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It certainly seems you have found your calling Dan! I gain something beneficial from each video of yours that I watch. You're awesome 🙌

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Birdie; please like and share! Dan

@donnalund770

2 жыл бұрын

Ur so nice I just wanna hang out and drink a chai tea. ☺️

The whole section about saying yes and being gracious/accepting offers really hit me. I realize I spend too much time making myself small. I turn down things left and right because I don’t want to trouble anyone and for so long, I thought that was the stronger choice because it showed I cared about the other person’s comfort. But I can completely see the difference. And also how it can be problematic to do that. Thank you!

@jessitabonita

Жыл бұрын

I agree to an extent- after experiencing some people in my life who offered me something only to use it against me later on: it has me more vigilant and discerning to the motivation of the person who's offering me something. I suppose it's a form of "love-bombing." Now when EVERYDAY my coworkers offer to get me and everyone else something from the local corner store on their break, it wouldn't help me in the long run in my weight loss goal as I see them returning with loads of carbs and sugar. (When we have free coffee, water, and snacks...) So not only do I not want to be indebted to them, I certainly don't want to allow them to sabotage my personal growth and health goals. Neither is good for my wallet nor waistline. But of course, when I'm a guest, client, or customer somewhere else: I most certainly gladly accept a kind gesture! 😊

@tarawalsh-arpaia3928

Жыл бұрын

I am so pleased for you. I know a woman who is a ray of light and crazy (good) humor and she always used to say to me: 'We should meet for coffee sometime.....But only if you want. No pressure. Only if you want.' Me? Want coffee and her company? At the same time? Hell yes! I often wondered where she got the message that anyone wouldn't want this. As I git to know her, I learned more about some hard experiences she had. But I made it clear: I always want your company, especially if there is coffee. If people are asking you, they want you there! You are a part of the festivity even if it's just a coffee. It shows you are a person of light that people want to have around them. Say yes and go enjoy your self as much as others do!

"There's no reason you should be under your chair unless you want to inspect the gum...", man, I love the way you teach it, unfortunately most of us never got "polished" on this stuff. I remember once long ago I worked at a bank and they video-taped their professional people in a sample conference so they could see themselves in the meeting. It is important stuff that influences so many aspects of our lives and understanding this makes a huge difference. Thank you for your videos!

It makes so much sense to accept the offering. I am definitely the "first" candidate in life! I just don't want to bother the other person to get lil old me a coffee so I think I'm helping not waste their time. Didn't realize it was slightly rude.

@VallyVal89

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Made this error repeatedly!

The one thing I love about Dan is that he doesn't teach superficial communication skills... he also teaches the character we should possess or the attitude we should have behind the words... Btw, Dan I like the last part where you taught about the voice (I'm one of your customers who ordered your flagship course some time ago and asked you how you trained your voice ;) Just wondering do you now have a dedicated course about "voice"?

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Carlo. In re "voice" I don't have a course Carlo, though as you know from watching my course I do talk about finding your power tone by speaking from the diaphragm. You know--pick up the end of a table and try to speak, :) I would recommend googling videos about finding your power tone, and I'm sure you'll discover in depth techniques and when you do--share them here with all of us. Please. :)

@tarawalsh-arpaia3928

Жыл бұрын

That is very well expressed. He is an excellent teacher.

When you come across people who are soft spoken, be mindful that they may be traumatized. This is how I've been around most people for most of my life. It was the result of severe childhood abuse. I am 43 years old and this is the first time I have found this type of advice that is tactical, not just words in black and white without any guidance on the body language and tone to accompany it.

Being gracious and saying "yes thank you" is so very Irish Mr. O' Connor 🤣🤣🤣, when l was a young l didn't drink tea, but for heavens sake if people visit Ireland, drink the tea, you are exactly right, you will be accepted as one of them if you say "yes". My granny would say "cupán tae?".... I hated tea, but in every house it's gracious and respectful, so you drank the tea. That is applicable for everything in life. People treat you better if you are gracious and open, not negative. Loved this episode.

Wow!!! I did not realize that by saying no is a rejecting act, thinking not creating problem or trouble to other. Taking note!!! Thanks Dan. You are master!!!

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, Van Tra.

I love the look on Dans face when he talks about his brother

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Oh you mean Marty the SCENE STEALER? My 10-month older brother who is ALWAYS STEALING MY THUNDER? THAT BROTHER????

@andreaviola8675

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords Hahaha We are so friends in my head Dan.

@oljatiffani9139

3 жыл бұрын

@@miranda951 me too!

@andreaviola8675

3 жыл бұрын

@@miranda951 I know right!!! You just know he is the absolute BEST to have cocktails and dinner with!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Well, OK to all of you, but YOU ALL HAVE TO PAY for those cocktails. In THAT CASE--let's go!

A lady rescued me from the surf at Laguna Beach. I was so grateful I didn’t know what to do. I had an unopened bag of treats I’d brought from Hawaii ( they are very big on the offering and, the receiving) The woman refused to accept the treats as my way of thanking her. And as you said Dan, it really affects the social flow. In my mind, I would have accepted the treats and if I didn’t want them, I would have tossed them. I flipped from feeling immensely grateful to a bit sad and rejected. With this story, I never recall the rescue, without equally remembering the refusal of the treats.

Brilliant content! Your personality is very witty, savy and inviting! I am always left with a big warm smile and an uplifted spirit after every video!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Olympia, thanks for telling me that. If I have made you smile and uplifted your spirit--I'm uber-pleased.

I love ur brothers dancing videos but ur my fav!!! I got 2 weeks to polish up my communication skills before we have to go back and physically work in the office !!!! Yikes love these videos and the skills are priceless

@scotscub76

Жыл бұрын

I need a link to his brother's video! His dancing is so sexy. 🥰

I do struggle with social interactions because I am shy. I have often been asked to speak up when I talk to others. This video is incredibly helpful.

@TheWizardOfWords

23 күн бұрын

Happy to help, Artst2010.

Hi! I just found you about a week ago so I’ve been catching up on all your wonderful videos. Today was a special one because I was feeling sort of down. I’m a small woman but evidently I have a contagious loud laugh. I was at a restaurant with friends yesterday and we had a great time and I was laughing a lot which is good because I had open heart surgery four weeks ago. It was my first time out of the house. When we got back in the car, because we all drove together, one of the women said did you see how that other table was looking at us because you laughed so loud? I haven’t listened to enough of your videos to know how I should have replied. But, today I was thinking about what she said and felt badly. This video made me think I didn’t do anything wrong, because honestly, I don’t know any other way to laugh. So thank you very much.♥️

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

I'd forget about your friend's comment, and continue to laugh as often and as loudly as you wish. You just survived open heart surgery, so you will probably always keep it in perspective :) :)

@susanwoodcarver

Жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you for taking the time to respond. I so enjoy your videos and your open heart.♥️

I was always told that visitors shouldn't put things on people's desks because it's a disrespect of their space. their space.

Thank you again for the amazing lessons

Fantastic information! Thank you.

Thank you so much for these videos they are super helpful!

Great as always Daniel 👍

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Well thank you Jorge. I think I may know you. :)

I just love you!! Thanks for all you do!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Shanell; please like and share

I JUST stumbled upon you this morning, and I think you're awesome already. Will be tuning in to your other videos because I believe you have a lot to teach me that I need to hear at this point in my life. Thanks!!!!

Your training is amazing and entertaining!

Very helpful. God bless you!👌 ❤

You’re so fun to learn from, Dan! You make it so friendly and funny. Thank you.

Your videos really do help 😂 proud subscriber here !!

Wow. ❤️ I really needed to hear this right now. 👏🏻

I always speak loud but that’s the way I have always spoken. My husband thinks I speak to loud. I am so glad to hear you say this! I love your videos. I taught my grandson to speak and he speaks loud and people are so attracted to him because of his openness. I taught me daughter the same thing. She is a leader and a very confident young woman. Thank you again.

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Reba.

So awesome!!

You are, really very good at what you do and your self confidence makes you glow.

Love your content!!

Loved this video! Thank you Dan!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it Sweetlimitless :)

Dan, you are amazing and oh so funny. I love your sense of humour and grateful for your gift, that you share so freely.

Love this video!💜

You are so bad ass! Thank you so much for breaking this down. Thank you for saying its good to be loud and proud.

Golden! Thank you Dan, such great explicit directions. Gypsy

Thank you for the empowering lessons in effective communication,Dan.I came across your videos at the right moment. 👌

Love all your videos.I am vegan and I have to turn down all food but fruit and veggie bowls.Yes,I belong here.😊

I love your work - such an interesting perspective and straight forward delivery. I'm just getting started!!

I was in he'll at work today and angry! BUT YOU made me laugh! Now I'm in a good mood and ready to carry on. That how great you are!

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Well thank you, Dawn :)

Loving words rule! Ty DC 🙂

I am the 'first candidate' who really want to be the 'second candidate'. I seriously feel awkward when in a group and I always behave as if I am from some other planet when people approach me. :( I really want to change myself into a better version.

such valuable information! thank you

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I learned so much from this! Thank you for all your wonderful advice. ❤

Thank you! I learned some things from you today that I never thought about. Accepting what is offered and taking up space has been a challenge for me, the way you framed it here really clicked for me. I naturally have a voice that carries, and I can speak to group without a mic with no problem. I was recently asked to officiate at a wedding and when the microphone didn’t work the wedding planner was worried but I said, “It’s fine, I’ve got this,” and projected to the back of the room! LOL my reason for commenting is to tell you this, all my life I’ve been called too loud, motor mouth, been told to keep it down by the same people who wondered why I seemed to lack confidence. When you said it’s ok to be loud and be heard, and that it’s preferred, I just felt so validated, so thank you! I’m going to work on your other things you suggested this week, taking up space in my own life. How can we get what we want in life if we say no more often than yes with our voice and actions? You rock!

@TheWizardOfWords

11 ай бұрын

Many thanks for your story, Mickie :)

Loudly is proudly. Ty

so glad i found your channel! you are teaching invaluable skills!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Jenna. Please like and share whatever you find of value.

Wow I have done this for years and I was really comfortable, I have always done well in my career with being confident but I always end up with some type of hater or bully calling me loud , acting like they can’t understand me, and trying to minimize my intelligence, or trying to talk down to me I actually recently started thinking I need to work on becoming the first candidate. Are you going to have new classes soon I definitely need to learn how to maintain my confidence when people are trying to tear it down

Dan! I am so grateful for this life changing advices, I am introvert and it was it easy to deal with most people especially the part of Mark your territory how brilliant is it advice, I used to do it recently to let people know and also giving people the benefit and then what you want you say huge thank you Dan!

Thank you, Dan!!! So valuable and affirming and applicable! I cheered when you described your feelings about quiet talkers!!! Countless times a week I have to ask my coworkers to repeat themselves and exhort them to communicate at an audible volume. Clear communication is crucial, unavoidable, paramount in all things but in our space it is absolutely essential!! Thanks for coaching us in how to communicate more kindly and wisely.

You are the man Dan. Great video.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that, Rickie! Thank you. I hope you find it useful in your new endeavor :)

@aikidoRick

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheWizardOfWords I will. I reference your videos all the time with my Aikido friends. I told my neighbor just today to subscribe to your channel, because your strategies work to bring about a better communication environment. Thanks Again!

Great ideas and info Dan. Many thanks for posting this video.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and please share these videos, Amira.

Don a can't stop watching your videos. Thank you so much. 💓

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for letting me know, Robert, and I hope you share these. You've seen the trailers. Now if you ever want to watch the movies--go to my website danoconnortraining.com. and check out the courses :)

Fabulous content Mr. O’ Connor!! 🎉

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Many thanks.

I am learning so much from you. In all my years, I finally understand why my actions are not cool nor accepted! I thought I was being kind and gracious! Nope! I had no idea! I am so thankful to you for pointing all of this stuff out!! Thank you!!!!! :)

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, Faith.

I was just speaking to a friend about ‘not gaslighting others’ I really appreciate your KZread Channel! Thank you,👍🏼 Keep them coming🤗

Got side tracked buying a house for a few months, glad to be back getting alerts for these awesome vids!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You know every1readthis--It is possible to negotiate a house purchase, actually buy the house, move into the house, cook your first meal in the house, have your first good night's sleep in the house AND CONTINUE WATCHING MY VIDEOS.

Thank you 😊

Great content Dan! Thank you!!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Antoinette. Please like and share. :)

I love your videos and this is especially important to me. I learned a lot from it. Thank you so much Dan and I also love your sense of humor it’s wonderful.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I appreciate you taking the time to write and tell me that, Jan! I look forward to hearing more from you! Thank you for your support!🌹 Dan

The first tip about accepting stuff is really informative 💯

@TheWizardOfWords

6 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

The content u offer is astoundingly helpful!! I feel so grateful to have discovered u. Thank u so much.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Persephone.

Always useful, thanks👌❤️

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Gena.

There you are!! The breath of fresh air I needed this morning! Thank you for another valuable video, Dan.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Well thank you Smoky Happy to bring that fresh air to you. Keep watching because there is more to come.

Dan, you're a genius, I can't tell you how glad and grateful I am for finding your channel. I've looked at many other similar channels but this is by far the best one. I will share your channel for sure.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Many many thanks Campervan!

I got a lot out of this. Thank you

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Vanessa. I hope you liked and shared.

Great advice ! Thank you , just found your Channel and I have learned so much and enjoy your personality 💕💕🙏🏽💕💕💕💕💕

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Welcome!!

Thank you sooooo much... For years, I’ve been self conscious about communicating. You are truly a master at this.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Very happy to help, Nicole!

Your videos are very interesting and engaging. Thank you so much for the helpful information! ❤️

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Megan.

Youare a great teacher and you seem very kind and generous as well. May God continue to bless you and enlarge your territory. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Dave. And may God bless you as well. Dan

You are amazing! Your brother has nothing on you! I love your videos!!! 😊

👏🙏💝Dan you’re a gift! Invaluable & now I don’t have to worry about always being too loud✊

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Right :) :) :)

This video may have changed the way I communicate. Thank you! 🙌🏻

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Mike. I hope I've made a positive difference. :)

Make yourself belong to the place, graciously accept your place and the things offered to you. These insights change my perspective and make my life a lot easier easier at work. Dan THANKS THANKS so much from the bottom of my life. 💃💃💃

Thank you!!

I love this!

Thank you Dan!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Kathleen!

Just found your channel yesterday, watched a few - So far, easy to follow, entertaining and VERY helpful. Looking forward to viewing more! Thanks! One question though, why not post your brothers link?

Another great vídeo!! So many times, I "was" the first candidate on social interactions. Thank you so much for your wisdom, Mr. Dan O'Connor!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Rita, and please like and share this video!

I love your teaching. For the visual part, I find walking into a room slowly enhance confidence. A lot of us walk fast when we are nervous. Imagine everyone is scrambling entering the conference room for a meeting and there you are walking in slowly and scanning the room while doing it. There is a comedian that I love and he does exactly that. He walks on stage slowly and once he gets to the mic, he delivers his joke in precision. Love what you are teaching Dan I’m a fan.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Monk n' Cook--I've mentioned that in other videos and totally agree with you. This was a recommendation I gave to women who wanted to be treated more seriously, but it equally applies to men.

@1rocknroy

3 жыл бұрын

Two kinds of people: Poor people walk fast. Rich people walk slow. What's the hurry.

I love your videos! Everything offered is so very helpful to me. Plus, I share your info to others, because I think you are fabulous!

@TheWizardOfWords

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for the encouragement and for the shares, Kathy.

This video with your brother dancing 🕺 bright my day! ☀️☀️☀️

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, he just put out a new FB video of himself dancing around in the workout room he just built in his basement. He thinks he's SOOOOOO cool.

Loving this video! Sharing it too!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the comment and the share, dRuth. Dan

Hmm I do turn down something often. I’ll note your advice. Definitely not my intention. Thank you for the insightful tips as usual.

I have resolved myself to speak loudly, after being somewhat quiet and coming off as timid, which I am not. Now, my colleagues are telling me that I'm speaking too loudly when we're conversing about topics that should remain outside of the "office". Thanks for the great content, Dan. I cannot absorb your superb and insightful information quick enough.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Well you can't please 'em all, TrueHero, so please yourself! Thank you for the compliment, and please share these videos liberally :)

These videos are always so well done Dan, I find I can put them in action right away. Your content has helped tremendously!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Susan G. Please like and share. More of these are coming soon. :)

Dan, you are simply awesome! Wish you were in Australia 🇦🇺 you are inspirational, thank you.

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks to the internet, I am Laureen and am happy to be here (there) :)

I learn something new with each video. It'll come in handy for entering a new work environment.

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Great to hear!

Just stumbled across your videos. Im so excited about the content and the Tools you give to better communicate with others under any circumstances. Thank you for sharing this vital information. ❤

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome aboard, Diana.

I've recently discovered this channel. I'm learning a lot from you and totally enjoy that you emphasise communicating in a loving way, in a world full of contempt and passive aggressiveness.🔥💪

@tarawalsh-arpaia3928

Жыл бұрын

So true and well expressed!

You are my hero. I love your videos

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Well thank you Maricela. I hope you share them!

Gee. Now I know why I get annoyed with my neighbour. She comes over. She wont sit down. She paces. And NEVER accepts anything. I just want to say to her 'SIT THE F*CK DOWN AND HAVE A PIECE OF CAKE'...Im going to ways accept offers now. Great video Dan. I really love your videos. Greetings from Downunder x

It’s great 👍

Your brother's dancing cracks me up!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, me too :)

Love this ☝️ one Dan!

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Many thanks Zanny. BTW, we might be related. My name is Danny Bananny.

You are awesome!

@TheWizardOfWords

2 жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Anne.

Love ❤️ it very informative

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful, ourlives.

Marty! Omg, Dan...! This intro is too much, had me laughing hard. Your content is exceptional, I am sharing with friends and colleagues (expect a stand off at a Board meeting soon...). Thank you for improving my life as a freelancer dealing with obtuse stakeholders often.

@TheWizardOfWords

11 ай бұрын

Happy to help, 1998!

Thanks so much Dan, you’re the loving awesome uncle I never had lol. ❤❤

@TheWizardOfWords

Жыл бұрын

Couldn't you have said "brother"????? 😏

Hello Dan, I have been sitting on the edge of my chair while looking at you and listening very closely. You gave enlightening , amazing answers to questions I have not even considered to ask. I am so glad that I found a true gem in your channel. Thank you very much. Your charisma is infinite. You are just golden. Greetings from Germany.

@TheWizardOfWords

3 жыл бұрын

Many many thanks Riku, and greetings from both Ajijic Mx and Fargo, North Dakota!