OPs father is the worst kind of human being. I had a stepfather like that.

@Too_lazybones

4 күн бұрын

My bio dad was like that, instead of like the op's sister being raised to be like op it was more like to replace me as I'm a girl and he wanted a boy so later when my mom divorced him when I was 11, he got a son with his ap a 6yr old son at that time...

Why can’t you turn her over to the state? She’s literally running the house and she does what she wants, no one should have to deal with this while pregnant

@talathewolf6723

5 күн бұрын

Because legally it would also impact if they get to keep their baby. It makes them look like bad guardians and it makes it so the state can step in and take their baby as well.

@sliqyplayz8072

4 күн бұрын

I really don’t think that’s true

@francinetitherington4060

4 күн бұрын

Doesn't work that way.

@barbarasantana6848

4 күн бұрын

I gave up my bad ass daughter to the state and still had custody of my other children. Took her to the office dropped her off to them and left. Screw that.

@sliqyplayz8072

4 күн бұрын

Tell that to OP

OP's a kind person, and it says a lot she feels bad for wanting the sister gone. But alas, that girl needs to go. You can't keep trying to fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed.

@silverblaze46

4 күн бұрын

It’s so sad that OP does want to legitimately help her sister, but I think in my opinion, the parents either didn’t care or they just did the bare minimum to the point where they just clothed her and fed her, but didn’t bother about showing her to wash or take care of herself I think they just said here’s a sandwich bye and that’s it.

OP’s sister is a sociopath. Also, I don’t know how OP did not give up her to the state. After all of the Hell she put them through. The sister has not suffered ANY consequences for any of the lies, stealing, lack of hygiene, and animal abuse.

@LaughingJokerProd

5 күн бұрын

Part of it is the fact that since this is written after it all, the sister was manipulating them to the point that the insanity of it became a “normal”

@SnowyWolborg

5 күн бұрын

I came here to say this same thing. The way that the half sister consistently ignores animals to the point of health hazards, and then asks if she forgot they existed is not absent-mindedness, it's malicious negligence. And that's not even taking into account how this kid does not seem to derive enjoyment out of anything aside from lying.

@sliqyplayz8072

4 күн бұрын

Why not just put her up for adoption

@SnowyWolborg

4 күн бұрын

@@sliqyplayz8072 The older you are, the less likely you are to be adopted. Nobody wants a problematic 16-year-old.

@h.dungore839

3 күн бұрын

It could be cuz her sister’s therapist was an idiot at noticing the signs of BPD and actually praised her instead of providing solid evidence that she is a sociopath. Also OP and her husband are both idiots for never recording how she kept her room and lied about them to her therapist. All OP had to do is keep catching or recording her sister, lying all the time. So that OP can provide the evidence to the state or mental asylum to get the sister out of her house🤷‍♀️

Ah op made a big mistake, if op kicking girl out after she is 18, then don’t get a new house before op do that. So even she tried to retaliate and come back, she can’t find op. Now stuck with new house with potential jeopardize with retaliation and ruining the house.

1st Story She seems like she has anti-social personality traits. She lies easily, never takes responsibility for her actions, selfish, narcissistic, cruel to animals. This child is dangerous I would sleep with my bedroom door locked.

@She_Sordid

2 күн бұрын

That's not anti-social. Anti-social traits would be like never leaving the house, never wanting to meet new ppl, being ok with never talking to ppl etc. I've been suspected to have schizoid or anti-social and it's not like op's sister. The therapists are right that its probably borderline and/or sociopathy.

@medic13601

Күн бұрын

@@She_Sordid You have no idea what you are talking about. Anti personality disorder refers to symptoms that pertain to sociopathy, and psychopathy.

@She_Sordid

Күн бұрын

@@medic13601 Considering what my phycologists themselves have told me, I do. Anti-social refers to it's name, not being social.

Why would you decide to have a kid with this little gremlin skittering around the house 💀

@kandaceanderson8262

4 күн бұрын

I asked that same question

Never let somebody live in your house, especially if they have made it clear that they have it out for you. Traumatic upbringing or not, the half-sister is a manipulative, destructive thief. The more comfortable she gets with sabotaging OP's life, it will only be a matter of time before she does something that completely crosses the line, especially for somebody who obviously has no sense of boundaries.

Surely the girl qualifies as needing to be committed, right? It can't be any more expensive than paying for all that therapy, dental work, and exterminators (and whatever a hazmat cleaning service goes for). Tell the therapist that she's a danger to herself and others, and that you can't adequately care for her with her current mental state, and GET HER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE.

You shouldn't feel obligated to house an A-hole parents' affair child. Especially if that child has expressed animosity towards you. This girl should have been in therapy long ago but it's far late for that. The longer she stays the more grief she'll cause towards op and ops loved ones.

Story 1, that's not BPD, that's sociopathy.

@cheetahcreep

2 күн бұрын

THANK YOU. I have BPD with bipolar comorbid. there are four types one can be manipulative and attention seeking, but the other three types are basically self destructive, impulsive and petty shit. don't get me wrong BPD can have sociopathic behavior patterns but most of us are not. education is so important as BPD is literally more stigmatized than antisocial personality disorder (sociopathy) and narcissistic who often go out of their way to wreck others lives and feel zero empathy. BPD feels a lot. we overfeel. our cope is self destruct.

If all you have to do is tell the doctor you're being coorced to donate an organ will make you illegible to donate. No way would kidnapping to force a surgocy be legal.

Okay, I can't finish this. OP is just pissing me off.

@adefgsdfsgsdg

5 күн бұрын

Yeah this seems so ridiculously over the top. I know people like this exist but how much of a doormat can you be

@onepunchkirby7850

2 күн бұрын

I like how she said "my husband is deathly allergic, I'm terrified of them and it broke our lease" in one sentence and somehow she still thought it was ok 😂😂

@lindah3803

2 күн бұрын

@@onepunchkirby7850 That was quite the statement. I don't know about you,but there's no way an animal/bug is coming into my house that I am scared of or just don't like.

I’ve heard of adoptive parents giving up their child after they adopted said child. I don’t understand why OP in the first story can’t do the same.

YOU WANT TO HAVE HER AROUND YOUR BABY?!! A BABY THAT CAN'T DEFEND ITSELF?!! TAKE HER TO A POLICE STATION WITH THE PAPERWORK, MAYBE IN ANOTHER STATE. You'll have to sleep DONT keep her in your house when the baby arrives. She will see the baby as a problem that she needs to get rid of.

As a former foster parent I can say that OP is enabling so much of this girl’s behavior to the point that she’s allowing her to wreck her life with very little consequences. She’s too old for her to put up with any of this regardless of her past. She needs very real life consequences for her actions *every*single*time that she pulls something. And why she isn’t on meds just because she’s a teenager is beyond comprehension. She needs to be medicated properly if she’s bipolar/borderline because her brain literally can’t function properly without medication. I had a friend diagnosed with this as well as a mother that I could bet the bank also has it. Her behavior is “very” much like my diagnosed friend’s behavior. Like spot on. Life will NEVER get any easier until she’s got a decent doctor working to level out the brain chemicals that are out of balance in that girl. My friend, off her bipolar meds, was like a whole different nonfunctional person. Wildly unstable and quite able to do real damage to people. On it? So so SO much better on her meds. Normal. So yeah this girl would be put on proper meds and on extremely limited privileges until she complied without fail just like they do in residential treatment homes for kids who can’t live in normal homes/families. You have to earn every right that you want without fail in those places. Want a privilege? You go take that shower or “no deal”. You don’t get a THING (other than basic necessities/food) without earning that right. Only good compliant behavior gets you anything extra. Structure and routine is so important to people like this until they learn how to function in normal society. They need rules and boundaries at every turn in order to turn their lives around and lead a better existence.

28:29 sadly it sounds like, OP half sister was extremely mentaly and emotionaly abused, and needs to be place in a mental hospial

Your husband, your baby, your pets aren’t safe with her there. This is so scary because she is capable of harming anyone at this point. Stop worrying about looking like a “bad” person and worry about the safety of your family and the damage to your new home.

An old guy ik used to say that you are the creator of your own downfall and it couldn't be any further from OP's situation. My opinion would've been to not take her in in the first place. I feel sorry for the husband not OP. Literally man deserves a better partner.

Can't find the 1st story anywhere so I'm guessing it turned out to be fake

This story repeats itself too much

I can see why her parents ran as fast and as far as they Could.

OP: "clearly, I am incredibly naive and easy to fool", "I'm an idiot" Damn, bruh, you have no idea 🗿 Why's that demon still not in the foster system yet? Does OP not value her child's life? 👀 We already see that her and her husband's lives mean nothing to OP OP's like "OMG, I dragged a monster from hell and couldn't make a sweet kitty out of it 😫, I'm so guilty I failed her". This pisses me off like SO MUCH

I just love making it in time to see and hear the countdown.

@boneymeroney2674

5 күн бұрын

Yes.😂

OP was dumb throughout the whole story and even though she had good intentions, she deserve everything she gets for being naive.

I know you said that social services won’t help you but call CPS state what she’s doing and tell them how she’s going to create a bad environment for your three month old child. Tell them that she’s not mentally stable because clearly somethings wrong with her.

Don't keep her in your home. You don't have to live like this

orphanage this “sister” is older than me and is acting half as mature this “sister” is very narcissistic this “sister” is a NASTY AHH BOP

The second story: why does she need to flee her own house? Just don’t open the door when those crazy witches show up. Doormats annoy me.

The sister sounds like my dad. He did the exact same things in order to keep my mom, younger brother, and myself under control.

First story if I was op's husband I would leave her and take the kid not the sister.

the only good thing of second story is the fact there’s a healthy coparenting relationship with her ex. i wish more kiss got to experience it

Some kids are a lost cause because it is not bad to say, it is just facts. If you arent able to come to terms with this then you will allow that lost cause to ruin your life.

Take everything out of her room, bed on floor clear totes for her things.

@VetaRoberts-sj7sw

4 күн бұрын

Cameras everywhere in the house to prove what is going on.

@VetaRoberts-sj7sw

4 күн бұрын

Take pictures of her room also

She is a danger to herself and others. Institutionalization her now.

that is way more akin to antisocial personality disorder than BPD. there are four types, and while one can be manipulative, the other three are petty, self destructive, and impulsice behavior that generally does more harm to ourselves than others (and everyone understandably gets sick of being along for the ride). there are tools to help manage symptoms. DBT, CBT, and a good psychiatrist for medications have helped me so much as a BPD bipolar.

The fact op could have given up her rights from the start but didn’t is stupid

i don’t think i’ve heard a single story of surrogacy between family ending well

Can someone give me a summary please? I don't really like listening to reddit stories that involves pets being involved with animal cruelty 😅

@Rileytired

5 күн бұрын

OP’s dad cheated on her mom and had OP’s half sister with another woman. But the dad tried to make the half sister just like OP which caused her to hate Op. Years later OP had to take in her sister because both of the parents abandoned her, but her sister is a demon around her and OP’s husband. She never cleaned her room,(She put pads and trash in her drawers) never washed herself, doesn’t take care of the pets (bought a bunny even though OP’s husband is allergic to it), and is overall a terrible person, but no one believes OP about her sister because everyone thinks she’s nice. 2 years later OP can’t get rid of her because she took her in too quickly and OP just had a baby and she’s worried for him.

Jesus christ that title

I remember my aunt (shes an former addict but has similar behaviors) had a hygiene issue like this girl and my cousin who has the same family nickname as her made her sit in the tub fully clothed then sprayed her with dishsoap and a hose and scrubbed at her with a body brush then washed her mouth with a bar of soap. I don't approve of that method, but It worked and there were no more issues after that.

OP is důmb for allowing her, in her home.

Bruh, the husband should divorce and seek full custody of the baby with no visitation rights. But then again, he's probably the same idiot as the op, otherwise he would have already put his foot down.

Story 1: OP'S father is a piece of shit, the reason his daughter is like that is because of him and when he should've stepped up he ran away. It's a shame OP had to step up for her father, especially since she probably did so out of guilt😔

Ops sis clearly knows what shes doing to op her husband and her house. Op sis is mental and needs to be put into care uf shes going to act like that.

Sister is a psychopath.

I'm up to the cat chapter part of the story 😮.

So ops sister saw how shes living and rhought i want to live like this and lied about her abuses and shit from her parents her parents gave her to op without hesitation because theyve been dealing with ops sis and dont wanna anymore. She was abandoned on op because of ops sis bpd

First story: I'm in the process of adopting a kid from foster care. You always hear awful stories about foster families, but my son was in close to a dozen and only has one horror story. (transphobic little old lady that insisted on treating him like a girl, it sucked but wasn't SA, physical abuse or murder) CPS and foster families are, on balance, heroes. They are way better equipped to deal with OP's sister. If OP hasn't already kicked her sister out, she needs to call CPS and terminate her custody. Sister's behavior is unfair to OP and her family, and OP's inability to give sister whatever it is she needs isn't fair to her either. I can't guarantee that "the system" will be able to help sister, but it stands a better chance, and won't destroy OP's life as well.

Womb Raiders

Thisbis a shit story relly just repeats excessively