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I'm sorry that she made you come here ,you are a king 👑 be strong

if she pull away you also pull away

@georgekolotouros230

5 жыл бұрын

Wish I would have known that 20yrs ago.

@phillytheflyerable

5 жыл бұрын

grey rock

@joshuatravis4766

5 жыл бұрын

Yes immediately

@gjfvbhugh3430

5 жыл бұрын

el malan malan on jeezy

@carlocruz7471

4 жыл бұрын

@doobiewah357 LMAO

Be the mountain. Be cool, calm and collected and let the relationship flow naturally like water. If she goes away? You go away. It’s not the end of the world but make every encounter that you have with one another a meaningful one and she will want to come after you more often. I’m in this situation right now; I’m just chillin like a spring time breeze; I’m focusing on myself and she always comes back 🤣 let her come to you. Focus on being yourself and she will appreciate you more. Be a high value man, never chase her; women will play games just beat her at this game by doing absolutely nothing 🤣🤣🤷🏽‍♂️ it’s petty but it’s the truth.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Boom! On point!

@splitzyentertainment7995

2 жыл бұрын

I find that very hard to do because I like to talk to my partner everyday but it's like she doesnt understand that then when I ignore her she doesn't like it, I done nothing to make her pull away I explained to her how important communication is so we talk then the next day she did the same thing I understood it was her bday and she was celebrating with friends and family. I will end up telling her to collect her belongings and she doesn't listen but she'll get mad if I discard them, so I just don't know what to do

@splitzyentertainment7995

2 жыл бұрын

How do you deal with it? I never once saw my mother do this to my father but women of today seem to love pulling away at times but its ridiculous tbh I hardly talk to my gf when she stays at her parents home or when she is at her friends all I want is 2 calls per a day and a morning and good night message and messaging throughout the day is that really too much to ask?

@willgordon5737

2 жыл бұрын

I'm writing this in my book. Thanks

@stevenkrupka3670

10 ай бұрын

Yes it is too much, and....SCREW the texting!!! Be a man, either on phone or inperson@@splitzyentertainment7995

When girls pull away...rejoice that you just dodged another bullet in life. MOVE ON MAN!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Girls will always pull away from time to time...it's just their nature. It's best to learn how to handle it so it doesn't affect you.

@hernstv

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction good to know. Thanks

@nathancastillo8865

5 жыл бұрын

Fuck yes took me less than a month after the break up now I really don’t give a shit about her

@johnsonmafuru8490

5 жыл бұрын

True man

@freisein6554

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

being there all the time makes her hate you? imagine being married raising a family... crazy!!!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

It doesn't make her hate you, but she will get bored. If your married or living together it's best to maintain some independence & have a purpose outside of her...

@porterdallenbach1639

5 жыл бұрын

Happened to me last year. I didn't know what to do when she pulled away. I didn't pull away. She left. I got emotional.

@Agnet_Faze

3 жыл бұрын

They do not hate you dude....They just need space from you because sometimes they feel overwhelmed...And they feel like you are too needy because they have you, also because you show them that you only belong to them already...So they get bored because they don't have to chase after you....That's why challenges are very important in a relationship....You should sometimes learn how to ignore her and not giving her your attention all the times because then she will have to work hard to chase you for your attention..... It's also some sort of test for her to see if you will miss her when she is not around....Or even see if how you would react if she is not here....Women do not like men who are needy and always submissive...They like men who are confident and take the lead and responsibilities...Who can still do well without having their woman around...

@mikewalters8501

3 жыл бұрын

@@Agnet_Faze that seems a lot like playing games. I can agree with some of what you said, but after a while doesn't the whole playing games then get old? Don't you just want someone that you know you can trust and rely on without having to make so-called challenges?

@mikewalters8501

3 жыл бұрын

@@Agnet_Faze well I just had someone recently leave me, mainly they said something about feeling suffocated and like they couldn't breathe the last couple days I was there or something. I don't know what that's about, but instead of breaking up with them, why don't you just give them their space a bit? I would have gladly done that, she didn't have to just up and end it

These videos are great.when I'm having girl problems,I don't have to go to a friend or bother my dad with it or risk getting bad info. It's genuinely comforting to hear this advice, and I appreciate it.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

That's great! I'm glad it's helping! The truth is, most of your peers will give you the wrong advice anyway. As a general rule of thumb, if you don't admire the relationship of the person whom you're asking advice, or they're not typically good with the ladies, they'll probably give you bad advice.

If she pulls away from you it means her usefulness has expired and she does not fit into God's plan and purpose for your life. Just be patient for the right woman that will stay with you regardless of your imperfections.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Women ALWAYS pull away from time to time & usually for the reason I say in this video.

@nobody-hr1lo

4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant Simon, GOD bless you.

@mikorara

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Women that truly value you and appreciate you don't pull away. If you are unfortunate to get ones that pull away then it's time for the guy to pull away and stay away....

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@mikorara ALL women pull away from time to time. If you walk away every time a woman pulls way you will be a lonely sexless man. It's better to learn how to respond to it, & build up your confidence to where it doesn't bother you, rather than getting upset about it. Women follow the emotions they're feeling in the moment. They're not out to get you.

@mikorara

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttractionI am gonna disagree with you on one thing. Not all women play games like pulling away, etc. A lot do yes , but some don't . It is what it is.

9 out of 10 times she'll be back. It hurts psychologically because all of a sudden a pattern is broken. Our psyche is used to things being a certain way, and now when this is changing the internal alarm system goes off. Feelings are not static, there are times when we are beta and times when we are alpha. There are times she feels attraction, and times when she doesn't.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Stay calm & patient...& stay focused on your path. Chances are she will be back & the fact that you don't go chasing after her will increase her attraction, because women love string, confident men.

This guy is spot on. One time I moved to fast and told a lady I loved. Her countenance changed immediately. The first thing she said was "I thought you were strong." Lesson learned.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, that will lower your perceived value & scare women off if you share feelings too soon. I did a video about almost this exact scenario: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qGyAxZJmfN2TYJM.html

absolutly right... 100% agreed.. Thanks for the video

Wow this really works! Our relationship has never been better, thanks coach!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's great man! I'm glad to hear it!

One of the best videos I’ve ever seen on making a girl chase. Even tho I have been doing everything you mention for over 20 years it’s awesome to hear you lay it down.

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Stay strong!

I've been watching videos all month and this is by far in the top 3 it may even be the top one and it wasn't even necessarily the topic I was looking for but very well worth watching intelligent and thanks for your time

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

We have to be honest with ourselves , we knows exactly what to do , but we need to hear from someone else that pulling away will help whatever you getting back with her or not .

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, most of the time we know, but it helps to have it confirmed by someone else...

This is the best video on the internet bro , I’ll watch this so many times man 😭 idk how many mistakes we make as men but they don’t make it easy for us . Thankful this video helps u be the 5%

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! This video will help as well: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mYKh29qgoNepY8o.html

Great video man. Everything is explained well. Too many guys try to justify "chasing" a girl but you have clearly explained why we should not. It's a two-way street.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

Introduction-body-conclusion... hey man, the vid is all over the place. I click thumbs-up though, gentlemans code

Been currently having this issue, I think I was starting to get a bit too needy with her which probably caused her to pull away, so I’ve just been doing what you said and just started focusing on myself and if she reaches out again cool, if she’s lost complete interest whatever just don’t let it bother you. Good video and advice

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Good job! She will most likely reach out after a few days, but just don't count on it. It really depends on how far her attraction/interest has dropped...but it's good that you caught it now, rather than after it was too late.

@croissantlover1

2 жыл бұрын

Hey Jarl Balgruuf. *FUS RO DAH*

@22rapper

4 ай бұрын

There are issues here. People look at the bible for what to do. God shows us to love unconditionally with out expection in anything in return love is kind , understanding, no harsh , so playing games and pulling back on your feelings just because hers is goin back and forth may help in the way this guy is saying but your not being true to your self. God loves us anyway if we dont give him time he still protect us watch over us but we gonna pull back from a person we say we love because not happy how they show affection let them come around when they want if not at least you did want god is saying later in life they will see you was best option. Love is not conditional period stop doin this or do that i will love you. True love not emotional in and out true love is a choice gods says two yoked people / belivers come together and grow in love not fall in love love is not random but a choice thats why you see not good lookin people with good lookin people its a choice. Pray on it and next date ask by makin it romantic game saying what do you love or like the most about there relationship and how we can work on to improve on it if they say nothin have your answer its ok unless they have nothin good to say how relationship is. Rest assured if keep contact to twice week max always have things to talk bout goin on in your life you doin shows you have a life but you also make her priority which god says to do after him in the book if they dont do thats on them dont let effect you if they know bible if not pray as a couple and read the message to her. Relationships take work without discipline. You never start. most importantly, you never start, and most importantly, you never finish. Love is not selfish and not wishy washy.

I remember when I met a particular chick & I would call her one day, MAYBE the next day & then I would skip several days and not call her. The next time I spoke to her, she told me that she appreciated the fact that I didn’t call the day before. She liked the fact that I was able to give her space.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Perfect! Yes, women actually WANT you to give them space.

This video is within the best videos ever uploaded to this channel. Appreciated.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! Glad it helped!

Thank you soo much i needed to know this information before i lose my girl cus everything you said thats bad i already did so now ima have to change or just realize my worth, and show her she aint fw no lame

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Realizing your worth is key...

@manabouttongue

5 жыл бұрын

Start actively looking for another woman. Always have at least two.

Think of women like you would a butterfly. You can chase it around the field all day long and never catch it. When you chill out and sit to grab a drink, it comes and lands on your shoulder. And if it doesn't come around, you can enjoy another drink!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly! I've used the cat analogy before, which is basically the same thing.

I always pull out when they start pulling back

@futureboyy4422

3 жыл бұрын

Yah as men we should pull out

Thank you. I actually pulled away too but was just about to leave her a message. You saved my life lol

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

I know, it gets frustrating...& maybe even a little scary, but you always want to see yourself as the prize & expect to be treated as such (within reason of course).

Excellent advice. Everything he said is spot on

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

This guy is so right.ive been through so much shit like this.i just say screw it let her go give her the idc no calls or text post on fb all the fun your having act like she never existed when shes gone it drives them nuts they come crawling back but do u still want them after they have been gone doing god knows what nope just feels good to tell them no i moved on

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly! Good job!

This is hands down one of the best videos I have seen regarding how to be as a guy in a relationship. Thank you for reminding me on what’s most important!! - Our mission of course!!

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly! Put your mission first...

Great video and advice Eric! Keep up the good work.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

This is a great video. On point!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

A good one advice! Helps a lot watching this.

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks man! Glad it's helping!

The man, the legend! Another great video dude. And verrrry relatable

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Much appreciated!

yoo bro i swear you got huge experience and information about this topic , i love you brother for helping us getting our dream girls

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful!

Thank you for your advice god bless you mate you truly speak common sense with Logic put together to make sense

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Good explanation and simply to the point.. Thanks

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Glad you found it helpful...

Great video, good insights. These tips make a lot of sense to me. Women can be such complex creatures. Thank you 🤙🏽🙏

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! The more you learn about women & their nature, the more that it will click for you...& then they won't seem so complicated.

Good video. Simple and straight to the point...

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

This guy is on par with the great Coach Corey Wayne... I agree with everything said in this video

@Gunmetalsunglasses

5 жыл бұрын

Seems like he borrowed some of those words from Corey.

@sheldonkostynuik1739

5 жыл бұрын

Coach got alot of his stuff from Doc Love though too. Nothing is an original thought.

@robertmendez2789

5 жыл бұрын

i AGREE

@dacritter8397

4 жыл бұрын

@@sheldonkostynuik1739 Yep. Being an older gent myself, I can see that most everything being taught to guys today from various sources is just about identical to my dad's "common sense" knowledge of women (while always claiming he knew nothing about women). The verbiage is a little different (shit test, no contact rule, etc.) but the concepts are the same. WTF happened?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

There was a time when most men knew much of this stuff, but society & feminism reconditioned us all. It all began to change some time around the sexual revolution.

I saw so many videos,this video enlightened me..thank you

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

That's great! Thanks for watching!

Thank you so much... This was sooo helpful

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! And you're welcome...

You appeal to me exactly Sir,thank you very much,you are the best in the genre...

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Great content that deserves a much respect!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Excellent, coach! Thanks!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Man I needed this so bad , thanks a lot!!

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

You may find this recent video helpful as well: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZIJtm9lshticmrQ.html

Thanks for replying back to us coach ❤️

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Of course!!

Hi Erik, firstly thank you for your videos, you have rapidly replaced a lot of the other coaches. One of the reasons is your participation in the comments, not many take the time and it is appreciated. Are you able to do a video on setting boundaries waited with being indifferent? I think I got in a pickle being too laid back and then they lose respect.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! I can do a video on that, but i can't say when. In the meantime, you may find these videos helpful. Not exactly what you're looking for, but in that realm... kzread.info/dash/bejne/k3iLkqenqNXVZLg.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/a4aYybqrXdPSeZc.html

Good advice my man.You just gained a sub..Salute

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@mrblatcher

5 жыл бұрын

Same here!

I been going to the gym alot.. Now I need to work my emotional muscle out

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

It's mostly about your mindset.

Thank you for explaining this.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you understand!

It seems like really good advice I'm 48 years old and still found this to be extremely helpful. It's strange that this popped up in my feet at this time because the situation just started happening this morning. Thanks for your advice and you just earned a a new subscriber

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

It's funny how these things show up at the right time, isn't it? Thanks for subscribing!

@johnkelly5621

5 жыл бұрын

200mph Brian I know right? Me & gf just agreed to break (for good?) tonight...over a matter we just cant clear up. And voila! I hit this vid by accident.

@johnkelly5621

5 жыл бұрын

Anyway I was rough an hour ago (1yr & 1/2) but im feeling fine

@johnkelly5621

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction im subscring for 2 reasons : 1) you know women 2) youre a Chicagoan.

@Don-pk2uy

4 жыл бұрын

Update? What happened?

stupid never ending game

@justincase3868

5 жыл бұрын

Deadass bro shit is crazy

@josejunior1521

5 жыл бұрын

I hate the game

@AvioftheSand

4 жыл бұрын

Cannot agree with this enough. I just want a happy healthy relationship with someone who loves me and I feel the same way for, but no, we have to engage in stupidity so she won't feel bored

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

If you want a happy healthy relationship then you must learn to show women they can't get under your skin. They will test you, over & over again. Pulling away is one of those tests. Let her go & she will come back; in most cases anyway.

@Babycam08

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction hey what to do if my gf says she wants to be alone & she's uncertain & I've been doing too much during this pandemic. Do I still back away? Or just walk away for good? How do I make her feel more attraction if she's not returning my text & I've already been needy?

Excellent advices. Thank you

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thanks so much!!!! Super helpful!

I had my 11 year old daughter tell me this boy likes her but he's too NICE. She says he brings him flowers, sends notes etc etc. She's 11 and yes, they are wired this way from birth. Guys, here is the easy low down. Don't buy them flowers, don't be mushy mushy and treat her like a friend for the most part. Tease her like you give your buddies a hard time. Almost never give them a straight answer to anything. Romance is dead and we aren't living in the 40s. Act like you really don't care. If she pulls back, ignore it and go out with your buddies. When she calls, don't answer the phone right away; give it a couple hours. Flip the tables on her and again, honestly, get out of the romantic love mindset and live your own life. Your girl is ONLY a bonus. It's ALL whatever!! When she says sorry for slipping away, just say "yeah, you get hormonal I get it and tease her." If she asks you to go to coffee or whatever, once in a while tell her you have plans to do whatever. Don't be a nice guy, it doesn't WORK! People want what they can't have. Don't let her know you are easy to get. Again, leave your mushy lovey doey mindset at the corner where you can drive by to get it once in a while. Don't carry that emotion with you.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. Though, instead of acting like you don't care, I'd say to be indifferent or unattached to an outcome, to be more precise. And for some women, romance is very important...it makes them feel special, which is key. This doesn't necessarily mean flower petals & candles, but continuing to date/court her is important.

@10MinutestoRouletteFortune

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I would concur with your choice of words and of the two I would chose indifferent. We are dating them of course we would care. Courting the lady is important, but some men (myself once included) tend to go overboard and in the process become overtly attached emotionally. When it comes to man's emotional connection with a female, I would say this would be because of our personal disclosure of our "feelings" one way or another. Men generally don't talk about feeling with guys and when they finally do with a gal, it causes most to become vulnerable and weak because of the trust we had in sharing.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed. And oddly enough, I was once listening to an evolutionary psychologist talking about how studies have shown that when a person (man or woman) opens up & shares something personal they actually feel closer to the person with whom they shared.

@10MinutestoRouletteFortune

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction Well then, my theory is right on target. I think it might have something to do with the possible release of oxytocin during such a conversation of depth. Guys aren't use to that rush of feelings where ladies are as again, guys don't normally talk about their feelings. The same release is said to be true for the eye dilation people experience when we see an attractive lady. For a lady maybe the same dilation is true when they hear a guy as men are visual and ladies are auditory for the most part or see a man with mass confidence. Oxytocin is known as the love drug (as I"m sure you know) and therefore we become "addicted" to love. Perhaps men learn subconsciously that the "rush" of emotion came as a result of being mushy and sappy (in the beginning when they were younger) and thus in order to achieve that same level they must repeat the actions that lead to the emotional feelings of the intimacy resulting in the elated feelings one feels when in love. The after effects of a break up might just be oxytocin "withdraws" or something like that. Men with lower self esteme don't know how to go out and just find another girl so they get wrapped up with just the one that broke up with them. Yeah, I'm sure control plays a part there. Never know if this theory is true, but would make for a great study.

Thanks for helping us its realy helping its realy a good advice

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for watching!

Very well put, man!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, sir...

Sounds alot like Coach Corey Wayne. But his stuff is great so I'm definently down to listen from another perspective even if it's very similar advice. Thank you sir for what you do🍻

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Bro I swear these get recommended at the perfect time

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

It's kind of funny how the universe is sometimes watching out for you, isn't it? Glad you found it in time!

Great words of wisdom!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Amazingly put

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

funny thing is i will not let a girl pull away for longer then 2 weeks. If she does i will not take her back.

@leonahmoses4450

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I think of a girl is really interested in you she won't leaf for two weeks...she won't even beat to stay away that long. If she does well it's there things...she isnt interested or she has someone else.

@willhancorn6143

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, I am in the situation where I am not with this girl but getting with her. And she is cold and distant all of a sudden. So I’m gonna pull away wait for her to text me first and if she dosen’t in like two weeks then fuck off pretty much, I have respect for myself and cba with those stupid games

@cunningarrayofstunts6051

5 жыл бұрын

@@willhancorn6143 Tell her to fuck off. She is already with another guy. GO GET LAID!

@victorleshomo1149

5 жыл бұрын

Great integrity. Anything more than 3 weeks, there is no chance.

@george9822

3 жыл бұрын

@@willhancorn6143 two weeks seems like a long time. If she likes you then why not just a few days?

The hard part for me is when she starts doing this it makes me feel dead inside. The initial reaction is wanting to ask if I did something wrong. Things were going great, what happened? The confusion I have is the day before she could be calling you to say she misses you and complimenting you, then the next day she’s mia. And then days later she’s still mia. Lack of convo. Doesn’t seem like the spark is there. Of course that’s gonna throw me off. So waiting around for her when everything had just been going great really confuses me and makes me doubt. Especially when she made it seem like you have a future with her. It sucks.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

This is just something women do & learning why & how to handle it will help you significantly in the future. You can't change it by talking to her or using logic. In fact, that often makes it worse. I have several videos that cover this topic that will help you understand better... kzread.info/dash/bejne/emWmo9Cnd8uvns4.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/imt316WzZq_Zc8Y.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZIJtm9lshticmrQ.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/mYKh29qgoNepY8o.html

Great video. Thank you.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

It’s like fishing-any slack in the line and she’ll spit the hook. Pull too hard and the line will break. Never show your cards until it’s the right time-she has the courage to tell you what she expects from you.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, good analogy!

Based on the video caption I'm making a comment, don't need to see it. If she pulls away...let her go, I guarantee she's already talking...or has done something with someone else. Period. I've seen it a million times and have experienced it personally. Walk. Protect yourself in this world, it's different now.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Most of the time it's what I say in this video. women will ALWAYS pull away from you from time to time. It's just their nature & a direct response to what you're doing in the relationship...

@adrienroy9310

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I agree. On the other end of it, you can be doing everything right and she's scheming. Not sure if it's in direct correlation of today's society or, I'm aware now. You can win them back...i have, but ultimately it's a fools errand. They are moody and fickle and I'm not chasing ever again, nor would I recommend it. One thing is sure about feminine nature is they absolutely have no care of your feelings or what they've done to you. They move on leaving a mess without a care in the world. It's how they're designed, I'm not angry, just aware. To be fair, I'll give the video a look. Thanks for the polite reply.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

They don't care when they've lost respect & admiration for a man. If they still have that, they do care about a man's feelings.

@adrienroy9310

5 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction brother, it's a balancing act. Pay for things, do what I want, spend all...and I do mean all your time with me or else... I'm over it. I'm 40 now and have goals. Maybe my mistake was bad women. My main issues were with the beautiful girls, even when we were most in love, they couldn't help themselves from their rotten behavior. And I'm talking about two specifically. Beautiful or not, through my experience and my friends (my friend John 10 year marriage ending through cheating) it's hard for me to believe they have anything but their own needs at heart.

@adrienroy9310

5 жыл бұрын

I think happiness is steering clear of a modern woman and seeking your interests. I've spent a good portion of my life...and money attending to their needs. My turn. And I suggest other men watch their backs in today's dating.

Woman is always overwhelmed by feeling of attraction and not by reflective thoughts, so their feeling of love is ups and down. Therefore, she pulls you away not giving a reason!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

You are exactly correct! And she will not give a reason, because she often doesn't know her reason...

@mikewalters8501

3 жыл бұрын

This exact thing just happened to me recently. They just end things out of the blue, even if things seem to be going great. I noticed this happens more with divorcees.

This is 10000% true... Keep up the great work, subscribed

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the sub, man!

That really helped...thanks man

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! I'm glad I could help!

Omg coach you always come through at the best time! I need this right now! I’m going to apply exactly what you said. My question is and this happened before when I pulled back and she texted and said something along the lines of ‘’so I guess I’ll text you since I haven’t heard from you all day’’ or ‘’haven’t talked to you since yesterday, makes me feel important’’ and this is when we’ve been texting morning to night so it’s obvious something is different between the both of us. So my question is how do I reply to this? Do I flat out say that I noticed something was off and sensed she needed some space?

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

I've found the best & easiest comeback to that is to say something along the lines of "Oh, I've just been a little busy." then immediately get her off that topic; "But it's great to hear from you! How have you been? What have you been up to?" or something like that. Then go for the date, "why don't we get together. I'd love to see you." You can throw in a little charm too, "I've been missing that sexy smile". The idea is to keep it a little mysterious & get the topic onto her asap so she doesn't ask you anymore questions. If she does ask you what you've been so busy with, you still want to keep it mysterious (playfully if possible) & focus on the date, "Why don't we get together & I'll tell you all about it". However, sometimes that doesn't always work, so in that case you turn it onto her, "I was getting the feeling that you need a little space, but if I was wrong let's get together". Do not say anything about noticing her being distant, because if you pull away due to her distance it can come across as you being passive aggressive.

@emptysoul2757

3 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction absolutely genius here

@mallom6226

Жыл бұрын

​@@SkillofAttraction I disagree with this advice, a lot of times women are totally taken aback by a man distancing himself, and are actually curious to know what happened. If she's mature she will hear you out and care about what felt off for you. If you need to play games and act busy when in reality she did something that hurt your pride then you're not in tune with your woman. you're not giving her an opportunity to treat you better and get closer to her.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

@@mallom6226 You make it sound as if none of us have done this before. What you're suggesting doesn't work, ever. And it's not playing games when when one is actually busy, which is the idea.

@mallom6226

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I agree with this aspect for sure, but having been on the other side of this dynamic (as well as...pretty much all of my girlfriends), it just creates more hurt even after reconciliation. Not to say a couple needs to hash it all out right then and there, but a man coming and going in this super charming way doesn't create a sense of safety, which women need in a relationship to stay regulated.

Good info but that jacket kills me . Seriously thank you for the video

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

👔

Great tip!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Wow good video bro I'm in this situation right now....I totally do t know what to Do.....

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Realtalk man!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Covid is putting every relationship in this state lol

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Covid is definitely hurting a LOT of relationships...

I know its been awhile since we spoke but I want to say thanks for the advice. I'm a free man today!

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

I don't recall the situation, but that's great to hear!

Discovered this at 38 in 2021. The keyword for me has been 'Clarity'.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it makes it much easier once you understand all this & why women do what they do. It's never too late to learn.

Love from India...Good advice..useful...

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Focus on yourself,...pull back,....feel the magic.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yup! pretty much...

Happening to me now. She was doing 80% chasing stupid texts and memes etc and always checking in. Then 2 weeks ago after confessing her happiness pulled back. Now going 2-3 days between exchanges although we do have dates lined up. I am going to follow this advice to a T! Its logical advice for illogical situations. If i mirror her and wait for her to reach out - i win in terms of looking more attractive. If she doesnt reach out (after we’ve done the next few dates) then i’ll bring it up - i win as i get an answer whether true or not which will help me make a decision. If all is ok but she continues then back to mirroring. If somethings up well it will be better to know. The last and most important point is no matter the outcome here i show her that i value myself whether we’re done or not.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly! On much rarer occasions, sometimes women pull away when they're feeling unloved & they want you to pursue a little. How do you know the difference? You still follow what I suggest here, BUT if you haven't heard from her at all after about 5-7 days, reach out to her to ask her if everything is okay. Do not make it about yourself by asking her things like, "are you mad a me?" or "Did I do something wrong?" Just ask her if everything is okay & if you sense she's hurting, then you want to get her talking. The fact that you have dates lined up always makes this much easier, as you can just remind yourself, "I'll be seeing her in a few days & this is healthy so we will be more excited to see each other:"

She will keep on doing this again and again. It's a never ending story.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, yes. Women follow their emotions & their attraction level for men is always in flux; therefore, she will pull away occasionally throughout the entire relationship. Learning how to counter it so it works in your favor is a must.

Ok let me share my own experience My girl was pulling away from me and it made me really sad and depressed because I didn't do anything wrong to her...I didn't wnna panic and react badly to her cause I noticed she has been ignoring my texts, calls ..literally ignoring me om almost every social media you can think of...I did try to give her space, pull away a little and wait for her to come back... but I gotta be honest it felt really frustrating waiting for her to come back, I mean I love her shes all I think bout most times and of course I wnna be talking to her on a regular frequent basis... I got fed up...and just decided to tell her straight up that I hated the fact she was ignoring me..I told her it wasn't right and I didn't deserve any of that, all I try to do is be a perfect boyfriend and this is how you treat me?..like shit??!..I told her I wasn't feeling her vibe no more, that if she really wants us to work she should tell me now cause I really can't keep on going in circles I made it very clear to her that if she continues this behavior then its over...and ever since then my relationship has been blissful and perfect...I feel just stating how you feel about your significant others behavior is less straining than pulling away and letting her come to you....just sharing my experience...hope this helps someone out their..goodluck in ur relationship

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

That's great it worked out for handling it this way, but if you do that every time she pulls away she will see it as whining & complaining, & ultimately perceive it as weakness. Plus, she really liked you at this point, otherwise what you did wouldn't have had the same effect. I'm happy that worked out this time, but this is mostly about men learning emotional self control & not being overly-focused on her & the relationship.

@dammiebob7459

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction alright then, thank you for the advice and info👍👍

@crazypanther7980

4 жыл бұрын

What if there's another guy in the picture? Like, she's being cold for a while because this Guy is trying to come back to her?

@dammiebob7459

4 жыл бұрын

@@crazypanther7980 that's exactly what was happening

I have a girl that used to send snaps every second and my friends told me she likes me, But right now she is kind of ignoring me. Is that a bad sign and should i just leave her alone?

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

For now, yes. let her come to you.

Hey Eric, Yes on point on what you're saying. Question, I was seeing her a little too often & this was my error as I am not perfect & then recently when I tried to share some good news with her, she insulted me & disrespected me by being sarcastic & gave me a cold stare at the same time & then also on another separate occasion, when she sees me as I'm talking to someone else & in doing so she turns her body & her torso away from me in giving me her back as I clearly saw her from the corner of my eye. A clear rejection so who would want to talk to somebody like that so as I finished talking to that person & then when I walked away in not approaching her at all & by talking to others, she saw me in clearly backing off & in myself giving her distance & not giving her my time of day & attention so I know that that was good on my part. About 1 to 2 months later, we saw each other coming from opposite directions & as we got closer within distance, she has the nerve to say hey to me & what she did to me previously, I mirrored her actions & as I continued walking & then eventually walking past her in giving her a taste of her own medicine as I acted as she did not even exist. Why did she say hey to me after clearly rejecting me & is interested in trying to talk to me after giving me her back & her sarcastic disrespectful behavior? What kind of games are we playing here as I'm already done with her after she did this to me & once I already accepted that & when I'm no longer trying to win in playing her games, that's it she loses all her power as Im no longer playing her games. She tries to come back & tries to say hello & talk to me but I was already done with her so obviously she's insecure about something who doesn't know what she wants & clearly displayed her immaturity & needs to grow up as I continue to stick to my guns here.vHowever I do realized my mistake now but at the same time, I got bored of this situation & with her as I did not even stop & just kept on going & not giving her my time of day & just moved on.

Personally I think your are the best teacher over others on KZread , very mature , confident ,smart ...at brief moment I thought that you are a woman and you were trying to think like her

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

I can see how the beard may have confused you...lol

@longvisionS91

5 жыл бұрын

So , can we meet ? Haha

Hey Eric really informative video, I am applying everything when in distance but when we met I was all over her so she pulled away and we meet once pet week she won't set a date earlier . I can understand why now!

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

That's great man! Yes, it's about building the tension until she can't take it anymore. You do that by basically letting her come to you. She has to be a little uncertain about how you feel about her or where she stands with you.

Just gained a subscriber

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Great Video man. Thanks, im currently going through this right now. Not sure if we are gonna break up but i will be trying this and not initiating contact.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Stay strong!

@ninahernandez7130

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction listen. You're wrong. ,I try. For two years. ,I call ask out ,but keep siding to hang with her friends ..I don't want that ,I want a one to one ,, it has not work for two years. ,I wait for four month ,and she text me fast. ,then text answer me fast. ,I said let meet. ,said will get back to me. ,or said ,will check her calendar. ,and 3 month. Pass by ,no answer. ,I try in every way. ,what can I do

@ninahernandez7130

4 жыл бұрын

And also said on vacation. ,I ask her when you're back ,said march,I ask what day. ,but doesn't answer me ..so I stop texting. For 5 month. ,I text her and said hi, , she answer me fast .. and said working. Always said will get back to me. ,but doesn't. ,I'm confused. ,because I rext her answer me fast....... but when I. Ask her to see doesn't answer.... this is crazy ,,, can you answer me. ,,

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@ninahernandez7130 I'm not sure where you believe that I'm wrong, but this girl is not giving you any signs of interest. I recommend that you move on & find a new girl who actually wants to see you & doesn't play these games with you. She most likely enjoys the attention you give her, but she's not willing to go any further than replying to you occasionally. Pay attention to a woman's action more than her words. Actions never lie. Perhaps this video will clear things up for you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/eZyJj62gnLeqYsY.html

How is this possible? A 2 year old post recommended at the right time....

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

The universe is looking out for you today. Glad you found it just in time. I have a few videos about girls pulling away.

Stuff he's saying about how guys react is just... Like my Guy this is way too accurate it's kinda scary 👀 (but good vid)

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Perfect video this is what I'm going through with my gf

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's tough to understand when women do this...especially if she was just telling you how much she loves you the other day or showing you lots of affection. Always remember, women express what they're feeling in that moment, but emotions change like the wind. Demonstrate your emotional strength & confidence, & it's only a matter of time before she comes back.

@jhonsmith2150

4 жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction yes this is true ! Went threw this afew times wit my current gf, an she came bck everytime ! 👏👍😎

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

@@jhonsmith2150 Yup! They almost always come back at some point. Just as long as she hasn't lost all attraction for you. In hat case, she will go for good. However, if she has a strong bond with you, it will typically take a lot before she gets to that point. Women don't want to go through a breakup anymore than us men do.

You sir deserve a follow 💪💪✊

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

It took me a while to realize there is a mic front of you.

@SkillofAttraction

3 жыл бұрын

It's my crystal ball! lol I have a lapel mic on my more recent videos...

I really liked your video. A question for you, what do you consider to be overchasing and over pursuing? My mindset on it is I like to demonstrate value, express interest, be the initial pursuer, lose interest if necessary, then recommit after she pursues. My situation is: I’m in a spot where I really like this girl, but she loves games, she has tried to make me jealous, she has apologized for not texting me as much because she’s been in her moods, but when we hang out we have an unbelievable time. So the way I think I will play it is I’ll move on(cut off connection) she may text me to hang out within the next couple of days and I’ll act like I’m excited to hear from her, but I won’t give her a date on when I can hang out next and I’ll tell her that I’m very busy and that I’ll let her know when I’m free. Any advice or criticism is appreciated.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

The best way to handle it is to demonstrate that you're unaffected or indifferent about it. She just does these things because she knows that it gets under your skin. Show her it doesn't bother you & she'll slowly stop doing it. I do have a few videos on over-pursuing, etc though... kzread.info/dash/bejne/kYWJpM98mtG1gLw.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/f4Oj1LmhktOyZpc.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/hpinuMN_gba8eJs.html

@Freedom_is_essential1

5 жыл бұрын

Skill of Attraction thank you very much. I have been watching a lot more of your videos. I am liking what I’m seeing.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Thank you so much. I really need this knowledge.

@SkillofAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Thanks for watching!

you gained a subscriber man😃

@SkillofAttraction

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

Smokin bowls lol! 😤

What ???? You are all over the place... Post edit... I get it now, 'you good man, you good'

man you are brilliant ,,,, you put everything in its place 😎😎😎😎

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

I love your videos!!

@SkillofAttraction

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

You're excatly right, Sir ! But it's hard. Unfortunately especially when you're falling for a girl.. :-( I think that for this reason relations where the guy and the girl are both completely falling for each other are extremely rare! It would seem that most men (and women) won't experience this even a single time in their whole life. Life is a bitch.

@SkillofAttraction

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's very difficult if you've caught feelings, but it's possible. I practice everything that I preach in these videos. If you can remain strong, centered, confident & fun; you too can experience that sort of love with the right woman. And let me tell you...it's amazing!

@fau1338

3 жыл бұрын

Remember men always make it clear where your red line is some women pull away and they want to stay like that they put a little distant in a relationship practically they are trying to change the relationship dynamic she wants to become comfortable that's when i speak up and draw my line i don't if I'm right but id rather speak out or she can go