LESSONS FROM RIHANNA: How To Be Strong AND Feminine | Shallon Lester
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@iSketchRandom3 жыл бұрын
This hair, makeup combo suits you SO well.
@JenniferAhluwalia
3 жыл бұрын
😍❤absolutely agree
@mml00823 жыл бұрын
Other ways to nurture our divine feminine 🌹: surround yourself with Mother Earth and flowers, cook and bake, sing, dance, baths, laugh and play ie, girl time 💕 the feminine spirit is playful and fun 🤍
@yz4043
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't like baths because after 5 mins and bored and just sitting in my own filth
@chickenwings5357
3 жыл бұрын
@@yz4043 yeah I don’t like the idea of sitting in dead skin🤢
@ruthandherson38933 жыл бұрын
“I’m not worth the investment”....yes!!! That spoke to me and l was like that and wasted much of my youth. I did not explore, exploit and enjoy that time of my life discovering my femininity and enjoying that aspect. Doing that in my late 40’s. It’s great and lm happy to be here now, but please don’t let the years pass without investing in yourself and finding that inner beautiful and worthy woman!!!
@missouriplantmom1769
3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes🙏💖
@timeabg3 жыл бұрын
Every time I look back on how much you've helped me in the past two years, it blows my mind.
@ms.doubtfire7307
3 жыл бұрын
OMG! Ditto😁~👏👏👏
@sharonchepkorir3571
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@jenni2303 жыл бұрын
I just had a realization. It‘s so weird I feel actually scared to behave in a feminine way. I am scared that I look conceited when I toss my hair for example. That‘s messed up
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Lean into being conceited! Don’t look at it as a bad thing, reframe it as yeah, I look good and I know it and I value myself and if somebody doesn’t agree that sounds like their problem not mine 💅🏻
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester really trying to get that attitude 💝
@somethingclever4052
3 жыл бұрын
This reminded me of this one time in class where I was applying lip gloss, this guy just stared at me and when I looked up at him he said "ay ya" which is an expression that (in this context) means something like "oh well pardon me princess". At the time it made me doubt my femininity, but now reflecting on it he was probably just a beta and insecure himself. So much so that he had to pull others down with him
@lilmakori3 жыл бұрын
Ok before I watched the video I'm gonna say I think Elle Woods was the perfect combination of feminine and strong. She never let people make her feel bad about being a girly girl and she kicked ass at Harvard when people doubted her.
@Fahad-ce2fi3 жыл бұрын
Shallon! Can we see story time on your travel aboard experience? I wanna see your Italian and French by the way!
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
I did one on my study abroad just search Rome on my channel-but I need to update it. And of course, I couldn’t just film it in America. I would have to, for authenticity sake, go back to Rome to film it right?? SAY NO MORE FAM
@Fahad-ce2fi
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester Yess! Also for shallange I wanna see learn a language and maybe talk about your French and Italian learning process? Merci!
@TeeAlee143
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester Yesss!! And ***Paris's engagement 💍 Plzzz?!? @ShallonXo 💕 P.s also I hope I can still order...***☆☆☆◇◇I need a " may the bridges I burn light the way**** ASAP! Hugs!!◇◇☆☆☆
@mr.valentin4121
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester hey shallon im a huge. fan of you and your videos and i know that your videos are targeted towards females however id like you to know amd acknowledge the men and gay men that listen to your channel.
@jenni2303 жыл бұрын
Oh Shallon..everything is so true...I feel this. I come from a very small town in Germany. And german girls usually don‘t put alot of effort into their looks, especially in small towns (of course there are exceptions). I was always the girl who loved wearing heels, wearing make-up etc., but at my school my girlfriends or other girls always made comments about the way I dressed. Or when we went clubbing I always heard the sentence „Well I don‘t like to wear heels I can‘t walk in them“. So when I was younger I never was my true self and started to look as normal as possible, because I wanted everyone to like me. I still put on make-up or did my hair but not so much (it was not authentic to me). I started to dress and look maybe since last year like my authentic self and I have to admit I still sometimes think „what will people think“ or „they mist think that I am a braggy bitch“. But I try to eliminate those thoughts.
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
Feel u girl. Gerade in Deutschland. Leute denken immer, dass ich Russin sei haha
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
@@nela7542 Wie gehst du damit um?
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
@@jenni230 mittlerweile ist es mir egal was andere sagen, seit ich eben verstanden habe, dass alles andere für mich einfach sehr unauthentisch ist. Wenn es Kommentare dazu gibt, sage ich auch genau das. Ich komme aus einer italienischen Familie, daher ist das für mich auch nochmal normaler. Wenn ich in einer sozialen Situation befürchte, dass ich dadurch arrogant wirke oder so fange ich direkt an zu reden und diesem Eindruck vorzubeugen. Ich fühle mich damit aber sehr allein manchmal. Negative Kommentare sind mittlerweile egal, vieles ist einfach Neid oder sie sind frustriert, dass sie zu faul oder geizig für Beauty sind. Am Ende hat man einfach nichts davon, wenn man einen auf weiße Sneaker, Leggings, Sweatshirt und eingetrocknete rival de Loop mascara von 2003 macht und das einfach nicht widerspiegelt, wer du wirklich bist.
@yoonasweety
3 жыл бұрын
@@nela7542 kill mich doooch nicht, rival de loop mascara... Ich habe mich mega lang unwohl und als aussenseiter in gefühlt, da ich sneakers hasse und mich in Kleidern und feminen Kleidern wohl fühle... Jetzt wenn mir jemand einen komischen Blick zuwirft denk ich mir honeyyyyy scrub that skin and lips before you come and talk to me
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
@@yoonasweety wenn sie mich auslachen und ich dabei sehe wie die Schicht tote haut auf ihren Lippen beim lachen Risse bekommt - dann weiß ich, ich hab gewonnen. U go girl! Lassen wir uns nichts sagen von Frauen die noch den Nagellack vom Sommer 2019 auf den crusty Füßen haben.
@yosrabenchikhi3 жыл бұрын
YES she is the QUEEN!!! I still love the way she responded to Kendall Jenner. Kendall tweeted that she wouldn't come to the concert if Rihanna didn't sing a certain song 😂😂 Rihanna really said: then don't come 🤣. Thanks for the video! I'm seriously obsessed with your channel ❤❤❤ Much love, from Morocco! 🇲🇦❤
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
It was a tweet that will live in infamy 😂
@aparnapanchanathan84323 жыл бұрын
When I'm with crunchy girls: I'm too much, I look "too much" When I'm with girly girls: I'm too little, I look "too little" Literally couldn't care what men think, my "car who judges" is the global population of every type of women
@andieandbarb3 жыл бұрын
i became feminine when i became a feminist. i just simply stopped giving shit about what men find attractive and i abandoned a need to be a ‘cool girl’. i stoped viewing phrase ‘you are not like other girls as a complement. i embraced sisterhood and stopped seeing other women as competition. i learned from them and released that we are multidimensional creatures and we don’t fit only one box.
@audreydoulos6227
3 жыл бұрын
Love everything about that !!!!
@julissarodriguez25973 жыл бұрын
I thought I was “girlie” until she said shave your legs every few days” 😂
@anissabh7157
3 жыл бұрын
true 😂😭😂😭
@ccanela28
3 жыл бұрын
Same! 💛😌
@isabella.amaraa3 жыл бұрын
I went from girly to crunchy, and now I’m back to girly!!! What seriously changed was exactly what Shallon said: choosing to prioritize my love for myself and choosing to make decisions to reflect on the outside, what I wanted to feel about myself on the inside. To be honest, choosing to love myself again, and to accept that feeling good about myself was OKAY was the best decision I’ve made in a long time, and it’s the most I’ve felt like myself in 8-10 years. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
@whyme35463 жыл бұрын
First of all,I am Tom boy but I have recently learnt how to embrace my feminine side and I feel complete,for example,I would wear sweats but apply makeup and do my hair which is feminine and I feel great.i think that’s the balance which we should have.
@melisacaceres87403 жыл бұрын
Well i've always been a very femenine girl (i did ballet, i'm polite and love so many femenine things), but when i had depressive episodes, i felt forced to dial it down. Now, i'm doing great, my mental health is very well now and i'm...the lowest maintenence i've even been. I've realized that doing the basics has always been a natural thing for me, but, the mania of always looking my best was coming from deep insecurities. The "new" natural me comes from wanting to enjoy my life a little bit more without having to obsess over looking my best. Ironically i felt the hottest now because i feel healthy and proud of who i am.
@mepulley79133 жыл бұрын
Bringing down other women is something Girls do. REAL Women want to see other women win . Thanks for teaching me this Shallon :)
@grisg.41213 жыл бұрын
@Shallon Lester-I cannot even begin to describe what a blessing you are in my life. I truly believe the reason I survived the emotional roller coaster of a broken relationship, the pain it inflicted, rebuilding my life, and lately claiming back my femininity all has to do with you. Your wisdom, your input, your badass nature has helped me to get back into my groove. Thank you for this lesson, and I can’t wait for the M&H. I don’t have access to that channel, so you will be my source. The best source to understand what transpired during that interview.
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much this made me tear up!!! I promise I only just gave you a tiny nudge in the direction you were already meant to go in, and yes I will thoroughly break down and Megan and hairy interview for you, I will take the bullet and watch it for all of us 😂
@cutieetae33513 жыл бұрын
Is your hair darker? Your makeup complements you so well,really enhances your features
@kittysubliminals383 жыл бұрын
Shallon and Rihanna is just what I needed for today💖
@lydiawalker07143 жыл бұрын
Getting rid of all my clothes with holes in them and learning to take care of what I have made me feel a lot more feminine. I doubt I'll wear makeup anytime soon because I hated wearing it for cheerleading. For now, wearing lip balm is good enough.
@sparklyunicorn54313 жыл бұрын
I'm one of those people that always has at least some makeup on and I like to look presentable in public. It's just habit, I don't notice if others are or aren't doing it 🤷♀️
@eftalya1903 жыл бұрын
dude I cannot get over how good this hair looks on you
@thatbossybeaver
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed! 🙌
@airasenju29973 жыл бұрын
its 2:20 am here in Philippines and I am listening to girl on top podcast while writing in my journal, then shallon uploads video about being an alpha ❤ YASS Content Queen Shallon
@rosie-uu1ek
3 жыл бұрын
I'm from the ph too!
@melisacaceres87403 жыл бұрын
"i'm friends with the Kattan sisters" damn, boss babes getting together, I LOVE THAT.
@Ckem243 жыл бұрын
Shallon i hope you’re gonna do a video on Harry and Megan’s oprah interview please please !
@MissteriousMisstress
3 жыл бұрын
She did. She couldn't stand it haah
@hellolucy20743 жыл бұрын
My issue is I feel extremely uncomfortable wearing light color clothing. I feel safe in dark clothing. This for me has been the hardest to break out off.
@sapnanayak1453
7 ай бұрын
A lot of very sexy feminine women (think of Monica Belluci, Angelina Jolie) wear dark colors. To be feminine is to feel sensual and really be comfortable and confident in your skin and choices.
@barbara42173 жыл бұрын
I LOVE your advice Shallon (I think I’ve watched every single one of your videos for the past two years), but I’m not sure I’d recommend glowing up physically first, and THEN trying to solve feelings of unworthiness/low self-esteem, because that’s what I tried to do, and it managed to make my self-esteem even worse. Before, I never really thought about my appearance, just a general “oh I know I’m ugly, whatever.” When I glowed up (and I mean, there was a DRASTIC change in my appearance) I ended up becoming wayyyyyyy more insecure. I was constantly obsessed with how I looked and what others thought of me, and couldn’t go out in public unless I was perfectly dressed and had my hair and makeup done. Honestly, I felt uglier than I ever had before. It was only once I learned that my self-consciousness was rooted in my feelings of unworthiness that I was able to dismantle those beliefs and regain confidence. Anyways, that’s neither here nor there lol
@kathyalex7783 жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you for covering this topic Shallon! I want to be this successful, happy, fulfilled woman without losing my softness, beauty, and femininity in the process. You CAN have both, but it's about balance and give and take.
@sofeeak86043 жыл бұрын
I must admit I enjoy going from crunchy to glam! Seeing my transformation after a few DIY beauty treatments is the best feeling! 😁
@lbelle88503 жыл бұрын
2 eyebrows, 0 moustache. Got it 👌🤣 love you girl!
@Ellie_world7773 жыл бұрын
"No one is a better investment than you" I loved this
@sharonchepkorir3571
3 жыл бұрын
Got that too
@jthompson31243 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I feel bad doing little self care things like makeup and shaving because I feel like a bad FEMINIST😩 I like smooth legs but I don’t wanna let the team down!
@alainaatk.6210
3 жыл бұрын
One of the problems that I've always had with a lot of feminists and the reason I don't really identify with the label is that the things they're encouraging and discouraging seem to move women to actually being more like men. Don't let anyone tell you that doing very normal, womanly things makes you not empowered or something. That actually sounds more like misogyny than the other way around. ❤️
@jthompson3124
3 жыл бұрын
@@alainaatk.6210 THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
@Amy-f3e3 жыл бұрын
You all should check out how females in india wears them sarees. So feminine yet looking soo powerful. Same with outfits in many regions of Africa. Love the beautiful drapings. Yet all very strong markers. Ps. 80s Madonna = the OG of that energy I think.😁
@ahanaroychoudhuri3 жыл бұрын
I got this video recommended and I thought this is an old video 😭😭. Everytime shallon makes videos on rihanna I become a bigger and bigger fan of shallon. Riri is really our LORD AND SAVIOUR
@melisamartin57773 жыл бұрын
I always thought that being super feminine (i love make up,ballet, pink ..) was a sign of "dumb" or "superficial" but i didnt care. I knew how smart and capable i was and am.. Still it bothered me when people made fun of me watching videos on make up or trying clothes for a long time.. Now i know those were alllll betas babe!. And i am more confident and happier about my feminine personality. Thank u shallon
@graciel18523 жыл бұрын
When I was a kid I always tried to be a “tomboy” when at heart I was always a “girly girl”. I think our society/ the patriarchy sees femininity as something bad, or something for only men’s pleasure. So I always felt that being girly was something to be ashamed of. In movies the feminine girls were always the mean girls, or the dumb girls or a sexual object. There isn’t much representation of feminine women who are respected. So I think that’s why it’s so hard to embrace our femininity as women without the fear of people ridiculing us, not respecting us or sexualizing us.
@goldenlioness868
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly what happened to me. I was always called "prissy" so I toughened up to prove that I was not weak. I didn't realize until now who I became and it not who I really am. I am working on it now. I wish you much love and light on your journey back to yourself ❤️
@Xarfaxxx3 жыл бұрын
20:55 If it works for palms, it must work for people, too. And it does. A healed broken bone becomes even stronger than before the injury. Muay Thai fighters know that - in the training process they create so many micro fractures when they kick bags and spar (mock-fight with half-force with an opponent) that when they walk in the ring to compete, their shins can withstand substantial impact. And oldie, but a goodie: “What doesn’t break you, makes you stronger.”
@lauranoon Жыл бұрын
Thanks, I really needed this! I've been letting myself go since covid and haven't really been doing my hair and makeup for myself a lot because I've gained so much weight. This has inspired me to try to put my hair in curlers with my nightly routine everyday and makeup on in the morning again (I stopped wearing makeup most days, like I said, I've really let myself go), but I'm going to put in that little bit of effort.
@azulofthesea3 жыл бұрын
I looooove this video! I am trying to embrace my feminine because I have hidden for so long under sweats and unworthiness! I am so ready to make a shift!
@shivanivyas3623 жыл бұрын
For me, feminity is like nature; warm, beautiful, inviting but also deadly if mistreated.
@kimberly.abundance30843 жыл бұрын
loveeeeee the Rihanna videos. Always here for it.
@chrissyosozzy64653 жыл бұрын
Can you please do a video on lessons from monica belluci. She is so captivating respected and so nice.
@Leahxo3 жыл бұрын
Yes Shallon this is exactly what I need to refresh and start my week. 🙌🏾
@celticsoul28503 жыл бұрын
I feel plenty worthy, but I don’t like to exercise because A you get sweaty B, it hurts and C, I’m too damn tired.
@missladymo3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! I needed me some Shallon to push the bad day to the side ❤️
@urszula91613 жыл бұрын
I just got super angry with my boyfriend (nevermind really) so I decided to distress and I saw your new vid and I have to tell you it's perfect to play in the background while doing the "angry workout". I actually like feeling this kind of anger - I feel vengeful, powerful, and motivated af. Now I'm going to change my life, have a sexy body and take no sh*t 💖
@lavishlovergirl
3 жыл бұрын
You're gorgeous
@missminti3 жыл бұрын
Authenticity is the hottest thing on the planet. It doesn't matter your level of attractiveness, femininity/masculinity, outward presentation. When a person is being unapologetically themselves, it REVERBERATES.
@SandyBeach3 жыл бұрын
You’ve been helping me get through this year and get back to my alpha self 💗
@LiseyTigra3 жыл бұрын
yessss I love when u talk about Riri 🖤🖤🖤
@SpicySpinach3 жыл бұрын
Thank u for existing love you so so so much! ❤️
@graciel18523 жыл бұрын
The car of those who judge thing is so true omg! I didn’t notice till now that the people that imagine judging me are the most random unimportant people that I know. I’m going to think about this from now on when I feel scared of being judged
@_princessmatcha3 жыл бұрын
I honestly feel that my catholic upbringing really held me back and still makes me struggle dealing real life stuff. I didn’t get to cultivate my inner strength and femininity during my teens. I was brought up to be ‘good/kind’ and then expect that the world will just be good back to me.
@ilad36893 жыл бұрын
Ok you’ve got to cover Price Harry and Megan’s Oprah interview !!!
@emmaskoglund50093 жыл бұрын
I lovvvve your videos . I always learn something & I listen to them when I’m cleaning 🤍🤍🤍🤍
@22Dawlfin3 жыл бұрын
This is what I want to see more of, women lifting other women up. Women helping women. We need to look out for our fellow sisters.
@nataliegauthier81523 жыл бұрын
Honestly I used to be so glam & now that I've gone through alot of trauma & had 2 kids & go through bouts of depression & go to hair school, I don't care to get glammed up like at all ever, last time was when my class got together for drinks like a month ago. I just don't feel like I have the energy to dress up all cute & do my hair & makeup. Kind of ironic since I spend time doing other people's hair but now I'm always drained of all my energy but I used to love doing makeup & trying different looks all the time. I think I'm burning out a bit & I wanna go back to caring & taking good care of myself, I almost feel like I don't know how to start?
@JozieMaXine
3 жыл бұрын
I literally have the same problem.
@PS-hi9os
3 жыл бұрын
don’t focus on where to start focus on getting your mental health straight and the rest will follow.. maybe start off just by doing your hair then doing ur make up then outfits etc
@nataliegauthier8152
3 жыл бұрын
@@PS-hi9os thank you! Thinking about everything that needs to get done can be so overwhelming, I'm gonna start with basic needs like washing my hair & work my way up to a good beauty routine that makes me feel great😊
@amethystlake3 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this video. I would say I am more on the crunchy side. I have been a rock guitarist since my teens and I never really thought I could be feminine and alpha at the same time. I used to wear baggy band t shirts because that would be expected. Now I do both, I play guitar, I wear makeup, do my hair, dress up for when I went out. This is spot on. I always felt manly and that no guys would want to date me. Thanks for this video!!
@jaytierney64763 жыл бұрын
Red hair looks so good on you!
@Nveevev3 жыл бұрын
For me finding a new goal (going to university) really helped to level up my feminity / glow up
@TheWalkingNomadTours2 жыл бұрын
OMG I had SUCH an eye-oponer, I never saw my mom taking care of herself.... now I understand so much more, could you please talk more about this?
@laura_etah Жыл бұрын
Barack 😂😂 I love u girl 😂❤
@kelseyallerton71303 жыл бұрын
That meme of her in the front row of a fashion show rolling her eyes and mouthing off to the model.... Priceless 😁😁😁😁
@ralsumaaji3 жыл бұрын
This is gold. thank you Shallon
@sapphoscats69413 жыл бұрын
shallon is a feminine lady and that’s who she is, but honestly, if you substitute “handsome/dapper/sharp,” where she says “feminine,” her message does not change and i appreciate that.
@CaraJayneASMR3 жыл бұрын
Love to see you thriving Shallon ♥️
@Ast122453 жыл бұрын
Shallon you are amazing 💕thank you for all your advice ☺️
@fiercely.feminine5313 жыл бұрын
I had to stop my car when she said “nobody is a better investment than you”
@constancegoldwing58673 жыл бұрын
When you asked your dad to borrow the car, you sounded exactly like Megan Fox lol
@annieanonymous6113 жыл бұрын
Never seen this addressed anywhere else. Like you read my mind! Thank you.
@jaydenogiamien66553 жыл бұрын
your sound quality is amazing shallon
@missy63613 жыл бұрын
Hahaha the animal reference. Gosh you're hilarious 😂😂😂
@always_be_stocking3 жыл бұрын
I’m not shaving my legs
@Kh-nr4ng
3 жыл бұрын
You don't have to start small she said
@always_be_stocking
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kh-nr4ng i just dont like the idea that leg hair cant be considered feminine
@Andjela9123 жыл бұрын
I love this! Preach girl ❤️
@nyakhanchap20943 жыл бұрын
Shallon your hair looks amazing, so pretty :)
@jelenajelena15803 жыл бұрын
Shallon, your hair is out of this world! Such a special beauty, and this hair compliment your unique beauty :)
@cc20163 жыл бұрын
do meghan Markel plzzzzz
@patriciamounayer81573 жыл бұрын
Thank you Shallon, great subject ! But maybe we should second guess the fact that girls should wear make-up and shave...things that most guys do not do. These are also things that implicitly objectify women, isn't that also what beta males want ?
@Cerisechappa3 жыл бұрын
Shallon your hair is incredible!!! Ugh I might have to copy you! ❣️
@MegJuniper3 жыл бұрын
I’ve got issues with my mom lol but I am eternally grateful she embraced my own divine feminine, bc it’s quite strong haha
@CarolineVictoriaable3 жыл бұрын
Happy international women's day shallonnnnnn
@cassief36543 жыл бұрын
I love these videos about Rihanna and her confidence 🥰🥰 so much we can learn from her
@SandyBeach3 жыл бұрын
Yay!!! Hi Shallon! 💗💗
@polinavekchina78623 жыл бұрын
i see a vid on rihanna i click
@djenaba50243 жыл бұрын
Two eyebrows, zero moustache ladies!
@miraaddy96203 жыл бұрын
Youve helped me so much your the best!!!
@colochossalvajes3 жыл бұрын
9:38 uffff 😅this whole part felt very close to home !!! Omg thanks Shallon 💕
@beccab.63163 жыл бұрын
Plz plz plz do a video on the Megan Markle Oprah interview 💜
@celenagostavo82073 жыл бұрын
please do another meghan markle viddoafter the interview she made with oprah !! cant wait !
@alyssasault21423 жыл бұрын
I love you Shallon thank you for these points
@DaisyTT3 жыл бұрын
Shallon for president
@sophy15343 жыл бұрын
Love you shallon 😍❤️
@jsol21203 жыл бұрын
Hi Shallon! 💖Have you ever done your 7 min makeup tutorial?...I ❤ how it looks.🤗
@laraa11093 жыл бұрын
Could you do a video about ashley tisdale and her husband? They seem to have a very healty relationship🤗
@Ldnamiri3 жыл бұрын
I love the jacket! I just wish we had it in a crew neck
@klremoval12633 жыл бұрын
This video motivated me
@ayeletk.20513 жыл бұрын
You are so wise, Shallon!
@Amanda-qx3td3 жыл бұрын
Notification squad 💫
@missy63613 жыл бұрын
I love being a girly girl. It makes me feel so confident. 🥰
@rosybliss3 жыл бұрын
Can you please do a video on how to be a war machine? How to get into that mode when push comes to shove? I def need some of that energy right now 💜
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This hair, makeup combo suits you SO well.
@JenniferAhluwalia
3 жыл бұрын
😍❤absolutely agree
Other ways to nurture our divine feminine 🌹: surround yourself with Mother Earth and flowers, cook and bake, sing, dance, baths, laugh and play ie, girl time 💕 the feminine spirit is playful and fun 🤍
@yz4043
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't like baths because after 5 mins and bored and just sitting in my own filth
@chickenwings5357
3 жыл бұрын
@@yz4043 yeah I don’t like the idea of sitting in dead skin🤢
“I’m not worth the investment”....yes!!! That spoke to me and l was like that and wasted much of my youth. I did not explore, exploit and enjoy that time of my life discovering my femininity and enjoying that aspect. Doing that in my late 40’s. It’s great and lm happy to be here now, but please don’t let the years pass without investing in yourself and finding that inner beautiful and worthy woman!!!
@missouriplantmom1769
3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes🙏💖
Every time I look back on how much you've helped me in the past two years, it blows my mind.
@ms.doubtfire7307
3 жыл бұрын
OMG! Ditto😁~👏👏👏
@sharonchepkorir3571
3 жыл бұрын
Same
I just had a realization. It‘s so weird I feel actually scared to behave in a feminine way. I am scared that I look conceited when I toss my hair for example. That‘s messed up
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Lean into being conceited! Don’t look at it as a bad thing, reframe it as yeah, I look good and I know it and I value myself and if somebody doesn’t agree that sounds like their problem not mine 💅🏻
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester really trying to get that attitude 💝
@somethingclever4052
3 жыл бұрын
This reminded me of this one time in class where I was applying lip gloss, this guy just stared at me and when I looked up at him he said "ay ya" which is an expression that (in this context) means something like "oh well pardon me princess". At the time it made me doubt my femininity, but now reflecting on it he was probably just a beta and insecure himself. So much so that he had to pull others down with him
Ok before I watched the video I'm gonna say I think Elle Woods was the perfect combination of feminine and strong. She never let people make her feel bad about being a girly girl and she kicked ass at Harvard when people doubted her.
Shallon! Can we see story time on your travel aboard experience? I wanna see your Italian and French by the way!
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
I did one on my study abroad just search Rome on my channel-but I need to update it. And of course, I couldn’t just film it in America. I would have to, for authenticity sake, go back to Rome to film it right?? SAY NO MORE FAM
@Fahad-ce2fi
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester Yess! Also for shallange I wanna see learn a language and maybe talk about your French and Italian learning process? Merci!
@TeeAlee143
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester Yesss!! And ***Paris's engagement 💍 Plzzz?!? @ShallonXo 💕 P.s also I hope I can still order...***☆☆☆◇◇I need a " may the bridges I burn light the way**** ASAP! Hugs!!◇◇☆☆☆
@mr.valentin4121
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester hey shallon im a huge. fan of you and your videos and i know that your videos are targeted towards females however id like you to know amd acknowledge the men and gay men that listen to your channel.
Oh Shallon..everything is so true...I feel this. I come from a very small town in Germany. And german girls usually don‘t put alot of effort into their looks, especially in small towns (of course there are exceptions). I was always the girl who loved wearing heels, wearing make-up etc., but at my school my girlfriends or other girls always made comments about the way I dressed. Or when we went clubbing I always heard the sentence „Well I don‘t like to wear heels I can‘t walk in them“. So when I was younger I never was my true self and started to look as normal as possible, because I wanted everyone to like me. I still put on make-up or did my hair but not so much (it was not authentic to me). I started to dress and look maybe since last year like my authentic self and I have to admit I still sometimes think „what will people think“ or „they mist think that I am a braggy bitch“. But I try to eliminate those thoughts.
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
Feel u girl. Gerade in Deutschland. Leute denken immer, dass ich Russin sei haha
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
@@nela7542 Wie gehst du damit um?
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
@@jenni230 mittlerweile ist es mir egal was andere sagen, seit ich eben verstanden habe, dass alles andere für mich einfach sehr unauthentisch ist. Wenn es Kommentare dazu gibt, sage ich auch genau das. Ich komme aus einer italienischen Familie, daher ist das für mich auch nochmal normaler. Wenn ich in einer sozialen Situation befürchte, dass ich dadurch arrogant wirke oder so fange ich direkt an zu reden und diesem Eindruck vorzubeugen. Ich fühle mich damit aber sehr allein manchmal. Negative Kommentare sind mittlerweile egal, vieles ist einfach Neid oder sie sind frustriert, dass sie zu faul oder geizig für Beauty sind. Am Ende hat man einfach nichts davon, wenn man einen auf weiße Sneaker, Leggings, Sweatshirt und eingetrocknete rival de Loop mascara von 2003 macht und das einfach nicht widerspiegelt, wer du wirklich bist.
@yoonasweety
3 жыл бұрын
@@nela7542 kill mich doooch nicht, rival de loop mascara... Ich habe mich mega lang unwohl und als aussenseiter in gefühlt, da ich sneakers hasse und mich in Kleidern und feminen Kleidern wohl fühle... Jetzt wenn mir jemand einen komischen Blick zuwirft denk ich mir honeyyyyy scrub that skin and lips before you come and talk to me
@nela7542
3 жыл бұрын
@@yoonasweety wenn sie mich auslachen und ich dabei sehe wie die Schicht tote haut auf ihren Lippen beim lachen Risse bekommt - dann weiß ich, ich hab gewonnen. U go girl! Lassen wir uns nichts sagen von Frauen die noch den Nagellack vom Sommer 2019 auf den crusty Füßen haben.
YES she is the QUEEN!!! I still love the way she responded to Kendall Jenner. Kendall tweeted that she wouldn't come to the concert if Rihanna didn't sing a certain song 😂😂 Rihanna really said: then don't come 🤣. Thanks for the video! I'm seriously obsessed with your channel ❤❤❤ Much love, from Morocco! 🇲🇦❤
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
It was a tweet that will live in infamy 😂
When I'm with crunchy girls: I'm too much, I look "too much" When I'm with girly girls: I'm too little, I look "too little" Literally couldn't care what men think, my "car who judges" is the global population of every type of women
i became feminine when i became a feminist. i just simply stopped giving shit about what men find attractive and i abandoned a need to be a ‘cool girl’. i stoped viewing phrase ‘you are not like other girls as a complement. i embraced sisterhood and stopped seeing other women as competition. i learned from them and released that we are multidimensional creatures and we don’t fit only one box.
@audreydoulos6227
3 жыл бұрын
Love everything about that !!!!
I thought I was “girlie” until she said shave your legs every few days” 😂
@anissabh7157
3 жыл бұрын
true 😂😭😂😭
@ccanela28
3 жыл бұрын
Same! 💛😌
I went from girly to crunchy, and now I’m back to girly!!! What seriously changed was exactly what Shallon said: choosing to prioritize my love for myself and choosing to make decisions to reflect on the outside, what I wanted to feel about myself on the inside. To be honest, choosing to love myself again, and to accept that feeling good about myself was OKAY was the best decision I’ve made in a long time, and it’s the most I’ve felt like myself in 8-10 years. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
First of all,I am Tom boy but I have recently learnt how to embrace my feminine side and I feel complete,for example,I would wear sweats but apply makeup and do my hair which is feminine and I feel great.i think that’s the balance which we should have.
Well i've always been a very femenine girl (i did ballet, i'm polite and love so many femenine things), but when i had depressive episodes, i felt forced to dial it down. Now, i'm doing great, my mental health is very well now and i'm...the lowest maintenence i've even been. I've realized that doing the basics has always been a natural thing for me, but, the mania of always looking my best was coming from deep insecurities. The "new" natural me comes from wanting to enjoy my life a little bit more without having to obsess over looking my best. Ironically i felt the hottest now because i feel healthy and proud of who i am.
Bringing down other women is something Girls do. REAL Women want to see other women win . Thanks for teaching me this Shallon :)
@Shallon Lester-I cannot even begin to describe what a blessing you are in my life. I truly believe the reason I survived the emotional roller coaster of a broken relationship, the pain it inflicted, rebuilding my life, and lately claiming back my femininity all has to do with you. Your wisdom, your input, your badass nature has helped me to get back into my groove. Thank you for this lesson, and I can’t wait for the M&H. I don’t have access to that channel, so you will be my source. The best source to understand what transpired during that interview.
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much this made me tear up!!! I promise I only just gave you a tiny nudge in the direction you were already meant to go in, and yes I will thoroughly break down and Megan and hairy interview for you, I will take the bullet and watch it for all of us 😂
Is your hair darker? Your makeup complements you so well,really enhances your features
Shallon and Rihanna is just what I needed for today💖
Getting rid of all my clothes with holes in them and learning to take care of what I have made me feel a lot more feminine. I doubt I'll wear makeup anytime soon because I hated wearing it for cheerleading. For now, wearing lip balm is good enough.
I'm one of those people that always has at least some makeup on and I like to look presentable in public. It's just habit, I don't notice if others are or aren't doing it 🤷♀️
dude I cannot get over how good this hair looks on you
@thatbossybeaver
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed! 🙌
its 2:20 am here in Philippines and I am listening to girl on top podcast while writing in my journal, then shallon uploads video about being an alpha ❤ YASS Content Queen Shallon
@rosie-uu1ek
3 жыл бұрын
I'm from the ph too!
"i'm friends with the Kattan sisters" damn, boss babes getting together, I LOVE THAT.
Shallon i hope you’re gonna do a video on Harry and Megan’s oprah interview please please !
@MissteriousMisstress
3 жыл бұрын
She did. She couldn't stand it haah
My issue is I feel extremely uncomfortable wearing light color clothing. I feel safe in dark clothing. This for me has been the hardest to break out off.
@sapnanayak1453
7 ай бұрын
A lot of very sexy feminine women (think of Monica Belluci, Angelina Jolie) wear dark colors. To be feminine is to feel sensual and really be comfortable and confident in your skin and choices.
I LOVE your advice Shallon (I think I’ve watched every single one of your videos for the past two years), but I’m not sure I’d recommend glowing up physically first, and THEN trying to solve feelings of unworthiness/low self-esteem, because that’s what I tried to do, and it managed to make my self-esteem even worse. Before, I never really thought about my appearance, just a general “oh I know I’m ugly, whatever.” When I glowed up (and I mean, there was a DRASTIC change in my appearance) I ended up becoming wayyyyyyy more insecure. I was constantly obsessed with how I looked and what others thought of me, and couldn’t go out in public unless I was perfectly dressed and had my hair and makeup done. Honestly, I felt uglier than I ever had before. It was only once I learned that my self-consciousness was rooted in my feelings of unworthiness that I was able to dismantle those beliefs and regain confidence. Anyways, that’s neither here nor there lol
Yes! Thank you for covering this topic Shallon! I want to be this successful, happy, fulfilled woman without losing my softness, beauty, and femininity in the process. You CAN have both, but it's about balance and give and take.
I must admit I enjoy going from crunchy to glam! Seeing my transformation after a few DIY beauty treatments is the best feeling! 😁
2 eyebrows, 0 moustache. Got it 👌🤣 love you girl!
"No one is a better investment than you" I loved this
@sharonchepkorir3571
3 жыл бұрын
Got that too
Sometimes I feel bad doing little self care things like makeup and shaving because I feel like a bad FEMINIST😩 I like smooth legs but I don’t wanna let the team down!
@alainaatk.6210
3 жыл бұрын
One of the problems that I've always had with a lot of feminists and the reason I don't really identify with the label is that the things they're encouraging and discouraging seem to move women to actually being more like men. Don't let anyone tell you that doing very normal, womanly things makes you not empowered or something. That actually sounds more like misogyny than the other way around. ❤️
@jthompson3124
3 жыл бұрын
@@alainaatk.6210 THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
You all should check out how females in india wears them sarees. So feminine yet looking soo powerful. Same with outfits in many regions of Africa. Love the beautiful drapings. Yet all very strong markers. Ps. 80s Madonna = the OG of that energy I think.😁
I got this video recommended and I thought this is an old video 😭😭. Everytime shallon makes videos on rihanna I become a bigger and bigger fan of shallon. Riri is really our LORD AND SAVIOUR
I always thought that being super feminine (i love make up,ballet, pink ..) was a sign of "dumb" or "superficial" but i didnt care. I knew how smart and capable i was and am.. Still it bothered me when people made fun of me watching videos on make up or trying clothes for a long time.. Now i know those were alllll betas babe!. And i am more confident and happier about my feminine personality. Thank u shallon
When I was a kid I always tried to be a “tomboy” when at heart I was always a “girly girl”. I think our society/ the patriarchy sees femininity as something bad, or something for only men’s pleasure. So I always felt that being girly was something to be ashamed of. In movies the feminine girls were always the mean girls, or the dumb girls or a sexual object. There isn’t much representation of feminine women who are respected. So I think that’s why it’s so hard to embrace our femininity as women without the fear of people ridiculing us, not respecting us or sexualizing us.
@goldenlioness868
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly what happened to me. I was always called "prissy" so I toughened up to prove that I was not weak. I didn't realize until now who I became and it not who I really am. I am working on it now. I wish you much love and light on your journey back to yourself ❤️
20:55 If it works for palms, it must work for people, too. And it does. A healed broken bone becomes even stronger than before the injury. Muay Thai fighters know that - in the training process they create so many micro fractures when they kick bags and spar (mock-fight with half-force with an opponent) that when they walk in the ring to compete, their shins can withstand substantial impact. And oldie, but a goodie: “What doesn’t break you, makes you stronger.”
Thanks, I really needed this! I've been letting myself go since covid and haven't really been doing my hair and makeup for myself a lot because I've gained so much weight. This has inspired me to try to put my hair in curlers with my nightly routine everyday and makeup on in the morning again (I stopped wearing makeup most days, like I said, I've really let myself go), but I'm going to put in that little bit of effort.
I looooove this video! I am trying to embrace my feminine because I have hidden for so long under sweats and unworthiness! I am so ready to make a shift!
For me, feminity is like nature; warm, beautiful, inviting but also deadly if mistreated.
loveeeeee the Rihanna videos. Always here for it.
Can you please do a video on lessons from monica belluci. She is so captivating respected and so nice.
Yes Shallon this is exactly what I need to refresh and start my week. 🙌🏾
I feel plenty worthy, but I don’t like to exercise because A you get sweaty B, it hurts and C, I’m too damn tired.
Yes!!! I needed me some Shallon to push the bad day to the side ❤️
I just got super angry with my boyfriend (nevermind really) so I decided to distress and I saw your new vid and I have to tell you it's perfect to play in the background while doing the "angry workout". I actually like feeling this kind of anger - I feel vengeful, powerful, and motivated af. Now I'm going to change my life, have a sexy body and take no sh*t 💖
@lavishlovergirl
3 жыл бұрын
You're gorgeous
Authenticity is the hottest thing on the planet. It doesn't matter your level of attractiveness, femininity/masculinity, outward presentation. When a person is being unapologetically themselves, it REVERBERATES.
You’ve been helping me get through this year and get back to my alpha self 💗
yessss I love when u talk about Riri 🖤🖤🖤
Thank u for existing love you so so so much! ❤️
The car of those who judge thing is so true omg! I didn’t notice till now that the people that imagine judging me are the most random unimportant people that I know. I’m going to think about this from now on when I feel scared of being judged
I honestly feel that my catholic upbringing really held me back and still makes me struggle dealing real life stuff. I didn’t get to cultivate my inner strength and femininity during my teens. I was brought up to be ‘good/kind’ and then expect that the world will just be good back to me.
Ok you’ve got to cover Price Harry and Megan’s Oprah interview !!!
I lovvvve your videos . I always learn something & I listen to them when I’m cleaning 🤍🤍🤍🤍
This is what I want to see more of, women lifting other women up. Women helping women. We need to look out for our fellow sisters.
Honestly I used to be so glam & now that I've gone through alot of trauma & had 2 kids & go through bouts of depression & go to hair school, I don't care to get glammed up like at all ever, last time was when my class got together for drinks like a month ago. I just don't feel like I have the energy to dress up all cute & do my hair & makeup. Kind of ironic since I spend time doing other people's hair but now I'm always drained of all my energy but I used to love doing makeup & trying different looks all the time. I think I'm burning out a bit & I wanna go back to caring & taking good care of myself, I almost feel like I don't know how to start?
@JozieMaXine
3 жыл бұрын
I literally have the same problem.
@PS-hi9os
3 жыл бұрын
don’t focus on where to start focus on getting your mental health straight and the rest will follow.. maybe start off just by doing your hair then doing ur make up then outfits etc
@nataliegauthier8152
3 жыл бұрын
@@PS-hi9os thank you! Thinking about everything that needs to get done can be so overwhelming, I'm gonna start with basic needs like washing my hair & work my way up to a good beauty routine that makes me feel great😊
I absolutely love this video. I would say I am more on the crunchy side. I have been a rock guitarist since my teens and I never really thought I could be feminine and alpha at the same time. I used to wear baggy band t shirts because that would be expected. Now I do both, I play guitar, I wear makeup, do my hair, dress up for when I went out. This is spot on. I always felt manly and that no guys would want to date me. Thanks for this video!!
Red hair looks so good on you!
For me finding a new goal (going to university) really helped to level up my feminity / glow up
OMG I had SUCH an eye-oponer, I never saw my mom taking care of herself.... now I understand so much more, could you please talk more about this?
Barack 😂😂 I love u girl 😂❤
That meme of her in the front row of a fashion show rolling her eyes and mouthing off to the model.... Priceless 😁😁😁😁
This is gold. thank you Shallon
shallon is a feminine lady and that’s who she is, but honestly, if you substitute “handsome/dapper/sharp,” where she says “feminine,” her message does not change and i appreciate that.
Love to see you thriving Shallon ♥️
Shallon you are amazing 💕thank you for all your advice ☺️
I had to stop my car when she said “nobody is a better investment than you”
When you asked your dad to borrow the car, you sounded exactly like Megan Fox lol
Never seen this addressed anywhere else. Like you read my mind! Thank you.
your sound quality is amazing shallon
Hahaha the animal reference. Gosh you're hilarious 😂😂😂
I’m not shaving my legs
@Kh-nr4ng
3 жыл бұрын
You don't have to start small she said
@always_be_stocking
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kh-nr4ng i just dont like the idea that leg hair cant be considered feminine
I love this! Preach girl ❤️
Shallon your hair looks amazing, so pretty :)
Shallon, your hair is out of this world! Such a special beauty, and this hair compliment your unique beauty :)
do meghan Markel plzzzzz
Thank you Shallon, great subject ! But maybe we should second guess the fact that girls should wear make-up and shave...things that most guys do not do. These are also things that implicitly objectify women, isn't that also what beta males want ?
Shallon your hair is incredible!!! Ugh I might have to copy you! ❣️
I’ve got issues with my mom lol but I am eternally grateful she embraced my own divine feminine, bc it’s quite strong haha
Happy international women's day shallonnnnnn
I love these videos about Rihanna and her confidence 🥰🥰 so much we can learn from her
Yay!!! Hi Shallon! 💗💗
i see a vid on rihanna i click
Two eyebrows, zero moustache ladies!
Youve helped me so much your the best!!!
9:38 uffff 😅this whole part felt very close to home !!! Omg thanks Shallon 💕
Plz plz plz do a video on the Megan Markle Oprah interview 💜
please do another meghan markle viddoafter the interview she made with oprah !! cant wait !
I love you Shallon thank you for these points
Shallon for president
Love you shallon 😍❤️
Hi Shallon! 💖Have you ever done your 7 min makeup tutorial?...I ❤ how it looks.🤗
Could you do a video about ashley tisdale and her husband? They seem to have a very healty relationship🤗
I love the jacket! I just wish we had it in a crew neck
This video motivated me
You are so wise, Shallon!
Notification squad 💫
I love being a girly girl. It makes me feel so confident. 🥰
Can you please do a video on how to be a war machine? How to get into that mode when push comes to shove? I def need some of that energy right now 💜
I love you Shallon! ❤