Remind me to do a video on this. Overcoming anger after narcissistic abuse. External and internal potency.

@TraumaPunksMamiMusic

29 күн бұрын

To overcome that anger it took me 3x the time the relationship itself lasted! Imagine this equasion with your mum or nan or dad or sis!... But I write this with a big smile nowadays and still working on properly loving myself and overcome self-love-deficit-disorder. Type 1 if you're with me, lol. ;) xoxo

@SherryG370

24 күн бұрын

I'm working on "the anger" I have from 2 narcs damage. I had to give my anger to God. My anger included...hiring hookers, drugging and robbing. Lol true story. Sooo im learning how to cope.❤😮😊

@RoseMary-gl4ee

23 күн бұрын

@@TraumaPunksMamiMusic 1

@bewarefalsenonprofits

19 күн бұрын

The upside of anger is it gives you the energy to change. ⤴️

@maureenbanks3702

12 күн бұрын

Anger prompts change. When the pain exceeds the payoff, we take action.

You stop attracting Narcs when you no longer need to be validated by others

@jams9705

Ай бұрын

Self Love = the loss of codependency

@keiheaherakiwi1611

Ай бұрын

So right once I stopped that, I found independence and began attracting a more respectful man, whom I’ve married, God is good thank you universe

@MrAlexH1991

Ай бұрын

The ironic thing about this comment is that the reason narcs are the way that they are is because they need constant validation.

@EmberAsh

Ай бұрын

​@@MrAlexH1991Well, you'll just have to take this like as I'm giving it regardless. 😊

@techjunkie68smusicandtech56

Ай бұрын

Exactly!

The narcissist detests self confidence in another

@Positively46

Ай бұрын

100%

@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg

26 күн бұрын

They detest laughter joy and happiness too - any positive emotions has to be snuffed out.

@user-co5yp2jr8n

24 күн бұрын

They are sad weak children in adult body.

Being with a narcissist is def being with sheer evil. Anyone that purposely hurts you is EVIL. Simple as that

@palapalak.8907

Ай бұрын

Fact!

@sadboi7537

Ай бұрын

100%. It’s deviously deranged behavior. I experienced it first hand and am still working through the trauma from it.

@Lizziethistle66

Ай бұрын

I absolutely agree! After 38 yrs, my paramedic ex knows my chronic asthma, eczema, spinal injuries due to years of gymnastics and karate etc and before I got the police to him, woke me up and told me I'd done it now. I was going to come to a sad end and he'd make sure. Put off of the property, he has his new woman, health to work (I became too ill to work so he left me) and he won't help me pack all of the stuff in the house, knows I can't lift a coffee cup with left side, can't move scaffold or timber. My 2 yr divorce is up 2.8.24 and then he's taken so long to answer lawyers and ignore me that the judge can now put me out. Hes been an adulterer, controlled my teachers wages, holidayed eith other women the whole marriage. Ive lost everything and I'm attending the psych hospital for counselling. A rotten vile person. I'm glad I've lost him but he's bad! Damaged from childhood. He's like a child throwing the Teddy out and everything Richard has said -and he doesn't even know me- is true....they get much worse toward you when they end it with you. You're right. It's not normal fir someone to want to be so cruel.

@hettykoster9447

29 күн бұрын

So true !! Evil in action !

@123sanoon

24 күн бұрын

And enjoy it especially those who are the opposite of it 😢

They falsely accuse you, and then punish you.

@dawnsites4232

28 күн бұрын

Yes, my son is going through this right now. It is the first time he has experienced evil and he is still in fright or flight mode for a few weeks. We realized she had planned these false accusations for a long while with the assistance of her family. The only thing he is guilty of is being too nice of a guy. We tried to warn him because we could see her Jezebel spirit from the beginning. She could care less about the harm she is causing anyone, especially their children. Hopefully, good will overcome evil and the courts will realize the truth. Please pray for him and their young children.

@MM-kt4is

21 күн бұрын

​@@dawnsites4232🙏 May your son see the light and escape from the clutches of this evil woman.

@user-jl1gl1db8c

20 күн бұрын

When my mother got Alzheimer's, my brother proceeded to slander my good name & hard won respect amongst my uncles, aunts & cousins (derived from my "misspent youth" told local police I was crazy, ( in a small town where I live & work) he had been sullying my name by telling b.s. lies thru my mothers latter years as well as general disrespect, denial of FACTS & outrageous reversals of TRUTH'S( in front of my only son.)..he laid this " bedrock of bullshit" as the foundation for his ultimate sister/brother betrayal ...so that when he & his c___ wife(a family law lawyer) suddenly replaced my mom's actual will & wishes w/ a fabricated one that...(Shocker!)..cut me off entirely...effectively embezzling her entire estate..he won't even give me some of the family photos or my personal property that he was storing for me...he lives in a LG. Beautiful home worth millions in the redwoods, near the beach ,& he & wife drive matching lux sports cars & regularily Do spendy vaycays in Hawaii... Meanwhile after losing many friends,fam. Fiance's, my dogs & my home I now live in a dust bowl on BLM Land in the desert w/ no elect./h20)a/c or enuff food or $ for gas,dmv fees, ins. While my stuffs rots in storage in contrast I had his back,dealt w/ his flaky girlfriends, lawyers, our mom & dad,, his customers, partners, roommates etc... & basically put my life & budding career on hold so I could do his bidding fly to his side for hearings out of state& many other tasks...I was the ONLY one who was there for him 24/7 while he spent 7&1/2 years in 3 prisons in 2 countries when he got out he said i was the only one in the world that he trusted..&that i was the only one who paid him back ...& That he'd always, in turn, have MY back always...(He failed to mention he'd have a dagger in it!)...🔪🪱😠🔪🔪🔪

They ruin family relationships. I can't begin to say how destructive they are, It's devastating.

It definitely triggered a mothering instinct in me which made it much more difficult to leave

@jackiepowell7513

21 күн бұрын

Having no kids, the nurturing nature is a detriment. I channel to working in helping field.

@ladyvirgo9514

15 күн бұрын

Me too but I've been free for almost a year

4:30 There is no choice. Evil is evil. It is right to leave. It is my duty. THANK YOU 😢

@rozalina531

Ай бұрын

Amen 💕 🙏🏻 💕

I hope someone reads this. Your entire LIFE will (not may) be destroyed if you enter into, and remain, in any relationship with a Narcissist. When my ex-narc’s mask fell off on New Year’s Eve, my life totally changed and the abuse intensified 100 fold. I made the tragic mistake of taking him back after a tearful apology. It got worse. He strangled me and almost killed me. 4 weeks later he trashed my house after I told him the relationship was over. He refused to leave my house so I called the cops to take him out. I haven’t seen or heard from him since. I blocked him all around and cut off all possible lines of communication. It has taken me MONTHS to heal, and I was almost in financial ruin bc of him. Take head, the narc’s primary goal is to destroy you. Stay strong and don’t let them win this spiritual warfare. Thank god I was strong enough to rescue myself and get out of this massively toxic and dangerous situation.

@Lizziethistle66

28 күн бұрын

Thank you so much fir posting this. I am not happy you've gone through what you have but it's good to know that our experiences...from miles apart from each other, are very similar

@lggig534

24 күн бұрын

What a horrible lesson to learn. Heartbreaking 💔!!! It took me a threat of my life too, and I, and my kids ran for our lives at the end.

@cathleenburton-noble418

22 күн бұрын

Eventually my soon to-be-ex husband tried to shove me from a moving car, because I wouldn't put his name on my home. GET OUT!

@BNyaB

20 күн бұрын

😳😳😳​@@cathleenburton-noble418

@SherryG370

15 күн бұрын

Im with ya girl....I almost lost my life. Hands around my throat, looking me in the eyes...saying, "you're going to die today bitch".

If you found this guy today and you are binge watching his work thumbs up this comment 😢😮🎉🎉🎉🎉

@Lion-rf8xi

26 күн бұрын

It's too much to try and figure out makes my head hurt to try and think like they do.

Thank you Richard, I completely agree with all that. How couldn't I see that it began with " he must be my soulmade, such a gift from God " and it ended in becoming a hobby psychologist in personality disorders and trauma release

@CH-in8dm

Ай бұрын

Perfectly said 👏

@yvonnebertrand3731

Ай бұрын

I did the exact same thing.

@claudiasbarra1044

Ай бұрын

@@yvonnebertrand3731 like Richard said:" they want us to feel like if they were our soulmade .It's part of the abuse .They made us drunk with fake love ,they hypnotised us. Without believing that....they have no chance to devalue abd torture us later. This is pure evil. I wish you much courage and real love. I wish you that you can feel you worth they stole from you. You deserve so much better. 💞💙❤️

@yvonnebertrand3731

Ай бұрын

@@claudiasbarra1044 it's been 4 years this month since he left. I still watch Richard to learn and heal.

@claudiasbarra1044

Ай бұрын

​@@yvonnebertrand3731 you are doing good. Richard has really a lot of very helpful and good courses....and his coaches are super. I found him and his courses after I made a terrible decision looking desperately for help and chose a german specialist coach for victims of narcisstic abuse and she was a narcissist too. I was so traumabonded to her. Then I have lost my trust again. But I had to heal ,so I found Richard and his course "breaking the Traumabond" really saved my life....with the cptsd course (how to manage flashbacks )I began with this 2 courses. I wish you so much good in your life and the courage, the consistency, the intent to love yourself enough to heal yourself. You are worthy.

Don’t know how I’ve made it to 70 with 50+ years having been married to a Narcissist. Living is hard. But have refound the truth💖

@1001Stars

Ай бұрын

congratulations🎉 You have come so far! I am also grateful to have realized the truth about my marriage to a narsasist

@christinedriscoll6425

29 күн бұрын

I am 67. I'm literally going crazy trying to stay No Contact from my ex. I don't know how I'm going to cope with this. Are you still with your narcissist?

@user-hk3hm8om3m

28 күн бұрын

@@christinedriscoll6425 no. I left him a year ago. I can’t go no contact. We have children and grandchildren together. Or finances are so in twined and we own multiple properties together that we need to keep repaired until they can be sold. I also have great health insurance and am getting one paycheck of his per month. We go back and forth on divorce but I’d like to hold off until he retires because of benefits. He’s had a woman for two years. I just hate trying to deal with him and around her. It will be over someday. Try to Yellow rock him Pleasant but no more information about my life than possible

@1001Stars

28 күн бұрын

@christinedriscoll6425 We were separated for several years but I wanted to see my kids again and accepted his promise that we would see a therapist.. but it was a lie and he is even more abusive than before when I left him If you are separated, you don't know how lucky you are. The struggles of being alone are are a blessing compared to living with the narc. Just remember to love yourself and do all the things that make you happy every day. Spend time outdoors every day also listen to the music that makes you happy. Sending you loving hugs

@1001Stars

28 күн бұрын

@christinedriscoll6425 1 more important thing.. if the narcissist is harassing you, tell them that you have had enough and email you only. I had to do that because he would call me every day and yell at me. It was the most beautiful thing to ignore all calls and finally have some peace

I outright refuse to accept their disagreeable ways & will always completely ignore them...

@gigiarmany4332

Ай бұрын

Amen

Amen..."you can know evil by its effects." ❤

I could literally listen to this man speak all day. He has the most calming voice on the planet.

@juliechurley2716

Күн бұрын

Yes! He manages to soothe you while telling the brutal truth

A good description from Richard to wake us up: "What was the point of having your liver picked out by a hawk forever?" Exactly!! Thank you for today, found it really helpful.

Richard, listen, “they will be known by their fruits.” You’ve been teaching us for a long simultaneously while “healing” your trauma along with us. The gem is “mental clarity” over time. This video is YOUR FRUIT! Your fruit from your hard work daily is by your, all your actions on self-love, taking care to put your attention on YOU. Richard, you’re like a whole ORCHARD OF FRUIT! That’s good video content: our own fruit of mental clarity!! ikr, that’s what we all lost and can now regain !! You did,…brilliantly and we can too!!❤

Dream the way out.. it takes steel and it takes grit. ~RVG 🥳

It's been a hell on earth. My God how can one human being do this to another human being. Evil 😈 beyond another level. This man has broken 💔 me. Thank you for this video today 💜 u may have saved my life . Bless you.

The narcissist doesn't have the natural gift of caring and sharing. Everyone is a potential threat and they defend themselves to the bitter end.

@mtsb557

27 күн бұрын

You need not care and share to be a worthy human being. Not hurting others out of selfish reasons or carelessness is enough. ❤

5:25 me sitting here waiting for him to change and pleading for him to change hasn't worked nor will it. That is enough.

Yesterday is but today's memory, and tomorrow is today's dream. ~K. Gibran

I have been around this type of evil most of my life. Family members, in my workplace. I think not knowing what it was in my family, I just accepted it as a normalcy. It never felt good but I just accepted that there's something wrong with me as for the reason that I was the "one" their darts were aimed at. In the workplace , I am a NPD magnet it seems. It's draining mentally, having people attack you for no reason. All you're doing is being kind and respectful..What you get in return is ridicule, humiliation,and horrible smear campaigns that make you feel hopeless because you can't defend yourself. People who enjoy inflicting pain on others who has done absolutely nothing wrong to deserve the treatment are pure evil. They set out to destroy your very soul.

@pandorasullivan777

15 күн бұрын

Yes, this sounds like my life. My sibling first, then my ex, then my place of work, now my family members ex. They have all stolen great amounts of money, slandered, taken my home, my job, you name it, they are evil to the core. May God Bless you each day to overcome these people. The Bible says ‘we tread on scorpions’. 💪🤺⚔️ Their end is coming.

I witnessed pure evil in the narcissist I was dealing with I even said something about him being human and he immediately let me know that he was not human he said he came from the sun, he was perfectly serious. Being a empath I felt there was no love and no compassion in this person, I also had a vision of flames. I was truly dealing with a demon.

@robynmarler1951

29 күн бұрын

Wow.

@FleurBatten

28 күн бұрын

Yes I experienced same he believed he was from the arinaki.. had a higher calling and can manifest his children to earth .. even voice would change demonic when raging

@lillyrose2514

27 күн бұрын

​@@FleurBattenyes, the voice change is frightening

The most evil person I have met , had me over a barrel but when all said and done best thing that happened to me cause I’ll never tolerate abuse like that again and I needed to learn the hard way as I had attracted toxic people all my life and now at 50 I’m free from them all , nobody should put up with this Abuse

“Just a guy in socks who hasn’t grown up , who is pretty selfish, and a dick”😂💯🤣. 29:40 Spot on hilarious, and TRUE, Richard Grannon.

I think the best part of releasing the narcissistic abuse is that I get to control what I eat. He used to push sugar on me and it hurt my health. He would tell me that he would change me for a Chinese girl and would obsess with black women.

The worst part is that they mess with your head and you end up being so defeated that you can't see a way out because you can't think logically. You are also so disempowered and guilt ridden and your confidence has been eroded so much that you simply don't think that you will be able to leave. 10 years in narc marriage and 15 years in mega toxic workplace with narcs. Eventually escaped from both but it took YEARS to find the courage to leave and even longer to get to a place of healing where I can start seeing the sunshine again.

I heard a profound interview with Sinead O'Connor who described "anger is like a fist full of tears". So beautiful and true, 'Anger is an energy' is something to remember as a means of directing the energy constructively.

After 6 months of leaving narc, saw him today for first time since. I just walked past, head held high. He looked totally different. Hair lot longer, a beard, scruffy. So different. Oh well. I loved him good. Strange that i just started feeling quite well, and then there narc was, in my town when he had moved 3 miles away! Love to all survivors here♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@chocolatecookie8571

Ай бұрын

He didn´t wanted to be recognized, but he failed 🤣

I would say, due to my admittedly low self-worth, that I always felt my partner had this 'evil', but I was a bit blinded to it when it came to myself. It wasn't until I witnessed how he treated others that I fully understood it.. aggressive (scary) road rage, throwing tantrums in the supermarket (so loud that people would stare.. it was mortifying).. throwing years-long friends away over something little.. telling me he made his own mother cry because "she cooked my hamburger wrong." If you can't first-hand accept the 'evil' of these people... pay attention to how they treat others.

I been a Christian for over 10 years now, i know my worth and values. I know if someone is in the spirit or not.

You are the most sound and clear voice on the topic of NPD recovery. Thank you so much

Had a breakdown over isolation and gaslighting. The utter loneliness of being alone with him; the emotional / mental abuse almost destroyed me. Finally- I can leave in 178 days. Counting down the days. The prospect of a healthy escape- not the self destructive escape I’ve lived for too long- keeps me somewhat sane. I did stupid things to emotionally survive. I thought if I made myself stupider -literally-by doing things I won’t say, I could endure. Lost my identity. Became a ghost to myself. Invisible. 😢 I’m not special. There is nothing but pain NOTHING BUT PAIN in a toxic relationship. Thank you Richard. You have been my only friend in the darkest of days these past few years. I have taken your courses and found my feet to stand up on -and walk away. 178 days. I hope to see everyone on the road to freedom.

@nadegenazaire4356

5 күн бұрын

How many have you trapped and enslaved abroad before seeing them on the freedom road ? Let me guess. Can't be the same profile as those that were only poor on surface. Have to be the real ones.

I have free floating anxiety with a Sociopath... yes, he wants me to experience suffering constantly. He's told me this, and that he's going to exact revenge' because I asked one question about finances. The sentence contained about 15 delicately and much thought over words, expressed in a humbled manner. I had to ask the question as it affected my disabled daughters future security. 😢

@tinafitzpatrick2437

Ай бұрын

Your daughter will never have a future security with a narcissist. Yes you will be punished if you ask any questions about finances or anything else. They want to control everything. Don’t ever believe he is thinking about your daughters future financial security. Narcissist only think of them selfs

I’m aware of my attachment to my narcissist. I envy how comfortable he is in his own skin, meanwhile in my childhood I was entirely dissociated because of pain/trauma. I am starved of my need to be seen and upheld This shhh*** hurts, I’ll get out

Thank you, Richard! Here’s to walking over the hot coals, even when we don’t want to.

@chocolatecookie8571

Ай бұрын

Perfectly said.

It's all good but the last 15 minutes or so is golden content. One must save one's self. Thank you, Richard

Hey Richard, I really appreciate your video coaching and especially how you connect and have Sam Vaknin on some of your videos. You and he have helped me become healthier and free and much more me and individuated. Thanks Mate!

its coming up to 8years of living on the outside. its dawning on me that i will be solo for the rest of my life. Im planning a hermit future Friends are saying one day you will meet someone etc, ive told them im actively knocking back dates lol. they don't understand and never will.

@Zalathor

Ай бұрын

I completely understand you, I am also intentionally not interested.

@lyndkent-cl2oe

Ай бұрын

Exactly same position & length of time...The realisation of years of this abuse has caused such distrust!....Wish you well...x

@Andrea-HeIsKing

Ай бұрын

5 years for me. Not interested at all. It's even worse now IMHO.

@aussiehillbilly

Ай бұрын

@@Andrea-HeIsKing i didnt think tinder or bumble could get worse. IT GOT WORSE

@CAGIOBOOKKEEPING

Ай бұрын

I feel the same. I have zero interest in dating anyone. Going into my second year, just the thought of sharing my space is a loud negative. Opening to someone new, I feel like I might be jaded. Questioning everything. I still don't trust myself.

Richard U r amazing!!!..full package strong intelligent good-looking ... And much more too ... congratulations 🎉

Having a narcissistic mother who is a monster and going no contact I was left with an anxiety disorder . I now maintain healthy boundaries . And my motto is if someone makes you feel bad stay away from them period .recognising the red flags early on is important and get to know people really well in all situations will help you . Put yourself first .

Dude you are freaking amazing on this topic. You and romani have helped me more than anyone

Yesss the thing about not using moral relativism because then the narc can justify anything!! I needed to hear this!! 🙏🏽

Thank you Richard for posting this even thought you are very busy with so much outreach to help others, may God Almighty and all the goodness in the universe bless you and strengthen you🙏

You are so intelligent and absolutely funny, while educating! TY!

Thanks for this clarification, I will make this my mantra "keep it simple".

Richard: I have watched several of your videos lately. This video is most excelent. Your words are truly golden! Thank you!

Sometimes the nature of evil is so deceptive it's not evil in the traditional sense....and it can & will break you/tear you down when you need & others need you at the top of your game...just to target the vulnerable, they like low hanging fruit & easy targets & if I think about that " floppy moral boundaries" become more rigid pretty fast. Because the low hanging fruit are the vulnerable our constitution/laws attempt to protect. It's really serious. Thanks for slap upright Richard 🧡

13 years of hell - 12 free🎉 lost my home, children, “friends”, life as i knew it. But I’m still here and I’m free and aware! Knowing what we know, it’s impossible not see the govt is doing the same exact things- can’t get away from these demons

@nadegenazaire4356

4 күн бұрын

If the govt is doing the same exact thing as you had in your marriage, it is probably because probably they don't want you to loose what you had before, as you wrote, the 13 years of hell, children, home, life as you know it, your friends. Courage, the Bible says "a true friend loves at whatever the time and in the bad time, shows himself o herself as brother or a sister". In my case I can Thank God, I don't have family in the govt cause I would fear they want 13 more hell for me. Thank God !

Moral relativity .. great description for what they do. I have my first session tomorrow, I’ve come a fair way since trying to forget the shared fantasy. I have some recurring anxiety but it’s all about me now😅 As in why and how I let this happen. Not why they done it. I know why it really is that simple,, as nothing else makes sense.

Wish I could have been here for the live. Life changing and life affirming words as always. Too much to say. I've been dreaming my life away, so I felt drawn to this...I know it takes an iron will. Some days I feel almost led --this was one of those days. But you, Richard, we see you do it all. I know it can't be done for me, but...what a shining example you've set. I'll make something out of this...I will.

Love your sense of humor 🤣 Yes lets all be strong 💪

Superb, thank you Richard. Such a grounded stance in respect of courage and not knowing everything, and having the strength to say so without fear of being fallable or seen as 'weak'.

The first 8 minutes is life changing, thank you

“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them. - Matthew 7:15-20

I just recommended your channel to someone who "wants" to work on their empathy, teheeeeeeeee. Recommended Sam and Tudor as well loooool! So good to see and hear you after quite a few years....! Thanks once again for being you and being here, to me, especially back in 2016! Be well, RG. xoxo

This was perfect! I needed a good Richard fix!❤

Today we learned about spronking.

You are the absolute best in this area. The best. You are so clear and concise. You are making a huge impact in this field and the world. Thank you for what you do.

I love your sincerety and authenticity, many thanks for sharing, it's helpful, therapeutic, enlightening in sone areas, many thanks

So wise, your time in looking at this has given you another true answer, opposites don’t attract.! I swear we need like minded people to be with.

You’re right on point every time Richard

Jesus is our hope, dont forget your first love. Jesus loves you

Richard, as always, thank you for sharing your wisdom, experience, expertise, and not a little humor! In addition, thank you for helping me keep what bit of sanity I have left! Hope you feel better(I put a good word in with the big guy 🙏)

Richard is completely genuine and speaks his truth as someone with lived experience. One of the smartest men on youtube with superb insight into the male condition.

Thankyou and God Bless you for sharing, it helps me to stay strong!

Always, every time you deliver. Honest discussion.

Yeah, I keep getting into relationship with toxic people. I thought I worked on my childhood. I was in a good place 10 yrs ago and I was getting my life together I thought. I feel like I've been brainwashed.

Thank God. I appreciate your channel.

I love you Richard. You speak your truth and you don't sugar-coat it. What you see is what you get. Many people with lived experience need people like you to articulate what we have gone through. We just want some understanding. We don't want you to fix us with medication or whatever. Let us talk. Open up a dialogue. Skills not pills.

Loved this. Excellent!!! 😊

Detachment from evil is necessary.... and by default, after so many betrayals, the one benefit is that when they get old and finally die, you won't grieve them as much as you might otherwise have because of the A-holes they were when they had the choice to be loving, respectful and supportive but weren't. They were just incurably sick. I can only feel pity for them. They are a life WASTED!

Because I loves myself without validation from others I jus have hopes in putting a stop to these innocent children

I’m still in the claws and want so much to free myself. By now I studied enough about NPD to know what to do right away. But, against all the logic and recognition of the problem I’m still struggling terribly. I can’t find any specialist in my area to talk to, so I have to conquer it myself. Thanks to you, Dr Ramani and prof Vaknin I fully understand the dynamics, however my heart is still trembling with anxiety

Brilliant brilliant self questions 👏

Haha love your sense of humor ..thank God for laughter medicine!

I know it's time to leave because I find myself acting badly because I can't trust him. Been here before and don't want to go through it again. I hate what I've become. I am constantly anxious and I want my peace of mind back.

A bad guy will protect you against another bad guy. I never knew I could lose myself. James Bond is the attractive hero, but if you look at the facts, he kills and fucks around, I wonder do the girls comply? Well I grew up with this 😂. Thank you for your honesty. Yes, be with my feelings 🙏 and keeping my boundaries.

Morning Richard .enjoyed your vid.always thought provoking!

Thanks 🙏🏻 so much ❤

Anger is the mask of sadness..... such truth

@hettykoster9447

29 күн бұрын

So it is !!

The way you said “Naaar ciss cist” cracked me up 😅

I’ve definitely firmed up my moral floppy bits! I love that Richard delivers such emotive issues with hilarious little one liners.

Thank you for your explanation of external/internal potency

Thanks Richard

That mixed bag of why the Narcissist is still in my life. Yes, I'm scared of the consequences if I cut him off. I'm also scared of what I will lose. But is he evil. Yes, most definitely. He is like his Master, Satan, who has the ability to keep transforming himself into an Angel of light. I feel only God can help me to be free of him completely. And that's what I'm praying for. Before recent times, I was financially dependent upon him. He was well aware of this, and monopolized on it. Educating myself with videos like this one have helped me so much on my journey to finally be free. And not just off him but of others in the future. I have been a Narc magnet in the past, unfortunately. The comment below is helpful I always needed validation of others, and that's where the Narcissist came in with 'love bombing'. I'm learning not to not need validation from any other person, but fully realize that my validation comes from God and Faith in Christ.

Thank you Richard, hi U.G Rose, I hope you are both safe and sound! It is like I comeback to your content to see where I am in my processes. Just last week I was safe enough in a level where my sadness was able to visit me externally. ❤️

😂😂😂 I missed this live but omg 😭😂❤️❤️❤️ it’s my favorite when Richard does accents 🤣 It’s late here and I’m sleepy but my silliness aside I loved this. Richard I pray for your neck to be healed and feel well 🙏❤️ Part of this reminded me of one of your audios so I had to listen to it again and it helps to lull me into sleep.

Come on Richard! Love it. ❤

I’m a 34m and I was single for five years after a hard break up at 28. Last year I met a girl in her early 30’s. First person I let close to me in 5 years. Right away gave me a sob story and told me her mother was abusive and had BPD ( I don’t think she knew I was well versed in PD’s) and that her ex husband was diagnosed with NPD. She would do inappropriate things and act stupid about it when confronted. Got super upset and we broke up because I put laundry in the washer before bringing her up her keys. Last straw was she got mad I went to the gym when she wanted my attention so she ignored me and hung out with some other men and then posted a thirst trap on IG two days after that. She couldn’t understand why I broke up with her. Had dinner with her one more time a month after that and I said F it and asked since all these people have been diagnosed with PD’s and she’s been in a lot of therapy, had she ever been diagnosed with a PD? Maybe this would answer some things. She looked absolutely shocked and appalled. Like I removed her skin. Her reaction to that question was everything. Never talked to her again. You just need strong boundaries. If you aren’t being treated well then leave. No questions about it.

I was in the hospital for 3 months after a stroke and a 10 day coma. I called him from my hospital bed, to wish him Happy New Year, she made sure I heard her in the background, and he hung up on me. I was devastated.

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@MeanEileen916 Well now. We lose everything and everybody to the point that they are the only one to reach out to when lonely in hospital or/and it's a holiday. It's like putting my hand out to thank the viper that's not going to harm me again. But it fangs my gnarly hand again . Its deformed even worse. I understand. Hope you are in a better spot than myself. See he's my neighbor his door is ten feet away. His violent tormented big strong lady supply is twenty feet away. And yes sometimes I acquiesce. From fear. And my face is messed up from the last ambush. And I'm pushing 60 years. Now I just used your comment to attempt reality. Do not mention the police nor shelters. Been down that road of the charmer charming the police, paramedics etc. I am the crazy. Yet I've never harmed him and I'm greatly harmed. If the police ...you must see... decide from the get go you are the neurotic. ...And if they wrongfully arrest you because of his charm and your Hysteria. You cannot rely on police again.They need to stick to their narrative. And I would also like to say I've had two quality therapists out of twelve. Sink or swim I'm going to swim. Richard Grannon. You are a great person.

I like the humor. So keep up the good work!

You are so much fun, Richard.

The concept of keeping a standard of moral relativism was really helpful. It’s so maddening the blaming and circular reasoning and just trying to jump off that horror-go-round when you can’t get your footing. The manliness and confidence and rule breaking too. Definitely sucked me in. We started talking romantically just as the Pandy started. It felt safe to be with him then. It feels considerably less safe four years in when all of the supports have been kicked out from under me as fast as I can build them…it’s about as fun and comforting as a carnival in an earthquake…

Very thought provoking .

you have. lovely smile Richard..don't be afraid to use it. G

My teen mother made me the family scapegoat as she projected her "Shame" onto me. My younger sister took that as a sign to ruin me. I can remember her setting me up when she was only 3! I can remember being amazed that she did that so young. Now we are both retired. Her most famous line.."Oh ya, I lie. I can always say I made a "mistake" but i've already planted the seed". Then she slept with my husband and convinced my kids I was a POS. Things turned around when I saw your "Why Your Family Hates You"...and they DO because I'm so cool. LOL As it turned out... I am NOT my mom's first kid. He was adopted by the CEO of SEARS and had an amazing life. I went to help him move after his wife died. I knew him a total of 24 hrs. I will NEVER speak to him again. Then it turned out that the reason I'm such a BadAss is because my dad was NOT a Midwest Hick but the son of a powerful Chicago Gangster who died right before I was born. Raised as a mutt. Turns out I'm a Wolf.

You are great Richard❤ and funny guy😂

Love your comment on anxiety-I appreciate my guidance systems - they are valid and vital. If they become overwhelming and all consuming then I would go to a practioner whom I have vetted trust and respect and ask for support.