Glad she ain''t my wife.

so her male coworker told her she needs to consider separating from her husband

there is no problem with the husband here. This is just the logic of someone who’s about to cheat but doesn’t know it yet.

You can ask a person to change their HABITS yes, but to ask a person th change their entire PERSONALITY is just insane

Lol I bet everything she lost attraction cuz he cried. Women are like that, sadly.

@Hayday_28

3 күн бұрын

Oh wow, you are spot on

@Shadowy_2

3 күн бұрын

Actually. Almost ran into this issue with my wife a couple of years ago. I'm married for about 2-3 years. What are you told the struck record? I suppose if I'm gonna sit there and listen to you cry eh and comfort you. You have no f****** excuse to think less of me when I cry. And and if you start thinking less of me, I'm not gonna comfort you. When someone tries to make you cry at all. I'll sit there in the corner and think less of you. I followed up the statement with saying if everybody gets treated equally. There's no special treatment, at least not anymore. Because. Back in the day my wife used to be a feminist major activist. Nowadays my Wife thinks the feminist movement is retarded. Her words, not mine.

@user-eb2kv7bg4t

3 күн бұрын

100%

@JRBDWD

Күн бұрын

Yeah...

@dharma391

17 сағат бұрын

Word

And people don't understand why men aren't getting into relationships and instead focusing on themselves.

Op I talked to a male co-worker about my personal relationship .a few updates later ,What happens between my husband and i are between us. Oh yeah She's texting and talking about her husband to her male coworker and she doesn't know why people are calling her a pos. I bet they ended up getting divorced

Maybe she would be happier with an abusive compulsive cheater

@shiiuo

2 күн бұрын

This was my first thought. 😅 It's always the same.

@JRBDWD

Күн бұрын

Women ☕️

She completely lost respect and admiration for him when he went with his feelings. You NEVER EVER EVER tell a woman about your feelings. You never share your insecurities or cry in front of them. The moment you do, you'll lose her. And she'll use those feelings and insecurities against you the instant she needs to

@saintoflastresorts2272

3 күн бұрын

Why would you want anyone as weak as her in your life then?

@NeoCreo1

3 күн бұрын

Because she’s a piece of shit. All women are not like that. If you are with someone who is like that then you need to stop doing so immediately because she is toxic af

@genieknight6375

2 күн бұрын

Please seek therapy

@thatonememe_guy

Күн бұрын

Wait really...?I'm confused please explain...

@genieknight6375

Күн бұрын

@@thatonememe_guy It's not true.

He deserves better than her.

A) This looks fake. B) If the overwhelming majority of people tells you that you f'ed up, you probably f'ed up. C) This, ladies, is what some of us have to deal with.

@sugarbeef

2 күн бұрын

"Quit calling me a POS for my feelings, you can't help your feelings!" Well, we can't help our feelings that you're a POS.

I gotta say, I find it really.... Interesting that the person in her life she confides into and is pushing her to separate is a "he"... As a cynical man I can see two possibilities : -she's been talking to this guy and got convinced husband wasn't manly by comparison. So either cheating or manipulation on the guy's part -the guy is opportunistic.

Wife clearly wrote the husbands part as well

Theres nothing wrong with anime and videogames for a hobby. Seems no matter what he did she wouldnt find him manly. Its not him its you lady.

Tbh, looks like the last post was written by his wife from his account

@JohnDeljohn

3 күн бұрын

Right?! If not this man is even more of an angel that she does not deserve.

Op getting upset that her husband is not being a man is stupid. Fishing, hunting and stuff like that will not make him a man no more than others who do it. She needs to divorce and this good MAN go free. This is on her, if he’s never done this stuff when you got together then it’s not gonna happen, he does the stuff for his family happiness and his are different. OP just wants him to do stuff other men does to show that he’s a man in her eyes and that’s not right. It’s like a man saying that a woman is not a woman if she doesn’t go shopping or get her hair and nails done.

She's mad he's not a drunk? Haha

she will always find something that she wants to change about him no matter how much he changes

she's crying cus people are trashing her what does she want?? advice?? she has a near perfect partner what does she even want?

@northernnightmare7986

Күн бұрын

She wants it all, that's the problem. She wants a perfect partner.

Damn it's getting more and more difficult to understand women by the day isn't it?

@PreeSpunky

3 күн бұрын

Nah, it's actually pretty easy, and this video just solidifies it. Be toxic and they'll chase after you. Don't ever be more in love with them than they are with you.

You cannot make someone happy. You can try to build an environment for them to be happy in, try to provide opportunities for them to be happy, but ultimately they must decide to be so. This one seems like a head scratcher because she describes an almost perfect husband and laments the absence of a few things that appear trivial or would even be considered negatives by most rational people. She doesn’t want to be happy. Not with him, not right now. Her struggle is that she’s in a position where he is so good she is forced to manufacture reasons to step out or end the relationship and this is a wind test to see if it’s blowing in the right direction. She needs therapy immediately before she ruins something good chasing something that doesn’t exist.

@JRBDWD

Күн бұрын

Women ☕️

Wait so you have a husband who cooks and cleans is a wonderful father and a loving husband yet your complaining.... I think you just want an excuse to leave him YTA he deserves better and you deserve to see what life would be without him

@lelajones6591

2 күн бұрын

And she is confiding in a male coworker...... Even if your not having an affair stop talking about intimate details of your marriage with a man not your husband Find some female friends.... Again YTA

Women can never be pleased.

@JRBDWD

Күн бұрын

Yeah...

"I'm not having an affair!" Is literally describing how she is having one with the coworker

@TheseksiXae

3 күн бұрын

She said she asked advice from a coworker, how is that an affair?

@Shadowy_2

3 күн бұрын

You don't go to a guy co-worker for advice on your marriage. Frankly, you don't go to anybody actually for advice on your marriage, besides a therapist I believe she's having a emotional affair and it hasn't turned physical yet from the sounds of it but. I'm not a professional therapist so I can't really tell. I'm just saying what it sounds like.​@@TheseksiXae

@TheseksiXae

3 күн бұрын

@@Shadowy_2 I get your opinion, but in my country, india, if someone asked their coworker of the opposite gender about advice on their marriage, it wouldn't be seen as a emotion affair, far from it.

@Shadowy_2

3 күн бұрын

@@TheseksiXae Oh, it is Okay, how about we reverse it? What if he was to go ask one of his female co-workers about his marriage. Saying he didn't find his wife attractive anymore. That's a red flag, aint it?

@TheseksiXae

2 күн бұрын

@@Shadowy_2 nah, I'd say it's pretty normal

why isn't she trying to figure out a way she could change herself to make those feelings go away or she could cope with them and instead goes straight to trying to get her husband to become someone he isn't

WE RAISING THE RED FLAGS WITH THIS ONE 🗣🗣🗣 📢📢📢

How do you “do anime”?

Why did she even marry him????

Women DON'T want to be happy. They want drama.

So you married this guy and the two of you have lived a good life and raised two kids into adults and your complaining about him not being masculine enough? Not every man know how to work on cars, or build things or repair things. Not knowing those things doesnt make a man any less masculine. Then you tell him to change who he is in order for you to feel more tingly? He even told you how he felt right to your face and you didnt get it. When he said he knew who you were when he married you. He accepted you for you and didnt need to or want to change you because he loved you for you.

They are blasting her because she is objectively in the wrong. That co worker should have ignored her shame on the both of them. He should not change for her. Worthless wife.

I see no pproblems with the husband I mean, he likes cooking? AND builds lego sets? Can i have him?

She's the kinda person who'd abandon an old dog cause they're not as cute and energetic as a puppy. TBH though this sounds like bait. A dude built like a tank but is as soft as a teddy bear who's amazing at housework and raising kids is the dream guy for so many women, plus the weirdly specific mention of no videogames, board games, and anime? On reddit of all places? It seriously sounds like a dude who is trying very hard to make a story about some perfect man who's still "not good enough" for some woman who somehow stayed 20 years before realizing it.

@LumemDH

3 күн бұрын

Everything on the internet is fake and gay. Lol

@scribbles1424

2 күн бұрын

​@@LumemDH Could be but I have seen this thing happen before so it's hard to say.

In my opinion, they are a great match. It’s hilarious that they both got the ick from husband having emotions. It really shows that deep down they share the same values on stuff like “being a man” and “not being a p***y”. I think they will be able to work through things.

The comments are weird af. She was having negative thoughts about him, so sought out advice and tried to communicate instead of building resentment or cheating. Having shitty thoughts should just be a bit more normalised, this is why people are afraid to get help

@Brian-qt6su

3 күн бұрын

So you’d be okay with someone telling a woman that she’s not feminine because she doesn’t cook, clean, sew, etc

@eyjzdrkxjqzfuhqyzybf

3 күн бұрын

There is a difference between having thoughts, and telling your partner they're not enough and have to change for you after 20 years. The only thing it achieves is hurting them and ruining their self-esteem.

@TheseksiXae

3 күн бұрын

@@Brian-qt6su yea, I would be, tbh, if he wants to fix those feelings.

@NeoCreo1

3 күн бұрын

Except that if you pay attention, what she’s actually asking for is advice on how to change HIM to better fit her preferences, not to change herself

@cipher5150

2 күн бұрын

her having negative thoughs isn't the problem. the problem is that they're irrational and based on what SHE thinks is supposed to be manly/not manly. those issues are on HER, and she needs to work on her weird mindset. she's basically running a perfectly fine relationship against the wall because her husband doesn't engage in hobbies she approves of. wicked shit. i agree that there have been pretty low, useless, and nasty comments after her first post already. though, i have to admit that just listening for 60 seconds already made me grind my teeth because of all the bullshit she threw around. still, those comments certainly didn't help anyone there, i would agree. in my opinion, ultimately, she failed to realize that the issues were on her side, not his. that man seemed to be the perfect husband, doing everything what a good husband and father should do. and she gets hung up on him not going out wrecking his liver enough and building lego sets as a hobby. that should be enough of an indicator that the issue is only in her head, and nowhere else. and the hate she got after doubling down and demanding him go change and all that crap, was more than deserved, honestly. all just my personal opinion, of course.

Reddit really is weird, trust me. Yes, it's her wife's fault for having those feelings, but she asked for advice on how to fix them. What is she supposed to do? To not have those feelings? How is that even possible? Tbh I really pity the wife for getting so much hate. She tried to fix her shitty thoughts and feelings, but she got hate for having them instead. This is why people are so afraid of getting advice, and result in hiding their pent up feelings, and the ruining of both lives. Also, are we ignore the fact that this seems really weird and fake???

@Brian-qt6su

3 күн бұрын

The advice is just stop being sexist lol So many people would lose their shit if a man indicated to his wife that she wasn’t feminine enough for x and y stereotypical reasons.

@Brian-qt6su

3 күн бұрын

It’s also super fake

@TheseksiXae

3 күн бұрын

@@Brian-qt6su true, which is something I'm also against. People should really just stop hating on people for wanting to fix their feelings.

@TheseksiXae

3 күн бұрын

@@Brian-qt6su yea, like I mentioned, it probably is fake. A lot of these reddit story channels use AI generated stories these days.

@CP-ev1on

3 күн бұрын

Her feelings are stupid and she should push them out of her heart. That’s what men do aren’t women equal to men?

Women ☕️