I'm an INFP and my bf is an INFJ. I'm so grateful because we complete each other

As an INFP, I find this really good advice for the INFJ/INFP dynamic. :) INFJs seem to be very responsive and get really committed to helping others with their difficulties...they're *invested*. It's good to remember that INFP emotions are deep, but transient. We're usually pretty well equipped to deal with the waves of emotional depth, and, you're right--sometimes, we need a detached but caring ear. No need to get swept away with us. Sometimes, a rock is very comforting.

@bluesunset9385

5 жыл бұрын

How do you practice dealing with waves of emotional depth..... they scare the living day lights out of me. Tend to avoid XNFP's for this very same reason.

@soulfulspec

3 жыл бұрын

@@bluesunset9385 they get reclusive and passive aggressive and once they're over it they expect u to be there like nothing has changed and like you're their emotional slave. It's too much and I avoid them for the very same reason

hey there, infp with ex infj best friend here. i think what u say make a lot of sense. especially when in the end u described how u first always seemed to balance her out and at one point had enough and just snapped at her. she then felt like u were pretending all along . i think its important to understand that INFPs above everything value authenticity and honesty...once they become suspecious of u pretending it is hard to go back to a trusting relationship.

@Wenzes

7 жыл бұрын

thanks leila :)

@mjade1673

5 жыл бұрын

I think the infj doesn't know we aren't perceptive in the details as much as they are or when we see it we choose not to act on those in the moment saving it for big picture adjustments instead. And then the infp doesn't understand that the infj is sensitive when they seem so put together and calm to us so we get S and J vibes from them instead and think that they are a rock. A perfectly formed being that doesn't need influence or management from us. We don't need infj to do the go along with us thing because we can really benefit from yalls real opinions. We really need yalls realest thoughts. Promise!!❤😇

3:40 As an INFP this is so true. I actually love hearing other people's opinions and get frustrated when INFJ friends of mine are reluctant to share theirs. It's like pulling teeth sometimes to get their honest stance on something. It was interesting hearing about the problems you had with your INFP friends towards the end of the video. The funny thing is that INFPs hate a lack of originality so when people with Fe pretend to like the same things or copy us we REALLY hate it as we always feel the need to be different than most people. My two best friends are ESFJ and INFJ and I find it very frustrating when they try to be involved in my own personal hobbies when I can see that they don't have a genuine interest in it. I appreciate the effort but I would rather them have their own interests that we can talk about.

@Wenzes

8 жыл бұрын

+BeingErin that is such a good tip that most INFJs need to hear :)

@thememoryguardians

8 жыл бұрын

+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem I hope it was helpful :)

@sapphirephoenix3011

5 жыл бұрын

Why would someone with Fe want to copy you?

@sapphirephoenix3011

5 жыл бұрын

Being Erin, my husband is an INFJ, and he doesn’t copy me (INFP).

@sapphirephoenix3011

5 жыл бұрын

Being Erin, INFJ ways are different than how INFPs do things. My husband and my two sons are INFJ and they don’t copy me (INFP)nor do they copy my girls (INFP and ENFJ).

I really agree with most of you've said! most people think it's infjs who are bombarded with other people's feelings, but there is no escape from that sphere for us INFPs! That's why I've had to be distant with so many people in my life which really doesn't work because the fact they're around changes the whole sphere of emotion!

I need a video about how to deal with INFJs being an INFP myself :D

@Roogy88

7 жыл бұрын

i second this lol

@geoc5251

5 жыл бұрын

Man for reals!!

@salmaa3801

5 жыл бұрын

Maky Tondr thank you for wanting to know how to deal w us, we most of the time feel like people dont understand us so im really happy you wanna know how to deal w us and understand us more.

@bluesunset9385

5 жыл бұрын

Okay I think an INFP is interested in me but not sure if she's just flirty. Any tips on deciphering her intentions? Much appreciated.

@bluesunset9385

4 жыл бұрын

@Lunar Orbit I think it was just her being flirty tbh.

I am an INFP. My best friend is an INFJ. This video was very good. THANK YOU!

@Wenzes

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your feedback :) much appreciated

(Infp female) I need to tell you you are just so intelligent and i couldn’t stop smiling while watching you express such truths about myself. I almost wanted to cry to feel so understood for the good the bad and the ugly of being an INFP. You shine, thank you for the insight.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

❤️

This really explains the main and only conflict I’ve had in my relationship and that is that in the beginning I sacrificed way too much. It didn’t resolve until I learnt to do what I wanted instead of blaming her internally, which actually made her happier too, because she was probably very sensitive to my emotions.

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

👍

The difference in emotional sensitivity between INFJs and INFPs is fascinating to me... we are both so sensitive and INFJs do absorb the emotions of others in a way INFPs don't, but i know many INFJs are bothered by INFP extreme sensitivity. Are INFJs able to be more detached inside about emotions? i feel like maybe INFPs internalize EVERYTHING and INFJs only internalize others' raw feelings or actions towards them? haha you don't need to respond to this novel if you don't want to, i just find this topic really fascinating and confusing!

@Wenzes

9 жыл бұрын

ella bee For me it was when I 'found' myself and was able to take INFPs advice to show my emotions, my creativity and bring my inside out, one distances from people in general. That way now, I have a much better relationship with my INFP friend. Encourage the infjs to state their tastes more and bring more of them out and you will see how that will your relationship. :)

I would rather an InFJ not be too accommodating! I was romantically interested in an INFj and I wanted nothing more than for him to be himself! True to him and not mirror me. Authenticity means everything to me!

I am an INFP and I am dating an INFJ. these videos really help me out. She’s an amazing woman and really don’t want to screw this uo. But I know sometimes I have a hard time communicating or understanding how she does. Really appreciate this and if anyone has any other recommendations on books or videos that would also be greatly appreciated!!

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

glad the video is helpful and thanks so much for your feedback :)

Infj stop reading my mind teehee! Anyway that was quite accurate. The yelling at someone to tell them their flaws would turn me off from liking someone honestly. I believe that people can calmly talk to eachother about things without snapping. (I tend to be forgiving easily though unless I know you're not genuine). Infjs seem like adorable but scary people ^_^

I have to be honest and say that I felt a little (only a little!) offended as an INFP by your video. (no surprises there) We really have different motivations in life...thats clear. An INFP is focussed on challenging the status quo..and going against the social norms... wheras INFJ values group involvement and success in society. Hence "success" for an INFP is each person becoming their own mature individual self APART FROM THE WHOLE...wheras INFJ desires group acceptance and INCLUSION aka validation from the group....thus INFP's have a lot to offer an INFJ...and that is to help them INDIVIDUATE and empower them to not always choose the people pleasing and adaptive behaviour. Like all Fe types ...they hide their own VALUES (likes/dislikes) in order to create harmony...but essentially this will always fail without inclusion of your own VALUES in relationships.. I can see that you talk about INFP as if we are NAIVE and need to be treated like a child...and that isnt so...actually the Ne in us makes us look to the world as if we are childlike sometimes....but underneath, our Fi is much more mature and "wise"...but is rarely seen apart from the occasional emotional outburst of sensitivity. You have to realise that that sensitivity is actually coming from a deep perception of things..a deep understanding of emotion. INFP's try to help you at your core , aka fix your motivations for doing what you do...wheras INFJ try to use emotions to help motivate your ACTIONS to help others...not change you at your core. Thus when an INFP disapproves of your behaviour they will attack your CHARACTER as a PERSON..wheras an INFJ will only respond to your ACTIONS that affect the group/hinder serving the group/others. An INFP will walk with you into those dark places in yourself to use their empathy to bring awareness and healing to the coore pain that causes your dysfunctional behaviour..this requires SENSITIVITY. Thus Fe types are too afraid to go there. Remember that INFP's can often see Fe as "patronising"...and this is because Fe users are actually suppressing their own Fi....their own subjective emotions/experience...and it is their lack of awareness of these emotions that make them feel "superior" to Fi users who seem sensitive.. but sadly it is because they suppress their own sensitivity. It is this same sensitivity that gives an INFP the ability to understand your emotions to a fine degree and empathise with your world view. also.. we're not avoiding people because your emotions affect us.. we're avoiding people for one of two reasons.. 1. because we see through their social maasks into the motivations behind their actions and we disapprove of the inauthenticity or lack of moral character we see. 2. We dont like feeling obliged to go along with the crowds emotional atmosphere if we arent feeling it. anyway. I really appreciate you making this video. it really helped me see things more clearly from an INFJ perspective. much respect and thanks for sharing your views.

@Wenzes

8 жыл бұрын

+C thanks for your feedback. I really like your input as well, helps me to grasp INFPs better. I never meant to come off as INFP are naive or anything similar. My best friend for the last 10years who has been there for me like no other, who has opened my eyes to so much beauty and individual perception is an INFP :)

@user-vw6xp5nl6t

8 жыл бұрын

So good to have a friend like that :) Loving your videos btw. Subscribed!

@infpisland9295

7 жыл бұрын

I feel so much of what you say. That second paragraph, it put into writing thoughts that have existed in the back of my head for so long. I appreciate INFJ's so much, but often I don't feel like they appreciate people like me. They seem to have a hidden disgust of the inner-child like Fi with Ne. They're the more adult version of us, and that means we don't have serious things to offer. But it's all about emancipating our inner vulnerability for inner/outer unity, and real strength throughout time and space. As an infp I deeply value Ni and Fe too.

@fredericabernkastel9091

7 жыл бұрын

I hate INFPs so much I'm currently in love with one of them. xD More seriously, I guess it depends on which INFJ. I tend to appreciate this aspect of their personality. I also deeply value their convictions, which is something I highly admire. Personally, I don't know if it's my 4 who's hurt, but I always feel offended when people say INFJs tend be more conformist. xD

@marcusx346

7 жыл бұрын

Excellent post. Concise and cutting (I find a lot of INFP videos meander before getting to the point). You must opened up my eyes a bit more, and made me more appreciative of Fi-dominance. Cheers

My best friend is an infp too and we have had problems in our relationship. I didn't realize she was so very sensitive inside. At teenage I wasn't that stable myself because I felt like an alien (before finding out the infj in me), so our youth was little mix of being our soul mates and hurting each other. She said she have been jealous for me which was hard for me to understand and process. Now we are in better place and I think our friendship is longlasting and the main reason is just what you said, we need to have our own life and things that make us happy..thanks for this video!

@saramarvulli6917

7 жыл бұрын

Hanna K That's beautiful

Thanks again for your interesting videos. As an INFJ I am rediscovering myself and your advice and guidance is really helping me. The more I am watching them the more I am learning about myself. Your personal anecdotes are so similar to mine and as I am researching more about INFJs and INFPs, your videos are being very useful. I must tell you that someday I would like to meet you in person. My regards to you....

I'm an INFP MBTI / INFj (which is INFP) I have to say as one watching the video you're pretty spot on most everything. Though I would say only a very immature INFP would take things personally, it's gotta hit home against one of our convictions till you'll see that super over emotional, logic lacking stereotype everyone thinks is our constant state lol. I'd never get upset if someone doesn't like a tv show I like or something trivial like that as you said in the video. *we aren't THAT sensitive lol* :P -and if an INFP you know is that sensitive there's something else going on its not only because they're an INFP, just gonna throw that out there. We just literally Judge the world and everything in against how we personally Feel about it, how it aligns with our personal value system. What will benefit both an INFJ and INFP interacting is def what you said having your own opinions ect. I'm generally, as a person very mellow and laid back Externally, but inside my mind not so much all of the time. If I see something random that hits me the wrong way yes I'll have low lows and high highs but it's GOT to be something that specifically goes against or with something I hold my convictions in. Another example not every INFP is going to get visually upset if at all when someone..lets say kills a bug lol or they see a dead animal on the side of the road. Yes, seeing a dead animal on the side of the road will make me a LITTLE sad for a moment. But if it doesn't as an NF you're probably in the wrong type lol Also, a lot of INFPs are insanely good listeners and very accommodating , so as an INFJ take that opportunity most of us will love that. Biggest thing to remember as a good rule of thumb though is if you're having to critique us on something just don't be rude. That's really all it would take to get along civilly with an INFP. Be yourself, respect us because we respect you, and if we are being overly emotional we could be struggling with something so give us some Ti advice to help it always helps me personally as an INFP even if I reject it at first I'll come back a minute later and apologize and thank the person for the advice.

@CandyApples4ever

9 жыл бұрын

Lol your story reminds me of when I accidentally killed a moth I tried to help out. I was so annoyed CUZ all I did was nudge it and it dissolved. -3- About the movie thing I always select like 3 movies of what I'd like to watch and then I tend to ask my friends if they like either one CUZ I know others are different from me and I don't mind others disliking the same stuff as me. Being rude. Yep. I personally believe you can critique someone nicely. Talk like nice individuals. If you're yelling at me I won't bother listening to you. (I'm Infp)

@squali1930

7 жыл бұрын

I feel like as long as criticism is directed at objective actions and not my character, I can't take it subjectively/personally and I can handle that perfectly fine. So if some one says , you need to make a better plan. I'm fine with that. But if someone says you are not a good planner, you need to BE a better planner. I find it hard to differentiate the action I should take or the person I should become. And that's why I take it personal, because you are telling me to change my entire character because who I am is not good enough, even with my good qualities. So as long as someone is pointing out the action separate from my character its actually hard to take that personal, and it communicates the problem much clearer and more constructively, I begin to search inside me to find a solution to change that action. But if someone requests me to change who I am to be a better planner, that definitely SOUNDS personal, so yes I take it personal. But I feel like asking people to change their speech is alot to ask for, so this is just an ideal example.

@baseera6532

6 жыл бұрын

Mac Hammac solid views my friend

I'm an INFP and my boyfriend is an INFJ, he is the sweetest man. He does set boundaries and is very respectful toward me. I don't know how to deal with his aloofness, I don't want to hurt his feelings but it hurts when he pulls back and I don't know what to do about it. There was a time when he would contact me all the time and after a few months the contact became less frequent he pulled back, could he be overwhelmed? I just don't know, we're still together in a less severe way but I miss having the openness of feelings. Can anyone help me out here, it's confusing...Thank you!

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Maria...have you told him this? For us INFJs telling us things like this are very important because we are sometimes just not aware of it...but ones we are...and we know that we have neglected someone...we want it to go back to how it was...just dare to be honest with him...the way you expressed it here!

@maria12501

6 жыл бұрын

Oh, I thought if I was too open I would scare him away, I will speak up...thank you for your help!

My Infp friend is my twin & soul mate.. we are one the same page all the time in most things

I am an INFJ female with a crush on an INFP male 🙂, your video is very helpful, made me understand where is he coming from, I also tend to make him feel better by neglecting what makes me happy, with focus on his wants and needs ... and this leaded to him & me feeling exhausted, like a quiet fight 😂; your point is precious 🙂 i will help him much more being grounded myself and lead by example; as an INFJ we are more action oriented, we feel good when helping people in need, while INFPs feel good by doing things they want to do from their inner natural creativity, if that is helping people, the better 🙂 Thank you for this video, very good material! 🤗

This is unbelievably accurate. Thank you for the video Wenzes

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

thanks for the feedback :)

i like you're new look! I don't have a problem stating my needs and wants with a partner. it's all part of communication.

this explains so much to me, thank you from an INFP

@Wenzes

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your feedback :)

I am INFJ, My daughter is an INFP and so is my mom... Yet they are so different. The one thing they have in common is lack of organization and they both need to be pushed pushed pushed to do certain things! Sometimes you just want to give up and I do at times... But if I give up on them then everyone fails. It's frustrating.... The good side is they have insight about things that I don't or take things serious or not serious on a topic where I do the opposite. This forces me to think...

Can't really relate to these, obviously everyone is different though. I've found that I connect and get along with INFP's incredibly well, more so than most types, even if we process things very differently.

I am an INFP . 😄 i can mostly relate to what you said about INFP anyway because of my volatile temperament. This was interesting. And the part about completely shutting people off is true. ﹋o﹋ I try to push myself to communicate but sometimes, my energy levels wear so thin. Damn.

My sister is an INFP. She is 30 I'm 29. This is such a timely video because she's been getting on my nerves! lol jk. But really, this cleared some things up in my mind. She worries so much about the future even though her prospects look good in my opinion. She has a good job (just doubled her salary) and has a boyfriend with a good job. Yet she worries so much and I can totally see the need for stability in her (even though she is on the cusp of it). I should try to remind her of this in general. Thanks Wenzes, I was unaware of this need in them.

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your feedback, glad the video was helpful 😊👍

This helps me out so much, thanks. - INFJ

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

👍😊

I like how you explain things out. My boss is an infp...its hard sometimes!

Your insight is awesome and you're a doll ;) - INTJ guy

So true! I find I have to be the moderating influence with my INFP friend - tempering when they are all over the place creatively and lifting them up when they are down in the depths. Funny they are often asking 'How do you feel?' and that question is always like a curve ball - I just don't have an answer...!

I've never seen anyone do the one fingernail just a slightly different color on each hand. Subtle and very classy.

@AllieB-11.11

4 жыл бұрын

It's called a feature nail or an accent nail.

I am a Infp and my husband is a Infj. I can't speak for all infp but for me what I've notice in the relationship with infj and infp is that. We both are alike in alot of ways and where I the infp am non-judgmental the infj are judgmental and that is were the conflict comes in. As a infp we want harmony in the relationships we have. We understand all the other personalities and we have no one in our life that understand us. Infj understand us as much as they understand themselves and if they don't they judge silently at first. so the best you can do for infp is to not judge a book by its cover. Both infp and infj are some very intelligent people and they both pick up on things in there environment they both are more alike then different. We both have our on way of doing things and are not going to change it because someone don't like it so as an infp to a Infj we are not that different maybe talk to the people that are infp and get to know them before you judge them and help them if they ask you for your help.. be genuine when your around them and treat them the way you would want to be treated. Live and let live with no judgments.

@elenab8296

Жыл бұрын

I don't think it's possible for them, I mean for INFJs. It's a part of their nature

This video was so helpful! Lovely to hear of a successful infp-infj friendship too. I would love to hear more advice for infps, if you have it

@littlebird8346

9 жыл бұрын

Thank you :)

@Wenzes

9 жыл бұрын

ella bee I'll pick up on this topic :) thank you

FJs really get the INFPs.. I love them❤️

Thank you for your wonderful videos!! (By the way, I LOVE your shirt!)

@Wenzes

9 жыл бұрын

SmittenKitten thank you :) ...for both ;)

In my experience INFJ's are the ones that have problems with self pity. My two best friends are an INFJ and an INFP. I'm also an INFP. My INFP friend and I notice that the INFJ is the one who is always struggling with self pity. Sorry if this somehow sounds like an angry comment.

@rationalthinking8401

6 жыл бұрын

Donald Blake Infj stereotypes are often close to narcissism. I personally use self-pity as the difference, so i would recommend you to inform on that.

wow, you've really helped me understand myself !! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! :)

@Wenzes

8 жыл бұрын

+wegotonelove I'm glad I can be of help :)

Thanks. My daughter is an INFP. So is my best friend.

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

😀😊

Very well done, ty

When dealing with an INFP, you must be mentally tough and not get triggered by their emotional outbursts.

I would like to say thank you for this on behalf of INFP's. I learned how to better manage myself a bit. Sometimes, since our imaginations can drift off so easily (particularly due to our Ne and Fi function stacks), it is much harder for us, compared to other types, to become consciously aware of our own thoughts, feelings, etc. This is not to say that is an excuse just that it is extremely difficult especially on our own. Thank you for giving out advice to others on how to help us as well as helping us help ourselves. You seem as though you would make an awesome friend due ro your understanding of so many types (especially your own ) Thanks again! p.s. I like your shirt you pull it off well. :)

@Wenzes

8 жыл бұрын

+blahh blah Thank you :)

I had the same problem with an female INFP friend a while back. I am an INFj female, and it was quite frustrating in the sense that I constantly tried to adapt to her needs & ideas , and much like the given scenario, she began to realize that I was playing along so I wouldn't hurt her, because I cared deeply for her as a friend. Eventually, she nipped me out of her life for what she believed to be "judgement" and "condemnation" when I was simply trying to show her love. How can I better handle such situation(s) with INFPs in the future?

@Wenzes

7 жыл бұрын

Be more yourself, make your own emotions more important...she will accept and respect you for that...INFPs tend to have a hard time with identity sometimes which means they need the contrast around them to know who their are (ENFJs are similar in that way)...so the more you are adapting to her the less she knows who she is and feels bad about it and annoyed. Make your own views more imporant to yourself, say them out loud...she will appreciate it

@Crimetales123

Жыл бұрын

She might have felt she was being lied to or played for a fool

I agree that we do need boundaries sometimes .. sometimes .. but even more we need freedom to feel our real emotions .. I don't like how much INFJ's distance themselves when all of the potential lies in being close .. it hurts .. we really really really want honest opinions though, even if it stings, it's good

I feel like you're talking more about type 4 Infp's more that the other types, Im a type 9 INFP and I dont experience really happy emotions and then really sad ones, I'm more emotionally in the middle most of the time. I'm also very mellow most of the time, but still really good video :)

@Wenzes

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks :) I am sure it doesn't fit all infp types...it's a general view from my perspective. I myself am a 9 and so I completely see your point in the difference of two enneagram types even though in the same mbti type

@aquarius1986

6 жыл бұрын

That sounds so nice. LOL Can you give me the Type 9 mellow pills? - Type 4 INFP

Omg Wenzes, this is just what I needed after what I have been through yesterday.. I met up with this INFP we and talked for 1,5 hours. But it was 1,5 hours of her airing her heart out. Which, in the beginning, I thought was good because I want to help her, but after that I was exhausted! I came home and slept for 3,5 hours. Now the day after, I felt unlike myself most of the day, but now it's beginning to return to normal. I was like wow.. should I still meet up with her? Is this friendship (or more) healthy for me? How can I make this work? But this video has cleared some things up for me. But you know, there is this thing, I am ever so accomodating, and a little afraid to talk about my own issues. Can INFJs talk about their issues to INFPs? Or will the INFP just not care very much? Can INFJs get support from INFPs (in a romantic relationship) and if so, how? ..Oh darn I fell asleep again and woke up to this text.. help! ;)

@j5hp

9 жыл бұрын

Oh and I like your look by the way :)

@Wenzes

9 жыл бұрын

j5hp Hey, yes...you should expect the INFP to listen to your problems when you are listening to theirs. They are very much capable of feeling with you. Just try it, if she is healthy she would feel good that she can also help you out! :)

This is great stuff. Very helpful. Do you know of any resources that go much more into depth though? I'm an an INFJ, married to an INFP for 15 years, and it seems like we're still struggling with many of the same issues we started with.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately I can‘t really have any more resources, most I talk about is just from personal experience

Hey. I have to vehemently disagree with one of your points. You stated that infjs goal is to have people like them and think they're a good person, whereas for infp they want to be productive and create something in society that will be benefitial. This is the complete opposite description of the types. Infj has fe as their second function and is always concerned about creating a world where everyone is benefiting. An INFJ is rarely concerned with people's perception as long as they know what they're doing is benefiting the masses. They're self sacrificing to the point of being doormats. INFP's are much more drawn to the self and do most things in life to benefit themselves and are very concerned with how they're perceived. Most of the actions that they take is to ensure stability in their environment and they struggle severely with being productive, so I guess I can partially agree with that part. For the most part u seem to have confused the two at least in that portion of the video.

7:17 - 8:06 OMG so true!! Most of the times i'm clueless about why he infp got so annoyed at me, what is it that i did wrong because i dont understand why he would react so irrationally, and i'm always trying to be emphatetic and nice and understanding but it's got to the point that i feel extremely exhausted. I don't feel like even going on with this relationship.

I keep a check on my perceptions and emotions but sometimes still manage to confuse whether I'm INFJ or INFP, due to the chronic stress that started in Jan 2018 and still building. My INFJ side is hindered because of my family's misconceptions about who I am and deliberately portray me as selfish when I'm actually caring and involved. So much micro-control. I recently mistype as ENFJ due to expanded Fe :D and am low in my feelings right now due to severe flashbacks. They keep dragging me down, But I also know I could have avoided this blunder and where my mistakes lie. I treat both INFJ INFP alike, equally, in fact, we INFJ (feeling like an INFP) do not like to talk about our emotions or reach out to share our feelings at the right time with the right person as we always feel independent and responsible to deal with it ourselves. we don't like help, although my gut feeling told me to do that. Severe generational trauma can render us deep down in our feelings, which we don't even know how to deal with, seems as I haven't cleared them, but the moment I started journaling and writing down, and I mean effectively, neutral or positive, it got better. Here's what helped me most, the secret of Taoism, and the flow of Chi energy and energy attachments and karmic records of the past. Sacrificing the excessive load of materialism. In fact, videos on INFJ and MBTI have cluttered my psyche more than anything, not that it didn't help initially, content overload is a big one. had to cut down on it!

holy man. helpful..

i actually want you to do an interaction video between Chad from MBTV as an ENTJ and Halle INTJ together.

As a protective INFJ, I feel let down when my INFP friend understands me but refrains from championing me like I would. INFJ's like to be championed too!

@blahhblah6635

8 жыл бұрын

Do you mind explaining to me what "championing" is? As an INFP I would like to know what may not do...

@winniewinkles

8 жыл бұрын

+blahh blah Hi there, thank you for comment. I meant that when my INFP friend tells me of anything they are feeling sad about for example, I verbally stick up for them. Championing is verbally sticking up for a person to that person when they tell you bad things that are happening to them. The friend I was referencing feels better when I do that but does not return the favour when I talk about my difficulties.

@blahhblah6635

8 жыл бұрын

Winnie Winkles Hmm, I don't think that is an infp thing then... If someone directly tells me they are going through something I enjoy using my Fi function to empathize then once that relays through I go into my Ne function to give out a creative solution to the problem if possible. It is different however if you do not verbalize your issue to us, because although we can often times sense there may be a problem with you internally we, having the Fi fuction, tend to first deal with problems/emotions internally and like to first be left alone for awhile to sort it out then we may choose to voice it. We as empathizers just want to give you that same respect that we would have liked. We don't have Fe functions like you guys so we don't feel that inner urge to immediately invade your privacy, but rather respect your inner world until you bring it to our attention and will gladly give you advice. :) I'm sure if you tell your friend how you feel she will be more championing as best she knows how.

@winniewinkles

8 жыл бұрын

+blahh blah Yeah definitely. Expressing expectations helps:-)

I like your insight. I am an INFP. Please do a video on what you think our strengths are so that we can have a greater understanding about ourselves. Thank you.

@EveryTongue

9 жыл бұрын

Zack Page Hey, Zack! This channel is created with the focus of helping INFJs navigate the social world. There are resources available for every personality type. Do some googling on your type and you will find a lot of good stuff. Start here: www.personalitypage.com/INFP.html This page has a general portrait of your personality and there are more links at the bottom of the page. I hope you didn't feel excluded here, but again this channel was created to serve the INFJ's perspective. Good luck! :)

Hello, INFP here 🌸 Thank you for your videos. Speaking from an INFPs perspective, my experience is that everything does not (have) to be as simple as that we are primarily submersed in our dominant functions and helpless to them (I think). Yes, my Fi is always at work, it feels (it feels like all sorts of subtle pushing or pulling, etc types of internal sensations that I’m guessing are my value systems, stored memories and feelings responding to my environment... and guiding me as to how to most perfectly handle a situation (Te?) and authentically and creatively connect (Fe?) with people). As a person with a highly sensitive nervous system (as separate from a person with a highly sensitive attitude), I’ve gotta do things like yoga, meditation, art and dance in order to get in touch with ways of perception which I can tap into that help everything else flow like music or dance... Si (if defined as being connected to internal well being?) and Se (physically engaging with “reality” lol) and especially Ni (which I experience as more of a fluid Zen observer state of drinking it all in instead of my Fi constantly moving about inside of me) have all really helped me immensely. My definitions of the cognitive functions may be a little off, but thank you for any perspectives, anyways 💗

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

I also agree we don't have to victims to our dominant function...it just is so important you express our first function through our second so we make room for more...so for you NE...bring your beauty into your environment through decoration, fashion choices and so on! Even the sad things...that way you are not allowing your inner emotions to become too heavy💓

Wenzes i like the dress here, very Tough Cookie side comes out here. Looks very good.

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

😊 thanks!

INFJ and ISFJ

Typical INFJ judgement of the INFP personality type, lol

(INFJ) INFPs love me...I can solve all of their problems quickly. INFPs like INFJs, because we are decisive and we can solve their troubling, persistent issues rather easily - we hit the nail on the head of all their problems with our Ni - we get to the theme of their issues very quickly, which they find absolutely amazing... The problem though is that the INFP gets used to our "psychotherapist abilities" and constantly "bleeds" their issues onto us in almost every social encounter we have with them. 90-100% of their discourse with us (the INFJ) becomes about their INFP problems that they're trying to understand and overcome...and they tend to get really clingy to the INFJ... This is really exhausting to the INFJ, as we just want a positive, deep, and funny conversation that is 50-50% with someone...but the INFP keeps catharticly releasing all their problems onto us - we become their counselor, not their friend. After a while, the INFJ feels like they should be getting paid for having to listen to this INFP for so long and all of their problems. When I'm out on a Fri or Sat night drinking...the INFP girls at bars or parties are always drawn to me...we really click for 30 mins - 3 hours...but when they start complaining about all their problems to me, I just start remembering how I should avoid INFPs in the future. I usually take their #, but I don't give mine in return...and the next day to week...I just can't get myself to call or text them, no matter how hot physically they were. I have somewhat similar encounters with ISFPs too, but that S causes quicker communication issues and breakdowns and shorter conversations. The Fi-doms love the INFJ's ability to pinpoint problems... I'm fine with INFPs and I do like to help them with their issues, but I don't think INFJs have anything useful to gain from them in almost any kind of relationship, because they "bleed" so much of their problems onto us, which suffocates us. We inevitably become their counselor...once this happens, we can't really see them as a friend anymore and stop contacting them. You INFPs with INFJ friends, need to learn to seriously stop treating us like your counselor. Stop telling us about YOUR problems 24/7. Be more positive around the INFJs you INFPs...your constant internal frustrations and complaints make us tired.

@littlebird8346

9 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately Dom fi is really a bitch in this way :/ to a certain extent we can't help it... We're wired in a certain way just as you are. That being said, more mature infps should be able to temper this more and the infjs need to establish boundaries and being themselves into the dialogue more

@Wenzes

9 жыл бұрын

***** the only way I have found is to always cross the line and THEN find back to each other. We have fought so much in the beginning and now there is nothing I can't tell my INFP bestie. If you care about each other it will work out but you have to encourage the INFJ to be open to you...it has been mostly me who was afraid to open up, mainly because I thought I would affect her negatively.

@CandyApples4ever

9 жыл бұрын

I'm an infp what I tend to do is. Whenever I open up to someone if they listen with a caring ear. I'll end up wanting to be there for them in return in the future.

@fredocorleone3280

8 жыл бұрын

Most Fi doms spend much of their day in fear, thinking that people are out to negatively judge them, as they HATE to be judged. They think that people should only be allowed to say positive things about them (trigger words etc.)...can't control their insecurities. I sense that your defenses are always up and looking for the negative triggers. Am I right?

@CandyApples4ever

8 жыл бұрын

+fredocorleone your on about unstable fi dom. I am pretty ok. Younger i was a crybaby.

you shouldn't be too careful either

I live with 3 INFps as an infj, and with an intj husband I feel I'm up against Goliath dealing with these 3. they're all messy, they're not helpful with any chores. and with me staying home all day long. I feel depressed cleaning up after them. how can I ask to clean up more to help with chores without losing my cool.?

@aquarius1986

6 жыл бұрын

You've probably sorted it by now, but as an INFP, if I live with others I try to keep the common spaces clear. There's nothing worse than facing piles of other people's dishes. I would just have a talk with them and say it's not fair that you have to clean up after them and request that they respect the common spaces. I feel like INFJs are too afraid of conflict to ever confront anyone...you have to draw the line somewhere. Be kind, but firm. It's your home too and it's not nice to deal with other people's mess. That's why I live alone. ;D You might be able to work up some kind of cleaning schedule too where it's clear whose turn it is that week and what tasks they're responsible for. Also, I don't know about other INFPs but I'm pretty clueless (or I used to be) about cleaning procedures most people use, and would sort of avoid things because I was afraid of making a mistake or not doing it well enough. I would just lay it all out for them, exactly what needs to be done and how, who is responsible for what week. It might seem too rigid, but you and your husband are Ni-doms and are more perceptive about these things. I need someone telling me, because I don't even see dirtiness the way other people seem to, and it's not fun to then have it slammed in my face that I'm not doing enough when I didn't know what was expected of me beforehand. INFPs tend to have a greater tolerance for messiness and literally don't notice if something needs to be cleaned (my standards are really different from housemates it seems!), so you might have to point it out. If you don't want to, get the INTJ to do it, he should enjoy that. LOL Or, if worse comes to worse, ask everyone to chip in to pay for a cleaning service once a week. The burden should not be on you alone.

I'm in between INFJ and INFP. One test I took had me 1% more J, but I'm guessing if I took another test I could easily be more towards P. My parents also seem to be in between P and J (although neither are INF). I found this video because I wanted a greater understanding of myself, but I haven't really spent much time studying MBTI. It's on the long list of things I'd like to do, but haven't gotten around to doing. So where do I go from here?

@Spooky_Psyche

7 жыл бұрын

I don't know how useful this info will be, but the letters in the MBTI "diagnosis" (like _INFP_) really don't tell you much about the actual personality. For example, INFP and INFJ have 3 letters in common, but their core functions are completely different. INFP core functions: - *Driver* _(function that's used the most; go-to function in everyday life)_ : Introverted feeling [Fi] - *Co-pilot* _(often used in tandem with Driver, but weaker)_ : Extroverted intuition [Ne] - *Backseat* _(used significantly less than Driver and Co-pilot, but is still an accessible function that you can develop to great extent)_ : Introverted sensing [Si] - *Inferior* _(weakest core function; mostly used as a backup when all other functions fail and use of it usually results in less-than-stellar outcomes. It also requires a lot of energy to use. It can be developed and used to your advantage once you figure out how to apply it best)_ : Extroverted thinking [Te] INFJ core functions: - *Driver:* Introverted intuition [Ni] - *Co-pilot:* Extraverted feeling [Fe] - *Backseat:* Introverted thinking [Ti] - *Inferior:* Extraverted sensing [Se] So as you can see, INFPs and INFJs are actually completely different despite sharing 3/4 letters. Their order of functions are different and everything that's introverted in one is extraverted in the other and vice versa. I also flip flop between INFP and INFJ (mostly INFP though), and I've found that it's because I have developed extraverted feeling without even realizing it almost to the point where it's stronger than my Co-pilot of extraverted intuition. You should try figuring out what function is developing that makes you flip flop because I'm sure it's similar to what I'm doing.

@SuperLotus

7 жыл бұрын

bulldog521521 Thanks for the response. I'm going to have to do more studying before I understand this as I'm not too familiar with the terminology, but I copied your message to my notes so I can go over it later. I also have some articles I was going to read when I have the focus.

Im an INFP and im finding very hard to follow her voice dont know why tough

@michiga5220

8 жыл бұрын

ur up. side. down.

@xhen12

6 жыл бұрын

I thought i was the only one

@immanuel94

5 жыл бұрын

Play in 1.25x - 1.5x speed

I didnt even know what I am 🤔...I apologize deeply..maybe intuitively you know what im talking about.my life has been a JOURNEY. An I m actually proud of myself I made it this far..I feel everyones vibes when it walk into a room...an then having to shift the atmosphere for everyone ..right?? Alot of people want to be famous in the spotlight. Thats good ..me personally avoid people because. They feel I have the answer to evrything ..😷..lightworker/healer/etc...🤷..@ WENSES...I honestly thought it was a just anothEr prank video . im sorry. Was not my intentions 💞🏆

you look attractive and cute in this video. if your trying to reach out to someone I think it worked. I can tell the mind is working on some thoughts I find it cute

maybe it's just my emotions. but this is kind as I expect a women to act. maybe I am more or less picky about somethings or a stage of truth is considered different in perspectives of what others might want or demand. That is when she speaks of herself. Then again have I see much of the world that proved me wrong about how people get into relationships. so it makes me question one side of logic and my own input what is true compared to other peoples motivations. I think the IRON INFJ has it's own ways to IRON fires of passions. But others I see the flow burn between them and attempts it doesn't encourage me to think they will ever work. I seen scripts latly about the proper and improper running relationships. they can not mix they can not divide and poison the cup of there modern world I refuse it. . yet all in my mind is something else possible.so you can tell me quite easy knowing this why I avoid relationships. I tried it once before and had hands on experience of so confound corruption of attraction. yet can not stand it divided into ethics. I question myself if mankind even holds a portion of that demands in there ability encounters. so why should I engage into someone that can not tell the difference between bed room behaviors and social behaviors? If INFJ can not have a duel worlds with someone I am not sure if they can be fit for a partner if they neglect possibilties. were I might go on the ethic rout Not asking for a mind reader. But it saves alot of hassle trying to communicate -sorry to offer a little personal insight much might help you grow in more personal way you take input

It is never a good idea to give advice about relationships on the basis of co-dependency.

@Wenzes

6 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more

I’m sorry but it is only unhealthy / immature INFPs who are “sensitive”. A mature infp has experience of all the assholes in the world (like myself) and will be prepared for criticism and manipulation. This video is so naive. Infact I know INFJs (not all) who are more sensitive than me. The only thing we INFPs (healthy ones) will give a shit about is if you consistently break moral codes, which is helping people out anyway...

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

I completely agree...as you can tell the video is a couple of years old...nowadays I see things generally differently

@chenugent

5 жыл бұрын

Wenzes haha thanks, I’m so glad you were able to see my point of view. I mean INFPs are known as a misunderstood type anyway, so your judgment was not taken to offence. God bless INFJs

I really don't want to get straight forward and practical. But I need to be honest. from the facts and reality of things. regardless if it is drama or demand. Men do not have a big dating pool anymore with a practical women. they want a rich man thata takes time to get wealth then they want personal time that takes times that means they want double amounted time with you then you can spare. then a women wants an independent man a lone wolf as example. but then her studies of such deman a man of deep knowledge that requires much advice from group mentally. that she cant have both a self thinker and a group leader. her demands too much shortens the dating pool of the practical world even less. she wants a free man some times. a free man can come in different ways. one man can take promises and uphold his regulation on the academic promises and vows of the system like therapy and the codes of conduct. this code of conduct neglects a man from being himself but might ensure a women he passes on academic laws regulations and ethic codes. that part is probly what troubles you the most about me because I refused to go to academic code of conduct to regulate me with loyalties of conduct. that I had my own interests and system to build then to keep my ethics bounded to there limitations of ethics system. that is probly if anything the most less regulated NIFJ youd meet