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@jarvispitt9198

Жыл бұрын

Wow coach thank you for putting me in check I got a little rusty do you got a video and how not to get ghosted LOL it seems like that's very common nowadays even with a 7 I think I'll go for tens and 12 feedback please you have great wisdom

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@jarvispitt9198 I have a video on the most common reasons men get ghosted: kzread.info/dash/bejne/Ymx3lrhxc8zJhJM.html

@jarvispitt9198

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction thank you brother that was very powerful information and what was so tripped-out is when she turned ice cold I said sweetheart are you married? She said if that's what you want to call it LOL she had no ring on and every time I went in did a convenience store she was all over me not to boast being a boxer for 15 years I know I had it over her guy but what can I say money is power but she sure ain't happy it was too much baggage anyways you just got to say there's something better and there usually is

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@jarvispitt9198 If she's married, then you dodged a bullet. I can tell you from experience that if you got yourself involved with a married woman, it would've not turned out well. It's extremely rare that someone will leave their spouse for an affair partner & even more rare that the relationship will actually work out long term. Not only that, but you could be dealing with a very angry husband. People have gotten killed over things like that.

@jarvispitt9198

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction yes sir brother that's why I didn't get mad that much when she ghosted me I've been down that road before I've had women lie to me have guns pulled out on me get into fights never started but I'm too old for that s*** I'd rather be alone with my Hound then be staring down the barrel of a 45 thank you brother for your Insight I can tell you been around the block your much appreciated your friend Jarvis

I'm a woman and these are exactly the things that turn me off. Desperation is a huge turn off!

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly! Thank you for confirming for my male viewers.

The cure for neediness is diversification. Never rely on one source of income and never rely one peice of ass. Always diversify!!!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

True

@zardozthehammer2023

5 жыл бұрын

Keep spinning plates. When she senses competition she will step up her game.

@RedShipsofSpainAgain

5 жыл бұрын

love love love LOVE this. This is exactly the strategy that works

@antoniomitchell1883

5 жыл бұрын

@@GaryFowler2906 which increases your risk of prostate cancer.

@nathandennis8078

5 жыл бұрын

@@antoniomitchell1883 that's where your fuck boy comes into play with that mindset

basically, when you do something too many time it starts to lose meaning and feels less genuine, sometimes i even start questioning the guy's motives when he starts overdoing it. just work on your confidence, relax and it will feel natural to you and her, it's not complicated, its just that insecurity can rarely be hidden and it starts showing in everything you do. that's at least what i've noticed.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

You're exactly correct! I've talked about men overdoing it, or doing things/buying gifts as a way to buy a woman's love & how women can sense that it's inauthentic in some of my other videos. And yes, men really only have to work on building their value/confidence & much of what i teach will come naturally.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

@Nic777 Yup! Exactly! It scares women & only lessens one's chances of attracting her.

It's when you don't give a F that magic really happens.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Pretty much...

@shexbdiamond4833

4 жыл бұрын

10 Minutes to Craps-Roulette Fortune I agree

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

That's usually when you are already with a woman.

@10MinutestoRouletteFortune

4 жыл бұрын

@@GeeCeeWU yeah, it's called divorce.

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

@@10MinutestoRouletteFortune Tell me about it.

10 Most common needy mistakes 1. Texting TOO much (initiate TOO much) 2. Confronting her on why she took so long to respond to your text 3. Being to available for her. 4. Leaning in to talk to her! 5. Showering her with compliments, gifts, and etc. 6. Expressing your feelings for her too early. 7. When you show up to her house or work unannounced. 8. Being overly affectionate with her. 9. Agreeing with everything she says. 10. Relationship labels

@naomigates30

5 жыл бұрын

The man of my dreams..except for #7 lol

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

@Naomi g - It sounds good logically until you get a guy that does all those things. Then you'll be like, "Eew". What looks good on paper to women are often a turn-off emotionally.

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

@@naomigates30 Really Naomi, there is hope then.

I like this guy he's simple and gets straight to the point

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

@seekingthemiddleway4048

2 жыл бұрын

Took 4 minutes to get to the first point though.

The most important thing to remember: Just don’t be yourself

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

You want to be a better version of yourself...

@guesswho5790

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

@Nathan Dennis - You interpret being 'a better version of yourself' as being subservient to women??? Wow! Well, that's what men do, whether a woman is in their life or not.

@GaryFowler2906

5 жыл бұрын

Nathan Dennis agree you bro 1000%! The meaning of “Be a better version of yourself”, simply means WE, as men are not ENOUGH! Why the fuck must men bend themselves into fucking pretzels just so women will like us and find us worthy of their attention. It’s bull shit

@nathandennis8078

5 жыл бұрын

@@GaryFowler2906 that's where you get players from they are smart enough to not deal with a womans bullshit. Thank God I'm not one of them sndnim suffering because of it lol

I hate the fact that interacting with women requires a checklist. Do this. Don't do that. Do the following in this order. Look for these signs. If it has to be this complicated it should be definitely taught in school.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Relationship dynamics should definitely be taught in school! However, the idea with these videos is to internalize the information so you know it naturally & there's no checklist required.

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

im telling you when you find a girl you really like, dont push her and trust your gut.

@GaryFowler2906

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. It’s all bull shit. The guy is the prize

@mikemarschall4044

5 жыл бұрын

1 day maybe. But distinction is how the world thrives so probably not

@daveanthony2959

4 жыл бұрын

Flim Flam Well said

I was browsing youtube to figure out why I am so turned off by the guy I am dating. I was feeling so guilty for finding a nice person repulsive. And there you go, all the 10 things hit home and I feel like running and hiding. It's not that women want to be treated bad, but I really expect a guy to have his own life. When he is so focused on me it feels like being stalked and being pressured to feel something that I eventually won't. This is a really insightful video for both sexes. Thanks for putting it out there .

I love how both sexes have the same problems. I have been told I can be needy and insecure but I didn't really know what that meant. And now I'm thinking about all those guys who I broke up with because of some of these points, too. We are just SO eager sometimes it's overwhelming. This is some solid advice and it's all making sense now. So, thank you very much.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's true. Though, my videos are geared towards men, most of what I teach could be applied for women as well. There are some, usually subtle, differences, but for the most part this is human psychology. In terms of neediness, men are typically a bit more tolerant of it coming from women...however, women are almost never tolerant of it coming from men.

I am a wife married for 20 years to a needy man. It’s exhausting. My husband constantly sends texts, calls numerous times for very small reasons and pouts if he doesn’t get attention all the time. It’s super disruptive and inconsiderate. From my experience and observation over the years, I think this shows immaturity, control issues and low self-esteem.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're exactly right...it "shows immaturity, control issues and low self-esteem". And I'm sure you've found that it's a real turn-off.

@RsZ789

3 жыл бұрын

How did you make it through for 20 years?

@maximuscomfort

Жыл бұрын

@@RsZ789 🤣

@ralfj.1740

Жыл бұрын

I'd get a divorce!

@trendy_nails

9 ай бұрын

And extreme selfishness!

Great advice. Most women don’t like the constant texting and then the follow up getting called on the carpet for not responding in their time regardless of what you are doing is totally on point. So frustrated with this behavior.

@internetisnotreal

5 жыл бұрын

Susan Coomes -until -of course- when you’re in love with said guy and YOU want to talk to him - whenever you want lol- come on- lady’s wake up - woman are part of the problem as well- men and women are too divided and women play just as big of a part in it with the hypocrisy...

This is one of the few advice videos that are actually sensible and down to earth. It doesn't portray women like insane people, just really cautious ones, and it doesn't tell us men to be less than human (desensitized, ultra confident, incapable of being hurt). Since a lot of these "relationship advice" videos are ONLY about getting women into bed, which is alright and some people may only want that, but you're one of the few to actually mention a serious relationship. Bravo.

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks man! My goal is more about sparking & maintaining attraction, from dating into & throughout a long term relationship.

This new guy is acting soo needy and desperate that he is making me reminisce about my ex (who is apparently considered to be a " Chad"- a term I learned while navigating here on KZread) . He is overdoing everything so much so soon , that I am starting to strategize a way out of his life. I don't want to just block him , because he seems to be a nice guy. However my body jumps literally every time I get a text or a phone call now... ...I am starting to develop anxiety- as I feel suffocated and drained from our interactions- and I am sure that this is the complete opposite of what he wants from me. I didn't really know what I was dealing with at first, but he displays everything that you mentioned here. I wanted to see where things would go, but I am totally turned off.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, "Chad" = alpha...or sexy guy who knows how to keep a woman attracted, even if he might be a jerk sometimes. You're in a position that many women find themselves in these days. While he may be sweet, good looking & "nice", he's also smothering, needy, exhausting & ultimately unattractive. It's difficult, but the best thing that you can do when you want to get through to a man is to be direct. That's the only language men understand clearly. Either way, thanks for sharing & confirming why needy men are such a turn-off.

Oddly enough, everything you just recommended is solid advice. At least for me personally as a woman, yeah, it sends me running for the hills. I am here cause a guy was doing this stuff to me recently and I had to look it up.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Women typically find needy men to be repulsive. Some are more tolerant than others, but it's a very unattractive quality in anyone, but especially in men. The reason why is, because it communicates emotional weakness. If you're interested, I have another video from a woman's POV about over-available men: kzread.info/dash/bejne/dZyblM-KnJnKmtI.html

Good vid! I unfortunately made almost all of these mistakes in my previous relationship. For me a lot of this came from a lack of confidence, a lack of self esteem, lack of self love (getting attached and relying her for happiness), thinking all you have to do is be nice/kind, lack of experience, trying too hard, a warped perception of how relationships works, and all that crap. It was a good learning experience though, you gotta love yourself and believe in yourself before you really begin to love others.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're exactly right! I used to do all these things too...& for the same reasons.

@zyrxsounds

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Yes ..it’s same here , clearly points out my mistakes, but now it’s how to reset my mind I need help with How to flip my mind to view things the other way around.. never had experience so i don’t know how to go about it

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@zyrxsounds You first want to understand how female attraction works. You can learn from my videos & other coach's videos. I can also recommend some books if you would like. Once you begin to understand that it will be much easier for you to know what to do & what NOT to do when it comes to women. It will also help you to begin a lifestyle change. If you're having problems now, that means what you have been doing in your life so far doesn't work. Women are most attracted to men who dominate in life, so you want to pursue your goals/hobbies, your health/fitness (body, mind, spirit), & building/maintaining your social circle...including getting comfortable talking & flirting with women. Doing just what I've mentioned here will have you WAY ahead of 90% of the men who would be your competition, plus you will notice your confidence rising significantly. Women LOVE confident men.

#8...."being over affectionate:"was my stcking point. ..thank you! !!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

That's an easy trap to fall into. It's not about NOT showing her affection, women love that! It's about being cognizant of where she is at emotionally in that moment (women's emotions are always in flux...one moment they're crazy about you, the next they don't want to be around you), but not showing hr ore affection than she's showing you. You must always give women the idea that they have to earn your affection, because once they take it for granted they begin to pull away & become distant. And if you chase her, it only makes it worse.

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

I've been guilty of that more than once, but it seemed the natural thing to do.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@GeeCeeWU We've all been guilty of that at some point. There's nothing wrong with being very affectionate. It's just that she must be in the same place in that moment or it can come across as being needy or smothering.

I love your videos man! Keep doing the good work! You saves my relationship! Thank you Sir.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's great, man! Always glad to hear that I've helped someone!

Jesus, how complicated women are. I'll die alone, it's ridiculous!!!!!!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

They're only complicated because society has conditioned us men to believe that all it takes is to just be sweet, thoughtful, nice & commitment focused, & women will love us forever. Those things are not what stirs up a woman's emotions & are only acceptable after she's already in love with you...AND as long as you continue to convey masculine energy. However, you're here trying to learn this stuff, so you're already ahead of most men.

@drm86dj

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction You're right coach. What sucks is the idea that I acted completely wrong in this situation and may have lost her for good, since it wasn't a long relantionship. It's tough to know that I couldve avoided it in the first place, bit you know, I can't change what happened, just pray for her reacheas out to me again or wake up one day healed from it!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, you can't change the past, nor should you focus on it. That will only keep you bitter &/or mad at yourself. Forgive yourself & learn from your mistakes. She may reach out again, but don't count on it. It'll be much easier for you to heal that way, as opposed to holding onto hope.

@drm86dj

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction thanks for the words coach!

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

@@drm86dj I almost got the girl of my dreams but i said i didnt like her when she asked a friend to ask me. 13 years later i finally start learning the correct way and i did it automatically all those years ago. Id still marry her if i had the chance.

That's good, Erik. Sometimes I'm such a klutz when I'm trying to be myself. I've still got some work to do on myself. Thanks.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You just want to keep practicing until you begin to feel comfortable being yourself. You'll feel better & people will notice the positive change in you...

@joeb5578

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Thanks.

If she doesnt respond to the text message just leave her alone and go and place your attention on the next chick who is. Problem solved why deal with a problem

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

True, but if men weren't acting needy & chasing her in the first place her texting back probably wouldn't even be an issue. Most men don't even realize that they're behaving needy, turning women off.

@h22sparkle

5 жыл бұрын

True but this is why i just deal with multiple women

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That;s the best way to do it...

@h22sparkle

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction that way if one screws up or attempts to control the relationship let them go why because believe it or not most of them are damaged goods more of them hide it better than others. Steer clear of the trainwreck

@Sunshinestarryrose

5 жыл бұрын

or just call her like a grown man who can communicate because sometimes texts don't go through or can become annoying to have to keep responding to.

Great video. #8 . Thanks a million 13:55 pay attention to signs is so true

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Spot on information man,solid

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

The sad part is I already did text her much now, she won't respond. But thanks for this video.. I feel strong!!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Then stop initiating contact until she begins to reach out to you. Sometimes when girls stop responding it's simply because she just needs a little space. Give her the gist of missing you.

I enjoyed the content. Good job👍

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

This man has read "How to be a 3% Man" at least 15 times. Good work!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

I've read many books.

Solid advice! Thanks! : )

This channel is too underrated!!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Thank you!

Great Work 👍

It’s quite sad that we guys are going out of our busy day to keep in touch with a girl and actually putting effort into developing a relashionship just to find out we are being needie and doing too much.. i’m a victim of this. Last year a girl i knew starting texting me and i didn’t like her that much i was giving short answers and stuff. Currenly i’m starting to like her a lot and when i finnaly got the balls to text her it was great at the start... she wanted to meet up and stuff but now.. she doesn’t really text and not once she has taken interest in asking how i’m doing... crazy world we live in🤔

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

And this is why I teach this stuff. Society, religion & our own logical male brains have thrown us men so far off course when it comes to attracting women & having healthy, fulfilling relationships. The reason why she's not chasing you anymore is because you are chasing her. Relationships are feminine energy & you trying to have one with her is confusing her emotionally. If you could have the same 'take it or leave it' attitude that you did when she was chasing you, she would begin chasing you again. The only difference now is that, you like her would be to make a date with her when she does reach out to you. Let her come to you.

@wariswrong4920

5 жыл бұрын

@@freddyleftyou486 - This is why you have to have 6 irons in the fire at once. Only message her funny stuff like KZread vids that you likely send to others as well. Don't ask her how she's doing for instance

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

@@wariswrong4920 A woman I adored started sending me pictures of her family, her vegetable garden, her ducks, her dinner and videos about farting; was I friend zoned?

@kbanjnoturningback5217

4 жыл бұрын

I'm also a victim of this one She is starting pulling away I'm very happy to come across this articles I start be there also for her I need more advices

@modickens1272

4 жыл бұрын

@@GeeCeeWU no, she's sharing aspects of her life with you. Always ask yourself a simple question in regards to womens behavior. Would she act this way or do this if I was 90 and weighed 500lbs? Ie. Sending selfies, etc. If the answer is no, then there's at least some level of attraction

I agree with you... Totally correct

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

This girl made me feel a little needy not gonna lie. Long story short i called her the other day, we talked a lot both very engaged in the convo (this was a day after out first date which went extremely well I'd say). Then near the end she kinda hints that I should stop calling her by saying: We'll talk soon but it doesn't have to be tomorrow cause you're busy right?" At that point I knew exactly what she was telling me: "You're being a little needy, back off and let me miss you." Im not contacting her first anymore, . Risky but whatever If it's meant to be, she'll come around, if not then it's not.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're definitely right. Good job paying attention & reading the signs. Yes, she will reach out if/when she misses you & wants to connect. When that happens, have a short & upbeat conversation then arrange a date. You don't want to get sucked into phoneship. It's better to have those conversations in person.

Amazing information 🙌

Good video learn a lot thank you for telling us great video.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Great great info !!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@gemomo1595

5 жыл бұрын

Do you have an email addy i could msg you at ?. I love your info and watching your vids have alleviated some anxiety Im feeling with this girl Ive been seeing.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, in the description for this video (or all my videos) there's a link to both my contact page & my coaching page on my website.

Wooooowww!!! The lean thing just blew me back! Lol I went on a date with a guy who hit me the leaning move, I was bothered by it so much & couldn’t figure out why😳! Geez, he’s such a cool guy but his refusal to pump the breaks is a major turn off & red flag! He doesn’t even know that much about me & is eager to settle. Thats not good, he’s more into the idea of me for him instead of who I am...it’s been only a month. 😰💀

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

I assume you mean that he was leaning in? If that's the case, then yes...it really communicates neediness. People think it's so subtle that it's unimportant, but you were feeling it without even understanding why.

Personally I think your are the best teacher over others on KZread , very mature , confident ,smart ...at brief moment I thought that you are a woman and you were trying to describe women from within

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Haha! Thanks...I think.

@Rawyalty220

3 жыл бұрын

Such a backhanded compliment

Hey Eric. I'm a 20 year old guy currently working on getting his life together(moving from troubled family, EMT training, education,fitness,etc) before I pursue any romantic relationship. You make many good points in these videos and as someone who has Asperger's I've made more than a few of these mistakes with friendships as well as a crush or two. I especially appreciate how you point out how movies and TV have basically lied to us and play a role in how we percieve what is and isn't appropriate in romantic relationships. I hope you are doing well during the times we are in.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

That's great that you're making so much progress! I bet you're beginning to feel amazing & confident! And many men, with or without Asperger's, make these same mistakes. There was a time I made these mistakes as well. Staying focused mostly on yourself & building a life of abundance will really help get rid of the neediness naturally.

@galacticgambit2072

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Thanks. Side question, but what's your thoughts on the ''high school is the best years of your life'' idea?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@galacticgambit2072 That's certainly not the case for a majority of men. Typically, men don't peak until they're around 40-45, & at the top of their game (if they work at it) at around 30-35. Those aren't hard & fast rules, but it's something you can use to gauge. In fact, many men's coaches don't recommend marrying a woman until they're in their 30s at least, as we have to build our value & that of curse takes time. The more value that you have as a man, the more choices you will have with women. So, you're on he right path!

@galacticgambit2072

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Yeah, that also seemed to just be something further reinforced by Hollywood. and I'll be glad to move out since aside from years of family dysfunction my mother keeps asking if I'm gay and bringing up marriage and children...never mind the global pandemic and civil unrest going on still

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@galacticgambit2072 Pressure from family is always a pain. But don't let them pressure you into anything you don't want to do or that you're not ready for. In other words, don't get involved with a woman (or worse, marry her) just to make your family happy...you can easily regret that down the road.

I'm a woman and I know your advice is targeted at men, but I have been binge watching your channel since I found it. I just wanted to say that it has been really helping me to understand why I am losing interest in my current bf. Before, I couldn't clarify what it was he was doing that was turning me off and it was confusing me. Now it makes sense and I feel validated. Before I kept thinking maybe I was over-reacting. Thanks so much for sharing all your knowledge.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

That's great that you found my videos helpful, even though it kinda sucks for your guy. However, now having an understanding of why certain things turn you on/off you will be able to filter men much easier, so you don't end up wasting your time with guys who just don't get it.

Good video!

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

This guy's spot on!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Very good, thanks for the tips

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

@antoniomitchell1883

5 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to get a six pack like that.

Thank you I have a Capricorn woman, she at least knows I love her.

You are very good, I am a female listening to this video, Just to see what your advice was & you are spot on 😃 I thankyou for doing this and putting out your work, because I think that a lot of men has lost the art of relationship skills with women, ☺️ Good job 👍👏

@SkillofAttraction

5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

This happened to me. Due to my past experience I had a fear of him leaving which caused my insecurity, jealous and controlling behaviour. Coz of that he broke up our 10yrs relationship. I researched alot learned about my behaviour and felt so bad . Why I haven't known about such facts earlier. This has caused emotional damage. I truly want our relationship to work but he is cold.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

We should be taught this in school! Breakups certainly hurt, especially after being together for so long & him unilaterally ending the relationship. However, sometimes if you just give him some time & space (ie: no contact), they realize that the breakup was a mistake & they don't like life without you. Plus, you've had 10 years together...that's not easy for anyone to walk away from. It would be most beneficial for you to work on & focus on yourself during this no contact period; goals/hobbies, health/fitness (body, mind, spirit), & being social. That will help to keep your mind a bit distracted, bring you sense of accomplishment, & also increases your attractiveness.

Nice pointers learned this thing the hard way take heat and do well

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I learned the hard way as well. My hope is that my mistakes will help to prevent other men from making the same mistakes.

@tboned2928

3 жыл бұрын

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@tboned2928

3 жыл бұрын

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@tboned2928

3 жыл бұрын

Text him on WhatsApp

Ive normally got this so under control until I meet a girl I really like and then I loose my shit against my better judgment which is so frustrating!!!!! Thing is I need a plan for when I mess up, when I try to force it or I express my feelings to quick, what then?

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Haha! That's all of us! The stakes are MUCH higher when we become emotionally engaged &/or have a very high level of attraction. It's really about changing your mindset. You have to see yourself as the prize. If you don't feel that way about yourself, then it's important to begin building your life to where that's an undeniable truth. Having a plan will help, but that's more of a band-aide than a cure.

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

Peter Webster when you really like her its really hard to keep your cool

1 Corinthians 11:7 King James Version (KJV) 7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.

Awesome video

@SkillofAttraction

11 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Thanks for talking about, leaning in. I thought I was being petty, I appreciate some clarification.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's a bigger deal than people think...

@bu4459

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction true. I hadn't realized it was so common, and so commonly misunderstood! I can now help the situation with compassion, instead of contempt.

I’ve always got women and did all this stuff naturally because I am focused on what I want in life. I consider what I have a gift somebody must earn not as a tactic. Watch the phone ring and call them back the next day after lunch. Not that difficult. If you like her genuinely you’ll respect her timing. Its a fact of life to respect them and wait

@SkillofAttraction

19 күн бұрын

That's great! Certainly the right mindset!

it's always about a guy having to do something for a woman to be validated.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Women get validation from your attention...

Getting 25 calls in a 12 hour period is too much for me, especially when 7 of those calls are within the same hour. I have a routine, when I like to go to bed and when I get up. I feel like I have to cut my phone off simply to think. I have my own things to do, work to get done...and he is always telling me to blow it off and come spend the day with him. He always wants to see what's on my phone, who I talk to (family included). I'm at my wits end. I've talked to him about it, tried to interject some humor...he doesn't see it, just gets his feelings hurt. I'm not cold or callous but I'm really starting to resent this unhealthy need for attention.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

That does not sound like a healthy situation at all. And sad to say, but these situations typically don't get better, but worse over time. The trick to get through to men is to be completely direct. If you're hinting or indirectly trying to get him to understand so you won't hurt his feelings, there's a good chance that there's too much grey area & he's not going to get it. Men & women communicate very differently, & while we're not idiots, we take words at face value. We process the exact words that come out of your mouth, typically not picking up on any subtle nuances. So, if you're not being completely direct with him, I recommend to try that. It can be difficult to be that direct with people, especially when you're trying to spare their feelings, but sometimes it's the only way.

Personally the first thing I’d think about if someone asked me what I like in a man, it would be a kind and caring personality.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, those are important & I have mentioned that in some of my videos...however the focus of this channel is what women find attractive viscerally.

Yeah I knew I was doing something wrong ... I was focusing on her smh but I'm about to rebuild her attraction by focusing on my goals in 2019 I'll come back with a update

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Perfect!

@Laflamablanca76

5 жыл бұрын

Why rebuild her attraction though ? Work on yourself and learn from the loss and move on

I see a lot of men complaining about Woking harder to improve themselves for women. Well, you wanna stay single my dude? Exactly! Go work your ass off!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Really, you should be making these improvements for yourself, & a nice byproduct of that is being extremely attractive to women. However, you are very right...lots of complaining here.

Good vid

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

So true. I like a man and he is way to affectionate and i reAlly feel suffocated. I dont want to see him anymore always pushing for affection

@SkillofAttraction

8 ай бұрын

Yes, I try to tell men that pressuring a woman romantically will always cause her to pill away.

I love watching yo videos

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

That’s a good advice brother I remember when I had that girl long distance that used to be all over me but at first I never was into her so after two months pass I started to have feelings for her, and she told me straight that I was too needy I was like how lol cuz I was surprised when she told me that but she was the one that always initiated contact with me, we saw each other too we had a lot fun and I was guessing that she was testing me a lot,she thought I was insecure tho smh even when I knew the games I fell some of it n it was on my fault that I believe on her behavior, I was believing that she was different from these other women because she lived in Europe, and the age that she had make me believe more that she won’t acting this way loll I was 24 and she was 34 shit was so difficult after I felt that women don’t know what they want tho

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Always remember, whichever woman you're involved with, 'she' is not different from the other girls. They are all in the same, in that, they are all wired the same way. Of course they have different personalities, different morals different cultural & religious influences, but what they're drawn to & what they respond to is all the same. Chalk this one up to a lesson learned.

@fouinylantigua5701

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction yes thanks I appreciate it tho I remember sometimes she use to ask for space, but at the very beginning she was all up on me I thought she was so different and I was thinking maybe I was pushing into that relationship too much smh and i learned that women don’t know what they want for real, but before that relationship ended she used to break up with me and come back also we see each other a couple of times, and she used to tell me that we can’t understand each other very well she got upset almost over everything tho, at the end of our relationship I was texting her a lot lot I found out I was doing too much and then I decide to respect everything and go on my way, I don’t know if she ll ever come back, even if she say so

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's true...women don't know what they want. However, all you can do for now is to keep moving forward with yourself, improving yourself, dating new women, etc & if this girl truly values you, she will be back sometime in the future.

7 and 8 T.O

Don’t be a simp don’t be needy and space

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, more or less.

This man knows what he's talking about. I had a FWB then i mention dating and a day later she ended via text it was a age difference too she was 26 im 42 it sucked cause i started to fall for her

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you moved too quickly with her (I have a few videos on this). Despite what you see in society & movies, turning a date/FWB into a relationship is the woman's responsibility. You always want to take things at her pace, while you just focus on arranging dates, having fun with her & gently leading the interaction into the bedroom. She will begin to hint at something more serious when she's ready for that. In your case, since she ended things, just do not chase her & let her come to you.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

That's true! Great attitude! When I was 40 I dated a 24yo & it was definitely a nice ego boost, & reminded me how smoking hot the young ladies are.

I am a truck driver and I have no time to text girls and the girl gives up because according to her I didn’t seem interested. I think it’s important to be a little needy but never double text and wait for the girl to respond to your text. I made the mistake of texting the girl back 3 days after she texted me. I could see your point because every girl has chased me but then they give up because I texted too late.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You're right...you do have to continue to express your interest, especially when the courtship is still rather new. It's not about behaving needy, just interested.

@stevenkrupka3670

10 ай бұрын

Dude, texting is for quick messages, on then off period! It cannot really create interest, your a busy man, and actually , texting is childish IMO. Keep on truckin!

In regards to “having the talk” - I messed it up by asking that at around 2/3 months in and it changed the dynamic of the relationship a lot. I never mentioned it again and even did no contact and she came running back after two weeks. Now we’re 7 months in and I’m ready for a relationship but she says she still isn’t and doesn’t know when she will be. So I’m genuinely losing interest now and starting to pull away or might even give her up totally. So at SOME point you’ve got to have “the talk” or she might just be taking you for a ride, right? Having her proverbial cake and eating it. All the benefits of a BF with zero responsibility or real commitment. I know she has strong feelings for me but I need to see it’s moving in the right direction instead of just being a stagnant “relationship”.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

When you're in that situation it's best that you start pulling away & get back out in the dating market. You're not doing anything wrong by dating other women, & if she truly wants you the threat of another woman will have her locking you down. the thing is you can't offer that information...you can't tell her, "Hey, I'm dating other women now", but she will sense your emotional distance. Also, you don't want to give a woman all the boyfriend perks when she's not making you her boyfriend. Like you said, she's having her cake & eating it too...she has no reason to lock you down, because she gets everything she wants & needs without having to commit.

@MattCassCook

Жыл бұрын

Thank you sir! Really appreciate the advice, it’s going to help me a lot. I’m going to do exactly what you said here! 👌🏻

Update...I told him straight out he was too needy and it turned me off. Suggested he listen to this video to help him with women in future. Too bad as I liked him initially. Take note guys!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Good for you! Not only did you do yourself a favor & put an end to what would inevitably be a relationship full of frustration & boredom, but you also did him a favor. And yes...take note guys! This is coming from an attractive woman!

I once wrote a love letter to a pretty girl I was dating, expressing all my feelings. She texted me it was the cutest letter she ever got and then disappeared from my life.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Yup. She will see it as sweet, but it doesn't turn her on.

leaning in = over investing

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Girls notice it too! There may even be a few comments from women on this video.

Does too much texting apply when you are in a relationship?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Women need space to miss you & wonder about you in order to maintain their attraction.

I wish i saw this video before, coz i made every single mistake shown in this and a week ago she broke up with me XD

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Everyone says that. I wish I would've known before I made all the same mistakes over life, as well. This is how you learn though. Now that you know what's considered needy, you're now aware of what not to do...

@tilakkumar7688

5 жыл бұрын

Still are there any chances she might come back?

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

There's always a chance, but you have to start communicating a higher value to her. For starters, as I already mentioned, do NOT initiate any contact with her. This sends her a message that you have self respect & self worth. A man that has those qualities doesn't chase women & he doesn't try to convince them he's the man for her. I realize it's counter-intuitive, but this communicates value.

@azera8537

5 жыл бұрын

@@tilakkumar7688 me too bro..

@tilakkumar7688

5 жыл бұрын

@@azera8537 still hurts bruh

I'm the total opposite of needy. My one mistake is I will keep a woman fighting for my attention to a point that she will stop pursuing me. Im not doing it on purpose, it's just that I'm a lone wolf type of person.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, being too cold also drives women away. You want them fighting for your attention, but you must also make them feel special.

@dajam9035

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Exactly. I really need to work on that. Some of these girls were people that I was actually attracted to but I seriously get caught up with being in my little box lol

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

You might want to check out my video 'how men can keep romance alive'. While it's not all that it takes, it'll be helpful in making her feel special without turning into needy, supplicating beta male: kzread.info/dash/bejne/X65pk8qHqs7NnZM.html

Talked to a girl for a month.. a couple dates. All it took was one double text and she hit me with the “I need to focus on myself” lmao live and learn. Won’t ever do that again

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

That's pretty harsh on her part, but I suspect that its because her attraction wasn't high enough yet. If it were higher, you could afford a few minor mistakes. But you;re right...it's best to not do this at all.

A big truth is what you say if there is not sexual attraction doesn’t matter what you do. Sexual attraction meaning she likes you a lot and there are sparks.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! She either feels attraction towards a man or not...there's nothing a man can say or do to change that. One can only increase (or lower) attraction...they can't create attraction out of thin air.

@mardukdemigod1523

11 ай бұрын

​@@SkillofAttraction.....mmml

The best relationships I've ever had was with someone I really wasn't that into. If you really like her, you're screwed....

I'm guilty early in my dating life of the flowers (saw it in movies) gifts (did blow a couple away with getting them exactly what they wanted without them saying because I listened too intensely. (I didn't stare at them with puppy dog eyes at their knees it tells me they figured I'm too invested). I figured after weeks and months they'd be interested in kissing and holding hands (when I have literally figuratively watched friend girls go from hello to marriage in half the time as I am waiting for hand holding etc. I now send more women packing or ignoring or delayed response to their messages unless they're really serious or I can see it being serious.

@SkillofAttraction

3 ай бұрын

I don't remember if I covered it in this video, but never lean-in to a woman: kzread.infoZkeDQA6Lx-Y

i just ask her out after exchanging some texts! - online dating is pain. if they have to meet they will or else no

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@GeeCeeWU

4 жыл бұрын

It's no different from any other dating, If you ask her out, she will either say yes and make an arrangement with you or say no and give a reason which will let you down gently. That's how it used to work when I was young, before computers, smart phones and social media.

@KA-du7vm

4 жыл бұрын

@@GeeCeeWU thanks! and that's what I have learnt :-)

I don't really make a lot of these mistakes. This is all great advice though but wow, talk about a difficult creature. Women in dating are so complex while we, on the other hand, are so simple.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's because women are ruled by their emotions. Thanks though!

@zyrxsounds

3 жыл бұрын

Crazy how I was even doing the mistake of telling her “I’m a really simple guy” not knowing I was killing it the more

Where do draw the line between being needy and being afraid of loosing the Relationship due to lack of communication

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not 100% sure what you're asking here, but if there's a lack of communication on her part & it's hurting the relationship, then you must tell her how important it is for the relationship's survival that she communicate with you. Then try to lead by example. However, you don't want to be afraid of losing her/relationship. It may not work out, but when you fear losing it/her, you begin to behave in needy ways.

I FaceTimed my girlfriend yesterday cause I haven’t seen her in person for about 6 days, I initiated contact from Monday to now( Thursday) she texted me on Saturday saying she missed me. Anyways I FaceTimed her but she was tired from work so I only talked for about 5 mins and she saw that I was bummed out because I miss her, she said she’ll text me today. Was I being needy?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily. But don't chase her anymore until she begins to invest more. She said that she'll text you today, so be sure that you don't reach out to her until you hear from her, no matter how long it takes. When she does contact you, tell her that you want to see her & ask her when she's free to get together. If she rejects your invite or gives you some excuse, politely accept it & tell her to contact you when she wants to get together & then stop all initiating until you hear from her again.

I have no doubt that you are talk about is working. At the same time I have no idea how to implement it, I mean to continuosly monitoring her and my behavior and control all of my interaction with her, seems not natural at all. And not just too artifical, but exhausting to do. I guess one of the best thing in a relationship that you can be yourself, and don't have to play roles and games to make her a little bit jealous for example. I know this is also how magnets working, but I wanna believe that in relationships between man and woman there should be something more then how two piece of metal follow the rules of physics. And as you said woman has really good intuitions to feel something is wierd with you, and you are not completly yourself.

@SkillofAttraction

3 ай бұрын

Well, it takes some practice. Fake it till you make it, which absolutely works. Eventually it'll become natural. However, beware that this is suggesting that you be someone who you are not, only that you become this version of yourself. It'll feel a bit scary & awkward at first, because you're not used to it &n it feels very foreign, but once you get used to it you think about it less & less.

Don't give her more when she wants more !

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's true. You can't be too compliant to her wants & demands...

BRAVO! EXCEPT I wish whats his name would agree more.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

You wouldn't be the first woman to comment about their man being needy & wishing he would get the hint.

Getting a woman you want, to like you is so much like getting a high paid job with a big company!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

And just like getting that high paying job at a big company, the more skill, understanding & confidence, the more likely you are to get the girl.

my boyfriend wants to sleep next to me every night don’t get me wrong it’s good ... only thing we stay in separate homes.. i tried to tell him to stay home one night.. and he gave me the “ aww babe 😞 really “ .. i was exhausted that day.. but i still allowed him to come over.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

I can see how that would begin to get annoying. He is definitely displaying some needy behavior. Hopefully it clicks for him soon so he understands that he needs to give you a little space.

I've been doing that already can I change it?.. She must be surprise? Please help

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you can change it. Now that you know what comes across as needy, you just want to control yourself from making these mistakes. It's also important that you begin focusing your life on becoming emotionally fulfilled in a way that does not include your girl.

I texted a guy after 24 hours of no contact cause I sort of missed him and he says “your alive”. Immediately turn off. Especially since it was the 3rd or 4th time he was passive aggressive after a short no contact. It Came across needy and made me not want to message him when I’m thinking good things about him.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Yes, passive aggressive behavior is a turn off. I often tell men to never act passive aggressive or butthurt, as it shows a lack of internal strength. His passive aggressive response tells me that he's upset with your lack of contact & feels powerless. Besides no contact being for you so you can heal & move on, the other part of it is to give them a taste of life without you & to get them to a place where they begin to think, "If I don't take action I might lose him/her forever". There's no guarantees that it will work in your favor, so you want to be doing no contact for the right reasons (so you can heal), without attachment to an outcome. But if he cares enough, your strict no contact will eventually drive him fear of losing you forever...IF he cares enough.

I am in a relationship right now and I noticed I have all those problems and I don't know how to fix it while having a relationship in the same time I mean it's take time to change yourself and your behavior how can I fix it without looking like I'm pulling away from her !!? she may even think am breaking up with her

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it does take some time, practice & discipline. You have to really want to make the changes, otherwise you will never follow through. In order to make these changes, you will have to "fake it till you make it"...in other words, you will have to be conscious about it until you internalize it & it becomes part of your nature. To make these changes without upsetting her you must implement them slowly. In other words, if you usually initiate contact every day, this week don't initiate one day during the week. In two weeks, don't initiate two times during the week. You must do it slowly, like the "frog in boiling water" analogy. If you place a frog into boiling water it will jump out, but if you put the frog into cool water & slowly bring it to a boil, it won't know the difference.

@youcefbenkaba2930

5 жыл бұрын

Thank u so much for ur advise i was lost in a deep thinking to why she's been cold towards mee until I heard about the term needy 🙏

@antoniomitchell1883

5 жыл бұрын

You should break up with her immediately.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's just running away from the problem...

I find the texting incredibly difficult to manage. I find I am overly zealous and it has pushed many girls away. I'm sure women have a radar that can tell when a guy is getting needy, because before I get needy we seem to have a good connection.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, they can pick up the vibe early on. Women are very intuitive & can sniff out that stuff a mile away. But a good rule of thumb when it comes to texting: try to keep your texting to a minimum & save conversation for face to face interactions...or just use texting for arranging dates.

@callumwalker8183

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I always think things are going well, but I get too into the girl early on and it just derails from there. I've lost so many potential dates/lovers from being too needy and I'm really trying to stop that but it's so difficult - I suffer from OCDi so when my mind gets fixated on one thing, I obsess so much and that's the same for my attraction with girls. I'm not that bothered about them at first when things are going well, but then I get desperate: checking their online times etc and it's a slippery slope.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@callumwalker8183 That's the problem; allowing yourself to get too into the girl too soon. She senses that she has you & now she knows that she doesn't have to work to keep you. She can essentially do whatever she wants & know that you're not going anywhere. This will cause her to lose respect & ultimately lose attraction. As a man, it's important that you focus mostly on building yourself up & your mission in life. It's counter-intuitive, but women actually find this very attractive in a man...just as long as you still make time for her where you can be 100% present with her. Women want to come along for the ride that is your fun & interesting life. They don't want a man who joins her for the ride. You're the leader of the relationship & despite what society may say, women like it this way. Plus, by having a majority of your focus on goals/hobbies, you're not going to have the time to be so focused on her & what she's doing when she's not around you.

@callumwalker8183

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction so what would your tips be with a different girl? Don’t text back as quick? Don’t admit your feelings?

@callumwalker8183

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Hey, I matched with this girl on Hinge about two weeks ago. We hit it off, I got her number. I wasn’t needy with her and I managed to arrange a virtual date on FaceTime. Everything was going well for the first half-hour until I asked her a question about her setting up an OnlyFans which she had joked about in one of her texts during the week. From then, the atmosphere changed and she challenged me saying “that’s weird that you’re asking me that.” I didn’t let it rock me and just said I was joking and moved the conversation along. But things just seemed tense from then. She said her room had been decorated so I asked “did you do it?” and she said yes, to which I replied “really?” She then got into this argument about whether I would have said that to a guy and I acted cool and said I’d say it anyone. Then we got into a weird standoff where I tried to play “you’re feisty you aren’t you?” to which she replied “no, I just give my opinion.” We ended the call because it wasn’t going anywhere, but I wanted to know what happened so I messaged her asking “at what point did you realise we weren’t a match?” to which she replied “when you stopped biting. I was pushing for a debate/response and you let it go. I was like ahh he doesn’t wanna fight.” I thought all this dating sh*t was trying to stay grounded and not let a woman move you off your centre. I do that and then she loses respect for me because I don’t bite?

Brilliant! Greetins from Spain.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

This was the video i needed since i came back with my girl. Im needy as f*

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it helped! Especially as a man, your main focus should always be on your mission/purpose in life (career, goals, passions, etc.). That's not to say that you shouldn't dedicate time for your girl & for her only; however, she should never be the focus of your life. Women find that very unattractive. On the other hand, a man on a mission is VERY attractive to women.

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

Edu Mosciaro I was called the nice guy

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

Edu Mosciaro im needy with woman in general. Gotta change my attitude

@norm1815

5 жыл бұрын

@@ryanvtec3885 90% of guys have been there. Just listen to a few good dating coaches and you will get better. This guy is good. Also Corey Wayne and Alpha Male Strategies are awesome dudes

@itsjustnopinionok

4 жыл бұрын

Lol. Its got alot to do with up bringing im sure. I was and am the same way. I come from a dysfuntional home. And almost every single girl i dated i show almost all these signes. Im still single. But finally i've started to view these and other videos to help me find my way through the jungles of love.

I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend. Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”. We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying. We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already. I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch. She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji. I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

If you shorten this a bit I would be happy to answer it. Answering questions in the comment section is really just or quick questions. However, if you need more in-depth analyses & advice the link to my coaching page can be found in the description section of all my videos.

@callumwalker8183

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Sorry about that, it's just I thought I did everything right, only to be put in the friendzone last night. I playfully teased her, tried my best to qualify her on our date e.g. "if you didn't like Friends we would have had a problem". Even kissed her and kept trying to touch her. Maybe I was different in real life to what she expected, but I didn't think I was. I kept trying to banter as we had done over message

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@callumwalker8183 Well, either you just have to give her more time to respond (I don't know how long it's been since you sent your last message), or there's a chance another guy is in the picture. It seems you did everything right & typically in a case3 such as this it's because of what I just mentioned. If you really like her, give her a week or two...if you still haven't heard from her give it one last shot; contact her & try to arrange a date. If she still ignores you, assume that another dude is in the picture; maybe she's dating another men or maybe an ex came back.

@callumwalker8183

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Hi there, she said "let's just be friends", so I replied saying "I don't want a friendship so if that's your limit I understand and good luck". Maybe I wasn't sexual enough or flirty enough or too nice. But, I thought I teased her enough, I kissed her and she looked visibly shocked so I pulled back and then kissed her at the end of the night.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

@@callumwalker8183 Based on what you shared, I'm not seeing what you did wrong, but it's all mostly about your vibe...perhaps you were showing too much interest? Perhaps you were giving off a relationship vibe? Women typically communicate with feelings, so they're very good at sensing someone's vibe. Regardless, you handled her LJBF speech the right way. When you handle things like this correctly there's a good chance that you will be hearing from them again sometime in the future. Not accepting a woman's LJBF offer can often change their attitude, because you show strength & confidence.

I have done this mistakes Now her attraction is decreasing What should I do now?

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Stop doing all these things...when you feel that you're about to do them again, stop yourself. Eventually, if you're consistent, it will become a habit. But for now, don't chase after her...let her come to you. When she does, greet her with an upbeat & playful attitude & arrange a date. Don't talk about relationships...just focus on getting her out on dates (once a week a the most for right now), having fun with her, & gently leading her into the bedroom. That's it. If you give her space & remain patient & strong (non-needy), she will take care of the relationship stuff. Don't try to pressure her about relationship stuff, giving you affection or sex.

MTGOW is starting to take off and it’s going to hit women hard af

Wow! Truer words were never spoken. I had to laugh many times as I just started seeing someone who exhibits most of these behaviours. It's only been 2 months and I am very close to ending it even though I was very attracted to him initially. Today I received 7 texts in a row within a 4 hour time frame without me responding once. What a turn off.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

It definitely sounds like you just may have a needy man on your hands. As I tell many men, nature has already taken care of the attraction, it's up to you (men) not to blow it with desperate & needy behavior. Thanks for commenting...

@andreasleonlandgren3092

5 жыл бұрын

Give him the benefit of a doubt explain how it makes you feel if he doesnt know how can he change?

@andreasleonlandgren3092

5 жыл бұрын

A relationship is about growing together 2 just because someone is needy does not mean you should just leave without working on the dynamic.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

While that's true, women don't like to have to teach a man how to be a man.

@MrBailey111

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Exactly..if he's that needy now what's to come?

When a woman gives me attitude i dont like, i usually pull away until she comes back with a more desirable attitude. Is it wrong to tell her exactly what about her words or actions I didn't like? Rollo Tomasi says to demonstrate never explicate. I get that, but is there ever a time to overtly tell her what it was I didn't like about her behavior?

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! You still have to communicate with your words, however you must also back that up with your actions. If you just tell her with your words it won't register with her nearly as much as when she FEELS the repercussions to her own actions. You also want to be sure that you remain centered (keep frame) when telling her this..be calm, but firm.

This is all true tbh

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

I was wondering if you have any content about shy girls that may otherwise be interested but need more encouragement and effort from the man's side than the average woman?

Wish I’d watched this a few weeks ago! fml