Imagine if a man was following a woman around commenting on her body and wieght, trying to force feed her food. No means no in this context to.

@5Demona5

2 ай бұрын

Ikr?! If anyone told Peg to "Gain/lose a couple of dozen pounds" they'd get suspended without a second thought

@LA-mz1dd

2 ай бұрын

Agreed! Holy shit peg is crazy.

@CyeOutsider

Ай бұрын

The genders don't need to be reversed to think Pegs behaviour is psychotic harassment. Gender reversal comments aren't helpful when nobody is saying the behaviour is ok just because the offender is a woman.

@Nico6th

Ай бұрын

I honestly didn't listen properly and thought OP was a girl. You know, the whole "other women being jealous because Op is thinner" thing... Somehow a person trying to "fatten up" someone of the opposite gender makes it even more icky. Even without OP's allergies and medical issues, this whole thing is so strange. Even if OP had had an ED, pushing food onto them would not have made anything better. On the contrary, it could have made it worse.

@SnowWhite-wt4pw

6 күн бұрын

Getting tired of today's concept of "you did something to hurt my feeling's, but it doesn't matter if I infringed on your's, cause mine are the only one's that matter's" Its getting really old....

Jegus cripes, original OP was losing weight because he was _dying of cancer,_ and these coworkers just hounded him and made it worse.

@a_paradoxfunction4156

2 ай бұрын

The fact that OP’s husband had to get a restraining order against Peg when he was in hospice is absolutely insane.

@julestloid

2 ай бұрын

I was wondering why this story made me especially sad. Didn't quite connect the dots until I read this comment.

@timgalivan2846

2 ай бұрын

It's clear peg was not a very smart cookie and thought he was anorexic (comments about diet and cheat days, starving himself) She was a dumb dumb

@TarkTheWild

2 ай бұрын

Never knew. That opens my eyes. :(

@WaitinInAmber

Ай бұрын

Wait how do you know?? Edit: ignore me 😓 just remembered I needed to finish listening to the story

it wasn't about the food. peg has control issues and doesn't like being told no. a normal person would offer a couple times, then either give up or realize that their food isn't wanted. peg turned it into a battle of wills, to impose her will on OP. if i was OP i would accept all the food and give it to a coworker friend and let peg lose money after she didn't get the hint for the 100th time.

@zathtanks

2 ай бұрын

I like to feed ppl. I’d find out what I could make and how to sanitize for making the most vulnerable person included

@zathtanks

2 ай бұрын

For bringing in group things.

@zathtanks

2 ай бұрын

It’s very important if you want to bring in group things to consider vulnerable ppl

@marymystery4427

Ай бұрын

​@@zathtanks You sound like a nice person, thanks for considering those with dietary restrictions when trying to do something nice

@CMDR_Squishface

Ай бұрын

Also, I would probably just start throwing it away only when she's looking while maintaining the most aggressive eye contact possible

So what exactly is Peg's endgame here? Is she insecure over her pregnancy weight gain that she has to bully the thinnest person she can find?

@BlackBackLioness

2 ай бұрын

*who also had cancer at the time which was likely (in fact I’m positive) the reason for his weight loss

@smokinggnu6584

2 ай бұрын

Some people genuinely can't stand to be told no. I'm guessing this is one of those cases.

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

She thinks OP has an eating disorder and is using food allergies as a cover

@stephanien6237

2 ай бұрын

She’s clearly not mentally well.

@jessicaostman5531

2 ай бұрын

I got scared every second I listened. Like damn, what is this feeding? And then it clicked, deep insecurities. Had this been a man doing this to a woman this would have been handled so much faster.

This is just as bad as bullying an overweight coworker by giving them diet food. It's bodyshaming all the same.

@livewellwitheds6885

Ай бұрын

considering that op has a deadly allergy I would say it's actually slightly worse. both are rude but feeding somebody things they are allergic to is essentially attempting to poison them

@ravanpee1325

11 күн бұрын

Can you die by vegetables as a person without allergies but just to much fat on the ripps

I hate everyone in this workplace. Especially that boss. HR is exactly who you contact. This is just medical bullying.

@LunaP1

2 ай бұрын

OP could've easily file attempted murder charges against Peg.

@willambonney

2 ай бұрын

Wth is wrong with that woman?...trying to stuff ops face with food???

@linpittsburgh2375

2 ай бұрын

The persistence!!! What was wrong with her? Is this some kind of postpartum psychosis by proxy?

@julestloid

2 ай бұрын

​@linpittsburgh2375 People do sometimes end up going a little cuckoo after giving birth. Not everyone, but some people. I used to know a woman who, after giving birth, got such bad postpartum depression that she basically got addicted to meth. So did her husband, but he took it a step further and got addicted to heroin. She used to lie to the kids around her, saying that it was their diabetes meds. Didn't tell her son the truth until her husband passed from an overdose.

@FlipTheBard

2 ай бұрын

​@@willambonney She probably wanted to feel like she was "saving OP from a poor diet". Saviour complex with some narcissism on the side.

“She was probably feeling maternal.” “Newsflash: I’m a grown-ass man, not her child!” Like, Wtf was even the logic of that response!?

@brianaschmidt910

2 ай бұрын

Pretty shit maternal feelings if her first thought is to try and kill someone. (Albeit with good intentions, but the road to hell is paved with good intentions)

@anonmouse15

2 ай бұрын

Once had a morbidly obese coworker constantly try to offer me food, and I'm not a shrimp, either.

@Emi_TheWinged

2 ай бұрын

@@brianaschmidt910 Yeah like? So if it was really her child she would have killed him because of her stupidity and they call it maternal instinc?

@wednesdayschildfullofwoe

2 ай бұрын

Right??!! Like even if she was....So?? And?? How is that "feeling" PLUS action considered appropriate? No way should she have been able to get away with bullying him like that.

@stephanien6237

2 ай бұрын

It’s amazing how much time at work she wasted with this ridiculous behavior! And how much of her own life she devoted to this terrorist campaign.

the coworker is literally force feeding OP, it's disgusting

@Maninawig

2 ай бұрын

My mom is a celiac. This isn't too uncommon to get this treatment when the person is not taking care of their diet can lead to malnutrition and people tend to react similarly as seeing an anorexic. It's a savior complex.

@darkriku12

Ай бұрын

Sounds like Chris Pratt's ex when he started losing weight and getting fit, she kept trying to sneak food and snacks whenever she could and became obsessed with it.

@EclipseSeth

Ай бұрын

@@Maninawig From what I understand, she was making innuendos of Ben eating her cooking (not to his face, but while talking to others and in emails). So she was sexually harassing him. Probably wanted Ben even though he had a partner (not sure if said partner was a man or a woman, either way it was horrible).

@Maninawig

Ай бұрын

@@EclipseSeth that could be. However, Ben himself admitted that he looked sickly. Tbh, there is a terrible condition where a (typically, from what I found) woman becomes obsessed with "saving" her man and will go to the point of poisoning them to do so. However, if they find someone like Ben, it just saves them from using poison. Either way, it is mentally unstable.

@catinabox3048

Ай бұрын

@@EclipseSethHe said BF the entire time so his partner is a man.

If you have allergies NEVER eat something you dont know the exact ingredients that were used. And that stance is exponential to the amount of allergies you have.

@ChrissaTodd

2 ай бұрын

Ben said no so the moral is actually don't try to feed people.

@takanuva_9355

2 ай бұрын

@@ChrissaTodd my point was to enforce ben's stance but you are right

@jaysherman2615

2 ай бұрын

Even then knowing the exact ingredients isn't enough. Some allergies are so severe that even accidental cross contamination of nuts or shellfish can cause a terrible reaction.

@ingamingpc1634

Ай бұрын

@@jaysherman2615 you're right they actually had a reference to this in the cartoon Arthur where Binky had a peanut allergy he ate some cashews that were processed in a peanut factory and because of that he got an allergic reaction that caused him to have trouble breathing and a rash it's actually pretty educational the episode

The first story is literally passive-aggressive attempted murder. The lady tried to poison him over ten times, and it's his fault?! Outrageous!!

I found out a coworker had a strawberry allergy before another coworker's baby shower. I planned to make and bring a strawberry shortcake for the expecting mom, but guess what, I cared about both of these people and not my ego. So I made something completely different but just as delicious. It's not hard to be caring and much less to be humble and take no for an answer. Peg here was just patting herself on the back for being "a good person". Bleh.

@jestersreign7530

2 ай бұрын

Let's be honest it had nothing to do with being a good person. Given the final update Peg had an unhealthy interest in ben. It's proven by the fact that after she was fired she start it to stalk him until they got a restraining order

@ingamingpc1634

Ай бұрын

Or you know have the strawberry cake and the other cake separated from each other and make sure that everyone in your friend group knows about your co-workers allergy it's really easy to keep allergies away from people just have everyone aware of it as well so they aren't stupid in my restaurant because I used to work for Shakey's we were aware of all the customers allergies we kept separate plates and separate utensils for people with allergies so that no one would end up getting food that could potentially have been contaminated by an allergy we even had entire training regiments dedicated to making sure that people knew about allergies and how to cook for people with allergies but I do understand that you went all the way to make sure your co-worker was safe and I respect that but there was an easier way also trust me when I say this disinfect your dishes don't even wash them with water you have to disinfect them completely this is to make sure that all the food particles are completely off especially if you're dealing with allergies

@TheAndromedaGalaxi

Ай бұрын

You’re kind. Peg is nice. There’s a huge difference!

@randomfan4521

Ай бұрын

I get the feeling that the co-worker thought op didn't eat because of body issues and not a real allergy. She probably told everyone that, too, and about trying to help. I hate it when people just don't believe someone has a medical problem that they have to live with, but it's not real because they don't see it.

@christinac8644

24 күн бұрын

I got into the habit of writing out recipe with food I'd bring to potlucks. People appreciate it

Damn, that was a sad ending, crazy diet obsessed co-worker and useless manager for not shutting it down. It could have ended at that first meeting.

@themysterylady842

2 ай бұрын

It should have stopped when Op explained that he didn't take food from people and that it was nothing personal. Shouldn't have been a meeting in the first place. After all "no" is a complete sentence.

You know if the roles were reversed in the first story. OP definitely would've been terminated for workplace harassment.

@Afrogirrl

2 ай бұрын

If OP was obese and peg was giving her salads they would’ve 100% taken it serious

@helenamariawestphal4991

2 ай бұрын

@@Afrogirrlop is actually a dude

@ronnieferguson9337

2 ай бұрын

IMMEDIATELY!!!!! 😡

@ronnieferguson9337

2 ай бұрын

@@AfrogirrlFACTS! 😡

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

​@@Afrogirrl no they wouldn't, seen it happen

After the first time the manager refused to properly intercede OP should have contacted a employment attorney and started a harassment lawsuit.

@LunaP1

2 ай бұрын

And multiple accounts of attempted murder.

@funtimegenshin6973

2 ай бұрын

Yeah

@denisemadison1298

2 ай бұрын

Sadly, I think he was more focused on trying to live.....they hounded a dying man over freaking food while he had allergies and was dying of freaking cancer OMG!

Imagine if, a few years down the road, Peg’s kid is diagnosed with a ton of food allergies and becomes one of those parents who tries to do something like ban the classmates from even having peanut butter in the privacy of their own homes in fear the the nut particles will make their way to school and hurt her precious baby. I’m sure she would change her tune real quick. Still entitled, but from a different angle.

@Afrogirrl

2 ай бұрын

Nah nut allergies r common makes sense y their banned

@ChrissaTodd

2 ай бұрын

​@@Afrogirrlso can other food alergies :)

@tonemaster4608

2 ай бұрын

Nah, she'd be the person that would almost kill her kid cause she didn't believe in allergies

@aftersexhighfives

2 ай бұрын

I'm personally hoping her siblings have custody of her kids. Growing up with a momster like that would lead to some seriously messed up relationships with food. Poor kid/s.

@aftersexhighfives

2 ай бұрын

​@@AfrogirrlActually it doesn't make sense why they are banned. Shellfish is just as lethal and it is never banned. Some are allergic to water, ban that too? No. Everyone is in charge of themselves.

You look her in the eye and drop in the trash every ~single~ time. As you drop it in the trash say this "I said NO."

@LoneWanderSpark303

2 ай бұрын

As much as I dislike wasting food, it would be an effective way to make the point.

@dianaruman8723

2 ай бұрын

Alternately, hold on to all the food in a big bag somewhere safely away from you, and after a year or so, return the bag to her.

@LocksAndChains

2 ай бұрын

My friend actually did do that in a similar situation at her job. Middle aged woman kept trying to make her eat more and my friend decided to get aggressive in her refusals. The management also hated the middle aged woman, but couldn't get rid of her due to some seniority crap. She eventually got banished to another team.

@MethuselahWinter

2 ай бұрын

I would've screamed "ARE YOU TRYING TO FCKING KILL ME?!"

@mahtra.2372

Ай бұрын

​@@LocksAndChains sorry, stuff like that makes me angry. If they are so clearly harassing someone, seniority shouldn't play a role in such a decision. (I know it does, I just think it shouldn't).

Poor Ben, the guy is dealing with multiple health problems and this one lady just can't let him live his life. He says no, and tells her to stop. All boss says is "She's feeling maternal". Than she can be maternal to her own child instead of a grown ass man who might be sent to the hospital or morgue from her offerings. Hope his BF is doing okay.

@zathtanks

2 ай бұрын

He’s dead

@DaniGamerWarrior

2 ай бұрын

@@zathtanksit's why she said BF.

@ericanguy1

Ай бұрын

Not BF, widow. He said they got married legally a few weeks after he was diagnosed with cancer.

"man everyone here sounds insane" "We work at a hospital." "Ahhh so thats why"

@CG-yb6zj

2 ай бұрын

THAT'S what gets me, cuz you'd think they know better, least about nutrition and allergies, by default

@KanaidBlack

2 ай бұрын

​@@CG-yb6zj I think those extensive rotations leave people completly insane

@stephanien6237

2 ай бұрын

I thought they said they work WITH hospitals.

@bophi_true

2 ай бұрын

​@CG-yb6zj It is actually because if dealing with awful patients plus the arrogance of "knowing medicine" better than the average person. Even though the average people are stupid. Sorce: I work at a hospital. (Basically, trust me bro.)

@dianelipson5420

2 ай бұрын

Nailed it.

Even if op didnt have allergies and actually *did* have an eating disorder, Peg is still completely in the wrong cause forcing food on people with eating disorders is the furthest thing from appropriate It really does sound like Peg had some savior complex in her head thinking she could "save" this person who potentially had anorexia by being the "hero" that encouraged them to eat again

@pur3chao56

2 ай бұрын

Or a fetish

How is Peg’s child even alive? “I know the doctor said no raw honey, but I saved this honey tea just for my baby!!!” Sheer lack of empathy in this woman

@livewellwitheds6885

Ай бұрын

I feel like she won't be for long

If a guy did this to a woman, the guy would have not only been fired, but the boss would have made certain that he could never work in the same kind of job again and the woman would have been encouraged to press criminal charges for harassment

@rosierennie5867

2 ай бұрын

*THIS!!!* This!!! this this this!!!!! It's disgusting how women get away with it by being "maternal" but if it was the reversal and OP was forcing Peg to eat then OP would have been fired

@bluedragonfly8139

2 ай бұрын

Same would have happened if the roles were reversed and this was actually real.

@AmaryInkawult

2 ай бұрын

​@@rosierennie5867tbh I should be in prison for all the shit I done, but guess my meat cave has magical logic defying powers that makes people stupid. Fucking Halo Effect...

Am I the only one who feels like Peg's "concern" may have been a thinly-veiled fetish thing? After a certain point, most people would have given up and just made passive aggressive comments but her insistence felt inappropriate in a deeply uncomfortable way after a while...

@goldyd144

2 ай бұрын

Considering she wrote something lewd about OP in her emails, it most definitely could've been a fetish thing.

@bluedragonfly8139

2 ай бұрын

IDK, am I the only one who sees as very likely being made up?

@mahtra.2372

Ай бұрын

​@@bluedragonfly8139 the story is so very black and white and makes the reader so very sympathetic to OP. No self doubt, nothing. Though it might appear different, if it wasn't a collection of the posts, but spread over time.

@StonedHunter

Ай бұрын

Could also be insecurity about her post pregnancy body

@alliedatheistalliance6776

25 күн бұрын

Yeah, some strong 'Misery' vibes there. The stalking/ restraining order pretty much cemented that viewpoint too, people forget that women can have sexual fantasies too, and even behave inappropriately. OP didn't come across as one sided as most reddit posts imo, he even admitted to 'overreacting' (imo he acted reasonably) or said he acted like a toddler, which makes him seem very self critical. The actual list of incidents makes it clear Peg was a sociopath though.

I know this wasnt the point but RIP Ben. You did not deserve to be treated awfully within your final years. You were loved and still are well known on the internet and in the hearts of those who love you.

See, eventually I would jump up screaming "OMG WHY DO YOU WANT TO KILL ME!??!?!??! WHY DO YOU HATE ME!??! DO YOU WANT MY JOB OR SOMETHING!?!??!"

@alliedatheistalliance6776

25 күн бұрын

That's what sociopaths want I think, they subtly dig at you, then if you react they act like you're being unreasonable and it came out of nowhere.

How hard is it to respect someone's boundary?! "No" is a complete sentence. People are bizarre.

sad to hear Ben died

What kind of company allows this kind of harrassment to go on while pretending its okay?

@bluedragonfly8139

2 ай бұрын

An imaginary one.

@sTas073-i1e

Ай бұрын

I mean if nobody talks, nobody knows and nobody investigates

@JoseRivera-te9hw

Ай бұрын

@@bluedragonfly8139how old are you?

@selenagamya1612

25 күн бұрын

Hospitals are notoriously toxic work environments.

1st story: it is wild how that woman cannot grasp the concept of somebody maybe not fashioning their entire diet around their boyfriend’s preferences

@stephanien6237

2 ай бұрын

It’s wild how she doesn’t understand the concept of “no means NO!”

@christinef7739

25 күн бұрын

Where did you get the impression this was about Ben's BF's preferences?

The first story is pretty upsetting. Wtf is wrong with OPs coworkers?! They are a bunch of gaslighting aholes. Do they think op is lying about the allergies and health issues?! JFC 🤦‍♀️

Story 1, after op said no it should have been the end of it, And op's boss should have been fired soon for taking pegs side, when they also possible knew op's condition.

@DiaDaDemon2455

2 ай бұрын

Not 'possibly'. They knew. They just wanted to keep the peace.

@hamishstewart5324

2 ай бұрын

The way Ben’s ex boss gaslit him really pissed me off, so glad she was let go.

@SetsunaMeiou-SailorPluto

2 ай бұрын

They did know. All of it. They just didn't care because OP is a man and Peg is a woman and they thought it would be worse for them is SHE was to bring a lawsuit than if OP did.

@tarnw3301

27 күн бұрын

Mmm, isn't the person in story 1 a woman? Anorexia is pretty strange in men, and women would feel more compelled to make food for a female coworker that looks on the thin side than feed a male coworker.

@momoangel9243

27 күн бұрын

@@tarnw3301 rare to hear about but not uncommon, that and op himself said he was m24

Peg sounds creepy. Like what the heck is her deal? Even after things had been settled OP and his BF had to take out an RO on her because she was stalking him. The whole workplace is toxic af too. Either egging Peg on or ignoring the fact that OP could quite literally die if ingested anything Peg offered.

1st time: "No." 2nd time: "Fuck off."

So many hungry people right outside the door. But are they often treated to free food like this? Noooo. What happened to OP was bullying by food. Why don't they go "bully" really hungry people?

@AmaryInkawult

2 ай бұрын

Because he couldn't physically fight back for one, and two it's socially acceptable to bully men for any fucking reason. Try this shit with a woman and not only would HR immediately start the investigation with instant results, but you'd be fired from the current job and have no chance in finding work unless you moved. And I'm sure the gabbers would have tweeted about how shameful you are to bully a woman with food completely ignoring NDAs.

This really opened my eyes into how intrusive people are. I have food allergies, and people do this shit to me, and I hate it to the point of rage. I'm pretty assertive but this is too much.

So, essentially Peg is actively trying to kill OP while everyone is just sitting around watching and waiting to see if she will succeed.

RIP Ben the Op

Misunderstanding?? What misunderstanding? OP clearly and repetitively said "No.".

First story : what peg, boss and her colleagues did sure lined them up for an amazing lawsuit

Rip OP in story 1, that’s so horrible. I can’t believe it :(

@bluedragonfly8139

2 ай бұрын

You shouldn't believe it.

@user-ir7hl6gt8d

Ай бұрын

​@@bluedragonfly8139 I chose to believe. That is what separates weak men like yourself from strong men.

This had me screaming in anger/frustration. OP is so patient. I would’ve lost my shit

Even if OP had an eating disorder it’s still not Peg’s or any other coworker’s business or responsibility to “fix”. He’s a grown man and her behavior is not what being maternal means. Peg needs a hobby…

How was the food pushing thing not seen as workplace harassment from the start??!! OP was more kind and patient than I would have been.

@mespb

8 күн бұрын

It was harassment and a ton of retaliation. This is definitely a lawsuit, as no one corrected this despite being told.

1st story: its no ones business what anyone else eats

This wreaks of "friend who desperately wants to be considered the "mom" of the friend group"

She wasn't just trying to poison him despite knowing he has serious allergies, she also was leading an office wide bullying campaign against him and saying derogatory things about Ben being gay, and stalked him even with a restraining order! Peg is so creepy and violent.

Peg was doing too much. She was told to stop multiple times

Peg has serious issues about consent. It's highly problematic. Absolutely he should have contacted HR. It's disgusting.

As a feminist, No meams no. No matter the gender. That was genuinely disgusting to hear :(

How many times does OP have to say 'no' before they finally listen to him? Just read the final update - so sad, the rest if the staff all deserved to lose their jobs. Hope Ben's husband is doing as well as possible, look after yourself.

Ah yes, a "cheat day" on one's allergies because that's totally possible /sar

This hospital forgot that NO MEANS NO! Edit: Got to the end. SHE SAID THAT HE MADE HER COOK FOR HIM?!?!

@goldyd144

2 ай бұрын

More than that, as it's implied that Peg said something more lewd than that. I think Peg might've been attracted to OP, and the fact that he was not only gay, but also constantly rejecting her (even if it was just food) got under her skin so bad it became an obsession. You know that line "a way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Peg was a creep. I'm not surprised she stalked him, and sent those emails prior to starting her "must feed OP" campaign. If she was a man she would've been in fired immediately.

And here i thought that "no means no". WTAF? Edit: Jeebus crispy that first stories ending was a fucking gut punch.

I'd ask Peg if she's trying to kill me every time she tries to give me food. Throw the food in the tash in front of her.

Bruh, OP could've open his own food cart for office with all that food Peg tried to feed him. Would've make a great side money

The first time I read this story, I couldn’t believe the extreme lengths that Peg went to including the co-workers who sided her. She’s messed up

She was feeling maternal? No, she wasn’t. Being a mum means taking care of whom you love, not harming anyone ☹️

Man meat allergies SUCK. My best friend of 35+ years has had an allergy to red meat our entire lives, and just watching him have the reaction once will scare the hell out of you.

S1: NTA. The boss had a chance to do her job and she failed!! It's not hard to respect a person's food boundaries! Glad all the appholes were fired!

If Peg wanted sooo badly to give something for OP to eat, why didn't she ask him what he could/wanted to eat instead of just giving him things he cannot eat?? Also, seems like body shaming is ok when the target is a skinny guy, and "no" doesn't mean "no", but "force me instead".

Just once I wish someone responded to someone trying to force them to eat something they’re allergic to with “why are you trying to kill me?”

First story: I know I did not just hear some bs person didn't just say to handle that situation maturely when they are trying to force feed a person with severe medical conditions and dietary restrictions! Especially people who work within healthcare?! Absolutely disgusting

I would have been so much crueler and gotten a lawyer involved to sue the entire company for the harassment

The first story left me pissed off. 😠

@ancadiamant

2 ай бұрын

Especially the part where the co-worker threw out OP's food bought from home. Fuck Peg, the other workers and the boss for their savior complex.

Peg is trying to kill OP. Would Peg have stopped if OP had a severe allergic reaction?, Peg and her cronies are annoying bullies

Just hearing all the times she violated Ben’s boundaries pissed me off.

Wtf is the boss in first story...

I’m worried about Peg’s child! This woman sounds unhinged he’s!

So, Peg is creating an uncomfortable work environment for OP by trying to force him to eat? That's toxic. What needs to be said: "Peg, how do you know whether or not OP is allergic to the things you give him? Additionally, I didn't know you we're I dietician! Oh ... Oh, you're not? Then how do you know OP is underweight? Because... You'd have to be their doctor to know that, and the last time I checked, you're just a lady who works in a cubical. OP said stop, they've had to repeat it multiple times. How much more will it take for you to realize that they don't want, nor need, your help?" To the boss: "Frankly what Pam is doing files as harassment. OP has said no COUNTLESS TIMES, and yet no one takes it seriously. If a man was doing this to a woman, you would write them up, would you not? So, that being said, why is it okay for Pam to harass and force feed OP?" ADDITIONALLY, I would take this to people over the Boss's head, with OP's permission of course. Boss needs to be let go or demoted.

Holy f the first story is literally harassment

Yall need to stop using the word bullying and use the adult term HARASSMENT. Bullying is used too often and is used to downplay situations.

I’m just wondering what would have happened if OP ignored Peg altogether-like put in a pair of ear buds when this sociopath came by.

As someone with celiac legit I’ve had people do this. I also can’t have any latex fruits or tree nuts. It’s maddening.

I'm sure the stress from his co-worker is probably one of the reasons why he died so fast. I really wished he got a settlement for basically "intent to kill" and from all the stress that she put him through at work without trying to understand what he was going through. If roles were reversed and she was in the middle of her pregnancy and she lost the baby due to someone force feeding her, I'm sure the legal system would have taken it completely differently and so would HR.

story 1 OP co work should of back off and the whole co works should of help OP because they no OP allergies I hope they sue their asses for harassment

As For the first story... I would literally just dump the coffee in the trash can in front of her. Then say "so you're trying to kill me? You're trying to give me food that you know full well can kill me. So by your insistence i should die... you're basically telling me to die... correct? You keep giving me food that can/will kill me. So maybe you want to kill me?" After recording her for the whole time...and show her the recording. From there. I'd warn her i will report her to police if you keep trying to do this... because this could count as an multiple attempted murder situation.

I'd be like, "ew, who eats that? Get it away from me it's gross." And you are trying to poison me again? Do you see this? To everyone around. And "why won't this psycho let it go?"

I'm one of those bossy nurturers, and I love to cook and to feed people, especially if they really are too skinny and need feeding up, but... ALLERGIES KILL. If someone is so skinny because they can barely eat anything, I am super respectful of that. And if its so bad they cannot trust anything they didn’t make themselves, that's how it is. I'd still try to be inclusive, like, "hey, this is flourless if you feel like living dangerously, but no pressure," or "you want a share for your boyfriend?" This shit is horrible. I really don't get why some people do not grasp allergies. Are they just perfectly healthy, and also jerks who live to inconvenience others?

Jeeeesus Christ what is that woman’s problem????

This is toxic. It's not her business to be involved in OP's business. It's bullying and harrassment. I'm close to call it 'toxic maternity'.

Even listening was exhausting. Why tf is Peg so obsessed with her?

@varishav271

2 ай бұрын

OP was male "Ben", part of me wondered if she was interested in him and had some very twisted control issues.

This can be referred to as dietary harassment

The moment she continues to insist on you taking the food, after saying no, it’s harassment.

It's really weird that this lady is Uber obsessed with feeding Op. The fact peg got so bad that a restraining order had to be issued is worrying

Bullying is like a feeding frenzy. People who think they would never do it happily join in. I’ve seen it to many times.

I would've been a lot less nice about refusing Peg, plus a lot more verbal about the allergies. OP said everyone already knew, but being blatant about obvious stuff is one of the best ways to get people to either back down or show their true colors. He could've still been nice about it too, like "I'm sorry Peg, I know you mean well, but I think you forgot that I'm severely allergic to [insert food here] and keep such a strict diet because I can't eat all the things you consider fun." If she backs down, it's a win. If she goes off about the allergies being fake or whatever and keeps trying to force-feed him, then it's even more clearly harassment that no one can try to wave off.

She knows his allergies. She is bullying OP

Kind of insane that Peg presented the issue as him forcing her to cook for him and then refusing, when that was never the case. It makes me wonder if she was embellishing for sympathy, or was really that deluded.

Mom of the year in story 2, she not only cheated on op but she also cheated her daughter out of a father figure in her life.

@thomasjoseph5876

2 ай бұрын

She seems to be the new stereotypical single mom of the 21st Century. Wants her cake and to eat it too. Just full-on entitlement. However, I think the OP is a bit of D-bagger for how he handled the kid. He was obviously the only person the kid could rely on in their home. His reasoning of it being too hard for his little feelings of not wanting to see the Ex if he did things with the kid is weak and lame. Then at the last moment before his Ex gets there to pick her up, he then DROPS THE BOMB on the kid that she will never see him again. WOW, what a massive AH While I never condone cheating I can almost see why the Ex cheated on this cowardly little man.

@mill2712

2 ай бұрын

Maybe she should try with the affair partner. She clearly loved him over OP. Who knows? Maybe it will work out.

@thomasjoseph5876

2 ай бұрын

@@mill2712Someone like her ONLY loves herself and is incapable of truly loving anyone else, including her daughter.

@YourPal1

2 ай бұрын

​@@thomasjoseph5876dude, if OP was the actual father then he would see the kid. But he's not the real dad, so there can't be any shared custody or anything like that. So, if he wants nothing to do with the ex then that means he has to give up seeing the kid as well because she's not his kid.

@Maninawig

2 ай бұрын

Good life leason though: since the person you will harm or enrich is not just you and/or your partner, but your children, maybe there's some truth to the old saying that a good parent always put their children first and try to live up to their expectations.

As a person with a lot of allergies and on a restricted diet, some people are really weird about it. Weird as in they don't believe you and want to catch you out. Especially if they can just consider it as you being "pointlessly picky" and "just eat it already!" I don't accept food from people as I can't guarantee cross-contamination or how old the food is. I have a severe histamine intolerance and leftovers are very bad for me. People get pissy about this as I am wasteful by not eating leftovers. I don't cook or prepare enough to result in leftovers. HR was exactly the right place to go, because the boss did nothing. You aren't meant to only support the workers you like. You are meant to support all of your workers evenly. The food being thrown out really got me. That would piss me the f off.

Story 1: I find it very strange despite the fact they knew op had food allergies still tried to force them to consume food they couldn’t eat at all. Sadly some people can’t take no for an answer no matter how many times you try to tell them.

I feel OP in the first story. I am underweight with health problems and diet restrictions.

The thing that pisses me off the most about story 1 is the fact that these people WORK AT A F*CKING HOSPITAL!!!!!! You'd think people who work in the medical profession or with people that work in the medical profession would be WELL AWARE of the possible dangerous side effects of a person consuming their allergen food (a close second though is Peg CONSTANTLY achingly like an overbearing older female relative to a picky child despite the fact that 1. Op has legitimate medical reasons for having a restrictive diet and why he's so underweight 2. Peg is not in the slightest related to Op and 3. Op is not a child)

Isn’t that attempted murder? She knows your allergies and intentionally brought you foods with things you allergic to? OP should find a lawyer and police.

HR isn't enough, I would have gotten a lawyer involved

Whenever someone in my church needs food and I volunteer, I always ask in advance if they have any allergies or intolerance to any food. Sometimes I wonder if common sense really exists.

This hit me! I quit my last work place cause the people there didn’t understand my food allergies. I’d rather leave than deal with headaches like Peg. I feel so bad for OP esp when he was going through cancer as well!

Peg needs help! He’s not interested in your cookies and coffee ma’am. That’s harassment and borderline bullying.

You have to wonder why someone would spend the money to buy someone food that they didn’t want to eat?

90 percent certain that was about her trying to prove that allergies don 't exist

Contact an employment rights lawyer, you have a very strong case for a hostile work environment and deliberately crafted hazards to your health, which your superior is supporting rather than suppressing. This is an employee in a healthcare facility who is refusing to acknowledge the very real and very *lethal* allergies of her co-worker by DELIBERATELY forcing allergens upon them. This is a nightmare for the HR department for NOT STOPPING IT COLD. Sue the hell out of them!