"Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony" Love that.

@munch15a

5 жыл бұрын

I also think dishonest harmony cant last

@CourtneyCoulson

5 жыл бұрын

True, eventually those little issues fester inside someone until it explodes in a disproportionate way. Plus it's a form of lying, I would prefer my friends were honest when they disagreed with me no matter what the subject was.

@lifeexpands3695

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it can lead to resentment - and resentment is corrosive

@revelationreflection

5 жыл бұрын

Life Expands it's a vacuous statement that the reader will fill with meaning

@lifeexpands3695

5 жыл бұрын

revelationreflection - you believe that statement can have many different interpretations? I must admit I didn't see it that way, and struggle to do so. Can you give some examples?

Don't be nice... ...be kind.

@RabbitConfirmed

5 жыл бұрын

Agree. Because there are plenty of ppl who are "nice", but they aren't kind. Cause most people are full of shit! I have to know it!

@RabbitConfirmed

5 жыл бұрын

Im the exact opposite. I try not to be nice to stragngers but be kind. That's the best way to find friends. Those who like you, will like you because of your character and not because you were "nice" to them.

@MrBurakOzel

5 жыл бұрын

get out elliot

@joshuajones888

5 жыл бұрын

PROFOUND!

@mannygomez5433

5 жыл бұрын

m e 0. w. z. h. h. n. 0. w. as¡anmart¡a|artzhh. teachperseverance

How to command respect? Respect yourself first.

@Rockstar-lr6lg

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t be more true

@theonewhobullies

3 жыл бұрын

THIS

@Sher_18

3 жыл бұрын

Absolute truth, and if people don’t respect you even when you have self respect know that something more deep is the problem, and that thing isn’t in you but them.

@timmymassey7869

2 жыл бұрын

Amen. I always wondered why no one respected me, but then I looked internally and saw I lacked respect for myself. as soon as you start respecting yourself, you expect that same respect from others. You don’t settle for less than how you’d treat yourself. And you also start to demand that same respect for the people around you when you see they are being pushed around.

@allthatyoutouch3164

2 жыл бұрын

You mean be fake ?

I've spoken up several times throughout my life. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it comes with negative consequences. Be prepared for both. Both outcomes are way better than not saying something. In the end, you win or you learn.

@ccboss490

2 жыл бұрын

So you win win.

@xmanofficial

2 жыл бұрын

No. Sometimes saying nothing is better. Always say less than necessary.

@mr.fibonacci6292

2 жыл бұрын

Well said !

@mrcheese5383

Жыл бұрын

@@xmanofficial less than necessary? Doesn’t that imply you didn’t say enough?

@fieryrainysky

Жыл бұрын

tHIS IS THEmost sensible comment. Ive come accoss in this section.

How to get more respect: *NO* *HEY* *HEY* *HEY!*

@lordgrim1798

4 жыл бұрын

Damn cracked me open a bit

@faizanadib06

4 жыл бұрын

😭😂😂😂

@bobikzielarz

4 жыл бұрын

Haha

@someone7102

4 жыл бұрын

The Kickboxing Community ajajajjajajaja lmao

@kersaherpafuqer784

4 жыл бұрын

*HEY! HEY HEY!*

There’s a difference between pretending to be nice due to cowardice and being kind due to bravery. Fake nice guys will throw you under a bus in times of crisis while a genuinely nice guy will help.

@homersocrates4588

3 жыл бұрын

Behaving like a gentleman these days is considered being nice/weak when in the past centuries it was just expected of an honorable nobleman.

@jono601

3 жыл бұрын

@Homer Socrates it makes perfect sense that people relate nice to weakness. Can you say ALL the niceties you do are genuine and not out of weakness in some way? A lot of people just aren’t powerful enough to do the right thing when put under extreme pressure.

@homersocrates4588

3 жыл бұрын

@@jono601 The niceties I do are mearly out of respect because I believe that is what should be expected out of all of us . Treat others as you would want to be treated that is how I was taught growing up . That is unless they give you a reason to not respect them IE disrespect you and if that is the case then you disassociate from them. Old cultures such as Bushido and the knightly chivalry also highly valued honor ,loyalty ,integrity ,respect and manners .

@homersocrates4588

3 жыл бұрын

@@jono601 Just because most people nowdays are disrespectful dishononable POS doesnt mean I need to break my principles. Even if I dont always like it I cannot break my principles. Lead by example live by example in other words.

@davidkonevky7372

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, being nice because you're weak isn't a choice, it's survival. Being brave and being nice at the same time IS a choice

Grown woman hits a passive man. Other people: "Oh well, she can express herself that way." Joe Rogan: "Whoa whoa you can't run around assaulting people." Right on. That is what equal rights are about, equal responsibility.

@jennifermariejoyce

2 жыл бұрын

Yup. No hitting!

@d2.050

2 жыл бұрын

I wanna talk about my current situation a girl at my workplace we’re work friends or I should say we were work friends in 2021 I had simp traits I learned & improved that some of what I see here lot caring what other people think of you. In short recently I found out that that girl is leaving I found out from other people, my boss sees me like her son so she talked to me but I didn’t talk to her about anything I don’t know I was like she’s gonna talk to me & stuff but she didn’t than on Tuesday I believe some how she found out from my boss that I know about her leaving. I don’t know what really she talked to her but she stop talking to me now ignores me now. I felt disrespected & I got pissed off. I guess it’s all misunderstanding bc I wanted to have that control where I don’t get taken advantage off & think of every move that I do. I don’t know the story could be too long if I wrote but if you guys have any tips suggestions how should I handle this please let me know

@-Schlatt-

2 жыл бұрын

You gotta let go of her. I had a friend like that too when I worked at a Chick-fil-A, and I was a total simp for her but didn’t care. Then, I took her to a movie on Valentine’s Day and later that night she texted her ex that she still liked and told him that her going to the movies with me was the mistake of the month. I liked her and really tried to be just a good friend to her, but we’re no longer friends and looking back I can honestly say I would miss nothing if I never knew her. If that girl is leaving anyways, and she won’t even talk to you about it, I would say she isn’t a good friend and won’t help you become a better person. It’s probably a hard situation for you, but it’s better to let her go. Best of luck to yoy

@d2.050

2 жыл бұрын

@@-Schlatt- Yeah bro she doesn’t seem that type of a friend honestly heck we never even hangout when I asked her to hangout last year she was just playing around with me stuff. And after this he said she said stuff that I got trapped on, I would highly doubt her. I wanna see her actions what she do now I can’t trust her words. Yeah the sad thing is part of me wants to ask her about Snapchat or IG but I also know how she is which is another thing. I have her number but I haven’t text her since November we talk at work though. She’s a type of girl who would keep close relations to some guys & also I saw her talk to the guy who she rejected. In short she seems like she wants to use guys like guys who are desperate & stuff. I don’t know but I have to be very careful what I’m talking to her & stuff. She’s leaving end of the summer so still lot of time the other sad thing I should have stayed strong from the beginning & ask her about her Snapchat or IG around 1-2 months something but she played hard to get so it was not easy & now things are like this

@d2.050

2 жыл бұрын

@@-Schlatt- And thanks bro for supporting I’m in a time of need that I really need to talk to my best friend & stuff. I can’t stop overthinking that easy right now….

“If you and your husband hit one another that’s one thing” 😂😂😂😂😂

@baldrthebraveandnursechris7346

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaoooooo

@workingcityprepper2460

2 жыл бұрын

Hey Hey Hey Hey!

@25BDominique2021

2 жыл бұрын

🎯

@Random-sk6hm

2 жыл бұрын

I was like wait what?

@TT-th1gb

2 жыл бұрын

Even that's not ok bruh

Honest Conflict is ALWAYS better than Dishonest Harmony. Perfectly worded. 100% true.

@SapientEudaimonia

5 жыл бұрын

I find that sentence so powerful.

@DuchessDark

5 жыл бұрын

@@SapientEudaimonia me too. I am surprised how few people agree. As it is easier to coexist in harmony.

@SapientEudaimonia

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, and I really believe Honest Conflict is a necessary process to achieve Honest Harmony. We should strive for honesty in all cases, with all the tough and painful talks that go along with it, instead of all the pretending and avoidance just to retain the illusion of a harmonious situation. In the end thát is the destructive attitude in my experience.

@Skycapten93

5 жыл бұрын

Id like to debate this, because i think i disagree. Scenario: If i am an athiest. And im trying to comfort a young girl who is dying of cancer, and she asks me if she will go to heaven, should i be honest? Or do i comfort her in her last moments? Choose wisely gentlemen.

@SapientEudaimonia

5 жыл бұрын

@@Skycapten93 Being honest is "I don't know". That's the answer I would give. Saying she will definitely go to heaven, with the chance she will perceive you are not speaking truthfully is the worse alternative in my opinion. I imagine myself also saying something like this: "I am not sure if there is a heaven, but if there is a heaven I believe you belong in it, because you are a wonderful human being." No lies there. Conflict is not always necessary to achieve harmony. There are other ways. My ultimate point was that there are always better alternatives to being dishonest, with honest harmony and speaking truth empathatically the foremost one.

Knowing how to say no is the best way to command respect.

@slyceth

5 жыл бұрын

i say no too much

@JLogg444

5 жыл бұрын

I say yes too much

@xxJoshxMxx123

5 жыл бұрын

Its true i say no to my manager all the time and yet ive still gotten 2 raises in the past year.

@RanOvaT

5 жыл бұрын

I say say to much

@andyt3938

5 жыл бұрын

Its funny, most people’s minds can’t comprehend NO. Most people feel guilty for saying No, and feel crushed when told No.

One of my greatest regrets is that I never stood up to bullies. There is a time at which physical force is necessary and desirable for dealing with bad behavior.

@wesleyalan9179

2 жыл бұрын

I was bullied a lot in school, my family had to move around each year because of it. Once I reached high-school it stopped and I'm so thankful for that. How did it stop? Idk. It just did. I have Touretts Syndrom and in the 80s no one knew what it was, so they made fun of me...once the internet came out it gave everyone a different prospective of it I guess.

@noweare1

Жыл бұрын

I was afraid of getting physically hurt, but instead it made me get mentally hurt and now I am trying to deal with that.

@CornholioPuppetMaster

Жыл бұрын

I thought bullying went away when I got older, I just realized people got better at hiding it

@FutureClubNow

Жыл бұрын

There's no need to regret or focus on the past. You've learned and you're a better person for it now. Stay present and be grateful for what the past taught you. It's difficult to retrain your thought patterns, but you can do it, one thought at a time. When you become conscious of your thoughts, you then have a choice in that moment to either let that thought affect you or let it float by. It will become easier with time if you keep at it.

@JCinerea

Жыл бұрын

@@FutureClubNow Thank you.

Seems to me the fact that he knows he can physically defend himself in the worst case scenario goes at least like 50% of the way toward alleviating the anxiety of speaking your mind.

@aaronc4899

3 жыл бұрын

After I got into my first and only real fight as a young man and was able to defend myself, I lost so much fear in my life.

@cerenyldz2754

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, as an already highly kind and brave woman I can't wait to learn physical defense. I'll be unstoppable if it doubles your bravery.

@angrytheclown801

2 жыл бұрын

I've never been afraid to speak my mind, it really does help that I'm usually the biggest person in the room and learned wrestling and boxing as self defense. When you know you're typically safe, you feel the fear wash away, and can just be calm. It really does help tremendously in speaking your mind. The discipline that goes with it too helps.

@MohamedHassan-jz9ge

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaronc4899 shadow box everyday be ready

@xmanofficial

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaronc4899 Why did you get into the fight in the first place? And where?

Everybody needs a friend like Joe Rogan

@Racso88e

4 жыл бұрын

Eric Matterson very very very very few people will be willing to have a friend like him once they have it. I think it’s fair to say most people are highly uncomfortable with being challenged.

@michaelh1603

4 жыл бұрын

@@Racso88e That is true. Pretty much everybody wants to surround themselves with people they agree with. So that way they don't need to justify their beliefs/opinions. Which I find to be fairly unfortunate.

@abhinjshetty

4 жыл бұрын

Why not be a friend like Joe Rogan? It's easy to expect things from others but hard to do it by ourselves my friend.

@crushingasmr3790

4 жыл бұрын

Especially when I need a loan.

@puppydog12000

4 жыл бұрын

I dont think so he would just leave and steal lines off of you also all the time. I mean its like calling the kettle black when hes the one with the black satin spray paint

"I gotta break this up or Joe's gonna kill em " 😂

@EZIO.ZH16

4 жыл бұрын

That’s the wwe wrestler the miz

@renegadeloser4852

4 жыл бұрын

@I witnessed coronavirus The Miz is the guy who said that, not the guy whom Joe got in a Muay Thai clinch.

@jessejive117

3 жыл бұрын

That would make me so mad if I was restraining someone that was trying to be violent and aggressive someone tried to break it off like I was hurting them. I would almost be more mad at the person breaking up the fight and the person trying to kill me. I know that sounds like I’ve verbally but I don’t know it’s just punch that guy in the nose and go back to restrain the other person. If I was someone that was really good at fighting.

@Lorenzodaddy

3 жыл бұрын

@@jessejive117 Right on the money my thoughts exactly. It's like if someone attacks you and you immediately get the upper hand in defending yourself someone always thinks they have to "break it up", got to play traffic cop.

@ajmurtagh27

3 жыл бұрын

@Sports Entertainment When you learn pro wrestling, you learn how to shoot grapple.

I’m honestly so frustrated because my family and my best friend don’t take me seriously when i’m not trying to be funny. I straight up tell them I’m mentally exhausted and i’m crying almost each night because i can’t accept myself. They laugh it off.

@solracstormhunter3023

3 жыл бұрын

That's disrespectful. I'm sorry to heard that. I suggest you give them serous consequences for their behaviour and show your displeasure openly and loud. Some people don't want to understand, unless things explode right on their face.

@darshi2185

3 жыл бұрын

Bro same thing

@MrKrusten

3 жыл бұрын

I always love these comments where people share something completely random about their life completely unlreated to the topic of the video

@ameilioracryptos5298

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@yesyourmajestybut7287

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrKrusten this is the reason why i watched the video, it’s because i want to stand up for myself without being a jerk, so i thought i’d share my story.

It's also very hard for some people to get over this habit of non-confrontation if they grew up with a parent that applied the whole "no back talk" thing to situations where the parent was in the wrong or they tried reporting problems to authority figures that did nothing about the problem.

@woods2879

2 жыл бұрын

You just gotta go in and talk. You begin to realize once you start responding consistently and don't give up in the conversation, most people are just talking. Most of their goal is to just be the last person making sound. Outtalk them and you win the conversation.

@PERRYOL

Жыл бұрын

I think this is true. A person who is undervalued and invalidated often will end up resorting to violence.

The 5 things you can do to command respect (in order): 1. Know how to defend yourself 2. Honest Conflict has more social value than Dishonest Harmony 3. Avoid being absolutely right - know that your opinions and perceptions are fallible 4. Confront a particular behavior and not the person 5. Realize that you dont have a conflict with the person, but with a pattern of behavior

@Marcus_Halberstram

4 жыл бұрын

6. Try DMT

@princesurein7275

4 жыл бұрын

@@Marcus_Halberstram i like you

@IgnorancEnArrogance

4 жыл бұрын

4 and 5 are the same.

@ck1natsu

4 жыл бұрын

JC Denton 。、やらはまくんだ

@fcggames3990

4 жыл бұрын

@@Marcus_Halberstram why DMT tho I've done lsd but how would DMT do anything

I just had a super intense conversation with my friend. I started out with "Look, this is convo I didn't want to have, but we both agree it needs to happen. You hate confrontation, i hate it too, but we need to have it" And it was really productive. I am learning it's ok to have confrontation and still be friends regardless if we disagree. Big move for me. This video just made me feel I am doing alright, thanks dude

@lpisfierce2614

3 жыл бұрын

Really brave and way to go!

@labauer5314

3 жыл бұрын

stantler16 . I was lookin' at comments bfor I watched vid. yours did it. thnx, what you said made me proud of you, & I don't even know you! I'm gonna watch.

@crackthecode1578

3 жыл бұрын

congrats, that's huge!

@darkalan1562

3 жыл бұрын

You sound gey af

@stantler16

3 жыл бұрын

Takes one to know one!

He’s so real and honest with what he say to others. People may think he’s a jerk but I think he just letting his friends know the truth. Many people in this world just want everyone to agree with them or go along with whatever they are doing but I rather have a friend like Joe who’s tell it like it is.

@cerenyldz2754

2 жыл бұрын

Saying this as "a friend like Joe" myself, if people would _be_ a friend like Joe themselves instead of passively _wanting_ a friend like Joe so they are not rocking the boat, the world would be a better place. We kind people don't gaf about being wanted, we want things to be better objectively more than we want approval, that's why we are kind in the first place. That's why we are comfortable with being rude for good purposes. We want a proper society, so as a return of our favor, we'd appreciate it much more if people tried to be kind themselves instead of just applauding us on the sidelines. Everyone prefers a friend like him but as also seen in the example A, not everyone deserves to have a friend like him. Not even mentioning the issue of how for most people this "I prefer rude kindness over nice flattery" is just a pose and they can't appreciate it when it actually happens, again, as also seen in example A. No matter how many kind friends you have, if your ego rules your life their kind concern can't help you. Speaking from experience.

@TehUltimateSnake

2 жыл бұрын

@@cerenyldz2754 I know exactly what you mean.

Wow. This is powerful : " honest conflict is better than dishonest harmony". Amazing

So. To summarize 1. Train yourself physically 2. Speak up. Tell the truth. But also consider the situation 3. Dont be afraid to be criticized or be disliked. It is normal 4. Dont be afraid of confrontation 5. Admit that you don't enjoy the conflict 6. Allow for nuanced truth 7. Your opinions are not infallible 8. You want to confront the behavior. Not the person. 9. Do not namecall. Remember number 8.

@ponchred

5 жыл бұрын

But name calling is the fun part you fucktard!

@flamejr2391

5 жыл бұрын

@@ponchred that was not nice, dimwit

@kristinadk

5 жыл бұрын

@@ponchred lol

@kristinadk

5 жыл бұрын

@@flamejr2391 lol

@kristinadk

5 жыл бұрын

I see what y'all did there ...

Joe "No Hey, Hey, Hey! " Rogan

@Charismaoncommand

5 жыл бұрын

Haha, my favorite part

@TheZGALa

5 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha that is awesome. Imma have to use it in the future. Thanks for that.

@ReasonableRadio

5 жыл бұрын

Joe "I love you dude, but..." Rogan

@MrJosh5191

5 жыл бұрын

@@ReasonableRadio lmao

@Soccercrazyigboman

5 жыл бұрын

Ay man, wanna build some muscle?

I’m constantly working on this balance. However I should note that direct confrontation when you have a problem with someone only works if that person is willing to validate your concerns and engage in good faith to modify their behavior. With people who gaslight you, it’s best to just go with the “eye for an eye” approach.

@mendelson6052

2 жыл бұрын

You ran face first into the point and still missed it... You’re right, it only really works if they’re willing to participate in productive dialogue.. If they’re not, it isn’t a lost cause. “Eye for an eye,” is rarely the optimal approach to take with someone. The idea is to lead them to a state of mind where they can have that productive conversation. That’s the goal of the content here; to teach viewers how to tell people things they may not want to hear, but without triggering them to become defensive.

@cerenyldz2754

2 жыл бұрын

@@mendelson6052 whatever helps you sleep at night, "nice" person on the internet.

@mendelson6052

2 жыл бұрын

@@cerenyldz2754 Ok? Lol

@mendelson6052

2 жыл бұрын

@Borfis Jort I said it’s rarely the optimal approach and I stand by that. I think vengeance has some inherent positives. I’m not sure that it’s ever healthy to chase, but knowing that people have a natural desire to, “Get even,” I believe it helps maintain accountability. When we know there are negative consequences to a bad decision, we’re less likely to make said decision. You won’t punch some random person in public, unprovoked, even if you really want to because you know you’re probably going to get punched back. I recognize the value in that... But I believe there’s almost always a better approach than meeting someone with equal and opposite force.

@mendelson6052

2 жыл бұрын

@Borfis Jort That depends on the situation. For example, if I’ve been performing above expectations consistently for a significant period of time at work, I ask my boss for a raise, and he says no, I could just refuse to keep providing the quality of work I have been. That’ll teach him, right? He told me no so now I’m gonna tell him no and then he’ll give me the raise, right? Maybe... if he doesn’t fire me. But rather then be defensive toward him, I think a much better option would be to prepare a presentation or at the very least, a solid argument as to why I think I deserve a raise. I’m going to calmly, clearly, and concisely address several key business needs, how I’ve been fulfilling them, how I plan to continue improving my productivity, and I’ll be sure to draw attention to the amount of time that I’ve been performing at this level. Then I’ll ask for the raise. If I’m still told no, I’m not going to get angry. I’m not going to pursue any sort of revenge. I’m going to thank him for his time, go home, and start looking for another job. Let’s say I get a job offer that’s comparable but the raise I asked for is worth staying for. Now I’m going to carefully and strategically leverage my new job offer to get the raise I originally asked for. In this scenario, I can professionally force my boss’s hand without threatening his ego. I don’t have to make things personal or get even with him to get what I want. You can influence people without making things messy.

Blessed are those who have a friend like that.

A few of my friends told me not to get married because she wasn't right for me. I didn't understand what they meant and was a little angry. We got divorced in 2 years. I have so much respect for them for being willing to have the difficult conversation. I should have listened.

@ImGoingSupersonic

2 жыл бұрын

What were their reasons for her not being right for you.

@SD-pi9co

2 жыл бұрын

They had a 50% chance of being right by default.

@Bal3na

Жыл бұрын

Yup, I am extremely confrontational. I told my friend not to get married to this one guy just kas everyone else is getting married and kas he had $. She didn't love him either. I even told him too but he didn't listen. They got divorced 3 years later. she was always going out cheating on him while telling him she was going out with me. Anyways found another dude left her hubs for a younger kid (broke af) lol. And her ex hubs was blaming me along with her mom because she would say she's out with "me" when i never went took her out nor introduced her to any dudes. I didnt support her cheating habits and we arent friends no more kas shes fake. Now her new guy is cheating on her. While she stuck at home w baby.

@Bunny11344

Жыл бұрын

@@Bal3na I wouldn’t be friends with anyone like that in the first place

@bjosey855

Жыл бұрын

@@Bunny11344 this exactly

There is a difference between being assertive and being aggressive

@gjit4077

5 жыл бұрын

You are everywhere dude 😂

@superthorc6894

5 жыл бұрын

Michael Jay - Value Investing and that sadly people forget this

@ynoter

5 жыл бұрын

where can someone buy likes

@redram5150

5 жыл бұрын

Tell that to a woman during an argument and see how it goes

@dirtydan9457

5 жыл бұрын

What about being aggressively nice!

The problem is sometimes people mistake their opinions for facts and sometimes they have a lot to lose. It's great that he is comfortable and able to speak up without losing his livelihood. I wish this was always the case.

Whenever you are having a critical conversation, simply use the BUILD,BREAK, BUILD theory; Build them up by saying things you like about them, then address the issue and how you feel and then end off by Building on the things they do well. This way the conversation starts off with the individual feeling great about them self and then going straight into what the issue is causes them to feel less offended because they know it’s coming from a good place. After addressing the issue, finish things off by saying things they do well. This way they feel super hyped about themselves and take your thoughts into consideration.

@copperfish543

2 жыл бұрын

That depends... When someone like a boss says you know, you are doing a great job, you have exceeded expectations, and you understand blah, blah blah. BUT! , and then it comes. If a boss starts with the build up, I become suspicious from the start. If its a friend, or my wife OK its usually sincere, it depends on who does the build up.

@fernandorodriguez876

2 жыл бұрын

This can work but only to an extent and maybe not at all for many people, it’s either too obvious what’s about to happen if they’re smart enough to realize it or just ignore your advice completely.

@mendelson6052

2 жыл бұрын

Build, break, build can almost always be very effective. Usually, if it’s ineffective, that’s because the person using it has made some mistakes. There are several important factors to take into consideration, subtlety being one of them. The right tool for the job doesn’t work if you don’t know how to use it. It really comes down to how effectively it’s used rather than the potential success of the technique itself.

@snu3877

2 жыл бұрын

I've also heard this called the "sandwich method," and since I know about it, it is so manipulative when I see people doing it to me. I suppose it might work if people didn't know about it.

@sdla690

2 жыл бұрын

At least Your boss has cared about your feeling by putting build break build in the conversation. Being sensitive is a gift but not ego sensitive

Look, this is something that I've been wanting to tell you, but I've been uncomfortable about it, and I haven't wanted to say it. No one is gonna sign up for Charisma University.

@fraudster111

5 жыл бұрын

LMAOROFL!!!!!!!! This is underrated as fuck! But I do think no one is an exaggeration. Still funny though. Hold this W

@arminneashrafi2846

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah They are kind of being greedy by capitalizing On human behavior and the eight way to deal with things,these are things ALL PEOPLE need to know not just the ones who pay or happen to have good parents.

@Kennnny77

5 жыл бұрын

Look, this is something that I've been wanting to tell you, but I've been uncomfortable about it, and I haven't wanted to say it but I'm afraid ....you were born without the rare sarcasm gene.

@travishund194

5 жыл бұрын

I've been wanting to say that same thing for so long

@JJs_playground

5 жыл бұрын

LMAO... Savage

"Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony." Beautiful. I've been trying to express this point for years (to people who believe in lying to temporarily silence or placate every minor disagreement that arises), yet somehow I just couldn't get the words right in a concise manner. Thank you.

@qheist

5 жыл бұрын

First I agreed with that quote but then i wondered what social value actually is and if it's always helpful or even necessary

@ThePharaohsCat

5 жыл бұрын

In Japan, and other parts of Asia you have to choose honest conflict VERY carefully. When and how. EDIT... This may be even more crucial for the foreigner. As the penalties can be sometimes arbitrary.

@contranym9250

5 жыл бұрын

Yes. It is perfectly stated by Mr. Rogan; parents start teaching their children how to tell so-called “white lies“ so as not to rock the social boat. I live in a town that holds Harmony-even though it’s a thin veneer of harmony -at all costs.. I don’t have any friends in this town, which is ironic since I’ve lived here longer than I have ever lived anywhere in my life. Nine years. I am only here because this is where my elderly parents are, and I thought that it was only fair to my daughter and my parents that they have some kind of relationship. So I “sentenced” myself to 18 years in this town or until my parents die. As the only single parent in all of the fourth grade, all through grammar school my child was often not included because of my marital status and general “different-ness” (I am an artist, I don’t care about consumption/consumerism, defining myself by what I own, etc). Now my kid is in middle school and things have gotten exponentially worse, as I discover that even the so-called professionals live under this veil of fake niceness.

@ThePharaohsCat

5 жыл бұрын

Grawlix Sounds like suburbia many parts of the world. But I recognise that extreme in Japan. One has to accept you cannot force people out of their fearful existence, and sometimes accept our lot. I live in a similar locale, but have an active network beyond my area. Have you tried getting involved in community events? Schools, voluntary work etc? Acting in a safe space can help foster relations.

@contranym9250

5 жыл бұрын

DionysianAssasin first off it was super sweet of you to respond, knowing there’s one person out there, a total stranger that gives es a damn. My friends are scattered all over the world, find a community in which I was excepted would be a long long drive. I live in New England (One of the worst places in America to make new connections) Thank you again it was a pleasure hearing from you

I have always said what is on my mind when asked and spoke truthfully without malicious intent and always showed respect where it is due but not a given. I also have no friends

@starboy1100

3 жыл бұрын

Who needs fair weather friends anyway?

@gretchengeorge5302

3 жыл бұрын

Your statement is probably false, then.

I love you dude, but you need to stop distracting me from my homework

@matthewwodatch4613

5 жыл бұрын

Ha ha true

@fredb6525

5 жыл бұрын

yep just happened to me

@yassinlwest6258

5 жыл бұрын

I like this pull push compliment

@dawoodkashif4482

5 жыл бұрын

Same bro!!

@southpeak6079

5 жыл бұрын

I’m also doing homework

*"If it's very painful for you to criticize your freinds, you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue."* -- Alice Duer Miller

@yesterway

5 жыл бұрын

Good advise!

@Edgewater2

5 жыл бұрын

Ty! ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ✌ 🙃

@Edgewater2

5 жыл бұрын

P.S. You welcome 🤪

@derekeano

5 жыл бұрын

I could see that, but some guys are good at ribbing each other, like making jokes at each other's expense to point out little flaws.

@Northernliiights

5 жыл бұрын

Hade inte förväntat mig att se ett Roffe fan här.

There are so few people left that understand these concepts.... it just makes me sick that we've completely lost sight of the value of honesty in the proper contexts. But there's always hope to bring it back, thanks for shedding light on this!

telling the truth is hard, but finding friends who are willing to HEAR it is much harder!

Don't make me say it... I'm not sorry that you broke your elbow

@Oogboog203

5 жыл бұрын

JackStrait im about to say it (say it! say it!) i don’t care that you broke your elbow

@jackryan5268

5 жыл бұрын

We live in a society

@nonstoprofling

5 жыл бұрын

I'm dying laughing omfg.Was not ready for that.

@augmentedrealities

5 жыл бұрын

i was going to like, but 777

@2turnt23

4 жыл бұрын

JackStrait 😂

Joe's a tough guy but he's a sweetheart.

@dominostimes2119

4 жыл бұрын

Like everyone who only speaks the truth

@ashleymackinnon7072

4 жыл бұрын

He is not a tough guy a groupie to a fake fighting organization can't u morans see through this arrogant little narcissist

@ashleymackinnon7072

4 жыл бұрын

@saganist a arrogant annoying comedien with an obsession with violet sport how does that make him a role model bong on Joe

@StarfieldRailway

4 жыл бұрын

He could have had those tough conversations with his friends off air. He did not need to humiliate them with an enormous audience listening. That was low down and selfish.

@ironwilled9471

4 жыл бұрын

@@StarfieldRailway totally agree. He used them for youtube views

Without sound, Joe Rogan and Carlos Mencia look like they are battle rapping.

I think it's great to give someone advice in privately. I think its rude - and a lot of the times just an ego boost- to tell someone something in front of everyone.

@kelskitchenpresents

2 жыл бұрын

that part.

@evelina787

2 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more Ws just this morning mentioning a dentist whom shmed my friend for not brushing her teeth enough in front of all the other clients he had in his waiting room :-Completely not required whtsoever 🙏

@iamweird321

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. A co worker emailed my boss and upper ups regarding a mistake I made. Instead of speaking to me privately as a professional should, she decided to take the petty route.

@evelina787

2 жыл бұрын

@@iamweird321 God bless you :- It's a way of people with power, to a buse their power, Form of control, & when these professionls humili@te us, in front of others,,, they feel even More powerful, extremely sdly But folk whom aren't sh@llow,hopefully,,, well some of them, might see through this 🍀🙏

@evelina787

Жыл бұрын

@@JDobrozsi1 There's forever the option of telling them in either a sep@r@te room, or if a room apart from everyone else, truly isn't a possibility & it hs,,, to be s@id,there&then:-Then telling them in a whisper, so that no one else can hear, needs to be the way to approach However, i feel the a mount of times, one would need to give advice in front of others, immedi@tely,are limited Others shouldn't take offence if you tell them, they need to mke themselves sc@rce,whiles you spe@k to someone individually /confidentially I'm sure they'd like the sme respect, if it ws them, about to given personl advice Just putting ourselves in others shoes, helps immensely

thats sick man, but have you ever tried dmt ?

@BattlefieldMr

4 жыл бұрын

jaime pull that up

@peterjames777

4 жыл бұрын

Buddy of mine told me

@ViralKiller

4 жыл бұрын

DMT in an isolation tank bro...

@brandonbenford9197

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@3L3CTR0static

4 жыл бұрын

But have you looked into it?

Joe Rogan with hair is just wrong on a fundamental level.

@thelivingfreakshow5892

5 жыл бұрын

@Jack Percy I know that feel bro.

@Rocketninja200

5 жыл бұрын

FACT: Joe was born with a lush Elvis hair hairdo but made is go away with rational objective reasoning.

@mateomcguire543

5 жыл бұрын

Joe Rogaine

@Trpmanne

5 жыл бұрын

Thumb head

@jameslandon4126

5 жыл бұрын

That is a remark only liked by little millennials who don't remember Joe from the old days with hair.

Wow. Beautiful video! Conflict is scary but feels so good when done. Especially releasing repressed emotions.

"Realize that you don't have a conflict with a person but with a pattern of behavior". couldn't agree more.

“You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.” Winston Churchill

@tonyiacomi4822

5 жыл бұрын

"It is a sad thing if you have no friends. It is even sadder if you have no enemies." Che Guevara.

@chriscameron4706

5 жыл бұрын

@@tonyiacomi4822 we need both the right balance :-)

@budahbaba7856

5 жыл бұрын

Oh how i miss Winston Churchill... and i am not even British! But in a lot of ways, i don't find him all that dissimilar to Donald Trump. Military service is the obvious difference. But both men had a very obvious style that many other people found unbefitting of some one in their station. But they didn't change. Both of them preached a positive message, realizing when it is time to clear the poker table and just start a new game. But on the side, about WW2, and Soviet intentions, Churchill was ahead of the curve. Roosevelt, and then Truman, but mostly Roosevelt, sold out the American public, and he also sold out the latter part of the war effort. But i guess that was true to color, Roosevelt was more Red than he was Old Glory. And i don't just mean the American public, but also people like the stalwart resistance in Warsaw, Poland. Those people were flat out sacrificed over politics during WW2. Why? i don't understand that outside of pure politics. But it was wrong. And Winston Churchill knew it was wrong, and he at least disavowed that decision. And i say that with both respect and sympathy to the Russians, because i look at the USA as an event that happened at the right place, the right time, and purely by the grace of God -even though we have been far from Godly as a nation. The Russians would have loved to have what we have, and in some ways i think America patterned after Russia. Russia had Cossacks, here in the States we called them Pioneers. But here also is where another difference in our national development occurs. In the USA there was California territory where the 1849 gold rush occurred. There was Oregon, and now Washington that was so rich for farming and fishing. When Russians moved east, some under royal decree, some under royal opportunity, what did they encounter? A vast wilderness, yes ... and that is where my narrative is going to end, because just as i hate it, when even my good international friends presume to understand American history, i do not want to narrate Russian history further than setting a backdrop.

@bobrew461

5 жыл бұрын

Sher KhanHe said during the war "...we can take it!" (the bombing of London). He was voted out after WW2.

@JohnThomas-yo1no

5 жыл бұрын

I love this. I hate when you come across an obituary where it reads, “loved by everyone”. Then what the fuck did they do with their lives? They’re cowards.

If i had a kick like that I’d be able to solve conflict in a heart beat

@Kryptik33

5 жыл бұрын

I do have a kick like that. I didn't realize that I took the same martial arts as Joe. Taekwondo. That is one of my favorite kicks. And the turning hook kick.

@darko.l.1731

5 жыл бұрын

Problem is, you can always tell when Joe is about to throw a spin kick because you see him start to rotate his shoulders

@mrrip7184

5 жыл бұрын

Dark O.L. 1 😂 wtf u gonna do about it

@aidanristuccia2759

5 жыл бұрын

@@darko.l.1731 Here we go. Master martial artists here.

@researchroundearth4565

5 жыл бұрын

@@darko.l.1731 don't listen to those dibshits

People often mistake this for negativity or that someone can only see bad in them. But if handled gracefully, like Joe Rogan does, it takes on the role of necessary evil. And that's seriously hard to do. Much respect to him 🙏🏼 and thanks for yet another excellent video 👍🏼👊🏼

"Honest conflict has more value than dishonest harmony" wow, I love that.

step 1; learn martial arts......

@TheKickboxingCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@bluberri4367

3 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes yes go Go Go Go Go.

@JoinHerArmy

3 жыл бұрын

😆

@easyj8263

3 жыл бұрын

He thinks he’s tough

@oatnoid

3 жыл бұрын

Step two, get a gun.

I'd love to have Joe Rogan has a friend, sometimes its hard to be honest when people hate the cold hard truth

@Letyourcolorsblendwithmine

4 жыл бұрын

He's the best of us.

@ryanl775

3 жыл бұрын

Depends on how you deliver it... some people feed on other’s flaws & use it as a way to put them down, a true friend would go about it no different than Joe, cause the way he does it, leaves em blameless & only offer them to accept the game being given... unless that person is a narc🤣

@cass8330

3 жыл бұрын

I do have limited exposure to Joe Rogan, nevertheless he appears to 'actually' speak the truth rather than those that 'make out' its the truth when it's simply one's opinion..

@tikrineloja

3 жыл бұрын

It's best thing to have in your circle

@nicklopez8004

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder though if Joe rogan had a boss and the boss was doing things that Joe didn’t like or behaviors Joe didn’t like would you tell him even though he could risk joe getting fired from his boss?

Turns out I have more in common with joe than I ever previously thought. I commend him for his "keep-it-chill" mannerism while conveying his point across. Something I must learn BIG-TIME. I just get frustrated with people and it doesn't go they way it played out in my head. "You live, you learn". 💖🙏💖

Great video! I admire your honesty! I wish that more people wouldn’t be afraid to speak up when it’s necessary to do so.

@steviewondek

2 жыл бұрын

Would be great, just that some more primitive, physically stronger, larger humans are so well practiced/good at violence, often short fused/quick to resort to that rather than have a patient, respectful, honest discussion.

That's why I love this guy. Criticism is the highest form of care.

@paulsawczyc5019

5 жыл бұрын

Sure - criticism doesn't cost money so that's what cheapskates say.

@me0101001000

5 жыл бұрын

@@paulsawczyc5019 what are you trying to say?

@paulsawczyc5019

5 жыл бұрын

@@me0101001000 Talk is cheap - whether it's advice or opinion or criticism.

@me0101001000

5 жыл бұрын

@@paulsawczyc5019 sure it is, point taken. But it's a start. Especially from someone who loves you and respects you. I come from a home where nothing is more respected than growth and improvement. And someone giving you a point in the right direction shows that they have a stake in my excellence. Not discrediting your view. I'm just sharing one of my values.

@deanshafi3697

5 жыл бұрын

@@me0101001000 criticism is judgements criticism is also focusing on what someone else is doing sometimes you have to judge or have some sort of opinion but at the same point you wanna live and let live especially if what theyre doing isnt hurting anyone or is bettering them self

Hey hey hey Don't hey hey me Horse: I heard there was a lot if food here

@jayleeday

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@frankrodriguezit

3 жыл бұрын

😹😹😹😹

@andrewpham8563

3 жыл бұрын

Underrated 😂

@inkdew5620

3 жыл бұрын

@@andrewpham8563 just a lame joke

@coryander4918

3 жыл бұрын

:D :D :D

"When you accept the fact that being nice, and avoiding harsh truths isn't necessarily kind and it's NOT being a good friend..." - That hit me like a TON of bricks. Dang... Thank you for the wake up call - I REALLY needed to hear all of this.

You hit the nail on the head about knowing how to defend yourself. I've avoided far more fights by learning than when I was scared and pulled knives or bats when things got to far. Now I do as I feel and try to never be the bully whole never tolerating a bully.

Wanna be charismatic? Be sincerely interested in other people. Ask questions and let them speak...and be genuinely interested in what they say. PERIOD. That'll be $175.

@muzikology1018

5 жыл бұрын

squanto2 but what do I say?

@DreadfulRedemption

5 жыл бұрын

muzikology 101 spend the $175 and find out

@muzikology1018

5 жыл бұрын

@@DreadfulRedemption lol good one

@waleedmahmood863

5 жыл бұрын

Y'all accept Debit?

@argosbrave6415

5 жыл бұрын

2 lines from "How to win friends & influence people" doesn't equate to $175 or charisma, but sound advice otherwise!

Assertive people tend to seek out and create win-win scenarios. Assertive people understand the value of making their desires and beliefs known, but their pride isn’t damaged if their solution isn’t the one that comes out on top. Confident and assured, these people approach situations with a healthy dose of objectivity, and as a result, are able to communicate clearly and work through challenges in a low-stress, no-drama, and self-honoring way.

@Charismaoncommand

5 жыл бұрын

Solid summation :-)

@spammail06

5 жыл бұрын

I think that the behaviors you listed are desirable ones that we should strive for. I don't feel like those behaviors or characteristics (wanting to create win-win scenarios, communicate clearly,etc) are tied to being assertive, though. Someone can be completely selfish and be assertive. Someone can be dishonest and be assertive. Being assertive just means they are willing to go after what they want. It doesn't mean they have good intentions or that they want to create win/win scenarios or that they are reasonable people. I feel like you're more describing someone that is truly comfortable with them self and grounded in their beliefs which is different than someone that is just assertive.

When I was in a bad relationship, that was also getting me into conflict with my mother, my best friend told me "I have too much respect to tell you its gonna be ok" after telling me I'm better off without that girl, and he was right. I haven't spoken to that girl since we broke up for years now and me and my Mum still get along great. Really glad he's my best friend and he shares similar traits to Joe, he isn't gonna insult me, he's just gonna look out for me

Those that care for you are willing to speak truthfully even if it's not something easy to hear or might be hurtful.

"Hey, hey, hey, hey" "No hey, hey, hey" "Hey, hey, hey, hey" "No hey, hey, hey"

@gorgoncorvenus4529

5 жыл бұрын

Hey no!

@ohtehlolz

5 жыл бұрын

Hey is for horses... and cows like you! Joe missed that stand up gem.

@rosswatson3758

5 жыл бұрын

The Miz breaking it up lol

@simen-pedrokaroliussen9163

5 жыл бұрын

Joe: Do you want a ''Hey Hey Hey'' or a ''No Hey Hey Hey'' Jonathan: ''No Hey Hey Hey'' Joe: ''No Hey Hey Hey'' Jonathan: ''Yes no Hey Hey Hey Joe: ''Really No Hey Hey Hey''

@charissecoal

5 жыл бұрын

Did you just save me 11 minutes?

Don't be afraid of confrontation.

@HISNAMEISJOHNCENA-sn7cg

5 жыл бұрын

True.

@maleautonomy1436

5 жыл бұрын

But pick the confrontations well, never with one who will definitely seek vengeance.

@Irregular_maintenance

5 жыл бұрын

If you stop to throw a rock at every dog that barks, you will never reach your destination.

@peterorosz9278

5 жыл бұрын

joe rogan' uses steroids folk, thats where the confidence and agression comes from

@coronavirus3688

5 жыл бұрын

@@maleautonomy1436 aurelius, those people, you kill those people.

I'm not afraid of Confrontation. I've notice when I'm too nice I get ran over but when I speak up tactfully then I'm respected

@ZERO-nc7td

2 жыл бұрын

It's like a on and off switch for me, If am off then am a complete jerk

Thank you man! I can't believe how similar our 'transition to woodworking' stories are. I'm right now on a rough patch, rethinking and worrying about if I'll be able to financially make it, but your story hyped me up again, God bless you for sharing.

@williamguillIII

11 ай бұрын

To give up is easy. To continue is harder. To Believe, is the hardest. To defeat the fear of all of these things....is Winning!

Honest conflict has more social value than disonest harmony! So truee

....BUT, there’s a difference between telling your friend that he isn’t a good fighter when it’s just the two of you and telling your friend he isn’t a good fighter on a video posted to KZread.

@brettbewley5798

5 жыл бұрын

God yes thank you. This is what I was going to post. "Thanks for the brutal honesty Joe! And thanks for bringing it up on your show and publicly humiliating me vs talking about it in private!" I mean if Joe tried telling the guy how he felt multiple times in private and he wouldn't listen, then that would be one thing, but they don't act like they've had the conversation before.

@shlefrainnn

5 жыл бұрын

Well when Brendan Shaw was on a PODCAST he probably agreed to do it

@fntime

5 жыл бұрын

You are right. It's a 'prick move'. I think he's a guy who likes to hurt people both verbally and physically. He lacks self awareness.

@brettbewley5798

5 жыл бұрын

@@shlefrainnn No one is saying he didn't agree to do the podcast. We're saying he didn't know Joe was going to bring that up, which he could have done in private.

@gilbertroman1817

5 жыл бұрын

Tallingnabout brandon haha bhe should know

1 just be a man of conviction and integrity and tbh if you where raised around this type of man it comes naturally

Man, there has been so many times in work situations where I said things out loud that i knew everyone else was thinking and I never really felt like it got me anywhere other than bosses being pissed at me and coworkers not backing me up.

@ArnoldQMudskipper

3 жыл бұрын

You forgot to say "I love you, man", first. and be Joe Rogan

Most importantly: KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE. This type of "straight talk" behavior will absolutely gain you respect from certain types, while alienating you from others. Absolutism is just as divisive as it is decisive.

@glenn2328

5 жыл бұрын

I disagree. The ones who cannot handle it will walk away yes. And for the better. But trust me, they are always impressed by the event and it will stay in their minds for a long time even changing their views much later on. It is never decisive by sticking to rational thought and objectivity. Acting fake and giving faked and baked responses is what is divisive since it always creates distrust and insecurity in many forms.

@glenn2328

5 жыл бұрын

P.S you did not pay attention. This sort of behaviour is the opposite of absolutism.

@rugbynimbus

5 жыл бұрын

Incorrect. The belief that there is a one-size-fits-all approach to communication is definitive absolutism. Communication is about nuance and adaptability: tact and connection at one end, directness and candor at the other. As long as one is being sincere, each works with a different audience but neither work across the board.

@KegWarrior

5 жыл бұрын

Most importantly, be respectful. We live in a heated, opinionated, and belief driven world and no matter what you do, think, or say people will disagree with you...but honestly that has nothing to do with respect. Respect isn't something you earn, it's something you lose and if you're lucky you get the chance to earn it back if you do lose it. If you show respect, regardless of the subject, the opinion, the belief and the emotions the only ones who you will lose respect with are the ones who have no respect.

@rugbynimbus

5 жыл бұрын

Which is fairly close to how this all opened: KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE. Not everyone likes Chipotle, not everyone voted for Trump, not everyone thinks Joe Rogan is awesome, not everyone likes "straight talk" communication. Adjusting your technique to align with your audience is critical to being 1) understood, and 2) trusted.

Joe “Joe Rogan” Rogan

@shotglassanhero

4 жыл бұрын

Joe “I only smoke DMT on Tuesdays” Rogan

@ryanpettus546

4 жыл бұрын

Ahaha!

@crunchy1547

4 жыл бұрын

shotglassanhero No, not right now. Sober October.

@idk-nq7ki

4 жыл бұрын

Joe

@Play1nWithFire

3 жыл бұрын

@G4LAXY if you really think that I feel sorry for you lol

First ,I'd like to thank you for your content. Its game changing. Second , please understand in no way ,shape ,or form do I feel or believe I'm better than anyone. I'm a truly ,genuine ,humble person to the core. If I apply your teachings into me as a whole. Mind body and soul. I have the potential in becoming someone great. Someone the world needs. I say this with zero arrogance and I'm not being cocky but the world needs ,I NEED, some B- RAD in it.

Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your good nature and use it against you. Don't be so nice that you start to resent the people you're nice to.

The first is RESPECT yourself, ACCEPT yourself LOVE yourself and the rest follows

@ftmrebel7500

5 жыл бұрын

Amen, I actually needed to read that. You can't even genuinely feel respect from others if you don't respect yourself

@orangetoes223

5 жыл бұрын

You forgot UNDERSTAND yourself

@kiritadoshi

5 жыл бұрын

While you should almost always respect yourself and love yourself, it can lead to very dangerous thinking. People are starting to think that they shouldn't strive for a better them and it is partially because they think that they are "perfect" the way they are. When in reality most everyone is not ever without the need of improvement.

@Hal2718

5 жыл бұрын

To paraphrase Louis C.K., self love is important, but self awareness is more important.

@RabbitConfirmed

5 жыл бұрын

Agree 100%.. I try to do all of that. Sometimes it's harder. But I think if you work on that, it's the best you can do!

I call out "friends " for being self absorbed ,talking only about themselves, and just calling when they need something. Nobody calls me anymore! I love it

I tried once to be assertive, next day I was fired)

@UnionWireman292

5 жыл бұрын

You gotta start somewhere....good job

@GoogleAccount-po1gl

5 жыл бұрын

@@UnionWireman292 Good job? You mean..No Job. Lololol.

@Quebonitoeslobonito123

5 жыл бұрын

That’s when the 48 Laws of Power come into play

@kennethwilkinson2095

5 жыл бұрын

+emergerq no mate that's a dictatorship

@michaelserrano7097

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, happened to me too.

"Believing that honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony." These are words of gold and words to live by. Speak with your mind and with your heart even if it offends others. I agree with this and live by this daily, because I'm not afraid of false validation, by others, nor living with disillusionment amongst others. I'll gladly speak with my mind and give my honest opinion.

At the risk of sounding like I’m passing the buck, the circumstances one finds oneself in does play a role. I used to firmly, but politely/respectfully/“kindly”, stand-up for the truth with righteousness as my armour; but I would always come up against people (often even those I was speaking in defence of) treating me like I was a trouble maker, even though they acknowledged that the other person was out of line. Thus, I no longer stand-up for what’s right, not because I’m a coward, but because I’m surrounded by cowards & it’s just not worth it anymore. When I move to a new area - with people of hopefully better character - next year I’ll try to reboot my interactions with people & start openly displaying my principles again.

Eddie Bravo favorite phrase. You just haven't looked into it.

@billhiggs8908

4 жыл бұрын

The earth is so flat it’s crazy.

@Afineaddition

4 жыл бұрын

I’M CRAAAAZY

@eleven9286

4 жыл бұрын

Michael Garrett exactly! We live in the information age, too much for us to handle and most people don’t seem have the faculties for real truths anyways..

@rorschachsjournal2084

4 жыл бұрын

Are you married to the ball? 18 months and you be a flatter.

When I was going through tough times,(which was when I needed validation the most) I would have this almost frowning expression, which to me was my calm face, the 😐 face. People would tell me I looked upset and would not want to talk to me, found me unapproachable. Well life started to take a turn for the better for me. I found love, a career path I want to go down. My expression changed more to something like 🙂 but maybe not so exaggerated. People started talking to me, even laughing at unfunny stuff I said. What I learned from this is if your upset about life in general, try to change that. Try to smile more, you will see how people view you change. And if you see someone with a frown, talk to them. If they look at you weird, at least try to say something they can't really get mad at like "Wow it's been cold these few months, I was hoping I could get out more" or "what are your plans for today?" If they say "just work" you say "Really? Where do you work?". It usually works, but if they want to be left alone, respect their decision. I'm only saying this because we have a habit of dismissing people who really need someone to talk to. Or at least I'm perceiving it that way. Sorry for giving you guys an essay. Also if I butchered english it's cause I'm typing on my phone.

@armenvegas

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, I will try

@armenvegas

2 жыл бұрын

@@ryanjensen5897 awesome update too.

@SwordWieldingDuck

2 жыл бұрын

But as you said, you FIRST found love and career path, and only THEN your expression changed.

@korab.23

2 жыл бұрын

I love what you said about connecting with others. Too often, we ask, "How are you?" and don't actually expect an answer. Life is hard and being open about it in a reasonable way is the only way we're gonna break the walls down. I usually answer in an exaggerated way ("My life is a flaming train wreck but I'm getting by alright. How are you?") but at least I'm being honest and I'm always glad to hear others stories. When you're open, other people tend to be open too.

Saying that, "You should say the harsh truth, but not every negative thought," reminds of when my PE coach said, "Being as healthy as possible doesn't mean, 'Never eat a pizza, ' and 'Never eat a ding dong.'"

Speak the truth with clarity and in a calm manner to convey understanding to the individually!!! Confrontation does not have to be violent and finger pointing....its about expressing truth about an issue or behavior!!!...

His ability to round house kick anybody into the shadow realm has nothing to do with the respect he gets.

@callanc3925

5 жыл бұрын

You think he would have the confidence to not backdown when a 6ft muscled guy gets right up in his face yelling if he wasnt trained in jiu jitsu? nah neither

@nikojohnson3155

5 жыл бұрын

Into the shadow realm, that made me laugh

@JF-xm6tu

5 жыл бұрын

Into the shadow realm bahahha a fellow yugioh bro

@fabiansanchez7203

5 жыл бұрын

Yes it does

@InsideAssassin2

4 жыл бұрын

itsC0ll0n joe would just get them on the ground and choke them out

that's crazy, have you ever tried DMT?

@ramonlopezjr2403

5 жыл бұрын

Romain Vaes came here for the video, stayed because of this comment hahahaha

@michaelfox5965

4 жыл бұрын

Ya

@starrix4712

4 жыл бұрын

Why are there two comments like this, am I missing something? I find it so creepy on some sort of mentally rupturing energy

@rishirajsaikia1323

4 жыл бұрын

What is DMT

@estrelladelmar6466

4 жыл бұрын

@@rishirajsaikia1323 Spirit molecule.

Being blunt yet still possessing humility is what makes me respect Joe Rogan. He's smart and he listens too, which is also important if you want to be heard.

Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony...THAT'S DEEP! True that!

So basically to command respect, start all criticism by saying I love you.

@MarkBentley

5 жыл бұрын

"I love you, BUT..."

@NoName-np8ko

5 жыл бұрын

"I love you, honey, but you really need to lose some weight, fatty"

@tasmaniandevil6750

4 жыл бұрын

Compliment sandwiches are effective. If you just hit someone with a bunch of criticism they will reject your criticism and consider you the problem

@12theunknown12

4 жыл бұрын

Davida or you just... Idk.. say the word? Lol you don’t always have to mean what you say

Joe Rogan is right in how he confronts people and disagrees with them, but he’s not always correct in what’s he’s saying when challenging people.

@NickChase

5 жыл бұрын

True

@sarbjitkaur1384

5 жыл бұрын

Everyone has their own truth

@knowyourcharacter140

5 жыл бұрын

That's his opinion and that's all that matters

@bradspitt3896

5 жыл бұрын

That's fine. The point is to stand up for what you believe in. If he's wrong he should get called out by someone else standing up for what they believe in.

@sockgremlin9746

5 жыл бұрын

True. But I also think he takes criticism from his audience when they comes in big numbers. So that's a plus with working with his blind spots. I think he saw Crowder again and it was much more chill.

I always speak my mind and unfortunately it gets me in trouble.

@loganmason806

Жыл бұрын

How does it get you in trouble? Do people verbally attack you for speaking your mind?

thank god you are a better human being and respecting others personal life.

Eddie *”YOU JUST HAVEN’T LOOKED INTO IT”* Bravo

@blcklstd6156

5 жыл бұрын

Tearyatobitz EDGY BRAH IS EDGY, BRAH

@usmc8408

5 жыл бұрын

If Eddie starts a religion, I’m joining!!

@blcklstd6156

5 жыл бұрын

usmc8408 me too

@whinerkorven

5 жыл бұрын

cracked me up

@Tearyatobitz

5 жыл бұрын

Charlie Rothwill you know what, I will. I mean it does seem completely sane to take advice from a completely random person on the internet. Good bye cruel world *pretends to die; actually dies*

Also I JUST had a conversation like this with an animator friend of mine. He was expressing some resentment toward another animator that started the same time as him and was upset this other animator was more popular than him. I took a look at the other guy's art and I was blown away. It was more popular for more reasons than my friend assumed; this other animator was actually really really good and better than my friend's--but only in certain aspects! I was able to tell my friend where he is better than the other guy and where he could match up or surpass him, and my friend took the criticism quite well.

@gamerlost526

5 жыл бұрын

Good for him.

@focus45554

5 жыл бұрын

At least you told him he can improve on his weaknesses which I like unlike tell him that he will never be good enough. People prove naysayers wrong all the time and that is what makes them great.

@MorseCodeStutters

5 жыл бұрын

TNR oh man you're telling me. My friend's parents and other friends doubt his ability to make his art profitable in the long term. I have my doubts too but I don't tell him he can't and shouldn't do it. Just consider part time work so he doesn't starve. Otherwise I think he's good enough to make a decent living

Be firm and kind that’s how I parented my children. Articulate the how’s and why’s of your decisions. Key word Honest.

I'm surprised there are so many thumbs down. Your videos are very honest, well put together and educational. They also cover very pertinent topics in a professional and easy format.

@SD-pi9co

2 жыл бұрын

Because Rogan is a blow hard. His opinions aren't more important than anyone else's.

@jesse75

Жыл бұрын

Think about it. Most people are not willing to think and act out of their negative comfort zone.

Be heavily muscular and able to choke people out.

@marlonarancibia3247

5 жыл бұрын

Have a pair of balls

@marccola5588

5 жыл бұрын

I agree with both of you

@mauricio951

5 жыл бұрын

Pretty much. If you can defend yourself physically, you can say whatever you want without fear of retribution.

@ibrochillin

5 жыл бұрын

faxxtts 🤣🤣

@helicoptersrkool

5 жыл бұрын

Bruce Lee was about 7 stone, 5'8. He's still one of the most influencial, respected humans and fighters we'll ever see. All his muscle was lean, not bulk mass. I'm pretty certain there are guys twice his size who wouldn't have the balls to challenge him in a street fight when he peaked.

Joe rogan's confidence is nuts. The dude is strong af, funny af and pretty much becomes good at everything he does. His charisma comes from his successful life.

@jarviislet9069

5 жыл бұрын

bamdad19996 becomes good because of ludicrous commitment. Dudes default setting is obsession.

@apresmidi9534

5 жыл бұрын

Rich people get to be jerks. Some even keep their carrier alive by being a jerk.

@mmaman6931

5 жыл бұрын

I agree that confidence correlates with success

@zxcmvbn

5 жыл бұрын

That Guy Yeah he’s not funny at all lol. He just surrounds himself with funny people...

@michaelarojas

5 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure it came from being a comedian.

This guy's got a heart and I'd rather have somebody tell me the truth then to lie behind my back and don't say anything in fact it pisses me off pardon the language but people will end up just agreeing with you because they don't want confrontation it's how we handle the confrontation that is important being tactful be honest upfront and making the other person realize that you're not putting them down you just want to come to a proper conclusion and the other person doesn't have to agree with you that's the thing you don't have to force people to believe in what you say but at least you get it out and at least you have a good conscience for doing that there's nothing worse than deceit and believe me I've been deceived many times over to the point where I would say to somebody things such as now you're telling me! Why didn't you tell me that last year? Why did you have to wait so long to tell me this? I don't mind the truth. My father was a middleweight boxer and he always believed in truth and I remember crying as a little girl when he'd say things the way they were and he'd say to me you know I can't lie to you and then he'd saved I know the truth hurts. So I respected him I admired him and I looked up to him because he didn't beat around the bush he didn't deceive me. Here I am in my sixties and I came along in his life when he was in his forties he was born in 1906 and he went to the first World War II World War he went to the Great Depression and he used to jump the trains make money doing things that he could do and even fought in the ring as a middleweight boxer and he was just an honest man

I've notice that being nice causes problems or people look at you wrong but people tell us to be good respect is always in the key its the things that people think in the back off there mind and don't know body gotta mess with you just watch the eyes lmoa

Joe "the Oprah for dudes" Rogan.

@Kaddywompous

5 жыл бұрын

VeganMikedizzle That’s true and very funny.

@romans8024

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@XinoMbr

5 жыл бұрын

Your videos are a life enhancement dude! 😁

@KyanosLoboDeSpirituSanctu

5 жыл бұрын

I lawled

@OlPalJoe

5 жыл бұрын

Favorite comment of the day man!

Don't be afraid of people not liking you.😉

@longboardguy

5 жыл бұрын

john vela that’s a big one

@j6865

5 жыл бұрын

john vela FTW

@ricoooooooo

5 жыл бұрын

What about coworkers?

@dreadnought6263

5 жыл бұрын

@@ricoooooooo yeah I need help on that too lol

@undeadpresident

5 жыл бұрын

I want them to not like me so much that they try to attack me at which point I have a legitimate reason to dispose of them with violence.

What’s worse we consciously took the word nice and made it something bad, it’s not even like it’s some weird confusion nobody notices it’s right in front of us. People even say “but… but…. nice guys aren’t nice they have expectations!” Yea, that’s why “nice” should stop getting attached to the common descriptor term for that type of man. Yet here we are doing anything but that.

I learned in school the main components of a confrontation 1) Never confront someone that you don't want to have a continued relationship. (which means that I don't confront someone without compassion. If I don't want anything to do with someone, I walk away. 2) The Confrontation is ALWAYS about ME 3) Make an observation statement on behavior I see, I observe, I hear, "when I hear you say...." I feel "scared" Based on my experience, I understand that to mean... whatever your experience is with that person or based on a faulty or reliable history of relationships with other people Ask for validation then make a statement of what I want/expect/need further in this relationship