1. Don't trust your thoughts, 99% of them aren't even your own, dissociate from your thoughts and associate with your body 2. Don't judge yourself and don't try to be other than what you are(while still aiming to become the best version of yourself), when you do that you resist your own truth 3. You are gifted, many with schizoid tendencies are abstract thinkers 4. Protect yourself from needing other people, set boundaries and be able to love yourself in solitude 5. Be alone in nature, but for its own sake without doing any particular activity 6. Limit exposure to information technology, because it can contribute to the dissociation from your body 7. Stay away from drugs, including alcohol for the same reasons as above 8. Eat protein and fat rich foods, to feed your body and to ground yourself 9. Focus on your bodily sensations, mindfulness 10. Focus on your breathing similarly Recommended book: The Betrayal of the Body by Alexander Lowen

@jonathanphlek5252

4 жыл бұрын

i can see meditation encompasses many of these points

@ReallyStrongGuy

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome info. All true based on my experiences.

@TheHarisBotic

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks alot for the summary!

@biyyu.4171

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@optimistic_psyche1574

4 жыл бұрын

Bro how can i read this book for free...if you have it can provide a link to me. I really need it.

Here's a guy with no medical or psychology degree helping out thousands of people with his KZread videos for free. Sometimes wisdom isn't a result of expert training but is the result of the school of hard knocks...which is a superior wisdom.

@nukepizzaa

2 жыл бұрын

stop praising, listen and dont compare

To the guy that asked this question, thank you brother , you’re not alone believe me

@nickrush3527

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like a lot of us needed this video

The old elliott is back!

@soumillll

4 жыл бұрын

+1

@danielcalma2138

4 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing while listening to this. It's like a breath of fresh air lol. I appreciate all versions of Elliott but the one from 7 years ago is the one that made me sub

@brandongard2835

4 жыл бұрын

Yessir

@robertbornschein5583

4 жыл бұрын

How so

@bigheadedbaby1206

4 жыл бұрын

Yessir

“It’s not fear that grips him, only a heightened sense of things” -300

1 Corinthians 4:3-4 “ I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself. My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me.”

@truebigboss

4 жыл бұрын

Old time version for YOLO

@imbatman4665

4 жыл бұрын

Too bad God doesn't exist

@henryhoover3953

4 жыл бұрын

@Mike Dias nice try satan

@tenchocalderon9583

3 жыл бұрын

Who said this??

"Don't think you need to be social, that you need to be extroverted. Learn to begin to love your own presence." I needed to hear this and I think a lot of people during this pandemic are struggling with the same thing.

Obsessive thinking is the root to most mental issues, beings stuck in the head. It could help severely to go on a digital detoxification - shutting off all means of communication and spending time with yourself. Enjoy your company.

@AGoldenBoon

4 жыл бұрын

Do you just stalk this channel all day every day?

@wHagridw

4 жыл бұрын

@Anthony Okeiyi I recommend you to make a plan. A short term (weekly) and a long term plan (months - year - 10 years), this will allow you to disconnect from the environment (messages, youtube videos, etc.) and focus only on your goals. In this way you gain more control of yourself by creating your own path and building character, as you complete these goals. The thinking mind is a tool to achieve your problems and goals. Most of the time overthinking takes place when you have nothing to do. The thinking mind is a machine of constant problem solving, and finds any problem (real or made up) to try and solve it, and it will never get to the solution. So use the mind when you actually need it. Other thing that helps to shutoff the mind is by breathing, concentrate on your breathing for a time and the thoughts will disappear eventually. I also recommend you the book called: The 7 habits of highly efective people, by Stephen Covey

@spencerfried8622

4 жыл бұрын

sooo true man - aka 'neurotic thinking' which can be incredibly destructive. Choose constructive thoughts as much as possible. ask yourself simply, "Does this thought help or hurt me?" And simply disregard it if it does not help you. Self-love and esteem is another aspect of this, but truly at the core of everything here.

@Bakwazan

4 жыл бұрын

@@AGoldenBoon not only this channel, he spams on every other similar to his channel

@ry4nx

4 жыл бұрын

isolation like that also leads to mental illness.

*We suffer more often in imagination than in reality* - Seneca *The mind is a wonderful servant but a horrible master* You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind them. Stay Based

@AManofBalance

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

When you stop looking to other people to validate or approve of you, you stop caring what they think.

@doomer0079

4 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah if you're talking about face recognition shit

@Whoasked777

4 жыл бұрын

Anthony Okeiyi well from my personal experience it can be done by perpetually talking yourself into it. For many years I have been reminding myself that it doesn’t matter what others think and telling myself IDGAF. Nowadays, I can still slip up a bit, but most of the times I genuinely don’t give a fuck even in potentially very embarrassing situations. Yesterday, I also came across subliminal youtube videos. I believe it will have even greater effect on self-affirmations like this one. I wish I found that shit earlier. Hope I have been of help bro :) go get ‘em

@alphadogmindset5958

4 жыл бұрын

Not caring and being a slave to them is FREEDOM!!

@bobbyhill4118

4 жыл бұрын

RebelliousDevelopment I’ve always gone by the saying that if you’re not pissing someone off, you’re not standing up for yourself... and everything else you value. People are real assholes and you need to learn to deal with that. If you don’t live your life and have fun, piss some people off, then what was the point of your life in the first place? People seem to care so much about what others think of themselves that they’ve became so caught up in the idea of what others judge them by, that they’re not living their lives because they’re afraid of being judged too harshly by others. You can’t be everyone’s friend. Go be someone’s enemy. But don’t ever be the enemy of a friendly person. If you can, always try to make friends with people and find common ground with them until they can’t find common ground with you, because some people can’t agree to disagree on certain subjects and opinions. Also, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve found that life isn’t about acting mature. It’s about being yourself.

@kayilla6413

4 жыл бұрын

Easier said than done for me 🙁

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts" -Marcus Aurelius

@damianmaynard1317

4 жыл бұрын

Interesting having healthy self esteem is reality oriented and high self esteem is correlated with personal happiness of course there are exceptions

@wheezyouttahere2555

3 жыл бұрын

Marcus Aurelius Antonias

@batissta44

2 жыл бұрын

& the Quality of your body.

Living by myself helped me to get over anxiety, depression, loathing, and it is how I am going to try and live for awhile. I don't do well with living with others because I end up developing a routine to work around others, instead of doing things when I want to. That little change in my everyday life has made me make more confident decisions in the rest of my life. Elliot has helped me now more recently than he ever has because now I am confident in myself and ready to face the truth and filter out things I don't agree and not blindly following someone who is telling me what works for them. Thanks Elliot

This is something I've been dealing with most of my life. Being singled out and picked on a lot has a drastic effect on ppl.

Wow u just saved me twenty years of therapy. Im an empath

@alphadogmindset5958

4 жыл бұрын

Stay strong bro

@JamesHarrison687

3 ай бұрын

Same bro

im glad that there are guys like you out here.

Alexander Lowen - The Betrayal of The Body & Fear of Life. 2 great Books

Sup bro I been watching you since I was 14. I remember whenever I needed life advice you would pop up, and your discussions on certain topics would help me get through some phases of my life. I remember the fact that you would be objective as much as possible without pushing your ego onto your words, and I appreciated that fact alot. I lost you and went through my own journey, disconnected myself from social media all together, suffered alot, went through some bs and now I'm back as an adult. Im 27 now turning 28 in 5 months, just wanted you to know you're a great dude, and I'm glad to still see you around helping lost souls like us get through hard times. I think its very honorable and I'm full of respect for you. Ill be going through your videos again, new and old, and thank you for being here.

Dude I literally got chills when you said empath, that shit resonated so much. Thank you for your explanation and advice.

Blowing my mind how relatable this is. Some of your tips are things I naturally started doing on my own because they made me feel better. Very cool to hear that there are people with similar characteristics.

Never been diagnosed so spot on in my life. Appreciate the brave question and in true Elliot fashion the stoic advice. Such a valued teacher and mentor. Its leaders such as Elliott that will bring a generation of misguided and misinformed young men to the other side of this point in history. Its up to us to be the best of ourselves, because who else is gonna save the world from tyrants. Its men who found there power and whos minds cannot be controlled through fear. Thank you for your support and service to us all.

Thank you so much Elliott. What this young man is going through are the mirror image of issues that plague my life as well. I couldn't eloquently discibe it like he did. I'm 31 years old and i have been dealing with those same issues for as long as I could remember. I am going to implement these steps in my life as well because I desperately need a change. May The Most High bless you brother, and thank you.

I have this kind of personality, schizoid, tall, skinny, analytical mind, artistic, creative, sensitive, living more in my mind than in body which sometimes is a great advantage and sometimes it is a great course. All what you have said in this video is true and the advice you give is what really helps. Some authors that I can recommend, apart from already mentioned Alexander Lowen are R.D. Laing - "Divided Self", Alan Watts and Colin Wilson.

@tervinmwangi2877

4 жыл бұрын

Which book specifically from Allan Watts or just all of them?

@brandonanderson2066

4 жыл бұрын

Cheers. Alan Watts is fantastic. I listen to his lectures during my morning walk.

@Jacob011

4 жыл бұрын

R.D. Laing is on my reading list. Peterson's 12 Rules is pretty good too. Joseph Campbell's Thou Art That or Inner Reaches of Outer Space might be useful too.

@milekrizman

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@AutoEx3D

4 жыл бұрын

@@tervinmwangi2877 There are so many of them that I can't pick any, his books are quite short, up to 100 pages. And there are uncountable hours of his speeches on youtube.

I've gotta say, everything Elliot said is true. This is coming from someone who is also empath. We are easily influenced by outside energies and if we cant get a hold on our energy and barriers, we can easily lose ourselves. I went through a phase a couple years ago where I completely lost sight of who I was and where I was going. It took some cutting ties, eliminating social media, being alone, and bonding with nature for me to find myself. Now I can handle the energies of others accordingly without it disrupting my own. It really is a gift. My advice is to be kind to yourself and to explore your mind and body.

@sandracorazon7280

4 жыл бұрын

wow amazing, how long did it take for you from being aware of not being able to handle others energies to being able to control it?

@GVSHvids

4 жыл бұрын

maybe I'm also an emphath or no I am just high

@dgrayman43

4 жыл бұрын

@@sandracorazon7280 from then to today, about 3 years. I'm much more confident than I was and alot more comfortable in my skin. I still have alot to learn but I'm proud of myself

@Musulll

4 жыл бұрын

How old are you bro?

@dgrayman43

4 жыл бұрын

@@Musulll 22, 23 next month

The best video I’ve seen in such a long time thank you man.

Just thought i’d drop by and say that this video and the advice within it single handedly got me through quarantine and i find myself coming back to it all the time. At the time i found this video i had just graduated from high school and was aimless and struggling heavily with anxiety and dissociation. This was amplified during quarantine due to the isolation with nothing other than screens and my own thoughts. I don’t have everything figured out yet but I am in a much better place now and i understand and accept myself more and this video was a key part of that. Thank you so much Elliot for all that you do, I could never repay you for the advice and knowledge i got from this video and so many others.

Your caller reminds me a lot of how I was in my early 20s. It was when I was 27 I probably first liked myself and it all changed. I'm 59 married two great sons in their 20s. Elliot your advice is sound. It can and will get better for your caller. I'm still learning still trying to be a better me. The journey or struggle is what makes you. Much appreciated your video.

By far my favourite video to date. Felt like that message was exactly what I needed. Thanks for everything you do Elliot.

The main drive of my anxiety was this feeling that i was wasting my life, that i was left behind by everyone, that i had some fundamental issue with myself that scared everyone away from me and that i was forced to be with people that hated me but this ironically made me become judgemental and antisocial and a shut in.

This one was needed

I am grateful to Elliott and for this video. I have been in the same state as our friend for many many years- absent father, trauma etc. This has started a new evolution within me. Peace be with you.

Peace be to you (AsSalama'laikum)! You have been making such a POWERFUL change in people's lives! I have been a medically licensed Physician Assistant for twenty years and currently work as a Hospitalist Physician Assistant in Washington, D.C. I have provided medical services for so MANY men who have THIS man's experience. There is a HIGH rate of severe trauma young boys go through (war, violence, drugs, sexual abuse, etc.). They become what they experience. However, we CAN work TOGETHER to help eachother! Thanks for covering Elliott!

Thanks so much for being an awesome inspiration and sharing all these good advices!

Elliot this was extremely helpful thank you for this. I nearly lost hope for this channel and the direction you've been going.

This is so accurate, I suffer from a lot of anxiety, I notice that when I'm by myself, in nature, personally I love the beach, I get so grounded to the point I completely forget the anxiety issues, I didnt know why it worked but it works, I'm also very creative, do music and video production, I think my main issue is believing my thoughts, they keep coming and I keep fearing them, I have to remind myself that they are 99% false. Elliot is definitely on point. Thanks a lot. I'll definitely read the book 🙏🏽

You just solve my psychological knot in 15 minutes, undetected for professionals last 15 years. I escaped the war in Bosnia and thought I made it undamaged. You analysis is spot on, and delivered by you Elliot, with spirit of someone who cares, is a blessing to this world. This is the firs video of yours that I saw, can't wait to see all the others. If you mission is to change lifes, you just did it with mine brother.

My parents are Bosnian too, fled to the USA. When I started listening to you 5 years ago I bought Alexander Lowens books. "The language of the body" was by far his most useful hook to me. I was dumbstruck as to how well he describe my character structure, namely being the schizoid. The phrase "Frozen in terror" applied to me quite literally. I found a Licensed Massage Therapist and began working on my musculature. Every week on Tuesday she'd do Deep Tissue work on me. It was very expensive yet I saw massive results. Slowly I began feeling my body and feeling the emotions that were once inhibited. As I started feeling more and more I realized the majority of the options I feel are extremely negative and painful aka greif, despair, terror, deep sadness. I realized I moved into the Masochist Character structure. But I am having trouble overcoming the Masochist. The negative emotions are overwhelming and I am hopeless to discharge them out of my body. I cannot seem to fscr them. Sorry for the long story but does anyone have advice in dealing with overwhelming powerful painful emotions? They are crushed down and I dare not face them.

You blew my mind, I've fallen to the exact traps you mentioned. You describe everything I've been through. This is really helpful, I'm only now slowly starting to get unstuck from my head and after avoiding people and technology for a while I feel different, better, even stronger in a way. Thanks for your awesome content

This describes my situation incredibly well. I'm so glad I heard this today.

Thank you so much for this Eliot. God bless you, and your family

It’s unreal how much a KZread video can positively effect a persons life if the message hits them in perfect timing with some form of mental crisis or at the precipice of change.

Yo Elliott... would love to hear you talk about friendship. What you think it should look like at different points in life, what purpose it should serve, how highly to prioritize it, etc.

I’ve been struggling with the same questions and concerns. Thank you for this video I need it.

Wow, this guy's story sounds a lot like mine. I always had anxiety since I can remember (predate kindergarten). The lesson that has helped me is being friends with my anxiety. Don't run from it, it will come back as a tsunami. Understand it, why it comes and goes, what triggers it, learn to love it, appreciate it. Every relationship that is meaningful has sacrifices. The relationship with anxiety is also meaningful. Understand all of what anxiety has given to you, and understand all it has taken from you. Though it is not anxiety that has taken from you, it is you yourself. Anyway, I wanted to say thanks, Elliott. This whole masculine and feminine shit had been fucking with me. I started to find information on masculine vs feminine energy and finally been able to relax without confusion. This was one of the things that helped me understand myself, and my insecurities better, which overall lead to purposeful confrontation with my anxiety.

Great video. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. I’ll put it on my list of ideas for videos. I really feel what you are talking.

WOW! This video explains everything I’ve been going through the past couple months. I’ve been craving nature and working out and really BREATHING. I’ve also been struggling with my thoughts it’s like a mental strain thats stopping me from being myself and doing things I wanna do.

I have watch so much of your past videos and i started to not learn so much when i watched them but this new ones are so usefull men, THANK YOU MUCH, im a really big fan of yours by the way

I see some youtubers trying to discredit you! To them I say: HAHAHAHAHA! Keep doing good you inspire, my brother!!!

I have been watching you a few years now, and it's funny how your messages reach me at the perfect time. Is there a micro chip in my brain and the world is listening in on my thoughts? 😂. Real talk though keep this stuff coming. Strange enough your videos and advice keep me grounded and focused as I'm sure it does for many others! Thank you for your time.

Elliot with the solid advice

@michaelfowler7332

4 жыл бұрын

Go chiefs

@coptickansan4025

4 жыл бұрын

Chief kingdom

A little bit of anxiety is healthy but if its going to the skys limit thats when it isnt good at all.

@miladrodbar8714

4 жыл бұрын

Fear can help you but if you lose control of it, it can destroy you and everything around you. A quote from a boxer.

@miladrodbar8714

4 жыл бұрын

Not anxiety but fear

@damianmaynard1317

4 жыл бұрын

@@miladrodbar8714 well anxiety is a type of fear

Thank you for this video . This helped me understand what’s been going on with me for most of my life. Most beneficial video of yours for me thank you.

Dame haven’t watched you in a min, good to see you making these motivational vids!!! Chopped the hair also

Thanks for sharing your words of power and wisdom. Been watching you 6 years now.

@mysteriouslykind955

4 жыл бұрын

Wow Jeremy that's cool

@JeremyNoelJohnson

4 жыл бұрын

@@mysteriouslykind955 Thank you. I found Elliott when I experienced the worst heart break I've ever had and he's been helping ever since.

This was really helpful, thanks Elliott. God bless

We have to reprogram the mind, there is always a better thought, its a tough battle, but our life starts in the mind, STAY STRONG MEN, big love from another youtuber 🔥❤🤘

I watch a lot of videos about being an empath. And then you come with this perspective. Very relevant for me today. Thanks Elliot.

Thank you for this. This is so powerful and original.

You've been hitting great points these videos 👌🏼

Love your videos bro straight to the point

Elliot you’re literally putting out content I need rn in my life 🤘🏼

Thank you so so so much for this. My entire life I have lived with the thoughts you described. I have moments where I recognize I am extremely gifted, but my home (mind) is filled with bad thoughts that tell me the opposite. I am trying so hard to overcome my demonic thoughts and finally become the person I am capable of being. May the Lord bless you all on your journey- and give us the strength. God Bless you!

Good job. I really appreciate the contents of your recent videos

Thank you for this informative video Elliot.

This is spot on , precise. Thank you for your wisdom, I mean seriously, you’re a role model.

Bro this was a great video. I deal with Intrusive thoughts, PTSD, social anxiety. I'm definitely an empath. This helped a lot. God Bless bro, thank you

This is how I'm feeling right now..just feel like giving up...just tired..

Thanks again elliot! Glad you're back

This describes me so much man! Very amazing advice.

Your a very smart man Elliott. I'm 32 and this is extremely good advice for someone struggling with this, as I have in my past. but over years iv leant to deal with it. using all these methods.

I needed this right now. Thank you

I relate to this very much. When I was 15 i for the first time experienced panic and shame/embarrassment over what i have accomplished over my life and this lead to anxiety. I would get nervous but this feeling was very different. It was a dread and extreme fear of what i appeared as to the world and i developed this inadequacy due to my lack of friends and bullying. Its the worst feeling ever and it only goes away when i am around loved ones or very old friends that i knew before these feelings existed.

I seriously am tearing up, this is too accurate. All i can say right now is god bless you.

i cant even explain how exactly this relates to me in every way. thank you

Elliott I'm hugging your brain right now you get it you really broke it down to me to understand myself. Thank you for sharing your knowledge thank you. I get it now. Blessings and more Blessings to you and your family

Feelings are not simply called emotions, feeling is best described as.. sensitivity to the surroundings.

Another great video🙌 This man right here is what our generation of young men need! Someone who speaks the truth and bring light upon certain issues which are not being addressed! Well done Elliott👏👏

“Counselor Carl” on KZread has great straight to it mindfulness material, gets you out of the head

Loving this relevant question and great answer

Thank you so much for this! as a schizoid it hit home and already applying that pressure you gave!

I think you just changed my life bro

I found this awesome technique where you lay down or sit, and stop breathing till your lungs start taking small breaths on their own. Then you keep tryna just let them do without assisting the breath. The more you watch it, it seems like you wanna crawl out of your skin at moments-but if you sit through that feeling, that feeling turns into the stillness you’re channeling. Then after about 20 minutes, you feel like you’ve woken up from a dream. I did this for 2 hours and i felt completely better body and mind as one for weeks after a couple days

Betrayal of the body by Alexander Lowen. He has another book with a similar title called denial of the true self. Thanks for the recommendation. Seems like the guy has a unique way of explaining things. I think there’s a lot of value to be found in the book, especially for those feeling detached, alone, or lost.

Thank you so much for this man

I feel this guy from Norway. I’m also Croatian from Bosnia. Had the same fortune. I’m a big guy. Tall and buff. Many people ask me how I’m so open, able to talk to everybody and keep a conversation, but I’m often anxious about myself. Like I’m not good enough. According to everybody I’m a hell of a guy. But in my mind I’m a little guy who just want attention (parents were working 24/7/365 to be able to afford my brother and me a good life in Germany). Thanks for your words. I’ll stay strong and become what I am already

Really needed to hear this, thoughts are killer.

yo Elliott ! super useful video! Would be nice if you could make one from your experience with exercise anxiety ( if u had this kinda anxiety) ! i begun exercising some months ago and sometimes when i push myself doing insanity workouts i have a high heart rate even after i finish the workout, and the shit makes me panic.. a general sense of anxiety that is crushing. hope you'll see this man ! big ups to what u do man💪💪💪💪

It’s actually called “The Betrayal Of The Body”

Thank you very much. I'm working every day to becoming a better version of myself.

Thank you Elliot for making this video, sincerely, thank you.

This one hit home for me. I definitely have a hint of this In my life. It's like a constant battle!

You are succeeding at your mission... it will send waves through generations of men to come. Thanks.

DRŽI SE BRATE MOJ !!

@eq55

4 жыл бұрын

Steta bas da nam burazer boluje, nadam se da ce mu bit bolje

@bewatermyfriend7355

4 жыл бұрын

@@eq55 U Bosnu stalno cujem "Sta ce mislit komsija?" Punom ljudima dole je vanzo sta neko misli i to nije zdravo.

@marinzovko7113

3 жыл бұрын

@@eq55 boluje? Od cega?

Great video Elliot hope this guy gets in right path soon. Its weird how mind works because whenever i find in my head which only been suffering with mentally for few years now, i try and meditate which everyone says is one of best exercises to ground you, it causes me to overthink even more. Does anyone else get this as id love to be able stop my overthinking and not react to it when it comes around, but feel meditation just prolongs the process.

wao I need it this , honestly God keeps speaking through you, May he bless you and give you more understanding and wisdom .

OMG ..this is very helpful.Thank you so much

Need this 🙌🏾🙌🏾 truly thank you

I needed this ❤️ thank you Elliot

Helped me a lot too! Thank you man

The wast majority of adult issues leads back to early childhood, newborns and sometimes even in the state of a fetus. What helps according to psycologists is to work back in memory as far as you can and find the root of the issue. Accept the fact that it happened, forgive to whom you have to forgive and close the issue for good. In the meantime just do what you have to do, such as setting up a business. Do it, learn (also from mistakes) and make decisions. Mistakes we all do anyway. Normally I don't take TV series or movies as lessons, but in the green arrow I've caught two things, when Oliver said that he was barely anytime sure of his decisions to work out, but he just did it. The other is when Slade Wilson said: Assumption is the mother of all failures.

Thank you! This was very helpful for me. Now I've to complete these tasks daily. Even though my traumatic past and present haunts me. I've to overcome this fear.