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Today you'll learn power phrases that disarm toxic people at work in this free online communication skills training video taken from communication coach Dan O'Connor's new professional communication skills training course, "How to Stand up for Yourself at Work." Which is part of Dan's new masterclass, and is now available in his VIP pass www.danoconnortraining.com/store
Are you tired of the "Yeah, but . . ."-ers at work or at home? How'd you like to shut down their big traps for good, yet do it MINDFULLY? Here you'll learn how to use power phrases to shut them down for good, but you'll do it MINDFULLY. It is this mindful communication that distinguishes Dan O'Connor training.
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For your convenience, this communication skills lesson has been broken down into chapters:
0:00 Introduction
0:24 Who we're talking about
1:36 Buddy drops by
1:52 The first thing we want to do
2:02 Where does the power come from?
2:45 Human speed bumps
3:03 I need to teach you a lesson
3:30 The call is coming from inside
3:50 The most effective way to teach
4:14 My mother for example
5:48 Jeanwarriorprincess
6:35 Why do they do it?
6:40 The Power Phrases roll out
6:55 Pre-regisration information
7:50 The keys
8:20 How to gain the confidence you need
8:44 Using the broken record
9:38 Stop enslaving people
11:15 We train people how to treat us
11:26 Using the broken record again
11:38 Trixie's holiday extravaganza
11:58 Is this kosher?
12:13 Under the sea
12:25 Will you marry me?
12:42 Sticking to Message
13:00 Questioning my manliness
13:28 Stop giving it so much energy
13:30 Pick a number between 1-10
13:48 I'm bringing you home
14:32 Stop the madness
15:00 Clearing your conscious
15:28 the three steps put together
15:55 Is money stopping you?
16:10 Before you go...
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-Getting unstuck and moving ahead in your career
-How to gain the respect and acknowledgment you know you deserve
-Communication skills for the telephone
-How to deal with difficult people at work--notably bullies, gossips, and people who make inappropriate comments
-How to be seen as the competent professional you know yourself to be
-How to approach your job with confidence and earn the respect of coworkers
-Job interview skills
-How to deliver bad news to a customer
-Communication Skills for Leaders
And much more
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  • @TheWizardOfWords
    @TheWizardOfWords Жыл бұрын

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  • @vivianeprudentiabuelens9142

    @vivianeprudentiabuelens9142

    11 ай бұрын

    You need a whole lot of love ❤️ as we all do listen to LED Zeppelin (what a whole lot. Of love) @9194vivianeprudent

  • @gooddiscourse

    @gooddiscourse

    3 ай бұрын

    I just found your channel. Thank you for the advice. At 14:40 you mention about being abused at work. What videos do you have on that issue?

  • @Sonia150
    @Sonia1503 жыл бұрын

    “Ships don't sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.” “"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had said that :)

  • @ThatBackYardLifeHWGAC

    @ThatBackYardLifeHWGAC

    2 жыл бұрын

    Awesome advice thanks 👍🏽

  • @TaharkahX

    @TaharkahX

    2 жыл бұрын

  • @dionneyoung7481

    @dionneyoung7481

    2 жыл бұрын

    P

  • @dionneyoung7481

    @dionneyoung7481

    2 жыл бұрын

    P

  • @freetobememe4358
    @freetobememe43583 жыл бұрын

    I am almost 70. And just in the past few years have I learned it’s all my choice, my happiness is in my hands not others. Edit. And yes it was a hard lesson. Wow.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are years ahead of my mother. She is mid-70's and struggling each day with the realization that she creates her own happiness and shouldn't be looking for it in others--that would be Jim, Marty, Eamon and ME! :)

  • @bonnett5463

    @bonnett5463

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords very GOOD point!

  • @thirdgen377

    @thirdgen377

    2 жыл бұрын

    I understand the words but the brain fails to accept it. I get angered easily. I really dislike toxic people to the point to where I dehumanize them (I had a long history of being dehumanized by others and I'm trying to unlearn it) and I can't bring myself to respect them as fellow humans. It's a weakness, I know, but it's how I'm programmed and it's been a long fought battle in my head trying to figure it out. And just when I think I have, I become unhinged and pissed off and can't think straight. I just want people to stop being assholes for the sake of just being an asshole because they think it's cute. I have a 50-something year old female coworker who acts like a 14-year-old, can't tell her shit, but everything she has to say somehow carries weight even though she lies and hides behind the powers that be. She made the right friends, sucks for me and the rest of us who genuinely love our work but she and others just suck all of the pride out of my work.

  • @annmarie39able

    @annmarie39able

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here!

  • @SydMountaineer

    @SydMountaineer

    2 жыл бұрын

    What he teaches goes along perfectly with what Sadhguru teaches. You find joy from within, not from others - same goes for nastiness, you have the power to be joyful & pleasant no matter how other people are, don't alliw others to poison you, and don't depend on others for your happiness either. Thanks for your comment, it made me feel like I'm not the only one at my age.

  • @amycuaresma
    @amycuaresma Жыл бұрын

    Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you oversensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone won’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    Amy, by and large I would agree, however it all depends how you approach these three things. You can stand up for yourself in a mindful way--or an argumentative way. You can share your feelings, and you can over-share to the point of tedium. And you can say HELL NO or you can politely say No. Sometimes it isn't about feelings, needs and boundaries; sometimes it is about presentation.

  • @teeare2367

    @teeare2367

    4 ай бұрын

    ​@@TheWizardOfWordsand THIS is where I fail...my being direct is misconstrued as being a smart###. I am aware that my tone is sometimes snappy, but it's generally when dealing with incompetence. However, I want to do better.

  • @thenewyorkcitizen
    @thenewyorkcitizen3 жыл бұрын

    He is really talking about people who are oppositional. There is NO SHORTAGE of these people and they work in every industry.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I am talking about those people (who are oppositional), and that is a far better term than "narcissist" which is over-used and frequently used incorrectly.

  • @Noname-dg3pm

    @Noname-dg3pm

    3 жыл бұрын

    Your cat is cuuuutteee

  • @thenewyorkcitizen

    @thenewyorkcitizen

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dan, I really enjoy watching your videos. They remind me that no matter where we are in our careers, that our communication skills can always be improved upon. Btw, my mother was always a critic too. Lol

  • @davidshowers7508
    @davidshowers75083 жыл бұрын

    Love this guy he's like the laid back charismatic Tactical version of Tony stark of clap backs.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    My God, I'm writing that one down. I think I like it. Robert might not like the comparison, but I'll take it. :)

  • @M.C.Blackwell
    @M.C.Blackwell3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Dan for all your priceless coaching. I've commented a couple times about a friend that makes mean comments and tonight I was ready. I had said I was hungry and she said "if you say that one more time, I'm going to slap you". I said , you know, thats really rude and I don't want to be spoken to that way. She said "don't try to make me feel guilty, you were irritating because you repeated yourself about being hungry, and I said okay, maybe I was irritating, I understand that, and you are welcome to say so but saying you're going to slap me is rude and I don't think you realize how mean you sound sometimes.. She said that's the way she talks and she's not going to edit herself, and I said you can talk however you want, but if I don't like the way you're talking to me then I'm going to say something about it. The last thing she said was that she was joking, and I said "except its not funny". Honestly I don't expect her to change, she's often rude to people in our circle of friends and they all say nothing about it, so she'll probably talk about how overly sensitive I am to all of them behind my back. The point is, I finally stood up to it with firmness yet a kind tone and its about time I did. Gracias, thank you for all the lessons

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You handled that perfectly because essentially you said "Say whatever you wish, but not TO ME." Be disrespectful, rude and aggressive, but not TO ME. Perfect.

  • @M.C.Blackwell

    @M.C.Blackwell

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords i definitely have you and your guidance to thank! After having watched so many of your videos, I was able to clarify my thoughts and be ready to respond in a calm and kind way to express them when it was called for. You are much appreciated, thank you

  • @SydMountaineer

    @SydMountaineer

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for letting us know real-life interactions! Great job! You pointed out the behavior in a neutral way. Rude people don't worry or consider hurtful things they say, so we should not worry about being assertive in a non-hurtful way. (Our society has programmed us to not speak up, that's why people hesitate, and why it can be difficult to change our ways). You did it!!!

  • @christopherluvsaidan67

    @christopherluvsaidan67

    2 жыл бұрын

    She sounds like a toxic friend. I had a friend just like that.

  • @i.m.7710

    @i.m.7710

    2 жыл бұрын

    Your post was 9 months ago but I would like to know why you said you were hungry to your friend? She took it that you were saying for her to make plans or to make dinner. She felt responsible for your hunger. It might have felt like another chore dumped on her (even if she has taken control of meals and doesn’t want help or anyone in her kitchen or anyone dining the dishes not her way). I’m not defending her I’m exploring what other wording you could choose. Brainstorming: For doing things solo you can just feed yourself. For doing things together which is probably what you and she prefer, “I’m starving, what do you want me to make?” “Are you hungry? Let’s go to the Olive Garden.” “Let’s grab a bite.” You could be proactive about meals if you eat together. I’m also wondering if she’s more than a friend and you are expecting to open your mouth and be fed even with no commitment. I totally agree with you on the language. I have to keep my side of the street clean. And it is hard to stand up to snarky comments and verbal abuse. It is verbal abuse.

  • @ocheltree1
    @ocheltree13 жыл бұрын

    Dan, I have NO idea why you appeared on my feed. I am so glad I clicked on this video. 1st...HILARIOUS! 2nd...informative. 3rd...intelligent. All three of my favorite things in a video. Thank you.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    It was a Christmas Miracle, Rob.

  • @ocheltree1

    @ocheltree1

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords , xD....if this gig doesn't work out, I suggest open mic night at your nearest comedy club! Wicked sense of humor, very much needed, thank's!

  • @outdoorminer5533

    @outdoorminer5533

    2 жыл бұрын

    He’s the best. He deserves millions of views.

  • @lulumoon6942
    @lulumoon6942 Жыл бұрын

    You had me at, "SHUT THEIR TRAP FOR GOOD." Love chosen positivity paired with skilled compassion. ❤️

  • @auniversalwoman

    @auniversalwoman

    4 ай бұрын

    "Chosen positivity paired with skilled compassion. " good one!

  • @gme5400
    @gme54003 жыл бұрын

    Not only a savvy communicator but a teacher on how to love yourself and others💕🙏🏽thanks Dan

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome, Regina--all doing our best, right?

  • @dragonfish888
    @dragonfish888 Жыл бұрын

    I deal with a bully at work. It’s so draining and, of course, counterproductive. Your videos are helpful. I mostly ignore him, but when I engage, I take the high road and handle it professionally.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    That's the goal, Dragonfish--changing the global dialogue one conversation at a time.

  • @jdj97701
    @jdj9770110 ай бұрын

    I moved over 2,000 miles from home to take a job, only to be subject to bait & switch compensation & a toxic work environment that is well institutionalized. Struggling with depression & questioning my own value while everyday growing more closer to giving up on everything. The message in this video is a breath clean air & gives me hope. Thank you Sir

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    10 ай бұрын

    You are welcome, jdj.

  • @melmel8907

    @melmel8907

    6 ай бұрын

    💜

  • @8910d

    @8910d

    2 ай бұрын

    Moving again is a valid option. Don't be trapped there.

  • @aramotselaw3794
    @aramotselaw37942 жыл бұрын

    I’m up at 5am hollering laughing 😂 thank you for this humorous and very helpful presentation 🙏🙏🙏 I’m in a new role where my gangster is tested daily 🤦🏻‍♀️ You’re instruction and content is so helpful!

  • @cairor.8644

    @cairor.8644

    Жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂😂

  • @dylanrussell5781
    @dylanrussell57813 жыл бұрын

    I use the term "That may be but" when I deal with complainers at work. They'll say "Man this place sucks" I respond "That may be but, that hasn't been My experience here"

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Perfect, Dylan.

  • @Su_aSponte

    @Su_aSponte

    3 жыл бұрын

    Recalled this comment when faced with some complaining today. Need some more practice but I believe it made a difference. We had a much more positive shift over all even when faced with challenges. Solid communication all around made things run smoothly.

  • @MsDana-mo9fp
    @MsDana-mo9fp11 ай бұрын

    I have gotten to the point that even if someone feels that they have to 'throw" something at you - you don't have to "catch it" .....just let it drop!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    11 ай бұрын

    Great way to put it!

  • @SydMountaineer
    @SydMountaineerАй бұрын

    Allowing others to control your happiness or sadness is the worst kind of slavery.

  • @licksnkicks1166
    @licksnkicks1166 Жыл бұрын

    Dan you are amazing. I can’t even thank you for the education that I have received from you. I know how to tone down my anger issues with stupid and very toxic people at work! I have learned a smattering of eloquence in vocalizing my displeasures at work!

  • @kidsister316
    @kidsister3162 жыл бұрын

    "i mean really, we're looking at Stuart, the toxic co worker in the next cubicle, for OUR happiness??" ("and then we get surprised when they can't deliver....") gonna IMPRINT this on my brain

  • @moimoi8125
    @moimoi81253 жыл бұрын

    I cannot thank you enough for your help you have encouraged me to communicate more and get my point across instead of just letting my irritations build up ! It’s so hard for me to deal with toxic people especially at work

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Happy to help, Moira.

  • @inezannestes8162
    @inezannestes81623 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. I needed to be reminded today of all days, that I need to be the example. Someone is being hurtful to me, and I understand their actions toward me, are because they are hurting inside of themself, and it would be so easy for me to lash out at them. But I won't. Again, thank you.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You get it, Inez.

  • @JazzyB11235
    @JazzyB112353 жыл бұрын

    Dan you made me literally lol when you said "in a sick Shakespearean way". I totally get it. You're a master wordsmith sir.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. I suppose everyone says "You're da bomb" so I won't.

  • @Noname-dg3pm

    @Noname-dg3pm

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords lol

  • @davisholman6518

    @davisholman6518

    3 жыл бұрын

    “To be”.... “but of course there are times NOT to BE - blah, blah, blah....”

  • @yellow888
    @yellow8883 жыл бұрын

    Stop the madness! Where were you 20 years ago? Thank you!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Look at my oldest video and you'll see where I was--and TRUST ME, YOU DON'T WANT TO GO THERE!

  • @valerietyler-grable2029
    @valerietyler-grable20293 жыл бұрын

    I can’t thank you enough! Your videos have helped my son and myself. You’re a great guy, and appreciated!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Valerie! What a delightful way to start the day!

  • @debbiebrown872
    @debbiebrown872 Жыл бұрын

    You’re funny and helpful all while maintaining clarity. I really appreciate the content of your messages!!

  • @rachellewis907
    @rachellewis907 Жыл бұрын

    I have just only happened upon your clips! Your attention to the power of conversation is fantastic 👏 and I have now been able to step into the space which I seemed to have lost. Compassion and being who you want to see, I had actually forgotten what exactly this meant in practice and anxiety had been tenuously seeping in. Thank you for sharing so openly 🙏 love the format 😉

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    Rachel, thanks for the love. Also--please check out my newest video Stop Responding Defensively. I think it will help. Go to my channel and put in those search terms.

  • @unnamedchannel1237
    @unnamedchannel12372 жыл бұрын

    Hi Dan I just want to thank you. I have been having issues within my office I work in and was fingerpointed as having a negative impact on the culture. Your video about resigning gave me some good tips even if they were not directly related. I wrote out 6 pages of things I needed to express to my top manager, I just read from my pages and gave very specific examples of how people have to the point they have suggested I had sexual relations with clients. I explained due to the constant sexualised nature of almost every conversation I have chosen to ignore any conversation unless it is directly involved me and my client. There is a much more in-depth back story but thank you I had this meeting this morning and it feels like the weight of the world is off my shoulders .

  • @janycebrown4071
    @janycebrown40713 жыл бұрын

    You can not change a narcissist. The only thing that you can do is RUN AWAY FAST, and go no contact!😌

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I would never argue with that. Same with an abuser--you just get away from them. For that matter you can't essentially change ANYONE. However you can train people how to treat YOU. And if they don't treat you that way, there are consequences.

  • @janycebrown4071

    @janycebrown4071

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords I am on day 8 of no contact with my narcissist husband. After 30 years I am finally done,and I can live the last half of my life,on my own terms 💕☀️

  • @SydMountaineer
    @SydMountaineer2 жыл бұрын

    Everything Dan teaches covers the possibility that we have misread the comment or not properly discerned what was meant, logically, without filters, so if we did misread, we're not being disrespectful or hurting ourselves either.. (Sometimes even a non-abusive comment can hurt us, based on what's inside of us, so it's helpful to know ourselves and be able to discern.) We all see & hear through our own personal lenses, it's very difficult to think consciously (most people cannot think consciously for even 10 seconds, it's very, very rare to find someone who can even do so for 5 minutes).

  • @ms.5779
    @ms.57793 жыл бұрын

    I understand about the mother comments, as I'm a mother and have learned to "see" my children's life without seeing it and commenting, suggesting, pointing out facts etc..I had to learn how to love them in a better way. Thanks for your lessons

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Then you probably understand that I am exaggerating for effect. I could not love my mother more if there were two of her. (Now THERE is a scary thought.() ) Just kidding, Mom.

  • @Levejr
    @Levejr3 жыл бұрын

    I'm dying - the "well actually" is my dad! I shouldn't laugh - but this was great to get addressed!

  • @unnamedchannel1237

    @unnamedchannel1237

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is why I have been watching dan, so I can improve my self and not be the ar*se hole in life ... quickly realising I have become that one everybody thinks is toxic

  • @msjoycie

    @msjoycie

    3 жыл бұрын

    My mom is also a card carrying member of the “Well, Actually” club. This will be helpful for me in the future.

  • @ceciliareynolds5949
    @ceciliareynolds59492 жыл бұрын

    Love you Dan. Thank you for being candid and sharing your insight.

  • @HS-nf4su
    @HS-nf4su Жыл бұрын

    Hi Dan, I have been following your channel for a while now, which I love. Periodically I rewatch your videos to help remind myself to practise these techniques. I especially loved your point about not putting responsibility on others for your happiness - an unrealistic expectation! Best wishes :)

  • @chloehammond2836
    @chloehammond28363 жыл бұрын

    So glad I found this channel! I’ve always struggled with not taking things personally and handling volatile situations directly but tactfully and gracefully. Through channels like this one I am slowly developing this skill.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    We're all learning every day. I'm happy to have helped you along your communication journey.

  • @mirgrant
    @mirgrant3 жыл бұрын

    what a gem this channel is!!! don’t ever stop!!

  • @roseangelo4416
    @roseangelo44163 жыл бұрын

    I always enjoy the stories about your family; we all have family "characters". It would be fun to see them in your next "How to handle the holidays" video. Of course they could play the role of those asking nosy or inappropriate questions. Just a thought! Thank you for your valuable videos, I'm learning a great deal.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Oh they wouldn't have to "play" the role, Rose; they'd just have to play themselves. Having said that--I love each and every one of them and appreciate the color they bring to my life. BTW, that includes my mother who has allowed me to exaggerate her faults and ignore her virtues FOREVER on KZread. And life has never been the same without my father, and never will be. Good idea, Rose. I think we're all going to be together for the holidays (god willing and the crick don't rise) so I might take out my camera.

  • @roseangelo4416

    @roseangelo4416

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TheWizardOfWords I"ll look forward to it. Get Crystal there as well to take off her shoes. : ) Thank you for the marvelous content, and all the joyful chuckles

  • @rmsmith8098
    @rmsmith80982 жыл бұрын

    Your videos are life changing. I have already learned so much. Can you make a video for us high school teachers who are trying to help negative, griping, and often rude teenagers? I try to respond in the opposite spirit, but when they cross a line, it gets very difficult.

  • @pbsamanthamarie

    @pbsamanthamarie

    Жыл бұрын

    This is a great idea!

  • @MD.orion1

    @MD.orion1

    8 ай бұрын

    For parents too for the same reasons

  • @NiaMSnow
    @NiaMSnow Жыл бұрын

    I wish I saw this earlier but I'm so grateful I found this! I'm a new hire and there's a specific clique who has picked on me every single day on Day 3 through now. I'm the assistant to a C. O. O. & I've mentioned to her their behavior and she wants all of this to stop. She wants ME to speak to them one on one and I've been looking for words to say and phrases to let them know how I feel professionally separating my feelings from business. Now I found this video and I feel much more at ease. Thank you, Dan!!!!!!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    You are very welcome, She.

  • @anneoneill280
    @anneoneill2802 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for what you do! I could weep with relief at having the fabulous tools you so artfully, lovingly supply!

  • @62kawkaw
    @62kawkaw3 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate your videos, Dan and how they were delivered In such a relatable, down to earth way with humor often. “Sick Shakespearean way” made me laugh out loud. Watching your videos has helped me through some recent tough times at work I am definitely interested in your class.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Katie, catch the next class--coming soon to a --danoconnortraining.com-- channel near you--

  • @tiablasangoriti8347
    @tiablasangoriti83473 жыл бұрын

    What a great find. I accidentally found your educational video trainings on my feed Dan. Your practical content, injected humor and the upbeat flow really appeals to me.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Once again--I am grateful for your comments, Bill. I'm happy we found each other and I hope you share these videos from time to time.

  • @cabinfevercraftingbyclaudi8108
    @cabinfevercraftingbyclaudi8108 Жыл бұрын

    OMG Your message was so needed by me. I have spent a lot of my life thinking that rising above a hurtful conversation was beneficial and then I would be quietly hurt and go nurse my wounds. Thank you for blowing my mind and showing me that I need to make changes in how I respond to the kind of person that you describe in this video. I just came across your video randomly. You have a new subscriber and you have probably changed my life. I needed to know when and how to stand up for myself. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    You are most welcome, Cabin Fever. And thank you for subscribing :)

  • @eima4547
    @eima45473 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant video! Thank you!

  • @cindyv418ify
    @cindyv418ify3 жыл бұрын

    We teach by demonstration!! Love it

  • @LmaoPainy6
    @LmaoPainy6 Жыл бұрын

    You bring a HUGE smile to my face as well as teach me some good tips. Thank you!!! ☺️ 💕

  • @priscillahudson3625
    @priscillahudson36252 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for the gift of you! Looking forward to watching many more episodes. 💝

  • @medievalknievel
    @medievalknievel Жыл бұрын

    “ nobody likes a nosy Rosie”....... One of my all-time favorites works everywhere and calls the person out on their nonsense the more people around the better LOL

  • @tiablasangoriti8347
    @tiablasangoriti83473 жыл бұрын

    I intend to watch more of your exceptional trainings. Keep up the remarkable work Dan.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Many thanks, Bill. I appreciate your encouragement.

  • @Christ777_
    @Christ777_ Жыл бұрын

    Loved this so much - Bless you

  • @fhairston226
    @fhairston2263 жыл бұрын

    What an EXCELLENT video! Thank you so much for great work you do. What an inspiration! Thanks again!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome, Frederick. Please share any of these videos you find helpful. Dan

  • @joanaayalamua
    @joanaayalamua2 жыл бұрын

    Omg! I am SO GRATEFUL I found your channel. I was laughing out loud during your video. Such relatable content and also such helpful tools!!!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Joana. Much more to come.

  • @allisonnovak500
    @allisonnovak5002 жыл бұрын

    I think your suggestions are kind and firm. I’m going to use your method in dealing with some troublesome neighbors, and I think it will be effective. Thank you!

  • @SAHamel_
    @SAHamel_2 жыл бұрын

    OMG the part about Mom cracked me up, your personality shines through in these videos. Luv It !

  • @love-zh5ek
    @love-zh5ek3 жыл бұрын

    It was a blessing to come across your channel! Thank you for being here! 🤍

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome and I'm happy to be here!

  • @dinky..
    @dinky..3 жыл бұрын

    My Mum sent me this video and I thought it was EXCELLENT!! I need you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Love your humour and practical advice! THANK YOU! 💕

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good for your mum for sharing! Please thank her for me and tell her to KEEP IT UP!

  • @vaniazad4924
    @vaniazad49243 жыл бұрын

    I am blessed to have found you,Dan and I am absolutely grateful to you.💖💛✨🌟💫🙏🙌🌏😊

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Vani. I am blessed that we found each other.

  • @gracesunshine6716
    @gracesunshine6716 Жыл бұрын

    you have a style that helps solve not fluff, thank you

  • @JDiology
    @JDiology2 жыл бұрын

    Truth hurts how they say, basing the facts is something that wont be ignored but they will know that ur words r powerful! Yes! 🙌🏼

  • @RoslynBaker
    @RoslynBaker3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Dan, I am learning from you with every video.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad to hear it, Roslyn, and please stay tuned for more and please share these videos :)

  • @Sweet1981ie
    @Sweet1981ie Жыл бұрын

    You are awesome and thank you for your advice!!!😊

  • @anaj0s
    @anaj0s2 ай бұрын

    I’ve excepted I can go to work, be friendly but not engage in too much chit chat at work. I started to get the hint that my opinion at meetings are not needed. Even if my boss asks me directly my opinion, I’m going to rethink giving it. I’ve had my ideas taken and posed as their own. Other than if there is a problem with my check or if I need supplies, I’m not going to put my energy into what the team is doing. I really was creating my own madness. The manager’s tone can be brash to everyone. They do not think it is an issue. I started to mind my own biz and do more listening. I don’t really need to share with my co workers. Thank you for the tips, I’ve found that using much less words through out the day, keeps my energy balanced.

  • @enoonmai5071
    @enoonmai50713 жыл бұрын

    💘 well I learned it through my experience. I'm still wavering when I am reminded of it. hehehe. But it's great to hear that I have this mindset already. yevahhh

  • @etunde81
    @etunde813 жыл бұрын

    You are spot on and absolutely hilarious. Keep up the good work!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks much. I shall continue on.

  • @avocado3748
    @avocado3748 Жыл бұрын

    Omg I love your sense of humor and how you do these videos. I love the mindset that you have and that is to be a thermostat vs a thermometer. I am so glad your channel came up on my feed. It comes from such a healthier and empowering place. Thank you 💖

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much!!

  • @bizinsky
    @bizinsky4 ай бұрын

    Thanks, Mister. I appreciate your support.

  • @donaldcummings6439
    @donaldcummings64393 жыл бұрын

    Great content, wonderful humor. Thank you!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Many thanks, Donald. I hope you subscribed and I hope you share. :)(

  • @MaryGrace62
    @MaryGrace62 Жыл бұрын

    Dan-you were born to convey comminicative wisdom and you walk in your gift so well!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    A high compliment--and I thank you Mary J.

  • @sage8889
    @sage88893 жыл бұрын

    This was Powerful on so many levels! 💎

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Sage. Please share this video, won't you?

  • @soo77777
    @soo777772 жыл бұрын

    I love your videos and presentation style :) no BS .. so many effective skills :) thank youi

  • @MasterTalks
    @MasterTalks3 жыл бұрын

    I love that you reply to every KZread comment Dan, keep up the awesome work, have a great week.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Doing my best, Master Talk.

  • @TheMaryDoll
    @TheMaryDoll2 жыл бұрын

    I understand you...my mother is the same way. It took me years to develop a self-esteem and not take what she says personally.

  • @cooladultkidontheblock1882
    @cooladultkidontheblock1882 Жыл бұрын

    I am loving this channel! ❤️

  • @swim610
    @swim6102 жыл бұрын

    Its all about love. Thank you

  • @MalikaBourne
    @MalikaBourne Жыл бұрын

    Fabulous video content. Thank you so much...I am listening to this content for the third time so I have it ingrained in my brain.

  • @gammiesglasses1188
    @gammiesglasses1188 Жыл бұрын

    You have taught me so much!!! ❤️❤️

  • @nancylanderson8012
    @nancylanderson80122 жыл бұрын

    I truly enjoy your videos and find them very helpful. Thank you!!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome Nancy, and I hope you share these videos.

  • @NikkiSoFar
    @NikkiSoFar Жыл бұрын

    I want to see buddy! Love your communication advice “be the thing you wish them to be” and your editing is the best 😊

  • @royaltyblue1m.932
    @royaltyblue1m.9322 жыл бұрын

    Let me tell you something. You don’t know how you have helped me. To make a long story short I have been dealing with some things at work and I was trying to make sense of or try to enable my boss to see what I wanted them to see. But everything I did she made everything contradictory. God led me to your videos and I am at peace with everything. Thank you so much for allowing God to lead you to do these videos. This is a gift and I'm sure going to use it thank you again. I started to feel like I was crazy but I am understanding that you can not make sense to a person who wants to make sense.

  • @lindswatch
    @lindswatch Жыл бұрын

    Ha! I love your videos. Totally delightful, insightful, and hilarious - while giving such sage advice. Necessary viewing before family gatherings or big days at work.

  • @starrycrown
    @starrycrown3 жыл бұрын

    Dan, I love Buddy🐶, I love your Mom💃🏼, and I love you🕺🏻! You’re so helpful! 🙏💐🥰

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Starry. My dog is faithful; my mother is helpful (though relentless); and I'm sure if I knew you, I'd love you too.

  • @D10DeLuca
    @D10DeLuca3 жыл бұрын

    Awesome as always!, thanks Dan

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Many thanks, NedG10.

  • @LightS_bRight
    @LightS_bRight2 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful work. I respect your work. Keep it up.

  • @joannethilwind3334
    @joannethilwind3334 Жыл бұрын

    Found the video I need yippee….. Thank you kindly You are appreciated I am Grateful ❤

  • @Tiffanysydney1984
    @Tiffanysydney1984 Жыл бұрын

    ..your perfect 👌 ❤ Thx for the disarming tips!

  • @christinepadua593
    @christinepadua593 Жыл бұрын

    I LOVE YOUUUUUUUU!!!!!!! You are SO smart and a true life saver!!!!!

  • @LL-oc2fv
    @LL-oc2fv2 жыл бұрын

    Wow u are one of the top most beneficial people on KZread seriously. Amazing video from start to end. So, so true everything you said! Thank you for sharing!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    2 жыл бұрын

    Many thanks, L L. I hope you share these videos.

  • @terryc4883
    @terryc48833 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. I subscribed.

  • @PreppyPrincess777
    @PreppyPrincess7773 жыл бұрын

    THANK YOU

  • @harlequinhead2008
    @harlequinhead2008 Жыл бұрын

    I so appreciate you & what u give to us!!!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Harlequinhead. I'm happy to do what I can to help change the global dialogue one conversation at a time.

  • @wade5941
    @wade59412 жыл бұрын

    Enjoy your videos. I was struggling with much of what you discuss, but turned it around. Jordan Peterson was probably the biggest influence in my maturation, but now seek out others also. Yours is one of the 'others" that has influenced me. Thanks.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Wade. I hope you keep watching.

  • @rockinrobin322
    @rockinrobin3223 жыл бұрын

    Just in time. Thanks Dan!

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Rockin. Timing is everything.

  • @gretchengarrett7878
    @gretchengarrett7878 Жыл бұрын

    I work in education. Thank you for helping me stay sane when interacting with a wide variety of students, co-workers, and parents.

  • @Bob-jv2st
    @Bob-jv2st7 ай бұрын

    Thank you for the help

  • @Jewelkraft.
    @Jewelkraft.2 жыл бұрын

    You have such an amazing content. Very valuable stuff here. Thank you for sharing this information

  • @kitbenson8078
    @kitbenson8078 Жыл бұрын

    I love your videos! The contradictory... I really needed this one, Dan, to deal with a much loved but rather pernickerty relative. "That may be, but..." I feel empowered and less defensive just seeing how this will work.😊

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    "That may be but" is pure magic, Kit.

  • @fourthgirl5028
    @fourthgirl50282 жыл бұрын

    Tell your mom that I love her for giving birth to you, teaching you lessons, and raising such a gifted professional. You're making a difference.

  • @lilaclilly198
    @lilaclilly198 Жыл бұрын

    I know that person 😱 Thank you Dan for your guidance it’s invaluable 🙏🏼

  • @MrsHall_
    @MrsHall_ Жыл бұрын

    Simply amazing techniques. Thank you for sharing.

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching and also for your membership. It is much appreciated.

  • @vaniazad4924
    @vaniazad49243 жыл бұрын

    You're awesomely fun,Dan!😅💖🙏

  • @TheWizardOfWords

    @TheWizardOfWords

    3 жыл бұрын

    :)

  • @annmarie39able
    @annmarie39able2 жыл бұрын

    Absolute genius 👏 🙌 👌

  • @StarSurvivor1585
    @StarSurvivor15859 ай бұрын

    The word AND is a super power. I hear your frustration/anger/ AND we have to keep this civil. Straight Gold. Im trying to use w my NPD clients who use their diagnosis as a license to abuse.

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