True if a man really wants you he will wait. Thank you for this green reminder.

@steen275

3 ай бұрын

But if you hook up with top guys in your most fertile years then expect a man later to jump through hoops wait and give traditionel treatment for something that's already been given to other men. Thats the reason nice guys finish last has been a saying for 70+ years. Because women hook up with bad boys in their best years then expect commitment later.

@JackieS812

16 күн бұрын

Great conversation!

As a single mother, I’ve learned to wait for sex. I’ve been celibate for 2 years.. sex confuses things especially when it’s done early

@adk5997

Ай бұрын

Absolutely, it is cheap when asked too early. Honestly this is so old to explain, should be common knowledge. I get offended if someone expects it from me who has no intentions to settle with me. If is someone I met few times in my life, I take big offence. Unfortunately the same men trying to convince us we need to give in after few months, but in the same breath call women used if she had more boyfriends. They should stick to what they are asking for! You want decent women, then be decent, not take advantage of women you don’t want to marry, and why should it be be requirement to date?? Is honestly silly. Hypocrisy at finest. Even some require virgins. How does that go together?? Cheap men won’t understand and don’t make good husbands anyway. That’s what I know.

Yes, I am not one to give up too soon. I want to get to know that person first, before entwining those energies, etc within a 'relationship'. Ive gone out on dates with men & never got a 2nd date, as I wouldn't have sex. Sorry, not sorry. Im not going to be taken advantage of, in that way, only to find out he only wanted sex. 💥🍀✌️There is MUCH MORE to a relationship than sex. Sex too soon can sway your thinking and can also make things much more complicated between the two parties. It can also mean the man is focusing more on the sexual aspect in a relationship, and this could lead to other very complicated issues. Please wait! ❤🍀✌️

It goes both ways tho. She has to wait too, let her earn it, don't validate her for nothing. It should feel like as kind of a reward for both.

Tbh I regret not waiting 😔I wish I had waited for marriage

Communication may be key, but the word of God is eternal. God's word says to wait until marriage, so in my mind that settles it

That's so true. So many marriages suddenly find themselves together alone in one room during covid pandemic and not able to be together anymore. Eventually got divorce. So is so important to be able to be together and have conversations

This right here is so important, viewing oneself as High Value through God. The one who is willing to wait will also see you as such🙏

Ain’t giving it up 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm so happy I'm waiting 🙏🏽

What percentage of people actually succeed in "waiting for sex before marriage " I would say 40% ..making a man wait for sex will not justify or increase the love for a woman ...Falling inlove is instant ..nothing can ever change that "this theory i give it 0%"..maybe am wrong but "Sex depends the bonds between partners and foster the feelings of closeness emotional well being and relationship satisfaction " one can take this information and use it for there own advantage or wait until marriage and discover" unforeseen disclosure brought forward" #spreadsomelove❤

@sbusisiweshaba1715

10 ай бұрын

I think he means waiting until you properly vet him and seeing if he's really interested in you as a person and in a romantic sense. Otherwise sex too early can cloud some people's sense of judgement and end up ignoring redflags.

EXCELLENT ❤️ I AGREE 💯

True true now if a man can have free milk why buy the cow😅😅😅😅😅

Ain't this the truth....... I'm still waiting tic toc 😂 but I'm still weaving the "No's" out by waiting myself. ❤

Okay, Stephan another great podcast. Keep them coming!! 😊

2:51 😂😂😂 very well put.

Don't buy a car without a test drive! IJS...

I have been making this guy wait. Its superficial now so I am waiting.

I disagree lol if the sex isn’t good the relationship will never last. I’d rather know early 😂

@nextbigthing2917

4 ай бұрын

Sex isn’t a talent it’s a skill that is learned and if you TRULY love your partner you guys will have no problem growing together.

@SR77736

Күн бұрын

Waiting a few weeks or a month isn't bad but forcing it or asking for it when the woman isn't ready and expect it by date 1 or 2 is trashy and thirsty. It's giving low value.

Dating a guy who does not want sex until he said he knows me better. I am not sure if he’s using me as a friend since he no longer has guy friends at his age. He has mostly formed a who were his exes. He treats me well but am I just a “girlfriend?” He kisses me and do other things but no sex!!!!!😢

@david443567

2 ай бұрын

If he kisses you, it means he likes you. Stop using sex as validation to see if they like you. We’re not wired like you. We can have sex with women we don’t like. It’s just the way men are. When a man waits to have sex, it means he respects you and wants to get to know you better and is sexually disciplined. It’s a compliment. Show him that you’re sexually interested in him and express you want to do it. Make it fun. Flirt, touch, make out, build the sexual tension which will increase desire. For the both of you. Let him come to you when he’s ready. And it will be magical cause of the tension built and you should have established an emotional connection at this point. You should also be discussing sexual expectations and desires during this period. Which also helps build sexual tension and to see if you are both sexually compatible. No sex is required to know if you like someone or not. If a man tells you this, it’s complete fucking BS. He just wants to fuck.

I've had alot of sex the last few years,I think now im just looking for more,so yeah I'm willing to wait

Wow yes

But to be quite honest When the prolong this it appears as if they are gay

if i gotta wait fine but dont expect any extravagant dates from me... we're doing cheap/free dates until shes ready

How long do you think is long enough to wait? Like 3 months? Or does it depend?

@CharleyChioma

2 ай бұрын

I’m trying to wait at least 6 months with the guy I’m currently dating. Hopefully 6 months after that will yield a ring. Women have to wait around 1-2 years for a ring, so why can’t the man wait the same amount of time or half for sex?

@jroll5858

2 ай бұрын

@@CharleyChioma c’mon now you can’t be serious? You’re telling this dude he’s gotta wait 6 months & then get you a ring & then you’ll give it up. That’s absurd & you’re clearly using him & he’s a sucker for falling for that nonsense. But if he falls for it then good for you & he can reap what he sowed

Yes then he can jump through hoops for leftovers when shes in her 30s

maybe a low quality guy with no other options. If you make a select man wait too long he's just gonna start messing with other women while you sit on the shelf collecting dust

@CharleyChioma

2 ай бұрын

God would disagree. A high quality man will see his value enough to know that his body too is sacred and worthy of deep love. Love is patient. Love is kind.

@hsamzsd

2 ай бұрын

@@CharleyChioma come on, you're from Nigeria? You know very well that kind of love is long gone in most spaces. In Nigeria, if a woman is making you wait, 90% chance she's a jezebel and using you for validation to feel normal while she's out whoring.

@SR77736

Күн бұрын

Well then he can go. Bc attractive women have options too. He's not special and the only man on earth. He's not select if he's pushing for sex too early. That's low value. He can go find a woman who is easy and doesn't have standards and probably does that with every guy she dates.

Dont ever buy cat in bag 😂 Testing is vital

Imagine being the guy, buying her flowers, expensive dates, communicative, and is an awesome human, Only to be overshadowed by the Chad who bought that same girl a couple beers to get something your forced to wait for🤣 Couldn't be me

Usually it's after 2-3 dates. if I gotta wait longer than that then she's playing games. So what I do is go three different places on the first date. And that always leads to my place. That way you can speed everything up. Never agree to morning or lunch dates. High likelyhood of sex not happening

@CharleyChioma

2 ай бұрын

So you’re saying you’ve had sex with countless people, put yourself at risk for diseases, and don’t value your body?

@jroll5858

2 ай бұрын

@@CharleyChioma If a women has genuine burning & high desire for you, she’s not waiting past 3 dates to smash. They’re usually the ones pushing for it after the first or second. But if she’s not that into you then yeah, she’ll be making up rules & excuses & after you drop her off at home & get your peck on the cheek she’ll be hitting up her side dude & getting her back blown out later

@SR77736

Күн бұрын

She's not playing games she may be be comfortable with you. That's crazy you expect her to confirm to your deadline. That's totally selfish and immature of you. It's all about getting laid and that's why women wait. To avoid being used by a guy who doesn't even respect them enough to get to them without that expectation.

@SR77736

Күн бұрын

​@@CharleyChioma that's exactly what he's saying. And he's impatient too.

@jroll5858

Күн бұрын

@@SR77736 It’s actually not my deadline it’s the women’s. If she’s really into you it will be after 2-3 dates. So if a guy wants to speed it up then go to 3 different places on 1st date. It doesn’t always work but sometimes it does. I don’t force anything on women & usually I’m the one telling a women to slow down

I don't really agree with this. Mostly because sex is so widely available and "holding out" when you're especially NOT a virgin can make a man see you as unreasonable. Why must HE wait when the other men before him didn't? That may be his first thought even if those other men did have to wait too. I DO believe that sex can draw you closer or further apart. It all depends on the connection and the values of the people in a relationship. In my current situation we developed mutual respect and like for one another. Sex has connected us more and it helps that we are both spiritual and see sex as a serious and intimate thing. As an ADULT who is nearly thirty I say all this to state that sex is more than fine as long as all parties have already discussed their wants and their intentions before intercourse. As long as there is a connection on both sides...all should go well. Communication will and forever be key.

@jhs3591

10 ай бұрын

Sex should only be inside marriage. The best marriage that lasts

@Tsuki-Yun

10 ай бұрын

@@jhs3591 I don't agree with this but I see why you would think so. Biblical marriage and modern day marriage are two different things.

@jhs3591

10 ай бұрын

@@Tsuki-Yun Whether biblical or not, marriage is sacred and you only give yourself to your husband. That's why the bride wears white gown as a sign of purity. If I was a man, I wouldn't want to marry a woman who has slept with a lot of men. Also most everlasting marriage are those who practice chastity before marriage and the reason of multiple divorces is pre marital sex. They prioritize lust over compatibility

@Tsuki-Yun

10 ай бұрын

@@jhs3591 Purity or not..there are many horror stories of virgin women being screwed over by their husband's. Your logic also makes no sense because if that's the case women who save themselves for marriage only to divorce don't deserve a husband after the fact? Purity is for the male ego. Sex is for reproduction. Ideally marriage and a husband would be ideal but just like there aren't many women worth marrying there are men who lack the discipline to be husband's. God forbid of you find a woman who checks off all your boxes but she's not a virgin and THAT would be your deal breaker? It's shallow as all hell.

@SR77736

Күн бұрын

Situation? Not relationship? Hmm enough said. I wouldn't wanna be in a situation with someone.