The new course , haven’t done the in video links yet, please check it out here spartanlifecoach.com/summoning-the-self/

@KatyWithAWhyyy

3 жыл бұрын

Omfgggggg. The part around 32:40 about the cutlery. Wow dude. WOW. I will clean my own table at restaurants...basically completely bus it. I’m obsessive about it and people who eat with me are often like dude. Tf are you doing. I’m usually like it’s the nice thing to do - we aren’t better than the servers, etc. but hearing you talk about the cutlery thing made me go whoa. The codependency really does creep in everywhere!! 💡 🤯 👌🏼

@pirindolo5160

3 жыл бұрын

When was this seminar held?

@talbrott

3 жыл бұрын

did you take down the post of resisting threat (a car pulls up and they pull out a gun and say "get in.")

@RICHARDGRANNON

3 жыл бұрын

Tal Brott it’s called “how to deal with bullies “

@RICHARDGRANNON

3 жыл бұрын

Tal kzread.info/dash/bejne/opeBo6p9f6_Mnso.html

This guy is amazing. I feel like he's my best friend I never had.

@ConorSantry

3 жыл бұрын

Same 😅

@Ladida386

3 жыл бұрын

He is like my older brother I never had.

@nadiag4599

3 жыл бұрын

I love him also💜🤍

@Lewieo

3 жыл бұрын

Nobody is coming to save you

@Lewieo

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry that was my inner narcissism showing up

"The only difference between the people in this room and people outside is the people in here *Know they are abused (traumatized)"

@toniabeyta4007

3 жыл бұрын

I know!

@sueb6662

3 жыл бұрын

The best way to get away from a narcissist is to disengage.... the more you fight them the more enmrshed and stay enmeshed with them and life is short to not live your own life.

@staceydenise5538

3 жыл бұрын

@@sueb6662 Yes!

Yes, when you’ve the fear of abandonment, you vibrate it and people use it.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Sanna Johanna, you look gorgeous 🌹🌹🥀🌹🌹

@katee8147

2 жыл бұрын

great share

@SuperBlakes2

3 күн бұрын

That's a great way of describing it.

This was a great insight, so glad I drove 5 hours round trip. So great to be able to attend and meet everyone who shares motivation to be healthy and evolve. Thank you Richard 👊

@laurieduncan6096

3 жыл бұрын

Simon Thompson lucky you!

@RICHARDGRANNON

3 жыл бұрын

Nice to meet you sir

@urwashahid9210

3 жыл бұрын

Where was this?

@timothyortega5608

3 жыл бұрын

Lucky guy!

At 55 this is a complete game changer for me sir, you are enabling me to stop hating myself. I grew up absolutely terrified of my father due to witnessing his drunken anger, emotional and physical abuse to my mother. I had to think about every word before i opened my mouth. When he came back from the pub we hid upstairs with our hands over our ears until he fell asleep then crept downstairs again. Its no surprise to me now that I have been singled out for bullying in my entire childhood and adult life and completely unable to find the strength to defend myself in any way. Just took it. I have been hard on myself my whole life as i am one of those children raised to 'not be silly' and 'Just get on with it'...I have never allowed myself to even consider that this has traumatised me until now but yes, thats what it was.

"Let the other person grow." Huge point Richard made here. If your actions keep someone else from learning something that you already know how to do, then your stealing experiences from them for your own selfish needs. Let them do it and support them with encouragement and direction, but don't do it for them! This has been the hardest conditioning to break so far, but the most worthwhile in my opinion. Another great talk Richard!

@sueb6662

3 жыл бұрын

This point stood out to me too.

@roarblast7332

3 жыл бұрын

My parenting book calls it overindulgence and classifies it as abuse. I am inclined to agree. A very devastating form of abuse in fact.

@katee8147

2 жыл бұрын

Great share

Starting kit to understanding love for codependents (if you don't have kids): dog. Try dog. I understood fast (emotionally). 3 months later the narc (boyfriend at the time) made me choose between him and the dog. I chose dog. 2 years later: one of the greatest lessons I ever learnt. I write this with one dog to my left, another to my right. Still learning how love is done right. We never knew how. But we can learn.

@chrislawuk

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so desperate for a pet, for mental health reasons and just because I love cats and dogs. But not allowed them in my flat :(

@ricoco7891

3 жыл бұрын

wow who the hell makes someone choose between them and a damn dog?

@Quinefan

3 жыл бұрын

@@ricoco7891 Narcs.

@vibe_depth373

3 жыл бұрын

Happy you chose the dog 😊😁🎉

@vitamia9113

3 жыл бұрын

Chris me too. Try helping in the shelter ❤️

"Compassion, GOOD. "Neuroses, NOT GOOD" Perfect!

"Don't eat me, eat this false self" hit so hard.

@mamas_quilts3573

3 жыл бұрын

Scary when i realized i never was real...abuse mustve started in infancy...damn...

@juliasorokina985

3 жыл бұрын

Strange it doesn't hit me.. I was in a very abusive relationship and I think i was the real me.. Very real.. The only thing waa that i was trying to talk in a higher more childish voice than my real voice is.. Don't know why. Maybe because i don't like my voice

@jadehalliday6636

Жыл бұрын

I actually did that yesterday. I came back from the gym, I came to the realization that my connection wasn't real, I felt a rush of adrenaline & vomited as he walked in the door 😔✨

"Social Media has trained us to be avatars of ourselves"

@FarmersAreCool

3 жыл бұрын

The self is an idol.

"I'm lonely, let me merge with you." this made me cry. Its what i think romantic love is. What is romantic love if it isn't merging with someone?

@smittywerbenjagermanjensen9546

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, hits hard. I guess for healthy people love is deciding to live side by side with someone you value, are attracted to, admire. Retaining your own personality while benefiting from and uplifting the other. Partnership. I think we codependents overly identify with the other to the sacrifice of ourselves which feels like merging, but its just consumption of the other.

@chillizora

3 жыл бұрын

💖💖💖💖

Ignorance is bliss and I don't have it anymore. I'm on high alert around narcissists and feel deep dread when a new 'friend' showers me with praise, affection and the subtle demand that I'm perfect. I always have my running shoes on. Tired of knowing narcissists so well.

@jenp6275

3 жыл бұрын

I don't want to be antagonistic Colleen, but always having running shoes ready demands that anyone new is perfect for you. You can not treat new people according to the fear that others created. While it is good and healthy to watch for possible mishaps, we must also maintain enough mercy for healthy imperfections.

@jeannienotofthisworld8365

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.. I feel you!

@traceycurtis1005

3 жыл бұрын

I watch the behavior panel to learn techniques to spot a liar. It has helped me navigate who is presenting a false narrative and to stay away from them.

@theelizardqueen

2 жыл бұрын

@@traceycurtis1005 where do I find this?

@traceycurtis1005

2 жыл бұрын

@@theelizardqueen here on KZread

I said "No" to a tiny ask from a friend, and started shaking all over for several minutes

@iamjheani

Жыл бұрын

Oof. I totally know the feeling.

I still am not convinced there’s not a spiritual force at work in this disorder

@wowwowwow185

3 жыл бұрын

there is your soul is in grief howling for connection like a lost baby wolf

@montereypine4702

3 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree. If we have a codependent relationship with our own father, or none at all, how can we expect to ever have a loving and fulfilling relationship with our real father, God

@truthspeaks623

2 ай бұрын

If you want to think of baseline energy in positive and negative simplicity. A narc is like a negative charge, force or potential if you will.. searching for a positively charged polarity to complete a circit.

@lesleybrady3948

27 күн бұрын

Does it matter in terms of recovery?

Wow 😳 “psychologists don’t know how to break conditioned responses” really helped me to understand how hard codependency conditioned responses are to overwrite! Giving myself incredible compassion for all of my efforts to date to overcome... feels like an anchor at times. I’m gaining on it tho! The recent 30 day challenge helped with my emotional literacy, discipline moving forward with values, goals and associated positive emotions. THANK YOU. I look forward “summoning the self”!

@margaritagalarza3233

3 жыл бұрын

35 years married. I was just used. I was to Young to understand this. I am 72. Now I am happy for 20 years. Recorded. And today I got it. I was codependent. In conditioned. Life but I did have my 3 daughters. Recently I stopped depending on them to show me love all the time. I am free but I do find myself. Alone.

@margaritagalarza3233

3 жыл бұрын

OMG. I am so old but still a child in my life looking for freedom. I declare it. To myself. Haaa crazy

@margaritagalarza3233

3 жыл бұрын

I truly love myself now and my freedom.

@denisec6473

3 жыл бұрын

Margarita Galarza I’m happy you know freedom! 💕💕💕 Time to do some living. Never too old!

I am totally enthrolled by the way you manage to be real and therefore, open. This is such a rare experience.

It just clicked with me, my father was an alki and abandoned mum, me and my two sisters, I was 7. My mother was an alki and I had to up to a point realise I had to take care of myself. I couldn't make friends because I was ashamed of what was going on in the house. Our house was a complete dump and I was too ashamed to bring anyone round. Living like this till I was 16 I was then so grateful for anyone showing any interest in me. I had no boundaries because any relationship was better than what I'd come from. I was an open book for anyone to graffiti on. The shame of being brought up in a dump by an alcoholic neglectful parent is where my trauma is rooted. I got outta there when I was 16 but I'm now just getting out of the trauma. Thanks for all the really informative videos you post. I'm getting out of it gradually.

@1o1carolina53

2 жыл бұрын

Love and peace To you Wendy

YOU ARE SOOO RIGHT!! I was not discarded till I stopped feeding him.

Richard is a fucking legend! He talks about co-dependency in a really accessible way and he makes sure you realise you're not off the hook. As in recovery is up to you and it is possible!. His dark humour is refreshing and is a recovery tool in itself because when you laugh it releases some of the self resentment and resentment of others. Thank you Richard in case you didn't know you're a fucking legend!

I read this and found it interestingly true. Forgiveness is the absence of bitterness not necessarily reconciliation

So many notable quotables. Making us laugh so much is one of the therapeutic ingredients :D Thank you!

I have heard that a child decides at a young age if they like the results of being evil( power) or being nice (powerless) from their parents, and then that becomes their personality. Has anyone heard this?

@tarabland3506

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

@Purple9721.

3 жыл бұрын

That would explain a lot for me if it is true

@tarabland3506

3 жыл бұрын

If they are brought up in a shame based atmosphere a narcissistic personality will form..children are who they are by the age of 7 i believe..you need a fishing license to fish thou anyone can have a child..teach them well and always be kind they are little sponges and absorb there surrounding..God protect them all today and always...

@jumpscare1530

2 жыл бұрын

@@tarabland3506 can you explain why a shame based atmosphere would lead to a narcissistic personality?

I am feeling less people pleasing and finding a deeper voice within... it does stop me from ~helping, ~melding, YUK and although alone, I feel more at ease, no lonely not lonesome, but a bit stronger, saying NO helps so much thank you for your efforts to be really clear and upfront with the truth without clinical jargon to confuse... much work daily within, but love my choice to say NO .

"No you don't understand Richie, he had a difficult childhood. This tiiime is the reeeal time." XD Richard! That's hilarious.

When my dad yelled at me. I froze and i had so much adrenaline pumping that seconds where like minutes and i started shaking, i remember that my brother once had to roundhouse kick him in the face because he cornered him and my brother too is psychopathic and very much into Martial arts from when he was very young and weapons (the only presents i ever got from my brother was butterfly knifes, ninja stars, etc...). So the abuse and tyranny came from my father (i still live at home and i'm 35 now how nice) and i coped with it by fawning and freezing and now i am an addict for decades..... My brother made it out of the house but he literally had to knock him unconscious...... My sister is 28 a drug addict like me and we live both still at home with our lovely parents. At least now i understand a little better why i'm so screwed because my whole life i blamed myself for my behaviour but my father was so terrifying to me that i really have deep trauma still and whatever i try to do and cant seem to get away from home or from my addiction to benzos and opiates. And of course from my parents point of view its all their childrens fault. I was a very very good student but when i had to choose a career, i just could not do that. Because i never had "my own opinion" i was never allowed to be myself when i was young therefore i can be many things to perfection except be myself. My father is defintely a narcissist or even a narcissistic psychopath, i'm not sure. He has a violent temper, he had a black belt in Judo, a PHD and (the austrian equivalent to) an MBA so i had to be a A+ student or i'd risk him flipping out. He's also very physically intimidating especially when he was younger plus in his mind everyone is an idiot or worse and only his point of view is valid. He regularly brings people to tears like his sisters etc. Now my life is pretty screwed up BUT i found a way to gain some space for myself since i began to read the bible and stopped watching TV for entertainment purposes (i do watch documentaries though if they are informative and bring some new information to me). I started 12 years ago when i disconnected my TV from the cable box. I was so deep in drugs back then that most of my friends i grew up with are dead now..... In my life i had so many near fatal accidents it's unbelievable. I broke my hands 6 times (once i broke both my arms), i nearly suffocated 3 times, i nearly drowned once, i had a few very bad car crashes. My whole youth was escaping my emotions thru alcohol and marijuana, later it was Benzos and morphine. I am an addict now for 20 years. What should i do?

@patduffyforever

3 жыл бұрын

Nithyananda satsung. Daily yoga. A shamanic course. All would benefit u i believe as i ve had a similar path and they helped me. Yr awareness and survival so far are commendable. You are a warrior! Good luck 💚

@alexeichenauer

3 жыл бұрын

@@patduffyforever Thanks I will look into that. Greetings from Austria

@sicobain

3 жыл бұрын

Don't give up about your goals in life! we are body, mind and soul! Keep searching and trying to get better day by day. Cheers!

@alexeichenauer

3 жыл бұрын

@@sicobain no I will not give up. I've survived too much to give up now. Thx

@niki_loves_life

3 жыл бұрын

@Alexander Eichenauer This is no coincidence that you were revealed about Narcissistic Personality Disorder..Glad that you read the bible the word of God..Only the peace of Jesus Christ the son of God can break you free from these demonic chains.Stay in him and ask the Holy Spirit of God for his wisdom and knowledge on which path you should take and ask Jesus to restore you and build you up.Only God’s true love can restore you and comfort you.Pray to your father in heaven in your heart about this.Your earthly father may be destructive and may have tried his best to destroy you as a person but your father in heaven who is the Creator of the universe builds you up and binds your wound and helps you grow for the better.Just focus on your heavenly father...My father is a Narcissist as well but i focus on my heavenly father and the best response is no contact..Hope this helps you...May the Peace of Jesus Christ be with you

Thank you Richard. I could watch and listen to you ALL day! You are brilliantly blunt and real!

This is fantastic. You’re a rare gem. Your raison d’être was to be there for the thousands that need your teachings. Thank you for your study and your ability to eloquently share your knowledge, nay gift. What I’d give to be in your live class. You’re wise and hilarious too.

@celt_downunder

Жыл бұрын

@@Sh0n0 ok you twisted my arm. He’s very handsome too. LOL. I’m a sapiophile.

Please come to the states!

@crystalcostello3003

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree!

My bookmarks: 32:44 Safety as the main root of neurosis 33:40 Q&A starts: "Addiction related to trauma?" and pathology as entrained behaviour

I came to this. Was brilliant. Thank you Richard 😊

@RICHARDGRANNON

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for coming

@Alaina-sq1ve

3 жыл бұрын

L DIGBY do you have to pay for these lectures?

@hotstitch1

3 жыл бұрын

Ric is at a TKO thought level to me; I always have to pause his classes and savour the point. Wd struggle live- wd keep hvg to leave for an OMG break!

@ldigby2489

3 жыл бұрын

They’re free Alaina however my partner said it was an expensive evening by the time we’d had a meal and mocktails in Kimos and I’d navigated wrongly up the Mersey tunnel four times 😂

@Alaina-sq1ve

3 жыл бұрын

Haha sound like a great evening.

The idea that in boundary-less giving, both parties are poisoned… mind blown.

"We've never known love". "We are fusing and merging". This struck a chord. Born into it and 13 relationships (and half a century later), is it even still possible to finally come alive? I desire love. I am moving in a good direction, towards a goal state of love. Thank you for all you do and give. I am trying to balance getting ofF the computer more, like you advised but still learn to encourage my very slow, incremental progress...I AM THANKFUL FOR PROGRESS. It is written, love never fails. We shall see! Fusing and merging truth makes me sick to realize.

Richard got me out of my depression, I am so grateful.🙂

There is NO counsellor with Richard's wisdom on youtube. Richard is unique

This subconscious that that drives codependent behavior is very difficult to overcome. Even when i realize I’m doing it, it seems scarier to stop...

@sll110

3 жыл бұрын

me too. sadness

Yes, Richard helped me heal from a Narcissistic abusive relationship and helped me find my value, he is brilliant, credible,personable, hilarious and real. I am forever grateful and I wish I had known him 20 years ago.

Omfg!!! The explanation of fawning that you are giving and the dynamic that creates with false selves between a prey and predator is f**** superb. It makes perfect sense.

The new level of awareness I have: I don’t attract narcissists. I say yes to them. You are so dead on about this stuff

I'm a child that grew with child parents. They had 6 of us at 26. They fought like cat and dog. Us kids were just tossed to one side when they were knocking hell out of each other just left too are own devices. I stepped in at a young age as a sibling parent to 5 younger children. My 3 relationships at the age 50 were with narc's. 👀

I find this so interesting, makes me very reflective on why I let my ex narcissist play the games. from my truma and detachment growing up made me give so much to try and avoid abandonment. This is perfect for the narcissist, she saw vulnerability. Thankfully self focus with counselling has made me realised you don't need to be a pleaser to me loved.

Richard, Richard, Richard, Richard, Richard!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks! :)

Great stuff Richard. P.S.: My husband's from the Wirral! love from Anna Runkle in the US!

@cthornton523

3 жыл бұрын

ANNA! So good to see you here, you gift to the globe, you 💖

Good, wise, material Richard, the codependency in psychiatric nursing is mind bending

@Alaina-sq1ve

3 жыл бұрын

Philip John I'm an adult nurse...wow. its so true isn't it? Bitter...ouch.

I very much appreciate your work. Thank you

His mama must be SO PROUD of her boy ;) thanks for being in this world 🌍 U have helped in more ways than you could imagine 💕

Appreciate all the info you share.ty... Plant based diet/supplements, dancing, singing out loud to myself.. and always remembering to laugh has been very helpful.. You have such a knowledgeable ,fun & authentic energy. Helps intake the info.😊

This one of the best videos rich has done, covers so much, learnt loads, cheers rich.

I overeat when feel oppressed, hurt.. I comfort myself with food & overspending & quantity of doing so depends from my stress levels... I feel immature...

@hearty1240

2 жыл бұрын

I used to be like that. To the point I was bulimic. Even at that time, I realized it was trauma. Whenever I felt down, food was my only friend. It has been years now I'm able to set my life more disciplined.

OMG ping, ping, ping! Lights on! Just realised that so few people are their real authentic selves including me. I can’t be Cheryl it’s not safe, even with close friends if I speak from my heart, how I really feel, they recoil, now I understand why. The only person who I’ve been able to talk to from my heart was a dear friend with terminal cancer and the process had brought him to his self. His heart was open and it was safe for me to open mine to him, it was a truly wonderful experience. ❤️🤗✨

Wow, wow, wow! So precise and on top. Thank you so so much for your work Richard!

I wish I could have gone to this.

This was great from the first second to the last. You have a way with words! My past makes so much sense when I listen to you

This is such a great talk with amazing insights into codependency and insights into why some are people pleasers. Also, loved the points of narcissism in various cultures and professions which many don't speak about. Richard should be invited by schools, universities and TED to speak on human psychology.

I believe tribal consciousness is deeply embedded for survival and to be "accepted" thats why so many people are afraid to show the public multiple sides to their personality. I believe in interdependence. we are all interdependent. never truly independent.

@sueb6662

3 жыл бұрын

Of course we're social beings.

I have heard no one explain these concepts better than you. Always helpful.

This was excellent, thank you so much Richard! Rich in valuable information, I feel as though I paused the video every 30 seconds to take notes. So good!

Richard is a badass. I could listen to him talk all day... I have before. Lol

Thank you Richard. You are fantastic. Love your way of describing the things with your great sense of humour.

2nd break through of the day; feeling grateful and hopeful. Thank you. 🐛🦋

It is always great to listen to you. Thank you Richard. Namaste.

This is so eye-opening! You are insanely intelligent re. all this. Wow.

Excellent talk and right on the mark! You described codependency so accurately! I felt like you were talking directly to me.

When you got to minute 43.00 and talked about how you can gauge someone's level of trauma by how far they've travelled I burst in laughter because I have traversed 2 continents from where my trauma began 😂. I'm like this guy, is so spot on ❤

You are speaking everything I have emphatically known in my soul and have been discovering for years on my own now!!!

So honest in your teaching Richard- you are the opposite of most “thought leaders” I have experienced who’s motto is- if you can’t do it Coach it!” Your integrity and honesty about how difficult this level of healing truly is and the required activities to continue to make progress is scary but true and I appreciate someone who walks his talk!

Always Love and Appreciate you and your work. Thank you Richard.🌹

Oh goodness, not to toot my own horn. Found someone who shares some of the ideas I have about the mental illnesses and labels I have been seeing. I feel relieved to know he is here. Thanks Mr. Grannon. Shared you with my a few of my fellow workers. Keep up the work I love listening.

You're amazing and full of Truth!!! Thank you💖

Not only is this going to help me, but also help me raising my children. Thank you so much for your work.

Spot on so many levels when we ignore the self dynamic in order to survive. Exceptional content!

Whenever I listen to your teachings I feel like I am given a key and can finally unlock and make sense of things. Thank you so much.

A friend of mine dated an astronaut for a short while and he said he became one as he wanted to be one to get away from his family!

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Geraldine Skinner,hope you are with a good man!😍😍😍😊

Thanks 😊 I appreciate your work to help us unravel the webs that bind our minds . Big blessings and good vibes to you sir 🌈💜

This video really hit me to the core! Wow! This is brilliant and very helpful! thank you!

Where were you 10 years ago when I needed this the most? I have to say I'm super proud I've researched all of this info myself and hopefully done the healing!! It's great to clarify though by watching your vids! Brilliant and funny!

@Omarra67

3 жыл бұрын

I've asked myself the same question, but I know I wasn't ready back then.

@bangbangkisskiss007

3 жыл бұрын

Agree. 10 years ago would have been awesome. But , I don’t think I would have been able to grasp it. 💖

@AmandaMG6

3 жыл бұрын

He’s been here for many years now. I’d guess 7/8

@Omarra67

3 жыл бұрын

@@AmandaMG6 I'm sure that was a rhetorical question. No matter how long he's been around, some of us weren't ready back then. I did some self help stuff way back in the 90s and while I thought I'd figured a lot out, it doesn't come close to what I've learned from Richie just since I found him a couple years ago. We can have the info at our fingertips, but unless we're ready for it, it means little. I AM glad I found him, though!

incredible. well done presentation on all fronts. thank you for sharing your wisdom insight patience support and grace

Love what you do. I feel like I could listen and learn much. Thank you

Thank you Richard!

Perfect timing. Fell asleep listening to your videos last night... Best dreams, thank you Beloved ☯️💚

This is so powerful. Thank you so much 💓

Richard,Thank you so much!!!!so clear your information,finally am starting to get it!!!!Blessings

So much gold in this! Left with more questions!!

I first thought there will be a seminar in Liverpool. It seems to be the one I missed. So happy you shared it with us!

I only clicked for the flexed triceps in the thumbnail 😂

He makes me feel so much better when he talks it makes me understand so much things to learn

Your part about never having known love, except perhaps if you've had kids, interests me. I loved my kids the easiest out of everybody. Well, I still do love my kids. It's not past tense. LOL But, as they grew older and into teens and then adults, I found it harder to feel that 'easy' love. Not because of them, but because of me and my inability to attach properly. I'll always love them, and I'll always be protective and concerned, but I'll also always probably be somewhat aloof. Not sure if that makes sense.

@mariamurphy4631

3 жыл бұрын

Right. There. Too.

@Omarra67

3 жыл бұрын

@@mariamurphy4631 It's something I've thought about here and there. I know they've probably always thought there was something wrong with them, but there wasn't. There was something wrong with me.

@liabeachy

3 жыл бұрын

That’s how I feel too but I’m grateful that I had the experience of real love but I guess cat Stevens sang it beautifully with cats in the cradle

@mariamurphy4631

3 жыл бұрын

This sentiment about being somewhat aloof.... I feel this is a good thing for them. Time and space for them to mute our voices and choose for themselves how they will be. It just feels less than to us because we believe ourselves to be inadequate.

@majakolonja4266

3 жыл бұрын

@@mariamurphy4631 how is that good

I so needed this! I have been watching some videos about codependency lately but I was disturbed to hear everyone bashing narcissists like they have more say in their role that the submissive does. THIS is a much more compassionate and honest view. THANK YOU for putting this out!

Richard you truly are Truth talker spot on ❤️

I am learning so much. Thank you, thank you, many many times thank you! You give practical advice, and theoretical background knowledge with hands-on colorful even funny examples.

If you ever do start a retreat, you must call it "Gulag" 😂👍

@RICHARDGRANNON

3 жыл бұрын

Gulag of Re-education for Codependent Dissidents against personal sovereignty

@dstill3434

3 жыл бұрын

Gulag mental health system?

@LenkaSaratoga

3 жыл бұрын

Space Fairy my maternal grandmother’s Dad died there. So you can see how these Gulag jokes are hurtful to me and other Russians. It’s an equivalent to Holocaust topic to Jewish people. Could you please consider apologizing? Even if you simply repeat after Richard....

@hackedagain3421

3 жыл бұрын

Elena Razenko , so this comment is " antisemitic" ? I find the word Holocaust offensive. Seriously. it means "burnt offering"

@LenkaSaratoga

3 жыл бұрын

Space Fairy both places where people were killed in mass. Horrendous terrifying historical events. Not a joke content. Not to be used with “Face of tears of Joy” and Thumbs up“”emoji

This is incredible, thank you> it just came up on accident, but there really are no accidents, are there! God bless you man...

PERFECT conversations today! It was like everything said was the first time I internalized my codependent child and felt I could control my conditioning. Thank. You

FYI - I wrote the question before watching. Again thank you. This is spot on.

Thank you for your interesting talks. Keep laughing, smiling, and teaching. Best wishes.

Excellent talk. So helpful - thank you.

Thanks Richard was looking for some guidence today and this poped up....have been focusing on the emotional literacy work lately and its helping 🙂

Your videos really crack the core of things for me, thankyou again x

I think Richard is the best speaker and philosopher of our time. There are layers of insight and reasoning there that impress every time.

Wow!! Thank you. This has put so much in perspective. I am in the midst of rearranging my self views and behaviour. Aware of my every move, word and thought as much as I can be. My stories are less important as I grow. I am trying to keep my neuroplasticity active. Having a combination of FASD and PTSD resulting in a functional neurological disorders and non epileptic seizures disorder that ran my life, I have had to regain my neuroplasticity to be able to reduce my seizures from 3-5/day 20 years ago to 1/week. 13 years with a narcissistic spouse and being quite a codependent I had to research me to work out the issues (still working) to get to the point where I can love myself. Road to recovery! Hopefully I can make the seizures stop. Maslow's 101. Missing most of the base of the hierarchy and still going a head. Looking forward to watching more from you.