i will never understand why people let toxic people back in there life

@superiorrule34

17 күн бұрын

Because they see other families getting along and they want that.

@erickaennis2738

17 күн бұрын

This Op and her husband are exhausting. Just stay NC. JEEZ.

@connormclernon26

17 күн бұрын

The rest of the family whining “bUt FaMiLy!”

@naturebehindglass6512

17 күн бұрын

Because when you grow up with toxic people, it's 1) normalized, 2) trauma bonding, 3) people who don't get unconditional love as kids, crave love and will try to feel loved. But since they have normalized very unhealthy relationship/connection patterns, they tend to unconsciously either seek out other abusers, or try to "fix" the relationship with the original abuser. They are driven by the thought " if I try just a bit more, they will finally see me and love me" 5) they don't necessarily recognize that they are being abused, because they grew up that way. And even after realizing that they are abused, it takes a huge amount of effort, guided by a professional, to heal from trauma. Trauma will literally change your brain structure. The brain has great neuroplasticity, an can be trained back into a healthy structure, but it's difficult and takes a while. And if you are getting traumatized during this phase, it will take much longer and become almost impossible

@freneticobserver4174

17 күн бұрын

Because they are weak

OP and Husband; We're not having kids. 🦇💩crazy Sister: And it became personal with me.

Always be ready when that restraining order expires.

@victormontes7007

17 күн бұрын

Why do they expire anyway hey this person is a great danger to me make me constantly prove I am in danger to make the law keep them away

When I first read the title I was like, "What?!? That's crazy and disgusting!" Then I thought, "Oh! Mabye they're gay and OP means the SIL for some reason wants to carry OPs child not her brothers child. That's still crazy but makes more sense." But no. SIL is just a batsh!t-crazy creep. I seriously feel so bad for OP.

Sweet home alabama where the skies are so blue sweet home alamaba

As someone with the least dangerous form of eds, i do have two children but that was absolute hell on my joints. Its a sucky disease.

Just reading that first summarisation is nothing short of mortifying, and reading it was even worse! It’s people like that sister that are the reason why the Asylum should receive more funding!

@victormontes7007

17 күн бұрын

Blame Regan and Nixon for axing american mental health care

What in the Alabama trailer park is this? She wants her BROTHER'S baby in her. Even if it's OP's egg and it's done in vitro that still horrible and gross. OP, I AM proud of you for making the hard decision to think about the well-being. And hey, if you decide to be childfree there's nothing wrong with that too. SIL is absolutely nuts (and racist to boot)!

@lindah3803

17 күн бұрын

There are plenty of cases that involve a sister being a surrogate. The difference being that it was introduced by the couple. It was disgussed by all involved. It was agreed upon by all involved. This story is Nothing like those situations. This is SIL being dangerous and completely off her rocker. I will never understand how/why they thought it would be a good thing to let her back into their life.

@harleyquinn5774

15 күн бұрын

I know of a story or two of a grandmother carrying her grandchild/den for he infertile daughter. She was young enough to do so because she was a teen mom (got pregnant at 16). There was even a Lifetime movie about one of the cases.

Lass from the first story my EDS is exactly the same but because of it I can’t have kids at all but baby your story made me nod along with you when you mentioned have a bad day I am so glad you have such an amazing husband both of you deserve medals 🥇 🎖️🥇

Am I the only one loving the borderlands vault tattoo?

First story, bizarre. Why does that couple keep putting up with that nonsense? And what kind of people who know they are at risk goes to a party, even if it is just family during a pandemic? The husband of the addict, why not take the responsibility of making sure you don’t make another baby after the first experience?

Being an opioid addict pregnancy is always gonna trigger a relapse fact is anytime she gets pregnant shes gonna relapse pregnancy is hard both emotionally and physically

@blvdurocher3255

15 күн бұрын

Anything literally can cause relapse. Just gotta kno your triggers and what to avoid to remain sober. Opioid is something that destroys you mentally for the rest of your life once addicted. Can never create natural serotonin.

Sorry but you don't have good memories with your enabler of a dad, you just have slightly less horrific trauma with him than you do with her.

@djdomain

16 күн бұрын

Abused kids tend to mistake the absence of abuse for love when it's really indifference to their well-being.

@nangma07

15 күн бұрын

@@djdomain I'm 56yrs old and only recently have I been set straight. My "happy" memories was actually me comparing them to my incubator abuser, and no the abuse in 9 different childrens homes didn't come close to what went on at home.

This is like House Of Dragon goes on redit.

Addiction is awful. Very very very hard to come back from. It doesn't only ruin the users life

and remember, sperm donor did not protect you, big deal he was nice.

SIL seems certifiably insane.

Lmao thats almost as Weird as demanding someone hand over their kids. Why are people like this!

I have eds as well. And I hold the same views on children and my bf understands so when we are ready for kids we'll adopt. I have hyper mobile eds so my joints pop in and out of place and it's a 50/50 chance the kid gets eds and since I was a small child (kindergarten) my ankles and hips pop out all the time. So i completely understand you're point but this sil is insane

NO ONE IS MENTIONING THAT OP FROM STORY 3 MARRIED HIS SISTER?!?!

@FullMoonOctober

17 күн бұрын

I'm hoping that was an AI mistake, because later on it said they met when she was 26 and he says "her family" like they're not related to him.

@AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf

17 күн бұрын

@@FullMoonOctober I hope so

@cheetahcreep

14 күн бұрын

I was also really confused when it was sister then wife 😵‍💫

Oh, story 2's OP. Being with CAMHS (Childrens And Adolescent Mental Health Services, a service in the UK) who can be overstretched, underfunded and not the greatest help and then everything with your parents as well and your sister too. I hope OP is able to heal and their sister too.

Man, when you have a bad day you really have a bad day 😭

If and when you can I would sell the house and buy something that doesn't have an hoa no one should be able to tell you how to live and what you can and can't do with/in your own house and/or property.

7:12 sil is crazy

OP needs to try medical marijuana. They make creams, that seems to help ppl with her disorder. I know someone in rl that it helps.

@shinatina2466

17 күн бұрын

I have eds and it really does help with pain, blood flow and just generally not feeling like shit ALL the time

Even with family members sometimes you just have to walk away no matter how hard. Your kids safety both mentally and physically should be the 1st and only concern. Bless this father,and them babies

There is a limit to how much you can do to me people in these stories take too much

The correct way to ask if someone is pregnant is 'I have not seen you in months/ages whats new?' If they don't say anything leave it.

First story had my jaw dropping 😭😭

As someone with EDS, the second story made me legit so mad lol. Please respect people who make the decision not to have babies. I also will not be having kids. It's so fucking annoying when people are like "Oh, you never know! You'll want them someday!" Ugh.

@RagingWoody74

17 күн бұрын

Weird how people get so bent out of shape when someone says they don't want to have kids

@viv7810

16 күн бұрын

@@RagingWoody74 I agree with that. Though I think the SIL may want to have some control on her brother’s fertility. I also infer that she may be regretting having kids herself or had a traumatic birth, seeing how she treats her sons. Thus she wants Op and brother to suffer from child rearing like her.

@stephanienoblet8503

15 күн бұрын

I don’t want kids either I have a movement disorder called dystonia it’s hereditary 50/50 the kids could get it but I’m not taking a chance

“su-rah-guh-see” 😂😂😂

The sis inlaw dead set on being surrogate because she sees $$$$$ on op and her brother. If she offered to do it free she could turn around and sue the shit out of them. Or try to get op and bro to have a girl so she cant claim she has a daughter lmfao shes freaky

What. The. Hell.

Get this in writing,call police

Was that really the end of story 1? An ending would be them going NC with the whole family or moving without telling anyone their address.

Story 3: Off topic: DID HE SAY SISTER!?! On topic: dude, if your wife is having problems and doesn’t want help ya should have left in the first place.

Second op just has issues

. Mossberg time 8:30

Story one my mom has the same disease and got is it bad no matter how bad it is

You have to leave her, divorce her and do what you can to get her family to drop her. She needs to be left to do or die, as long as addicts have support in any way they will abuse and manipulate their way through life. As far as the pregnancy get CPS and the courts involved, make it as hard on her as you can. She has to hit rock bottom with no one to use, no one to help but the professionals. These professionals need to step in with consequences to push her further, make her so miserable, put so many consequences on her that the only way out is to get clean. I had to be left to do or die and e everything got so hard, I had to make my choice when I almost died. Now I hated being an addict, I wanted to be clean so much. That's no so with a lot of them, especially ones in denial, you have to make her addiction so hard, so miserable that she hates it. All the while continuing to live your life and be happy so she can see the choice clearly. Its a hard path but she needs it, call in a search on the house, tell them you've seen drugs there, hopefully you've taken pictures, that you are afraid for your daugters life and can't go back. So many ways, get advice from a long term addict because they can help you more than anyonr else. They know how the mind works, how the disease kills and the possible treatment that will begin healing.

Did you take pictures of her stuff

C P S it's abuse

For the first story, I hate to be a victim blamer but why the fuck would you ever want to hang out or be around any of those people after doing all of that some people literally have no survival instincts or common sense on telling you.

Maybe don't include eight recaps of the same story in a row