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I have one rule: never contact her when you feel anxious. Always deal with yourself first. Meditate, go for a walk, hit the gym or talk to a friend. Always reach out to her in a calm and confident state of mind. Anxiety is the opposite of love.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly!

@alexlovehall7796

3 жыл бұрын

Underrated and I've learned this lesson

@philiptowsey6282

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a very good piece of advice 👌🏼

@prithvi7752

2 жыл бұрын

True 💯💯💯

@plakey2001

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. I recently responded when anxious. Rookie mistake

Not necessarily having these issues in my relationship right now, but in past relationships I have experienced this separation anxiety. As men we can tend to get overly emotional when challenged and when our girls pull away, our action taking genetics kick in and we try to force things. We justify it because we believe taking action will solve this issue like it tends to solve almost all other issues in our lives. It usually takes her kicking us to the curb to realize our mistake.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

You're exactly right!

@horuzz2009

2 ай бұрын

100% brother

As a woman I can say, I don’t behave like this. If I pull away... out of respect I’ll tell you why. I don’t want to create chaos or disregard a persons concern for me. If I need space I’ll tell you. I think just pulling away and disrupting pattern is rude & yes she can do this...but how she goes about it shows her maturity and character.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

This is true for most women, but it's only when they're consciously aware that they need some space. Since women are typically guided by emotions, they act based on how they're feeling in that moment. So, when a woman is feeling a little overwhelmed or the mystery & challenge in a partner has been diminished, or non-existent, women will naturally (& unconsciously) begin to pull away just so they can get a little space in order to sort through those emotions & see if they miss their partner. This isn't a shot at you or women in general, it's just how women are biologically wired. There's a lot more to it, but for the sake of brevity I've condensed it. It IS a good thing that you're honest though.

@n.g.3741

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction Thank you for the work you do. I don’t take someone’s body of work personally (usually). I do agree that if a woman is not conscious she will behave with emotions. This is so unfortunate for those who date us. As stated before I am a woman who primarily dates women and I have a new respect for men. Woman can make things so unnecessarily complicated. Keep the videos coming. Maybe you can make a video discussing what to do when an ex comes back and does hot n cold. After a while (2months) does a man stay cool or does he have the honest discussion to set boundaries? 🤔🧐🤔 I believe you get what you allow. Does one draw boundaries with “a talk” or simply allow her this time to “decide?”

@jollyroger2594

5 жыл бұрын

You are mature person

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Usually when an ex comes back & is behaving hot/cold it's a sign that she is uncertain. If you would typically play the more dominant role, it's really your job to take the lead. The goal for you is to get her out on a date, have fun & gently lead things into the bedroom. If you're already doing that, then you want to pull back any time she is behaving cold & let her come to you. In other words, you don't want to chase her; especially if she's the one that ended things with you in the past. Now, in terms of setting boundaries, you DO want to tell her that she has crossed your boundaries & it won't be tolerated. In most cases she will apologize, but also most likely she will test your boundaries again. If she continues, then you must take action, because explaining things to her will not get you anywhere. She must FEEL it emotionally. So, it's best to have an idea what you will do when she does repeatedly try to cross your boundaries. As an example, if a woman is being insulting towards me, I will warn her once. If she does it again, I will remind her that she had been warned that when she's ready to apologize & speak to me in a loving tone, we can talk again. I will not reach out or speak to her until she does just that. In other words, you must back up your words with action or she will never take you seriously. Repeatedly explaining to her how her behavior is unacceptable will never work, as it goes in one ear & out the other. However taking action & being willing to walk away for good if you must will completely turn things around for you if she truly cares about you.; not to mention, she will have a new found respect for you.

@n.g.3741

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction As always thank you for your analysis and response. I was unsure about what to do bc we have already tagged all “bases( ⚾️).” Lately she’s been cold and I do not feel compelled to chase and ask why as I am to love in a way that feels FREE. I have walked away cold turkey in the past due to hot n cold. I will do it again bc she says she wants friendship only yet she will “round the base” so I do not get my hopes up, I simply enjoy the exercise. I thought pointing out my discontent would make her feel trapped and cause me to look needy or emotionally unstable. So I thank you for your clarity. I will set a boundary around her hot n cold behavior as this is not helping us rebuild even a basic friendship. I don’t want to seem controlling, I’d rather give her rope/freedom to hang herself. I naturally lack patience so allowing women to decide has its expiration date. Thanks again. 🌸 I’ll be awaiting more videos.

With so many people giving bad advise man this is fire

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

I can't tell you how greatful I'm for your content. I watched a few other youtuber- and even tho I know this is not a competition- your videos are the best. Keep it up Bro

I’m a woman and I have to say that you’re an amazing advisor, this video even help me to understand more my boyfriend, God bless you always 😄🙏✝️

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching & the compliment! Glad you found some clarity.

@whatzitttooya5837

3 жыл бұрын

Guys do this too?? I figure it is a women thing due to their fluctuating hormones vs guys fairly stable hormones (T)

I can't tell you how greatful I'm for your content. I watched a few other youtuber and even tho I know this is not a completion your videos are the best. Keep it up Bro

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! I appreciate it!

Good advice I have been going thru something similar with long distance relationship having patients is key because she will do what she feels anyway so not to make it harder is best thanks for your advice

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Patience can be difficult sometimes, but always look at a relationship as a marathon, not a sprint to the finish line.

This is great lesson for all men. this is reason why all my relationship failed sir coach erik. gf would not respond for 2 weeks and i panic and would contact. then she would break up with me. it is sad but now i know better now thank you sir coach erik. you are very much the best

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Anxiety & insecurity are why most relationships fail.

@michelgregoire799

4 жыл бұрын

Girl love to play with men ...

@michelgregoire799

4 жыл бұрын

More she know that more she play with you some time she bang two guy in the same time and more get contact with 5 or 6 others for chat

Space Space. Space. Give these women space. All men need to be a mystery to these ladies..

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Mystery is key! I did a couple of videos on this topic... kzread.info/dash/bejne/iah32s1-cti5iaw.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/eY2J1NpuccndZJM.html

Thanks for the free advice dude. Between you and Corey Wayne really good to hear about real life relationship issues without all the pick up bs

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

You've hit on a point I was wondering about for quite some time: namely, that women are emotional creatures, that they're guided by their emotions. If that's true, they're also unreliable and untrustworthy, for feelings are by nature fleeting. As far as I'm concerned someone who's that way lacks integrity, lacks backbone and character. A person of dignity and good character ought to be able to do what needs to be done regardless of feelings. And by the way, LOVE IS NOT A FEELING. What if don't want to care for you when you're ill because I don't feel like it? I don't like it, so therefore I won't bother... Relying on feelings is rather childish and immature.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, but you're thinking like a man. However, women can still have integrity . They're not dumb, their mind works this way for a reason & that is to help ensure the survival of their children. This is also the reason why women are designed to be submissive to a dominant male, & why men & women com0plement each other.

@yacovmitchenko1490

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Yes, I anticipated a response along those lines. But then the emphasis should be on intuition more than feeling. For it's a faculty that includes both intelligence and feeling.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@yacovmitchenko1490 Of course intuition does play a big role for women, as they are typically far more intuitive than us men. However, making decisions based on emotion still plays a big role. Here's a quote from an article that may make more sense for you... "Male and female humans process emotions differently. Women in particular process negative emotions in a much different way than men. Men tend to prioritize information through a filter of rational discernment first and then sort out how they feel about that information in an emotional context. Women are much the opposite; girls process information through an emotional filter first and then sort out what the information actually means to them (and after that, how it might affect others)...Men prioritize the content (information) of a conversation while women prioritize the context (the feels she gets) from a conversation. This is how our brains work, and when one method isn’t socially favored above the other both methods can be complementary to the other."

The truth is women don't pull away from men they truly want to be with. If she does pull away, take the hint, do yourself a favor, and just move on. Don't call her, don't text her, and don't return any of her calls or texts.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Not true. Women pull away all the time from men they love. It's usually because she's feeling smothered or pressured. Women act on their current emotional state...oftentimes not even realizing that they're pulling away.

@chonghloh5093

Ай бұрын

Is this more prevalent for introvert girls?

Your videos are really good man.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

love your work

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

That’s all I needed to know, is that I let her initiate the contact first rather than me doing it first

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, if she's being distant then this is usually all you have to do; give her some space. But if she's a different person, as you mentioned in your other comment, then there might be something different bothering her.

She also got me a gift and was excited to give it to me and planned things in the future. It just kinda shocking.

Fellas seriously watch this over and over to get the lessons , my girl pulled away so did I , and instead of over reacting I reacted the right way & it did wonders . Men need to learn how to give these women the space to come to them . Like Eric says her attraction is a sliding scale , one day she’s hot for me the next she’s kinda cold . It’s just how it goes guys

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. Always remember that women follow their emotions & take action based on those feelings. If she's not feeling it that particular day or moment, you're not a high priority. Give her the time & space to feel it again & she will be back...

@diamonddave16

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. This is highly helpful and wise👏👏TY

Not to sound discouraging but just to speak reality if I CAN'T handle the way women are the way they think and their moods and emotions it just better off if I stay single and just FOCUS on myself,and PURPOSE and my kids.I'm NOT mad I agree with this brother with MOST of what he says about women it's VERY wise advice alot of what I've been doing over the years with women has NOT been working cause it's been drenched in codependency,neediness,passivity, and insecurity.Im NOT affraid to admit that I AIN'T saying everything I did with the women I've dated and been with was bad but I am saying alot of it was and I know alot of what I've been doing wrong and I know somethings I need to do to fix my neediness,and insecurities and these videos along with other information is really helping me so I will be fine im no longer chasing women I'm to the point where I could stay single for the rest of my life and be just fine and I really mean that.Thanks again bro for the great videos they're really insightful.It boils down to this DON'T make a woman more important than yourself or your kids if you have kids unless she's your wife and even then you have to make sure you don't over do it with your wife recognize you and your wife is equally important and marriage is about EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION,partnership, friendship, commitment,HONESTY, RESPECT, fun, teamwork,and scarfice.If you believe in God and following HIM you definitely DON'T put a woman or anybody before HIM.Men keep your head up know your worth work on becoming the best man you can be if you have children help them be the very BEST they can be and DON'T worry or stress over these women they are NOT invincible they are flawed and imperfect just like us men they AIN'T no better than us and we AIN'T no better than them and it's NOT are place to change them and it's NOT their place to change us.Men if you are NOT willing to put this knowledge into practice from these videos and if you AIN'T willing to focusing on growing and becoming the very best man you can be leave the women alone and stay SINGLE that way you won't HURT nor HARM yourself them your kids and others.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Learning how to handle & deal with a woman's moods & temper tantrums in a way that keeps her attraction for you high is quite difficult, but also very rewarding once you get it.

@stevenkrupka3670

9 ай бұрын

TMI dial it back

I love you ❤great advice

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Glad you found it helpful!

I agree with everything that you say, it’s just a sad reality though that so many woman have these changes. I know a lot of it had to do with us men not being in your center but I would have never thought that we as a society would get to the point that neediness is considered a weakness. I mean dependency it’s self is a biological need with in us. I rather be genuine and just express myself, however with all that said I accept that this is the reality. Some of the changes that woman have in my opinion are just immature and they lack an understanding of themselves with a combination of not being content within their own life. It’s just reality lol. Thank you so much for the amazing videos you by far give the most sound and humble advice on KZread, unlike the other manipulative, mind games, pick up artists. That’s all good for immature, non serious dating relationships but your advice is great for serious and mature relationships where one person isn’t trying to use and abuse the other person. If you have to do all that to get and keep someone like that then they aren’t really high quality material worth trusting your life with in my view.

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

I understand what you're saying, but it is feminine nature to seek strength in the masculine for certainty & survival. They find that attractive the same way men find physical beauty in women attractive. But women have to filter strength in men by testing them because men can fake confidence & strength. So, they hit you with these tests out of nowhere to see how you'll react. It's often completely subconscious on their part. Women are always judging the men they're involved with to make sure he consistently lives up to that strength. It's a good thing that you're accepting it as reality, because it's not going to change in our lifetime. It's part of their evolution. And thanks for the compliment btw...

@PALTV-hn9jt

6 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction Thanks for the great vids man. I love your content

@PALTV-hn9jt

6 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction I completely agree with everything you said. Interesting world but the sooner you realize the truth the sooner you can center yourself

@charliediamond6197

5 жыл бұрын

Dependency is not strictly biological we are dependant as infants until we learn the skills necessary to survive on our own, we depend on each other because it makes us stronger as a race but we are capable of living a solitary life with little interaction. Our organs and brain work on their own we don’t need anyone else to beat our own heart for us. If the world went to shit tomorrow then many people would not be able to cope simply because they have become so used to depending on others! The ones that would survive are those that can go at it alone. Survival of the fittest.

@cjstats1514

4 жыл бұрын

@@charliediamond6197 I know this is an old post. But you are forgetting mental health and connection. Yes, we are capable anatomically to "survive" by ourselves. But that alone will not keep us mentally stable. That's one thing that causes mental disorders. Humans are social animals. They need social/bond to function full and healthy. Both physically and mentally/emotionally.

I guess a general thought now should be “just let it go “ Because..the problem starts from panicking , being anxious , trying to force things to work out Sigh... How I relate to this topic

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, basically. The ideas is that you don't chase after her if she pulls away, which is what most men do due to the fear of losing her...

Listen up men. This shit works more than you could imagine!! I know first hand. If you have the funds, get the individual coaching...trust me, It'll all come together.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the endorsement Joe! I'm so happy that all your hard work has begun to pay off!

@proudmasculine

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction No, thank you! I came to you looking to get a woman back and gained a whole new outlook. Your insight, knowledge and guidance is something that I will have for the rest of my life. No bullshit, a new awareness!!

Yeah you helped me quite a bit. Wish she would do some research on this too. Maybe she has. My situation is a little different because I'm still married, but I think you answered most my questions.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

The psychology is the same whether you're married or not. What's different is that you're living with her & it's a bit more difficult to pull back yourself.

@daPorkchop

5 жыл бұрын

I meant married not to her. :)

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Well, if you're married then she probably has her guard up.

@daPorkchop

5 жыл бұрын

I made a lot of the mistakes mentioned when it went from great to her pulling back. So I did ask the dreaded what are we question. Over pursued. She did say that she thinks we need to be casual until I file. She also did say that she wants it to work, but we are in our 30s, have our own lives and wants to take it slow. Which is why your videos help. Thought I was going crazy. I hope it's not too late though. She still calls daily and checks on me if I don't text her. So, I'm gonna work on me and fake it til I make it (confidence wise).

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

If you made mistakes I talk about in my videos, then that will definitely cause her to pull away a bit, but it does sound like her guard is up as well. You probably don't want to hear this, but she's doing the right thing considering your situation. On the other hand, she's still showing good interest. Sounds like you're getting on the right path now, by working on yourself & so on. If you're serious about making this big transition with her, then you being in a good & healthy mindset is imperative.

Speaking the Gospel

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! 🙂

Btw can you do a video on Rebound relationship and long distance relationships??

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Sure...I'll add that to my 'to do' list.

@heardroy9612

6 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction okay thanks

Exactly my scenario and I made all the wrong moves :(, now I haven’t called or texted her for a a few days and waiting for her to express her love

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're doing the right thing by not chasing her when she pulls away; however, you don't want to get into the mindset of "waiting" for her. Go do your own thing; focus on yourself & your goals. Women come back much quicker this way. A man building his value is a bit of a turn on for woman.

@abhijeetroy1411

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot

My gf pulled away about a month ago I haven’t heard from her since then not sure what’s going on but I’ve stuck to my guns and held on to my pride because at the end of the day I did nothing just confusing.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that's not a good sign. One thing that is a fact, if she truly loves & values you, she won't let you get away permanently. Let her come to you.

@mav1877

5 жыл бұрын

Keep dating other women. She probably wasn't worth it if she drops off the radar that long.

@go-goakins1489

5 жыл бұрын

That s unfortunate Edwin but you ain't the only one Brother😎hang in there👍

@toddgoogle4387

5 жыл бұрын

If she comes back good. If not, move on bc there's plenty of women out there that want you

@michelgregoire799

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it is hard if she does not come back.You should find a others women.

Hey coach, so I’ve been also pulling back from my girlfriend of about 9 months after she became distant and cold with me and not being responsive to any conversation to figure out what’s wrong. It’s been about a week since I’ve heard from her. She’s called me on Group FaceTime with her friends twice and I didn’t answer because I felt that was just her playing games and trying to get my attention without doing much. The relationship has been really rocky and I’m getting more anxious as time passes because I just feel like I’m losing her and she’s forgetting about me over time. I’m really getting the feeling to call her and see if I can talk to her and hopefully she’ll be responsive but I think that’s my anxiety getting the best of me and I should let time pass more until she reaches out to me. What do you think?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

If she cares, she's not going to let you get away. From the little you've shared, it sounds like she's playing games with you & now you're in a power struggle...a bit of a stand-off. So, most likely she's doing the same as you...pulling back & trying to out-wait you. You've tried to talking to her, so she's not leaving you much choice but to do what you're doing. I know it can be difficult, but the fact that she's still reaching out (though not in the way that you'd like) tells me that you're still on her mind. She's most likely feeling the same anxiety, so she'll crack soon. It's best that you turn your attention to goals/hobbies or being social with friends so you're not so focused on her.

3 beta males disliked this video 😂

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Haha! Yup!

@smallcap7473

5 жыл бұрын

Now 13 beta males...lol

I've been with my gf for over a month and we've been talking for about 2 months b4 we started dating and she's pulled away, and stopped messaging I sent a lot of messages and one yesterday thru text but I'm giving her space, she hasn't blocked me on fb or changed our names? So is that a good sign? I hope she comes back she is a busy woman with work

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

She definitely needs some space & she stopped messaging you in hopes that you get it. So, just mirror her emotions/effort level...back off until she reengages. If you haven't seen it yet, I have a video on how to handle this: kzread.info/dash/bejne/d2FqmbqwgdSrcqQ.html

@jacobsutton7836

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction thanks coach. I did see it, and I will give her as much space as she needs ☺

Please when doing no contact rules, can i still be posting my pictures on social media? And should I unfollow her?

@bittmanbobby

3 жыл бұрын

Post positive things and awesome things that you're doing. You have to show her that you're having fun without her

I dont know what those two thumbs down want to hear. Ah probably those are women.

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Ha ha! You good be right! Or beta male, white knights...

Just tell him the truth... get rid of her!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Completely unnecessary, because women will always pull away from time to time. It's important to learn how to balance that out.

Have been dating with my galfriend for like a year, in along distance relationship, we have been having fights on and off.. But of recent we got a strong fight, only to wake up in the morning and she texted me that she loves me so much, and went off, inactive on social media now for 2days and she isn't picking any of my calls, what can I do coach.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

It's counterintuitive, but the best thing you can do right now is nothing. She chose to go silent, so it must be her choice to begin talking to you again...& she will with a little time & space, & if she truly loves you. You continuing to try to get in touch her is just giving her the sense that she has all the power. That's not attractive & it doesn't incentivize her to reach out to you. So, I recommend that you stop reaching out to her & let her come to you. She told you how much she loves you, so I would say there's nothing to worry about right now. Just give her some space & let her miss you a bit.

Been together 6 months. Felt undervalued and told her about it. Said she was gonna call me back, that was 3 days ago. I haven't called back. She sent a funny video on FB but she hasn't said anything. Shes seen me online. What do i say to her when she asks why I didn't call her?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Tell her, that since she said she would call you back & didn't, that you felt she needed some space. However, if you don't hear from her for a total of 5-7 days, it won't hurt you to reach out just to be sure everything is okay. A woman pulling away temporarily is VERY common & it's usually just because she needs a little space; however, on much rarer occasions a woman will pull away because she's feeling hurt by something you said or did. If it gets to this point, when you reach out to her, the trick is to not come across as fearful. So, don't say "Did I do something?" or "are you mad at me?" or anything like that. Just ask, "Is everything okay?' & if she asks for you to elaborate just tell her you hadn't heard from her for a while & you were just being sure she's okay. This will show her that you care, but without being needy &/or emotional. She will most likely say she's fine, & if that's the case, then go back assuming that she just needed space & politely end the phone call telling something like, "I just wanted to check up on you". Overall, this is most likely a test to see if you'll get needy & emotional.

We want other's life to revolve around us the way we allow ourselves make our world revolve around them making them the axle of our utopian fantasy of romance the meaning of our life and if break up occurs our whole world crumbles in our imagination and it hurts us their world isn't built around us. in romance we do it & it occurs between parent and child also friendships etc causing problems...

Every time I try to get into a relationship, I always get the “lets be friends” or “i don't see you that way “ and just keep wondering what could be wrong or if I'm to start cutting people off ...all for the sake of just being a good person..sigh..just make things look complicated

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Most likely you're giving off a friendship vibe & not a lover vibe. Men typically give a friendship vibe by being "too nice" & placing her on a pedestal. You want to elicit a little playful sexual tension when meeting new women. Women must see you as a sexual option before any romance can happen...

@zyrxsounds

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction being too nice used to be my problem but watching your videos making me to make some changes

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@zyrxsounds That's most men's problem. Check out the books, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover (if you're in the US you can find it here: amzn.to/3eMzYgL ) & "Not Nice" by Dr. Aziz Gazipura (if in US find it here: amzn.to/3eQs8Tn ). This will help you understand your "nice guy" behavior & how to get rid of it.

Coach Corey Wayne lite😉

@grit7733

5 жыл бұрын

This guy is way better than Corey Wayne.

@bittmanbobby

3 жыл бұрын

@@grit7733 both are good

I don't know how old this guy, who's sent you the email Coach, is, but I think when you're dating women with kids, things are getting less and less the way you want them to be. A women's highest priority is always the kids and unfortunately these days most women would go only the 1 or two hours sex and then bye. I think for a guy it's always important to make sure that there's OTHER women around him and this makes the one that he is dating, compete and want to be with you more! And similarly to a woman, a man's highest priority should be WORK or any kind of business or just his own life and NOT the woman that he's dating. Thanks coach

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're exactly right with all that you said. Women are always thinking what's best for them & their children (current children or potential children), & in almost every case, a man will always be number two to her children. This is difficult for some men to understand. And while I would never recommend cheating, IF both parties have agreed to commitment, it's important for men to at least have a SENSE of options with other women. If a man's girlfriend/wife even thinks that another woman could snatch him away, she will always try harder to remain attractive for him & keep him interested. I do have a video that talks about this: kzread.info/dash/bejne/n2WfssuSg6-3ocY.html

Women are emotional. They like consistency..

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

A man's consistency makes women feel safe. When men get too emotional it makes women feel very unsafe, which usually leads them to embracing their masculine energy...& they despise men who make them go into their masculine.

Fellas the less you care the more they stare 👍

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Basically. To be more specific, it's being indifferent to outcomes.

Shes back home reconnecting with her X .. Someone is piping her down 😁

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Always a possibility, but more often than not she just needs a little space & time to miss you (or whoever is experiencing their girl pulling away)...

@beardedbutcher5333

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction the beginning of a relationship where the girl is infatuated with you and then goes home for a week and tou dont hear from her -shes fucking someone else.... Its clear as day and you're blue 💊 ing yourself if you think otherwise... I cant get my new girl to go food shopping without texting me !

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Unless he is acting super needy & coming on way too strong, in which case a woman will always pull away. It's these subtle nuances, and how to manage them, that the red pill doesn't teach you.

@beardedbutcher5333

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction i hear you but these people need to learn about the true nature of women and the games they play. AMS is on point when it comes to that stuff..not so much red pill as it is reality..

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

I'm well versed in that & I teach it all throughout my videos. AMS is on point, however he has more of a pump & dump mentality, which is fine if that's what you want. My material is aimed more towards keeping the women you like around long term.

The games are wild lol men are so consistent women emotions fluctuate

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. Women's emotions are always in flux & as a man you can't allow that to affect you or it will drive you crazy.

@chartist_123

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction appreciate ur videos bro

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@chartist_123 Thanks for watching!

i don't know what i can do at first she broke up with me and after few month she came to me and everything is good but suddenly after some month she told me she loss feelings for me and she like another guy what i have to do now please some suggestion ...

@jibbityjab2469

Жыл бұрын

Don't grovel my friend. Simply say thanks for letting me know and move on. Do you really want to be with a girl who said that to you?? What's the end game? She won't respect you and even if she comes back she will probably wind up dumping you again or cheating.

i don't know how to check if you comment but i have a problem. i have been dating a lady for 8 months. we did everything together and have gone on trips and every day was incredible. well, last week she told me that things have changed with us and eventually told me a guy she has known for a long time has been showing her affection and she feels bad about it and needs two weeks break from us to see how we feel after the two weeks. well, she came over twice in next three days to walk my dogs with me and initiated the kissing and she texts me she misses being with me. i mention that then maybe that means she wants me and not the other guy, yet she hasn't made the commitment. i'm just confused because she texts me everyday and we text alot. should i ignore her or give her an ultimatum or what? i feel like if she didn't want me, she wouldn't say those things or come by, or text; however if she wants me then why has she continued to want the two weeks?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

This may be just a test to see if you get jealous or emotional, but it could be real. Don't get emotional or jealous. You have to be strong & stand up for yourself. She wanted this break because another guy is interested in her. She's more or less saying to you that she wants to explore other options while putting you on hold. F** that! You're a man of high value & high value men don't put up with that stuff. I recommend that you lovingly, but firmly tell her that you're not her backup plan & if she wants to go explore her options, then she should...& you will also explore your options too (even if you don't have any, don't tell her that). Then tell her that you will have a two week break & there will be no contact from you during that time. If she cares, this will shock her & actually make you more attractive to her...most likely causing her to start chasing you again, because you're behaving like the prize, & that's what omen want in a man.

Man..I have such bad anxiety and I overthink so hard that I can’t help it- and I try not to show it to my girlfriend because it does get tiring when I’m like this, but I need help or advice on how to control it..She even invited me to a game to play with her but then after not even 5 minutes into the game she basically blowed me off just now on spending time with me- and she rather plays this 1 game she’s been spending her time with instead of me..

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Well, the anxiety definitely comes from overthinking. Most likely you're not only second guessing yourself, which is making you come across as uncertain & insecure(a turn off for women), but you also truly do not believe in yourself, at least deep down. You must start seeing yourself as the prize, because if you don''t believe it, then no one else will either. In this case, if she's blowing you off after inviting you over, then leave. Put yourself first. That's how a man who believes in his value would behave. Yes, it may be upsetting, but you don't deserve to be treated like that. It's also a good idea to begin focusing on building yourself up by pursuing your goals/hobbies, health/fitness, & building/maintaining your social circle. When you're more focused on becoming a better a man, a force to be reckoned with, your girl will respect you much more...even when she complains about it. Women are attracted to men who can confidently lead them through life.

@somethingnew5472

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction yeah..): it hurt me badly when she just- blew me off. It’s been 4 hours right now since our last conversation and she just left me there while she plays with her friends- and I thought I was doing okay, giving her space and time until she just made it more confusing for me to understand.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@somethingnew5472 Be a little distant & less available with her until she begins to invest in you again. It sounds like she's taking you for granted a bit, so the cure to that is to put her in a position where she has to EARN your attention back. It will work as long as you remain strong & confident.

@somethingnew5472

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction True that, I’ve been distracting myself all day so far, we were talking a little today but then she just left for a while, then went to play something. So right now I’ve been playing with my brother for hours, and she came back to me, texting me saying: “hey husband” since that’s like the word she would call me sometimes like those “cute couple nicknames", she came back but then left again to play while when she was talking to me she said “I’m going to go to sleep soon", and that’s been 1+ hours (yet she started to play again), but I’m trying to give it time, and I’m trying to make her earn my attention back (if she truly cared she’ll come back, which she does come back after a while of distancing a bit) yet it’s still becoming harder for her to actually talk to me.

This question may be stupid. What do you think the reaction would be if the man didn't fake his confidence and strengths, but stated in the beginnings about his flaws and weaknesses to the woman. My problem I believe, is being too honest and not putting on the show or dazzle up front, and unfortunately it's got me nowhere. The slick talkers and BS'rs always seem to have the upper hand and win the lady. Honesty doesn't seem the best policy.🤔

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

You never want to paint yourself in a negative light, no matter how humble you think it will make you. You also don't want to have to fake confidence, but work on actually building your confidence. However, you may have to 'fake it till you make it' until you get to that point. Just beware, you can only fake it for so long before she catches on. So, it's a good idea to ALWAYS be working on building your confidence.

@michelgregoire799

4 жыл бұрын

Some women do not understand herself.....so if you try get a degree. In psychology problem is not you ...

I’m confused with my situation a bit my girl I was dealing with over the summer we hung out few times then eventually became exclusive but she did mention before we even started dating that she’s healing still and bein patient with herself so I was understanding but after a couple Of dates we started gettin exclusive and we was together damn near everyday either at my house or I would Go To her house even met her mom and siblings then fast forward to October she starts to pull away and tells me she’s overwhelmed wit the relationship and that she already stated how she felt before we got to this point tells me to move on and Dnt wait on her etc and fast forward she starts txtin me less and goin ghost but thanksgiving her mom invited me over I went everything was cool and I’m just confused cuz she still acting cold and distant and we even talked about doin Xmas together she got me stuff and I got her some stuff and she tells me she still thinks it’s to early to hang out but it’s confusing because how does that work but for the holidays I can come over your house and she told me she’s giving me 5 months to get over her so when we hang out it’s on a friend level idk if it’s cuz we got exclusive to fast and skipped some steps and she wants me to be her friend first and go from there but I haven’t spiked to her since last Sunday so now I’m just pulling back and lettin her come to me

@anthonywatts4110

Жыл бұрын

I was also pleading my case when she first broke the news to me because it was out the blue but I hope she comes back I feel like she will just based off the bond and chemistry

I have just started weeing someone I known her for ten years We had a month long "fling" for one month The when I hinted towards a relationship if spooked her and she stopped seeing me. I played it cool for that entire year We did talk casually OFTEN but Ikept all text convos short to avoid being friend zoned. After awhile I finally sort lost it from seeing her posts about bad dates. I couldn't take it any more and I told her I have to forget that she exist because I'm fallen in love with her and I don't want to feel that way I don't want to love you etc Now a week later we made up and she actually admitted that she now also has romantic feeling for me. I told her then step up and spend some time with me so we started seeing each other but on a entire new level The affection she's shown was not there a year ago when it was just a sexual fling but now it is clearly more emotional but again its just been a month since we connected romantically We spent She told me she cant stop thinking of me and even dreams of me ever since we made up from our fight. BUT now she seems to have suddenly pulled back again Not entirely We still text and she hasn't said anything about stopping seeing me or anything like that but now because of her hair trigger to run a year ago I'm scared of doing the wrong thing to trigger that again. I'm now back off a touch also. But what can i do to make sure i don't screw it up and scare her away again? Please give me advice I know mostly what to do but I don't know it all Do you think its all good and just chill and not talk to her as much or what?

@SkillofAttraction

20 күн бұрын

First, please see the pinned comment. You can get a lot of help on my website...& it's completely free. Just be sure to keep your questions succinct. If you want detailed help, then there's always private coaching. I also have many videos that will help you in this situation. One I highly recommend is about being relationship-focused: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmGEqcSOn5ecYs4.html

just thpoght id say well done i just found some of these sights i have never had trouble geting woman but i see what happens around world with men the demasculate themselves youadviceis very god but can i offer your readers some advice let the woman be feminine and you be masculine she chases she writes more your job is to be adecision maker and lead the romance take chances dont stick to small talk make her feel special but mostly keep busy woman love busy men tell her you will set time aside to talkto her

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you're exactly right.

My girlfriend and I haven’t been talking after she got upset about something and it caused an argument with her screaming and yelling and being disrespectful aka cursing. We had a trip planned but the argument caused contention if we were still going to go. I talked to her apologizing for my part in the argument and letting her know I didn’t like how she reacted either and told her to contact me if she decided to go on the trip. She never did so we didn’t go. We haven’t talked in about a week and it almost feels like we are broken up. I’m not sure what else to do besides pull back along with her but it feels like we’ll never talk again. If we do, I don’t even know what I’d want out of the relationship because everything just feels ruined. I’m very lost in this situation and I’m trying to live my life despite this but I need advice.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Well, you apologized (were you in the wrong?) & gave her a chance to still go on the trip & she ignored it...basically blowing off the trip. I don't know who's in the wrong here, or if she even has a real reason to be this angry, but until she takes a step towards you there's really nothing more that can be done. I mean, you can't beg her...so the ball is really in her court. I know it sucks for you, but the best thing that you can do right now is what you're already doing...pulling back & letting her come to you. So, just be strong & try to focus on yourself by keeping busy with activities (preferably productive) that bring you passion or joy.

@gabrielcharriez6257

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I ended up going to her house because a friend invited me over and made things worse so that is the part i apologized for. It’s very hard because I have her location on Snapchat and I look at it from time to time . I’m tempted to delete her off snap so I don’t see her location but I don’t want to pull away too far and make her think I don’t want to speak to her anymore. I’m not even sure how to talk to her if she does call me back. I know I shouldn’t ask why she pulled back but I don’t want to gloss over the situation like nothing happened.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@@gabrielcharriez6257 No, don't remove her from snap(for now)...it'll send the wrong message. When she does reach out (there's a very good chance she will if this is a serious relationship...I'd be shocked if she didn't), try to keep things rather light & upbeat. You're not glossing over it or pretending nothing happened, but you're not bringing it up right away. When you talk about this, it's best that you're both in a relatively calm state & the idea is that you lead the interaction to a more calm, relaxed mood. You can even suggest getting together to talk about it (which is always best, but not completely necessary).

@gabrielcharriez6257

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction is there ever a time when your girlfriend or your girl pulls away that you should reach out to them? Even if it’s only just one time? Maybe my girlfriend thinks that I’m doing to the same thing to her and she’s also waiting for me to contact her back. That doesn’t make sense though since I was the last one to call her and told her to call me back which she never did.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@@gabrielcharriez6257 Yes, I believe I explain it in this video: kzread.info/dash/bejne/imt316WzZq_Zc8Y.html

Me and my ex has started back talking again but she’s talking to someone else but she says she doesn’t like him...we still text each other everyday and she is the first one to text me so does that mean we still have a chance together??

@lilibetholivares6224

6 жыл бұрын

Yes you have a chance

@lilibetholivares6224

6 жыл бұрын

Drumer Boi

@heardroy9612

6 жыл бұрын

Lilibeth Olivares thanks

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, you absolutely have a chance. It's best to try & get her out on a date instead of texting. Simply tell her that you would love to see her & ask her when she's free to get together.

@heardroy9612

6 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction but we’re long distance do you think I should ask her to come down for the holiday on July 4th or is that asking for to much or do you think she’s waiting on me to ask her out on a date

Whats ur email ? Ur web page wont load

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Paul. There's some work being done on my server, so there's been a few hiccups today. It should be fine now...

I noticed a girl I'm talking to has 2x left Hi, How are you? messages within maybe a month right before she goes to bed then next day leaves me on read after I've responded and just a few minutes ago I've gotten this for the 3rd time....You think I should just ignore it this time? I don't want to come off as bitter just quite confused lol (this girl has recently told me she loves me and wants to build a family. She is long distance btw

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I'd ignore it. If she really wants something from you she won't give up easily. Then you can take it from there. Right now it seems that she's just trying to see if she can get your attention when she wants it.

@kingdavid772

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I ended up replying to her “Hey, I’d say we plan another video call soon to find out” if she ignores this I will have to start pulling back hard

My girlfriend and I had a huge fight. Now she says that does not see me the same way. She says she has feelings but she wants space. What do I DO?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Give her space. Don't contact her or try to get any answers out of her. In most cases, it's how YOU handle these situations that will determine the outcome. Most likely she's just upset & doesn't really mean that she doesn't see you the same way, so don't panic. As she stated, she just needs some space to sort through her emotions. If you chase her or try to convince her otherwise, she will begin to feel smothered & that will turn her off. Show her that you're the strong, confident guy & let her come to you when she's ready. If she cares, she WILL be back.

@stevenpluto5893

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I waited about 5 weeks. I did send her a cute letter. So should not contact at all? The silence is showing no interest?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@stevenpluto5893 I don't recommend the letter, but what's done is done. I realize a lot of coaches suggest the letter, but it keeps you in the weak position & you want the power back. You cannot get that power back by waiting for her or chasing her...you will only have the power when it's her chasing you. So, I recommend that you do not initiate contact with her anymore until you've heard from her. If it's been 5 weeks since you've spoken to her, then I hate to say this, but it's not looking good. But, who knows...I've had exes come back to me months later....in one case, years later. It's also best to get so much of the nervous energy off of her. So, turn your focus onto yourself & begin to pursue your goals & hobbies on the road to self improvement. You will feel better & more confident this way, & if/when she does come back, you will be much more attractive to her. That may sound oversimplified, but that's what you must do. If she comes back it will be when you're no longer worried about or you have moved on. That is because you're no longer projecting that nervous energy onto her; you've taken your power back.

I understand the over complimenting issue when the girl is normal, but what if she is insecure or undergoing some type of depression? I noticed I did this when my gf of nearly 5 months had become depressed (due to a very personal issue), now I think she’s losing attraction for me everyday. At one point I called her multiple times till she picked up and she was crying, which is what I thought she was doing. I did this to comfort her and I did so I think it was okay. But recently texting has been bleak, so i’ve pulled back and now she’s texting first more often so that’s good. I’m trying to stop texting because we see each other every weekday due to us being at Uni. On weekends we might hangout once. But if a woman is undergoing some type of depression or stress, is it okay to reassure them with compliments? Could you do a video on empathizing/sympathizing with a depressed girlfriend?

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Her depression is a separate issue. It's perfectly fine to be compassionate of what she's going through, but what triggers & maintains her attraction for you remains the same, depressed or not. She may be a bit more difficult to read, because her emotions are all over the map. However, you pulled back a bit due to her lack of effort & it caused her to begin chasing you more. That right there tells me that you were doing too much (ie: chasing her too much). Check out some of my other videos to try & figure out where you may be making some mistakes, because often most men just need to make some minor adjustments in their game.

So we got in a huge fight and deleted me on FB last week. A few days passed and I wished her a Happy Women's Day and said sorry for being an asshole. She sent a ❤. I said how are you? She didn't reply 🙈 What do I do now? A few days have passed since

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Let her come to you now. In other words, don't initiate contact with her or go to her until she reaches out to you. Even if the argument is your fault, you have apologized & made the attempt to mend things. If you chase her after this it will only annoy her & push her away. If she truly loves &/or values you, she won't be gone for long.

@bittmanbobby

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I listened to that idiot Bacon or whatever and failed miserable. NC it is, back to square one

Hey coach I am just curious on what you think on my situation. My girlfriend has pulled away for a couple days before when things were good and she always came back. This time though things were going really good she almost always reaches out to me perusing me saying she loves me more than I do to her. Then suddenly boom just complete 180 turn. I haven’t acted on any of my anxiety feelings or anything just three days cold turkey. Should I just wait it out? She did this last month but only a couple a days. I know her dog just died a week ago and it is that time of the month. It just confused me. I sensed right away though it was a test.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

If she's a committed girlfriend (she's made it official with you), then give her a couple more days. If you still haven't heard from her, then reach out asking her if everything is okay (on rarer occasions women will pull away because they're hurt or feel like you're not investing enough). Just don't make i about you by saying things like, "are you mad at me?", or "did I do something wrong?", or anything like that. If she gets angry & asks why you haven't reached out, turn it around onto her & tell her that you felt that she needed some space. However, three days isn't that uncommon. It may seem like a lifetime to you, because you're waiting & your anxiety is high, but this will happen occasionally.

@mossanator1666

2 жыл бұрын

She just texted me and said she said it was to the wrong person. It was about one of her class test. How do I respond to this? I am now confused.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@@mossanator1666 Most likely it wasn't the wrong person & she's just trying to get your attention, because she hasn't heard from you either. Respond playfully...eg: "I have the answers to the test if you do a little naked dance for me". Use your own personality though.

@mossanator1666

2 жыл бұрын

Well she seems to be more response now and is actually flirting back. Now do I use this opportunity to set a date or should I stretch this out a little more?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@@mossanator1666 Set a definite date, then get off the phone (perhaps telling her that you're bit busy at the moment)...& tell her that you're looking forward to seeing her on your date, or something similar. Then try to keep your calls/texting to a minimum in between dates. When she reaches out & you don't already have a date planned, assume that she's reaching out because she wants to see you & arrange another date. If she's reaching out a lot & you have dates already planned, simply ask her..."are you trying to tell me that you want to see me more?" or something similar. This way, all the time you're spending together is more or less her idea, which essentially means that SHE is chasing YOU. However, every now & then don't be available. It' best that you have other activities, hobbies, goals, etc that you're involved with so you're being honest when you're unavailable or busy. Believe it or not, women respect you more when you put your goals/purpose ahead of her. You still need to make time for her, but you don't want to always drop everything for her or make her the center of your purpose in life.

Hi coach how are you? I am in a bit of a predicament and I said something to a girl I’ve been dating for a month that I hugely regret and she is not contacting me as much. I apologised to her in person already and she told me she is fine but I feel as if I’ve killed things between us. Saturday night I lost my temper but not with her but with myself and Sunday I said something to her during having sex basically stating I didn’t like using a condom and that it wasn’t working for me and she got upset and I apologised straight away. This is completely alien of me and I really like this girl and I don’t want to lose her. What should I do if she isn’t contacting me? Please help me coach. Thankyou

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

What you said really isn't bad....just her reaction to it was bad, & honestly I can't imagine why. Sometimes women will react badly to something you said as a test to see if you back down & start getting apologetic. So, unless you've truly done something wrong or bad, I recommend that you do not apologize. Now, you've already apologized & she said she was fine, so there's really not much else you can do at this point. I recommend that you just give her some space. I'm almost positive that this is more about her needing a little space to process everything. Once she begins to miss you she will be back. If you continue to chase her, chances are she will keep this going much longer, because she knows she's holding the power.

@jasonstatham4834

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction okay coach much appreciated! One more thing though, she is texting me and has agreed to meet me Wednesday. Should I play it cool and take her to somewhere she’d like to go to cheer her up and should I not mention anything unless she brings it up? Or should I just distance myself instead like you say even though we continue to text each other? Thank you coach you are a star!! I promise this is the last question!

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@jasonstatham4834 You should meet her if she's up to it...face to face is always better than text, because you can escalate into the bedroom. However, you never want to give her a treat after she's snubbing or punishing you for something where you did nothing wrong. It just reeks of supplication, which will turn her off. Instead, just take her some place where you can BOTH have fun, without having to spend as lot of money (eg: bowling, arcade, walk in the park, ice cream, etc). And no...do not bring this up again. Even if she wants to talk about it, don't engage too deeply in the conversation & change the subject quickly. Talking about it will just lead to more drama & make her upset all over again. HER: I want to talk about what happened the other night. YOU: Well, I apologized. There's nothing more to be said. Hey, what flavor ice cream do you want?

@jasonstatham4834

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Hi coach, good news she has agreed to meet me and go for a nice walk! So I’m playing it cool and going with the flow, nothing serious just gunna put a smile on her face! Lol coach your amazing! Thank you so much! I will continue to recommend you all my friends! Much love from the UK🇬🇧🇬🇧

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@jasonstatham4834 Great! Glad to hear it! 👍🏻

I also know she has a lot of school work to do.

How the hell would any marriage work ? Your together all the time , do everything together ?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

The trick is to have a life independent of your relationship/marriage. Of course you live together & will spend time together, but you must BOTH have activities & projects to do that doesn't include the other. Perhaps you take night classes, shoot hoops with your buddies on Tuesday nights, building your man-cave in the basement. See what i mean? This will give you time apart & create a little space & mystery between you two. I'll actually be doing a video on this topic soon.

Omg now I know what a guy feels like when we women act this crazy lol 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You'll learn a lot about how men feel in my videos...

TopMan

I have a situation I need advice on: my ex broke up with me a week ago after a 3 year relationship saying she was confused and didn’t know what to do but I begged for 3 days to stay together which didn’t work so I waited around 4 days an send “Hey, sorry I was acting the way I did a few days ago. That wasn’t me. I honestly feel just as stressed about other things in my life too and it won’t happen again. Wish you well.” She responded “It’s okay, I’ve been bitchy and angry lately too, I think it’s just stress and trying to deal with emotions. “ I then said “I’m open again to try again in the future but my mind has changed a lot sense we talked last and I need to work on myself for me and if I move on I move on” which she than said “That’s exactly where I’m at, focus on myself and ensure that I’m happy, let time heal a little bit and then if we find each other we find each other” Did I blow my chances of getting back together and will no contact work?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

I answered this in your other comment.

Me and my gf of 7years had alittle argument about not spending enough time together. Im in school full time and I haven’t seen her for about 3 weeks. I’ve try to make time for her but when the day come to hang out, she has something else going on. It been going on like this for a while now. so I confront her about it and got mad that she does this. She said he like chilling w herself and by herself with a laughing emoji then didn’t text back. I haven’t spoken to her for a bout a week now and I haven’t reach out to her and I notice she deleted my pic on social media and like dudes pic. She had deleted pic of me before when we argue but this is the first tome I haven’t spoken to her for this long. I haven’t contacted her yet but I feel like she paying games w me and testing me for the things on social media?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

I would say that she's definitely testing you. Much of women's testing comes across like game playing. She knows this stuff (her comment with the laughing emojis, removing your pic, etc) is getting under your skin. The more you show her that her behavior is having an effect on you, the more she will continue to do it. Women can be ruthless in this way. If you can show her that this behavior doesn't bother you, she will slowly stop doing it. In the meantime, I recommend that you continue to make plans with her like you normally would. If she can't make it, then it's her loss. And if she cancels or can't make the plans you arrange, then YOU go out & do something fun for yourself. If you handle it this way, & if she cares about you, she will not be continuing this for long. Just be patient & strong.

@xXJandroXx13

4 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction thanks for the fast reply! And yes she can be ruthless. Sometimes I get too confortable with everything going good. I’m still in no contact mode so let see how this goes. Thanks for the advice you give us. Sure helps a lot of us

dat cam!

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

I've gotten a new camera (much higher quality) since this video...

Heyy... My Girl is being weird ASF... Things were going good we were meeting in school and even video chatting but suddenly After November 18th she is not talking to me the way she used to do... I confronted her said sorry for the fight we had and she said it's ok... But still she was being distant so I watched your videos and I'm following all the advices for nearly 1 week and yesterday she texted me good night and even said love you, I thought the things got back to normal so today I texted her "hey" and she left it on seen... I REALLY NEED YOUR ADVICE PLEASE I REALLY LOVE HER

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

It sounds like she did lose some attraction, but often a woman losing attraction isn't permanent. Her testing 'goodnight' & 'love you' is a good a sign, but it seems that she is not completely ready yet. Let her respond to your last message, & when she does you want to just pretend like everything is ok. Just be that fun, charming guy that she fell for & try to arrange a date. Do not dwell on her recent distance towards you. As a man, you must take the lead & that includes emotionally. Perhaps she feels you're mad at hr for some reason. So, show her that everything is ok & get the relationship back to fun.

When my girlfriend pulled away I acted out of anger because i couldn't understand why she was acting different and I was frustrated when I try to communicate with her she beats around the bush now she barely texts me back now I wonder if my anger is messing up things or is it something else this has been going on for two weeks now. She even said she'll give me another chance but frustration gets the best of me because we been together for year and all of a sudden things started changing

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, you're anger & impatience are most likely playing a large role in this. You may be showing signs of needy behavior elsewhere. I have a lot of videos dedicated to behavior that turns women off & on. I recommend that you just back off, as difficult as it is, & let her come to you. Society teaches us that we must chase women, but that is wrong. Keep yourself busy & let her reach out to you. She will once she begins to miss you. I did a video just recently about the mistakes men make when their girl pulls away: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZIJtm9lshticmrQ.html

@birdwayne4358

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction thank you so much that helped out alot i will definitely look at your video and take your advice and see how it goes.

@birdwayne4358

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction she reached out to me and said she misses me but i keep on messing up and keep on asking for answers on why she not trying to get things back to where they are and it seems like she gets mad and pulls away again i want to just stop all communication with her because shes not putting in the same effort but i love her a lot.. When she moved out my apartment that's when everything first started going bad

Dont tell her how you feel, woman are more attracted to men whoms feelings are unclear. Any update on this girl? Always monkeybrance bro, keep chicks as orbitters :) I was just like this guy once. My ex broke me also :D Im a a%%hole now. And proud of it!

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Just be careful, because MANY men who come into this information tend to swing too far the other way & are now too cold or too much of an a-hole. I was one of those guys, & that doesn't work either. There's a balance. The idea is to communicate your desire for her, but in such a way where there's a little question mark behind that, where she's not 100% sure where she stands with you. Mixed signals are key; however, if you're mostly focused on yourself & your purpose this will come naturally.

So my gf is doing the same thing to me very similar to this story. Been together 4 months and everything was perfect. She is a single mom of 2 girls 9 and 15 and has a very demanding and stressful job. Our relationship was going very fast and blossoming. Meet her whole family even spent a weekend at here mothers house. Her family loves me very much. But then about 4 to 5 weeks ago things changed she wasn’t responding or talking to me as much or spending weekends with me anymore. Now she goes days without speaking or texting me. I would see her at least 1 once a week. Few days ago she sent me an long text explaining she’s know That she hasn’t made time for me but has been so busy with work and the kids and she is also going to start her masters program as well. And that she really doesn’t have time for a relationship anymore. What I want to know is why all of a sudden? And she said would sit down and talk to me and yet still haven’t weekend passed and haven’t heard a word from her ??? She says she still loves me. I have gone into no contact!!! Do I still have a chance or is she done being that she hasn’t called or texted all weekend and that has never happened. Btw you are to best !!! Love your videos , the way you explain comes so genuine and you really know what your talking about !! Please help !!FYI ... she said we need to talk but still haven’t met to talk with me so we haven’t officially broke up or are we broken up ???

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

I thought this was a great question & I decided to answer it in a video. kzread.info/dash/bejne/Yqpk29Z_lZW0p7w.html

@LINKGT23

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction thanks coach your the best !!!! You been keeping me level headed for a couple months now. Your the best huge fan.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man! I really do appreciate your support!

@LINKGT23

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction just saw the video and you hit a homerun!!! She did say I only thing I focus on is working out and her. But ever since that conversation I went out and got a 2nd job and started a business just to prove to her that I’m not lazy. And right away I started dating and talking to other women. But it still hurts. This was the text she sent me. That caused all this. Just finished. I’m with the girls at home Vivi is cuddled up next to me and I honestly don’t feel like driving anywhere. I’m tired and I just want to be here laying with them. I’m sorry baby. I feel terrible i know this is not how either one of us pictured things would be because everything started so differently and I know you couldn’t possibly be happy with the way things are going. I know what I takes to get it there but I honestly can’t make it happen. We need to talk and it’s just to elaborate on all of this and see where we go from here. I would like to do so in person and with enough time to not leave anything unsaid. During the week that is very unlikely but I promise to make time this weekend. I love you very much and I don’t want to hurt you so I just want to be forward. I’m going to sleep. Gnite So I shouldn’t contact her what so ever !!! And let her contact me ??

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

It sounds like she does care for you very much, which is a good sign. Plus she's being honest with you, which she could have easily just strung you along. So, she does care. I've been through similar situations before & more often than not she just needed a little space. I'm not guaranteeing anything, because everyone is a little different, but to me it sounds like she just needs some space. So, no...do not initiate any contact with her until you hear from her first. If she gets upset about that, just tell her that she seemed a bit overwhelmed & you felt she needed some space. Don't make any excuses for yourself to her...you have nothing to prove. Outside of that, just follow what I suggested in the video & that's your best coarse of action here until she (if she does) begins to pull you back in. Yes, it does hurt, but be confident in the fact that you have options...your preference is just her at the moment.

No one’s answering my question. Can you? Please?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

A question in these comments?

@sheadiggs9355

4 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction I done left this question on so many videos and no one has answered. I just want to know why would she block me and not say anything, when I support her and her daughter, I always compliment, and I spoil her. I just don’t get it

@sheadiggs9355

4 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction and not in these comments on other videos like it

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@sheadiggs9355 I haven't seen any of your comments. I try to answer everyone. Anyway, based on what you shared here I can't say for sure why she blocked you. There are many reasons why that could have happened. If you're interested in private coaching we could get to the bottom of it, I'm sure. However, I can say you complimenting her too much & spoiling her will turn any woman off. I realize that is counter-intuitive, as we're constantly told to put women on a pedestal & they'll love you forever as a result. The truth is, women want a man who is the prize, & by doing things like you mentioned you were doing, it sends her the message that SHE is the prize. There's nothing wrong with expressing your love & admiration for her, but you must do it in such a way where it's a treat for her. If you give her too much she will begin to lose respect for you. And women cannot love a man whom they don't respect. Unfortunately she has left you no choice, but they best way to handle this is to let her go. This conveys that YOU are the prize. And if she truly loves &/or values you, she WILL be back at some point in the future. I know it's really difficult; I've been there many times myself. The trick is to turn your focus onto yourself & building your own value; pursuing your goals/hobbies, health/fitness (body, mind, spirit), & building/maintaining your social circle...& at this point, this includes getting back out there & meeting/dating new women.

How do I explain to my ex boyfriend that he is calling me to much?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

That's tricky. While it's always best to be direct with men, I can see how it might hurt his feelings. Perhaps start by softening the blow by telling him how much you love talking to him &/or spending time with him, but that you really need some "me time" as well. I also have a blog post on the importance of giving women space. Perhaps send him it as a hint. I know of a few times that women have sent their boyfriends one of my videos/posts as a hint: www.skillofattraction.com/importance-giving-women-space/

17:44

Problems happen at the pull away and they get away with it.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Well, if you chase her when she pulls away it will only make things worse. However, women pull away...it;s just part of who they are, because they follow their emotions.

@RAJ1

4 жыл бұрын

​@@SkillofAttraction Thanks it was a mistake I made in the past. This pulling away is something they played on me often. They said that they appreciate my patience but it only amounted to them waisting it. Anything good that I contributed it was squandered only to find that they into a toxic relationship with another man that did not treat them well. I had to let them go and I not taking them back. I'm taking research with professionals like yourself and finding ways to mature as an individual.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@RAJ1 All women do the pull away occasionally, so it's not something that just happens to you. They do this when they begin to get a little bored, a bit too familiar with you, or feel that they have all the power. Don't chase them, just turn your attention elsewhere until they reengage. It's easier said than done, but it works like a charm.

@RAJ1

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I'll extend my patience but I don't want to be in a place where I am the slave in the friendship and things grow one sided.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@RAJ1 You won't fall into the friend zone this way. If you chase her you will though. Plus, I'm sure you don't want to breakup with a girl every time she pulls away. All women do this & it will happen occasionally throughout the entire relationship. Have you seen this video yet? It's a newer video on this exact topic: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZIJtm9lshticmrQ.html

He needs to not text & call when a woman leaves town.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Correct...typically not a good idea to be texting/calling your girl when she's out of town or on vacation. Insecurity vibes.

@psalms1163

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction that is smoothering her. Every lady needs breathing room.

@psalms1163

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction my ex wife divorced me 10 years ago and she has been trying over & over & over to get back with me and I was the problem not her for the divorce. Very ironic. .. I did advance myself after she left. I lost weight. I bought a few bmws, a few Mercedes, a few motorcycles and other boy toys too.. my ex advanced now over the past 10 years. She also had many failed relationships..

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@psalms1163 Many men, after they get over the initial heartbreak & have leveled up in life, often find that they don't really want their ex back. They find their own value & realize they can do better.

Wanted to catch some value on a short trip. Listened for 3 minutes and you were still on "commercials". Too much of that up front. Had to stop listening and got zero content, which I bet was good.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Men don't complain about that which they can change themselves. Skipping the video all together is only hurting yourself.

@CoreZeroStudios

2 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I get that. I was just mildly irritated that I wanted some good content and after 3 minutes you were still talking about 900 ways to contact you. I was disappointed because I didn't get any content. That's just how the day was rolling I ran out of time and I ran out of patience. I know I'm just complaining and I don't know if this is valuable at all to you in terms of experience but typically I won't come back. As a matter of fact if I'm sure that all of your videos start with 3 to 5 minutes of ads and mentioning your website 12 times then I probably actually never would go back. Anyway sorry I didn't mean to get on your back I was just ticked off.

Fellas just simply buy an android woman .

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

That would certainly be easier, but when you get this stuff down & put it into practice, you will experience a woman's love & affection like you've never experienced before...

Dude, spend less time self plugging. Do it in a succinct manner.

@SkillofAttraction

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for the tip!

Don't date single mothers

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

I think that depends. I know this is parroted throughout the manosphere, but I personally don't agree 100%. I've dated single moms & I haven't had the issues that others say they've had. But, if that's your personal choice, nothing wrong with that.

MGTOW is the answer.

You talk too much about nothing

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Men don't complain about that which they can change themselves.