Depression is a disease of civilization: Stephen Ilardi at TEDxEmory

Dr. Stephen Ilardi is a professor of clinical psychology and the author of The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression Without Drugs. He earned his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Duke University in 1995, and has since served on the faculties of the University of Colorado and (presently) the University of Kansas. The author of over 40 professional articles on mental illness, Dr. Ilardi is a nationally recognized expert on depression. His work has been honored by the American Psychological Association's prestigious Blau Award for early career contributions to the field, and his research on the neuroscience of depression has been funded by the National Institutes of Mental Health (NIMH).
Dr. Ilardi has also received several major teaching awards in recognition of his dynamic, engaging classroom presence. Recently, he was selected from a pool of over 2,000 instructors as the recipient of the school's highest instructional honor, the HOPE Award for teaching excellence. He also maintains an active clinical practice, and has treated several hundred depressed patients over the course of his career. Dr. Ilardi lives in Lawrence, Kansas with his wife, Maria and daughter, Abby.
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  • @ThrifterPickerShipper
    @ThrifterPickerShipper7 жыл бұрын

    "We were never designed for the sedentary, indoor, socially isolated, fast-food-laden, sleep-deprived, frenzied pace of modern life." Well that about sums my life up in a nutshell.

  • @kgurr2345

    @kgurr2345

    7 жыл бұрын

    ever met an office worker?

  • @T0MBRA1D3RR

    @T0MBRA1D3RR

    6 жыл бұрын

    The word "designed" is not the right word to use. Humans were not designed for anything. In terms of evolution, we're predisposed to live a certain way that maximizes our survival. We are evolving, but many people cannot keep up. That's not their fault... that's just natural selection at work.

  • @frauwolle2417

    @frauwolle2417

    6 жыл бұрын

    Gladly we create our environment. Society and human environment is men-made. So we can change the environment. No need to die because of predisposition.

  • @justmadeit2

    @justmadeit2

    6 жыл бұрын

    Depression info : There are over 250 videos about depression, in two folders in the playlist part of my channel, looking at depression from all angles, the biggest collection all in one place, hope people find them useful as a resource in your recovery or your understanding of depression ? Just click on playlist when on my channel to find the folders. Thanks.

  • @wisconsinhunterwhitetail5040

    @wisconsinhunterwhitetail5040

    6 жыл бұрын

    Debbie Wilson you are spot on,so true. I so hate depression just a downward spiral but I can't seem to find my way out of

  • @gabrielstorm3536
    @gabrielstorm35369 жыл бұрын

    "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti

  • @Theflowoflove

    @Theflowoflove

    8 жыл бұрын

    +Gabriel Storm Well said.

  • @jackchorn

    @jackchorn

    8 жыл бұрын

    +A.L. B.A.M.A I like that. I've known many of these people- tuned into their social environment like an instrument. The funny thing is tat if asked anthing out of tune they have a difficult time comprehending or responding. So true this observation of Huxley- reminds me that I wanted to research his efforts on social programing.

  • @jackchorn

    @jackchorn

    8 жыл бұрын

    thanks for the link. Just the other day I went to our local visitors center- only because I had never seen it open. I walked in and a well groomed older lady greeted me. She asked if I was visiting- I said No, I live here. She then went on here little rant about the shops and restaurants in the area. It was almost as if she had not a clue how to respond outside of her scripted vocal tour. I was amazed and amused and listened patiently. I thought how strange the encounter was- so cold and all business- no regular ok then- how long have you lived here? Anyway the reason this came to mind seemed to be the same experience as that morning joe interview with Russell Brand. The anchors(?) fell apart with a host who was simply being himself and honest- a real person. If you havn't seen it you should- its interesting. I feel that our society has become so self censored that common genuine personality is all but disappearing. But maybe its the RF weapons controlling the population- got to get my tin foil- ha. 1 out of 4 people are on medication for behavior issues. Seems to me that its not the people but the society if the numbers are that high. Funny that non of those drugs are proven to work nor do they know why. Cheers- take care

  • @AlmaWells

    @AlmaWells

    8 жыл бұрын

    +A.L. B.A.M.A - good point! Very interesting comment.

  • @gabrielstorm3536

    @gabrielstorm3536

    8 жыл бұрын

    jackchorn The essential concept here is Darwinism/Naturalism. Adapt to the context or perish. The problem is that individual people don't have enough leverage to control the context. To do that requires alot of money or time or numbers. Keep everyone poor, busy and fragmented and the artificially created power system perpetuates..

  • @Nancy-pv7wk
    @Nancy-pv7wk3 жыл бұрын

    Getting off social media was the best decision I made in my battle with depression.. best decision I ever made!! Then I started to walk everyday for an hour, or so, and then I incorporated healthier eating.. then I started to repair the relationships I cherished, and then I healed for the most part..

  • @ire1398

    @ire1398

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are on social media right now.

  • @keithtreco8851

    @keithtreco8851

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@ire1398 come on bro this dont count give nancy A break lmao

  • @glennandric6846

    @glennandric6846

    2 жыл бұрын

    Congrats, you deserve every achievement you made. As the saying goes, "there's a lot of good things just on "the other side" of hard work.

  • @minhchaupho8955

    @minhchaupho8955

    2 жыл бұрын

    How did you do that? I'm doing exercise, but it's getting difficult the longer I try to maintain it... I got drained of energy, and my depression just gets worse....

  • @rosegallus4048

    @rosegallus4048

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ire1398 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

  • @meghanr9639
    @meghanr96393 жыл бұрын

    So I'm not strange for having an undeniable urge for years to move to the mountains, surrounded by trees, no tv, no phone/internet, and just be..

  • @shainaariane4334

    @shainaariane4334

    3 жыл бұрын

    I was thinking the same thing!

  • @bashboi4074

    @bashboi4074

    3 жыл бұрын

    Bro I want a little farm in the mountains SO BAD

  • @KathyHussey063

    @KathyHussey063

    2 жыл бұрын

    No you are not strange, I think many many people don't like or tolerate a lot of interaction with people. When there's too much negative information or negative energies in their general area lot of us long for some quiet solitude. I didn't used to feel this way but between 30 years spent raising 5 kids and me being raised with 6 sisters, surrounded by people all my life, plus adding in the 'glitch in the matrix ' weird changes I felt happen in early 2017, well now, at 60, peace and quiet (like just sitting outside on the beach, at the ocean, or by a riverbank fishing, reading a book, journaling, gardening by myself or editing my writing) {that needs to be done so badly} sounds like heaven to me. I'm going to buy me a smallish houseboat or a tiny home and a lil cabin somewhere (a cabin by a lake or river big enough to park the boat nearby would be perfect !) Hopefully soon I will get that all arranged and try to just live very simply. It turns out that the answer is : Yes, you can have too much contact with other people for your own good...lol. (that's the case for me anyway, maybe not for everyone but I tend to pick up everyone else's mental energy around me so it can be overwhelming and confusing.)

  • @S4vh55hdci

    @S4vh55hdci

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here!

  • @holgerjahndel3623

    @holgerjahndel3623

    2 жыл бұрын

    Also see the anthropologist James DeMeo about it.

  • @noxustds
    @noxustds3 жыл бұрын

    Economists will tell you the quality of our lives went up in recent years, psychologists will tell you otherwise.

  • @rebeccalankford2652

    @rebeccalankford2652

    3 жыл бұрын

    Materialism vs personal inner needs.

  • @gengiz80

    @gengiz80

    3 жыл бұрын

    @ጠዪ. ፕቿዕዕሃ you can't eat money

  • @and__lam1152

    @and__lam1152

    3 жыл бұрын

    Work with Ayahuasca to heal what ails ye

  • @domib.3924

    @domib.3924

    3 жыл бұрын

    Who do you think knows what they're talking about, people who devote their time to money, or the human brain?

  • @jeffreykaufmann2867

    @jeffreykaufmann2867

    3 жыл бұрын

    Depression has always existed.

  • @justingeorge5325
    @justingeorge53258 жыл бұрын

    Depression is like drowning while everyone around you is breathing

  • @biggernadz

    @biggernadz

    8 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @infowazz

    @infowazz

    8 жыл бұрын

    Justin George never thought it would get me but finally stuck in fear and the loop keeps getting triggered. no where to escape where i live, sucks hereeeeee

  • @friedtofu704

    @friedtofu704

    8 жыл бұрын

    +Jon Focker Let's live life to the fullest. We can do this!

  • @infowazz

    @infowazz

    8 жыл бұрын

    Anonymous Account I know, most of its in our head. But if you live in a lame or boring area with superficial zombies than it can get frustrating. When i was a kid i thought everybody was smart and caring. I assumed people had morals and were just. Now i find that to be very rare. Everybody seems to have been brainwashed to be the opposite of what they should be. That is not a coincidence. It is social engineering.....which is a nazi term. The masses are socially engineered to view reality a certain way. They don't get any deep knowledge about anything, they get fast food bullshit to keep their minds occupied on nothing significant. So i think many of us who cannot be brainwashed are also very feeling people. It drives us mad seeing others be narcissistic, superficial, greedy, slanderous, when they really have no idea why they do it in the fisrt place. They think that is how life is to be. Sad. That is why life seems backwards. It is engineered to be so in order to keep us all controlled and distracted. But knowing that is also very liberating and can help you to hack the system.

  • @friedtofu704

    @friedtofu704

    8 жыл бұрын

    Jon Focker​ Funny that you've mentioned fastfood! Cause I seriously was just fucking up with my mind thinking if I should or shouldn't order for Mcdonalds delivery just to relieve this stress I'm feeling right now. *Mindblown lol Anyways. I know how feel and I agree to some of your insights. I thank you for sharing your thoughts. Prior to watching this video I was watching a documentary about death. I learned something but not from the film but from the people commenting. People see death differently and we have our own belief about it just like with how we see/experience life. Depressed life, happy life etc. At the end of the day, life matters. Living in/at the moment to the fullest is the key *I believe. You and I know we can do better than all this bullshits in our lives 

  • @melaninqueen5945
    @melaninqueen59455 жыл бұрын

    This title is definitely on point. I am from Africa, came to Europe to study about 2years ago. Back home we all socialize even with the schedule of work we always find a way to socialize with each other. We also live in close knitted families like you can find three or four generations of a family living in the same compound. Reality hit me here, when one day after closing from school I came back home to see bunch of police officers at our corridor. When they left I asked the lady next to my room what the officers were here for out of worry that something have gone wrong in my absence. She never uttered a word or even look at me. Then I realize I am in another world and have to adjust. I was living with a spouse at the beginning but when he left to go back home I am so lonely and depressed. Western live is nice but I think they definitely need to adjust on their social cohesion aspect. How can people live so close but still far apart. You may have a problem and wouldn't have anyone to talk to. That's very difficult. That's how I feel now.

  • @CanadianMonarchist

    @CanadianMonarchist

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you have been able to make friends.

  • @melaninqueen5945

    @melaninqueen5945

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@CanadianMonarchist yes I did. I have even completed my studies and returned to my country. I have made many good friends, some of whom I still communicate with. Thank you for your concerned.

  • @CanadianMonarchist

    @CanadianMonarchist

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@melaninqueen5945 You’re welcome.

  • @Laura-jx7il

    @Laura-jx7il

    2 жыл бұрын

    I honestly dream of living in a big family but one that i’m choosing myself, not my biological family because it’s not working

  • @robertsidibe3096

    @robertsidibe3096

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Laura-jx7ilhaha same

  • @eswan8900
    @eswan89003 жыл бұрын

    This is actually my Psyc teacher at KU and I feel so relieved when he talks about depression and anxiety this way cause I know I'm not crazy for suffering this much, albeit quietly.

  • @suedeleone300

    @suedeleone300

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel so fortunate to have found him today!! You are incredibly lucky to know him as your teacher! Depression hurts even if it’s not seen by others. I “heard you.” Sometimes, being quiet, while in pain, is an adaptation? I’m quiet too.

  • @gregorysmathew8727

    @gregorysmathew8727

    2 жыл бұрын

    I felt the same way while listening to him.

  • @chijhawk1462

    @chijhawk1462

    Жыл бұрын

    Next to Dr. Snyder, Dr. Ilardi is amongst the very best I have had the great fortunate of studying under. I owe them more than I'll ever be ever to repay. RIP Dr. Snyder. Dr. Ilardi, thank you.

  • @gummibears27
    @gummibears277 жыл бұрын

    God bless this man! Finally someone said it! This is so incredibly important to be understood. Depression is rarely just a brain chemical issue, the vast majority of cases are caused by people being treated like crap by society. If someone is sensitive, has depression genetics, and/or have gone through bad things in life such as chronic illness or abuse, their chance of getting depression is very high. It is absolutely ignorant on every level to say that depression is purely brain chemicals, or something is wrong with the person for feeling that way. The facts are this is a very tough world made even tougher by the society we live in, which expects us to be efficient robots in order to survive. We're fed terrible fears from a young age. We're told you can't have what you want, do what you want. Just find a job you can tolerate because you can't do what really makes you happy as that makes no money. I could go on but I ran out of space. Please world listen to this man!!

  • @Endless_sea_

    @Endless_sea_

    7 жыл бұрын

    gummibears27 I agree!

  • @squamish4244

    @squamish4244

    7 жыл бұрын

    There is a solution, but not entirely in what he's saying.

  • @brianvina9228

    @brianvina9228

    7 жыл бұрын

    gummibears27 and also that you're expected to be the same as everyone else, normal, you can't be different just like people of different races, ethnicities, and backgrounds are hated and discriminated against, people with mental illnesses are too.

  • @brianvina9228

    @brianvina9228

    7 жыл бұрын

    gummibears27 and also this is cruel world so people who are really sensitive like me for example can't handle that, we can't handle reality and the way the world works.

  • @LeonGalindoStenutz

    @LeonGalindoStenutz

    6 жыл бұрын

    Bo Qin, Of course there are solutions on the macro level -- and they start at the nano/micro level... the level we exist on as individuals. Change and wellbeing start here. I speak from personal experience. :)

  • @AyeitsAngel
    @AyeitsAngel10 жыл бұрын

    My escape is my dreams... I sleep to get away...

  • @Mark-sj3xb

    @Mark-sj3xb

    5 жыл бұрын

    I often look forward to bedtime and I’ll justify any way I can go to bed earlier.

  • @richardherberthenkle2817

    @richardherberthenkle2817

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sleep is good, and it feels very good. I love to sleep after a hard day. Glad to see Sleep on his research list.

  • @filipemartins1850

    @filipemartins1850

    5 жыл бұрын

    Jesus loves you, his love can heal your depression, thank you.

  • @akhmadkautsarak

    @akhmadkautsarak

    5 жыл бұрын

    It's great, but some don't have enough of it

  • @dhw14

    @dhw14

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lucky you. I have nightmares that cause me to scream in my sleep sometimes... I can never get away. No escape for me.

  • @nayasea3918
    @nayasea39184 жыл бұрын

    Depression is like dying a slow death that last forever and it does not arrive soon enough.

  • @MarshasJourney
    @MarshasJourney2 жыл бұрын

    I started exercising and I became so happy my mind was blown. No matter how terrible I feel before going to the gym I always leave feeling the opposite

  • @glennandric6846

    @glennandric6846

    2 жыл бұрын

    Congrats Marsha! Everything you said applies to me too. I see my workouts as "therapy" and try not to miss any of them. I found the hardest part was getting to the gym itself but once there, it was all downhill. Science explains why exercise is so effective. I wish more people would do it but I realize that for some, it's almost impossible so they need to build to it.

  • @propbraker

    @propbraker

    Жыл бұрын

    That's great! Not sure that’s what you really look like ur photo, but my goodness you’re beautiful!

  • @auradjmixes4748

    @auradjmixes4748

    Жыл бұрын

    No one felt bad after the gym

  • @gerardschaefer6495

    @gerardschaefer6495

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree 1000% I'm 45 n found this out about age 20. Worked better than any Meds. However the other aspects of good food, lots of water, sleep, all.have to be in order n keeping alcohol to a lower level of consumption. That is just me but seems very helpful to many. Add therapist and possibly meds if deemed necessary. Love to everyone n hope you all find your way Im still struggling but doing better.

  • @arthurvin2937
    @arthurvin29379 жыл бұрын

    This is all true. But there is a problem - being depressed it is very hard to push yourself to do those things like walking, running, socializing (non-internet), even having healthy food. All these things require time to be spent, but the time is limited, especially when you're depressed, but still doing your daily job, sometimes struggling to get everything done in a time. It is like vicious circle. But once you get out of it, even for couple of hours you will feel happy. I remember myself trying not to miss my flight, I was driving fast, I was running fast, and I got it just in time. I was so happy the rest of my day, not because I made it (probably also), but because physical activity I got. So my advice is - don't think about whether do something or not, because when you are thinking like that you will probably stay in your chair or in the bed with laptop like you are doing right now. Don't think, just stand up and take a walk on the fresh air.

  • @sr4rrz

    @sr4rrz

    6 жыл бұрын

    Arthur Vin so true!!! I will take this advice

  • @LulitaInPita

    @LulitaInPita

    5 жыл бұрын

    RikuKH and if you can get that kind of help then you're very very lucky. Sadly, many lack that kind of good support system...

  • @jackofshadows8538

    @jackofshadows8538

    5 жыл бұрын

    no

  • @PersonalVideos2008

    @PersonalVideos2008

    5 жыл бұрын

    Mood follows action. If you smile it can make you *feel* smil-ey. I've been depressed. It is sooo hard to get up and move. Sometimes it's helped me to just COMMIT to it, other times, it's helped to view it as an experiment: the goal is to what happens ("damn it, this is useless, and I'll prove it"). (Not the best attitude to start from *but* whatever gets me moving.

  • @zerosandones701

    @zerosandones701

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Melmano "Life is endless practice." It's okay if it stops working... when you remember, start it again :)

  • @stephend2879
    @stephend28797 жыл бұрын

    Best overall talk on depression I've seen.

  • @sharmasibal

    @sharmasibal

    7 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely. By far the best.

  • @truthlivingetc88

    @truthlivingetc88

    5 жыл бұрын

    for many reasons yes

  • @ImagineFreedom

    @ImagineFreedom

    4 жыл бұрын

    In his book it is also summed up very well..it helps a lot

  • @alejandravillasanteramos3755

    @alejandravillasanteramos3755

    3 жыл бұрын

    By far my favorite teacher so far, like ever.

  • @Timbo37

    @Timbo37

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agreed

  • @whattowatchrightnow
    @whattowatchrightnow3 жыл бұрын

    Depression is EXTREMELY painful. Even when managed with medication every day is a challenge.

  • @UTAH100

    @UTAH100

    Жыл бұрын

    Have you leveraged nutrition to the fullest?

  • @whattowatchrightnow

    @whattowatchrightnow

    Жыл бұрын

    @@UTAH100 Well, I over-ate for dinner. I may have another snack later. Does that count?

  • @UTAH100

    @UTAH100

    Жыл бұрын

    @@whattowatchrightnow Ha. Nutrition really does help. If you cut out all sugar, have wild salmon often, you might feel better. Drink only water.

  • @whattowatchrightnow

    @whattowatchrightnow

    Жыл бұрын

    @@UTAH100 I'll try. thank you. I love salmon anyway.

  • @UTAH100

    @UTAH100

    Жыл бұрын

    @@whattowatchrightnow Nice. It is one of THE best sources of Omega-3 fatty acids. It must be WILD Salmon- never farm (highly toxic.) I recommend you bake is at a low temperature- around 300F. It's healthier that way- less AGE's (true of beef as well.) I noticed you like guitar from your playlist- me too. I've been playing a long time. That could be a really fun hobby for you to consider. With Nutrition and Music and maybe some running/hiking on your side, you might be feeling better in no time!

  • @iron60bitch62
    @iron60bitch625 жыл бұрын

    When I go camping for extended period of time which is five days and more my depression virtually disappears

  • @tisminnit

    @tisminnit

    3 жыл бұрын

    Im hoping this will work for me. Going camping on the coast with my mom because im in such a dark place. Nature is healing. And camping means not a lot of phone time which can be great.

  • @TrapDaddy65

    @TrapDaddy65

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@tisminnit How was the camping trip?

  • @shainaariane4334

    @shainaariane4334

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too!

  • @Anarcho-Communist895

    @Anarcho-Communist895

    2 жыл бұрын

    When I lost my car and had to walk places a lot, my depression went away.

  • @NARCOTICjungle
    @NARCOTICjungle10 жыл бұрын

    I knew I had depresion when I didn't like to play games anymore, no but seriously I did not like to do anything that I used to love to do. It affected my job, my relationship and many things and the worst part about it that alot of people dont understand and thats when you start feeling lonely and weaker every day. This is the worst and if you do have depresion treat it... its never too late. Thanks for this video it was amazing.

  • @shunaadushana5367

    @shunaadushana5367

    10 жыл бұрын

    worse. People shut you out, isolate you, call you a weakling, lazy, loser, do everything in their power to make you more depressed, more certain that you're useless and that killing yourself is the best thing you can do. Been there, experienced it first hand. And not a bit of help from anyone, including doctors, for years. Wasn't until I got another doctor once, one who was experienced dealing with depressive people on a human level, that I started getting some help. Never did get pills, still have to be very careful to avoid anything reeking of sadness, anything that upsets me or makes me angry as it may well drive me back into that state of mind and return me to depression and borderline suicidal tendencies. Yes, exercise (as in being physicall active, not mindlessly pumping iron in a gym) helps. But it's easier said than done if you're physically limited by chronic injuries. Which causes more problems, you get overweight, your doctors start blaming your condition on your weight problems and instead of working with you to overcome those just sneer at you that "fatso should exercise more and eat less" without ever asking what or how much you exercise and eat. Which drives you deeper into depression, and the downward spiral accelerates.

  • @Catssandra13

    @Catssandra13

    10 жыл бұрын

    Shuna adushana You are so right, especially your point about people making you feel even more depressed, as if you are making it up, or it's just something that you can overcome if you just "snap out of it", that you could shake it off, get back into a so-called normal life. People get fed up with you. They tell you that you are a negative person. Make you feel like a lazy person, a failure, because you lose your job, your interest in anything you once loved to do, and your life spirals out of control. You gain weight, look physically bad, and feel even worse inside, and helpless too. Most annoying are those that have been depressed at some point in their lives and tell you that you have to get out there and be active, when in fact, that is the last thing you feel like doing. I am lucky in that I have wonderful kids who understand my illness and support me, and a brother who understands too. Then there are other family members who pick on me, make me feel inferior, lazy, a loser, a failure, because I do nothing to improve my life, in their opinion. Friends I have lost, because I just cannot explain how I feel, and they simply feel that I am being unfriendly, as if I choose to isolate myself. And the meds - well I do take them, and they work for a while, and then comes the time when they simply don't work anymore. I isolate myself because I feel ashamed, because despite all the info about depression, the stigma is still there. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, It is good to know that there are many others who understand.

  • @Urza26

    @Urza26

    9 жыл бұрын

    rokedetbamidbar8 You're absolutely right. Though I'd add that being physically active is indeed one of the ways to limit the severity of the depression. Just that as you pointed out, you won't feel like doing it at all. Anyway, I really hate those who seem to do their best to make you feel even worse by insulting you.

  • @IK-fg4gw

    @IK-fg4gw

    5 жыл бұрын

    NARCOTICjungle you are so right

  • @IK-fg4gw

    @IK-fg4gw

    5 жыл бұрын

    NARCOTICjungle hey handsome....you sexy😍

  • @lackadaisicaldreamer
    @lackadaisicaldreamer8 жыл бұрын

    I think the problem is that it's more than a lack of physical social activity; it also has to do with being in the wrong social group. He said something about being with family can reduce stress levels, lol what if they are the cause of your stress levels? Our Society is messed up, and it's not so easy to engage in social activity when we're surrounded by so much negativity. Some people are douchebags, simply put. And don't get me wrong I'm not saying that everywhere you go you'll see a mean face, nor am I advocating that all social activity will fare badly...I just wish he emphasized that the kind of social activity we need today, is the kind where we don't just get lumped into a crowd and get all warm and fuzzy inside just from seeing another human being. We need social activity where people actually *genuinely* give a crap about each other. And that is something that money can't buy.

  • @Jenkkimie

    @Jenkkimie

    8 жыл бұрын

    +ChipsAhoy That is true but then you could ask for example why is it that your parents behave that way. For example I have had a rocky relationship with my mother because she has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) so it has not been always easy. But once I started studying Psychology and understand my parents behaviors, I learnt how I can best express those issues I had with them and work with them to find solutions. I can tell you that we have a much better relationship these days. And that is what you might want to try out as well. You are right that social groups can harm you but what is also obviously true is that all of this social media, all of this talk without human connection is just a substitute form of escapism from those problems. And do you remember what Dr. Steve Illardi said about isolation? It is the worst thing we can do to ourselves functionally because it is running away from those issues (conflicts) without solving them, rather than trying to solve them so they no longer cause issues. There are ways though and interestingly the tools are right there in front you this whole time. The internet. Seek out groups and activities of people that align those of yours. When you find common interests, it is so much more easier to form those interests. Or if you are more open minded individual like I am, then seek to experience and learn new things which is what I personally love to do all the time. You'd be surprised how much you can accomplish by just deciding to take that first step towards a better tomorrow by just typing into the search engine the questions you want answered. Where do I find so and so minded people?

  • @lackadaisicaldreamer

    @lackadaisicaldreamer

    8 жыл бұрын

    Jenkkimie I understand what you're saying, and you are right. However, I can't say that it is that easy to find like minded people in most circumstances, but as I get older I realize that no matter where I am there will always be a difficult person, and I have the ability to choose whether I will get along with... so and so. And whether they wish to reciprocate or not, is their problem. And yes, social isolation is the worst of them all, but sometimes people end up being alone not by choice, but by circumstance. There are situations where a person really can open up to people, but for whatever reason, no one cares about them. -Such a reality exists. There are lots of scenarios I could think of, but really, that would take all day.

  • @vahiddabbagh6794

    @vahiddabbagh6794

    8 жыл бұрын

    +ChipsAhoy I think we are heading to new form of society that require changing of many things in individuals. I think we no longer need and could not have previous generation level of social connection. The reason is that nowadays everybody are extremely different from others. In addition life is going to be more complex and more competitive. Therefore, new generation is facing with radical changes and every years rules is changing and no prediction could be made about future. New generation are trying to adapt but it is difficult which yield epidemic depression every where on earth. We need to adapt we need to change our self again or we become depressed and I believe there is a way to keep our self out of this mess by using to loneliness.

  • @lackadaisicaldreamer

    @lackadaisicaldreamer

    8 жыл бұрын

    thebestdrummer51 You mean when I say "nor am I advocating that all social activity will fare badly..." ?

  • @yahiawaleed3428

    @yahiawaleed3428

    8 жыл бұрын

    +ChipsAhoy i totally agree(i dont want to be a dog that drool whenever the bell rings even if there is no food), the thing is...that thing is not at our disposal, there is a lack of relationship between the potential common ground and the probability(willingness and adaptation) of a successful long term social relationship establishment, i gradually became aware that money doesnt solve anything even if im not rich myself currently, i tried to convince people to try their hand at more in-depth social engagement so i can have more of a target practice and not staying as a lunatic to them all the time. seems they need a bit more persuasion, and i hope will have a hint at what they need to be persuaded by.

  • @Cathy7167
    @Cathy7167 Жыл бұрын

    He is right on the point. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for 43 years.Tried therapist, Rx, etc. Have tried to have intelligent conversations with family who couldn’t handle the stigma or just don’t believe in it. I have no social interaction and extremely little family time. Have to start walking (that requires getting up to walk nowhere) and remembering to take my vitamins. Thank you

  • @abacoejenks

    @abacoejenks

    10 ай бұрын

    the isolation is what really triggers depression I think. The french are believed to have a saying, "to be cut off from the pack is death." I think that we are built to have a self destruct mechanism when we are cut off from the pack or --and I am suprised he didn't make this conclusion--in extreme distress like about to be eaten. it's like jumping out of a building rather than being burned. I was once sent to a psych ward because a pain killer I took triggered suicidal thoughts. I was surprised how quickly all of my depressive symptoms went away when I was socializing in a group.

  • @wildchild574

    @wildchild574

    10 ай бұрын

    43 years I have been in for two years five months and I am tired how are you doing it

  • @noahi.1381
    @noahi.13813 жыл бұрын

    Society has slammed its pressures onto me so hard that it knocked my feelings out. No, seriously, I can’t feel anything.

  • @3Slim3Shady3
    @3Slim3Shady310 жыл бұрын

    having depression is far far different from feeling depressed

  • @healthyone100

    @healthyone100

    4 жыл бұрын

    very correct!

  • @j11994466s
    @j11994466s8 жыл бұрын

    The chronic stress faced by our young seems to me to be the primary driver of such rates of depressions. We load them up with education loans. Then we set up work places where they can never hope to pay them back. Work is 24 / 7 these days without respite. The only place where these things do not happen are among the super rich who harvest all of the fruits of our efforts.

  • @joeldwest

    @joeldwest

    6 жыл бұрын

    Mark Mulakush yes, ear the rich....yes.....

  • @joeldwest

    @joeldwest

    6 жыл бұрын

    Eat, lol

  • @irisrose4732

    @irisrose4732

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, and the chasm is growing deeper and deeper.

  • @maxwellmerzoian6122

    @maxwellmerzoian6122

    4 жыл бұрын

    The super rich aren’t happy either. They are driven by an insatiable list for power and never can find satisfaction. One very wealthy man was expressing how tired he was of making money, someone asked him why didn’t he do something else, and he replied “it’s the only thing I know how to do”. They suffer from a disconnection to their souls, to the life force just as we regular depressed people do

  • @origamipostit

    @origamipostit

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@maxwellmerzoian6122 I feel like this is one side of capitalism that is so harmful to us. We are taught to make more and reach higher. We need to teach that it's ok to be content with where you are and if you aren't making the most. College is basically mandatory now in America. We should look more at trade jobs where you are maving around, interacting, getting sunlight, and getting that 4 hour of exercise. So many people I believe would be happier doing something that showed their work being used and making an impact on society.

  • @BuffaloBilly69
    @BuffaloBilly694 жыл бұрын

    I cut my toxic family out my life 4 years ago. My depression reduced to almost zero but I still have my days. As a child I learned to avoid people as all my care givers were abusive. The people who were supposed to be protect me abused me. The little depression I have now is unmet needs like living on my own, not having people round my flat and not having a partner. I am taking steps to overcome this. I would not wish depression on my worst enemy.

  • @BuffaloBilly69

    @BuffaloBilly69

    4 жыл бұрын

    Patty Nielsen such a sweet thing to do. Maybe a bit different for a bloke doing something like that. All my abuse/neglect was at the hands of women. This has lead to an unhealthy opinion of women In general. Positive female role models would be good for me.

  • @feelingoffbalance

    @feelingoffbalance

    4 жыл бұрын

    Look into cPTSD. I had a bad childhood as well and depression does not quite describe what happens to you as a result. Look up a book called 'from surviving to thriving'. Take care

  • @BuffaloBilly69

    @BuffaloBilly69

    3 жыл бұрын

    gbmpyzochwfdisurjklvanetxq yes. Why you ask?

  • @CanadianMonarchist

    @CanadianMonarchist

    3 жыл бұрын

    Praying and sending you love from Canada- XO

  • @BuffaloBilly69

    @BuffaloBilly69

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@CanadianMonarchist thanks

  • @cmclaybird214
    @cmclaybird2145 жыл бұрын

    Im laying in my room crying watching this hanging on

  • @cloudstrife206

    @cloudstrife206

    4 жыл бұрын

    cmclaybird214 1 year later I hope you are still with us

  • @kalakritistudios

    @kalakritistudios

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yo, what's up? You fine?

  • @CanadianMonarchist

    @CanadianMonarchist

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you are in a better place now.

  • @kalakritistudios

    @kalakritistudios

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@CanadianMonarchist umm... not exactly the right set of words man😅

  • @CanadianMonarchist

    @CanadianMonarchist

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@kalakritistudios Yes, perhaps "A better place emotionally" would sound better. :)

  • @itube612
    @itube61210 жыл бұрын

    This doc is OUTSTANDING. I am battling major depression and anxiety for my whole life (almost past 20 I am treated for it) and even though I care about these things a lot, this is by far the best approach I have ever seen. What he says MAKES a lot of SENSE. I have to get the book. The work of this man saves lives!!!

  • @jimtabler
    @jimtabler5 жыл бұрын

    I've been struggling lately and have found some comfort in watching Ted Talks on managing depression. I can't recall the number of videos I've watched hoping to find something to grasp onto and give me a sense of hope. This presentation spoke to me in a way that no other video has. I am grateful to those who have dedicated their lives work to understanding and treating depression. I hope others are able to watching it and find a sense of hope within the knowledge that is shared. If you're struggling with depression, don't give up, it will get better.

  • @kaykayron2012

    @kaykayron2012

    4 жыл бұрын

    I hope you are feeling better

  • @UTAH100

    @UTAH100

    Жыл бұрын

    Leverage nutrition and running!

  • @brookeisabelle6717
    @brookeisabelle67175 жыл бұрын

    What a charismatic and well-spoken man. I could listen to him for ages.

  • @ra-kun5929
    @ra-kun59294 жыл бұрын

    Very good talk. I'm here because watching stuff like this is the only thing that makes me feel like I'm understood in a world full of people who always tell me "you will be fine", "you're just tired" or just dismissing my depression as if it is nothing but a bad day.

  • @frenchwannaloseweight

    @frenchwannaloseweight

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes I understand, you have these people who dismiss your depression but also millions of others who are suffering like you

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    9 ай бұрын

    "You're too sensitive" is a family favorite

  • @MissLizaYangonMyanmar
    @MissLizaYangonMyanmar8 жыл бұрын

    however for those of us that have no family or loved ones being told time and time again family is the answer makes the agony worse

  • @raleighman3000

    @raleighman3000

    8 жыл бұрын

    my family totally let me down when my depression hit. only the right med and exercise saved me. fuck so called family (mine at least). half of them just wanted their chance to sob and ask "why lord???" at a dramatic funeral. my ass will live a long time and they wont be part of it.

  • @marilynbahoura

    @marilynbahoura

    8 жыл бұрын

    +raleighman3000 me too my family messed me up so bad

  • @57Strudel

    @57Strudel

    7 жыл бұрын

    Yep, social interaction CAN help but the disease is a physical disease. You can be with the most loving family on earth and still be ill. And I feel really sorry that you and others like you are being handed such platitudes.

  • @brindlebriar

    @brindlebriar

    7 жыл бұрын

    Well, then don't worry. Most depressed people have families, and the modern family can be a major source of depression. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Kids run away from home and wish they were orphans and fantasize that they were adopted. Romantic love usually lasts 5-15 years. Men and women cheat, fathers can't take it anymore and leave, mothers can't take it anymore and leave with the kids. Or they both agree to just sacrifice any hope of happiness and tough it out for the kids, the irony of which cause is that they raise their kids to live the same lives in the same society in the same way, and their lives are just as miserable and pointless and hopeless. Now isn't that an encouraging thought? :D

  • @Lisa58Mc

    @Lisa58Mc

    5 жыл бұрын

    I understand what your saying..... I have no blood family either but I have my church family. I had to work & push myself & it was a process. I didn’t want to die & I knew I would if I did not listen & start doing. For example, exercise is medicine & I knew that but stopped going to the gym because a leg amputation s few years ago. I thought I couldn’t exercise & I was wrong. I stopped making excuses & just did it. It’s not easy but it’s getting easier . Baby steps are okay... The joke at my church now is ‘everyone knows that you have the most dysfunctional family in our 3000+ congregation Lisa” ...that’s my pastor joking with me. I stopped blaming the world for my problem. It’s my life in jeberdy here. I’ve been disabled since 2012 I thought because I lost my leg....found out recently that they disabled me due to clinical depression. That was an eye opener. I thought I was hiding it pretty good ...I was wrong again....stay strong! xx

  • @thequietinside3201
    @thequietinside32013 жыл бұрын

    This whole thing is spot on. I intuitively found my way to all of these remedies he has outlined & they all make me feel so much better. I definitely haven't fully implemented all of them into my life, but at least I know what truly helps now. The fact that no one had to tell me these things & that I found my way there through my intense suffering.. shows that these are truly the things human beings need. We, in our modern times, have gotten it so wrong. Our priorities are completely twisted. I hope at some point we collectively realize the way we're going isn't working. It's not leading us toward happiness at all.

  • @glennandric6846

    @glennandric6846

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm surprised you received only 11 likes for your interesting post. I had a similar experience; ie., found my own way from depression to mental health mostly through working out in the gym. I think many individuals, including mental health professionals, "collectively realize" what's going on out there but governments everywhere must allocate much more funding to tackle unprecedented mental health issues. And in my opinion this would be especially critical in the United States of America.

  • @frankm.2850
    @frankm.28504 жыл бұрын

    I highly recommend Dr Ilardi’s book “the Depression Cure.” As someone who’s lived with depression since high school , it’s been incredibly helpful. Lost Connections by Johann Hari and Spontaneous Happiness by Andrew Weil should be at the top of the list as well.

  • @n8sterling727
    @n8sterling727 Жыл бұрын

    I literally stood up an applauded this mans Talk. I'm recovering from a severe TBI and boy have I had some dark days. My life style from before and after, has made all the difference in seeing hope and leaning into pain whenever Im faced with it. Love you all.

  • @Jeb9221
    @Jeb92218 жыл бұрын

    I very much agree with Dr. Stephen. Modern society is unnatural. We're not supposed to live this way. I feel happiest when I'm climbing rocks and trees for hours (I do that while I'm fishing).

  • @Ana-ls8rh

    @Ana-ls8rh

    5 жыл бұрын

    Me too. When I'm in my house in the city, I have NO energy to do anything and no will to live. I can go days or even weeks without a shower. It feels like I'm a zombie most of the time, and not even a human. However, when I go for a hike in the woods, I feel ALIVE, happy, and I forget about all my troubles.

  • @bravetherainbow

    @bravetherainbow

    4 жыл бұрын

    Modern society is still technically a natural progression from what came before. We cannot simply go back in time to a simpler way of living... Well, maybe we can emulate it in some way, but our society has changed over history as we have spread throughout the world, developed new technologies, and increased in population, and we need to work out the best way forward from here.

  • @ire1398

    @ire1398

    2 жыл бұрын

    I gave up and decided people can think I’m lazy. I am freelance and I turn down jobs all the time. I am lucky that I can afford it. So many people have told me I will make a lot if I work all the time. Not interested.

  • @konyvnyelv.

    @konyvnyelv.

    9 ай бұрын

    I love modernity since it gives us more rights and privacy

  • @aidanivesdavis
    @aidanivesdavis10 жыл бұрын

    I love this guy. Excellent presenter. This is a perfect example of what a presentation should be - extemporaneous and engaging.

  • @Al-hf5ey

    @Al-hf5ey

    10 жыл бұрын

    Its a shame they didn't give him more time.

  • @DepressionTalks1
    @DepressionTalks15 жыл бұрын

    One of the most helpful TedTalks still to this day. Really helped me out. Thank you.

  • @cobravortex
    @cobravortex4 жыл бұрын

    In my opinion, this is helpful information. Stress can be devastating and the toxicity very harmful especially long-term. I am very appreciative to Dr. Ilardi for this incredibly beautiful video and talk. Exercise is definitely beneficial and this material, especially the advice toward the end, can really help to create a positive and reinforced plan for health and wellness. Thank you so much and peace to all.

  • @kittenforbunny
    @kittenforbunny10 жыл бұрын

    this is one of the most important videos i've ever seen.

  • @Loljdk
    @Loljdk9 жыл бұрын

    I'm extremely moved by this man. Sincerely.

  • @diegosantosmoto
    @diegosantosmoto3 жыл бұрын

    Environmental mutation is a great concept to understand the factor depression. We are dealing with a new world made by humans but against humanity. In my family I had some cases of depression and with this explanation everything makes sense for me.

  • @UTAH100

    @UTAH100

    Жыл бұрын

    Get tested for the MTHFR mutation. If you have it, it might help you to supplement with sublingual methylated B12 and methylfolate. Always check with your doc first but you can look into it. It has helped many- especially if others in your family have had depression. One clue that you might have the mutation is if you have elevated Homocysteine levels that your doc can easily check for. I am not a doctor and this is not advice. Nutrition and Wellness however are hobbies I am quite passionate about...have been studying for years. I have learned under numerous M.D's and PhD's and read too many books.

  • @anttikarttunen1126

    @anttikarttunen1126

    Жыл бұрын

    Also, most of cities and suburbia seem to be designed to kill that little what is left of people's souls. Just look at the buildings you see around you when you commute between work and home.

  • @faismasterx
    @faismasterx6 жыл бұрын

    TEDx talks are usually low quality, but this.. this was A+. Highly informative, as well as applicable.

  • @ryanisacuc8381

    @ryanisacuc8381

    4 жыл бұрын

    Your comments are usually low quality. And so was this.

  • @KateeAngel
    @KateeAngel10 жыл бұрын

    Good video. Thanks. I already have a depression for 6 years. Sometimes it turns very awful, but I am introvert, I dont show anything to other people, they dont know real degree of my depression. I hope to move outside a big city after some years, it should help. My dream is to live clise to nature and without many people around, I need rest from society too badly and rarely can reach this rest

  • @TheDrunkardHu

    @TheDrunkardHu

    10 жыл бұрын

    amen.

  • @shadowheart52
    @shadowheart529 жыл бұрын

    I've been depressed for 40 years. Hardly anything cheers me up. I've pretty much given up on ever escaping it. Honestly, I just try to live with it the best I can. I figure it it's going to follow me wherever I go I might as well just learn to endure it.

  • @notaras1985

    @notaras1985

    9 жыл бұрын

    If you did a brain scan and didnt find any cerebral corruption, you might as well be mildly possessed or at least under the influence of a demon. but thats my religious beliefs anyway. but let me tell you a story. a man from my city goes at a trip with his car after finishing his ar,y service. he was driving on a mountain. at a point he sees the road changing. on his left where there must be road sees solid rock and the road continues straight. at a moment the breaks break. he gets immensily scared the doors jammed as well. he was not a very religious man back then so he says the only thing that came to his mind. saint marina help me (the church in his village is dedicated to santa marina and has her name) and he suddenly sees a woman in black, sitting at his beside seat pointing left with her finger. in the last second he rotates the steering wheel and gets right through the rock! if he continued straight where he was seeing road he would be flying down the cliff. it was just an illusion. by whom? you'll see. a year later he goes to a psychological asylum to visit his grandmother that went in with altzheimer. when he enters the front yard a man attacks him out of nowhere. one of the patients goes straight on him and with angry intentions try to beat him. the male nurses (four of them) act fast and grab him and start pulling him away from him. and while he is dragged the patient shouts with a terrible voice. "We didnt get you that day. whyyyyy? we had you in our hands in that mountain. but that damn woman in black came and helped you. He sent heeer. damn Hiiiiim (Christ)". he was totally frozen and terrified. the funny fact, after that year he had put the incident in the back of his mind, almost forgotten. and then a "patient", he had never met before, told him the story he alone experienced on that mountain. it doesnt require much mind to see that man was possessed by a demon. by the demon that tried to kill him specifically. he still tells the story with a trembling low voice. and the question that arises. how many of those "patients" that are enclosed in asylums have a real neurological problem and how many are in fact possessed? and the scientists try and try with their neurologies, psychologies, sociologies but they forget we also have a transcendent soul than can be blessed and sanctified but at the other extreme, can even get to be possessed by legions of demons. our soul, it can be attacked subtly and unconciously, many of the uncomfortable voices you hear in your heads, a blasphemous thought, a thought of desperation, of pride, an unexplainable sudden weight on the chest, a sudden loss of all motivation and energy, are more often than not demon attacks. many of the sadness, accidents, and other human tragedies that happen, behind them, there is very often the hand of a misanthrope demon.

  • @deborahhebblethwaite1865

    @deborahhebblethwaite1865

    4 жыл бұрын

    shadowheart52 the next time you have a thought that brings you down, you know that voice carrying on in your head just say to that thought “ you are just a thought form and i am not these thoughts”. Dont fight the thought just watch it rise, you will feel the effect, and then watch it float away, some relief however temporary will be felt. “. Just keep doing this practice and take calm long breaths in and out. Or try tapping You will find it on youtube. You are the observer of your thoughts. They are not who you are.....

  • @illuminatedmoonlight
    @illuminatedmoonlight4 жыл бұрын

    I love this. This inspired me to go work out. I've been taking antidepressants for 7-8 years now and I'm only 22, went off them for a couple months, became suicidal, went back on and became stable. Not sure what to do.. I am ready to try everything to avoid becoming suicidally depressed again. I get bad days are normal, that is fine with me, depression is days and weeks of pain- exactly like he said!! I love people who understand mental illness is a very real thing and we are not just trying to "victimize" ourselves!! I want to be strong! :)

  • @cheyhey2170

    @cheyhey2170

    4 жыл бұрын

    i hope you didnt stop taking them at once? you lower the dosage 2 weeks 5-10mg dependint on what your taking. seek a professional if youd like to try and stop taking them slowly, just so he can check up and agrees

  • @Sarah-lk8ye

    @Sarah-lk8ye

    Жыл бұрын

    I am 24 now and have faced similar situations like you.I do not know what it is like to be without depression.

  • @KishwarKhan07
    @KishwarKhan074 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so very much. Loved it. One of the most useful Ted talks I’ve ever seen.

  • @cienciabit
    @cienciabit7 жыл бұрын

    Exercise not only increases serotonine or dopamine levels, it also increases the BDNF (Brain-derived neurotrophic factor) that promotes neurogenesis. But for this, you need months (at least 2 or 3) of continue exercising.

  • @moniqueborrego7510

    @moniqueborrego7510

    6 жыл бұрын

    Cienciabit: Ciencia y Tecnología. Are you a chemist and from which country

  • @moniqueborrego7510

    @moniqueborrego7510

    6 жыл бұрын

    Are you a chemist and from which country

  • @tysswe1

    @tysswe1

    6 жыл бұрын

    Wont matter if its the way of modern life itself that makes you depressed.

  • @RandyLott

    @RandyLott

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the information. I was unaware that it took many months. I NEVER have a pleasurable feeling after exercise, but I may need to be more consistent.

  • @xo7499

    @xo7499

    5 жыл бұрын

    tysswe1 exercise DOES matter you do it outdoors in the greenery.

  • @zelenplav1701
    @zelenplav17017 жыл бұрын

    Knowing that they CAN'T get ahead and have a meaningful life.

  • @JohnSmith-rh2dc
    @JohnSmith-rh2dc4 жыл бұрын

    I was in rehab recovering from addiction three weeks ago, while at first I hated it, as time when on I thought "not so bad, just have to wait it out". Then I was released and had the thought today ****"I was so happy at rehab, I don't know what is wrong with me". THEN I watched this. I'm so isolated and don't get out much. What he mentioned about being alone leading to depression SHOOK me. Very enlightening.

  • @MarioVesco
    @MarioVesco6 жыл бұрын

    Surely one of the most interesting and compelling speeches I've ever heard!

  • @dcfromthev
    @dcfromthev6 жыл бұрын

    As far back as I can recall I've been overwhelmed with extreme depression, anxiety, and just a general feeling of unhappiness. A deep sense that I don't belong in my environment became increasingly apparent as I grew up. In my early 20's, after considerable observation of others and the world around me, simple logical analysis brought me to the realization that NO ONE is living a natural life. And certainly by no means a FREE life. Far worse than the aforementioned irony, is the discovery that we not only exist within, but that we are BORN INTO a reality in which we are (literally) not allowed, nor even physically able to pursue a decent, safe and natural life. The most basic and fundamental human right, the Freedom to be what we are, as living beings native to this planet, was taken away long before any of us were conceived. The damage to each and every one of us is devastating. Now, a growing population unwittingly join in disparity, fortunate only in that they were not cursed with the intellect to extract these truths. Instead, they are educated on their "disease" with a diagnosis of depression/anxiety/ADHD/OCD/etc and "treated" accordingly. And the real kicker? Our own ancestors created all of this, without even knowing it, standing on the shoulders of those who came before them, doing what humans do. Naturally.

  • @robertrush8062
    @robertrush80626 жыл бұрын

    a message for suicidal people. my friend you are very special and you matter very much. you are a wonderful person and its so nice to have you in this world , you are a blessing to us all. you have alot of value in you and you are worth saving. I love you and i care deeply about you I will pray for you. you matter so very much and its so good that you are alive.

  • @Sid-md5en
    @Sid-md5en5 жыл бұрын

    Depression is the worst thing of life.

  • @healthyone100

    @healthyone100

    4 жыл бұрын

    its not that bad is it!

  • @healthyone100

    @healthyone100

    4 жыл бұрын

    LOVE is the only answer!

  • @tomfazio2965

    @tomfazio2965

    3 жыл бұрын

    Depression is worse than cancer.

  • @namanshah8354

    @namanshah8354

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tho its like an ornamwnt.

  • @ykm257

    @ykm257

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@tomfazio2965 You've had cancer?

  • @timothyporr
    @timothyporr4 жыл бұрын

    This message needs to be more widely spread. Having a sociological background, I know the effect and affect that civilization has upon our lives. Would that more could know. Thanks for this!

  • @FrancisRoyCA
    @FrancisRoyCA8 жыл бұрын

    _"We are designed to be in the service of adaptive roles. We are not designed to exercise."_ I concur. I used to lift weights, because the gym was neighbour to my workplace, and I enjoyed socializing. I've had three gym sets at home and have never used them. On the other hand, I can spend a 10 hour day of fast-paced, consistent and non-stop yard work, cutting down trees, chopping up branches and splitting wood. It takes me about 90 minutes to turn my compost pile over, which I do every two days. It takes me about four hours to mow my lawn, as fast as the machine can handle. The only exercise that I manage to do is that which produces results. There are few pleasures in life as great as looking on a job well done.

  • @arey01f

    @arey01f

    8 жыл бұрын

    When saying exercise he means movement.

  • @Pulseczar1

    @Pulseczar1

    8 жыл бұрын

    +Seeker I think Francis understood that and was agreeing with Stephen.

  • @arey01f

    @arey01f

    8 жыл бұрын

    +Pulseczar1 ok

  • @raleighman3000

    @raleighman3000

    8 жыл бұрын

    sounds great but lifting weights and breaking serious sweat on an elliptical gives a concentrated one hour blast of goodness. the chores are very good as an addition.

  • @Pulseczar1

    @Pulseczar1

    8 жыл бұрын

    raleighman3000 Yeah, exercise can be hard to do, like Stephen says, but if you can distract yourself from what you are doing, then it's a lot easier. I ride a stationary bike and watch KZread or something while I do it. It makes a huge difference to distract your mind from the rigor and boredom of exercise. I often forget I'm riding it. It helps a whole lot to stay cool, too -- shed clothes, drink a lot of water, and use a fan. Exercise seems to make a huge difference in how well I feel. I seem to feel a lot less anxiety and depression when I have been exercising. I have found that the benefits tend to not come immediately. In fact, I usually feel a little worse right after exercising, but after my body has had time to recover from the exercise, I feel a lot better. It can be very good for immediately helping anxiety, though, because anxiety requires energy. If you are tired, it's harder for your body/mind to be anxious. On the other hand, if you are caffeinated and full of sugar, it's a lot easier for your mind to be anxious.

  • @AnPrimWrestler
    @AnPrimWrestler7 жыл бұрын

    Watching this made me jealous of the hunter gatherers.

  • @General12th

    @General12th

    7 жыл бұрын

    I know, right? For all the diseases they got and animals they had to fight, they sure got to do a lot of scoodlypooping.

  • @lukeandrews1719

    @lukeandrews1719

    7 жыл бұрын

    Found the An-Cap

  • @TheBfutgreg

    @TheBfutgreg

    7 жыл бұрын

    More like Anarcho-Primitivist

  • @No_U_W_U

    @No_U_W_U

    7 жыл бұрын

    Stop with all the labeling bullshit. You can label every single thing in life, judgmental people hiding behind their screen ugh.

  • @candyjones3652

    @candyjones3652

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@No_U_W_U how can we talk about things that don't have a name on the net genius?..

  • @riyalad2505
    @riyalad2505 Жыл бұрын

    This is the best talk I have ever heard.

  • @myoosef
    @myoosef3 жыл бұрын

    It's definitely one the greatest TED talks ever!

  • @jecpin
    @jecpin10 жыл бұрын

    I have implemented every single one of Dr. Ilardi's suggestions: lots of exercise, Omega 3s, plenty of sleep and sunshine, solid social connections, a simple, uncomplicated lifestyle....and I have no more signs of depression. I feel REALLY good, in fact. Try it.

  • @singingfreak00
    @singingfreak0010 жыл бұрын

    I became depressed during my pregnancy. It wasn't ppd either, it never went away. I stopped wanting to hang out with friends (which i normally loved) stopped wanting to talk to people, stopped wanting to go out, i didn't like anything anymore. And the worst part is trying to talk to someone(s) who doesn't understand. They tell you to just brush it off and get over it. I love this video!

  • @alayna286
    @alayna2865 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Ilardi gives some of the same advice I've heard over and over again, but in such a way that actually motivates me to make these changes in my life. I've got a Post-It note full of "need to do/purchase," an Amazon cart ready to be filled, and a scheduler ready to get marked up with places to add mild cardio 3x into my weekly schedule. Fingers crossed that I can finally fix myself without having to dive back into anti-depressents.

  • @andrewhoopersbreakthrough-1061
    @andrewhoopersbreakthrough-10614 жыл бұрын

    This jewel of a video has been sitting here for six years before I came upon it. This message should be taught our freshman year of high school. This is preparation for the real world.

  • @livinabox925
    @livinabox92510 жыл бұрын

    I had depression and it was worse than breaking my ribs from a motor bike accident. I slashed my wrist 6 times and bled for 5 hours before i called help. I can relate to much of what this bloke is saying.

  • @SkatebardCA

    @SkatebardCA

    10 жыл бұрын

    If it bled for 5 hours, you did it wrong. [serious post]

  • @livinabox925

    @livinabox925

    10 жыл бұрын

    yeah but i thought it would be over in a few minutes. how wrong i was!

  • @jacksonscully9260

    @jacksonscully9260

    10 жыл бұрын

    livin abox Yikes man, I hope you feel better now. I have had it for over 15 years.

  • @Nanancay

    @Nanancay

    10 жыл бұрын

    Jackson Scully Do you still have it? DB

  • @jacksonscully9260

    @jacksonscully9260

    10 жыл бұрын

    It still lingers but I have cleared it for the most part Nancy. Anxiety also.

  • @Pulseczar1
    @Pulseczar18 жыл бұрын

    By far, the most interesting and compelling thing I've ever heard on depression. Since depression, anxiety, OCD, etc., tend to go hand in hand, these ideas probably apply to all of these problems.

  • @jenniferbussiere3716
    @jenniferbussiere37165 жыл бұрын

    Oh my goodness...I've been looking for this confirmation for so long !!! I finally feel validated ..thankq ..this gives me hope that I'm not completely " crazy" ..I've been saying this for years .." im not made for this world " ...thankq ..now my next step is to figure out how to thrive again I hope

  • @dariodestefano94
    @dariodestefano943 жыл бұрын

    This is incredible because I clearly noticed being less depressed, having more energy etc in periods when I was eating chia seeds!

  • @sharmasibal
    @sharmasibal10 жыл бұрын

    Simply superb! The integrated and holistic approach seems to be the only way in dealing with Depression. Vedic/Indian Psychology has always used this approach to successfully cure mental disorders.

  • @anilbrahmbhatt

    @anilbrahmbhatt

    10 жыл бұрын

    Hi swati

  • @sharmasibal

    @sharmasibal

    10 жыл бұрын

    Hi Anil... do we happen to know each other...

  • @anilbrahmbhatt

    @anilbrahmbhatt

    10 жыл бұрын

    Not really .. only here ......

  • @anilbrahmbhatt

    @anilbrahmbhatt

    10 жыл бұрын

    I read about you so you can I know you little bit

  • @Macdonnell1
    @Macdonnell110 жыл бұрын

    WOW! There is hope beyond dope. Glad I watched this. great food for thought prior to exit strategy.

  • @veronicalawrence5725
    @veronicalawrence57255 жыл бұрын

    Glad you have taken a great interest in depression. Its such a very serious illness. Thanks

  • @Sting.rheaaa
    @Sting.rheaaa3 жыл бұрын

    The smartest most brilliant man I know!! Thank you for all that you do Dr. Llardi.

  • @annabelllu
    @annabelllu9 жыл бұрын

    I'm depressed because of life situations and having no friends. Nothing I do can change these situations or give me friends.

  • @johngavins2613

    @johngavins2613

    9 жыл бұрын

    I know life sucks hang in there for me please :)

  • @ruiwang7176

    @ruiwang7176

    8 жыл бұрын

    I'd like to talk if you want.

  • @healthyone100

    @healthyone100

    4 жыл бұрын

    fall in love with yourself take up a vegan diet and fasting thats what i did!

  • @homi7760
    @homi77604 жыл бұрын

    depression is the most horrible thing i ever had to deal with in life.

  • @user-xw8fl1ji1u

    @user-xw8fl1ji1u

    4 жыл бұрын

    How did you heal your depression?

  • @cloudstrife206

    @cloudstrife206

    4 жыл бұрын

    Наргиза Карабаева I haven’t

  • @lazarmaria9171

    @lazarmaria9171

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Jack Snow please try TMS

  • @HansSilver

    @HansSilver

    2 жыл бұрын

    I suffer since 2004 my life is miserable

  • @scottanderson6418

    @scottanderson6418

    Жыл бұрын

    Search for the Instagram handle below

  • @riyavashishtha8380
    @riyavashishtha83806 жыл бұрын

    clearly the most apt the best talk on depression. Loved him.

  • @jacobbolton4227
    @jacobbolton42274 жыл бұрын

    You are spot on, man. I experienced heavy feelings and thoughts today. I have been learning how to deal with my depressive feelings and thoughts for 8 years. I learned to build a toolkit for myself. My main tool is my attitude, which I have control over. I remain as a conscious and connected 'self' that does not identify as my thoughts and feelings. Thoughts and feelings happen at the same time and due to the chemical imbalances of depression, I must experience the heaviest of my thoughts and feelings. I have a neutral/positive attitude and can remain balanced and happy for longer and longer periods of time at this point in my life. Depression is such a trip. I feel like there is a bonus to it - I feel my feelings deeply and I feel empathy with those who feel and think with the experience of depression.

  • @ilkeadrall710
    @ilkeadrall710 Жыл бұрын

    My mother had depression all her life. I remember her just depressed, all day long, each and every day ... It was a hard lesson growing up with a depressed human being. Thanks to her I've never been depressed and I know I won't ever.

  • @theboombody

    @theboombody

    Жыл бұрын

    I know I have too many good things in my life to be depressed. I don't know how it's going to be 10 years from now, but right now I have no excuse not to enjoy the good things present in my life. I'm not going to miss out on that just because depression is spreading in this world. I'll be depressed when it's time to be depressed, and be happy when it's time to be happy. Weather was great out today. It was a time to be happy.

  • @thatbitchnoemie

    @thatbitchnoemie

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@theboombody As if you could decide when depression is going to hit you.

  • @TanyerLamb
    @TanyerLamb10 жыл бұрын

    I find that many people think that depression can 100% of the time, be cured by a lifestyle change; for many, it's an issue that's very chemically-based. I was running 12km a day, and training regularly, eating my omega 3's (and a very clean diet,) and couldn't stop contemplating suicide, despite everything going really well in my life. I'm not saying that it can't be cured by a lifestyle change, but that each person's chemistry is unique, and a scattershot approach (be it a wholly medication or lifestyle or holistic method of treatment) is one that is unlikely to succeed. To say a lifestyle change is the answer, or only medication is the answer, causes the sufferer of depression to question "what am I doing wrong?" rather than "what are some steps I need to take, to get better?"

  • @chriswritescopy

    @chriswritescopy

    9 жыл бұрын

    Good post. Fully agree.

  • @iLUVsmokinBUD

    @iLUVsmokinBUD

    9 жыл бұрын

    Your lifestyle affects the amount of chemicals and what is going on with you so, you're not making perfect sense.

  • @TanyerLamb

    @TanyerLamb

    9 жыл бұрын

    It does, but there tends to be a baseline deficiency, surplus or overall balance of chemicals in the brain that appears to be genetically predetermined. It's still undetermined, but it appears that both nature and nurture have a lot to do with one's disposition, so all the lifestyle changes in the world, can't fix someone whose brain naturally doesn't produce enough or overproduces serotonin.

  • @chriswritescopy

    @chriswritescopy

    9 жыл бұрын

    Not sure smokinBUD is great for depression either, mate.

  • @veronicalawrence5725

    @veronicalawrence5725

    5 жыл бұрын

    I agree with you 100%. I am 53 years old and have been suicidal for 41 years. I chose not to have children because of it and I am still struggling. I'm a Catholic and struggle with the idea of suicide. Condemned to life!!!

  • @solomonrivers4204
    @solomonrivers42044 жыл бұрын

    I had never realized how much more dynamic the cinematography was in these older Ted Talks

  • @Ryansarcade9
    @Ryansarcade95 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful, Stepehn Ilardi is a genius and America needs to hear his message!

  • @Ryrynz2000
    @Ryrynz20007 жыл бұрын

    I love this guy. His facial expressions, his intense staring seemingly into nowhere, how he holds his finger to his lips as he collects his thoughts and how purposefully he talks.. such a wonderful human being. Watching him talk alone should snap you out of depression.. LOL.

  • @psy-lion

    @psy-lion

    5 жыл бұрын

    I know right! He's excellent!

  • @kotare86

    @kotare86

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agreed! The camera angle from below adds to his charisma

  • @johannatheone
    @johannatheone7 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Stephen for working on this! I suffer from depression in periods of my life and I can best describe my experience as being trapped inside a glassbox with declining air and mist all around. I cant get out of the box and I slowly suffecate and everywhere I look is mist and absolute hopelessness, self hate and shame. In the Amazon they dont have depression at all. As soon as someone feel blue they gather for a ayahuasca cermony and heals the person. I truly hope the answer is out there..maby in a comination of plantmedicin, organic foods, less lonliness, nature, less stress and guilt and more spirituality and love!!

  • @littlelup1585

    @littlelup1585

    7 жыл бұрын

    Plant medicine healed my depression

  • @aphysique

    @aphysique

    7 жыл бұрын

    Tina Mina Tell us about The Jungle vine you are referring to..Mother ayahuasca? Wish I had the money to such..heard there are a few churches in The states? not sure bout that though

  • @HannicaC
    @HannicaC Жыл бұрын

    This validates all of my realizations for the past 9 years of me suffering from depression.

  • @user-ip6en6dw8w
    @user-ip6en6dw8w4 жыл бұрын

    This is one of the greatest and most informative things ever

  • @michaeljechon6139
    @michaeljechon61397 жыл бұрын

    Agrarian society, while subject to famine and hard labor, historically suffered far less from things like depression because you often labored in the company of your peers, friends, and family. There was a sense of connectedness and community in those days. What he's saying makes absolute sense to me. However, I feel he's merely scratched the surface of a problem that is systemic in nature and scope. Mass depression is seemingly a product of the Industrial Era, along with capitalism's every-man-for-himself, Horatio Alger myth-fueled socio-economic structure . I'd gladly trade in my microwave and IPhone for a clay hut and peace of mind.

  • @TDub0807

    @TDub0807

    6 жыл бұрын

    Mike Echon well said Mike. I'm starting to see the truth in all of this. Once a capitalist, it really has compartmentalized and divided our species. I feel so isolated in life even though I am surrounded by people. We have all become strangers focused on materials rather than connection. I would love to be able to remedy this.

  • @squamish4244

    @squamish4244

    6 жыл бұрын

    We can't go back. We CAN go forward. We aren't destined to be stuck here forever.

  • @maidende8280

    @maidende8280

    5 жыл бұрын

    I agree with you except for the capitalist aspect; I think you put too much blame on it, rather than its abuse. Well said otherwise.

  • @brynleytalbot778

    @brynleytalbot778

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think the point is that your freedom and independence comes with a vast bill - loan interest via rent or mortgage, rates for services you may never use if healthy and law abiding, electricity to light and heat, supermarkets for food, etc. Once you subscribe to capitalist societies you are never free. Hence the clay hut in a land where there are no taxes and it's a hunter gatherer existence. There lies the conundrum. Whether to exist or be a consumer? Industrialisation only works with consumer economies. Western comfort and "advancement" or basic needs? Do we have a choice anymore?

  • @chrisnamaste3572

    @chrisnamaste3572

    4 жыл бұрын

    You can still do so; New Guinea is still there.

  • @philosopher2king
    @philosopher2king9 жыл бұрын

    Wow, excellent talk! I'm not a big fan of TEDx but this one is probably the best one I've seen.

  • @bellocam677
    @bellocam6775 жыл бұрын

    I just really need a hug right now...

  • @Yikkoofficial
    @Yikkoofficial4 жыл бұрын

    Wow! I literally thought about this the other day and he made a TEDX on it. This is amazing! Thank you 😊 🙏🏽

  • @lovetolearn881
    @lovetolearn8816 жыл бұрын

    Please go outside and walk. Make it a rule that you MUST walk every day even if its cold. After a month you will be craving that walk. By month three it will be part of you, you will NEED to walk outside. If you only have 10 mins when you decide to go walk, GO! Does not matter just do it every day. You will want to walk more and more and become more and more happy. Exercise, fresh air, sun, seeing other people. All WIN! Don't keep spiraling down. Get up and walk outside right now!

  • @mifnp8887

    @mifnp8887

    4 жыл бұрын

    Best advice on this thread.

  • @revolutionunderground

    @revolutionunderground

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like someone's OCD about exercise lol

  • @healthyone100

    @healthyone100

    4 жыл бұрын

    there some woods with a beautiful stream behind my house and can;t wait to get out and walk it helps my depression i'm also a vegan and feel good about putting only fruits and veggies in my body!

  • @rossiethomas

    @rossiethomas

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @KathyHussey063

    @KathyHussey063

    4 жыл бұрын

    @Ann-Marie Paliukenas just find one person near you (start with one worthy soul you notice) and reach out to help them in some way that you see they could use some help. Carry in their groceries, offer to babysit, wash someone's hair who has dexterity problems, (an older lady like myself would adore anyone who offered to do that for me I assure you !). Paint the nails of a sick woman who has a broken arm or m.s. and can't move. You could make some cookies and twist up 2 or 3 in little ziploc baggies with a ribbon or put just a few hershey kisses in them. Write short notes saying " I am __________, your neighbor at (apartment number or address). I am available to babysit for ages ____ at (put days and hours or what weekend nights you'd want to do it) Then your per hour price, (make it really cheap if you want to make a lot of new friends lol) You can offer housecleaning or dog walking too or to run to the store for people if that's an option for you. If your goal is meeting others who are nice people, remember ; you yourself are nice and you live there where you live, right? So try to figure out whose doors seem most likely to be decent enough people of all ages, and put your lil notes on them one day. Maybe you'll begin meeting some good people that way, or if not maybe at least you'll get a few small jobs and make a few bucks. You win either way. lol. Open your life to let others in by reaching out, you will often find your soul sisters right there near you, just as in need of a kind face and a friend as you are.

  • @Tctiffany
    @Tctiffany3 жыл бұрын

    depression is loving Covid-19, stay home, stay alone...

  • @The5th-zero

    @The5th-zero

    3 жыл бұрын

    it was fine for me - social anxiety was actually ok for once

  • @olivierm2888

    @olivierm2888

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@The5th-zero most people suffer from general anxiety, and it indeed has gotten worse for most people this past year.

  • @wittywolk

    @wittywolk

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@The5th-zero you'll have only worse social anxiety after pandemic so I guess no, it wasn't (isn't) fine for you, you only think so because you don't have to fight to overcome it (temporairly)

  • @sanaahassan3316
    @sanaahassan33165 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. The world needed to hear this

  • @janicechung8172
    @janicechung81724 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your lecture. It is one of the most helpful speeches on depression

  • @jeffreykendall1025
    @jeffreykendall10253 жыл бұрын

    Brazilian Jiu Jitsu has been the best activity I have ever found for feeling great (after feeling sh*t before walking in). Meditative, social, full body work out, great cardio, personal development which gives a sense of achievement...

  • @annmarieknapp
    @annmarieknapp3 жыл бұрын

    Have lived with this since I was a young teen. Add several traumatic events and loss and its like living in a surreal version of what I thought life would be like. I used to exercise like a maniac to self medicate, but it is harder to do as I get older.

  • @xenajones677
    @xenajones677 Жыл бұрын

    One of the best Ted talks I’ve ever seen by far! Sir you did an amazing job

  • @housecaldwell
    @housecaldwell Жыл бұрын

    Would really love to see an update on this.

  • @camuscat123
    @camuscat1239 жыл бұрын

    one must not resist...but be creative in adaption

  • @JoeBarnesAuthor
    @JoeBarnesAuthor10 жыл бұрын

    Finally someone speaking the truth. Amazing how there are no cases of depression in cultures largely untouched by so called western civilization. I made a video with a very similar theme to this talk: How to overcome depression: The REAL answer

  • @razvanyke
    @razvanyke5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video, TEDx and Dr. Ilardi!

  • @TheRubberStudiosASMR
    @TheRubberStudiosASMR4 жыл бұрын

    This was amazing. Thank you.

  • @skipeveryday7282
    @skipeveryday72827 жыл бұрын

    Boxing made Excercise more natural and more social for me. So many interesting points raised here.

  • @JuanManuel-bs6yg
    @JuanManuel-bs6yg8 жыл бұрын

    For some reason this talk cheers me up.

  • @ImagineFreedom

    @ImagineFreedom

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, it has some hope

  • @pcptaker45

    @pcptaker45

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too. I wanted to kill but i feel ok now

  • @gregf3072
    @gregf30724 жыл бұрын

    This has been very insightful. Thank you!

  • @AudiophileTubes
    @AudiophileTubes5 жыл бұрын

    This man is absolutely BRILLIANT! Erich Fromm, the great, late German psychoanalyst and author, wrote about societal complexity and alienation and unhappiness, caused by contemporary market based cultures, in many of his great books written a few decades ago. Some humans can cope, and others simply can't. We are NOT all capable of dealing with the many incongruencies and complexities of a fast paces, unnatural, alienating culture that we have created in our industrialized, cold, alienating, results driven world!