I didn't have friends most of my 20s | Making friends as an adult & enjoying solitude | Slow Living

Support my channel: ko-fi.com/dariamundi
A bit of a different and vulnerable subject in today's video. I wanted to talk about having no friends for such a long time, but couldn't find the right words to express it. I still don't think I managed to convey absolutely everything, but I hope some of it may resonate with you!
I spent most of my 20s having almost no friends. There would be people who'd come and go, long distance friendships or just simply acquaintances, but for the most part I spent a lot of time without having meaningful friendships. This changed recently, and I only now realised that I actually have a social life now. (A little bit). Making friends as an adult is not easy - but I wanted to share some of my experiences.
________
My dresses:
Little Cotton Wood (my favourite US based brand): littlecottonwood.com/
This one I bought from a couple of times - not affiliate. They release limited collections seasonally and have very beautiful designs with good quality fabrics. Also more affordable than some other brands.
Little Women Atellier: littlewomenatelier.com/dariashew
(Affiliate link with 10% discount)
Son de Flor: sondeflor.com/?a=dariashew (affiliate)
______
Find me on Instagram:
dariashew
Filmed on: Panasonic GH5
Edited with: Premiere Pro CC
Music: Epidemic Sound
_____
#nofriends #loneliness #slowliving
key words:
slow living, english countryside, loneliness, no friends in my 20s, how to make friends, why i enjoy solitude, alone but not lonely, how to make friends as an adult, simple living, why i chose a boring life, english cottage, simple living, quiet vlog, solitude

Пікірлер: 86

  • @keirap7942
    @keirap794211 ай бұрын

    As someone who's going through the loneliest time of her life right now in my 30s, this video gave me hope, happiness and tears of joy. Thank you and so much love to you, great channel 🥀❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Aah know that you’re not alone in this! ❤️

  • @kensym1099
    @kensym109911 ай бұрын

    I love hearing from other fellow introverts, to not feel shame of loving my solitude or not having a large social group. I love the dear friends that I have because they understand me at a level not most people can or get to see the other side of me because I feel that comfort with them :') thank you so much for sharing your beautiful words with us ❤️✨️🦋

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Aah it’s a great reminder that there are quite of few of us! ❤️

  • @RavenDreamer
    @RavenDreamer11 ай бұрын

    “My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche. I hope you had the most wonderful birthday, I just celebrated my mum just the other day. I relate to having a harder time making connection with people, I even have a school report back when I was quiet young stating that I didn't relate to my peers, and it still rings true to this day in my mid 30s. 🍀

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful quote and your experience! And happy birthday to your mum! 😊

  • @IamDaria
    @IamDaria11 ай бұрын

    Hi friends 🥰 Thank you so much to everyone who sent me birthday wishes last week! I took a bit of a break and will reply to everyone soon! 💖 This video is slightly different and vulnerable - I hope you enjoy it nonetheless. Please let me know your thoughts - I'd love to hear from you and learn about your experiences making friends and finding connection with peopl!

  • @mony16iri

    @mony16iri

    11 ай бұрын

    Very beatitudine Field of White popies!

  • @mony16iri

    @mony16iri

    11 ай бұрын

    So relaxing your videos...

  • @literary1
    @literary111 ай бұрын

    I'm an introvert who always preferred the company of my sister and our cousins when I was younger and I have always felt more alone when with a large group of people. I prefer just a handful of truly close friends and family around me. It's always nice to come across others with similar feelings, because it makes you feel less alone. And that poppy field is breathtaking! Blessings from Lisa in the U.S.

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your experience! 😌 Large groups of people rarely give an opportunity for everyone to be seen and included. There’s nothing bad in having only a few close friends instead! As someone who doesn’t really have siblings or big family, sometimes I crave that kind of connection too! 😌

  • @suzanneporter41
    @suzanneporter4111 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video, as someone who is in their 30s I don't have friends as such, over the years I've had friends & we've drifted apart or they've moved away. As an introvert myself I've always, even from a young age felt like the person on the outside of the friend circle looking in (like I was the odd one out). Though I've had lonely times, over the years I've grown comfortable with my alone time & now find it precious & a time for me to enjoy the things I love doing without anyone else's approval. I also found I would purely do things just to please people which I now know isn't healthy. sometimes it's good to know others feel the same as you do, makes times feel less lonely

  • @amandabriggs1210
    @amandabriggs121011 ай бұрын

    I don't have friends, the ones in the past have let me down! My son and my boyfriend are all I need! Love your videos very relaxing to watch, God bless you, 😊😊❤❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Just a couple of very dear people is enough! 🥰

  • @vlad-mundi
    @vlad-mundi11 ай бұрын

    I do believe that as we live and grow we change and we change quite a bit. People who were friends before might not be friends now, and our friends now might not be friends in far future either, but it's important to enjoy and remember the time we have as the connections we make enrich us and make us grow. Very thoughtful video and I love the way you kept the theme even when video sequences changed. Amazing work and thank you for sharing you musings ❤☺

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    I agree! Perhaps before I always focused on keeping people near. Now I focus on enjoying it while it lasts. And that makes such a big difference! 🥰

  • @Phantom_093
    @Phantom_09311 ай бұрын

    I feel like there are many adults like this nowadays! Interesting perspective :)

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    A lot of people are struggling to find connection perhaps!

  • @henriettanovember4733
    @henriettanovember473311 ай бұрын

    Wise words! I am a lone wolf and have always been. But it took a pandemic for me to allow myself to be who I am 100%. When we could not meet others than close family I felt more and more free...Living in a small place it is not always easy to say no to invitations or not open the door when people come and hope you are home so they can sit and chat and have tea for a while...and one does not want to make people sad...make them feel unwanted...It is not that I do not like them, I just prefer to be on my own and many people simply cannot understand that. The pandemic (as horrible as it was in so many ways) gave me the space I needed to sort these things out for myself. I have, by this, made some people sad I think as I very seldom see them these days, and it is not fully accepted by society to say no to invitations and so on...still my family understand and support that as a highly sensitive human I really do need my solitude (and they are a part of that, I never felt the need to be without my nearest and dearest) I can still remember having friends over a a child just waiting for it to be time for the to go home so that I could breathe again...and that feeling followed me for so many years...I have a few close friends that I have known all my life, they accept me as I am and with them I am free. But we do not meet often.

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    It’s liberating to finally let yourself be who you truly are, isn’t it! I’m happy you found the way to give yourself this freedom! 😊 Thank you for sharing your experience!

  • @LyricalInsights-Originals

    @LyricalInsights-Originals

    11 ай бұрын

    As a Highly Sensitive Person and Empath, I completely understand what you are saying, and have had comparable experiences.

  • @rachelbrough8160
    @rachelbrough816011 ай бұрын

    "The dusk of summer"......I love that description ❤ I'm an introvert also and spend much of my time alone, I sometimes wish I was a bit more sociable and outgoing but for the most part it doesn't bother me. I like company at times - the right company, it's difficult and rare to find kindred souls in this life. I think being different can be both a blessing but at times a curse. Love your videos, I feel you are a kindred soul 😊❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    It’s difficult isn’t it! Being an introvert doesn’t mean not wanting to be around people at all! Quite often we crave a deeper connection though, and that’s the difficult part. Because kindred spirits are very few and not easy to find 😌

  • @LyricalInsights-Originals
    @LyricalInsights-Originals11 ай бұрын

    Running through flowered fields is an exemplification of joy in movement, and therefor works well for videos that are about finding peace and happiness in the beauty that the world can bring to a person, and in the beauty that a person can bring to the world. Thank you very much for sharing your insights via your videos, Daria, they are very healing.

  • @gurkmeja2021
    @gurkmeja202111 ай бұрын

    I have always needed lots of time in solitude - to even be able to function properly. I'm 63 now, and my need to be on my own at times, has been a problem in every relationship I ever had. Even though I've early on explained it properly, how I work, the men has never respected my need of alone time, and often took it as a personal insult. My husband since eight years back has no need whatsoever for solitude, and don't understand alone time at all. I'm struggling.... 🤓 🇸🇪

  • @blooome
    @blooome11 ай бұрын

    in you, although virtually, i have found a true kindred spirit. your gentle wisdom is as good as any kind advice from a trusted friend. this is a treasure that look forward to with each video you release…not to mention the marvel of beauty that you capture on screen and compile into such a touching and meaningful message. so talented and so beautiful you are…thank you. 🖤🖤

  • @aichamni3543
    @aichamni354311 ай бұрын

    I don't understand English very well i just started to improve it but I love how you live your life in company you inspiring me because I love nature and slow life keep going you are so lovely ❤❤

  • @jillychandler
    @jillychandler11 ай бұрын

    Although I love being with other folk on my terms, I enjoy being on my own with my dog. I have not been out and about since January 2020 due to sever anxiety, but I love where I live, and am quite happy to just walk my dog around that area. I would like to be able to go out and about again, but I just need to get the courage up again to do so. This was a lovely, true to your life video, thank you for sharing it with us. xxx

  • @sha1411
    @sha14117 ай бұрын

    True friends are never apart, maybe in distance but never in heart🌹

  • @Escudera_de_Roble
    @Escudera_de_Roble11 ай бұрын

    😊 Love your musings and the beautiful way you present them, Daria! Here you give the very definition of an introvert👌: we give away our emotional energy to others, and need time alone to recharge (because our self healing superpower only works in solitude🔋😉), as opposed to extroverts, who are energized by social interactions and seek company to recharge. The misguided "save the loner" trope would be irritating if it wasn't so naive.😅 Besides, when people say they have many friends, most of those are actually acquaintances, people they hang out with, but true friends are counted on the fingers of just one hand, and hard times always reveal who they really are, often surprising us, no matter how introvert or extrovert we (or they) are.😉 Thank you so much for this video! 🙏👍👏👏👏😘

  • @kimthoao1351
    @kimthoao13519 ай бұрын

    Your video gives me so much healing during my stressful days. Thank you so much and please keep up this thing ❤

  • @tiffanygallaher7557
    @tiffanygallaher755711 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this. Your description of yourself as being someone who needs long stretches of time alone, who loves the company of books and who is happy socializing with a very small intimate circle of family and partner, really resonates. I know there are many people out there like this, but I especially relate to the way you express your thoughts about it in this video. I feel seen. Thanks again.

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you! People like us tend to stay quiet and not speak up about these things. But it's great to know that there are so many who feel and think the same! I've been realising this more and more in the recent times, when I meet people either online or in real life who literally go through exact same feelings as I do.. And I thought I was the only one!🥰

  • @WillowNook
    @WillowNook10 ай бұрын

    I am so thankful I found you! I feel so calm and happy watching your videos. I understand you totally and I have felt same for a very long time. Thank you for being here

  • @re553
    @re55311 ай бұрын

    I’ve always thought of myself as a weird person, since I didn’t have friends ever since i was a kid. Now i’m in my mid twenties and i still haven’t experienced the feeling of having true friends. Hope i’ll be blessed with that feeling one day.

  • @haehyun6
    @haehyun610 ай бұрын

    This channel is very inspiring and makes me calm ❤️

  • @texangentlemen3115
    @texangentlemen311511 ай бұрын

    Wonderful video. And happy birthday!!! You’re husband is a lucky and blessed guy.

  • @Sophie-pi4ov
    @Sophie-pi4ov11 ай бұрын

    Thank you for these thoughts ❤

  • @shirleymcmurtrie7853
    @shirleymcmurtrie785311 ай бұрын

    I always thoroughly enjoy your videos, Daria... must say this one is extra special ! ❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! ❤️

  • @farjanaakhter7429
    @farjanaakhter74293 ай бұрын

    Loving the color

  • @fawnfellow
    @fawnfellow9 ай бұрын

    I really can relate! I’m also an introvert and peoplepleaser like you with similar interests. And I only have a very close group of friends who are the same kind of souls and I’m over the moon thankful and enjoy these friendships very much. 🧡🍁

  • @English_With_Hind
    @English_With_Hind11 ай бұрын

    Hello dear solitaires. Not anyone can understand how alive, free and wonderful I feel when I'm alone. I've never had a true friend in it's social meaning. Except whom I meet in my journeys, myself is the only person I feel connected to.. To be honest it never let me down. So grateful I finally meet you. Your videos are my outlets to escape the busy days of the city. Hope one day I'll embrace the company of nature like you do. You're so lucky you have no idea

  • @debby891
    @debby89111 ай бұрын

    We are so much alike, thank you for sharing❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    🥰

  • @75PFG
    @75PFG11 ай бұрын

    Belated happy birthday Daria xx

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you! x

  • @mahfuzamohima8617
    @mahfuzamohima861711 ай бұрын

    Beautiful ❤️ just love it

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    🥰

  • @alinasl08
    @alinasl0811 ай бұрын

    Wonderful and interesting vlog! Thank you :)❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🥰

  • @AlinaHappyLife
    @AlinaHappyLife11 ай бұрын

    This video is so interesting! I enjoy it!🥰❤

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you! 🥰

  • @deniseizaguirre15
    @deniseizaguirre156 ай бұрын

    me sentí tan identificada que me emocione🥺🧡

  • @biswapratimdebdeb2221
    @biswapratimdebdeb222111 ай бұрын

    Felt so much positivity in this video😌❤️

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Aah thank you! I'm glad you felt that! 😊

  • @Aliciasrelaxingvlogs
    @Aliciasrelaxingvlogs11 ай бұрын

    Beautiful vlog 😊

  • @lovelifementoring5399
    @lovelifementoring539911 ай бұрын

    Thank you ❤

  • @TheEmpressgoth
    @TheEmpressgoth11 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤Thank you. For sharing 😊

  • @mahakhan7285
    @mahakhan72859 ай бұрын

    Your musings are highly relatable in this video. I am just grateful that I came across your channel. I hope you find the right friends when its right for you to meet them✨️ you deserve all the good stuff in the world and so much more. A question being a fellow introvert/HSP/empath... does leaving people behind on mostly every phase of your life (due to several reasons) a coping mechanism? Idk if we should label it or not but is this really a right way to cope?

  • @Forest2763
    @Forest276311 ай бұрын

    Hi 🍁always happy 😊always nature 🌿thank you for the wonderful video. 🎉😇

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you! ✨🌿

  • @lalonimagnuson9859
    @lalonimagnuson985911 ай бұрын

    🍃🍁🍂🖤 - a kindred spirit

  • @AdvantureRoad
    @AdvantureRoad11 ай бұрын

    Clannish is the way I’ve been described by outsiders. I like my inner circle of close friends and have little to no desire to meet anyone else.

  • @harshiltaneja4854
    @harshiltaneja485411 ай бұрын

    Hello from India. Addicted 2 ur videos

  • @user-ir5bj4ii3c
    @user-ir5bj4ii3c11 ай бұрын

    This video make me forget about bills for 10 minutes thank you 😊

  • @maggiedonaldson8432
    @maggiedonaldson84328 ай бұрын

    I have to have periods of solitude. Mostly by the sea. My husband understands. I can’t tolerate small talk and shallow conversation. It’s quite difficult, sometimes, as people mistake it for rudeness, shyness, aloofness

  • @wildflowerwind6941
    @wildflowerwind69415 ай бұрын

    Feel the same.

  • @cathylynnpietranton
    @cathylynnpietranton11 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @elc-rossalexanderrockyr.3801
    @elc-rossalexanderrockyr.380111 ай бұрын

  • @fgprince4561
    @fgprince45618 ай бұрын

    You are so sweet.

  • @ricardodemattos8490
    @ricardodemattos849011 ай бұрын

    (3:20) Unreleased scenes from Paradise??🌹🌹🌹

  • @kallistoindrani5689
    @kallistoindrani568911 ай бұрын

    💕💕💕💕🌸🌸🌸🌸

  • @aleciawimer8506
    @aleciawimer85065 ай бұрын

    We are like minded. People subject you to their critiques, opinions, reactions, and disapproval a little too much. I prefer a small circle of people and books, music, stories, journals, and the countryside, as well.

  • @petersmith5055
    @petersmith505511 ай бұрын

    Hi lass.

  • @lindaedwards7840
    @lindaedwards784011 ай бұрын

    🌹🙏🤗

  • @keithlomas6107
    @keithlomas610711 ай бұрын

    The sisterhood of women helps.

  • @user-mr2ly2wq1w
    @user-mr2ly2wq1w11 ай бұрын

    Hmmmm, is this an exact copy of a CottageFairy video? 😮

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    I don’t know how my own life experiences and places where I live can be a copy of someone, but thank you for suggesting her channel to me. It looks wonderful!

  • @wildflowerwind6941
    @wildflowerwind69415 ай бұрын

    But I wonder how you find a husband under those circumstances.

  • @Kareena1988
    @Kareena198811 ай бұрын

    Did you create this video to hear your voice? Feels like instagram and journaling here. Just rambling about stuff without quality.

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    I’m glad I was able to carry across my intentions - journaling or even a letter is exactly the style I was going for. Thank you for letting me know that my intent was actually carried across, and it’s okay that you don’t like it 😊

  • @neenueric3400
    @neenueric340011 ай бұрын

    😂why r u always running during the video's it's very boring

  • @IamDaria

    @IamDaria

    11 ай бұрын

    I run because I want to, but I’m also not forcing anyone to watch if they find it boring 😉

  • @Forest2763

    @Forest2763

    11 ай бұрын

    ​@@IamDaria😊🇱🇰

  • @rachelbrough8160

    @rachelbrough8160

    11 ай бұрын

    Rude and unnecessary comment.

Келесі