Its so awesome to see that u guys r still friends after all these years and the paralells with your lives (younger spouse, Canadian ex-pats, first born kids are daughters). I wish you both continued success! ☺️

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

So many now that you point even more out!

Advice: SURRENDER YOUR EXPECTATIONS! As long as baby is healthy you're doing great!

@salagrama-siladasi4872

2 жыл бұрын

YES!!!

@heyalexiajanee

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@lyndsey4453

2 жыл бұрын

Love this!

@nicolefisher4779

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! Amen!

Lol single, 30 y/o virgin who truly enjoys learning about relationships, marriage, birth, babies, and so much more that I have never experienced lol… I remember one of my friends was pregnant and I was in college looking at child birth videos 🤣. I love learning about life and seeing different people’s experiences… It was so good to see you guys together and chatting!!

I’m not a mom or even thinking about it but I needed to hear these truths.

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

Girl, you’re ahead of the game then! I had no idea what I was getting myself into.

@beryl6ful

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this so much!

@kimberlyhampton5332

2 жыл бұрын

same!!!

@meyou2236

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, I really enjoy hearing others' thoughts and feelings, so I can better understand and empathize with people.

@________1516

2 жыл бұрын

💜💜💜💜

This is a long one so get yourself a cup of tea and sit back! I did try to cut it down but I enjoyed the conversation and you can stop watching whenever. I also did a collab on Shan’s channel here: Pros & Cons to Having Kids Old Featuring @Shameless Maya kzread.info/dash/bejne/nGqGt7acecy5hKw.html And shout outs to all you mothers doing the damn thang. This is HARD and you’re still here standing and doing it! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@MusicIsMyAeroplane09

2 жыл бұрын

It's not long enough! Hah every minute and point y'all hit was interesting and important 🙏

@amarouge

2 жыл бұрын

These are the truths and true convos we need to hear more of. Thank you both! I'm in my late 30s, still unsure whether I want to bring a human into this world - learning and gaining these kind of insights are invaluable. Big love to you both x

Throughout my pregnancy I had every intention of having a natural birth without epidural and breastfeed. Nothing really went how I expected. I was induced I held out for 2 days and was like give me the epidural then breastfeeding was such a challenge. My baby had liver issues so I had to go on formula at the hospital which was heartbreaking for me because I wanted to breastfeed. I still tried but it was mentally draining and I decided that breastfeeding wasn't the hill that I was going to die on so I did formula. I still feel guilty about it but my baby is healthy, I'm healthy, we're healthy and happy. That is more important to me than breastfeeding.

I think it's better for singles, even if you're not thinking of having kids in the future, to have knowledge of these things, especially to be a better support system to our friends and family. Thanks for this Maya and Shannon. 🤗

@therealmellyb

2 жыл бұрын

yes this video let me know i was supporting my friend in the right way.

Y’all are shameless not aging. These videos came right on time. Being in my mid 30s I’ve contemplating having kids but I think this year was when the switch flipped on for me. Thank you for this perspective.

Single w no baby I think it’s so important to learn about this! I’m so shocked all of the time about how much I don’t know about what my body is capable of. These are the things we should learn in high school, not just about not having sex!

You know its crazy, we grew up seeing our mothers and other women around us do motherhood so effortlessly and without complaint, and we think wow motherhood must be easy but hearing this is really opens your eyes because people are actually talking about it in depth and we realise our mothers did struggle as well. And to know there are women who shame others for not being able to breast feed their child, its just disgusting. To each his own.

@kimberlyhampton5332

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

Necessary realness! I’m single with no kids and it’s so refreshing hearing women talk about stuff OTHER THAN rainbows and unicorns when it comes to birthing/raising children… Mad respect for women like you that walk in their truth.. Boss mothers with beautiful babies! 💃🏽🌟

"Ah clogged breast" 😳😲😭 whew chile... Never knew that was ah thing!

God sends us these babies to humble us 😅 they are such mirrors and force us to face ourselves and actually grow because we are hit with the reality that we aren't in control. It is a such a blessing to have learned how to practice surrender. Proud of every mom that allows herself to change instead of trying to force her babies to change 💪🏾 we are DOING this!

@relaxwithme__

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said 🥰

I am 41 and I found out I am 8 weeks pregnant. The caveat is that I do have a child in my younger days...she is now 18. I have a semi-unique experience of understanding being a young mom and an older mom. My husband and I surrendered that this would not happen after trying for 7 years. It suddenly happened when we totally started planning what empty nest would look like. There are pros and cons to both. I never imagined raising a child most of my adult life :). Many blessings to you. I think I am going to start a channel to document my experience of supporting an adult child while starting over. Best of luck to you!

Thanks so much for having these conversations. My mother and aunts often keep stuff like this a secret until you actually have a child lol.

Both of your backgrounds are so aesthetically y and the fact that you’re both wearing colors to compliment the background. Love that.

here as a single, non-mom and all of this was beautiful!

This video came just in time! I am 42 with a 2 year old that is more mature than me🤣🤣🤣 I’m working on a second baby. I did everything late, dated late, got married late, but I’m a go with the flow kinda person, I didn’t want children until I got married so it was like I’m scared but I’m not gonna let fear dictate my life so let’s do this! I listen to people’s input but I filter it because I instinctively know what my son needs and if. I don’t I know when to ask for help. I think learning to politely reject advice is important, I was barely able to breastfeed but my toddler is built like an olypmpian so he fine child!🤣I don’t have friends nearby to talk to so this video is really nice. Blessings to you ladies and your little bundles of energy and love. Enjoy the crazy ride!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

In my 3rd trimester and I am so very GRATEFUL to have this conversation. I absolutely agree that we should know more about pregnancy and parenting waaaaay before we get into it. Be in full awareness of what you’re expecting. Thank you both!!

I hate when people say that the information is not out there. I think it is more accurate to say, the interest isn’t there, but also… people are not always as honest as you have been through this journey because of the shame or triggers or trauma of living through these experiences. Hindsight is 20/20, and as old people would say: Nothing happens before it’s time. So we should all give ourselves the grace. 🤗

I remember that lost woman living her tiny New York apartment all those years ago. I’m so glad to see you grow and become the amazing momma I knew you would be! ❤️

Ryu’s probably thinking I was minding my business up in heaven and yall brought me down here without my consent 😂😂😂😂😂😂

My children are grown but when you were talking about clogged milk ducts….oooh girl I felt the pain regenerate. I was one who had to have surgery. I had so many clogged milk ducts. It left me lopsided for life. It does get easier however, there is always something that comes up when you have children. I did have another child after that. He could not breast feed and had stomach issues….but they are both healthy men now. So, stay positive. And even though you can’t see it right now…enjoy every minute.

I'm a 31 year old women, preparing myself for the future of someday having a child and found this extremely warming and helpful. Thank you ladies!

Insightful and honest conversation! I'm in my 30s with no children yet. The advise of learning BEFORE having kids is exactly what I'm doing now. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

Thank you so much for this. I have 2 extremely fussy 3 month olds (having multiples comes with it’s own unique set of challenges but that’s a story for another day) and I’m not going to front there are days that I just break down because it feels overwhelming. Their dad is supportive but it’s nice to hear from other moms.

I remember the slumber party and now y’all are sooo beautiful and mamas now!!! 💚✨

I used A LOT of breastfeeding ointment on my breasts, and I listened to music on earphones during feedings which was VERY helpful. Jay-Z became my best friend, due to one of his songs I played on repeat over and over while feeding. Blessings to you!

You guys give me life! I can totally relate to the whole “why do people do this more than once” feeling. It felt like literally nobody understood why I wasn’t enjoying the first month or so, apart from my sister who totally understood. And like Shan said, it 100% helps when you have a non judgmental UNDERSTANDING person who can empower and support you around. I’m now almost 3 months in and while I love taking care of my son and figuring things out myself, the support has dithered which I guess is inevitable since people have lives, but I envy you guys for the consistently supportive partners! But yes you guys are doing the Lord’s work coming on here and sharing the good and not so good days !!

I cannot explain how timely this video is for me! I'm sitting here currently pumping and you two both spoke on so much that I'm dealing with right now. It is so reassuring to know that I am not alone! Thank you both for doing this!

I needed this. I was feeling guilty with my frustrations and expectations. First time mom with 6 week old and I was/am going thru it. This video validated my feelings

When I was in labor I definitely had that “why do people have babies? Why would you want this pain?” My daughter cried all the time because she had gas. I had to eat bland food (no onions no bell peppers) for the first two months. She also would NEVER sleep in a bassinet. I feel you. Thank y’all for sharing. I think we all have our journey and it’s so important to find the pockets of joy

Thank you for this beautiful conversation. I'm a mother of a 16 and 12 year old and I longed for conversations like these when I gave birth to them. I felt alone and inept. This is healing to watch for 21 and 26 year old me. Love to y'all 🤎🤎

I’m so happy to hear these conversations!! They are so important! You’re doing amazing, Queen!!

This was so refreshing! Thank you for being open and honest.

“Surrender and give up are not the same thing” 🙌🏾🙌🏾

This was a beautiful conversation. I have been following both for several years and to see the evolution of these two wonderful women is a pleasure🌻

I can't wait to see all 3 of you (Maya, Shan, Makeba) do another one of these!!!!! So exciting where all of you are in life. Inspiring.

Love this so much. Both Shan & Maya are such awesome humans and to be able to experience you both as moms is truly beautiful. Blessings upon blessings for both of you & your families 💜♥️

I so wish this was side by side on the screen but I love all of this!

Currently in the trying to conceive process and this was an amazing video. Even the opening sentiments about the gifts and curses of Instagram as someone who is FAR from all friends and family. Really enjoyed this.

Thee collab I was waiting for

Currently breast feeding my 3 day old new born baby girl. Nipples are sore , titties are rock hard but we’re getting through it. I really appreciate this conversation.

@michellezevenaar

2 жыл бұрын

Have you made it through? Once you get through the first month or so it becomes alot easier.

@GreaterStrongerBetter

2 жыл бұрын

Great job momma, you’re doing a great job thus far❤️

I laughed I cried and I listened. This is probably the most transparent video I’ve watched ever!!!!

I loved watching this so much. My pregnancies and postpartum were so hard and I was not given the support that I needed, BUT both my children are now joyful, healthy and filled with peace & love It gets better!!!!! Sending love to all the mommies, YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!!!💖

I’ve been a looongggg time follower of both of you and you’ve consistently added value to my life. Now I’m suddenly 6 weeks pregnant and I feel so equipped with online mamas sharing their experiences like you, Shannon and Jenn, my community of friends who have multiple children I’ve watched grow and apply their knowledge. I’m a single parent and so nervous yet excited to go at this

❤️❤️❤️❤️such a beautiful chat. Maya I love that you're so honest about your experience, thank you for sharing.

I love you two ladies and this real conversation. Thank you for your openness ❤️

I love what Shan said about not putting her "energy at risk". I've been doing that for a while (hopefully not in a toxic way lol) but never had a way to describe it. Very well said!!

Super mamas!!! 🙏🏻💕

Thank you two ladies for making this video!

This is one of the best motherhood videos I’ve watched. 100. Thank you both. ❤️

I appreciate the both of you being so candid! There’s so much I had no ideaaaa about it.

You are both so amazing, and this is such an important conversation! It always annoyed me that people compared babies to other babies and made it some sort of development competition. It's just people's fear of disabilities coming into play, which I understand to an extent, but as someone who has two disabled siblings, they are awesome and they are killing it in ways neurotypical folks aren't.

This was dope. I have a few friends who are new mommies and daddies and this helped me have a better awareness and sympathy for their reality.

I’m in my second trimester. This conversation was so great to hear. Thanks so much!

Love that you guys have these open and honest conversations to give the real and make others to not feel ashamed for having some of the same feelings or experiences 💜

Oh when @shanboody said that about intentionality -- how she chose/chooses to spend her time. I REALLY felt that. But that doesn't just apply to motherhood. That one, applies to life in general. That's the life change that I started making at the end of this year. Choosing happiness intentionally. And letting go of everything that doesn't do that. #gold

I love that you are each other’s sounding board. Cheers to Jared for holding it down so that Shan could work and balance motherhood/working.

Oh my word. Great conversation. As a first time mom of a one month old this is sacred. I can relate.

I love you both so much!! you have helped me navigate life from being a teen to now a young adult! Hope to rewatch these videos when I get to these milestones in my life

Great video. Saga is adorable. I needed this video. I'm in my second trimestre and already going through some of the things you mentioned about singular experience and having a partner. And I really needed to watch this to reduce my expectations and know how to take things as they come, one step at a time. Bless you both. And congratulations.

The collaboration we have been waiting for !!!!!

love seeing you both on the screen! 💖

Thank for sharing! I loved both your and Shannon’s video.

wow i cant get passed the aesthetic- the colors and cozy feeling of your rooms ... congratulations motherhood is a blessing

I'm so glad you beautiful souls are bringing light to this topic, it's so important. I became a first time Mumma this year and holy heck, I was nodding the whole way through this video, so much delicious goddess was shared. Thank you both for sharing your stories, have a feeling you'll help a lot of Mummas out there. To add to the conversation, I recently uploaded a video about everything I've been through up to 9 months postpartum, it's been a lot to say the least. Sending you love and support from Australia xx

I tell my friends with demanding kids that they should be happy their kids is strong in who they are and knows what they want and demands it. My 'perfect' baby was so chill if you didnt offer her food she would just go without eating! I love yall TOGETHER! I fell in love with Shan through Maya. WOMEN bonds! This by far has to be the best video created for moms. It is a genuine real conversation with loads of real information without trying to scare anyone. I love how you both are different moms and can talk about it in an accepting way.

Bless you for having been blessed to be able to give birth and celebrate the various stages of your child's developmental gift offering in this world. We needn't take this for granted, but rather be all in it as present as we are able. Congratulations, queens. 🙏✨

Great conversation mommas! I would say that you both have provided great insight into the 4th trimester. Its true no one will tell you how hard it is but its also different for everyone to cope with. Not everyone will have support from other people or partners, but each mother will have to find her strength. I would say I was lucky because my mom and 4 sisters helped me sooo much (they had their own kids too which i also babysat when they were little) and not to mention my awesome husband who stepped in for me to cover my rough days (and vice versa). Favorite and agreed motherhood journey points: 1. surrendering to the process 2. there will be shifts in patterns at different stages 3. babies are resilient. 4. Do no compare developmental milestones. 5. Moms encouraging moms is the best dynamic ever. I had both my girls partially breastfed, gave them mostly formula, they were low birth weight and never met any of the standard medical milestones but you wouldn’t know that by looking at them now. My husband and I scoffed at the medical developmental chart being based on causian european medical standards but my children are 1/4 white and the rest is chinese/mexican indigenous indian/filipino soooo i couldn’t agree on those standards because they didn’t apply 100% for my kids. Each child is unique to themselves. We must let them be and support them to be the best human they can be :) 👏👏👏

I’m so taken back by this video... I just had my baby back in September (3 months now 😭) you guys are so positive and keep it so real about the good and bad to motherhood. The hardest part is after delivery. So many changes. So little time. So little sleep. Bahahah. Thank you guys for this talk. Felt so heard ♥️

I have a baby that also cries for everything and I’ve felt so overwhelmed. Watching you and Maya voice all of these things have helped me a lot throughout my fourth trimester and so forth. Thank you both 🙏🏼

Your motherhood videos are so good! Yes!!! I’ve had three kids after a short bout with infertility. I was soooo grateful for my first, but she cried so much. But after she was able to communicate with words, we saw she’s a sensitive soul, she’s more of an introvert, but she’s not difficult at all. With the other two, we went with the flow. It’s nice to talk to people about how we are doing. Overall it’s such a wonderful journey. My kids are teens/preteen now, I’m still learning and still figuring it out.

Wow! Jared is a great dad. I keep up with all of you guys. Watching the baby for that amount of time. Maya you're doing a great job.

My twins are 5 weeks old and I truly found this video not only validating but reassuring as a sleep deprived - doing her best - twin mom 🧘🏾‍♀️❤️

I really am enjoying this share. I'm a 53-year-old, mixed race African-American professional woman in New York City and my son is now a 17 year old high school senior. I can so relate to the struggles of you both as a new mother. I had a high risk pregnancy due to fibroids and had to stay home for the last 5 months of my pregnancy. I then had 29 hours of Labor because the fibroids were not permitting my uterus to contract properly. I then had a cesarean and recovery was also painful; but I just wanted to say all this to say that after all of that "life's reality of a mother's journey" your little one later runs to you.... they light up with joy when they see you.... they trust in you, they look in your eyes for reassurance and are comforted by your voice and presence.... and as you said, you may then, at some point think some thoughts of consideration...."hmm, maybe another one?" I didn't because dad's heart towards me was not one of respect and collaboration and love towards us for the long haul. God blessings to you both. This is just the start of a journey for you. Unimaginably one day you're beautiful little one is going to be a teenager that's going to challenge you and you're going to have to realize you're then in a new stage of parenting, starting all over with a different faze of your mothering. My advice is to prepare them the way you want them to pick up their kids. All the best to you both and Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you!🤭😘

Nice honest chat. Thank you. 🤗💕

These are real friends! You guys are great!

Thank you for sharing the other side of renting, giving birth, and all of the things a lot of mother don't want to speak about. Love the transparency in yo both🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏

Loved your comment towards the end regarding society! Absolutely Agree!!

High needs babies and highly sensitive children can be so exhausting especially as a new mom, but they are beautiful as they grow. As a single mom to a high need baby/toddler who grew into a highly sensitive child, it has made me grow as a mother and adapt as she required more from me than I was initially able to do for her. She’s so empathic and is extremely thoughtful and mature for her age, that it is worth the struggle and growth. Those early days were tough and it still is, but it’s more rewarding as they get older ❤️

Awesome dialog. You guys should make this a monthly podcast.

I needed this so bad. Im so worried a baby will be overwhelming. I want to wait until my mid 30s and my fiance doesn't. This really helps ease my mind (even though it sucks!) hearing other people having a hard time makes the experience not as bad sounding somehow. Thank you!

Love this! Learning so much from you all's journey

Ahhh I loved this. Thank you

These videos both are SO goooooood! Loved them.

Such a special video! 💖

Not even a mother yet but loved this content from you both. Extremely fascinating.

This was amazing on every level .

This is beyond helpful. My daughter is 2 weeks old and I'm going crazy. Thank you so much for this

I got married 2 years ago at 21. I’m NOWHERE near ready to be a mom yet, but I love mom content. I always felt strange watching it because I felt like everyone else who was watching was a mom, or someone who cares for a child. Maya, thank you for helping me realise that it’s okay and even beneficial to watch this content now. Maya and Shan, thank you both for sharing your experiences so candidly. I’ve been watching both of you for years and I’m very happy that you’re both doing well :)

I just want to make a suggestion for the babys' sleep. The lovely Norah Jones.... her first two albums are like lullabies and are beautiful. I gave those CDs to both my sister and sister in law when they brought children into the world. I would gently dance my little son to sleep in the dim light of his room to Nora's music. It was such a precious, precious time; and we would put our hand on his little chest when he was restless in the crib and it seemed to comfort him. It got to the point where the music represented rest and sleep for him and even if we were in a car with his grandparents driving to a destination, if they put on that CD the children ( my son and my sister-in-law son) would just drift off to sleep. Also my son began to recognize the songs, and would sing some of the lyrics with me when he was three and four years old. I also intended for the music to be a remembrance to him that he could use as an adult man to comfort himself in the midst of life's stress, to slow himself down after a hard day, and as a reminder of peaceful times in his life. Also we had a little swing that we would place our son in, and he would just sleep and sleep and sleep; we had to make sure we didn't use it for too long of periods because we didn't want him to sleep too long. Perhaps you can see whether a swing might be helpful to you.

Postpartum preeclampsia+ c-section+ limited support + supply issues+Lactose sensitivity. It was rough, it was rough 😩. Then I had another during mid 2020 and it was a way different experience. Im blessed my mom always shared her experiences so it wasn’t a total shock but it was tough.

Love these two, seen them over the years.... Brilliant

Love you both welcome back 😍😍❤️ Shan and maya two amazing mama bears 🐻

This was more than good. Too good!👏👏👏

I started following Shannon after seeing her on your channel. It’s awesome that y’all have remained friends and I loved listening in on this conversation. Y’all are like the older sisters I never had.

Wow I really enjoyed this video, I don’t have kids currently but I appreciate the real discussion about your experiences as new moms. I feel like people don’t always talk about this. also I’m in my 30s and want to have children one day so find it inspiring to hear your stories

I don’t have kids nor do I plan on having any but I enjoyed listening. I have friends who are moms and it’s nice knowing a little bit about what they go through.

Omggg I have a 4 week old and this is exactly how I currently feel. Thank you for this video ladies 💕