to the bisexual lady whose straight husband is saying she's overreacting.....y'all need to have a talk. He sounds like he's still harboring some uncool ideas of bisexuality. Talk it out with him and try to explain why it's hurtful. My ex came around after we had a long talk about it, he's super cool & a great ally now. It's worth it, you deserve to have a partner who supports you!

@tod557

Жыл бұрын

To be clear you can accept someone sexuality but not support them in their political beliefs

@midnights2631

8 ай бұрын

I hope the bisexual lady convinced her husband

Can I just say that it would be hilarious to have a party of edgelords, all trying to out-edge each other? "My parents are dead!" "My parents tried to kill me!" "My parents are dead, because they tried to kill me, and I killed them!" "I killed my parents, just because I'm that dark!" "Well, my parents never existed in the first place, because I went back in time and killed their parents!"

@uziguy7964

2 жыл бұрын

Heh I felt like something was missing in that final story

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

What are you talking about? These characters would never talk since each would be in a separate dark corner of the room while waiting for another character to interact with them.

@bellumdorf3360

2 жыл бұрын

"None of my parents showed up for my birth!"

@thedisabledviking

2 жыл бұрын

@@bellumdorf3360 thats dr Doofenshmirtz

@bellumdorf3360

2 жыл бұрын

@@thedisabledviking And you are saying he wouldn't have the edgiest backstory on paper?

Why so many people get the "charm" spell so wrong?! READ THE BOOK PEOPLE!

@starkiller1289

2 жыл бұрын

It's because in media when someone is "charmed" they act like they are mind controlled.

@hertzyscowicz7066

2 жыл бұрын

I swear they should change the spell description to read, in bold, italic, underlined and in metal-hued ink (with blink tags on DnD Beyond), "Unlike the Dominate Person spell, this spell does not give the caster control over the target."

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

@@hertzyscowicz7066 and even if they used Dominate Person, any decent DM ain't going to allow it to be used for seduction due to just how fucking creepy that is.

Considering how often women experience sexual harassment (in and out of D&D), it always amazes me when a female player can sexually harasses a male player, and then act as if *he's* the one being unreasonable! Good God in Heaven!

@avashnea

2 жыл бұрын

Because double standards are one of the main tenets of feminism, along with misandry.

@aliceofspades

2 жыл бұрын

@@avashnea You'll forgive me if I disagree.

@grakoshka905

2 жыл бұрын

@@avashnea lmao, bruh

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

@@avashnea The main tenet of feminism is gender equality. While there are many self-proclaimed feminists who are indeed misandrists and demand things with double standards, the truth is that they aren't feminists, they are just using the movement and term to justify a bigoted position. Unfortunately these fake feminists have become prolific and notorious enough that the term feminist is now tainted by those that don't even know what equality is, let alone how it differs from equity. Usually these fakes turn out to either be extremely privileged middle or upper class people, or their simps who suspiciously aren't allowed in areas with children.

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

It's always worth remembering that suffering sexual harassment is not an exclusive female thing. While the majority of creeps, perverts and stalkers are male, there is still a significant amount that are female and that it is not always harassing the other gender either.

Story 4.. oof. Man, Kat was too much. Holy Moley. "This massive married man made it clear that he's not interested. Better pursue it HARDER." In character, her character is insulting the matrimony and loyalty of a LAWFUL character. Out of character? She's being gross and pathetic. Glad OP decided to leave. Freak that noise.

I’m glad you said it! That last story is the definition of “the pot calling the kettle black”. OP’s basically like “This guy was edgy, OP, with an OP pet wolf…. So any-who. I my Skeleton dark mage casted a free level 8 spell to one shot him in a duel so that I can control the Deck of Many Things!” It sounds more like the edgy-wedgy anime/Mary Sue thing was just the style of game they were all comfortable with (which is fine tbh), but the. OP took acceptation to this one player for one reason or another. The salt really trickled through when the bag of holding thing came up; if you ask me that might be the source of OP’s grudge

I mean that's probably a kindness that one DM did, not going to a place that just says it's LGBT friendly acting like he's not welcome. Because if you're the kind of person who's hostile enough to a group of people just minding their own business that you act like you're not welcome in a place with people being allowed to just exist, then yeah you probably wouldn't be welcome because you sound like you'd be a huge pain in the ass the entire time you're there.

@kariissmol9172

2 жыл бұрын

thats why when I tell others at the game store that the "standard sexuality" in my DnD world my campaigns are set in is pansexual. if they get disgusted or i see them reel back with hate or something like that, they are not welcome in my home. also I prefer sipping on alcoholic stuff during games and I don't wanna be vounurable around people like that.

Fun fact, “not discussing politics” only applies if they don’t consider your existence political. I have just heard the line in the story about that and am posting my prediction that it will become relevant. Ok, wow, that became relevant very quickly after…but over half the story left…it’s going to get depressing, huh?

Raagu's player dodged a bullet. Even if she hadn't gone on to turn into sexual harassment panda in game, the comment about turning Raagu into a woman because she wants to make him her girlfriend is giving me weird fetishy vibes that make me think she'd be really weird for a gender nonconforming guy to date

I genuinely don’t understand people who try to force romances in game. I mean, if that’s what they’re doing in game then how far away is that from what they’d do irl

@alexinfinite7142

2 жыл бұрын

It's pretty damn troubling to think on

Re Story Two: Bigotry of any kind is an instant friendship drop, even if I'm not part of the target group. On top of it just being a terrible trait, one day they'll find some reason to put you on the hate list and will gladly put you up against the wall if it gets nasty.

@TreeDwellingShrimp

Жыл бұрын

Yeah that whole thing confused me. And the OP's husband sounds like a POS apologist himself. The burden shouldn't be on the target group to reach out and try to change bigots who despise them. I can't stand that idea. Like 'we need to show these people who wish us death and want to deny us our human rights that we're not bad so maybe they'll have a change of heart!' Stop trying to appease bigots. It doesn't work anyway. And OP should cut those people off too. That guy could even hurt her if he finds out she bi. I don't put up with any of that nonsense or discrimination, regardless if it affects me or not. They're a bad person and need to go.

@ratboy2

Жыл бұрын

exactly. even if it’s not directed to you at the moment, you still don’t have to put up with bigoted people. not good friends

Bigoted DM story, OP needs to cut ties and distance. Trying to stay friends with someone like that, little alone to THAT degree, will end with violence towards her. It was a lesson I learned, w/ physical scars as a memento. And HOLY FUCK, I hope OP's husband grows some awareness and better empathy.

That edge lord story was so edgy all the scars on my body started bleeding from hearing it.

I remember TV shows from the 80s and only letting your kids watch those should be considered a form of abuse.

"Tap my hot paladin ass" should not have been pouring windex while i heard that. Lol

When the first encounter is the DM purposely going for the group's weak point, that he knows was a weak point, and that he promised he wouldn't do...run. The DM can ALWAYS find a weak point, or create one.

10:40 AYE!!! Thank you for reading my story!

Once had a DM who'd constantly massively unbalance fights, and tell us we should have just been "kiting" enemies with long ranged weapons, saying "they've only got 20 movement speed, if you just used your brains you'd win easily" okay... but that's not fun, running and shooting is fine in a videogame, but in a TTRPG? that's just rolling dice over and over and over and over again until the enemies die.

The first story is a classic case of what we call “False Advertisement” Edit: I got through the entire video, and… YIKES. Story 2 - I swear, these sorts of players just don’t understand how consent and want to use whatever trick in the book and in the streets to get what they want, and if they don’t get it, they HULK THE F*** out. Doesn’t matter if one is a woman or not, it’s still harassment and should be nipped in the bud the first sign of it happening. Story 3 - Strange how often we see these kinds of DMs/players in RPGHorrorStories, is DND a lure for them to vent out their hatred of those who don’t follow “correct” gender alignments and tastes? As for their “I don’t feel welcomed in that crowd” comment, that is kind of a d*** move (big shock I know), especially since I have identified myself as being someone who cannot find their own gender alignment and tastes definitively. It’s not fun at all to feel like you feel like you’ve got to hide things from hateful people that don’t like things about you that can’t change. Story 4 - This one resonated with me for quite a few reasons (one of the details is being somewhat feminine despite not being female), though I have to say that Kat is only one of two issues in this one - the DM is also guilty here seeing how they did nothing to prevent her from trying to change OP’s character to fit her desire for what Kat wants, her attempt to force her character onto OP’s (married and prideful) character, and very apparent harassment despite how much OP had made it clear they are NOT interested in her in-game. If anything, telling OP after they left the session and the game itself that Kat had a crush on them was not at all helping either the DM or that problem player’s cases. Story 5 - …wow. The double standards here are staggering. I don’t think I even need to explain as to why this sucks so much, it’s as Crispy said: “Oops, all Edgelords”. Hopefully when I get my chance to enter the DND scene as a player I won’t have to deal with any of these sorts of players/DMs the first session. ._.

I like stories where charm spells get properly used, lol It's not actual seduction, so being gay doesn't make you immune against the spell (just against certain suggestions you receive while under it :P)

Playing as a character who's different to you is pretty much expected in D&D, a self-insert is frowned upon for obvious reasons, so why you've gotta play your own gender, your own sexuality, and own skin tone is absurd to me. So long as you're not doing some stupid crap like being offensive with it, it shouldn't be a problem.

@kaylawoodbury2308

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, provided it's respectful. If a cis person said they were making a trans woman character and made her like a trans woman in anime... with chiseled jaw, 5' 0 clock shadow, 6ft 5 with rippling muscles and a deep baritone voice, making them act like an offensive trans stereotype. I wouldnt want to be at that table

@PaladinGear15

2 жыл бұрын

@@kaylawoodbury2308 Oooofff, yeah that's really not okay, but a damn good example cuz you *know* there's the type who make characters exactly like that x_x

@ZeoHidra

2 жыл бұрын

@@kaylawoodbury2308 hypothetically speaking: would it be okay if it turned out that character had some hidden depths to them, like they actually had a decent personality and backstory instead of "comedic trans character".

@PaladinGear15

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZeoHidra Would it be okay for a white person to play a black character, naming them "Kay Effsi (KFC)" and having them be a big lipped Chris Tucker who eats fried chicken and watermelon while calling people "ma nig---" all the time if they also happened to have a fairly decent background story? Cause I've had a white guy show up with that exact character before. My personal answer is fuck no.

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

Is playing a self-insert frowned upon? It's main character syndrome that is frowned on and those characters are usually self-inserts. I do not think that self-inserts are themselves, necessarily bad. At the end of the day, most people aren't character actors and so to some degree most PCs end out being to some level, a self-insert.

It's so insane to me that a person, but especially a *woman,* would think it was in any way acceptable or even effective to relentlessly sexually harrass someone as a means to start a relationship with them. And that's not even including the other layers of bs here with it playing out in game and with a married character which are both *such* bad form.

@kaylawoodbury2308

2 жыл бұрын

You... Think women can't be harassers and predators? They very much can be and are not as uncommon as you seem to think. I myself have been sexually harassed by a woman in a very similar way as this story.

@ruecumbers

2 жыл бұрын

@@kaylawoodbury2308 That's the unfortunate thing is I know they can be; the evidence is right there. What I struggle to understand is how. How some women lack enough empathy and self-awareness to not do the same shitty things to others. Like, even if you've never experienced it yourself. I've never been SA'd but I've still been surrounded all my life with firsthand and secondhand accounts from the women around me. I can't imagine a mindset that would make me think what she did was acceptable.

@kaylawoodbury2308

2 жыл бұрын

@Lalle Rue It's extremely common in the subreddit r/nice girls. Some girls use the mentality that "all men want it so it's not SA" , some try to live their lives like a toxic romcom or romance movie, thinking pushing unwanted advances will win the guy like in the movies and some are just that blatantly entitled. Thinking that BECAUSE they're a woman, they are entitled to whoever they're interested in, even when they're in a relationship. Because of some of the communities and social circles I'm in I have spoken to all these types and the mental gymnastics they pull to justify their predatory behavior AND play the victim and blame other people for their rejection is disgusting. I've heard a girl actually say "men can't be r-word victims because they always want it" . I've met a girl actually believe that gay men were only gay because they couldnt get a girlfriend and would harass gay men to try and date them, even saying "you don't have to be gay anymore". The girl who harassed me was a lesbian who said women can CHOOSE to be lesbian and tried pressuring me into dating her even though I'm asexual. She disrespected my sexuality saying it wasn't real and repeating that I should choose being lesbian because men sucked and she could "turn and fix me". I had to block her because she started to sext me and send unsolicited nudes. It's sad but some women genuinely believe that women can only be victims, not perpetrators so they get a free pass. Hell, there's even a guy in the comments saying its fake because he's never met a man that would turn down a woman... I thought you were saying something similar so I do apologize for misinterpreting your comment.

@Troublethecat

Жыл бұрын

Some women think only women can be sexually harassed or raped and men want women to be "sexually aggressive" with them and are always up for sex so long as it's a hot woman. If he's not, he's either gay, doesn't think you're hot or he's cheating on you. It's dumb, but there are women who genuinely think this.

honestly in the "You want to- What?" story OP handled it far better than I would. I have Asperger's so there's certain things that really get to me and I don't really handle as well as I could. I love playing male characters because I think more like a guy than a girl at times and I just enjoy it. If this happened to me I know for a fact I would have done more of a threat super early and then act on it if they didn't back off.

Intro: Wow, that DM was a dick. There was no reason to do that other than to "assert dominance" onto the players. I hope everyone drops out before session 2, since it's going to be miserable with someone like him running the game. Oh My God... (CW): Got to love the "fetishizing LGBT people" claim, from the woman trying to r*pe their fellow player's character. I think I've heard that claim in another horror story, not sure which one. Either way, there's a stronger argument to make claiming that she was doing the same with heterosexuality than OP was with homosexuality. Got to love double standards. DM Who Can't Handle the Gay: Yeah, I agree to leave the campaign. Better to have the fallout now rather than later. And as a conservative straight guy myself, I think your husband is a bit in denial. It's not that hard to understand being around someone who makes you uncomfortable isn't healthy, no matter the reason for the discomfort. And it will only get worst when the DM learns of it after "being deceived" for so many years. Either way, you can bet the DM will use it as an excuse to justify hating LGBT people. You Want to... What? (CW): It seems like it's female incel day. Yeah, Kat needs to respect being told no just as much as any other incel. Doesn't matter your sex, that behavior isn't appropriate in general, in or out of D&D. OP shouldn't have to roll to wake up, DM should have either say "no" or had him wake period. She (the DM) shouldn't take away power from a player in situations like this (I mean getting r*red, not being denied r*apping). Glad OP was able to leave that group. Oops. All Edgelords: I do wonder why no one other than OP had an issue with the player. I am a bit skeptical due to that. Of course, if it is real, I question the DM and their inability to see that homebrew is OP and fix it. He seems to not realize that the D&D Homebrew Wiki and DndBeyond's homebrew stuff aren't tested, and are there to be rated and judged. Nothing can stop a DM from talking to players and balancing their character after the first session.

@schwarzerritter5724

2 жыл бұрын

I had some stories of players getting overwhelmed in a battle, but it was obvious the DM was not doing it on purpose. That was just how the dice fell and the players (including me) where being stupid. A party of 3 level 4 players should not really have a problem with some zombies, but zombies have the annoying ability to roll a constitution check to keep fighting when falling to 0 hitpoints. The Monk actually killed one on her first turn, so we thought the other 5 would be easy, but they just kept passing their constitution checks. Rogue and Monk went down and the Barbarian had to kill one 8 times until it finally stayed dead (the DM was audibly frustrated at the battle going so poorly for us). This was all on us; we could have ran at any time, because Zombies are slow and all of us had increased mobility; Monks and Rogues are extra fast runners, the Barbarian was a Fairy and could fly. The DM did establish that the Zombies where intelligent, so she decided they where so terrified after seeing the Barbarian hacking their friend into tiny pieces that they dug themselves back into the earth; with the Rogues leg (we used critical injuries). The story how Rogue got a new leg was even wilder: It involved a werezombie curse, a level 20 Harengon pirate and a ghost cat.

@stephaniejenkins7822

Жыл бұрын

@@schwarzerritter5724 I would like to hear that story on the rogue getting a new leg, if you guys are cool with sharing the whole thing :)

@schwarzerritter5724

Жыл бұрын

@@stephaniejenkins7822 We make it to the city, where Rogue gets treated. At night, she gets released from the hospital and we go to an inn. As it turned out, Rogue picked up a sapient curse from the zombies and when the full moon comes out, transforms into a 15 foot werezombie. Rogue steps on Barbarian, which does quite some damage, because it counts as a sneak attack. Monk attacks, while Barbarian tries to get the innkeeper out, so we can lock Rouge in until the morning (Barbarian having a monk mindset and Monk a barbarian mindset is not something we planned). The innkeeper refuses to leave, because he thinks this is a trick to steal his liquor. Monk gets grabbed by an attack that automatically restrains without a saving throw, so Barbarian uses a sending stone to call a friendly NPC for advice, a level 20 harengon rogue and Monk's wife. Instead of giving advice, Harengon uses the sending stone to teleport there, knocks out Rogue and gives her a potion that should cure being undead. It kind of works. Rogue is now half undead, has her race changed from Genasi to Reborn and now has to share control over her body with the sapient curse. Rogue's pet, a spectral cat ,somehow got drawn into it and turns into a spectral leg.

@stephaniejenkins7822

Жыл бұрын

@@schwarzerritter5724 Okay, that's an incredibly crazy sounding story, but it's also a good one. Thank you s much for sharing it with me! ^.^

The bi situation isn't something I can give advice on, but I would like my players to tell me they don't want to play with me for much less, and I don't need the real reason for it. If it doesn't feel right you don't need to play.

"hiding your identity is not fun" - Me, the Yuan-ti....I'm pretending to feel attacked.

The last story just screams that the OP is an edgy mary-sue as well and is more upset that another edgy mary-sue is getting more attention. It seems like everyone was fine with the overpowered stuff, even the OP just casually mentions how powerful they were in the duel, but I guess when the other guy is stronger then it becomes unfair.

I would be so pissed off at my partner if they thought it was ok to be friends with a homophobic person even if that person doesn't know I'm not straight

DM: "I don't want to be around *those people*" Bi Player: "You're around me every session and you don't seem to have a problem with me" yet...

"should i do something that makes me uncomfortable for my hobby that i do for fun???" how is this even a question you're asking...

These stories were a whole parade of unpleasant people. RPGs seem to attract more than their share of creeps and other assorted nasties. I love hearing these stories, but I don't want to encounter these jerks in person.

In a recent campaign, I found homebrew feats that allowed 1.5 strength mod on a two handed weapon damage (like 3.5), then I had the Brute subclass and there were other shenanigans. I was doing way more damage than a level 7 fighter should've been doing.

Holy crap I cringed so hard with those edge names! With no surprise, of course its homebrew randomly from the dndwiki and such. These characters are, to quote Josh Strife Hayes, "Like a pizza cutter, all edge and no point." (Where I know the quote from, and may not be exactly as stated).

Wow. Coming across an increasingly amount of "that girl" lately and wow! They seem worse than "that guy" some of the times. That uh, clingy story; DND is apparently a great tool that lifts the veil into who people are and if she acted like that as a character; then what would she be of been like if OP did pursue that relationship? Ya dodged a bullet there, guy.

@inversenexarus9152

2 жыл бұрын

The difference between men and women "that guys": Men are told at large by society that if they persevere and keep trudging on they will get what they want in the end. That Guy men hear this messaging and will continue to push boundaries until their desires are sated. So it's similar to a Frog being boiled slowly. Eventually the Frog will jump out because it gets too hot, then the That Guy rages. Women are told that if someone tells you "no", it's because that person is sexist and wants to hold them back. Because society at large tells women that they don't have to be considerate to other people. That Guy women don't have to be accountable for their actions in game. They often run headlong into brick walls and then scream that the brick wall is somehow sexist. Granted there is overlap. You can have men who are not accountable and women who are groomers. But the trends speak for themselves.

@HighPhoenix1754

2 жыл бұрын

Trust me, they're definitely far more insidious due to social norms. And it's gross.

@leandromonteiroesilva7693

2 жыл бұрын

Cuz they have more enablers

@MrCrunchytime

2 жыл бұрын

They're not "worse" than their male counterparts, just different.

@DoomsdayR3sistance

2 жыл бұрын

The "that girls" are harder to spot than the "that guys", and when I say spot, I meant to say smell. There are less obvious signs of a that girl compared to a that guy and so they usually get away with more before people figure them out. Both groups tend to be terrible tho. As to the smell, I have heard of one story where the that girl actually did have terrifying smell usually associated to "that guy"

"idk how the last thing wasn't the final straw but we're moving on" 🤣🤣🤣 bro I listen to these at the gym a I audibly laughed pretty hard.

DM who can't handle the gay - "I don't feel welcomed in that crowd" And why is that, hmmm? Wish I knew that DM. I'd be saying "really? That's odd, they welcome *me* just fine. Mind you, I'm not a bigoted prick who wanders around making my hatred for people painfully obvious, so I don't suppose they have any reason to make me feel unwelcome."

My answer as a DM to "it's what my character would do" is always "then throw that character sheet away and role up a character that will cooperate with the party".

Story 3: This is called the paradox of tolerance, and the way to resolve it is to look at tolerance as a social contract. The contract you enter into in society says that you should be tolerant of those around you. If you become intolerant, however (for instance by being homophobic) you are no longer covered by the social contract, and thus do not have to be tolerated.

I had games where we got overwhelmed my monsters, but I never had one where the DM did it on purpose. The dice just fell poorly and/or we where being stupid.

the story about the bi woman wanting to leave the DnD group because she found out the DM is very homophobic and her husband says she's overreacting.... ugh. First of all, the husband is being either very naive or is trying to downplay things because HE doesn't want to deal with it. Not exactly supportive and it doesn't sound like he's even trying to be realistic with his perspective. He's basically saying "just pretend your straight and you shouldn't have a problem. He doesn't know your bi, so--" but dude that's not the point. It's not whether he has done anything bad or not yet or the fact that yes, you could hide your identity and probably skate under the radar just fine... the point is she shouldn't HAVE to, and that making the DM feel like his hate is acceptable is stupid. When someone says "I don't feel comfortable in that company/community" because they specifically -hate that community-, excluding him from said community isn't "proving him right", it's creating a space where you don't have to feel unsafe. Sounds like she should ditch the DM and have a serious conversation about the reality with her husband; just because you can pass as cis-het safely does not mean that she should be expected to hide herself or shrug off when more visible members of the community have hate thrown their way.

Intro story makes sense. Man's like "die", basically. So they remake a party

OP in story two saying "Very happy husband and prideful man" made me laugh 😂 poor guy having to deal with a person like Kat

Well, if everyone's having fun in the edgelord story, then I guess that's all that matters. Though, to quote Den of the Drake, "I can't stop you from playing that way...yet..."

I read the first one! Good horror story. Reminds me of my own gm from way back in the early days of Pathfinder.

I actually did find a relationship through D&D, but not in-game. We met in a D&D group but ended up also talking and hanging out OOC and that’s when the feelings grew.

Bonus points to you for using the Megamind clip. I love that guy.

Oh boy. This last story here. I hope I’m not walking into the same situation. I just joined a campaign where theDM is very lax. He just allows and encourages anything homebrew. Me? I’m the only one that’s playing a character sticking to the rules. Yuan-ti celestial warlock pact of the chain. I should probably get out while I can. Lol

I would walk away from a table because the GM is lgbtq phobic and I am straight and cis.

"5600 pound greatswords" Impossible, but do go on.

The many insane things that goes down with these

There is a reason for homebrew, I stick with only allowing published materials from third party publishers with a good reputation

Oh, gosh! I feel bad for the bi player in a campaign with such an anti-LBGTQ+ DM. I'm panromantic asexual myself, and I had a pretty rough time growing up surrounded by so many people who liked to make suggestive jokes and wondered why I never went past the crush stage. Some people wondered if my lack of interests in dating was due to any religious reasons, which led to me awkwardly explaining that I am not religious. For most of my life, I had no idea that I am asexual. I didn't even know it was a thing until a year or two after I finished college still in my early 20s. I actually cried when I finally learned about it because I was just so stupid happy and relieved to learn that I wasn't the only one like this as I had thought that there was something wrong with me or even might have been "broken" for years. I also had the great fortune of my mom, although not fully understanding it, being happy for me when I came out to her about it. To my surprise, many of my relatives actually thought I was part of the LBGTQ+ community though had no idea what my specific orientation might have been. When I came out to my family, they were all very accepting. Ever since I came out to my mom, I've been very open about my sexuality and am more than willing to explain it to anyone who asks or doesn't understand. When they express confusion as to how I could be pan AND ace, I compare it to having a crush on a fictional character or celebrity. You can fully enjoy the feelings you have of the crush, but don't have to worry about anything serious happening or feel the need to pursue said crush. This explanation luckily has helped a lot of people better understand my sexuality and be more respectful of me. Unfortunately, not everyone was so welcoming of my sexuality. When I first came out online to my followers, one random guy I've never spoken to before began harassing me with claims that "asexuality isn't real" and tried sending me link to "scientific studies that prove asexuals don't exist". I tried explain to him that asexuals are real as I am real and politely asked them to stop sending me such inappropriate content. They just doubled down and made me question if anyone was actually accepting of my sexuality. After enough harassment and my newly found confidence being dragged through the grime, I made a separate post asking people if they actually hated me for being asexual and explained the situation without naming the jerk who hurt me (I didn't name the person as I'm not a jerk and just wanted to know if anyone else had issues with my sexuality). Luckily, everyone else reassured me that they were happy for me and got very upset that someone was making me feel so terrible about something that didn't effect them at all. They all comforted me and some of them actually went out of their way to find out on their own who was making me feel this bad to tell them off. As it turned out, this random jerk had actually dedicated their entire account to being anti-asexual! I don't understand WHY someone would have such a strong vendetta against asexuals, but it really sucked to have them take out their negative opinion on me who had just discovered my asexuality and was finally feeling whole and proud for once in my life. While that jerk's harassment did hurt quite a bit, it actually turned out for the best. Because of the whole situation, I found out just how supportive and kind the friends I had made online truly were. I had always been willing to listen to their problems and give them advice when needed, but this was the first time I spilled my heart out to them and they not only comforted me but also defended me. Even one of my friends who I know was homophobic came to my aid and was accepting of me because they knew I was a good person and were genuinely happy for me. It felt really nice to have such a kind and supportive community of friends who truly did care about me. Thanks to that experience, I'm a lot closer to everyone and we have even stronger bonds. I've even become a strong voice for the LBGTQ+ community, especially to asexuals, and have helped a lot of people with their own identities.

@Ashtari

2 жыл бұрын

Fellow Ace here and I feel you on wondering if you’re broken. Spent over 20 years thinking that myself. Then I learned about asexuality and suddenly my life just made sense. My mom has been super supportive, hell she even asked if I was lesbian when I was in my late teens. Followed up by, “it’s okay if you are. I’ll still love you but we cannot tell your grandmother, if would kill her.” My grandmother was really nice but super Catholic. That being said, I’m in a great dnd group. The dm asks constantly if I’m okay with something when it comes to relationship stuff because she knows I’m Ace. Then I shock everyone by playing a super horny pan changling wizard and a male roguelock who has a lady in every town they pass through lol. It’s fun walking in the shoes of other sexualities.

@Midnight3Wonder

2 жыл бұрын

@@Ashtari I hear that. It's cool that your mom is so supportive of you. And yeah, I get older generations deep in their religion can be pretty horrified to find out a relative of theirs is LGBTQ+. My great grandma was super religious and I'd often visit her with my grandma at the nursery home. She had all kinds of Catholic stuff around her room which made me a bit uncomfortable. At the time I was visiting her so much I hadn't discovered asexuality yet but had decided for myself that I'm not religious, so it was a little unnerving for me. I still loved her and would bring her baked goods and flowers with my grandma, though after seeing how Catholic she was I decided that it was for the best that I never tell her that I'm not religious. Don't get me wrong. I do respect people's religious beliefs and will even incorporate certain aspects of a religion to my own personal morals. I just would rather not have a religion forced upon me, especially if they have a history from ancient to recent that really didn't appreciate people like me. I also have 2 D&D groups who are supportive of any LBGTQ+ players. In fact, my DM with my very first group (who I am still playing with) told us about his engagement to his boyfriend by introducing him as his ex-boyfriend. We all had a big laugh about it after the initial panic of him telling us the ex-boyfriend part. In my second group, we're starting a new campaign and two of the characters we're playing are actually non-binary/agender. I'm not really sure about the sexuality of my new character yet for the new campaign. Though for my character in my first game, she's currently set as aromantic/asexual. Mostly because she's a living doll (homebrew race). If she ever becomes a real girl, that may change.

@Ashtari

2 жыл бұрын

@@Midnight3Wonder your character sounds really cool! I currently play several, two men, one woman, and a changeling who generally presents as female but has a bit of gender fluidity. My grandmother never bothered anyone else with her faith. In fact when my mom became Baptist (later Methodist then left organized religion as a whole), my grandmother never said anything to her, just went to her priest to find out if mom's soul would go to heaven. The priest by that point was used to my grandmother's questions and just reassured her that mom's soul was fine. I'm sure if I had come out to her, it would have been the same, with her going to a priest.

@eiriankageno

Жыл бұрын

Interestingly, my mom is the person who first suggested I might be asexual. I didn’t know anything about it at the time, so initially went… I don’t think so? Then later came to the conclusion she was right. Glad you got support from family and friends. That anti-ace person is weird. Makes me wonder whether it’s just reasonless bigotry or they wanted to sleep with someone who was ace and is bitter about the rejection.

@Midnight3Wonder

Жыл бұрын

@@eiriankageno It's so cool that your mom helped you figure out a part of yourself before you even realized it! I had a bit of a laugh when I found out that my relatives suspected me of being queer before I realized it myself. I actually kinda wish they had said something to me sooner about it. It's so nice when those closest to you not only understand that your queer but also accept it. It's even better when they help you acknowledge it. Yeah, I don't understand with that anti-ace jerk either. Whether they're bitter about being rejected by an ace or just mindless bigotry, it's pathetic reasons all around. First of all, no one can force someone to be attracted to someone they don't find attracted. It's wrong to force yourself onto someone who has no interest in you, regardless of their sexuality. Second, the whole idea that people different from one another is an offense and evil is just stupid. Whether they like it or not, queer people have been around since basically the beginnings of the human race. Even some of our favorite historical and mythological figures are queer. Hercules (bisexual), Artemis (aromantic/asexual), Hans Christen Anderson (gay/asexual), and so many more! These are just a few I can think of right off the top of my head. It's honestly ridiculous that there are still people in this world who think it's right to hurt people for having different expressions of love. So long as you don't cross someone's consent, are respectful to one another, and treat one another with kindness, there should be no reason to hate someone for having different kinds of love in their heart. It's so stupid and hypocritical. Love is love and that's all that should matter.

Intro Story: DM is garbage. Saying you'll balance encounters around what your party has and then completely fucking them over as punishment for not having something specific covered is awful. It'd be the same as having them all start at level 1 with basic equipment and having the first fight of the game be against ghosts and TPKing with the reasoning being "You should've made characters that would have magical weapons to hit the ghosts." It's nonsense. First Story: Sexual assault aside, pulling the "it's sexist to hit me because I'm a girl" card is garbage in a game ABOUT FIGHTING. Especially considering how cordial and patient OP was throughout the session, and the warning she was given before he attacked her, an attack that seemed like a last-resort way to get his point across. At the time, all other attempts to shut that down had failed. And at least it was just a punch; a goliath barbarian wielding a two-handed warhammer could've annihilated her if he'd wanted to. Fourth Story: Yeah, balancing homebrew is insanely important. Also, any new DMs out there, protip: double-check anything that's online. The homebrew things on danddwiki and D&D Beyond aren't, like, checked by WotC for balance; it's stuff anyone can put up on there. I literally saw a homebrew race on D&D Beyond on Crowe's Perch the other day that was called "God Blood" or something that the creator described as basically being able to do whatever the player wanted without having to roll and basically controlling the game. That's on there. That's a race that's technically playable if anything from D&D Beyond is permitted.

@rainond.cooper2971

2 жыл бұрын

If it had been an NPC rather than a PC, then hell yes the hammer would've collided with her skull as fast as Jumpman's meets barrels

Ah yes, school Where all unpopular kids are friends with each other because everyone else is mean to them

1. Another Mary Sue 2. The amount of sexual harassment in dnd horror stories, let alone just this video is so UPSETTING. RIP to Crispy but also props for getting through these stories for us. 3. The distinct lack of Empathy from OP's own husband was disturbing in the second story, saying "you're proving his point" means literally nothing when he doesn't want to be around that demo. I hope OP leaves the game and stands up for themselves. 4. THE MENTAL GYMNASTICS OF THE GIRL IN THE 3RD STORY DESERVES A GOLD MEDAL WOO SIMONE BILES IN THE BRAIN 5. Oops, it what my character would do.

Story 2: Yeah drop him like a lead balloon. Make it extremely clear that his stubborn bigotry was responsible for making you cut him off, and that he has nobody to blame but himself

@ZeoHidra

2 жыл бұрын

I have a feeling that even if op spelled it out he would still think it was part of the "LGBT left wing agenda" and he did nothing wrong.

@whensomethingcriesagain

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZeoHidra That may be, but attempting to give him a reality check is the most you can do

It's what my character would do seems to be an excuse for people to behave badly.

u/GloriousMistakes, I think you need another husband and better friends.

In the case of the Anti-LGBT DM, its entirely her call. If they're close enough friends that she thinks he can accept her as Bi, even if he thinks everything LGBT excludes him, then say it and don't be afraid. Could be an eye opening moment or a reluctant acceptance. But if he's the type not to feel accepted just because the owner of a game store is Bi and he gives the vibe of OP's mom, then it might be a good idea to bow out so she doesn't have to tip toe around psuedo mom.

That one player was still way too nice about the SA, if it had been me I would have plainly told them next time WILL be the last and just taken my sword/axe to their neck if they tried anything again. If you can't take "no" for an answer then you get what you deserve.

First story DM was a total dick. It wouldn't have mattered if the PCs had any range at all because the DM not only gave the enemies the advantage of numbers and the high ground, but also had them all attack en masse before the PCs could even react.

"You should have thought better about what you chose." Next time think better about the DM you choose!

Say it with me, people. Charm Person makes someone consider you a FRIENDLY ACQUAINTANCE. It is NOT a seduction spell.

Anything involving Slaanesh is a no for me dog. That player would be kicked from my game

On the intro story, not only did the dm put the party against 10 enemies with ranged weapons on top of a tree, they also gave those enemies a surprise round. The worst part is that the party discussed about their lack of ranged attacks to the dm before session, and the dm didn't ignore it, oh nonono, they actively exploited that fact. All of that on session ONE! btw

Oh come on crispy you know you want to say that lying in the most seductress voice you can by the same time making fun of it you know you want two LOL

Gotta love this Arthur skin

I still see people hate others for who they choose to sleep with. I just have to ask why others care so much?

The one with Kat ended up being just sad. The OP himself acknowledged that the romances (both in game and IRL) might have worked out if she hadn't been so infuriatingly aggressive and borderline rapey about it. I can't disagree with his handling of the situation (the blame goes entirely to Kat), but it's just such a shame.

The intro... it was not that the DM stacked the deck. It was that when the players realized the issue, he said don't worry I'll balance it out. Leading them to not correct the problem and then punishing them for something he said not to worry about. That is the real iaaue.

As an edgelord myself this was painful. It's extremely easy to be edgy and not a dick. I just like dark things. if I take it too far I apologize and do what I can to make it right

Take my comment. For the algorithms!

Lathander weeps for the poor bystanders in these stories.

It wierd because I'm actually non binary and ..I have a group I know I can't openly tell them about it, I love them but.....I have a deep feeling they wouldn't understand

After hearing the story about Kat like the 3th time - I'm like 70-80% sure that Kat thinks OP is a she.

Speaking as both a feminist and a *woman:* it's sexist to say you shouldn't hit women to defend yourself!

@Shauntheduke.

Жыл бұрын

Mom always said if a woman starts a fist fight she shouldn’t act surprised when she gets punched in the face.

Buttons and good lords.

If my character felt a weight on him it would be getting a Thunderclap

This video is cracked

Anyone else having issues with the video play back? The first two stories and intro were black screen with audio for me.

If my partner tried to argue that I should keep tolerating a homophobic person and hide my identity I'd be rethinking that whole relationship. It's not your responsibility to change their views. If someone is homophobic the best thing you can do is just drop them cause they're going to be terrible for your mental health over time. If your partner disagrees then maybe you should talk to them about the kinds of internalized homophobia they might have around this. You don't owe bigots your time.

Yeeaaahhh. That kind of homebrew is a no.

Quietly come out to the table, later openly to the dm, watch the game devolve, boot the dm and recruit a new one. Having 2 dedicated players and a play space makes you very desirable, if you can bring more players even better. I would have apologized to cat "I'm sorry I didnt know you identify as a rapist" So many horror stories rug sweep SA/R/P and since I've never been to 4chan I view ttrpgs as close to 4chan toxicity.

This particular collection of stories would make Mos Eisley look like a playground for saints- yuck!

So many disgusting people in these stories!

I'm not sure what's worst, "that guys" or "that girls".

DanD is a site for homebrew; none of it is official.

Another Edgelord! And he has *gasp* stock anime phrases!

What would happen in a campaign full of that guys and that girls

"I value true gender equality." Satou Kazuma.

I mean if everyone but one person is having fun doesn't that make them that guy?

Another Mary Sue

Who needs a girlfriend, when you have an imaginary doppelganger concubine, who keeps the drunken wizard occupied at home while the party is adventuring. Real chicks are *BASIC*

This is coming from someone who used to gender swap characters when I was younger! Don’t. Don’t do that. Some people are very attached to their image of the character, which includes their gender.

Another Mary sue

“You can’t hit a woman, it’s sexist.” I… no. As a woman, I think that statement is sexist. A man hitting a woman is no worse than a woman hitting a man. Most of the time, it’s not appropriate either way. In this (fictional situation) it is a perfectly appropriate response regardless of the gender of the people involved. For that matter, being a woman doesn’t give you a permission to harass someone.

Wolftaur sounds cool, shame the player isn't

'You need to leave or I'm breaking up with your friend!' ...well, I mean, you're already kinda cheating on him by trying to seduce SOME ONE ELSE'S character so hard...

Mary sue!

Some people should remove themselves from society...