I like coming back to this channel every 2-3 months. It’s like catching up with that one uncle or an old coach/mentor

It's by listening to this channel that 11 years ago gave me te posibility to be with the woman of my life , today we have a 10 year old daughter and we are still together .

@What-he5pr

3 ай бұрын

Great man that's awesome.

@BridgeTROLL777

3 ай бұрын

beautiful :)

@TheWalamala

3 ай бұрын

didn't ask

@za4ria

3 ай бұрын

@@TheWalamalajealousy is a woman’s trait

@RestLess-MinD

3 ай бұрын

I happy f or ya man,at least someone doing it

May be the the most hard hitting video I've seen from elliot been watching his videos for years now, god bless

I live with my mother taking care of her because she's very old. I want to compensate all her effort of raising me when I was a kid and my father abandoned us. I cannot imagine how lonely and bad I'll feel they day she pass away.

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

I have the same worry.

@gregc.9313

3 ай бұрын

Same boat brother. Stay strong and Happy Easter

@waynebaker5720

3 ай бұрын

You'll be ok You're following one of the most important instructions of the ten commandments; All praises to TMH

@phaedruslive

3 ай бұрын

Do what you can, and be proud that you did the honorable thing, and accept that's the most you could do even it won't feel like enough.

@RozayMalikOG

3 ай бұрын

It going to hurt😢 but i think you can get through it

Old Elliott vibes. He always makes videos at the right time. It's wild

I'm an old childless git now but I try my best to give the young guys in my office a passing boost. It's astonishing how positive the reaction can be, proof that it's sorely needed.

@publicalias8172

3 ай бұрын

It goes a long way mate believe me 🙂

That is quite profound. It reaches a deep place within my psyche. Thank you for sharing.

Great video Elliot, throughout my entire life I have always been alone & spent most of my time by myself not by guilt or shame but rather i just find peace & comfort not being surrounded by others, so i honestly could never really relate to anyone who says they feel loneliness. but i understand now that in this world i do have some duty to give attention back to others, even if its something as small as leaving a youtube comment it is better for others than nothing. i think maybe speaking for myself who is aspiring to be "seen" as an artist & content creator i've always instinctually keep to myself & don't share much about myself almost as if there is going to be a "big reveal" of all the self reflection & learning I have done over the years to than present myself as the perfect man. i think men need to show the world who they are even if it is messy & flawed & inferior, because as you said no one can bring you into there world if you don't give at least a little bit of yours in return. These videos give the same vibe & authenticity that I felt watching your videos back in the day, keep exploring your mind & don't be afraid to be controversial

Thank you Elliot! Im going through some hard time and this is what i needed to hear!

💪🏼😤 solid advice thanks brother

this is a very powerful message

I’m alone…no family no friends. I’m not connected to anyone. Loneliness recently surpassed other health issues for early death for those over 40.

@TheChrispylad

3 ай бұрын

You have ferrets you have a fake family fake loneliness 😂

@IdLestat-jq2ci

3 ай бұрын

I've noticed that indigenous people seem like they do not have problems with loneliness, they stay a tight nit community and all contribute to their groups. I don't think it's your fault, my fault, or anyone's fault we are starting to feel more and more isolated and trapped into this new digital first- social media world. This blame falls directly on our major world cities societies, they are forcing this industrialized modern world stripping us more and more of the nature that surrounds us. I don't propose us all going back into the stone ages, but I feel like we all need to bring nature and the sense of communities back into these so called "Civilized Cities" You are correct about the health issues, our society wants people to stay sick and unhealthy, divided and seek independence over unity. I saw this video in Japan, all the woman like 60-80 years of age that have long sense been retired and to old to stay in current work positions, well their society has provided a meaningful and contributive form of connection for them giving them a sense of purpose and community. For about 3 mins in-between certain times on their Subways and train systems, they have these ladies in large groups go in and just tackle cleaning the seats and windows together as a team, no major back breaking work but enough for them to feel connected and like they are contributing back an important role into their societies. That's just a small example of a positive system structure I believe many other countries could learn a lesson from.

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

What you need is to experience gratitude from other people. Read the Bible and go to Catholic Church. Take what you learn from the Bible and from Catholic church and take it out into the streets. There's always somebody standing on the street corner while holding a cardboard sign that reads, "I love Jesus, I have cancer, I need money." Park your car, step out of your car, and walk over to that person holding that sign and talk to him or her about Jesus, Catholic Jesus. *Make sure to give that person a few bucks from your pocket* and tell them about Catholic Jesus. Your loneliness will have a completely different meaning if you do this over and over again, without fail. The important thing to do in your heart is learn how to forget about the cost.

@coffeelover1763

3 ай бұрын

Maybe you might want to look into events in your city. Maybe there might be mens groups, church groups, maybe people get together and play crib somewhere. It's not to late to find friends

@Ulfrich_Stormcock

2 ай бұрын

If thats the case for me, I wont make it to 60, and im 26 😂 fuck this world and fuck you all lol

Solid advice. Thanks

i'm 25 and autistic and lonely/socially isolated

@What-he5pr

3 ай бұрын

Play games in person and join autistic support groups.

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

I understand. Some people go through life receiving the benefit of the doubt. Other people go through life never receiving the benefit of the doubt. It will be difficult for you to receive the benefit of the doubt from other people. You should help the homeless. They also know what it is like to be deprived of the benefit of the doubt. The Gratitude you would receive from them after helping them is true. Their true gratitude will help you learn about of the Perfect Gratitude of The Holy Virgin Mary that wells up from her Immaculate Heart for her Son, Our LORD Jesus Christ. Once you start learning how to emulate her gratitude in your own heart, then you will have friendship with the saints in heaven, even as you now live.

@freedomfreedomfreedom

3 ай бұрын

I have the same issue, but then I discovered marijuana and the places where people congregate to smoke marijuana. Now I go there whenever I feel like social interaction and smoke weed with the other potheads. It really does fix the problem, but in the end all your friends will be potheads, and you will become one too. Now, the trick is to be a functional pothead, keep focusing on your goals, and everything will be alright. P.S. Also learn to play a musical instrument, this will ensure you will get a girlfriend. Females love dudes that play a musical instrument. Don't forget to wear sunglasses whenever possible.

@RozayMalikOG

3 ай бұрын

​@@freedomfreedomfreedomsame i smoke an do creative stuff and stay home and out the way of society

Loneliness is when you are surrounded by people but there is no meaningful conversation to nourish your soul. Conversations are shallow and solely focussed on others agenda or growth but not yours.

@combatcarl5070

3 ай бұрын

I feel asthough I am currently undergoing this situation in my life.

Great episode

This is just excellent advice.

So true especially the being seen part.. We as a society are very inwards focused these days. Ignoring, speaking when we should be listening; we don't realize how it's shaping everything around us but the symptoms of sickness are showing. Everyone is surrounded and connected, and feel completely isolated. That's scary! but like you said, treat others as you want to be treated.

Good video. Thanks

Elliot is right on.

I went out to find a friend, But did not find one there I went out to be a friend, And friends were everywhere.

@breatheeasily4013

3 ай бұрын

FAAAACTS!

Wise words

When i 1st read the title I thought Elliot was struggling with loneliness

God bless you

me too I am also struggling with loneliness 😢

Feeling good? It will pass. So be prepared. Feeling bad? It will pass. So be prepared

Do what I do and turn to the Almighty, you will never be lonely trust me

I think it can be really hard for people who have learned helplessness. Prior to having had some level of success socially, academically, and financial there was the this lingering concern that maybe it was just outside the realm of possibility. When I am struggling about as hard as I am capable of at this level of struggle durability I have developed, what I always have to keep it going is the knowledge that it is a state and not a fate. To not have previously experienced some level of societal integration I think it would be perhaps impossible to endure I would assume the goal futile. In this time this cultural era even more so anthropologically isolating than my cohort, a cohort once claimed to be the rock bottom of societal cohesion, they are even more scarce in the fraternal love. Even if only them having fewer connections over all that is few acquaintances able to be elevated to nonfamilial brotherhood. The proper life of a man involves a level of individualism by itself when there is an abundance of the sweatlodge/mead hall/gymnasium/ campfire culture. These dudes might not realize that the[ new cultural analog to the Neolithic cattle raid war band ] would be beneficial them thinking about the failure inevitable they would not seek the resources as they feel it would only mean they can see the success they feel they cannot reach. They further isolate because they want to avoid the experience of failure despite effort they opt to have plausible denial that it is possible for them in the first place. Subconsciously an excuse to dull the pain of attempting nothing. Me myself I had my boys they didn't want to hear none of that defeatist noise and they were not antagonistic about it I would tell them that they overestimate me and if my attitude was better I would still fail and that upon seeing that failure they would realize that I never had enough of what it takes for this or that at first and yeah I'm putting in work on the things I'm making progress even too but I explained that there's just too much ground to catch up on I already ruined my chances to achieve anything ever. They didn't have any of those excuses they didn't raz me too hard for being a mope but they did call it out they insisted that and they rationalized to me the observably evidence that they are not just hyping me up as my boys they were like keep going and I would then some times falter and they would tell me it was still too soon to call it a failure. Eventually I finally realized that they were right it was 80% being too mopey and 20% pursuing the wrong specific type of excellence and needing to know myself. These modern kids they likely don't have the quality of friends I had. I had friends that so to speak "saw me" maybe to some people in some of the situations it is annoying to them but hey I think it is a good thing over all in effect but I get a bit dad style I see young dudes exhibiting that foundations of achieving excellence and I don't BS I give recognition that they deserve some dudes want to be well regarded for something misaligned to them and have never been acknowledged that way some dudes underestimate their aptitude because they assume it is universally easy so it isn't praiseworthy some dudes have gotten dog piled so bad that they accidentally avoided praise in their efforts to avoid antagonism. I know it because I had been there. I feel less lonely being alone no because I know if I prioritized it again I could have a vibrant social life. I no longer struggle with the suspicion that I deserve to be lonely or something like that. I think that is the reason why this phenomenon is happening they are alone because they are not capable of becoming worthy of connection that guys with a sense of fraternity don't have anything special no secret ingredient we have reconciled with our issues but it might seem from outside that we never had to overcome feelings of inadequacy at certain points and certain things about us that are admirable we developed it is not like other things that are a product of natural inclinations. We keep it all relatively low key and we practice humility about the work going into the self improvement we keep it stoic but we didn't just get put together that way it isn't particularly obvious and the virtue of the humility has the negative side effect of not communicating the development occurred. If we can keep it humble we can matter of fact like tell them we could have potentially ended up losers and they don't have to end up losers. It is a process not a procedure they feel lonely because they feel existentially lonely they don't have peers who know the lived experiences but they are wrong we are just on the other side of it we can relate to the experience we had just never made that fact clear. That's being a man baby it takes maintainance drop the level of effort and regression occurs because a journey is not a destination like it isn't easy for you kid? Well that is not because it is especially hard for you it is never going to be effortless not for anybody to be more than mediocre. That is just the entropic nature of the universe increasing order of a system requires a decreasing level of order to the universe effort is mandatory to increase order it is a law of physics

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

It's just physics, huh? Wrong. If it's just physics then, the divorces started by women 70% of the time indicates that the men they divorced truly screwed up 70% of the time. Because in physics: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction... If you say, 'It's just physics', then divorces started by women are simply a reaction from the women to previous actions of bad men. Feminists think that way. You're a secret feminist now Anthony. It's not physics, It's Selfishness. Our LORD Jesus Christ says, "Love you neighbor as yourself...Love one another as I have loved you." The 'sleek and the proud' people don't reach out to ragged people because they are afraid of how associating with ragged people will make them look in the eyes of others.

@Numantino312

2 ай бұрын

that's a lot to unpack. am glad i returned to actually READ this. plugged 'learned helplessness' into google. had never realised it was an actual psych term. even tho i had never called it that, 'learned helplessness' and wasting time is a primary lesson from school meant to be taken into life. outside the classroom, consider the typical school bus ride (or non-school city transit ride). you spend eons riding 10-15-plus miles on this maze route for what is probably the long side of walking/cycling distance. inside the the school's walls? try getting the class/teacher you want. try getting bullies (physical fists or cyber, one person or several) to leave you alone. try walking out of the classroom ten minutes into the lesson without asking for pass or permission. try talking to the person to your right or left. consider how a 10 minute lesson is drawn out to 45+, much of which is drained away by other kids who are too stupid to get it, or who have disciplinary issues. and just like in prison, you don't get to walk away from someone who is annoying or blatantly dangerous. everything is determined by someone else, and is wrapped up in the tortilla of "I'm sorry, there's nothing we can do." and when YOU do something, when YOU take action, you are In Trouble. no surprise people have trouble talking to other people, and cannot get things going in their own lives.

Loneliness is the lack of feeling love. Being alone is simply not being in the presence of others. If you’re feeling lonely, seek service of others and you’ll find love, curing your loneliness.

@Numantino312

2 ай бұрын

are you sure about that? the last thing most people want in their lives is someone 'needy', even if they-themselves are needy. two needy people together could be helpful to eachother or make a good team. the other 95% become co-dependent or other toxic dynamic. getting involved with needy people is emotional drain and time sieve. similarly, getting involved with people whose lives are perpetual train wreck is a good way to wreck your own life. best, most potent lesson i got from another kid circa 5th grade: "nobody cares. nobody's coming to help you."

I never understood loneliness. I always wanted to get the F' away from everyone. Its the greatest gift there is! :)

@_Arugula_Salad_

3 ай бұрын

Panzer ✊🏻

What use is a phone when no one ever calls you? What good is it being around other people if they do not talk to each other? What good is a family if it only reminds you that you do not have any? What good is an older man if you are no longer a twink?

@UnknownBrowser

3 ай бұрын

shuddap

@freedomfreedomfreedom

3 ай бұрын

@@UnknownBrowser Okidoki

@_Arugula_Salad_

3 ай бұрын

@@freedomfreedomfreedom Pay no heed to this fool

@Charles2k

3 ай бұрын

mate the most active my phone gets is from spam calls LMAO

Uncle E, what is your take on democrats claiming Catholicism? Thanks

Elliot i do not feel the effects of bioenergetics anymore. What can it be.

@Numantino312

2 ай бұрын

are you rushing the exercises/breathing? are you over doing it?

@realdeal1164

2 ай бұрын

@@Numantino312 Im doing it like ive allways done it. For some resonera i do not feel the effects like before.

@Numantino312

2 ай бұрын

@@realdeal1164 hmmmm, look up "plateauing". doesn't matter which exercise, or which sport it happens with. it's still the same effect. and even w bioenergetics, it's likely the same solution.

It sounds like you're talking about giving others what you want to get yourself. In other words, be the change.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” -Genesis 2:18

Jesus with you elliot

For me loneliness is unavoidable..being a handicap person.. you are destined to loneliness

@matthewvelazquez2013

2 ай бұрын

Yes.

I havent had strong relationships for at least 10 years, live alone and don't interact much with society... But tbh, I never feel lonely. I must have a secret power lol.

@SoftKoreLG

3 ай бұрын

Well if you ever feel like having some friends reply to my comment and I’ll add you to my discord. Peace

Loneliness has nothing to do with being around people. Ask an average Japanese living in Tokyo. Loneliness is about the connection with people. I’m surprised he even spent time explaining that.

I think the state of interactions being composed over digital resources has taken away the Natural human interaction out of day to day life. Being in the aura and presence of someone has a much different affect on your body then looking at a picture of that person through a screen. The further dependent upon technology we get as a society, the further from nature we became. We need social connections where people can connect within nature and be grounded to it naturally, not synthetic communications and connections that distorts our own reality. It's good to have technology, but you must remain grounded always with nature first and foremost.

How can anyone be lonely when God is always with you? Satan is constantly distracting so you dont know that

You right

Travel period. You have a nice family shut off the social media and go visit Europe.

Loneliness is a feeling that a person can have even when surrounded by people. We need people, but not everyone. This is why communities are important.

Everyone these days is struggling with loneliness

Yeah. You're not alone with that. We are legion. (And here April 1. is very far, yet.)

Once you pray the Islamic way 5x daily slowly your heart opens and you realise God is always with you. This is why God is making you lonely so you come back to Him

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

Sam•Shamoun would disagree. Lloyd•De•Jongh would disagree. YHWH is a Father. Allah is not a Father. One of the 99 names of Allah is Deciever. YHWH is not a deciever. A muslim will never speak the words, "Praise be to YHWH." But, the Christian will say it. The muslims say Mo is the perfect example for humanity. Mo was 54 years old when he laid with a 9 year old bride. YHWH is God. Allah is not God. Mo is a false prophet. Islam is false.

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

Nope. I choose Catholicism.

@kessaladel5747

3 ай бұрын

I don't think god makes us lonely rather we choose with actions, habits and bad reactions as a respond to circumstances that comes in our life, sometimes God puts trials so we can return to him but the choice is ours. When someone becomes a slave for his desires and people's attention, he'll feel lonely cause none of these can be satisfied in more than 2% and even when it is, we look for more. If we're connected to our maker and take him as a friend than we no longer feel alone, cause when death visits us or danger whether someone believes or not, God is the only one we call and seek for pity, it doesn't even have to be death, it can be a simple microscopic Virus. The more one have been arrogant in his life with God, the more fearful and freaked out he will be in these moments and only then we discover the truth and no friends, memories, success , wealth will have a meaning cause no one knows what's after death and no one resurrected to tell what he saw. But (maybe we already know)

@matthewvelazquez2013

3 ай бұрын

@@kessaladel5747 oh?...heh-heh. Eve was made from Adam's rib in the Garden of Eden, because why? ...Heh-heh... Adam was perfect and without sin when Eve was created from his rib.

@LoudenSwain

3 ай бұрын

@@matthewvelazquez2013I left Catholicism cause it was a fake pagan cult but if it makes you happy by all means

Pretty sure he means a women aka gf. Good luck women today are just ahach

When you go full MAGA , expect it !

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Solid advice. Thanks