As a young man, experiencing heartbreak either makes you a better man, or an angry boy.

@thomasgrabowski2202

2 жыл бұрын

amen dude holy.........

@erickstotle4285

2 жыл бұрын

Damn bro I wish I’d seen this comment back when I was 14!! I would straighten my back and skate on !!! Fuck bro 😎 deep deep words

@Daniel-rk2qz

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@ashwinmoses8277

2 жыл бұрын

@@erickstotle4285 If it's meant to be, then it's meant to be. Love is not selfish, so letting them go is the most selfless act a man can do. Let go and let God teach these valuable lessons so you can re-focus your life and learn from past mistakes.

@seanbui2724

2 жыл бұрын

heartbreak only makes simps angry boys

I can honestly say my hardships with women have made me realize how stable I can be during a storm. My first breakup i spiralled hard and acted like a baby. The second one I handled like a man and it ended amicably. The third woman who I thought was “The One” ended up being a demonic nonsense machine. Being alone for a few months has made me realize I was settling for women who didn’t match up to my mission. A good woman follows her man because he is led by Jesus. Now that I’m back on my mission, I believe the correct woman will present herself for me to marry and be fruitful and multiply. Until then, I will crush my mission and follow God.

@13sprintuser

4 ай бұрын

Any update? 4 months post breakup with who I thought was "The One" and still reeling a bit. Harder and harder to find God-fearing women these days. More and more agnostics and atheists out there.

My father, and both of my grandfathers, were stereotypical, old-fashioned "alpha males" to the core (my 2 grandfathers have passed away but my dad is still the same way). I never saw any of them behave in an overly emotional way. My grandfathers were extremely stoic, rarely ever speaking or engaging in pointless conversation. They spent their days working in the yard, doing physical labor, and taking care of their families. I never once heard a complaint from either of them. My grandfather did concrete work, carpentry, and construction well into his 70s. He would work from morning until night, often outworking men half his age. I spent many days working in the yard with both of my grandfathers - digging holes in the garden, carrying heavy bags of dirt, doing woodwork, etc. My dad is the same way, he's owned a small business for 33 years and he is an extremely hard worker. I am so grateful for these men, but damn, it's sad to see how far men have fallen.

@yoelliott

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you for having experienced real men in your life. Thanks for sharing brother

@jakichan4

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoelliott This was some of your best content ever!, thank you so much!!! Wisdom is a challenge a battle all in itself with our own mind.

@michael.di3

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoelliott And thank you for sharing your wisdom with young men who have never seen a good example of a strong, alpha male. Even though I’ve had good role models in my life, I still love watching your videos because I resonate with the message and there is always more that I can learn.

@mariopalfi8359

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoelliott So real man whi is so emotionless that cant give a compliment. Its sounds like real man cant connect. Its sounds like real man supress his feelings...

@seeker4trvth

2 жыл бұрын

Same here G, my grandpa is lifting 70kg heavy woods at the age of 70, I had to jump in the other day and help him carry woods out of 2 big trailers. He never ever complains, he's out working in nature most of the day and he sleeps at 9pm, wakes up at 4-5am.

Feel your emotions, don't think with your emotions

@nobody.475

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@KingTotz

2 жыл бұрын

Wisdom

@KingTotz

2 жыл бұрын

@@soioioioioioio34 he didn't say not to have emotions, he said to feel them. Also, if emotions are the source of your happiness, then you're a woman.

@thomasgrabowski2202

2 жыл бұрын

absofuckinglutly. Be emotional dont be emotional. ;) !

@badluckgamer3249

2 жыл бұрын

Thats really good advice.

Being strong doesn't mean no emotion, it means keeping your emotions on check, and to be rational

@IacopoCutino00

Жыл бұрын

You can't be rational because emotions and rationality are not the same circuit in your brain...

As a young man, Elliot, you are the prominent voice for the whispers of my intuition. I’ve been listening to you for a couple of years and I greatly appreciate your work.

“To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.” ~ Lao Tzu I’ve been chasing the things I need vs sitting still and allowing them to align with me. Thank you Elliot🙏🏼

@MilspecPanda

2 жыл бұрын

There’s a time to push and there’s a time to pull

I've found that accepting my emotional state (not escalating it) is the best, and also reminding myself of stoicism; that you shouldn't worry about things outside of your control. If you repress something, it'll only get worse. I used to get really sad, but not able to cry which built up pressure inside me, because I either tried to run away from those feelings and distract myself, or I wanted to cry really badly without able to. Now I just try to be present, being aware as you say. Not forcing it nor repressing. I'm obviously not saying that you should make overly emotional decisions.

This is a great video Elliot. I’m going to go to tell you my life story because I’ve been watching your videos from strength camp and this channel. In 2015 I was in a snowboard accident that caused me to have a TBI (traumatic brain injury) and left me in a coma for a month. When I woke up from the coma, I had to learn EVERYTHING again from walking, talking, and even learn how to swallow again (since I had been getting food through a feeding tube). After going through this ordeal I had to learn to just worry about my self and to not care how people view me since there are some “disabilities” that I still have. Going through this experience has caused me to become far more religious because there are some things that have happened to me that are so unbelievable that it has caused me to have a stronger belief in God. I completely agree with you about being stoic and all of the other things that you said in this video. It’s hard for me to remember exactly what you said throughout this video since I was trying to figure out how I was going to say all the things that are in my head on this topic because I believe that I’m starting to ramble. The main thing that I would like to impart onto the people who actually take the time to read this comment is that to have a healthy and happy life, try your best not to worry about what others really think about you because does their opinion actually matter in the grand scheme of things? Not really because in the end we are all going to die and the real question is did you ever really live the life you wanted to? And if you aren’t living the life you wanted, what could you do to make it happen. The trick is to keep on moving forward one step at a time. To whoever read this all just know that you are loved and that it could always be worse.

@adaug27

2 жыл бұрын

Man, thank you Alex. I wish more people could see your comment bro. You just gave us a gem of insight, dug from a pit as deep as hell, but painstakingly cut to provide value to us, your brethren. You, more than most, know what its like to be an "other", to be viewed differently. To be seen as an x, y, z, and the rest of the alphabet for lacking x, y or z trait. People see the surface. And so this lesson that the opinion of others matters so little has been hard won in your life, and it has become your strength; it is a rock solid insight. This insight you can now share with your brothers. Thank you. Thank you for that insight. I hope you stay in touch with the Lord, and he directs your walk.

Anger and hate are very useful. If you are not angry when there is call for anger you are immoral as well as unjust.

High value women don’t want an emotionally detached man. They want deep emotional connection. Apart from that you’ll do great taking this advice, fellas.

Elliott Hulse the OG KZread alpha in my opinion. Been watching since 2009 brother. You have helped my brother and I tremendously. one day I’ll wander my way into the St Pete strength camp. God bless! stay strong!

Yo just to reassure everyone here, not that all of us need to hear this but I’ve been talking to lots of females and just seeing situations in a new light and much clearer and no bs a lot of the things Elliot speaks on is absolutely the truth. Every man needs to hear his words

Thank you so much Elliott ... I love you. I am going through a very difficult period of my life... and now I am doing all I can to repent my wrongs. I have been following you since 2012. I have been following all your growth. I love you brother.

Wowww this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I've been thinking about this subject ALL DAY!!! THANK YOU UNCLE E!!!!

Being objective about the emotion and not acting upon the emotion has helped me so much. I felt the feeling but did not ACT upon it. Thank you for the message Uncle E

That’s a powerful message. Much appreciated

It doesn’t matter how you feel, you know what you SHOULD be doing.

Man i got super emotional today... aint gonnnnna lie, but I'm letting that go and continuing on with life...

@laOrzy

2 жыл бұрын

Right there with you today I put my ex in the past for good

@narrowpath1554

2 жыл бұрын

Embrace your emotions. Don’t deny they are there, be with them. However don’t wallow in them and make excuses for your life because of them. Continue doing your duties no matter how you feel. Continue to serve God

@theringmaster3684

2 жыл бұрын

As a man you can’t get emotional, it takes away from your focus. Women deal emotionally, men deal logically.

@narrowpath1554

2 жыл бұрын

@@theringmaster3684 brother, get a grip on reality for a second. Every human being experiences emotions. If not you are a psychopath. Having emotional response to something just makes you HUMAN. As a man it’s our duty to keep moving forward despite how we FEEL. That’s not to say it’s not ok to feel… sadnesses let’s us grief. anger unleashes frustrations. Joy let’s us know we’re living purposely Happiness gives a sense of accomplishment Fear shows us what to avoid/will harm us. It demonstrates the importance of a situation and to act bravely in them

@theringmaster3684

2 жыл бұрын

@@narrowpath1554 First off, I have a better “grip on reality” than most. Being a man with alot of life experience and have been through the good, the bad and the ugly of life, it has taught me to set emotion aside to deal with the particular situation. If you let emotion dictate you, then you have already been defeated. It takes from your ability to take action and deal with the situation. Younger folks, can’t grasp this now, but hopefully it will come in time for them.

Women can be dream killers if you allow it to happen

@polpol1005

2 жыл бұрын

Men can also be dream killers if you allow it to happen

@TheGuyNate

2 жыл бұрын

@@polpol1005 anyone can

@TheGuyNate

2 жыл бұрын

@@polpol1005 even ourselves

Like the stoics we regulated our emotions, but tears, anger, etc. hell it comes man. BUT WE DONT SWIM IN THE MISERY...we see them for what they are then logically move forward

@absolutelyfookinnobody2843

2 жыл бұрын

Stop saying we, you're not stoic either. You are a wannabe

The key word in Emotion is motion, motion is movement in my opinion the only people who are successful in life who have no emotions are people that we consider vegetables and they show that in their actions by not being able to have action at all

We cannot control how we feel. We can only control our reaction to said emotion. Repression can lead to other problems...

@DA-to6gi

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, emotions are there for a reason, learn with them and use them to your favour.

@amjan

2 жыл бұрын

We can control how we feel. When e.g. you receive criticism, it is your choice whether to have your ego hurt or to appreciate it. You can talk yourself out of bad emotions.

@redgemini9851

2 жыл бұрын

​@@amjan I agree that we can & should process our emotions with logic but we cannot choose what emotions arise. If we could choose how we feel it would be pure nirvana 24/7 but that is NOT the case.

@conversationcorner1837

2 жыл бұрын

Acting contrary to what we feel is restraint and it definitely has its place in life.

@Kyle-gr1jc

2 жыл бұрын

That my friend is the philosophy of stoicism. Watch Ryan holiday

Wow Uncle E really helped me with this video. You've got me back on track bro

Been a fan and follower of Elliot for years. Due to all of his different versions I don't always agree, but there's always raw gold there. Elliott continues to learn and to share his findings. And that's the pure essence of learning. One of my favorite versions of Elliot is the hybrid muscle training Elliott. I had so much fun building just incredible explosive muscle

Go Mr.E!! Thanks for explaining this. Men should let good virtues lead their emotion, rather than its opposite.

There's a difference between not having emotions and living and trusting and in your emotions guys.

Some of the greatest men in the Bible were highly emotional. Having no emotion isn’t Godly

@gunner0182fps

2 жыл бұрын

Toch much or too little of anything isn't good for anyone

@bodnarova05

2 жыл бұрын

Stoicism. You can have emotions but keep calm and collected. If you need to explode, do so in private . But never use alcohol or drugs as a crutch to deal with emotion, that only creates disease in the body. The trigger has to be released and observed. Think of it as a weed that needs to be pulled out .

@bodnarova05

2 жыл бұрын

The Bible is a guide and also an example of how not to behave, kind of like an allegory. There is a difference between using force and using power.

@geebee8989

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus wept shortest verse in the Bible. Why are man condition other men for women?? These women single women aren’t virgins or widows, so you know what they are but we are being censored 🤬 for calling them such.

@apexstrength3797

2 жыл бұрын

@@bodnarova05 The Bible is also a great example of how to behave. Such as the book of proverbs written from King Solomon The Wise.

A treasure of a vid from a wise man. Thank you

15:37 THE TRUTH!!!!!! I felt this when I used to watch Big Bang Theory, Breaking Bad and Walking Dead in the past, after I realised it, I quit watching TV shows cold turkey. Nowadays, even if I do watch movies, I watch it with detachment, like from outside looking in, with the awareness that everything that happens on the screen is just a reflection of a screenplay writer's imagination.

Elliot. Food for thought I read somewhere. You must be in the mindset of thinking 'do I like this person?' and never fall into the 'I love this person' because when you love something you lose control - you resent the bad things of that thing / or person.

Damn this was a great video,thanx uncle E.

Brilliant, one of my favorites Elliot. Seriously

Thanks for sharing this. I make the adjustments at the moment

Thank you Elliot, you've opened my eyes.

I still do front squat deadlifts dips and pull/chin up for years 💪🙏

Elliot dropping them gems again 💎

If you actually value something, not just on an intellectual level, you're by definition vulnerable. Showing your emotions is just an expression of that vulnerability trough the virtues of honesty, integrity, and courage. Vulnerability doesn't mean weakness though, it doesn't mean you let your emotions compromise your obedience and commitment to the highest ideal in your actions. An alpha controls his emotions, he embraces them, but is above them.

High value content thanks Elliot

That was actually a super good video!

Hitting some major points on this one E thank you. I’ve been following you for years, I remember when I first tapped into the physical location of emotions in the body and how past experiences store in in pure physical. Ever have tears come and you cannot control it AT ALL? Is that emotional/past experiences manifesting physically?

One of the best things I've listened to in a while, all you younger guys TAKE NOTES, this will save you years of wasted potential

Elliott you are the man. Your videos helped me back in 2011 when I was trying to be the strongest I can be for high school rugby. Now you’re helping me with becoming the strongest man I can be. Much love

Great video Elliott 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿

I wonder if elliot writes the YO ELLIOT questions and fills it with extra wisdom to give even more value to his channel. Imagine that, a man asking his own questions to receive his own answers. A master of wisdom in the making... this guy right here. For you, Elliot!. - Daniel, The Flow coach

Yet another banger!!!

Chose the correct woman. Take your time and choose wisely. Don’t choose based on her looks (attraction is only a part of it) but her character.

@RyogaEchizen

2 жыл бұрын

well said

Damn Elliott! Love your vids!

tbh anger sometimes is alpha in my option and sometimes it is not. you can't let others control your emptions meaning when u get angry the person that got you angry is in control of you but sometimes anger can help you in my case when someone does me dirty the anger i feel i use to motivate me on my goals and I don't take any shit form nobody no disrespect nothing.

Stay grounded my friend, if a women is into you, appreciate her, unless you are with another women. Then you focus on her and not any other chick. Gotta stay focused, grounded, disciplined. Train yourself.

It takes strength to let your guards down. Only the strong will survive. Going they life never feeling anything is a waste of life. Soulless n cold eff dat.

I respect you elliott, you speak masculinity into other men. That is what it means to be a man's man.

I trust my feelings all the time bro, if I get a bad vibe from someone its my intuition telling me something is off. And its usually them.

I have to say, when you do some job in security or something else with a bit of authority, people often don't respect the stoic behaviour, when they come at you with a negative mindset. And you get people to listen more when you get mad at them. So can't say it always works to be stoic tbh. I think it's like that with women too at times and other stuff. Emotions kind of bond and express intend like emojis do. Any thoughts?

@1234KeithB

2 жыл бұрын

This may seem like a silly comparison. But just think of being a lion. They are mostly stoic chill animals but yet they attack when necessary. They roar when necessary and they also play and roll around and be silly. They aren’t exactly the largest animals but yet they are the king of the jungle and most respected.

@LockMacFly

2 жыл бұрын

@@1234KeithB That's a good one, thanks. I will remember that. I assume that guy on TV, Uncle E was talking about was a bit over the top or too quick to anger.

Take notes in ya journal

God bless you for your quality informations

Thanks!

Amazing advice. Love is a choice.

Thanks man ✌

The summary emphasizes the importance of being aware of emotional enchantment, maintaining objectivity, and not getting carried away by feelings. It suggests focusing on self-care and allowing the desired partner to naturally come into one's life. Key moments: 00:00 The viewer seeks advice on balancing self-care and romantic pursuits, questioning the concept of being 'enchanted' by a partner and how to find a high-value relationship. The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotions without letting them control or define one's actions. -The speaker discusses the difference between being enchanted by a partner and being attached to that enchantment, highlighting the physical and emotional aspects of attraction. -The importance of acknowledging emotions without letting them dictate behavior is emphasized, with a focus on recognizing patterns and avoiding irrational beliefs based on past experiences. 05:04 Men are encouraged to notice their emotions without resisting or indulging in them, as awareness is transformative. Emotions should be objectively observed to maintain a balance between mind and body. -Resisting emotions can lead to imbalance between mind and body, affecting one's strength and vitality. -Being aware of emotions without giving them excessive meaning is crucial for maintaining emotional stability and strength. 10:07 Men are encouraged to be stoic and create space between stimulus and response to avoid falling into enchantment, which can lead to emotional entanglement and loss of self-awareness. -Enchantment is described as being lost under a spell, often associated with lust and emotional attachment, which can cloud rational judgment and lead to slipping into love. -True love is portrayed as a rational choice to will the good of the other person, transcending emotional feelings and focusing on principled actions. -The importance of self-awareness and recognizing patterns of enchantment to avoid losing oneself in emotional entanglements, emphasizing the need to slow down and take time to respond thoughtfully. 15:10 Men are conditioned by media to fall in love and simp, but it's crucial to stay detached, observe, and embody the inner king to attract what is meant for them. -Media influences men to simp and fall in love, leading to societal gender role reversals, emphasizing the importance of staying vigilant and detached. -Embodying the inner king involves stripping away societal conditioning, being observant, and taking action from a place of stillness and order. 20:15 Life works in a way where the more you try, the more you have diminishing returns. By being chill and letting things come to you, you may find what you seek right under your nose. -Comparison of seeking relationships to interacting with cats, emphasizing the importance of being chill and letting things come to you. -Personal anecdote about finding things by stopping the search and letting them come to you, highlighting the concept of diminishing returns. Generated by sider.ai

Someone definitely need therapy.... balance is key my brother all emotions are needed but with a sense of balance and regulation. I'm slightly worried about your view on emotions.

@jnnx

2 жыл бұрын

Think of it as a nice friendly game of cards. You don’t show everyone your hand.

@double0taylorpro

2 жыл бұрын

@@jnnx exactly bro!👊😎 We have gage who worthy and if and it's necessary to expose our vulnerabilities.

Lust & Fear are just low vibrations but its important to note; when the situation cannot be transformed transform yourself, when the situation is bad transform it & when a situation is good just enjoy it 😌😇😊❤🌙🌄

Thank you so much

Proverbs 29:11 A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.

I realized Elliott is more about philosophy than truth.

Long haired man (not because weakness because metal lol) this video is exactly what I needed now thanks man!

Whatever you desire is yours. All you have to do is imagine you have it, for everything in life is yours for the taking. Much Love from a Law Of Attraction KZreadr 💜

Elliott the man keep it coming 🔥

I don’t feel like anger is a beta male trait I feel like when u angry it can blind u form seeing clearly but I also feel like it can help u achieve your goals and work harder etc is not bad or good

They DO get emotional… when they feel slighted or challenged.

When you are deeply in love that shit is not healthy at ALL lol, good luck not expressing heartbreak in some way. Especially the first time.

I think depression in particular, I know this is probably a slightly different topic, I have been through a whole range of emotions to no emotion at all (a numb like emotion which was the most challenging of all) , and when I'm particular going through hard ship, I tend to suffer in silence because I'm too proud speak about it, is being too proud about holding my ground better in this case, because sometimes I fell embarrassed to speak about certain situations through a varity of reasons that go into my head.

This conversation was great for me, thanks

Buddhism goes deep into the topic of the true nature of emotions as well as our senses. That is the right approach, don’t fall into feelings, don’t resist feelings. See them manifesting and understand them with detachment. Be mindful (aware) of them. “Catch emotions in the net of mindfulness, and then examine them before reacting.” This anger is not me, nor mine. It is just a mind state that like the weather will change. As you elevate yourself spiritually the roots of attachment will gradually weaken, and once you transcended you finally uprooted those "unwholesome roots" (Kleshah, afflictions of energetical parasites) from which all unwholesome mental states come from. Namely anxiety, fear, jealousy, and so on. Maybe you don’t realise it but from the perspective of Buddhism you are what we call a Bodhisattva. They are apprentices dedicating their life to uplift both themselves and others on the way to the ultimate reality. Good luck in your mission

"Only weak men fall into love"--- nice statement,leave you speechless

@polpol1005

2 жыл бұрын

everyone wants to be loved tho

As a real man here speaking, I got real live in my life and it's not for the weak

Elliot when are you gonna write a book? Like a physical one

thanks

Hey Elliot, thanks for the great videos! How is your relationship to Paul Check now? Still good as your way changed? Kind Regards from Germany

Thank you uncle E ❤️

observe your feelings, recognize them but dont do anything about them. watch them. observe them

20:50 Lmao. I remember that cat girl that he’s talking about. I looked it up! Elmyra Duff from Tiny Toons Adventures!

Right on.

15:40 Yeah, they program you to fall. Those movies are like drawing a blueprint on your soul of falling. I don’t know if it’s a plot🤷🏼‍♂️

The Law Of Detachment

to me, it's like that safety campaign for rail crossings: Stop, Look, and Listen

Elliot do you have a list of books you rccommend. Or will you ever be writing your own book??

What gets me a little emotional is the extreme lack of support. Put days, months, years into something just to get ignored and the girl showing her ass gets the attention. “Friends” that will support famous musicians they don’t even know and ghost my music I produced. It’s hard not to get mad at that. Just is a reminder I do this for me and not for anyone else. Cause if I did I would’ve given up on myself and fuck that shit

Anyone know where these metaphors come from (the king, the magician, the warrior)? Is this from a book?

im a guy, and everytime i try and kiss alpha males they get mad and emotional

RIP fit Elliot😔

Fact of the matter is we need to be telling fellas that it's okay to have emotion replace those emotions in the right place. You can't expect to do great things in life if you're not even emotionally involved and what you're trying to do great. If a person wants to become valedictorian they have to become emotionally involved in order to make that happen do we tell that person to not be emotional? It takes a motion for man to take care of his family and to be a stand-up guy, it takes a motion to do so so do we tell the man who's emotionally involved in being a better man to not be emotional as well?...... there is no such thing as a person who lives like doctor spock He only used logic and reasoning without emotion but yet he was able to physically move now in the real world it takes a motion to move whether if that emotion is positive or negative is going to determine which way we go again in my opinion the only people who are alive on Earth who use no emotion or people that we consider vegetables and they show that in their actions by not being able to have Motion in their bodies at all

Yo Elliot I’m good at approaching single women, but when theirs women in a group I tend to not know how to single out the girl I want can you do a short video on that thank you. And do you think it’s appropriate to approach girls at the gym.

@amjan

2 жыл бұрын

Ignore the others, even blatantly, women run away from being ignored like flies from fire.

@lyricaldetective4310

2 жыл бұрын

Talk/show small interest in her friends more than her as will create competition for her to show she wants to win you over (Depends on this situation though, There’s no factual golden rule/way of doing so)

Oh here we go...

You make me feel like a natural woman

Haha yeah man, I had a 1 week highschool girlfriend because I thought "I won! Well I don't need to do anymore work" haha🤣 Is there like actually specific things you should do to attract women like pickup (without the manipulation) or do you "allow yourself to be" in your masculine frame and let that attract the right woman? (I think, writing about it I found my answer but what's your thoughts?)

@S4V3GU1D3

2 жыл бұрын

I feel if we are purely progressing in all aspects in life, it does it all itself

@ShitGetsOld

2 жыл бұрын

Watch the whole video again. Seems like you haven't gotten the point.

What about King David in the Bible who was crying and repenting in psalms?

@conversationcorner1837

2 жыл бұрын

Funny how this does not have more thumbs up. I guess people only see what they want to see.

Here's an odd example of not trying. I told my boss that i don't care about my job and i just want to get my pay and go home. I got a promotion 😂

i completely disagree w jordan Peterson's take on cold approach. Cold approach is one of the best things a man can do in his life

Love all these comment experts commenting before even watching the video. Listen before you open your mouths, brothers.