If a Man is dating a woman for years ..knowing very well she is not the one .."He is holding somebodies Wife Hostage" Let her Go 😂😂😂😂..but I say this in a loving manner 😇

@marleyisms

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 I approve of this message. Wasting that lady's time lol.

@user-qn9it7vp7n

3 ай бұрын

💯👌😘❤️❤️❤️❤️

@celestinebennett212

3 ай бұрын

@@marleyisms 💯 Queen 💕

@enuphsayd9746

3 ай бұрын

I pray the woman recognizes what is going on before it's too late.

@thecurrentmoment

3 ай бұрын

Man here This is why I'm not a fan of getting into a relationship too early - to me it only makes sense to be in a relationship if I know it could go somewhere. The relationships I have been in, the woman seems to get comfortable and doesn't really think much about the future, even when I bring it up. They just enjoy having a man/boyfriend. Mind you, I have some things to learn about leading a woman in a relationship, apparently it's less of a team effort than I thought it should be (meaning women are waiting for me to tell them where it's going instead of deciding together, which is what I naturally want to do). Anyway, I see a lot of people get into relationships for a year or more and they have no goals, no plan, no future and then it ends when they stop liking each other and I wonder what the point of it is. For me, committing to a relationships feels like proposing lol. Not quite, bit it's like saying "maybe" to a future together, while getting married would be like saying "definitely" to a future together. I can't understand why women (or men) are in such a rush to get into a relationship with someone they barely know, and then change their mind when things aren't working. It doesn't look real commitment to me, and that's why I take my time getting into a relationship. But 3-6 months should be enough to know if you want to try to build a future with this person, as long as you are intentional and talking about it

They be knowing early, they just be skurrred...especially if they've been burned before. It feels like punishment when they know but they wanna drag it out. I oblige them, but they know very early. I'm in a relationship with a man who continues to tell me I check all the boxes, but he needs more time to make sure there isn't something he's missing. It's cool. I let him know I'm not going to wait forever on him. In the meantime, I'm dating other people and keeping my options open. You're single until he unsingles you ladies.

@enuphsayd9746

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@user-qn9it7vp7n

3 ай бұрын

I'mnot dating others and I'mnot closing the door either 😂😂😂😂😂

@EmmeStAnne

3 ай бұрын

Facts!!!

@marleyisms

3 ай бұрын

@@user-qn9it7vp7n Respectfully dating others was disclosed and he agreed fyi , but I feel ya 😂

@alchemicalsoul

3 ай бұрын

Why date? If the purpose is to be with one man?

Men will be dealing.with 7 women but expect you as a woman to be an angel in.order to be placed on a pedestal.

@ellebelle222

3 ай бұрын

@yogaofhealth1800 🤦🏽‍♀️.. 😀 I feel as women we should have standards too. Men don't get a pass for being un disciplined and lacking self control because they are boys. Men have standards and self respect not sleeping with 6 woman at.the same time really I say, he is on the same level as the women he's dealing with and the 7th woman deserves BETTER. Really

@dsanders799

3 ай бұрын

Hello how are you doing

@ellebelle222

3 ай бұрын

@@dsanders799 good and yourself dear?

@Kristain473

3 ай бұрын

That means he’s going to suck in a relationship anyway

@meli7315

2 ай бұрын

The audacity…

I knew after a couple hours into our first date

@Backtotheplayground

Ай бұрын

Aww. I felt this last night

@kandyedwards1376

Ай бұрын

So did my now fiance, we've only been dating 3 months thus far before our first kiss he said I'm the 1

@Kristen1985

16 күн бұрын

​@@kandyedwards1376congratulations and wishing you guys an eternity🥂❤️

I wasted 2 years on a man who claimed I was the one. Not even a proposal, not even a parents' meeting occurred. He didn't even introduce me to his friends. I should have known better. He was a walking red flag (narcissist) and it took emotional cheating to find out what love was sort of supposed to look like. A reasonable man and a woman should know within 6 months of dating if someone is their future spouse. Don't fall for the "Oh I need more time" excuse. There is no time! We only have so much time left on this earth. God does not like us wasting time, so why should you?

@sylviamavule

3 ай бұрын

I wasted 4 good years what wasted years 😢

@passionwilliamson1182

3 ай бұрын

I wasted 7 years!

@nofybn7794

3 ай бұрын

@@passionwilliamson1182 Yes 6-7 for me.

@marleyisms

3 ай бұрын

I agree with your time analysis. My husband knew in one month that he wanted to be exclusive. He knew before he met me he didn't want to be single and date a bunch of women. Some men love the dating scene and refuse to be honest about the variety of sex partners they have access to as well as the freedom by skirting true commitment leading to marriage. Some men know they are ready and will date with intention. The rest waste your time. Time is precious. You can't get it back. You can't buy what you waste. I don't waste my time on men who have poor/no intentions. When the character and personality don't match, I move on. Ya got 1 week to 90 days to show me then I'm done. Can't play with these grown boys anymore.

@winning3329

3 ай бұрын

Don't let a boyfriend keep you from finding your husband.

I felt I found the one and not even dating her. You just known. 6 months of knowing her 2 weeks of knowing her closely that’s it. Yup, it’s just it’s hard to explain…she’s the one. If I dated her I’d know immediately after 2 dates. Know how I know? Just want to listen to her all day just know her thoughts and feelings make her feel secure happy and supported. There is physical attraction but that’s actually second compared to everything else. It’s crazy…I can’t describe it. She was so appealing to me day one, but it was like the first hug, that’s it. The feeling of feeling safe, it was very clear after that very very clear. She’s the one, now it’s just time for formalities

@apeachy1646

2 ай бұрын

Love this ❤️❤️❤️

@Collleeeen

2 ай бұрын

Wow ❤️❤️

@terrybrown7510

Ай бұрын

Amen!

@thornless9073

Ай бұрын

Congratulations🌹🌹🌹

@aya123444

Ай бұрын

Oooo wow.

From what I observed, men seems to know early on. The marrying kind don't waste anyone's time. They seem to do their best to make it happen once they meet the One. Their wives say the road to marriage felt seemless because their men put much effort into making their relationship successful and pleasant. Why settle for someone who constantly change his mind about you or thinks you are not good enough for lifetime of love with him? His actions or inaction speak rather loud. Rose is a rose is a rose, excuses is an excuse is an excuse.

@erika92

6 күн бұрын

This is the comment right here. I need not read any others🙏🏾

I can't understand sharing my body with a guy who is sleeping with 5 other women. I don't even understand "the one" putting up with this. Single is better than being disrespected like that.

@serenacrockett9602

8 күн бұрын

Amen keep in mind this is the words of a worldly man not a Godly man

My man asked us to be official on our first date he told me as soon as he saw me he knew I was gunna be his wife truss me ladies don’t let these men play you he knew straight away fast fast 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️😂😂

My now boyfriend of 1 month, we been planning a wedding since our 1st date. He said he knew it was me the 1st time he met me

@Portia620

Күн бұрын

I hear that too! Then they fall off. Love bombs.

I thought my ex was the one, and I thought he felt the same, but then his ex came back and he emotionally cheated with her and pulked back from me. I ended up leaving, and he was hurt and said he didn't want to close the door on us and then he ghosted me. I don't know if he ghosted because he has feelings, got hurt, and/or wasn't ready for our connection (which is a possibility, the timing was bad)... or if he just wasn't that into me 🤷‍♀️ Either way I moved on to a man that was a bit of a player before I met him but fell hard for me and asked me to be his girlfriend a month after we met, and has consistently included me in his future plans since 😂 Sometimes there's confusion, but it's so much better when it's very clear. Keep your standards high ladies, don't settle for someone who isn't obviously sure about you!

I always remember my da telling me he knew my ma was his future wife in like a week 😂 so yes, I feel men know before us (women) if you are the one or not

@MommaARA

3 ай бұрын

Right my parents knew after 3 weeks if dating. Then 3-4 months later they were married.

To all the beautiful single women out there, my comment is for you: Research has been done on this topic. I heard about it from Steve Harvey first BUT I went on Google to see if Steve was right. Why? Because for Stephan to say it doesn't take long, - that's a vague statement! According to the data, it take 172 days for a person to decide if the person they are dating is marriage material. -That's 6 months. (time for a brief meditation, ladies) One of the authors of the study said, "Our findings suggest that people misunderstand how quickly they make judgments." Furthermore, the "honeymoon" phase in dating ends after 3 months. Hmmm! Need more proof? Someone I know - knew his wife was the one after 6 months. They were married for over 40 years. Another man I knew proposed after 3 months. Married for 19 years. 1 guy I know - he said it was love at first sight. He proposed after 1 month. They were married 53 years before she died. So, when you are dating someone ladies, make sure you know what you want, they know what they want and don't waste time with someone with whom you're not compatible. Life is too short. Hope this helps.

@nessajemima1805

2 ай бұрын

Have you heard how Steve Harvey instantly saw his 3rd wife and told her in front of an entire audience that he wanted to marry her?

Women aren't against men these days. Look at the comments: Women are exhausted.

@timetraveller22

2 ай бұрын

Well said. So tired. Globally. I’m from Malaysia.

@KamaleeCR

2 ай бұрын

Facts.

@wonaugust5721

24 күн бұрын

SO damn exhausted XD

@inettawalker9387

7 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂sick of it!

@Portia620

Күн бұрын

We are

If his idea of "she's the one" changes in a matter of days with some information he found out about her, then he doesn't know what he wants.

@junoluna771

2 ай бұрын

This the one that's why told him good bye

My husband and I were married within 11 months of knowing each other. We discussed your topic on our honeymoon. Everything you said we agree with. ❤

I can’t believe women still care about this stuff with men. To many games, deception after awhile you stop caring what a man thinks and feels about you . Whether he wants to marry you. All of that becomes exhausting. I’ll prefer to focus on my happiness goals and dreams. Later for men and their foolishness

@nofybn7794

3 ай бұрын

YES! I AM DONE WITH MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS. DONE.

@remarkable937

3 ай бұрын

Amen. They really are exhausting.

@mscotchery9861

3 ай бұрын

This!💯 I'm tied! 😮‍💨

@remarkable937

3 ай бұрын

@@mscotchery9861 So, so tired

@laurielangton9333

3 ай бұрын

Why you all here then?

By the time he comes around I’ve moved on

@juliegalea7720

3 ай бұрын

Yup

@ivyofori1548

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@marleyisms

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 this 🎯💯🤣

@patriciasenter7601

Ай бұрын

🤣 Ik right 🤣

“the one” is a fantasy idea , if you read Edgar Cayce’s quotes on soulmates. You actually get several options for soul mates in each life. You also get to choose , and learn different lessons with different people. Not everyone wants to be a swami but they are happy being a yogi. People need to stop selling this 1950s romance. The question is about commitment and how well you know and accept your own situation. It’s not about finding anybody. It’s about finding yourself.

@meli7315

2 ай бұрын

Amen 🙏

@KamaleeCR

2 ай бұрын

Actually I think it makes sense what you're saying. Thanks for that approach.

Men are becoming more & more difficult. This process is not good for the nervous system! I’m exhausted. I’ve been single for 5 years & the it is mentally draining

@maggief1851

3 ай бұрын

Same, I have stopped caring about relationships now.

@ShyXoxo1920

2 ай бұрын

So draining and exhausting!

@erika92

2 ай бұрын

Nervous system 😅so true

@KamaleeCR

2 ай бұрын

It's so true. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted.

@erika92

2 ай бұрын

@KamaleeCR sorry to know this just take some time to yourself. I did for 6 yrs and I feel so much healthier. The wrong ones can ZAP all the energy. I wish you the best

My husband told me that he wanted to marry me after our first date, of course, he didn't let me know until later so he wouldn't scare me off.

Listen to Stephan! He knows his ishhh!! I met my guy on a dating app, even after our first date he was smitten by me! By the 4th or 5th date he was swooned and by the 7th/8th date he was already telling me he was falling for me. It just feels right and when you know you just know! Now 10th date in saying those 3 letter words 🙈 this man has been patient, committed, and intentional EVERY SINGLE STEP OF THE WAY. Ladies don't let these men fool you into these situationships they know early on what they want from you and the dynamic. It's up to you to set the boundry and say NEXT when he's not showing up the way you deserve. They are still out there, be patient and steadfast and he will come ❤

Regardless of if a man is burnt or not I honestly feels he still knows in a short time if she is someone he would want.I think people waste lots of time after they realize she is not the one

@dejanae7336

3 ай бұрын

This man I was dating kept beating the bush about wanting to discuss STDs and this man had HSV2. So happy I didn’t sleep with him.

Within weeks he was like "You're it, the one...." Months later, "umm, I think we should back off a bit" a year and a half later "Uh, yeah, bye" They might feel something pretty soon, but if he doesn't clinch the deal, waits a while, he's gone. 🤨🤔😮🤷

My man told me I was his 1 within the first week after we met. It took me a little longer but here we are 9 months later. 😊 He knew right away!

@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

8 күн бұрын

My cousin went to a party one night; he wasn't feeling that well and didn't really want to go. He met the love of his life at that party!! He told us he knew THAT VERY NIGHT that she was "the one." They've been very happily married for about 10 years now!!

I never thought I'd ever find myself saying this, but here goes: Stephan is right on with this one FOR SURE. I've dealt with men over 30 years who had strung me along, made all kinds of excuses as to why he couldn't commit, was confused, needed space to figure things out. This took them years to tell me. There was only one guy from my history who knew that I was the one for him. He made it clear to me within one month we knew each other. He didn't leave me confused about his feelings. I knew where I stood. I didn't have to ask him, nudge him, nag him or utilizing the internet to ask questions about him. He already told me and made sure I didn't have a doubt in my mind about how he felt.

@Crgb777

3 ай бұрын

Same. In my 30 years I've had two men just like this - direct, to the point, let me knew they saw me as a marriage candidate tight away. It didn't work because of basic incompatibilities along the way. But these men sure gave me the frame work to know what to look for when a man is being serious or just bullshitting me! And they came only 2 years apart from each other too in my last two years of my twenties

@hotpink3459

3 ай бұрын

@@Crgb777 But are ALL men going to be that direct?

@mluna1898

3 ай бұрын

@@hotpink3459then you have to take that maybe with a gram of salt!

@rosiexx8127

3 ай бұрын

​@@hotpink3459 Mature men lead relationship, grow boy make excuse

@nevergiveyouupbjcaldwell2454

2 ай бұрын

I won't date a man that I'm not attracted to. Wouldn't want to lead him on.I will give a relationship some time to work out if not, I'll nicely move on . No turning back. It's his loss, I know my worth. Saying no to games & manipulation. I love PEACE ❤️

They know from the moment they meet u which category they will put u. There are 3 different categories if you know u know. I learned the hard way but I don't waste my time more with guys that won't commit

@HawaBintYusuf

3 ай бұрын

What are the 3 categories?

@katiemma9673

3 ай бұрын

What's this 3 categories?

@MirandalindaL.A

3 ай бұрын

@@HawaBintYusuf I took my a long time to figure them out but I won't waste my time no more. Men usually have 3 categories the moment they meet a woman. Number 1 wife material 2 hook up no marriage material 3 no chance it all not number 1 or 2 hope this helps. I'm so done with me I'm fed up 😅😅😅😅😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@HawaBintYusuf

3 ай бұрын

@@MirandalindaL.A Thanks for sharing

@HawaBintYusuf

3 ай бұрын

@@MirandalindaL.A It's okay to take a break from dating and focus on yourself and other aspects of your life. Just don't give up on love and healthy long-term relationship or marriage if that's a thing you genuinely want. Some of us are late bloomers, we find love later on in life and hold on to it. Late doesn't mean denied. Enjoy been single and when a good partner comes you'll still enjoy been a couple. Wish you all the best.

I went from neglected and ignored to much more once he saw me out with another man.

@jrodgers1578

3 күн бұрын

Facts

@Portia620

Күн бұрын

😂😂. I’d stay with the new guy!!! No time for games!

I always break up with guys at the 1 year mark if I’m not 100% sure about them. Not proposing around that year mark is also a red flag to me because if I know if I see a future with them or not by that point, then they surely should know too. Don’t care how many women get married after 2, 3, 5+ years. That’s not the kind of love I want, so no point wasting time.

@quatriciajohnson858

3 ай бұрын

You want to be married that bad that you would switch partners so frequently? You may have been the one for someone but you let him go.

@sweetsoul8

2 ай бұрын

@@quatriciajohnson858 Where did I say I switch partners so frequently? I’ve only had 2 serious relationships that I had to end. I don’t want to get married that badly, my thing is I don’t like wasting my time on the wrong people. I would rather make memories in life with my friends than with meaningless boyfriends. And I know for a fact I haven’t let go of anyone good. I don’t make my decisions lightly, I think about it for about 3 months & I never go back to exes. When I make a decision I stick with it.

@BrookeLyn39

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@mikyl-fo8rh

Ай бұрын

3 months is a realistic frame. If both aren't in agreement for a committed relationship, including marriage, LEAVE.

@sweetsoul8

Ай бұрын

@@mikyl-fo8rh You’re absolutely right! I don’t want to be the one to say it because other people love to chime in about waiting 2-3 years, absolute nonsense. Everyone knows straight away!! A man knows if he wants to marry you on the first date even.

I've been with my man 3 yrs now. He told me that he knew for a long time before we had even met that I was the one for him (I had him on social media). Personality & character is EVERYTHING! And your heart above all. They feel that. But you need to be smart and have discernment ladies. Don't be played for fools. Everyone shows you who they are, QUICK!

If you want a serious relationship &/or marriage, get commitment before intimacy and have definite timeline for your dealings with said person. 3-6 months max excluding circumstances that are out of your control….anything longer you are wasting your time!!! Time you can’t get back and could have been used &/or appreciated elsewhere. Stay safe ❤😊

I'm the happiest I've ever been, and he was pursuing me for months I'm 16 years older. That's why I was staying away, but he's so dope and fun

Yeah it happened to me. I’m grateful and blessed with this man coz’ we’re in the same page,vibration and beliefs ❤

@alitez960

3 ай бұрын

Me too❤

Anybody else reach that limit of I'm not even wasting a month unless you know? I can't deal with no more foolishness 🤦🏾‍♀️ Women who are intentionally doing their part in becoming a loving wife and you over her chilling and playing video games, let them be, respectfully 🙏🏾

So finicky and weak--I'm not walking on glass for men anymore, especially when they literally offer nothing in return.

@manuuu1127

12 күн бұрын

👏🏽

I had a 2 year limit. I dated for a true relationship not recreation. When we met, we knew almost from jump but definitely within 6 months we were going the distance.

The funny thing is, if she finds out the man thinks this way, it's a game changer for her as well. It goes both ways. Sometimes men think they can have the women they want, put her on a pedestal, then he changes his mind, whether it's because of what he heard, or he doesn't want to put forth the effort, whatever the reason, but he doesn't realize, she's had enough experience to know exactly what she wants, and exactly what she won't put up with, leaving him behind, because he can't make up his mind, he lowers his standards, or he thinks he has all the time in the world. In the meanwhile, she finds somebody else, that sees her worth, and treats her like a queen. Then is too late for that man, who allowed others to persuade his thoughts, instead of coming to his own conclusion of what would be best for him. There are not very many people that come along who are a perfect fit, and then when that perfect fit does come along, the person can screw it up majorly, because they fail to see what has been in front of them the whole time.

This is the most epic video EVER. Saving broken hearts from now until forever. ❤

He knew first but we both just knew. Its ❤a beautiful feeling.

I started dating a coworker when he was 2 years separated. It took 5 months for him to determine I was "the one," so he filed for divorce. He finally ended up getting his divorce, proposed on Valentine's Day and we are eloping in 2 1/2 months. I knew he was "the one" a month and a half in, but couldn't do anything about it because of the separation. I would never recommend dating a separated man.

Thanks for the video, I cannot stop wondering if a man knows that he found the one early on, that means he can choose someone without knowing her! What made him choose her? It has to do with what he felt around her, men are way more emotional than we think, women are way more rational than we think too, that's why women can deal with certain situations that men cannot. So because for men choosing the one is highly feeling-driven, women we don't have to fight for being chosen or for man's love, either it is there or not

I knew on the first date with my now wife

@whitneyandrews2438

3 ай бұрын

How were you able to tell? I really am curious

@kimberlyturner820

3 ай бұрын

😳

@sweetsoul8

3 ай бұрын

Did you know that based off her character or her beauty by any chance?

@holisticlifestyle7

3 ай бұрын

I’m curious too 🤔

When I would not sell my home my boyfriend broke it off in a text... Glad he did that, I obviously did not really matter.

@malissa1134

2 ай бұрын

I'm SO happy you didn't sell your home for him. Real estate is generational wealth. Remember that.

We’ve been dating for about 3-4months now always with each other as if we’re in a relationship call each other babe/boo, FaceTimes me when we don’t see each other and says he’s exclusively only seeing me but he doesn’t expect that from me. “Want to take it slow” he’s a good man your channel really is helping me learn what a good man is and how to treat one. At first I didn’t want to be vulnerable.. but now I hope it turns into a relationship 🔥💕

@malissa1134

2 ай бұрын

Bless this union🙏🏾

My now fiance proposed last month after 9 months of us dating. We were connected through a mutual friend who thought we'd be a great fit. He is the man of my dreams and I am everything he could have ever wanted. He never thought he would get married because he never found someone he wanted to marry. ❤

So the point is he has evolved and been matured enough.

@facelessman5362

3 ай бұрын

So every women is just evolved and matured?!

@Summer-tk8yk

Ай бұрын

@@facelessman5362 What made it relevant with my understanding from his video? Please elaborate what made you think that way.

Another on point video stephan,wise words and always on point

Yes, and no. It’s not a one size fits all. Because honeymoon phase is easy to think someone “ is the one.” But the truth is once the honeymoon phases over in real life kicks in this is gonna be the greatest telltale sign of where this relationship leads. Because sometimes you really have to go through hell and high water with your partner to know if they’re really in it with you. Because it’s great and fun for everyone to be there when it’s all good and you’re enjoying the honeymoon phase, but when the honeymoon phase is over, that’s when shit gets real , and that’s what typically exposes people and you really go through some good bad and neutral times with your partner to really see if you guys are the right fit. You could think someone is the one but go through some challenging times and then tell me what you think from there…? I for sure thought my ex “was the one.” Thank God he wasn’t. I did not know myself enough yet, I didn’t know enough life lessons yet, I saw a lot more learning and growing to do as an individual and just in general. Turns out he was only there for a good time, not a long time. I literally poured into him, nurtured him, grew him up, and the second he felt like he made it on his own, which he didn’t. He made it without me, left me like it was nothing for another woman who wasn’t even half of me and him because of his money. I was with him when he was broke as F. he finally came into some money and I helped him get it and he fucking left me the second he could because he thought he could do better disrespecting everything I had done for him and thank God because I dodged the bullet. I was so blind I didn’t see the red flags. My next relationship, I met a guy that I was trying to love cautiously because I’d already been so hurt many many times. I was always left, I was always done dirty or cheated on and I consider myself a good woman and I’m beautiful and inside and out. Him and I had both come out of relationships about a year each before meeting each other and he is Jewish and I am not. He had been married and had a daughter and I’ve never been married and no kids. He stood by my side like no one ever has. He had my back like no one ever has. He showed me he was there for not just a good time but a long time. My ride or die, but I’ll be honest , three years and relationship he wasn’t making any advances, he wouldn’t openly have conversations with me that I thought adults should be having about their life and futures together and he was honestly just moving way too slow for me. So I thought… But I took a closer look really to get to know who he was and I think it’s very important that people take their time and as much time as they need to learn somebody. Especially if you’re gonna be marrying someone you need to take your time to get to know that person so don’t rush it, and forget what people say oh, you should know immediately sometimes you don’t always know immediately and sometimes what you think. You know immediately is wrong and inaccurate. We definitely had a lot of our own challenges and problems, but we always found a way to work through them and it made us closer and our bond closer. We grew together as a couple in a way that I’ve never been able to grow with anyone else in my life. Yes I want marriage. Yes, I want a family. Yes, I want kids, etc. but we have to understand when we meet people. We can’t expect everyone to be ready right then and there. He had his own stuff he said to work through and I had my own stuff I had to work through and we both had our own internal battles to us both to crossroads to go on life without each other or go our separate ways or try to figure it out together. I think the alternative is not either of us want definitely not an easy decision but it did us to start getting more serious about making those decisions because I can’t just keep sitting around with no clarity were too old for this shit. But all I’m getting out is that sometimes you really cannot rush these things and what works for one couple may not work for the next. It’s not cookie cutter. It’s not a copy and paste so don’t tell people they should know immediately you should be advocating for people to take their time and as much time as they need. You really really really need to go through all of it before marriage with your partner. So you can collect enough data and information and experiences to know who that person is and if that’s really who and what you’re ready to commit to making such a serious lifelong commitment like marriage… So please don’t tell people or rush people, or make people think they should know immediately that’s not true. This is very misleading.

#7 needs to run for the hills

@mulberrystudio22

2 ай бұрын

Yup!!

We know! We’re just in the vetting stage of waiting for her to step up! If we find one who’s aligned it wouldn’t be long. I found one who’s aligned to the point of what we eat, likes and even down to our favorite teams. Ultimate feminine!

@ShyXoxo1920

2 ай бұрын

Step up in what way??

I agree awareness is the key,II agree he might know soon however I think a woman needs more time too determine if he is the right one.she needs for a time observe how he reacts too dissatisfaction or disappointment. Our safety is important it takes time to observe a man behavior, his skills,intelligence, spiritual. As a woman, that is important. I would need a good year.as a woman

Awww..I cant wait to be the one to a Great Man.😊

@tsepangsakoane3880

3 ай бұрын

Me too

@donnatremblay8984

3 ай бұрын

This man rotating 6 women is not a catch, is not a great man. Not to far from an animal.

So true we know when aswell when the man is the one when we're mature👌💯

Stephan thanks

My boyfriend knew from our first date Took me a little longer 😂

❤❤I can't wait to meet him, I'll keep praying for the right man 🙏🙏🙏🌹 in My Life 💞💞 Thank you 🙏🌹

Too bad for the player, because when "the one" gets wind of his player style, she will dump him for a man who values loyalty. Just sayin...

The man who don’t care act like they don’t care but need to lie about it. They need the comfort of believing she’s clueless. They don’t know their respectability is gone by the time she finds out… Act like you’re a fool until you’re ready to walk away. Make no fuss. Just let him know calmly everything you noticed, and how you lost respect for him, if you care to do so on your way out.

If someone wants you compete walk away - they see your value or they don’t! Most are more interested in the entertainment watching people tear each other apart.

Yes if it really is meant to be, I believe you will know instantly and it is consistent, in my experience. Both will know in a balanced way. And yes he is right, if it is way too quick, and way too much, it will die just as fast. It won't be everlasting.

We know were meant to be and as months comes, I’m getting more and more confirmations that’s he’s my person. I knew he was the one within the first week and him the first date😅

We were casually (and privately) seeing each other, and he knew a few other guys at the social club were wanting to hook up with me or whatever. I'm sure they all did the locker room talk about me too, but he kept quiet about us. I could have gone out with any of the others, (tho I didn't want to) and if one them to bragged that we went out, even if it was platonic and meaningless to me, he'd be done with me. The prize wasn't the woman that the other guys had gotten with. And that worked both ways.

Stephan hi... your message was good to know

Immediately right

Building up in truth full .

Best to be independent and maintain your leaving power - how a mind fr the other person can be changed and fleeing so quickly is v unreliable. Nothing is guaranteed.

Knowing and doing are two different things.

Thank you beautiful soul ❤

This was a compiled repeat. Good info still

Loved this message ❤

My ex felt that way about me until we had a miscommunication that led to a breakup and now I’m not longer considered “the one”. Seems to me the relationship was a lot more brittle than what I thought

And about the man who claimed he found The One and after years, marriage and kids he doesn’t feel like this anymore?

@sweetsoul8

3 ай бұрын

Would like to know this as well. ^

Agreed

Very wise

Amen I believe this. 🙏♥️🙌

I feel like everything said is true atleast from what I experienced. I had a guy in high school wait 8 months to have sex with me. He always said it was because I was special and he didn't want to mess things up.we were even going to get married, and I didn't take it seriously. I'm not sure why. So it ended with me leaving for someone else. As I got older, I realized he really did care about me, and I must of hurt him very much. Even if we're not together, I will still remember the sweet gestures, and i will always hold a place in my heart for him.

11:27 projecting contributes towards creating a negative outcome

No, this was very interesting and I got some questions. How do I reach you for a private session?

I don't think my one was created

@mysteriousqueen935

3 ай бұрын

Same

@meli7315

2 ай бұрын

Faith moves mountains ❤

Projecting a negative outcome contributes to creating a negative outcome. This is literally self sabotage. 💯

Its about truthful

This is factual...

I want to say this very important thing, from my experience. He and her has to know what they want before they meet. Like, if they both are interested in finding the right spouse for them and they have seen what is out there and they are no longer interested in that whole dating scene -dont want to go on this date that date etc., but has that longing in their heart for something so deep, passionate, everlasting, what their soul deeply longs for, the right person, someone they can see themselves with all their life, they just are looking for that rare gem/special someone that nothing can compare to, it will happen most likely if both k ow this is what they want before they meet anyone and they will know very quickly, yes or no.

That suck, because sometimes dudes can lie and doctor up some false proof too

@amyj.4992

3 ай бұрын

It's happened to me, and I've openly talked about the people I have actually been with before. Names and everything, and I still got lied on

@amyj.4992

3 ай бұрын

As embarrassing as it was, I wanted to keep this individual informed before anyone ever had a chance to lie on me and they still believed a lie about me. Not even to double confirm or to even just question me. The truth does mind being questioned and a lie hates being challenged

@amyj.4992

3 ай бұрын

If I like you imma inform you, and if I love you imma be shamefully honest 🙏🏾

VERY TRUE!! RESPECT IT'S IN FIRST PLACE 💯 THAT'S WHY..... A LOT OF MEN'S, WHAT SEX😢 THEY DOESN'T RESPECT YOU 😢 SAD SAD. SAD

He can be ready as hard as he wants to, but if he has parents and whose control he is, you can forget it

less than a year. sometimes in 6 month.

He asked me: Did I have a man? I said: Well No you haven't asked me to be yet. SO I don't have a Man yet. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Then a few years prior A Man asked me but I was going through a mental and heart healing that I couldn't commit. I honestly didn't feel I Loved him.🤦🏾‍♀️ 🙏🏾

Right! How long does it take? Well I’m not waiting he already know but he’s too scared to move forward I’m out!

Thw story stephan is telling at min 9 is a concrete evidence on why in Islam its forbidden to have sex before marriage. Its because of this potential situation and most importantly to protect women from hurt ( physical and emotionally). Hats off for Islam

I feel that if I know up front that a man is dating several women he is not marriage material for me, nor I for him either. Who's to say he will be faithful afterwards? Sometimes, they stay in contact 😮

The guy I’m dealing with says that he wants to marry me, however he won’t delete his ex-girlfriend from a few years ago from his Facebook friends, and it really bothers me because he was came to me accusing me of checking her page which I didn’t but ever since then it’s giving me an uncomfortable feeling. He says he doesn’t have any contact with her and that she’s in a relationship too and said he would delete her when he was ready. Is that a red flag?

@englishapplications6323

3 ай бұрын

Using you as a rebound and waiting for her. That simple. Tell him firmly "Either you block her or I leave." Have very strong boundaries.

@passionwilliamson1182

3 ай бұрын

Yes!!!

@WrapsPops

3 ай бұрын

IMO Facebook doesn’t weigh much honestly. Access the Man U are dating and judge the relationship based on his character, from that one day you will decide if his Facebook friendships affect the relationship. With time he will delete her (also asking in a nice way helps ) people generally hate being told what to do . Until you have solid proof of what their communication looks like … I wouldn’t let that deter u from accessing the relationship over all . I’ve been with people who were so close to their ex’s but me focusing on the relationship and genuinely showing up made them cut off their ex’s .

@nyeisherb447

3 ай бұрын

Having issues with female “friends” before me, and during me! It’s getting exhausting, but I haven’t reached my I’ve had enough limit yet trying to give him time to correct these issues, but the clock is definitely ticking!😒

@alitez960

3 ай бұрын

Yes it is he shouldnt need any women friends if he has you

Mmmmkay with the purple!!

i heard it said it takes 2 years but i doubt it 😏

What defines “forever” when wanting commitment?

I was told that... I'm the one so he was all in. And that he has put me on a pedestal. His actions are matching up but he isn't saying he loves me, so wondering if it's all true..

@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

8 күн бұрын

Did he tell you he loves you yet?

I e always say it, it does not rake long

All I know is for women any time is the right time for the right man but for men, any woman is the right woman at the right time.

5 seconds

Can someone help me with this question: a man preferably. So if a man doesn’t believe in marriage does this also mean he doesn’t believe in true love

@nancychege6777

3 ай бұрын

Sis he doesn't until he meets the right one.thats why they date u for 5years , leave u and marry another in 6 months do what's right for u.

@rhysenfyneix7864

3 ай бұрын

TL;DR Speaking as one such man: no, that's not what it means. LONG VERSION: Did you ask HIM? Whatever guy you're talking about... Did you ask HIM if HE believed in true love? Plenty of men are anti marriage because there's little to gain from it if you aren't devoutly religious but they DO believe in so-called "soul mates". Marriage lost its value when no-fault divorce became a thing. Love will always have value.

@damarish.torres145

3 ай бұрын

@@rhysenfyneix7864 yes I did ask him and his response was “we’re already living together and have a child as if we are married so what’s the point. Then he asked me I was willing to sign a prenup. I said no. His mom raised to believe that people who are legally married live worst than those who aren’t married. He saw a bad marriage growing up with his mom and dad. I think this influenced him a lot which is why I left 10 months ago. I was giving more than what I was receiving and he wasn’t willing to change