When people are depressed, they don't give up what they want, they don't want anything!!!! They can't even remember what they wanted when they were better.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, the more deep the depression, the less ability to have any positive thoughts. That is why the visualization includes "pumping up." When you see yourself as larger, your energy levels increase. It then becomes more possible both to think about what you want and to create potential solutions.

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

That is why the visualization works...with your eyes closed you see beyond conscious thoughts to understandings that you would otherwise not have been able to access.

@geribenezue7393

4 жыл бұрын

Susan Heitler “‘

@shamakuma1967

4 жыл бұрын

Very very true

@kaypandey7221

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! There is no motivation, no vigour, no will to live.

Depression is brutal. Your own mind causing you pain & destruction. Stay strong everyone

@vershanahouston2020

2 жыл бұрын

Yess so true

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Pablo, For relief reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

@pablofieldo2289

2 жыл бұрын

@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@pablofieldo2289 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly without expectations--let change happen by itself. . Best wishes. Senior counsellor.

@alimmaqsa

2 жыл бұрын

This comment brought tears to my eyes. I suggest we build a community or a club to stand against depression and antidepressants that ruin our fkn brains. I feel myself like a zombie, man!

Depression is being in a dark place and no energy to even switch on the light

@chrismcdevitt7814

2 жыл бұрын

Hard to even get out of bed.

@melissanaidoo6237

2 жыл бұрын

@@chrismcdevitt7814 depression is real. Its just you and the darkness. I hate when people try to relate but have no clue

@chrismcdevitt7814

2 жыл бұрын

@@melissanaidoo6237 it's been a long .long struggle for me. people don't have a clue

@E-Kat

2 жыл бұрын

Or you can’t go to the loo and your bladder hurts and you still don’t go because you can’t get up and you don’t care..

@nana820able

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I don't want to get out of bed but once up I can't get anything done and don't want to leave the house. Feels like going down a deep dark hole.

I had major depression during the end of last year into the start of this year. I lost interest in in the gym, in painting, in reading. I don’t know when it started creeping in. I couldn’t stop crying, if felt like a massive hole in my chest, nothing made it go away, and the thoughts I had were horrible. I was suicidal. I made a folder and put bank statements, car documents, passwords and pin codes, letters to my niece, nephew, siblings and parents, and an informal will because I wanted everything to be organised for when I died. I knew how I was going to do it. Medication saved my life. I needed it to be able to feel capable of getting to the root of where those feelings came l from. If I’d went to the doctor and he told me everything this woman is saying then I probs my wouldn’t be here typing this right now. Sometimes a person needs medication to be able to see things clear headed. Depression isn’t feeling down, it goes much deeper than that, and it’s bloody hard work pulling yourself out of it and look at things objectively (it took me nearly a year). The problem was, people would tell me that there were no issues but I didn’t believe it because of all the horrible things I was telling my self. Trying to convince yourself that your inner voice lies is so difficult, and when you reach a point where you can distinguish between who you are and what the depressive part of you is it’s easy to say you need to change your mindset. Buts it’s bloody hard, and you go over it and over it until it sticks. Sometimes though medication is the only way out of a hole. My doctor made sure to tell me that it wasn’t a long term solution, I needed to help myself as well, but without those tablets I didn’t have fighting chance.

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this vivid description of a major depressive episode. I completely agree that for this kind of depression, and especially with suicidal thoughts, medication is a vital treatment component. So glad to hear that you did succeed in emerging out of that dark depressed place. Your story hopefully will inspire others.

@michcookies

3 жыл бұрын

Susan Heitler thank you, I appreciate your reply. When researching the medication I was on when I started taking it there were a lot of people who had been on it for a year or more, and I was scared I would end up dependant on it. I’d tried to do positive thinking mantras over the years but they didn’t work, and I now think it’s because I had to learn *how* to do it rather than learn a phrase. Along with that I learned *how* to get to the root of where my negative thinking came from. I often think if I hadn’t have had my breakdown I wouldn’t have been forced to deal with it properly, and so I’d probably still be stuck in a loop of negative thinking, so I needed to feel all those things before realising I needed to help myself. (Funnily enough, it was a KZread video that helped the most that popped up in my recommendations, I didn’t even look for it. I guess the phrase ‘when the student is ready the teacher will appear’ has some truth in it).

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

@@michcookies You make a vitally important point here. As multiple research studies have validated, medications work best in conjunction with therapy. Otherwise, people are less likely to learn from their depression experience and therefore are at higher risk for becoming dependent on the medication. "Therapy" can mean all kinds of options, not just traditional talk therapy. Visualization treatments like in this TEDx talk, Emotion Code, acupoint tapping, and other of the newer energy treatments, for instance, can be similarly effective. The key is BOTH, to utilize both medication and other therapies, especially those that help you to learn and grow.

@E-Kat

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, I'm so sorry for you had to go through to finally emerged on the other side, better! What a excruciatingly crushing year it must have been. At least you're better!! I'm so happy for you ! I suppose it would be totally inappropriate to ask what the doc gave you? I apologise for asking. Feel to down to even ask my doctor for a phone consultation. All the best.

@shira7967

3 жыл бұрын

I exactly feel like this for 2yrs now. Can i may ask what pills u took to get better?

This is similar to CBASP therapy. It teaches you to get what you want in situations. The problem with severe depression is you dont know what you want. You can't pinpoint anything. You don't care. You want it to end so you can get living again. There's no simple logic to it. But this is probably helpful if you're a bit fed up.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

You are exactly right that in severe depression you don't know what you want and can't pinpoint anything. That's why people need to close their eyes to do this visualization. With eyes closed, your mind can access deeper self-knowledge.

@scotscub76

6 жыл бұрын

Susan Heitler Thanks for your reply. The only thing which helps me have even a little relief enduring a life with this utter beastly condition is 2 hours mindful meditation daily. I admire you helping people with this.

@scotscub76

6 жыл бұрын

Susan Heitler Thanks susan. I am doing EMDR therapy too which has been so helpful.

@garysimone4977

6 жыл бұрын

Wish it was this easy

@heavensimagery

5 жыл бұрын

D Fine oronnie

To those, who are suffering - my heart with you. It WILL get better soon. This video and Voicely helped me a lot. Remember, you are not alone!

@mrnitoman1

2 жыл бұрын

you got this

@amaanjamal7744

2 жыл бұрын

ThankYou for ur kind words🥺❤

@SUGAR_XYLER

2 жыл бұрын

I've been waiting 35 years for my life to get better...it hasn't ‼️

@girlpower5703

2 жыл бұрын

Amen , I don’t want to be depressed the whole entire time

@mileyroe4877

Жыл бұрын

❤

The real gem in this talk is “depression is a disorder of power” this is exactly how I view it. It’s not simply a chemical thing. It’s relational. It’s about the experience of disempowerment.

@mantralibre1367

2 жыл бұрын

Partially. But very true as a statement.

@selliott7043

2 жыл бұрын

Is it helpful to the depressive to say it’s simply a matter of empowerment when all the mechanisms of imagination are beyond the depressive mind? From where does empowerment stem? It can not be some external manifestation like work place assertion, it requires a healthy functioning mind which a depressive simply does not have and so it goes full circle; chicken and eggs. To break the chain we need a reset button. I have found my creativity and now understand that I have been depressed since the age of 7, this being a defense mechanism; couldn’t put two words together at times! Couldn’t connect words with concepts (bit like Donald Trump). Lights are on but nobody’s home! Oh boy what a journey! Thanks Donald! And I mean it; what a shining light of how not to be a human being! Depression can be a basic loss of our Sense of Humanity; the depressive sees it, Trump is incapable of seeing it!

@angelicaduncan9694

2 жыл бұрын

It’s also a chemical imbalance. I’m studying criminal psychology criminology and minoring in psychology

@sandollor

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelicaduncan9694 It can be, but isn't always. You've either already learned this or you will.

@lifeiswonderful22

2 жыл бұрын

Uh, you can take brain scans of people and see how they differ. The chemical imbalance is literally observable.

Deep depression is when you don’t feel in control of your mind, the depression is in control, you feel scared inside like you are going mad, full of regrets and ruminating about being a bad person, it’s the worst thing imaginable

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

A most poignant description. May you soon find your way back into the sunshine!

@justmadeit2

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler Thankyou

Great presentation! Thanks! 1) Pinpoint 2) Pump Up 3) Problem Solve

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Warmest thanks to you for the summary and also for writing in your appreciative comment!

I'm currently writing a book on Depression. To begin with i have had everything available prescribed nothing ever worked. I even ended up resulting to Alcohol which made everything worse. The dark days of not wanting to get out the bed and sitting in those cold showers. Anxiety and Panic Attacks didn't help my situation either and ended up in the hospital multiple times. Nothing was missing in my life. This dark cloud of Depression is something many of us are scared to talk about and I'm glad more people are becoming open to it. And to be honest at times it's even hard to speak about it. Medication works if used correctly as a boost for the short term. But long term I strongly believe we and I say "we" because we are a community that together we can help each other learn ways of coping with the dark cloud. If you're reading this just know you're not alone,breath and use the power of your mind. Little by little things get better. May God bless you all. This was really hard for me to even write. But slowly I'm trying. And there's no judgment on Depression it happens to the best of us. Much love and blessings to everyone. 😊🙏💯

@Brownie_eyes

2 жыл бұрын

I refer to it as “the dark place”. It’s scary. My # 1 priority in life is trying to avoid that dark place. I will never take the feeling of hope for granted again.

@nancyayotte2297

Жыл бұрын

I too have gaping holes in me I can't fill. I've had depression since about 12. I'm 56 now and it's worse than ever. Then I hate myself for being a wasted human being. I promise you I don't want to be like this. Btw how are you and your book doing?

@TT-th1gb

Жыл бұрын

This broke down to unexpected sobbing 😭 I dont think I really know why but I thank you for your helpfulness & praise God for helping us fight back. Thankyou

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@Brownie_eyes Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life. Good 4 u!

"life is not an endurance contest" it also talks about how life is meant to be lived rather then being imprisoned by your past. god this is was so helpful, thank you so much

Sending love if you are struggling! ❤️

She makes it sound so very simple, the answer wrapped up in a Ted Talk handy for your purse or your pocket. Her analogy for the common cold sums it up. If you suffer something more serious this won't help.

@yyyyy7789

3 жыл бұрын

she said it sounds easy but its not 4:53 and she gave reasons why (depression makes your mind clouded, you feel powerless etc.) "Her analogy for the common cold sums it up" i see its like going from light depression(maybe just some symptoms of depression) to the worst state of depression. if you catch it early, identify the problem and try to solve it your pre-depressive state or light depressive state would improve. but i see your point, if you in the worst depressive state your problem isn't really bump in a road, its yourself, constant negative thoughts, inability to do the easiest tasks and so on. but i still think her advice is good.

@lifeiswonderful22

2 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't it be great if you only got depression like one day a year for half a week?

@lifeiswonderful22

2 жыл бұрын

@@yyyyy7789 I don't take people's opinions about depression seriously if they've never experienced it themselves.

@josie3221

2 жыл бұрын

she said very clearly that it’s like a common cold that can develop into a sinus infection. these tips are for people who are dysthymic or beginning to feel depressed. the answer is simple stop over complicating things.

@serpentines6356

2 жыл бұрын

Being shame based, and having the ones you love the most reject you, and never talk to you again is quite disturbing, and makes the challenging journey one crawled out of so difficult all over again. People go through all kinds of wretched trauma, make mistakes they didn't mean to make, and it is quite difficult for many.

Yeah this works if you're just feeling down about something, but this will NOT at all do anything for major depressives.

@michaelgrant169

5 жыл бұрын

Dee Zaster. Sharing wisdom heals, the best things are not things. Just food for thought.

@paullafemina8260

5 жыл бұрын

A psychologist promoting psychology and her own books. What if you have become depressed when everything is going well. There are two types of depression endogenous and reactive.

@mattw4496

5 жыл бұрын

Don't be so negative.

@paullafemina8260

5 жыл бұрын

@@mattw4496 you completely lack knowledge and understanding

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

I agree Dee that for a major depressive episode it is important also to explore using an antidepressant.

I've been so depressed that I wasn't even expecting to get much out of this. My depression lifted just listening to the 16 minute presentation. I am about to listen again. I hope you all feel much much better soon!

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

I am delighted that you found the talk so helpful. Thank you for sharing your reaction!

@rarebird_82

Жыл бұрын

Prob not genuine crippling clinical depression then. Lucky you, all the best ✌🏻

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@rarebird_82 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@Samwise_92

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

This makes slot of sense. Seeing other people in my life as larger and better than me made depression so much worse

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

It's vital next to allow yourself to visualize yourself as bigger than them. It's often amazing how this step alone helps people feel better. To keep feeling better though requires the third step as well. Pinpoint. Pump up. Problem-solve.

@birdy702

2 жыл бұрын

Same, social media

@TT-th1gb

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler that's good advice, thank you.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

I understand u bro. My homies all r doing better job wise for a long time now. ⌛️ but I always look at wut I'm better than them. Then I feel much better. It's not nice but...da cheddar $ is important but tbh salvation is da most important. If u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior for your sins, you will have eternal life in heaven 🙏.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Maybe u r a better person then them homies u know man. 💯

I really like this woman's presentation style. She is genuine, confident, and open. She even makes mistakes and keeps going. She comes across as real person and educator, and not just as a presenter.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Warmest thanks for this comment. I appreciate it very much.

@casandraoana4140

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agreed

@CADsAnonymous

2 жыл бұрын

💛🌻

@cindycecilia2904

Жыл бұрын

Agreed! Thank you Susan, such a real words

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

For “Feeling down” this would be helpful. For depression this is irrelevant.

@drheitler

4 жыл бұрын

When your depression is reactive, even quite serious depression can be helped with this visualization. If the depression is biochemical in origin, by contrast, you will find that in step two when you "pump up," you cannot sustain the larger size. That's one way, in fact, to test if the depression is, in fact, reactive or organic, and also whether it will be important to go ahead and take medication to relieve it.

@bozomahoney

2 жыл бұрын

You are so right !!

@gingerindian1141

2 жыл бұрын

@@drheitler not very author of a video steps in, says some fantastic updates, and kills the troll in an instant. Great TED talk.

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

@@gingerindian1141 Thank you. Glad You liked the talk.

@mandistanke6387

2 жыл бұрын

I think it's relevant. Depression has causes. Pills can't change life circumstances.

Great video. I am a 46 year old healthy male who has had a life of depression, anxiety and ocd (severe at times). I had a great childhood, no traumas. I have a great career, even in these uncertain times, I have a home and food and family and all kinds of wonderful things. Yet this weight of depression walks with me still at 46. I’m on a mild daily ad, I’ve been talking to therapists for 20 years, tried cbt methods, exercise, healthy eating, light therapy, etc and yet there are days that are soul crushing. The big events in life don’t seem to phase me, it’s the day to day living with this weight of depression. It’s a vague sense of doom, why if everything in my life is peaches do I wake up and live every day with this doom, lethargy, spontaneous crying. I can be laughing with friends at dinner and feel this awful sinking sensation. The best I can do is consider this a journey, be grateful for it all and live in the now.

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Жыл бұрын

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@Anna-mv9ew

Жыл бұрын

Have you tried reducing stress by giving up your career? Because stress is the ultimate cause of depression. Otherwise, combating depression is like trying to heal your bruises after being beaten every day.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

U really have it good brodie. 👍 Why u still depressed? U should be very grateful 🙏. R u a perfectionist? Do u want me 2 pray 4 u?

@LisaS1

Жыл бұрын

From my understanding depression as to do with various things like negative thoughts causing it, toxins in your body and in the environment, food, and water. Sorry to hear you are also depressed. My depression never leaves me. I never started taking the ads I got as I missed my appointment and fear I can't get refills.

@Bomber411

Жыл бұрын

I have a very good friend dealing with this exact thing. His life is good, he wants for nothing, yet he is at the end of his rope with no more rope left to tie a knot and hang onto. If anyone has any ideas of how to heal this, please reach out. I've been researching and found light therapy, using the sun. Tested it on myself, using it as pain management and it not only helped my constant depression, but healed some other issues I wasn't expecting it to help. Check out Andrew Huberman's channel. He's a neuroscientist who teaches at Stanton medical University and believes this information should not be limited to just those who can afford it. He changed my life. Search up vit D healing with the sun, there's a video of another dr that comes up there and it's a great one too, yet I can't remember the drs name. If anyone wants it, I can hunt it down and share the link, but please check it out. My friend is calling soon so I will share my findings with him as well, but he doesn't like the sun so this will be tricky. I didn't like the sun either, but please take a chance and listen to what Andrew Huberman teaches. Love and light to you all. ❤🔥

When you are depressed, the last thing that you need is to feel numb. I appreciate her being honest on her perspective to this issue. I've been experiencing this painful issue for the past 6 years, triggered by my sister's tragic death. I didn't get help fast enough. I wish you all and anyone struggling this the help you need and the peace that you deserve.

@CLord-gs7nj

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. A wave of depression triggered by grief is brutal. I hope that you get the support that you need. A compassioante therapist is worth her or his weight in gold. I also found solace in a program I found in a book. When Your Body Gets The Blues. I wish you healing.

@hasinapatel1233

Ай бұрын

Have you tried Emdr I have heard it works for lots of people. But is very expensive.

I honestly believe that there are at least two kinds of depression. 1.Circumstance or Situational depression that is cause by a circumstance in your life. A loss for instance. 2. Clinical depression that is triggered by changes in brain chemicals. Depression is not the same as sadness. Sadness is an emotion. From my experience, clinical depression shows as an absence of emotion. I recall one morning some years ago. I dressed as a matter of habit...put on my coat as if to go out. As I was about to open my front door, I realized that I had no idea where I intended to go or why. I closed the door and stood in the room with my coat on and my car keys in my hand and ran over the possible places I might go or things I might do. To each option I said to myself, "Why Bother?" Then, I sat down ,still with my coat on and keys in hand and I just sat there staring out into the void. I couldn't generate enough motive to even stand up again. Why Bother ? Those two words sum up for me, the essence of clinical depression. You see no light at the end of the tunnel and, frankly, you don't really care!! Prozac brought me out of it.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

I agree with you about the two different causes, biochemical and situational. Hormonal changes for instance can trigger depression. And any kind of loss or inability or hopelessness about getting something you want can trigger depression also. After either trigger, the intensity of the depression can vary. Hormonal difficulties for instance can trigger mild deprression, or severe. Likewise, situations can trigger either mild, moderate or severe depression. The most severe depression I ever worked with, for instance, was a woman whose husband insisted that they move to another and far-away city. When they brought her to my office, she sat in fetal position and couldn't move or talk. When the depression is hormonal or otherwise caused by biochemical changes, it's important to diagnose the specific triggers. Similarly, when the trigger is situational, it's important also to address the triggers. In both cases, and especially if the depression is long-lasting and/or where there is family history of depressive tendencies, it can be, or may not be, helpful to add medication. The vast majority of depressive reactions can be treated without medication however.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

A very clarifying description of the two depressive states. At the same time, for some people a specific situation triggers the extreme kind of response you so beautifully describe. So sometimes the phenomenon is both situational and chemical.

@kassandraharz9345

4 жыл бұрын

Prozac nor it's opposite (bupropion) helped my depression and quite frankly I'm sick of the hunt for a "good therapist"

@letsdomath1750

3 жыл бұрын

@@kassandraharz9345 Yeah, I fixed it with yoga nidra. Thank God for KZread and Reddit recommendations. It was annoying to go to therapy after bouncing around 6 therapists, counselors, and psychologists in addition to the shifty psychiatrists for 9 months. Prescription pills only made things worse, but I am so glad and thankful that nightmare is over.

@JanetSmith900

2 жыл бұрын

@@kassandraharz9345 same. Where. Are. The. Good. Therapists???

Thanks, but what we really need is a video on how to deal with non-situational depression.

@daliamacias8219

6 жыл бұрын

I agree

@mattw4496

5 жыл бұрын

There are other videos. Look for it.

@SleeplessinOC

5 жыл бұрын

Aunt Cat that’s what most depression solution videos are about . Mine is mostly situational but not easy to remedy.

@angelicaduncan9694

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Thank you. I hope anyone commenting here has been able to manage their depression and get help or are coping in a manageable way w out narcotics

@valeriezushin9419

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

This sound so simple. But when you're stuck with depression even simplest tasks are very hard. Deep breaths don't do anything at all. Sometimes even make it worse...

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. This is true. Depression depletes your energy system so doing anything can feel impossible. Paradoxically, forcing yourself to move around, for instance, to go walking outside or to do exercise, causes your energy to rise. Instead of using up your limited energy, movement generally restores a more energetic emotional state.

@bradders9743

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it seems that despite all her research she still thinks depression means feeling fed up.

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

@@bradders9743 Fed up can be a step on the road to depression. Fed up followed by giving up gets someone closer.

@eviolus-5660

2 жыл бұрын

I find that when I'm depressed I breathe as though I'm asleep, I did a meditation once that said not to leave a space between inhaling and exhaling, it helped a bit. It's worth trying if you're struggling to get up, to get an extra edge before trying to do something

@The6Eternal6Dark6Lord

2 жыл бұрын

@@eviolus-5660 yeah the Wim Hoff breathing technique helps a little

Being depressed and having depression are two different things. While these "prescriptions" may be helpful for some people, those that are seriously depressed will not be helped by these techniques. When you truly suffer from depression, you lack hope, desire, drive, etc. - you essentially feel numb and/or indifferent. Sending love and prayers out to all my fellow sufferers of true depression. 💗 Don't give up! There's nothing to be ashamed about. Take care of yourself and, in turn, your loved ones by getting help from your doctor and/or a qualified psychiatrist. ✌🏻

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. This visualization is for a "common cold" type of depression, not for the equivalent of pneumonia.

@ukiewife

2 жыл бұрын

@@drheitler Thanks for your response. I know that it's not within your control but, unfortunately, the title is misleading. That's normal on KZread, though. How else would they get people to click on videos. 😂

@ILoveWeed0420

2 жыл бұрын

Well said!!! And thank you!

Depression is not a 'down mood'!!

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Just like anger can range from mild irritation to rage, depression can range from "a down mood" to overwhelming despair.

@NIN0ID

5 жыл бұрын

@@drheitler If someone's "Depression" is just a down mood then it isn't really depression.

@whisperingleaves4157

4 жыл бұрын

Research0digo No it’s not... yet it might be a “down mood” that lasts for a very very long time. She was very light and perhaps simplistic in what she was saying but there was some truth in what she said too.

@kirk1007

4 жыл бұрын

True

@dreamthedream8929

4 жыл бұрын

@@kirk1007 not true. Depression is a down mood that is more severe and longer than others. Perhaps with additional bodily symptoms as well. Its the same thing overall. You can be a little hungry or you can be very hungry. When people are very hungry they usually use the word starving. Same with depression. So you are wrong and she is right.

If it were this easy, depression wouldn't be a thing.

@karrypeach7999

6 жыл бұрын

Mars Silvergold It is that easy, humans love to complicate things

@Blueangel290393

6 жыл бұрын

nope, it truly is not. Some people just don't have power anymore. They are (I know it by myself) like ran out of fuel after running a couple of marathons without any break. Combined with a life situation which offers no further options for a soon outcome, it literally keeps you down. And in this position there are really much wrong decisions, wating to be made. And if you are additionally afraid of anything at anytime because there isnt much left to be made the right way, then you are very soon paralyzed and time keeps going faster than you can even imagine without any progress in your life. And the latter can even pull you down again and every little step forward, even when noticing it though, feels like still being stuck. So thus, depression is and can be very complicated without wanting it to be what it actually is like in most cases. I went the way to a therapist because I wanted a change and I'm still working on it, but I can really tell you that this, I admit good video, is not the only truth. There is MUCH more to be done to get out of the mud. And btw* I'm not taking any pills and nevertheless I often thought about taking them because for me...these kind of prescriptions without pills aren't enough by far.

@noteasy2please876

6 жыл бұрын

It's not for everyone. It is worth examining especially when one considers how many people are taking pills, and shouldn't be. Sadness and temporary depression are a part of life and not a reason to take expensive, dangerous drugs.

@chrisnam1603

6 жыл бұрын

thx for this blue, when pple reply 'otherwise' they never hit rock bottom indeed

@susienunya91

6 жыл бұрын

Depression is also passed on

I just don't know how is it feels to actually want to live or be alive. That's depression. Life long torture.

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you. The kind of long-standing depression you are describing will take more than the technique in this video. I do hope that you find a cure before long. Keep looking. Somewhere something will appear that will enable you to enjoy life's sunshine. May it come soon!

@cosmicman621

3 жыл бұрын

@@drheitler ...amen..that is my situation to...May God Bless Us and keep us going forward..with Love’s Grace...🌈

@qwertyman459

3 жыл бұрын

death is no better as someone who can feel the darkness cold and empty. refresh your hope and feel alive. the darkness will take us all one day.

@karambit821

2 жыл бұрын

Smh

I’ve had dysthymia since the age of 15 (almost 50 years), and have had a few hospitalizations. I also functioned well for long stretches of time when the depression was in remission. Currently have been going through a deep, long-term episode for over a year. I’m trying different meds and have been in therapy. I’m looking forward to getting out of the cellar so I can take advantage of something like this when I’m up to it. It’s tough beyond explanation.

@chrisberry9017

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely my friend - I truly feel for you. I’m experiencing a lengthy ‘dark cellar’ period too, and it’s pretty stubborn this time. If it’s any help to you, I’m sending you my warmest good wishes from the UK. We’ll get through this!

@robfiedler2139

Жыл бұрын

@@chrisberry9017 Thanks, my friend. Best to you, too.

@TungPham-io1xq

Жыл бұрын

Thank You for sharing. So brave of you. One step at a time.

I have suffered from life-threatening depression on and off during my life. If I had known about these techniques from childhood I don't think I would have suffered from depression it wouldn't have got that bad . So I think what this lady has to say is simple but very worthwhile, and I thank her very much for saying it

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome. And thank you for sharing your realization that understanding of the triggers for depression and techniques such as this one to counter them can save much suffering.

@nwn2377

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, I've been doing this for cptsd issues, coupled with EMDR it's let me live. Not only am I not dissociating, i actually don't want to now. I feel alive and I actually like it, so thanks from me too, and everyone that loves me 😊

@Wriggs74

2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree with you. so glad you have finally pin pointed your depression.

@TMH792

Жыл бұрын

It’s so true! I’m in one of the darkest depressions I’ve ever experienced and I’ve had a lot. I just did this visualization and I’m not kidding I feel better! I’m shocked. I also have CPTSD. Hope you’re doing well, I see this was 3 years ago.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

R u still alive?

I never knew how easy it is to get into depression,but now that I am in one I know exactly how it feels, getting anxieties from time to time, crying whenever if not all the time, getting agitated,I could go on and on..it hurts more not having anyone to talk to because I am totally reserved I could count people I talk to in one hand,I am losing it alone it hurts it hurts a lot,I hope that one day this will be in the past..if not I hope nobody will go through this, nobody is supposed to.

@asuntasarah559

2 жыл бұрын

How did you all fight this? I can't anymore..help..SOS please 😭

@billcastanedo4467

Жыл бұрын

Asunta Sarah I hope you’re doing better. Yes it’s horrible but you must do your best to find someone who will listen & be supportive- hang in there & God bless you!!!

@adilabaig1368

Жыл бұрын

Dear, you can talk to me when you want. I've gone through this and healed. I'm in a better place due to God Almighty and all the work I did upon myself. Pls don't hold back and reach out. I'll send you my contact if feel so

@Primo978

7 ай бұрын

This is exactly me 😔

Thank you so much ma'am. only because of you I am out of depression (it took some time but i did it)

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Hooray! Good for you!!!

@adityachavan8060

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler A big thanks from India☺️

@pornokid333

Жыл бұрын

Trying to scam depressed people.mthats just pathetic. Getnoutta here Nigerian.

I have suffered from depression since my teens. I am functional but it is difficult to go by day by day without joy or motivation. I have tried antidepressants, but the side effects were worse than the depression itself. Though I am not suicidal, living is a struggle. Hard to explain. A never ending story.......

I think these are techniques useful for those moments when you're "temporarily feeling down" because some specific situations going on in your life and you should not be prescribed with antidepressant medication. In today's society, we can see two extremes: One is people being unnecessarily prescribed and the other is people who are actually and clinically depressed that just cannot be helped by using these kind of techniques and really need a full treatment involving medication and therapy.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@obibraxton2232

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely because I’m too far gone tired soo many medications over the years and talk therapy and it don’t worked still depressed asf

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@obibraxton2232 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life. Maybe start praying 🙏 to God n see if it works. And to also exercise and eat healthy.

@needozown

7 ай бұрын

Exactly i was about to say same, lady is talking about being depressed due to situation , people who are depressed since their childhood or teenage can be clinically depressed

God bless this lady I’ve struggled with depression 16 years it’s been on and off but I needed to hear this man. Sometimes I just cry in my pillow because I want things to get better but after this video I’ve realized you have to make yourself happy at whatever cost

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

Depression is a disorder of power. I am delighted to hear that this video helped you to realize that regaining an inner sense of empowerment-that is, ability to make changes that enable you to get what you want-can have a major impact on a depressed emotional state.

@marcialopez7228

Жыл бұрын

This Hennessey ain't even helping I'm genuinely in a messed up situation got fired too embarrassed to tell anybody feel like my life is over

@aurograce2983

Жыл бұрын

@@marcialopez7228 hey man I hope things will go better for you

this really helped me, I was depressed for years since I was a child and hadn't really realized it fully until a few days ago, I couldn't stop crying and stop from hurting, I remember I watch a video on youtube and the guy said you have to take risks to overcome it and he said that means opening up to someone which was the hardest thing in the world for me because I've always held stuff in, so yesterday I went to my mom and I told her everything and how I wanted to see a therapist, I couldn't even finish my sentences, now today after seeing this video finally gives me some kind of hope that'll feel better because I feel better after watching the video.

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

I so very glad to hear that you are opening up and beginning to see light again. Bravo!

@b3a3n3a3n3a3s

2 жыл бұрын

You deserve a lot of credit for finding the strength to take that step. Wishing you all the best for the future

@spiritual_king2375

2 жыл бұрын

How are u doing now?

@TheDede508

2 жыл бұрын

@@spiritual_king2375 I'm doing alot better I still live with my toxic family but I'm able to confront and stand up to them something I wasn't able to do before, I worked on myself a lot since I last commented on this video, I became really confident and even my little sister noticed it in me, she also struggles with the same thing I did in the past so since then I started helping her to break out of it and we became even closer doing so, she says she wants to be like me lol.

@TheDede508

2 жыл бұрын

@@b3a3n3a3n3a3s thank you so much, I'm glad someone knows how excruciating this is to overcome but I'm doing a whole lot better now btw.

When she said the thing about Depression being about power a lightbulb went off. Everytime I feel depression coming on its when I feel insecure or powerless to something I want

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Thanks for sharing your insight!

What came to my mind was the future picture of who I wanted to be... I'm irritated because I could not become that person yet as I've been going through a lot. But I just survived homelessness and got myself a home so I can finally now focus on my future. Even if this didn't go the way I wanted... it does not mean it never will. Thank you for making me feel better.

Today, this TEDx talk crossed the million viewers mark. Warmest thanks to all who have viewed it. Highest hopes for all viewers that the talk has helped you to emerge from your depressed state. And deepest appreciation to the many viewers who have shared in these comments their positive reactions. "May the long time sun shine upon you, All love surround you, And the pure light within you Guide your way on." By Snatam Kaur, in a song recorded by the Incredible String Band

@thinkandrepent3175

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video it really helped me to feel better. God Bless You!

@uhoh6081

3 жыл бұрын

How does one think rationally, any tips, I’m still just a kid and it would mean the world if you could help out, like any sources, or ways to help Also is it bad if my depression has Been going on for a lot longer than some sources say is common, I got diagnose about a year ago but it feels as though it’s been going on for so long.

@drheitler

3 жыл бұрын

@@thinkandrepent3175 Warmest thanks for sharing your reaction, and also for the blessing. May you continue to feel better and to handle life's challenges in ways that keep you feeling good.

@-Skywalker01-

3 жыл бұрын

@@uhoh6081 hey, do still need any advice?

@josefinah9321

3 жыл бұрын

Ouch that’s an unfortunate name

its facinating to think that depression is also a disorder of feeling small and powerless. it makes sense to me

I have been depressed most of my life. At times I can feel on my back a weight that feels like I am carrying somebody else's body. I have seriously tried everything known to man. Now I just live with it and do what I can to survive. Eat, sleep, distract.

@KeithGreenshields

2 жыл бұрын

@Dhea Dellos - Affirmations Thanks and I wish well for you. I agree, however I come to conclude through Yankee Arnold Ministries that I had been trying to restore the dead and not learning to walk by faith through my spirit by the Holy Spirits guidance and empowerment. Also that I had not put effort into learning who I am in Christ and what my authority is. Anyways, now on this path. 😎😎

“Giving up in response to something you want, triggers depression”!! Brilliant!

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the feedback!

Depression itself complicates bad moods into a downward spiral, it is highly intelligent and tricky that kinda get you cornered no matter what you try to do. But depression is a part of you, which means you are actually fighting against yourself. The intelligence depression displays by caging you in, is the same intelligence YOU own by trying to avoid future pain and suffering. So if you can get into depression, you can get out of it for sure. Knowing how to not let in negative self talk and knowing that depression is a natural defensive mechanism is important, because only then can you detach yourself from it. Depression is not you, it is a symptom of fear. It does not speak for you nor does it represent who you are as a person.

@patricks1333

3 жыл бұрын

”Knowing how to not let in negative self-talk and knowing that depression is a natural defensive mechanism is important, because only then can you detach yourself from it. Depression is not you, it is a symptom of fear. It does not speak for you nor does it represent who you are as a person.” Thank you, that genuinely helps.

@deadpsyche3548

2 жыл бұрын

this is genuinely great advice. thank you.

@ntombilenhledlamini9524

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@yuriedward6519

Жыл бұрын

you are right it's not easy to beat depression there are lot of medical experiments out there but they don't work effectively to help with the healing process , i used different anti-depressant to fight it but didn't work until i was recommended to try psychedelic mushroom , i can testify to the magical wonders of this natural element given to us by nature , i don't why people don't talk about it because it could save lots of lives , i get mine delivered from an online vendor that specializes in the growth and sales of psychedelic products

@yuriedward6519

Жыл бұрын

*formulah11*

Yeah.. no, this doesn't work for chemical depression. My dark cloud came when everything in my life was perfect and going how I wanted it to. It is brain fog, fatigue, and memory loss. This isn't just a choice I am making because of negative thoughts. It's not a feeling of someone has it better than me, because nothing matters if this is how I would feel .

@The6Eternal6Dark6Lord

2 жыл бұрын

Yep thats it, brain fog , fatigue and memory loss

@nagodavithnaamilalakmal5282

2 жыл бұрын

i am experiencing all these now .when you have it u are always lack in making decisions , active at work , focus on your problems , and might feel like just watching some thing whole day doing nothing . getting a healthy diet less sweet and oil and not getting a tummy full diet just a half is fine , doing meditation helps a lot to keep the focus on track . and brain fog will be just gone it not permanent.

@nursen2106

2 жыл бұрын

this sounds like fatigue in conjunction with feeling depressed. burn out syndroms of modern live. I can see, what was meant here in the video. just different kind of depressions. behavioural disorders that make oneself unhappy (observing oneself getting upset and self-blaming etc) can also lead to exhaution. things like that can come hand in hand. often one of the two reveals itself, when you strt to work on one of them. one can never know, when all the sudden there comes a moment, when exactly this methiod comes into play

@lisaa6099

2 жыл бұрын

Aagree

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@nagodavithnaamilalakmal5282 How are you ? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, at work, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

Depression is such a lonely place.

Loved the speech. I just went thru a situation where we got this amazing house and couldn’t understand why I wasn’t happy... everybody was telling me I should be!!! The more I was told I should be happy and grateful the more miserable I felt... It just didn’t feel like a home.... Now I know why... it wasn’t a house I really chose, it was almost imposed by my husband and by the expectations of society... and, instead of happy, now I know, it just made me feel small. It’s on the market and we got this lovely and simple half the size house with a gorgeous garden. The first night I felt more at home than at the other house in a year... I wish I had heard this long ago... God bless!

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

Excellent example. Thanks for sharing!

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life. God loves ❤️ u. Pour out ur frustrations via prayers. He will hear u!

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

🔥 dope

The problem with depression is that it's not just in our conscious minds, but in the subconscious, & the subconscious mind contributes 95% of our brain power. To change such a situation therefore requires a lot of energy & willpower.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Billy Mugs, In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, in the kitchen, at work, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Morning sunlight walks, a simple prayer, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

A therapist told me I was depressed on a scale of 8/10 and immediately offered me some pills. Turned away and never looked back. I understand what I am but I will actively try to overcome it instead of submitting

My conception is that the world is getting faster and faster, and this rush breeds anxiety ... where it takes pressure on us, ending up in our depression

Dr. Susan Heitler is providing great insight in this video. I realize from the comments below that this video may not resonate for people who are struggling with severe depression, having difficulty functioning and are experience profound levels of pain. Based on Dr. Susan Heitler's other teachings, she does adamantly recommend people get help when they are experiencing severe depression, by the way of a therapist and psychiatrist. Once someone gets back to some level of functioning, they will still be faced with how to deal with their life challenges. Over time, if someone practices her 3 Step Prescription, I believe they can transform chronic tendencies towards depression into empowerment and vitality. Albeit, it is super important to get therapeutic support to put these new strategies into place. What Dr. Heitler is suggesting in this video is simple, but powerful. Often times, complex teachings need to be reduced to simple terms, so that they are more digestible and accessible. If you are someone you know if struggling with significant depression, I encourage getting help, so that there is support, safety, empathy, and compassion. From a stable foundation, Dr. Susan Heitler recommendations can help shift some major patterns of functioning.

OMG! She is the aunt I never knew that I needed in my life. She is so good ❤

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Warmest thanks for writing in your appreciation!

"Life is not an endurance test. You don't have to keep suffering. Pin down the problem, pump up, and solve it. " The best thing i have heard so far in my 20 years

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Warmest thanks for this enthusiastic endorsement.

Little meditation gives us an idea about where we are stuck, what's looking big, what we are interpreting which is not, what we are hearing which is not for us, we eventually figure out how our mind is playing with us, awareness is the first step to get out of depression.

"Julie chuckled" is where I stopped watching. Feels like a bedtime story. I've experienced my husband's depression and suicide. He had no bumps in the road. This talk is great for confidence building and assertiveness training, not clinical depression.

@Jrome3

4 жыл бұрын

You're 100% correct. Sorry to hear about your husband.😐

@MaxelMiliam

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, well I got out of my major depression with pump up techniques. I was suicidal, ended up in the hospital and had been like that for years and years! Got out of my depression in less than a week. I guess this person who treats hundreds of people for major depression knows less than you that... what do you do?

@shyaaammeneen63

3 жыл бұрын

Leah, The only permanent cure to depression is meditation which reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos "on Google search and watch some videos. Do the simple meditation at least twice a day in a quiet atmosphere and negative thoughts will slowly come down. You can sit on a chair and do this meditation. Continue daily practice --Best wishes. Shyaaam --Life coach.

@MuhammadKhalid-jv4qr

3 жыл бұрын

People who never experienced depression, have absolutely no idea what it is.

@E-Kat

3 жыл бұрын

@@MaxelMiliam what is pump up technique?

I've been doing these types of techniques on my own for the past 5 years without knowing of this video. I identify why I'm feeling that way, build myself up, make a plan, then take action. In fact I was doing this not only for myself but for my 41 year old sister, she took her life 1 month ago and I'm done. I've tried for so long and for this to be the outcome is just too much. I do what I need to do in life, work my 40 hours, clean up, basic hygiene, take care of her cat she abandoned...and that's it, there's no point in trying anymore.

@laureng8624

5 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It ebbs and flows like waves for me. Good days, bad days and in-between. If you have the means to, a good psychologist can help.

@hhsksshej2718

4 ай бұрын

Im sorry for your loss you are so powerful and brave keep going

Just loving how everyone has dropped down the comments 😭 like you guys understand how we feel

This role play scenario u created is like the ideal way it goes in a perfect world. It doesn't go like that in reality

Thought I would put my two pennies worth into this subject. The speaker first and foremost means well, she is a qualified psychiatrist and is giving the advice gathered throughout her career based upon her experiences. In an ideal world it would be absolutely fantastic to follow this advice and be well. Unfortunately it just doesn't work like that for a large part of the populace, including myself. I am also of the belief that a lot of mental illnesses are passed on genetically, predominantly depression & schizophrenia. Point being no, I don't want to be on antidepressants. But at the same time they have probably saved my life, and to be honest I wouldn't wish depression on my worst enemy. The best cure for depression that I have found is excercise, self reflection and more exercise, but have a goal.

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

People who are biologically and/or genetically depression-prone, I agree, are likely to find medication helpful and even essential. At the same time, the treatments are both-and rather than either-or. I have found that many clients who are successfully taking anti-depressant medication still benefit from the understanding of depression and the 3-P's visualization I explain in this talk. Life events and frustrations can knock anyone down, including people on mediation. Best to have good pick-me-ups, including exercise, sunshine, energizing social interactions, and visualizations. Thanks for sharing your thoughtful comment. Susan Heitler, PhD, clinical psychologist

@scorpioindigo1345

2 жыл бұрын

Feeling is everything…it runs the world..how you feel is life…you made her speech personal. You missed major points as well. Control your feelings, control your life. That’s why belief is so powerful…it’s what’s you feel not what you know..( main reason why ppl question religion..what they learn ..they don’t feel) 💯✌🏽

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@scorpioindigo1345 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@scorpioindigo1345

Жыл бұрын

@@small_fries7573 bro your lost and looking for a savior that doesn’t exist. Save yourself

To Nancy and Patricia, warmest thanks for taking the time to write your positive reactions to the talk. Your enthusiasm means a lot to me. I'm especially pleased with words like "practical" and "common sense," as my goal in giving the talk is to make self-help accessible to the many people who suffer from depressive reactions and want to know what they can do to help themselves.

@janeyoung4783

6 жыл бұрын

Susan Heitler. You are offering one type of approach that is about "doing something" constructive. Many professionals don't really seem to offer a formula to try. Maybe it will help, and if not, on to something else. I do not expect an answer but if I were to receive one I would be very grateful. I spent about 35 sessions with a therapist who helped me but I could not seem to get her to help me deal with my underlying anger! My anger stems from what feels like betrayal, even divine persecution! (So you don't think I'm suffering delusions...lol. I have had many recent "events" that could lead to situational depression). I am no stranger to depression. However, my normal methods are not working. Pharmaceutical methods only leave me empty, unable to feel the good either! At 49 my home, the safe haven I had worked so hard to create for my family, burned to the ground. A year later I lost my sight in one eye due to a very rare condition, a stroke/bloodclot to the artery supplying my retina. A year later another TIA. Testing led to quickly scheduling a triple bypass. Six days before that surgury and in excruciating pain and two hospital misdiagnosis, it was finally determined I had another rare condition, a spinal abscess. Since I had been on blood thinners and the paralysis was becoming obvious, they needed to emergently proceed to surgery giving me a 30% chance of surviving surgurey but a 100% guarantee of permanent paralysis. T1-3 were cut in half and a significant amount of debridement in the area was done. I spent ten days in hospital and two weeks in physical rehab learning to balance, walk, etc., still on IV antibiotics I then went home and continued with nursing visits, phy

@janeyoung4783

6 жыл бұрын

Sorry, mis sent. Long recovery and then within four months the triple bypass back to physical rehab, etc. It's been difficult and financially a hardship. I feel beaten down. I feel adversity has won! I feel like I let my family down by feeling depressed. I literally feel like the Mole in the "Wack-a-Mole" game! Afraid to live, afraid to die, I guess. Any ideas? Perspective?

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@janeyoung4783 damn. I pray u somehow recover 🙏. U got it tuff. Keep grinding 💪 some days u will suffer but no shame. Keep praying if u haven't started. I know it's cliche but God is real like u r real. 💛 Sometimes God rewards people 4 their sufferings and not so much with money or riches. I firmly believe that Jesus Christ will reward believers with spiritual richness and awards in heaven. Let me know if u need any prayers at da least I can do or any encouragement.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

@@janeyoung4783 let ur fam and friends know how difficult it's been & u need financial and encouragement help. Find a church ⛪️ maybe someone there can help u. 🤔

God bless you who is in depression

@cry6ix

Жыл бұрын

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For those dealing with depression, don't give up. Remember, If you rearrange the letters in the word "DEPRESSION" you will get words "I PRESSED ON". Keep pressing on.

@MZFiVETW000H

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you I needed to read this! 💜

@imsofocused4678

2 жыл бұрын

@@MZFiVETW000H You're welcome and hang in there. We got this!

@MZFiVETW000H

2 жыл бұрын

@@imsofocused4678 thank you 🙂💜 yes we do 💪🏽

@elababe5025

2 жыл бұрын

You made me smile

@valy4lifeee

2 жыл бұрын

This made me suicidal, thank you

there is no god damn "BUMP" in my life. I just have no energy, motivation, or care to do anything or interact with anyone. From an outsider perspective I have everything I could ever want or need to succeed. The only things I can force myself to do are: go to work, eat, and go to the gym. Other than that I am an empty shell of a human being.

@jacobr4558

3 жыл бұрын

Then you are powerless?

@OliviaaSkky

2 жыл бұрын

This is literally me

@pennylanekane

Жыл бұрын

How are you feeling now? I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. Hopelessness when it’s not caused by anything specific is difficult to navigate. Don’t give up!

Another great tip is writing comedy about your experiences, explain what it’s like being you and share it with others. Hope that helps someone. It’s amazing 😉 I’ve worked through some big stuff using comedy as therapy. Wishing you all a really loving peaceful day. Hang tight, this too shall pass 😍😍😍😍😍

@drheitler

4 жыл бұрын

As the saying goes, laughter is the best medicine. You are very fortunate to have this talent, a talent for turning emotional pain into humor. Bravo!

She’s so adorable 🥰 loves her talk

7 years keep fighting... but im still here still felling down😢

@foyo5497

Жыл бұрын

What this woman is talking about is depression that has no self-accountability. Lets be real, if someone else is making you feel bad/sad, the challenge of getting over that is honestly not that hard....as say trying to get through depression that clearly comes from our own doing. This video started off good, but then puts the blame on others. Thats all good if that is truth, but for many of us in depression, we are clearly the reason for how we feel, not someone outside ourselves.

I never thought I'd reach this point where the only thing that always comes to my mind are nothing but pure suicidal thoughts. Back when I was young I'm always positive, cheerful, active. But right now, whenever I'm alone or whenever I'm with someone,... my thoughts remain and I hate it because I'm so close to it. I'm so close to the point of just ending things so that I could no longer feel it. I rather be physically tortured to see my bruises and wounds heal than to be like this. This is... awful

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Yes, episodes of major depression can feel devastating. Please though, hang in there. New treatments do seem to be working. Check out the reply I wrote to Christoph Baier (3 days ago) for suggestions of at least two that seem to get quite remarkable results. When you feel back to normal, you will look back on this period in your life and feel enormously thankful to be again in the world of smiles and enjoyment.

@boomboxx9079

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler Hi, thank you so much for your help. I appreciate it a lot and your words somehow calmed me. I will read it and I sincerely thank you for it.

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

@@boomboxx9079 Warmest thanks for the feedback. Your ability to experience and express appreciation says to me that you have the potential to live a joyful life. Go for it!

My depression is debilitating, relentless, and over powering. I have trouble even speaking sometimes, making eye contact. The most frustrating though is the inability to figure out why I'm feeling this way.

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

Finding the trigger for a depressed state is exactly the purpose of this exercise. At the same time, additional therapies may be needed for someone to have the energy to implement new insights from this exercise. This need becomes evident if someone does the three steps of the exercise and finds that they cannot hold the larger size that they envision in step two, Pump up. Emotion Code and Body Code are treatment methods that sometimes can help to identify further causes, and treatments, for a major depression such as you are describing. Google these terms (or search youtube) to learn more. Also, it's important with a significant depression to get a medical workup to be sure your body is not missing a chemical (e.g., potassium) needed for a normal emotional state. Lastly , in situations such as yours, it can for sure be worth giving medications a try, including ketamine if a combination of the techniques above plus traditional anti-depressant medication does not lift your energy level and your spirit. Wishing you all the best.

@michaeldaywalt2097

2 жыл бұрын

@@drheitler Wow. Thank you very much for for taking the time to reply. I absolutely will try everything you suggested, except the ketamine. I'm a recovering addict. But would like to note I almost took part in a research study for severe depression at a hospital in Bethesda MA where they were going to use ketamine coupled with an ssri I forget which one. However I was disqualified because of a metal rod in my right tibia. I couldn't do some particular scan that had magnetic properties like mri or something

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaeldaywalt2097 Another option for treatment-resistant depression: electric shock has been much improved over the years. One of my clients recently underwent this treatment. It took him from 100% unable to function to being able to return to his work as a high-level professional.

I’ve watched quite a few of these vids on depression, and the one thing that they all leave out, because it’s outside their conformist, middle-class comfort zone is alienation… Complete, total and unbridgeable alienation! To the alienated, I say this, ‘use that gift to do the things the others never even imagined’.

I was diagnosed with Bipolar II in 2019. I was grateful what I felt for so many years finally had a name. Now, I can work on fixing it/ managing it.

I forgot the feeling of how I lived my life before I have depression. I think about it everyday, what was it that makes me happy before?

@memyselfndi1

2 жыл бұрын

Honey Don't think that you're depressed think that you're having a bad time,and you just need to figure it out whats wrong am doing right now and how i need to solve it, trust me it doesn't take years to solve, it would probably take only few months, And stop being alone and overthink things, Do one thing 1) Take a book, write dow wts happening to you 2) Write what you should do to make it solve 3) Keep doing things which makes you happy 4) Don't ever dependent on other's to get happy 5) Give permission to yourself to keep your mind in present 6) At least for a moment you can come out of your bad time, and then it's a good sign 7) Keep reminding that you're RARE. 8) Don't be selfish, be happy for what you have right now, and be satisfied. 9) Don't daydream, just know reality and face the world. 10) Only if you know how to cope with world, nature of life, then there's no place of bad time in your life. Honey you're not depression you're just having a bad time. *And if you really think it's depression Then depression is only in your head, not in you😊*

@jexycryptogawd8199

2 жыл бұрын

Depression and anxiety almost killed me , but thanks to the name on my channel above 👆🏼 he helped me recover with psychedelic products You can reach out to him

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Simple exercises n simple things make u happy 😊. Maybe ya friends make u happy? Hope I encouraged u somewhat. Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life. You are precious.

I truly wish this type of therapy worked for severe depression for me. I feel it's a bit dangerous to push the idea this works for people with true major depression. I can't get out of bed or accomplish a simple task so doing any of these suggestions during depression and not being able to accomplish elevating my self makes me feel worse. My depression is hereditary and it happens even when my life is going smoothly with very few "bumps." Would you have suggested such ideas to Sylvia Plath and expect this to lift the bell jar?

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you that this technique is not for people suffering with a major depressive disorder. As I say in the opening of the talk, this technique is for the "common cold" version of depression. Probably I should have emphasized this point more: When a depression is Depression, like the difference between a common cold and pneumonia, the technique is not going to suffice. I'll say it again now. When a depression is clearly a) severe and b) of clear hereditary and biological origin, this technique is not going to lift the depression. It is not an appropriate technique for these situations. Thank you for writing your comment in a way that so nicely clarifies this point.

Depression can hide deep within you and not reveal itself. It takes a big turn of events for it to reveal itself. I'm so afraid because I just discovered that I may be very depressed 😔 ☹️ 🙁 😢 God be with me 🙏🙏🙏

I read some of the comments not happy with her type of therapy. I can understand their view too, because I was at a stage where I suffered an acute depressive episode/ mental breakdown. Antidepressants were a life saver with counselling for me at that stage. But down the track I'm still on the drugs. And from this Tedtalk I think I realised I have stagnated. I did not look at how I could work on how I resolve issues when I am in a situation of oppression. I have something to learn from this, and a way to stand alone again without antidepressants. She has some valid tools here.

Awesome video about depression! Of late I've looked back on my life & the 1st huge mistake I made as a young woman was getting involved with a guy I didn't love & ended up marrying him. Then 4 decades later after 10 relocations and somewhere along the line realizing what kind of place I really wanted but not being able to move there. So I hit that bump this lady is speaking about many times in my life and been chronically depressed for many years.

@raw-soul

2 жыл бұрын

Was he a bad person or did you just not love him?

@LuvliexXJazzieXx

2 жыл бұрын

I’m on that road as well. I want to be different places. It’s sad when you have to be damn near homeless to accomplish anything as a regular person with issues you just want to break free from.

@LisaS1

2 жыл бұрын

@@LuvliexXJazzieXx Yes, I know what you mean JahZiie. Thanks for your words! I take it you're not living where you want either then. It's so depressing not be able to go move where you want to.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

at least u admit it. Take guts to do that. U r not like my neighbor Cuong. Lost his job back in 2012. Sought revenge and lost 2 court cases to his employers. His bro died at age 58. Cuong has been miserable since 2012. Doesn't go out unless necessary. No job. No vacations. No eating out. Wife works and cooks for him daily. I mean Cuong is a miserable guy who has no real, honest hope in his life anymore! Das 10 years of misery n denial of his mental illness conditions. U and people on dis site have more courage than Chicken 🐔 Cuong!

My twin died during my mother’s pregnancy, and I’ve learnt that the area of the brain that deals with abandonment etc, is still being developed; you could say unprotected, very vulnerable and raw. So when a close interaction with a twin suddenly stops, this can ‘bake in’ a unique deep psychological feature for that person. I experienced grief before I was even born, before my mother even found out. I don’t know where to begin to describe my upbringing, I can’t think of a word to label it; my feelings or attachment to most of my family has been destroyed, due to being a dysfunctional family, I don’t ‘love’ any of them, I’m not sure if I know what love means, there’s no love in my family. I’ve also never had luck with dating or finding a person I could care for. I feel like I’m refused the opportunity to love anyone, and the slightest hint of someone I’m interested in appreciating my efforts. I jump in too fast and scare them away. Because I’m literally dying to have a companion and to love someone.

@troytempest290

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong buddy. You are an articulate & understanding human being-what’s not to love..?

@travispipes3

Жыл бұрын

this happened to me too. i deal with really bad bpd (borderline personality disorder)

@feelphila

Жыл бұрын

reading your story I feel sorry for you. it good that you now know so much about you. I wish you find new way of seeing the reality, surroundings and especially yourself. the journey will be uncomfortable, like dark forest, but it is the sign you reestablishing yourself. I believe it is the only way ❤

@shivigarg4158

Жыл бұрын

My mom passed away a year ago and I still couldn't accept the fact.

“Giving up in response to something you want, triggers depression”. "Depression is a disorder of power"

“Depression is a disorder of power”- that is the bump! Pinpointed the problem.!

A change in perception alters chemistry in the brain. Empowering people to learn to shift their thinking is way more inspiring than fixing chemistry with drugs while still feeling powerless in life’s situations. Kudos Dr Susan ❤️

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Your comment is right on!

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

I have bipolar disorder (and a host of other diagnoses, lol) and EVEN THE PEOPLE PRESCRIBING MEDS will tell you to do these things she is naming!!! Diet, being active, journaling through problems, routine; these are all things that WILL improve your life. And guess what? Depression IS common. All these comments are ridiculous..... don't act like you are the only person that has it bad. We are in fact PRONE to developing bouts of depression in our current society because we lack the balance in life that this doctor is proposing. Some people are biologically predisposed, but almost everyone will experience depression at some point in their life. That is a fact. I've been told that many times. Take every perspective you can instead of shooting down the first person that gives you something new to try.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Bravo and thank you.

@RisingOfTheMoon

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Anna! XO.

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@Tena1702

5 жыл бұрын

GIRL, YES!!!!

@drheitler

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Anna and Sienna for these supportive responses. I totally agree that all of us sometimes feel depressed, and that all of us need techniques for lifting depression when from time to time it darkens our lives.

Despondency : a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage. (Fire the Courage in you and love you and all your plus and minuses.) 💙💎💙💎💙💎💙

It just hurts. I don't even know where it is hurting but the pain comes and I can't stop.

@memyselfndi1

2 жыл бұрын

Trust me you'll feel better when you get a real job and financially stable, there's still time for that, now all you've to do is think about your goal and work hard for that. Just imagine you having your own money, you get no reason to get hurt.

@jexycryptogawd8199

2 жыл бұрын

Depression and anxiety almost killed me , but thanks to the name on my channel above 👆🏼 he helped me recover with psychedelic products You can reach out to him

Its important to change thought patterns, to learn how to overcome mental obstacles and pick up better habits that exist in our minds. Thoughts are exactly that, an illusion that exists only in our minds but literally composes us and effects what we project outwards in every aspect of our lives and on to others. I am definitely an advocate for pills because sometimes the frustration can become so overwhelming that it keeps me stuck in my tracks unable to even make a change. For people with a higher severity of depression, it is completely necessary to use pills as an aid, but if you aren’t making any internal changes along side this your not really making any progress and essentially just numbing the way your negative thoughts hold you under its thumb. Thats what I realize for myself anyways after being on meds for a year and relying solely on that. What we allow to feed our minds can also be detrimental. Take a minute and think about the people you allow around you, the music you listen to, the things you read etc and how all of those things make you feel as well. Remember that healing is not a race and you are able to take as much time as you need to become stronger even if it takes 10,20,30 years as long as everyday your working to become better than yesterday ❤️

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@catduran5038

9 ай бұрын

Perfectly said ❤

I think this lady confuses depression with having a bad day!

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Please see my comments on mild, moderate, and severe depression that I have written earlier.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

There can be significant overlap between the two.

@mercury7831

6 жыл бұрын

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@johnmoor8839

5 жыл бұрын

Yes.The real thing is very very different to having a bad day or feeling down because the cat's died.

@garysimone4977

5 жыл бұрын

very very true, at leasty with this example, I see what she is trying to say,, and stay away from meds,, only as a last resort !!!

I’ve had talking therapy once a week for 15 months and today was the first day I have taken prescribed antidepressants. I’ve just left my abusive marriage and I have always had a stigma surrounding these pills. This is the first time I have taken an antidepressant. So I am trying what the Doctor has suggested and I shall return to this comment in the future to talk about my experiences.

This lady is so god damn nice! She's the grandma I wish I had ❤❤❤

She’s right in that most depression is based in an event or events when someone feels powerless. To get well again you must get power over the situation.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

Exactly. "Getting power over the situation" can be by finding a new solution to the underlying concerns, or by taking a new perspective on the situation that leads to feeling better about it. "Getting power of the situation" rarely entails powering over or dominating others. In fact, finding a cooperative solution that meets others' concerns as well as your own is usually ideal. There's a biological basis for this. Serotonin levels drop when people (or animals) feel submissive. When they feel empowered, their serotonin levels rise. Thank you for this comment.

@robinholbrook6576

6 жыл бұрын

There is more than one type of depression! The speaker here is addressing SITUATIONAL depression. Clinical depression is a totally different creature! CBT and DBT are tools that definitely help... in addition to meditation; diet; exercise; sometimes medication. This is good but simplistic. If we could all think ourselves happy, we would! The help needed is many pronged and there is no set formula for success.

Such a well explained prescription, no complications

Pain , anger , self critical , ....hope this helps me

Im going through this and the comments are very supportive and even therapeutic, I wish to thank everyone who is supportive, im really struggling

@okafor.victor2272

Жыл бұрын

I hope you heal soon. Just find a way to talk to somebody. You can talk to me if you Want to.

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

I'm impressed that even in your depression you are able to give forth positive energy, that is, positive energy in the form of gratitude. Bravo.

@rodneycrawford4338

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler im grateful to be able to try to be better, I try to learn new things and skills, I value the little things and I appreciate any positivity

I decided a couple of weeks ago to start coming off my meds. I'm on Sertraline 50mg and yeah they helped me through another breakdown but I have recently started looking into why I have been feeling the way I have for many many years. Wanting to be loved, wanting friends, judging myself way to much, changing of the seasons. The list goes on. One of my biggest changes is finally realising that I have to stop putting everyone else before myself and phoning or texting everyone first because honestly, stop phoning or texting and then you really find out who your true friends really are. Yeah that makes me feel alone but I would be alone than be made to feel alone by so called friends.

@fatimachowdhry1654

9 ай бұрын

I feel what you wrote. In the darkest hours , very few people understand or empathize with what we feel! I feel like I ve had fake friends all my life and now I am done looking for friends! Build yourself up, be there for yourself and be your own best friend. If someone values you they will come and stick around.

I picked up on the NLP Technique, I must remember, often I forget it when I know it's something that deeply need. Thank You,

Self-awareness, visualization, and believe in yourself

God is literally the way.I was going through an episode and broke down at my job in a closet and prayed about it. God not only took it away instantly he gave me the holy ghost an hour later.I freaked out because I didn't know what was happening I was talking to a customer at the time.I had to excuse myself to the restroom.I was crying and dancing and confused at the same time.God saved my life I'm so grateful....🙏🏾🥰❤

This taught me that depression is a disorder of power. That is both brilliant and empowering. It also makes far more sense than anything said by those who want to medicate me.

@gloriasaliba3395

Жыл бұрын

Great insight I would have to agree with you

This was really helpful and lifted my mood and confidence today :) thank you Susan ❤️

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life. You are precious.

Message is....change your perspective, talk yourself into a positive outlook, make those changes. Listen to the best friend of yourself, YOU.

@drheitler

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. And in addition, Pinpoint the situation that triggered your depression, Pump Up by visualizing yourself as getting bigger that the person or thing that has been problematic, and then, from that larger position and higher perspective, Problem-Solve. And, as you say, "listen to the best friend of yourself, You."

Thank you. Listened to the video with eyes closed and every dot connected for me in the middle of it.

Thank you Susan for solving one of the biggest problem that was holding me down. I was thinking there must be easier and simpler ways to get over these bad cycles of depression and there you go. This is one of the ways that helps. There are other non-chemical and enlightening ways that helps in the long run. Thank you so much for bringing out one. I am going to share this video with people I know who need this right now.

@drheitler

6 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. And I'm delighted that you are sharing the talk with others who need help lifting depressed feelings. Bravo!

@small_fries7573

Жыл бұрын

Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.

Thamk you very much Dr. For those who are preyed upon by Depression, I lost my family, my job, and got broke all in one blow. Trying to cope, I often say: well my kids are healthy, although away, I can chat with them. I also let it go for a while, which is healthy, no problem to take a looong rest. My point is: To all people struggling like me, DO NOT GIVE UP!! PRACTICE SPORT (endorphines). And I wish you all HAPPINESS.

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

Focusing on what you do have as opposed to what you have lost can help to lift depression's dark cloud . Grieve, and then graduallky move on. Hooray for at least being able to chat with your children!

@ahmedelshafey7602

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler thank you very much Dr. Heitler. You do not know how much you presentation impressed me, I hope I can maintain your technique till I get out of the abyss.

@drheitler

Жыл бұрын

@@ahmedelshafey7602Your initial comment made an important point, that grief and depression are very similar. We get depressed when we feel powerless to get something we want. After a loss, we feel grief at having lost something we want. Grief always carries the potential of slipping into depression, especially if keep focused on our loss. It becomes very important therefore to grieve for several days, and then by a week after the loss to begin to focus on what we still have and where to go with that. The grief feelings that way gradually ease. If the focus stays too long on what was lost, then depression can take over.

@ahmedelshafey7602

Жыл бұрын

@@drheitler Yes, And that exactly what happened to me, and depression made me disoriented and missing good judgement put me in a cascade of more problems. I am not blaming anyone, but then, I was literally alone, family overseas, kids aways, friends turned their backs on me...etc.

Pinpoint the problem, pump up and problem solving. Thanks for sharing

@drheitler

2 жыл бұрын

You've got it!

A lot of people generally say on their blogs and videos "pin-point the obstacle/the problem" like it's some pick-your-character option. But listening to the kind lady just felt like "Damn. She really cares ❤️" and she put in such a ....lovely way. It just felt like a warm hug the way she put it. Not too much sugar on it tho. Just right. Thank you so much ✨❤️ I really needed this right now!! And i feel waaay better having listened to this. I shall try it soon enough. 💖