“Don’t cry” techlead getting soft

@yuriy5376

Жыл бұрын

A true empath

@amruthraj2962

Жыл бұрын

Cry and get soft

@lordashram82

7 ай бұрын

Do not worry guy does not matter if you cry or not the truth is at the end you will die. Does not matter if you are soft or strong. 😂😂😂Does not matter if u have brain and use it or not. Does not matter how you were fast, good, bad, smart, intelligent, not intelligent, soft, strong, weak. End is same for everyone. Live life the way that makes you happy but do not try to force anything on others. This is in the end your life. All those fights will not change this fact. Have a good life from bottom of my heart but at the know that it all does not matter because YOU WIIL DIE.

The worst is when you no longer feel the need to get up 😔

@jokerpilled2535

Жыл бұрын

You’ll get tired of being tired eventually. It took me years to recover from demotivation.

@jora5483

Жыл бұрын

I live in a country with a ridiculous amount of inflation. I have been feeling that for past few years.

@olinafan4459

Жыл бұрын

that's why I try to increase blood flow daily. If I have good bloodflow... I have no issue getting it up everyday. TRUST ME

@blackcat138

Жыл бұрын

You'll get over it eventually, just go through it.

@MargaritaMagdalena

5 ай бұрын

That's what I'm going through right now. All I do is work my minimum wage job, sleep, watch a lot of KZread, and some reading. On my days off I often get up in late afternoon, because I have no reason to get up earlier.

Man, I was honestly waiting to hear this... Worse than failure is dwelling on it and not trying to rebuild yourself!!!

@MargaritaMagdalena

5 ай бұрын

I've spent 2/3ds of my life trying to rebuild it and the only result was failure and disappointment, so I finally gave up.

@matasmatas7030

5 ай бұрын

@@MargaritaMagdalena Can relate to this. Build a business and then fail in a couple of days after years of "hustling". Tried to rebuild and failed. Just more stress. "Never give up" is the worst thing in "nowadays" society. In life everything is luck. You can't just do like other successful people. I gave up and now just resting and not expecting anything from life. Feeling much better. I regret that I "Hustle" too hard through life and because of my hustle work, my wife left me and I have no children. Some are just not meant to be someone. Social media gives a false hope that you can be someone. If you are lucky you will be successful without trying hard.

@MargaritaMagdalena

5 ай бұрын

@@matasmatas7030 Same! I've found great relief in giving up.

The problem about taking too much time to recover is that it can quickly become inertia and you never get out of it. One of the ways out of this daze is to start making small wins, and then you'll find the reward in being productive again and life should be normal.

My take away home today is: "No one single person can destroy your life. Whether its your boss, your spouse, some sibling, some parent, should have the power to destroy your whole life." That was spot on powerful TechLead.

@sungarlic

7 ай бұрын

There is someone who can. He is looking at me in a mirror

@MargaritaMagdalena

5 ай бұрын

Just one person can definitely destroy your life. It happened to me.

@sungarlic

5 ай бұрын

so thank him or her. they made you realise whats important to you.@@MargaritaMagdalena

These types of videos are the reason I keep coming back to techlead. I feel like the advice he gives is valuable and down to earth. I sometimes even rewatch older videos where he gives advice. On an off chance you're reading this techlead, thanks. Your videos help me a lot, wish you all the best.

@Raymanujan

Жыл бұрын

He can be quite inspirational when he's not trying to act goofy.

@tamsanqangcobo2086

Жыл бұрын

He is very inspiring. Very honest

Sometimes people need an enemy to get motivated.

@johnnylee8194

Жыл бұрын

Its not desirable

@jokerpilled2535

Жыл бұрын

Only if you manage to defeat the enemy

@JohnyRedcrow

Жыл бұрын

Jeffrey Jeffery bezos

“Success is a character trait” that is profound

Just few minutes ago I felt bad about my final exam and thought that I was so stupid. But your video helps me realize that it’s not the only event in my life. It can’t affect my whole life. After all I have to continue my study to get a good job.

Like you mentioned, failing is all too common. Unless you lose your life as a result of failing, you can still get on with your life, like the rest of the world, and the generations that have came through before us. If you happen to be successful, good for you, but you must realize that only a very small portion of the people is successful, and success is subjective, is being happy considered success? or hitting a certain amount of wealth, or be remembered for years to come, or doing something that advance the world? Don't be too hard on yourself, if you need a break, take it, but do come out from the break, and try to do whatever you want again, don't give up on life or yourself.

I'm only 2 minutes into this video, this is one of the most therapeutic videos I've come across man I really appreciate this.

It doesn't matter what life does to you. What matters is what you're going to do with what life has made of you.

I dream of the day where we can erase memories like in Men In Black... I would save up, move away, and wipe ALOT of memories. Overthinking reality is what leads to me thinking like a failure. And being haunted by memories makes me feel like it'll never end.

@Ni7ram

Жыл бұрын

you cant wipe memories for now, but you can try to control the overthinking! theres a lot of methods, i would recommend The Power of Now

@javier.alvarez764

Жыл бұрын

All memories pass bro. I used to overthink a lot, now its just empty noise.

@vali4034

9 ай бұрын

What you can do is cut the cords that connect you to the memories. The cords are connected in the area of your belly button. Next time the memories pop up, imagine you are holding a knife & cut the cords in gesture. Tell the memories “thank you for serving me once but you no longer serve my greatest good”. You may have to do this a few times but it really does work. Praying for you for freedom to start anew. 🕊️

great video - resetting ourselves after some bad event or trauma is an essential skill - the comment about not taking yourself too seriously is very important !

Tech lead is becoming a better person day by day💪🏿💪🏿

Thanks Techlead, someone out there really cares. You're such a caring guy.

the worst failures in life are the ones that happen when you are a kid when you cant do much to change your life coming from a broken home

@vali4034

9 ай бұрын

TRUTH. That’s totally tragic & makes you feel so helpless at such a young age.

@nique6382

8 ай бұрын

I come from a broken home too, but I'm also going to add that there is an expiration date on blaming your broken home for your problems. Youre not a kid now, you can do what you couldn't then, so go to therapy, heal and move on when you're ready.

@vali4034

8 ай бұрын

@@nique6382 well, sort of. A tea cup that is broken can be swept up & glued back together & it may still resemble a tea cup but it may not function as one. Broken homes do lasting irreparable damage to children - they don’t know what they don’t know. Of course assigning blame is an immature & disempowered approach but once you get past that you simply have to accept the damage. Like someone in a car crash has to get over blaming but still has to accept they’re crippled.

@nique6382

8 ай бұрын

@vali4034 true, i meant more in not taking responsibility for a person's life instead of just giving up on everything and blaming their parents - who also probably dod the best they could

@vali4034

8 ай бұрын

@@nique6382 yes - you’re right about that. I’m 53 now & can see my parents as people with personalities & beliefs that they couldn’t overcome at the young age they formed the family. I also see how my formation in that environment made me who I am today and I’ve got trauma & fear of my own that I can’t quite overcome, either. So, through the pain, it’s very easy to forgive them & love them & simply accept that I turned out like a messed-up pancake. 🩷 You are very sweet & sensible - thanks for chatting about deep healing stuff! Peace be with you!

One of the very best YT channels on the entire platform. Thank you TechLead❤

I'm completely alone. Working a physically demanding job 14 hours a day. I only work and sleep, barely take care of myself and my surroundings. This will be my life for the next 2 years in order to pay debt. Honestly, i'm thinking of giving up. I don't see what's in the other side of this, i'm tired.

@Susana-yg6hk

Жыл бұрын

Good luck , life gets better but don’t kill yourself in the process sometimes is better to slow down

@shakermak3r

Жыл бұрын

stay strong buddy, there's always something to live for

@Ssookawai

Жыл бұрын

Then pay that debt in 3 years or 4 years and slow down, give yourself some vacation or go to a meditation retreat (vipassana kind, silent, modest and you don't have to pay money, a donation will do, even later when you'll be alright). Include as soon as you can some social activity (dancing or reading with a group or smth) and some yoga/streching classes (your job is already demanding, it helps relax a bit while staying in shape). "Courage", don't give up, two years will pass quickly and if you slow down with your debt, 3 years or 4 will pass as quickly.

@sanmarcoexplorer2726

11 ай бұрын

I'm sure you can get through that.Keep going.

@naturocamz7920

11 ай бұрын

@@Ssookawai I really agree Vipassana is a real-life changer (when you can afford 10 days off) I call it 'mental surgery'. You learn to control your monkey mind. I Build, and am also looking to get out of day to day survival. The way out is to find and grow a Passive business income, that doesn't require you to be working 9-5. Anyone have any idea's? :o)

If i feel like a failure in life, i just watch this channel. It wont help, but it just confirms it. But at least i'll know that i'm not the only one after watching this guys videos.

Thank you for your words brother, this was much needed. From South Africa !

Thank you for sharing Patrick! Bad things will happen to everyone. It is impossible to control that, but at least one can develop their resiliency and learn to recover from them.

This video was so timely in my life. Thanks for the release.

I failed so hard. I was a Nigerian foreign student, studying to be a pilot in a flight school in Ontario Canada. I failed in flight school and went back to Nigeria. Went to University there, got a CS degree and I work as a frontend dev in Nigeria.

@ViralKiller

Жыл бұрын

no offence but Nigeria is a corrupt craphole

Thank you for this tech lead! You downloaded this for me ❤❤

“It’s not over for you yet. You’re still in the running.”😂

Thanks Techlead, really needed this, love ya brother.❤

Thanks bro was feeling crap dwelling . Drinking cofee and watching your vid . Wise words not just theory. It helped me changed my outlook . Watched it twice Bless

Like always: entertaining and also good advice. Thanks.

Refreshing to see you speaking more positively and having a more composed outlook in life as painful it can be, keep it up!

You can’t just forget in-denials and ignore traumatic events as if they never happened it’s against the logical wirings in the substrates of neuro-circuitries we need to evaluate learn skill sets to arm and cope (esp if such events will happen again even frequently) and be prepared but be cool not to be paranoid and move on …

Thank you Tech Lead. This is some phenomenal advise!

I love this. This is different from your old videos. This is more on humble side of your personality. But I really need this as I am old and felt a failure as well

Truly my favourite multi millionaire youtuber. The words of wisdoms. I unblocked my KZread feed and this is the video is what I needed thanks

Spot on and I love how the ending makes everything seem so insignificant in the best of ways

This perk me up. I was beating myself up wallowing in self pity so I search on KZread about failure in life and this is the first video. Really helps me, thanks.

I love your growing outlook on life.

When I feel awful I try to work extra hard because I know that I'll have more fruit of my labor to enjoy once I feel better.

Please make more videos like these and just ignore the haters and rude comments. The world are just full of them but there are people who do appreciate you. Everyone has haters, and I can find one the moment I encounter any group of people.

Thanks man , keep spreadin them good wisdoms. got yourself a subscriber!

Got rejected in third round of my dream job. Applying to 100 jobs today.

3:20 just doing his own stuff is what keeps you going 3:50 don't dwell 5:33 have an end day to all emotional backlog 6:21 being successful isn't one time event, it's a character trait. Over and over again 6:49 trait character trait and you canbuilt upon 7:32 lose ego, keep tryjng... 7:58 important physical is more important than emotional

Great content man. Very helpful vid! Thanks!

Very very well said. A good and practical advice. Thank you.

Great advice TechLead! Thank you for sharing this!!

Great insights. It's a constant reminder to not dwell.

This is literally the best advice I've received this year.

Whenever I feel like a failure, I go back to your old video about everyone being stupid beasts and it puts me back in the right mindset. Thanks a lot, TechLead!

@john.10347

Жыл бұрын

Glad to know I'm not the only one doing this

@nicolasbrogna1195

Жыл бұрын

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@mike4490

Жыл бұрын

What's that video called

@nemtom20

Жыл бұрын

We need the video link bro!

@johnnysmith6876

Жыл бұрын

Which video was that please?

Thanks for making this video for real. 💪🏿🔥😎👍🏽

This is actually one of your best videos. I had to like and comment.

I see in other their personal homework… but a lot of time I don’t see in myself my own lessons…. thank you for sharing your thoughts and advice, they are greatly appreciated in my present situation.

This is my favorite new channel...well done!

Hahaha, I keep going back to this video. Thank you for creating this

This advice is all fine and dandy if your failures came exclusively from external events outside your control AND you are someone with perfect executive function, fast knowledge acquisition *and* a streak of successes ("reference experiences") to build on. Things become much darker if your (serial) failures are a result of intrinsic weaknesses in your mental and physical health. Many times you'll want to 'pick up yourself by your bootstraps' and give it another try, only to run into mental, physical AND social roadblocks in everything you try to do. While the advice was well meant, even if presented in Techlead's trademark 'tough love' style, some of the examples were completely inane. I mean seriously, Elon Musk is a good example of someone who 'overcomes failure and does whatever he wants?. Well *DUH* he is a freaking decabillionaire, of course he can do *whatever he wants*. How is this relatable to a 'normal person' viewing this video?

@Daniel-fb8rm

2 ай бұрын

Exactly.

I love your mentaly, thank you for sharing.

Thank you, I needed this.

I love this! Thanks bro I needed this

In gambling this is what's called a "maximum boldness strategy". You take the biggest shot you're willing to take in one go so that way if you win you win in the short term, but if you fail you fail fast so you can recover quicker.

Every morning after you wake up stay in bed for extra 5 minutes and instead of grabbing your phone or feeling anything bad, remind yourself to be grateful for everything you have or had. I was sceptical about it at first but it works unbelievably well

Thank you for posting this sir

I needed this, thanks

That is a real good video... Actually helped me. Thanks!

Wow thanks TechLead. just what I need. 🖖

I have to say your are quite intelligent and sophisticated the way you articulate how vital perseverance and the outlook of failure being a stepping stone to prosperity is essential for anyone trying to attain there pinnacle thank you for sharing 😊

I appreciate your insight. Thank you. 🙏

I needed this thank you!

Like your speach buddy!!

The notification for this video woke me up. I’m not even subscribed to this channel.

Thanks, I this is a decent pep-talk. I've experienced a lot of traumatic events over that past couple of years (my entire life until then seems like nothing in comparison) so it's been wearing me down. Well it's changed my every day (and ultimately I'm just in fight or flight mode because the next big thing, quite possibly a serious health issue, is right around the corner) and I work hard to try to improve it but there are still periods where I let it get to me in some bigger or smaller ways.

Our story isn't where we start, it's where we take it to.

Great advice

This nerd looking guy is really good. Thank you very much. You really helped me. Thank you again. Be blessed.

fixating on a life of happiness is an error. Life will let you down regardless, so build up your focus knowing suffering is part of life. Having everything in life might be nice, but life might pass more fast living with everything you need all the time. Life worth the suffering is worth it.

@More_Row

Жыл бұрын

Meh

exactly what i needed to hear this morning

Thanks TechLead, This means a lot

Well said and inciteful video ❤

Video was really good, honest and helpful. But its okay to cry if you feel like doing it. Cry as much as you want but then come back stronger

"you cant actually learn how to swim unless you really try it" TechLead I reacovery with my beleife(Islam), but also your talk inspired me, too. Thanks.

very well said !!

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

So true and thank You.

You are the greatest, TechLead.

A winner never quits... A quitter never wins... Stand up and walk tall... It's not over until YOU say it's over!

Brilliant video.

found myself when I was younger to love to feel pitiful and give power to this feeling because it's addicting and somewhat pleasant, it gives meaning, drama, importance, but it takes too much time, it swallow you in and then you take a hit to selfesteem. Had depression for 5-7 years and don't know now for sure If I needed so much time to recover or I just enjoyed it.

@meowingduck

Жыл бұрын

Yea, same with melancoly and similar feelings, for other personal reasons I basically got used to "cry in my dark corner" mentally, to the point where I would get goosebumps, just as if I listened to the biggest musical masterpiece when I would fantasize about dark stuff. It does, in a weird way, become a safespace of some short. Thankfully as I got older (am just about to be 23, sounds like im like 45) I learned how to manage my emotions and what life throws at me a bit better, and I managed to be more resilient agaisnt sadness and whatnot, while still appreciating beauty and being a dreamer still.

@TomNook.

Жыл бұрын

doesn't help that we now have entire industries thriving on this pain and misery

@randomdeliveryguy

11 ай бұрын

When I say it's nice to be sad people think I'm retarded. So I'm not the only one.

You actually have gone through some crap, that is the reason I listen to you.

Very succinct & sage, grasshopper...

Just how did my life phases become so in sync with your contents 😮 Last time it was exactly 3 months after I started a business venture and not seeing growth, you made another video addressing exactly that. I am going through my lowest moment, going broke and desperately looking for a job. Failing fast is definitely wise words, but knowing when to give up is my biggest take.

@mariomaro7

Жыл бұрын

I'm in exactly your situation. Don't give up, learn sales, and keep on pushing

@EjaxPlus

Жыл бұрын

@@mariomaro7 thank you, I needed that. All the best to you too! Being open about it with my family improved with my mental health. Honestly at this point I'm at peace if it's just my dreams shattered and not anything else.

@EjaxPlus

Жыл бұрын

@@chaccmi1358 In fact i kinda felt that way even if they showed support on the surface, behind me I can't help but imagine how disappointed they truly are. Especially when some have invested in the venture. Thanks for sharing your story and I hope you find a better place and people to be with you soon.

@EjaxPlus

Жыл бұрын

Some update. I just landed an interview for a marketing role at an education center. I'm too scared to have my hopes up, but I really need this to be the one 🥲 it's tomorrow noon, might update again afterwards.

@SergeyRyzhankov

Жыл бұрын

​@@EjaxPlusHow did it go, man ? I hope it was successful, but regardless of how it went I sincenery hope all is well with you🙏 Keep on trying and be positive, you will catch your break sooner or later! Best regards from Moscow 😊

Thank you for this video

Love your videos ❤

One of your best Tech lead. 👌

I highly recommend a book called "The body keeps the score" healing from trauma, good video Pat just as always, full of wisdom and racionallity, thanks older bro

@futuregootecks

Жыл бұрын

Second time hearing about this book in as many days, gonna take that as a sign 🔥

Nice one. Thanks Patrick

Great chat

Yeah, you're right on those things. Sometimes you just have to get told those things straight into your face.

Success is never owned. It is rented and rent is due everyday

Hahaha. Dude. That was funny. Thx for the content.

Men nowadays don’t have the luxury of being emotional. And I think we never actually did in the past either, I think the problem might be that men acting out emotionally and being depressed has become too normalized. I don’t mean that in a way to belittle anyone who is. Ive been in the same boat much of my life. What changed for me, is the realization that not only does nobody care about my feelings, men face extremely harsh penalties in life for it, in every single aspect of life.

@FreeAgent99

Жыл бұрын

At the end of the day, women/society will always hold men accountable to fix their own problems. The Zeitgeist says „be more emotional, talk about your problems“ but really nobody wants to hear that from a man. Become stoic.

Your words have wisdom.

I Needed this video 👍