up...

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Whoa! Slow that heart rate down. Now you have some tools for those narcs.

@kb8511

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. I feel anxious thinking about saying this to someone I really need to. He is a narcissist and he is very manipulative and is making me look like a terrible person.

Thank you Dan! I have learned a lot from you over the past few years.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

We're always learning, right Cora N? There is no dog-paddling. We're either learning or sinking.

@Kakes6817

2 жыл бұрын

I learn something new every time I watch his videos. Dan is fantastic & the best channel I watch on KZread!

I needed this two years ago, but still can and will use it!! U r amazing and so helpful.

Thank you so much Dan. I love all your videos. "Remember who you are" so true ! ❤🤗❤

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, Gwen :)

I LOVED this video so much I listened to it twice this morning. I’m so glad I found your channel here because I feel like listening to you helps me. Thank you 😊

This advice is both beautifully said and brilliant! It is applicable to so many situations, too! I just found your channel yesterday, and I could not be more pleased! I am learning so much already, and I look forward to more. Thank you! 🙏

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Happy to help, Sage, and welcome aboard.

Dan, thank you for sharing your knowledge and skills. The point of “you don’t even know”, is exactly the situation I’m facing. These videos have really helped to frame that actually this is a learning opportunity for me! The books are ordered! Thank you again.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Amy, and I hope the books prove valuable to you.

You, sir, are an amazing human being. Thank you for caring about people this much.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

6ENSE, you are welcome. I believe all people, all living creatures are valuable and should be treated with respect, reverence, and love. Our words should be as loving as possible because they have lasting impact.

Thank you so much for these channel Dan!!!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome puffsleeveskindagirl.

Thank you for these messages. I need them more than I can explain. You ROCK!!!

Thank you for the lesson. I have struggled with communication barriers for awhile now in fact most of my life, not gonna point fingers but instead be thankful I found your channel. Have a nice day

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful and please stay tuned for many more Galaxy.

Great video Dan!! 👏👏👏

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, April. Please share!

Thank you for your direct yet gentle approach. It stopped me in my tracks and took the knot out of my stomach. During that sliver in time, pause before speaking took on a whole new meaning for me.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! That sliver in time can be a game changer.

Dan you are amazing! Because of your vids I was able to stand up to some terrible workplace bullies.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for telling me that, Allen. You've made my week.

So powerful. Thank you.

Dan I love this video so much! The way you closed it reminds me of the thing I keep hearing myself say this year to clients and in speaking engagements, which is, "We are born perfect, gifted, and filled with a divine inner knowing. As we grow up, the world quiets, obscures and diminishes those things, and some of them we hide from ourselves. Then we reach a point where we spend the rest of our lives trying to find them again." Bless you and this wonderful work you do. Happy Holidays to you and your family, including your frightfully perfect sister. 😅

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Monica, and I love your quote. Thank you for the holiday wishes, and I wish you a happy holiday as well. As for that sister--she's a figment of my imagination and as you can see, my imagination is quite vivid. No, my only sibling is Marty and he's nothing like that sister in my head :)

Absolutely wonderful! Well done! I know someone who starts telling people things and then stops midway and say I shouldn't really be telling you this. And when then asked what they are on about they say they shouldn't be involved. So why did they open their big mouth to create? Because they are a "toxic back stabber!" They've done it for 70+ years!

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Anyone who is speaking and then adding "I shouldn't be telling you this is suspect." Surprise this individual sometime by saying "I agree and therefore I don't want to hear it." Then walk away.

Thankyou!! Your videos are so helpful in building confidence and communication skills, much appreciated!

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, Karen.

Appreciate the video. It makes me rethink why I allow toxic people’s comments to go unacknowledged or unchallenged. In the moment I’m too shocked or emotional to respond thoughtfully. Also your thumbnail picture is fab!

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Mary :)

You are so helpful! Thank you 😊

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

Dan, you are brilliant and bright! I get such a kick out of your quick wit and humor. You seem genuine. I'm working on watching your informative, helpful videos back to back. I've experienced many people in the past and present who exhibit toxic behaviors, sadly now with a new roommate. I practice being a person of integrity and treat people with kindness, so like to watch your videos because they help me respect others while stating my boundaries in a clear concise way, without reacting, just responding. I truly thank you for your great service and feel positive that there are many others who do too. Keep up the good work!

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Quirkyramona. In terms of being genuine--I can tell you that what you see is what you get :) :)

@quirkyramona3600

Жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords Thanks for your reply Dan. I honor your light.

Fantastic video Dan. Thank you from The UK!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you from Mexico and Fargo, North Dakota Lisa!

I think you just gave the truth. Remember who we are. All love, kindness, patience, forgiveness and boldness. That's why we have two ears and one mouth.

Powerful words . Thank you

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening, AZ.

Dan, You are such a loving man who has blessed my life with enlightenment. I DID FORGET who I am. I believed that I could never again be the lady I once was. You have given me hope. I can turn around anytime, I just needed the words. Thank you 🙏 Gypsy

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, Gypsy :) :)

OMGosh, this is soooo relevant for me! Thank you

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome, Ro Brockway.

Another keeper video I’ll watch over and over. Thanks💕

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Great!

Truth is spoken here! So blessed by you!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

I hope so, Ponytail. :)

Wow this is awesome advice ! Thank you

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Zaida. Please share these videos.

I am new here today and have subscribed. Thank you so much for inspiring confidence with difficult conversations, delivery is key. Dan, this should be taught in School.s. This style of communication is vital. Very best wishes to you 💖

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Emma, and yes, it should be taught in schools. There are so many things that should be taught in schools!

Amazing Video, I so needed this lesson today! Wise Words

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks and I hope you subscribed and share, K2M.

You are extraordinary dan.. I have been following you for last 3 years. I think your youtube channel is quite under rated. You deserve 10M subscribers, I swear. We all love you anyways & you know that 💕

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Please spread the word and encourage others to do the same and we'll reach that 10M someday. Hopefully I live to see it. :)

There are so few people that think critically like this! Ive lost a few friends due to someone lying and gossiping about me

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

We need a little critical thinking, combined with mindful communication, of course.

I’ve struggled with communicating my needs & feelings without becoming angry or being seen as the bad guy….This helped….

I dont listen enough to these ....REMEMBERING Who we Are! .... Is the first ah ha moment that your teaching/ explaining with such dignity respect & civility , I feel the love , pretty neat for a rainy Monday evening - thanks good man!

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are most welcome, Jenny.

This one gets them to walk away for good: " thank you! You obviously care a lot for my best interests to relay this vicious gossip to me..& because you care , what to you say to them about that? "

As always, wonderful advice

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Stephanie. Please share this video with friends--or backstabbers :)

Thank you!

I love your approach to life Dan

The most awesome supervisor I had didn’t like tattletales and the weakest supervisor I had encouraged it!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

I can easily believe that. Any good leader encourages people working together, not spying on one another.

You are point on with this video!

Thank you so much for these videos. I wish I would have found them when I was young I’ve hurt a lot of people and embarrassed myself. I’m going to be a wonderful student and learn all I can with these videos 🥰

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Great to hear, Tamara :)

Love that! All of it!!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Birna.

Thank you ❤

Yes, there is power in our words! And yes, we do need to be careful with our words because words can definitely hurt, but they can also heal, uplift, and encourage.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, Rosy.

Thank you so much for all the great content man! I love how you make it comedic! LMAO

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure, Todd.

I appreciate this, I need to practice the ‘I don’t know/I do know’. In the example with the folder & server, I would adjust my wording from ‘I’m sorry it wasn’t clear’ to, ‘thank you for providing me the opportunity to clarify’.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Great tip, VeRonica.

remember who we are.. and the words that impact our cosmic footprint. 🙏❤🌹thankyou and thankyou again.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're twice welcome, Maria.

@a.c.9993

3 жыл бұрын

..."cosmic footprint"...I love that! So true.

You are so awesome. Thank you so much.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, C orrine.

Outstanding!

Thanks Papa Dan🥲 Good stuff!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

OMIGOD, am I at the "grandfatherly" stage? Judging by my nephew, I guess I am. (: (: (:

OMG….I just found your channel! I love you! Your just what the doctor ordered. TY

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome aboard, Kim.

Thank you 🙏

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊 Joanne.

The spiritual office conflict repair man😇🤣❤ You are just a diamond! X

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Well thank you llona.

Love this!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, amy.

This was SO GOOD! A new tool in my communication toolbox.

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that, murphyshsu.

Wonderful.

Omg that is so funny. Good examples!!

That was powerful, especially at the end.

The editing and voices is not only entertaining but really helps understand things better! 👍😎🤣

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear it! Thank you for letting me know that, Lulu.

Freaking love this episode!!

@ivanagurrera8769

Жыл бұрын

He is master!!

I wish I knew of your channel back in 2017. What a difference this kind of knowledge would have made! Thank you for sharing 🎉❤🎉

Lmao at "...I DON'T KNOW where I'll be working next week." 🤣🤣🤣🤣 OMG you're so valuable AND entertaining!💗

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening hard enough to get it, Silver :) :)

Your hair looks great!!!

Yes be prepared is good advice. I need to prepare myself more. I work in an office here in Chicago and it gets pretty fierce, and even more so after the pandemic. The office environment is even more toxic than before since lower sales and people getting laid off. Backstabbing left and right, mean comments and rude comments. I really like the cost / benefit analysis. It makes me think before I speak in a lot of situations.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

The cost/benefit analysis can save you a WORLD of hurt, Prissy.

@prissypacheco2860

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords ☺️

@prissypacheco2860

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords I listen to your videos on my drive to work each morning..

👏👏👏 Excellent~ thanks

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know what you think, Eileen. And please share this video :)

The O'Jays said that a long time ago:"They smile in your face,all the time they want to take your place! The backstabbers!"

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Right on.

I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ but I do know

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

:)

Very helpful.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful, Alana. Please be sure to share.

You are the BEST!!!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Law and Organ, and again I say PLEASE SHARE THIS VIDEO. And I thank you!

@ElenaBrandtNJ

3 жыл бұрын

Okay. Can you do something on how to confront creepy behavior/body language/text messages? In order for employers to take action about harassment, the person experiencing the harassment first has to ask the person who does it to stop. But sometimes, that’s easier said than done.

This is powerful

New sub here! Thank you for this! ✨

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome, Alexia!

You sly little philosopher. True love and our connection to the cosmos. I heard that ; ) Teacher and Guru !

I don’t know why you told me that but I do know it was not meant to make me feel good so why did you tell me that? 👊🏻

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Perfect!

@HeavenlyLights

2 жыл бұрын

Great. Especially for passive aggressive coward sniper shots.

😍💪💪💪very empowering advices

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Many thanks Dony Dony.

At work I have been a witness to someone equal to me, agree to help with our supervisors paperwork. Supervisor leaves. Night shift supervisor walks in. That equal that agreed to help with supervisor paperwork complain about our supervisor to the nightshift supervisor. Extremely uncomfortable for me to witness. I heard everything. But kept my nose down on my paperwork. The nightshift supervisor supported our supervisor, thank goodness. This equal is so toxic. I told my supervisor what she did to her behind her back. And my equal refers to themselves in the third person in all conversations. Super odd. The general consensus is this person is vying for our supervisors position and usurps their authority and tattles on her and others based on her "name here, is a rule follower". We are all like over here actually working and our equal is usurping and walking off the job on the constant, avoiding work and whispering into upper management ears. I'm putting in my two weeks. Just done with this person.

I love these videos. And learn a lot how to handle these horrible people (including my toxic father).thanks❤

@TheWizardOfWords

11 ай бұрын

You are welcome, Sophie.

Briliant.